Rejection makes me feel like I ve waisted my time and my feelings for that person. And I feel so desapointed, and the fact of thinking that I have to start over again with someone else and going without being sure if I will get rejected again makes me feel so tired and depressed.
When you know you really like someone and respect women and are rejected by potential partners and family, it hurts. No one will feel your pain. Rejection is tough to deal with. But I think as men in Western societies, if you are not desired, you have to work on yourself.
Hi, get help from Dr Steve to bring your ex back and attract your (SP) someone you love to you, you might have try others Spellcasters and they disappoint you, but I can assure you 100% and also staking my life on it that Dr Steve can help you and make your ex beg you for a second chance because he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. I will advise you seek his help now thanks.
I hold into this thought when I’m rejected by someone: I don’t like avocado. There’s nothin wrong with it I Just don’t like it. As mexican all people loves avocado. Maybe I am avocado for people, lots of people like me, but some not, There’s nothing wrong with me, just they don’t like me back as I don’t like some people that are great. Rejection always gonna feel like the worst, we just need to keep on going
@@Nobodyhome630 That’s not how it works. That be like keeping your child in a bubble and never letting them learn and over protecting them. But it’s actually way more complex than that. Plus, We have free will.
The way I handle rejection is by telling myself that I too have rejected others and I have done it in a very unkind way, so here is a reflection of me, someone rejecting me in an unkind way - I then learn that if I am going to reject someone I will do it kindly. Truth is most of the cruel things people have done to me I have done to others, I have reached a point where I don't take anything to heart again.
This is actually a good way at thinking everything. Even in envy, love, rejection, betrayed friendship etc. We've all been on both sides, but most people only like to remember when the've been wronged.
Other people's opinion of single women drives me crazy. Oh, you must be lonely. (No) Your too old to find someone now. (No) Are you gay? (No) they assume I'm lost, need to be told what to do, or worse, pitied for being single. Can't I just be respected for being the best version of me without someone to "thank for it" ?
I’ve been with a guy who kept saying I’m just a good friend of him for 4 months already. We don’t talk anymore like we used to do and it breaks my heart. I finally realized he’s been rejecting me all this time and this video popped up. I hope we all heal from our wounds and move forward ladies
I brought up the courage to tell a friend that I like him very much. He told me he is completely unable to be dating at all since his previous relationships went toxic. I kindly assume that he saved both of us from drama, after all he is the common demoninator of all his relationships. I am still proud of myself for having been that brave as it doesn´t come to me naturally. It´s only been a few days, but with this new information about him and celebrating my courage I´m able to reframe the rejection very easily. Even if it weren´t for such a specific reason, celebrate your courage to have made yourself seen. And move on.
You are cute so I wouldn't worry too much. Someone much better will eventually come along and you will just look back and laugh although it seems impossible now. I was cheated on and thrown away a few times without remorse and I thought that I wouldn't be able to go on. But I did and I have zero feelings for those individuals now. There are certain people that will simply monkey branch, leaving a perfectly functional relationship simply because they can get someone with $10 million instead of the person they are currently in who has "only" $10 million. Some people are just fucked up and should be avoided. It's not our jobs to use a electron microscope and figure out why they are flawed. Some view other human beings as some temporary vacations for whatever reason.
It's much worse when someone comes after you at 100 m.p.h. claiming that you are the closest person to them which causes you to respond only for none of that being true. Sometimes they just say whatever they need to in order to manipulate.
REJECTION it's doesn't mean you are not good enough, it's mean the others person field to notice what you have to offer. REJECTION it's hurts especially you're own family that they should be the first to understand you.
REJECTION is very traumatic.. it kills your soul... it kills everything about you.. but when i listen to you.. its like a light at the end of the tunnel.. its hard.. to get up again.. it consumes you..
Three months have already passed since rejection but I still cry about it , I feel like my perception of reality has gone dark, and I tend to compare myself to others. I feel inadequate and I'm really getting tired of it. It's like I lost an important part of who I used to be. I know that with rejection, trauma was created. I'm still holding on, even though sometimes I don't really want to.
