@@OneFreeMan17yeah they are…. Are you even a man??? And should they be? Maybe not but looks = health and yea only the healthy should be selected for mates. Period.
Been married a long time. The best way to stay together is to be kind and caring to one another. Looks fade, personality stays. Second is to establish reasonable roles and responsibilities in a household that are agreed to and shared. Last, is be eachothers rock when needed. Times will be good but they will also ve bad. Weather out the tough times as a team.
I hate to say it, but the woman I love is a 10 out of 10 in looks, but her personality is a 2 out of 10. I really am fine with her looks, but she is so mad and angry that I can't fathom intimacy.
I can confirm that the feeling of being supported and encouraged to pursue your goals by ANYONE, whether it is a friend, a relative, a significant other, and so on, is definitely a great one! Anytime I experience this, I take a moment to say to myself that I am thankful to have positive people in my life!
I don't really care about makeup that much, but taking care of yourself as in fitness and not wearing pajamas all day is a big deal. The main thing that most women miss is physical intimacy. If you don't provide physical intimacy it doesn't matter if everything else is 100% for most guys. Another big one is it's so hard to find a woman with hobbies that don't involve a screen. Everyone needs hobbies! Watching movies or scrolling aren't hobbies.
Amen brother, without physical intimacy the relationship is not a marriage but a partnership. It is the most important thing to keep a man interested, yet not one word of that in this video. Women truly don't know men.
Well, I personally do not really care to that extent about physical stuff. More like good genes and being cool around of. Everyone looks for different things
Blowjobs go away and so does the frequency of sex. My buddy started cheating because his wife gave it up once a month. That is not a rare incident either.
@@shrapnel77 No reason for blow jobs to go away. My philosophy is that women are in charge of sex and men are in charge of relationships. No sex, no relationship. And legal marriage is one of the stupidest things a man can do.
#1, #4 and #5 yes, #2/ #3 were oddly specific EFFORT, communication, showing interest, plus being kind/ feminine and not taking men and our treating you well for granted. That's such a rare breed, we'll stick with a lady like that
I definitely agree with Point Number 1: a person who never puts in the work to presenting the best version of themself is someone who will probably not take anything serious!
I interpret point number one being that some women will just 'let themselves go' after getting into a committed relationship since they feel like the cat's in the bag already. A big part of why we fall in love is the way you present yourself. If you suddenly stop presenting yourself in a good way, the attraction goes down. Also, this doesn't have anything to do with ageing. We all age, it's all about what you still decide to do for your physical appearance that matters.
Agree. For me something like keeping up your physical appearance shows 1) self respect, 2) self discipline, and 3) you didn't look good only to catch me.
1. There’s a limit for each man. As an example, Pierce Brosnan’s wife Keely isn’t the smoke show model she was 30 years ago. However, she didn’t get that way after 3 years. Men can easily tolerate graceful aging. They don’t want their choice of partner to give up quickly after securing commitment. 2&3. Again, there are limits. This is pushing the envelope very close to boss babe territory. Without proper reciprocation of respect, the man may be happy she walks away. 4. Agreed 5. I think this is couple dependent. Some work together in the same office, and some don’t see each other for weeks at a time depending on occupation. I think faithfulness is the biggest concern for couples when they are away from each other.
Agree on #2. This sounds like plausible deniability to be a nagging bitch. #3 is offensive, to me, because I have lived on my own for three decades. I do not need your "support." if you do not like a particular hobby I like, that is totally fine. Allows us to do activities away from you, which is very important to a man.
@@DDD11239 That's all you got out of the post with one example of a celebrity couple who love each other and beat the odds staying married for decades? You care too little about your own life.
my girlfriend and i are about to celebrate our first anniversary, and we are very happy. a central component of that happiness is that we do fully respect our own spaces and lives. We spend the weekends together, and we do a date night once during the week. We aren't incessantly texting, we check in with each other to let each other know we are thinking of them. Yes, we are fully on the road to living together, but we aren't rushing it. And even when that day does come, there is still the understanding that we will still have our own lives and interests and the room to express them! So that last point is very important and true. And yes, when we see each other we do miss each other a lot, and that makes things so much more interesting and meaningful.
I appreciate this a great deal. I know many women right now, that seem to default to, "I deserve this" but have no idea what they need to be deserving. They seem to be content to draw a hard line on these hills, which unfortunately, does little to solve issues. All it does is perpetuate division. That being said, i hear SO much about how bad men are, from the women i know (including my own family) that i honestly question, "are men the problem?" it is beyond refreshing to know that there are still women out there that are interested in healing relationships, and not just being right. Thank you for posting this, and to the OP, thank you for sharing.
