How To Get Over Your Ex (When You Still Obsess Over Them) 

Yep, sick of toxic positivity

Only the ones who take all the time in the world to process the grieve, is able to come out stronger. A true friend wouldn't mind hearing you rant about the shitty breakup you went through. If you feel like you're a burden by telling "friends" about this, then they are not the right ones to share this info with.

@@Askaa88 yeah I agree, I’ve seen some people’s reaction that made me understand who was truly willing to listen to me and care about my feelings

A lot of people weren't taught now to hold space for someone (their parents didn;t model it to them). Sometimes we need to tell someone what we need to feel a bit better ❤

And if we allow ourselves to repress the justified anger, it will remain with us, even for a lifetime, and will affect our health. Every day feel the anger, then take a deep breath, and let it go with an exhale Do this until the anger isn't as all encompassing. My opinions. Peace.

😢 I hope you'll heal. ❤ Over time... ❤

I know what you mean!

same here😢

You said it right there. You gave SO MUCH to them. Did you give to yourself the exact same amount through it? Or was it off balance? Maybe that’s the key for for all of us from here on ♥️ we have all been there you’re not alone.

It is inevitable one will hurt more than the other Relationships = vulnerability

I still love gim and doubt i will ever get of him.....there; same words went straight to the universe and guess what indeed you wont get over him😢...

Search nd try Law of attraction

Love yourself the way you love him and you expected him to love you. Find ways to do this. It will get better.

Same baby ❤

Please try therapy ❤

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Thank u for writting this. I feel you.

i'm going through a horrible situation right now, a breakup and two young children being used as pawns...the penny dropped when I realised I deserve a good life.. i hope you get yours

@@joeporter815 you deserve happiness so much. Keep strong. Manifest it.

Sounds like you need to distance yourself from your family.

Does taking a shower count?

@@davidallahgod3217for some cases, helps a lot, because you start to feel weaker and weaker when you stay alone at your corner and your routine it’s only being at that corner all day and you stop to do even the basics of your routine. And taking a bath could be a psychological challenge during the process, because you start to break your new routine to get back to your older routine when you were happier and you had all those memories attached to your older routine. Basically, in your most vulnerable state you think that everything you done before can hurt you psychologically.

Yes, totally relate.

@@wildhorses6817 I am so sorry. It's a very painful experience to go through. I know I'm not perfect, but I did not deserve the exceptionally horrible way in which I was treated. Nobody deserves that. It dehumanizing you.

Same 😢

Same 😢

Right there with you 😢

And write how life would have been if you stayed another 5 years....

Hey I’m following up and wanted to ask how you are doing now? I’m just starting and the pain is almost unbearable 😢

Hi Reina. I hope you are much better everyday. Keep lifting yourself up. There will be brighter days ahead.

I'm I firm believer in tht hard to understand when you are going thru such. My son is going thru.... 3rd time with her.. hope he is done. Really worried about him. He's pulled thru the other times... Praying . He's shut us out. Has no friends😢

Of course you do! ❤

Wow thats mental strength if you both do good in your respective lives you will respect and appreciate each other more...Take care of you for others to take care of you! dont expect others to take care of you for you!!

You, too?!😢

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Oh my god- this is exactly what I’m going thro’. Idk if it’s my withdrawal but what about the amazing chemistry that we had, all the fun we had, the way we gelled but staying in that relationship took a big part of me and my life. How do I remind myself the toxic part again and again ? Why can’t I do it and he can do it so easily ?

@@vimankaur7706 I’d love to know how as well. I guess I just try to remind myself again and again that even if we ever tried again, it would only be a matter of time before the bs and patterns return, which were definitely dealbreakers. Made me really really hate him at times. “The one” doesn’t treat you that way or make you feel that way. That I do know. And have to remember that chemistry is just one piece of the puzzle. You need the rest to fit as well.