Hi there...you poor thing....sound like you had the carpet pulled out from under you and your like in shock....it slowly gets easier...I'm 6 months in from my man leaving:( just have to roll with the emotion.....try do little things to take care of yourself...like buy a bunch of flowers 4 yourself, was funny I bought myself roses and when ' my husband who doesn't live with me' saw them I saw him looking at them...I had a chuckle and assured him I bought them for myself.... seriously try make a little 'cheer yourself up list ' ,animals love us always .... maybe it's time for a rescue pet 🧚♀️my 3 cats follow me everywhere....make me feel like Cinderella...lol!!!!!
Another thing...if your really down go somewhere alone and say 'Dear God...can you please cheer me up' I promise you he will...even if it's a sparkling dew drop in the sun......I get the low feeling abandoned feeling here and there...even boredom can do it or lack of motivation......however on days that I'm a true mess I ask God to cheer me up and along comes a true little miracle of happiness....for instance...i find singular sparkles cheer me up....so when I'm down I say 'God I need a sparkle ' and few hrs later sun hits one, I feel loved from afar...and I begin to lift....even just a little. I'm being brave...and you can be that too...Do whatever you can that's healthy that makes you feel good. All the best and have a tantarrific day🧚♀️
Best piece of advice I ever got was replace the word rejection with correction , same message as Matthew is giving here but it was so simple and just gave me a different perspective altogether
Absolutely! I also heard the sentence "the rejection is your direction" - so the rejection is actually directing you to where you need to go in life, and then maybe it isn't as bad as you initially thought. And this can be used in connection to not only romantic love, but friends, family, jobs and living arrangements.
Its crashing when someone you’ve been slowly falling in love with for the past half a year tells you that they don’t want to lie to you and reject you in the most heartless way possible to you, just so you can watch him seeing other people for the next few months. I think it’s not only lack of self confidence and attacked ego that people feel then, but also you start questioning if all of this is even worth it at the end of the line. That’s really something all together
Love is so hard! I remember being with one of my biggest loves, and we were together for 4 years on and off. There were healthy periods and not so healthy, and at that time I didn't have the skills to communicate my demands for the relationship and communicating as a whole. But after we parted it hit me why he wanted to spend so much of my time, if he really wasn't interested in being with me in the first place? Just a waste of each others time and love in my opinion. It really fucked me up about love for years. Maybe until this day. When trust has been broken it's hard to trust someone again. I've been dating and been in short time relationships since, but unfortunately nothing has stuck. Maybe like you said, I'm questioning it all too much and I then attract people who are not ready to commit. Like is there ever a thing as pure love where the ego isn't involved and you actually tell your partner what it is that you feel and want from the future?
OMG I feel you. Just 6 days ago he announced he's got engaged to a person in our hobby circle and kept their relationship in secret while doing misleading things with me. It's a slap in the face tbh
Perfect timing. I just got ghosted about 3 weeks ago over a guy I was dating for 2 months. I’m ready to start finding my leverage and begin working on my legacy. Thank you Matthew!
@@onepieceguy2659 thank you. update: i am now in such a better place mentally and I have a new bf and his name is nic. we’ve been together for 3 months and he is so much better than my previous situationship where the dude named connor a year ago ghosted me out of no where. i am currently in a real relationship and i have never met anyone who is as caring and loving as he is to me. connor, the dude who ghosted me, taught me a valuable lesson. from that day forward, i have only been improving my life for the better from this. thank you connor for teaching me that people like you were never worth my time to begin with. 😘
I totally agree! I often sit stuff out before reacting. Feel the pain, go through the shit and get "reborn" again like a phoenix. Rejection or disappointment used rightly make you a bigger and better person.
So timely. Yesterday, I had a realization my crush may not be as interested in me as I was in him ... And it was crushing, excuse the pun. But it did hurt a lot, because he's the first guy I've ever liked in a long time ... And I've had a crush on him for almost a month. When it finally dawned on me, I felt rejected and I cried about it and went through different phases wondering what was wrong with me. But after processing things, I feel much better, and learned I need to have more belief in myself and my self worth and self confidence. I'll be okay, and one day I'll meet a guy who'll like me back too! 😊 Edit: Oh, I've actually been processing my thoughts about Matthew's question ... How I thought this guy is out of my league and therefore made me feel less confident. Isn't that weird? And I also had flashbacks about the rejections I got from my exes and felt even more deflated. But I know I am worthy of love, and I am worthy of having it reciprocated, so I'm gonna work on gaining even more self confidence!