Hi Courtney! My #1 advice is to show interest in what interests your partner. When a woman shows interest in books that I am reading or TV shows that I watch, it really helps me to show interest in the things that she likes. It kind of feeds on itself. Hope that you & your husband are having a great week!
Taking care of yourself is important phrasing. It’s not about looking the same as you did “20 years ago”, it’s about taking pride in yourself because a confident woman (not a confident mask) is usually attractive no matter the age.
Thanks! I think you provide such grounded, common sense commentary and insight regarding male/female relationships. It's sorely lacking on "these RU-vid streets."😊 God bless ya' Mrs. Ryan!
6:54 I'm really glad you acknowledged attachment styles. I find that so many relationship issues are connected to anxious and avoidant attachment based relationships. We really need more conversation on this topic. I highly recommend the book "attached".
Everything spot on ! Thank you Courtney. If men are from Mars then you certainly are an expert in ‘Martians’. Really appreciate your sincerity, kindness, purpose and how truly real you are. For those of us 55+ and with a lot of battle scars, we can only say - if only there was a you 30 yrs ago….
Most of (if not all) of her takes work both ways in my opinion. Mine would be don’t flirt with other men and be loyal. Be honest always and always communicate your issues with me because I’m not a mind reader!
Well, this is a very important issue and difficult at the same time... Most of the women don't know how to.... They don't even care to know better the men. Neither don't know that all the men are not the same...
For me is Dinner on the table ready is the most important as it shows she really cares and understands her man. Nothing better than a home cooked meal by my wife. House and wife looks no longer that important. I learned to love her looks good and bad. I know how good she looks when done up and know her PJ look when ready for bed. She doesn't have to put on a red dress every time I come home!
1 yes looking after yourself is important and the occasional surprise keeps it interesting. 2 yes men don't want a woman who doesn't have self respect but respect goes both ways. 3 cheating is a no go, that also goes both ways. Also flirting to get some jealosy is a massive red flag! 4 so true! Men need someone in their lives who support them 100% and push them when they let down on their dreams. 5 its very healthy for a relationship to each have your own life, you build a life together but you also need your own space. Share hobbies but also have your own. Also keep your friends! 6 is the most important! Communication is the best advice, talking about problems without getting angry at each other. And making sure that an argument or problem is taking care of the same day! Even if you have a fight, never sleep apart and make sure you tell each other i love you and give the good night kiss. Still bring each other coffee/tea or whatever. Relationships are all about loving, sharing and giving everything to each other. Being together means there isnt ME anymore but US.
*Her 1st and 4th point are common sense* ( _taking care of yourself as a woman, in other words be attractive. And, be supportive to your man_ ) *but in everything else she is wrong.* She is just teaching women how to make a simp. Because she herself wouldn't feel attracted to that type of man... There are too many hidden/deeper assumptions below her points that are too complex and extensive to get into now on a comment section, but I disagree with her. That's not how you "keep a man interested".
Yes! Please make a version for us! #1 yes. Agreed. Definitely keep taking care of yourself. #2 maybe? if she has respect for herself and expects you to respect boundaries that’s fine. As long as it doesn’t go into the aggressive/combative territory where she wants to fight over everything. You said it better than she did tbh. #3 agree with your interpretation. Communication and healthy boundaries. #4 yes. Agree 100%. #5 agree with your interpretation. I personally need alone time to recharge socially.
I've been married for over 30 years, and I mostly agree. I would change the first one to "Make a conscious, visible effort to take care of yourself." Most guys don't expect their partners to be "hot" all the time, and pregnancies and aging and related body changes will happen. But making the effort to take care of yourself is attractive, and that goes for men as well as women. The next two points come down to the same thing: self-respect and boundaries are vital to healthy relationships. The rest I agree with 100%.
Yes Courtney we need that vid. I think this list is legit. Heavy on 1 and 4. As men we know that looks aren't everything but they do matter. Don't have to be a perfect fitness model but we need that physical attraction. And yes a man needs a woman to build him up instead of tearing him down. But what you said is so true. Part of supporting your partner is calling them out on their shit and not just telling them what they want to hear.
Here is my input on the last point: I think it is always best to know when to give you and your significant other some space. I know there's always that "honeymoon stage" at the beginning of a relationship, but the momentum for that will eventually slow down. The time couples spend together should be focused on the quality, not the quantity.