That's a story you are telling yourself that isn't true! A lot of peole have childhood truama I am sure you have lots of loveable characteristics/traits about you. Ask you friends, family, coworkers. Also look at how you show up in the world. Start making daily lists of why you are loveable ❤ Also you can heal from your childhood trauma :)

Thank you!

what needs was that specific person meeting that you weren't meeting in relationship to yourself? Was he giving you something you had a void in?

@@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool yes and I've heard of this concept before....a relationship with self is absolutely necessary but I was referring to my future partner, not my relationship with myself ❤️

If you were meant to be too then you both would have made it work. Obviously there is someone better out there for you.

It wasn't meant to be otherwise you two would have still been together, same with me, still hurts so much after 5 months now, that's why im watching this video... :)

Hi there's no such thing as the "one " there's just good people and bad people , feeling someone Is the one is usually a lack of decent options .

How are you now? I recently got dumped over a month ago and I'm struggling each day

Write a letter to him, without sending it. With all the bad things he had done to you. It helped me a lot and now I happy married without sabotaging myself... by the way, it's never too late to start a good life with or without a man by your side ❤

I am 53 and it does seem we are running out of time but we are not. True love will come

Count yourself very lucky that you aren’t in pain.

You have to stop asap. I had exactly the same a year ago. But I tried it because I never had a relationship. It will save you from a lot of hurt, insecurities and pain. I doubted the relationship with her from the beginning, because of the distance and some things in her character. Still, I went on with it, because I wanted to give it a chance. Now we are more than a year further, broken up three weeks ago (three days before our anniversary), and I still feel a lot of pain. Because we still love each other, but we decided we cannot be together. We lived together for 4 months in my hometown. But because we did not fit together, argued a lot the last weeks/months, she wants kids and I'm not sure, we finally brokeup. And that still hurts. Even though I know it is the good way. Do I regret the relationship? No. But would it have saved a lot of pain if we didn't go, yes. Now she is coming to get her last stuff with a 'friend' she met a few months ago at work. He comforts her a lot. That hurts like hell, even though it shouldn't do anything to me. Work on yourself, be happy with yourself and don't be too fast with getting in a relationship. Give it time to find the real deal. Doubt is a no go. You have to be sure from the start. Trust your gut. With that being said, I hope it will give you some insight. Stay strong! ❤

Get a good support system around you and ask for the specific help you want. A lot of times friends just don't know how to deal with a friend getting divorced. Make your sh*t list of him and the facts and realities of how he treated you. Review that list whenever you're only thinking of the good times.

Yes

Use some story time sleep tracks. That might help. It’s awful 😢 Seems like there’s no respite from the pain.

It does

Cry it all out, journey, most important pray, and learn to forgive, forgiving them is not about them is about you letting go of the pain and suffering they put you through, pray and pray… one day you’ll wake up and you’ll realize you over them, that their memories don’t bring you no more pain anymore, you’ll be neutral when thinking about them, probably funny that you don’t have feelings towards them anymore, bc at some point you did, never feel bad for loving someone, never regret your feelings for someone, they’re lessons at the end of the day, and one day someone is going to love us just as deeply as we love, bless and hope you doing okay🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽

And English is not my 1st language sorry if I misspelled something

This may sound odd, but learn to play an instrument. You absolutely cannot think of anything else when you're trying to learn notes. It will be a good distraction.

That is awful. I am so very sorry. Please look into organizations for father’s rights. The courts often side with and believe the women when things may not be true. I can’t imagine the heartbreak you’re feeling.

try to meet him anywhere but your/his place, you'll find he don't have much patience/affection for you. I've been in a similar situation like you. I broke up with my ex 6 months ago, and he reached out to me. We were planning to meet in a cafe at sometime XX:00, then I texted him at XX:38 to have him expect my lateness for 15 minutes because I was preparing to see him. then no text return. Then I arrived at XX:13, he texted me he already left and didn't see my text, and returned home after he waited for 10 minutes. Frankly, his place take 8-minute drive to get to the cafe... haha, how truly he wants me back. oh wait, he didn't say he wanted me back.

Anger only leads to the dark side!