I feel the same way i ended up seeing my crush, where he has sex with me, then keeps saying im a weirdo freak, then cast me aside,then come back again being really sweeet and then has sex discard tells me i dont dress good, i have bad skin. Repeat right tru
My latest breakup led me down places I hoped I'd never find myself. I am rebuilding myself through therapy and learning. Putting my mind to projects I set aside when I was in a relationship. My world crumbled......but what falls can rise again. Matts videos are a wealth of knowledge. It doesn't take away the pain but it helps to learn more.
You nailed it Matthew. Phase one is DEFINITELY survival. I have been there and it f-ing sucks. No lie it took a few years, but how you manage the pain is key and how you use it is key. Phase two is were I am now so I can share my phase one with others. Finding leverages for phase two is were your strength begins and it is powerful and rewarding. (the only thing I deal with is trusting and opening my heart. I have it shielded so much as to protect it from feeling that pain again) It was a long term relationship of 10+ years and I found the courage to leave. I was in love, but was not happy.
I heard or read somewhere “Rejection is God’s protection” which I always find empowering every time I get rejected! It’s hard to see the benefits of the rejection in the short term but overtime I realise rejection was the best thing that happened. ❤️
Thank you 🙏 what’s holding me back is trauma and it’s hard to really understand all the ways that subconsciously blocks me but it includes fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of not being lovable and accepted
My lack of love for myself used to hold me back. I never hated or disliked myself but it wasn't until I started working on selflove with real intention that I realized how much love I am actually capable of feeling, not only for myself but for others. It is a game changer! Love, forgivness, empathy, understanding - it all starts with giving it to ourselves before we can give it to someone else.
Listen to the agony; it’s a history teacher and a fortune teller at the same time. We learn who we were through pain. It can be horrible that we feel as if we’re dying. Thank you for your advice ❤️
I, like most commenters here, am going through a very rough time. I am going through a break up with a woman I was sure to be “the one”. I’m a realist and I know that this pain will go away. It has been 8 months now and I am still in love with her. However, watching your videos over the past two weeks have changed me. It may be just hearing someone say the things you say, the advice you give but thank you. Thank you for existing. Sounds crazy I know but I truly mean it. Take care sir and keep up the amazing work! Much love
I was watching this and I just burst out crying when the man spoke about about you never been heart broken and actually get through it. Wow I haven’t cried in months because of it and this was amazing
So beautifully put. I'm so greatful for your content. I feel so connected to these messages. Not just in terms of relationships but in all areas of my life.
My last rejection was hard. He told me I was the perfect package for him and he was really confused why he no longer felt the spark for me after 4 months of telling everyone I was the one. You’d think that if he really thought that way about me he would try a little harder. It just feels really cruel.
Sounds like HE has some issues that he needs to work on and he’s turning it around on you. That’s really unfair and immature thing to say to someone. I have a feeling that you are worthy of a lot more than he has to offer and in a few months you will be able to look back on this breakup with thankfulness. Hug!
@@StorytellingHeadshots thank you for your kindness! I just got word about 2 weeks ago that he just did this same thing to another girl recently, dude has issues and doesn’t seem to want to work on them. This rejection is probably a blessing in disguise! 😊
This is why you need to be very careful of people. There are manipulators out there that will tell you what you want to hear to hook up when in reality they don't mean a word of it. It's easy for these types to pull the plug because the feelings were never there on their side. This leaves the other person in the relationship heartbroken. No one can force feelings, but there is no excuse for lying and playing with someone's emotions. And what these pieces of shit do is twist it around in an attempt to make it seem like it was your fault...works as a "Get Out of Jail Free" card for them.
Also going through a similar thing. He would make sweeping promises and statements about how I was the only one for him, how much he loved me etc, but he had a lot of insecurities, hurt and fear of being alone, he couldn't stop himself from seeking out attention all over the place. I gave him so many chances, trying to be loving and forgiving, even working on myself but it continued. So I had to walk away. Even 6 months after breaking up with him, he came back with the same promises, but I had a feeling he was just seeking to fill his loneliness. He asked to get back together. When I said that he would need to work on himself and we would both need to make it work, he told me he had already been chatting to another girl, and decided to go with her instead. After nearly a year in painful limbo, I not only suffered rejection, but realised that the man I loved and gave everything to, only saw me as an option. My love for him was real, deep and I was willing to do anything to make it work, but for him, he only know show to chase the next source to fill his loneliness. This is the danger of someone who refuses to do the hard work to work on themselves. They are left with their impulsive self protection behaviours. Its the easier option for them, so they keep doing it. I feel so bad for the girl he's currently with, as she is in the same position I was in when I started with him. Once the love bombing and honeymoon period is over, he'll just do the same. It's hard when you care and you still want them to be happy. But at some point you realise that you deserve to be more than just someone's option. You deserve someone who is sure of, who chooses you and is willing to do what is takes to make it work. You deserve to be loved in the way you need.
I am so thrilled that ALL your videos have subtitles as being profoundly deaf means I can follow them so easily instead of struggling to lipread you. Thank you so much for having the kindness to think of people from all walks of life being able to follow you. I am so grateful to you Matthew Hussey.
Your smashing it Matthew. I love how raw you are in this video! Thank you for posting this. I’ll use these techniques in my current rejections I’ve had to deal with.
Going through the loss of a daughter and now the man I thought I knew abruptly dropped me and has moved on to his "perfect woman." How much depression does a person need to heal?
There is no cure-all for rejection. All I can say is that the more you experience it, the more desensitised you become. When I am looking for a job and I get rejected after an interview, when I'm rejected by a guy etc it hurts. But I always tell myself to pick myself up and keep going. And sometime I do find that I get more accustomed and I become more able to easily move on and keep trying in a different way, reflect on my mistake or what I've done etc. I met someone recently whose self esteem was so low. I remember that it became all consuming to the point that it affected the way he behaved towards other women. I didn't think it was my job to educate him (he was just an acquaintance) but I can say, is don't lash out and punish others for the crime of one. Convert that negative energy into something positive and focus on it.
Ikr... I've Been rejected by a Lot Of guys In the past...at first I felt like It's Because I'm not pretty that's Why They Rejected me...And Trust me I used to wear Mask all day long In my College...I was afraid To show My face To another Ppl...I felt like I'm unwanted...But Everything changed Recently i started to Love Myself...I Learned to Feel Comfortable in My own Skin 🤎... I'm feeling so Better Now... I'm Not Bothered about Others Opinion About Me...and also I'm Not Afraid Of Rejection Anymore...Cuz It made me So So So Strong... I'm Greatful For all Those Bitter Experiences Only Because of that I'm a Better Person Now ❤❤❤
Listening while in bed and going through rejection. I need to find my leverage and start working on my legacy. ... My pride and fear of failure are holding me back.
I hope you’ll be so proud of yourself in few months :’) don’t be scared of failure. Think of this as if you got no choice but keep moving forward. We got this! I’m going through the same
Chronic health problems. Most guys wouldn't want to deal with them or have the maturity to embrace me with them. Ex gaslighted me on these health conditions when I thought I'd picked a kind person.
my ex has chronic pain but I always wanted to be there to support her, she broke up with me to "work on herself and get better" even though I was always going to be there for her. There are people that care enough to embrace them, just wait!
It took years to overcome the phase 1 and 2. Literally.! If Math's new content strikes on the right person at right time,then it will be beneficial for them and their loved ones. Good Job.
Thank you for your vulnerability Matthew. I really appreciate your depth. You asked what we feel most holds us back in life-for me I’d say it’s a deep fear of abandonment, which would translate into me being unworthy. I sometimes am afraid to speak my truth or really reveal myself for fear of being ostracized and derided.
I suffer from the same thoughts and feelings. There were so many times I should have/could have said something but I didn't. And now the time is passed but the words and emotions are still stuck deep down. I struggle to find my voice & find that my abandonment issues definitely cause me to make poor decisions. This video was helpful.
I always love listening to you matthew, you never fail to make me feel better, your advice are spectacular and I truly appreciate you making this videos. 😊 To answer your question, I think it's my poor family background, which is also the same thing that inspires me to work hard to prove them wrong, but there are times I know I could have been much better if my family background is also good, some people just judge you by your roots, which is totally unfair but that what life is, it's unfair to everyone that's why it's fair 😊, thanks Matt, God bless you and your team❤️
Yes! Some people just judge you by your roots, or ethnicity. You’re not part of the clan… Be proud of your roots and ethnicity, the people that judge like that , simply put, have a complex of inferiority . Blessings!
Find your self worth. Pray. Make yourself a nice meal. Go for a walk and leave your phone. Call your mom or a anyone who loves you. Read a book. Draw a picture. Work on a puzzle. Clean something. Do not act on those excruciating feelings. You WILL make it worse. Please know you are worthy even if you don’t always believe it. You are valuable and loved.
Your're à warrior, Matthew. And you point just exactly what is reject or defeat in ours lives : a leverage, actually, something from where you can have an inside look of you to do better, to be better, to define what you want or not in your life. And if you really wants it, never drop trying again in a better way. That's great, I discovered it two years ago after a heartbreak and a great changing of life. And, even if it takes me one year and an half to recover, nowadays I know it's for the best and I took the great décision I've ever took in my life. Now, I'm on my way. Thanks.
I give people too many chances and focus on their potential and am blind to the reality of their actions in not treating me as well as I treat them. I try so much to understand them that I make excuses for bad behavior. So excited for the retreat in September, bought my ticket last week 🤗
I really need this Matthew! Thanks for this new episode! I just recently broke up and being rejected to meet and talk. So we didnt end well,he ghosted me, never reply my messages at all. Day 2 of non contact now,i know i annoyed him so much lately.
got rejected by a friend I grew to have feelings for, learn a lot from your videos and am applying everything im learning and reminding myself of my worth and its Gods protection and redirection
This was great! Thank you for sharing 😁 what holds me back right now is the thought process that I need to perform to be chosen when in actuality I am also choosing too! The first thought is control everything to then have nothing in my control because it's all contingent on some one else. I think the second thought is healthier and is the place I need to move too more where I accept myself where I am and I'm choosing a partner who accepts that as well. I hope that makes sense lol but it helped me get clarity so thank you for the question😊
Hi, get help from Dr Steve who can make your ex come back to you begging for a second chance. He was the one who helped me restore back my broken relationship of 3 years by bringing back my ex. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words I strongly Advise you to seek help from him
Truly great video. I had my heart broken in recent times (though you could say I mostly contributed to my own downfall) and it triggered a hard crash in my life. Complete anxiety breakdown. Watched a few of your videos regarding the same, but this one really details the journey. The most incredible pain. Someone who I never expected to meet or be into me the way they were. But thankfully I have been feeling stronger recently and gradually moving on. It took me until my late 30s to feel this pain, but I guess I'm a late bloomer.. Thank you for your content Matthew 🙏
My life struggles in a video 😳 awesome and it made me realise I’m not more damaged because I was rejected a thousand times but I’m a much more beautiful human being and humble to my ego and more determined than ever to do and be what I want to create for myself in this world! The fear of being me was holding me back my self rejection was holding me back and the Illusion that being „ a failure“ makes me less valuable as a human. Now I want to be proud of me because I dared to be a failure I rather want to fail then never experience my joy of openly doing and sharing what I love most!
I like to think of dating as searching for potential. I‘ve always thought that if a guy leaves me I am fully capable of finding another that loves me more. I want a guy that chooses me everyday, I find that to be incredibly valuable and attractive. Invest in me and I will invest in you.
Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks.
I feel like I'm struggling to be confident and be myself when I'm getting to know someone new. I struggle with feeling like I'm not good enough because I'm not (a list full of things). I've been rejected many times so I think I'm just living in fear. How do I finally let this shitty feeling go? God bless you Mathew Hussey! Thanks for making content that fills people up.
This is the best video I came across in a long time...I really needed to hear it because I'm struggling with traumas of rejection not just for once and that pretty much ruined a lot of my life and time, I'm eager to see your next video on this topic @Matthew Hussey and I hope I answered your last question) Thank you!
This has helped so much. So tired of being so nice, so accommodating and then rejected. Learning my worth finally. High value women do not need to allow rejection to stunt their growth 💪😊
Hi 💢..... Sending you alot of love 💞 and positive energy. Dr Steve can actually help you attract someone you really love the most and want in your life. He once helped me and can help you too. Believe me I'm not bragging or trying to make unnecessary comment here, this was what really happened to me. he helped me attract (Jeremy) the guy I love and wanted in my life the most. Seek his help thanks...💞💞☺️☺️💞💞
@sarah ur actually right, I can never let rejection bring me down, instead of worrying I have important business meetings to attend to, or just look around and see how many people are waitin🥰g for ur acceptance 😆😆😆😆 love who love u simple
Hi, get help from Dr Steve to bring your ex back and attract your (SP) someone you love to you, you might have try others Spellcasters and they disappoint you, but I can assure you 100% and also staking my life on it that Dr Steve can help you and make your ex beg you for a second chance because he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. I will advise you seek his help now thanks.
A really good video. Thanks Matthew for the new perspective - making a legacy out of experience. I now have a to do list to focus on and become better 🙂
Mat i adore you in a platonic way. You uplift my soul and have helped me more than you will ever know. Sometimes we have to dam well fight for our mental health. Bless you and Audrey and thank you for the amazing job that you do
Thankyou for great message, luv how you described rejection as energy, it's so true I also think of it as redirection! My thing that's holding me back is the fear of commitment as my last 10 year relationship didn't work as I feared it in that one too! I'm working on it!! 🙏😉
So helpful, Matthew. Sometimes we have to go though severe pain in our lives to truly appreciate the joyful events. When I was 15, I was so depressed that I considered suicide. Somehow, God gave me the strength to say: "I'm not going to let the turkeys win." Transform bad energy like rejection into the powerful energy you need to change your whole life.
I watched that 3 tips video, and that crushed my heart even more. Now I found your videos again, still with a broken 💔, good advice now. Thank you. We all grown from pain, everything there is something positive.
Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks.
We broke up right before my last semester and she blocked me right before graduation. It’s been pretty tough hanging in there. I definitely wasted the chance to NOT act out when I was feeling low, but these are helpful ideas for the future.
Dave175- I am so sorry that you’ve had to endure the heartbreak and abandonment from your last relationship. My heart goes out to you 🤗! I am currently struggling with wanting to fight for a romantic relationship that never started, but I read into things too much(I know that I’m not delusional and that the guy who rejected me is interested in me more than he either allows himself to feel or understands of himself, and that’s okay. I will find someone that does.). I have this inner longing to be seen, heard, and accepted for who I am, even if I am just a friend. I wish you personal growth, love, and all of the happiness that comes your way! Good luck!
I finally am ready to accept that my guy friend a: doesn't like me and b: isn't in a healthy mindset at all even if he did. He keeps getting back with his ex despite how unhappy he is and I won't allow myself to be hurt by this anymore. I'm ready to find leverage into a better relationship moving forward.
I am stuck with the feeling that I don’t deserve to be happy, feel I am worth something, do what I would love to do and shouldn’t take care of myself first.
We go through the seven stages of grief (denial, bargaining, etc) and then come to acceptance. The part where we accept that things could not have been any different. That we accept the ending and move on. We accept that nature has a different plan for us, a different path. Getting to that place of acceptance without absolutely hating and being bitter about everything and everyone around us is the real challenge.
Great - and important - subject...and I guess, one of the biggest mysteries in (love) life, many of us will never completely unreval ... and even if I like the idea of som kind of leverage, which can give os THE drive to evolve...I feel, that it depends on the stage of healing, each of us is in... Most of us have experienced rejection(s) in their early childhood...many more than we actually believe have been abandoned, neglected and abused... coming from that kind of childhood trauma and going through life with (C)PTSD we'll not even be able to reflect on a rejection, if we were not already in some kind of healing process... And as we all know, there are loads of hidden triggers out there...which recall (and bring to the surface) the traumatic memory/-ies from the past...and actually as a chance to reintegrate the fractual aspects of ourselves... But it's definitively worth some more thoughts and at least a try... We'll have to move forward and get to a point, where we can feel emotionally free to thrive...