That's a little dismissive of quantity. Time together is important. You can't truly get to know each other or grow as a couple if you see each other for a couple hours a week, at that point you're just a fuck buddy or a moron buying her meals for no reason. There's a big difference from "giving someone some space" and "focus on quality, not quantity". As with all things, there has to be balance.
@@Swearengen1980 I agree that spending substantial time together in a balanced manner is important for two people to get to know each other and grow as a couple. My point was about ensuring that the time spent together is meaningful and enriching, rather than focusing solely on the amount of time.
I think there is a pretty strong line between somebody who has self respect versus somebody who is just contrarian and compulsively difficult. It comes down to self knowledge. If you know what you want and value, then you will pick your battles to stand up for what's important to you. If you are just a combative argumentative person, you'll pick every battle and just be doing it for the sport of it. So when picking a mate, do make an effort to probe and see if they value something other than their ego.
Physical, mental, AND emotional health please take all three of these seriously and don't ignore them ever. I was blown away when she said to be supportive of him. I am seriously impressed and cannot possibly emphasize enough the importance of being supportive. Don't take any shit, but be supportive. Good list.
#3. If I cheat and she walks, that is on me. If she says early on, "if you screw up bad enough (what does that mean), I'm leaving" I would walk away, and that is also on me.
Discipline is a priority after years of meeting different people I strongly value cleanliness and personality I absolutely Love taking care of my Body Teddy is a Great man he married the most intelligent person ever
What men and women need in their relationships is love. There isnt enough of it. Both sides stay in relationships for way too long for all the wrong reasons wasting both people's time. But a relationship that is full of love and care from both sides is a thing of wonder.
Honestly speaking. The physical aspect "keeping hot" is the last on the list. Think of it as a huge bonus. For me, it is important you are genuinely interested in your man. He needs to be you best "male" friend. Next, have all your crap together. Grown men don't want to raise another child emotionally. Don't get it wrong, we like to take care of our women. However, it isn't the same as taking care of a child. Don't be an immature person. Have goals and desires....but share them with your man (this goes back to being interested and him being your best male friend). He doesn't have to DO all the things WITH you, but he likes to know you share your life with him....again....interested in him enough to share those details with him. Being supportive is dead on....but it all falls into the category of being the "best friend". All that being said, add icing to the cake....and yeah....keep up the physical appearance and be "hot". If the guy is more than interested and loves you, begin hot evolves with age so don't think hotness goes away as age creeps up.
A little bit of absence is so true... I used to feel guilty about making my business work or doing creative projects. Always your interests or hobbies going
I’m pretty easy, I think. The biggest way to keep me interested is to remain consistent with effort and communication. As an aside, Courtney definitely takes GREAT care of her hair. It looks amazing 👍
Honesty, direct communication, compatible life goals, reasonable attractiveness (I usually see you without makeup, so makeup doesn't matter at all.), general sexual compatibility, and probably most of all the ability to regulate your emotions, such as not losing it over whether you fast food burger is the correct size, or becoming paranoid because I have female co-workers.
Always heard I need to be a rock for my friends family etc. Only recently started looking for that from them. Its been a real eye opener. Never realized what a toll being strong and stoic all the time took on me. The reactions everyone has had to it are eye opening as well. Particularly when dating. Always love a more positive video!
Yes, take care of yourself. Yes, respect yourself and others. Yes, have values and reasonable expectations. Yes, be supportive. Yes, take and give alone time.
Way overrated. It has to be livable and not filthy. A couple of dishes in the sink, dust on the TV, and hair in the shower drain would not matter at all if she was everything else.
guys in relationships with good women generally dont break up It's not difficult, just a good woman, moral, loyal, take care of yourself, be helpful, kind, caring, nurturing, not a headache, keep the sex good for him, be respectful...basically genuinely feminine
I have to agree with most of that. Take care of yourself, above all. Being supportive and provide some encouragement. Have a hobby so you're not underfoot all the time. I like to see her doing something that brings her joy and inspiration as well.
Spot on, but I think the "let him know" part can be mis-applied to being difficult, combative, and jealously controlling Have self-respect and boundaries, establish clear trust with your autonomy Don't pick a fight and disturb the peace on every little thing
#1 Look is important but it is not a thing which keeps me in. If I meet you it means you are attractive to me, and I already like your style and look. If you feel like you need to improve your look if you date me it is bad, I want know who you really are, not some version of you. It is not how to keep but how to start. #2 It depends. Respect is important and if I feel you are not respectful you are simply a bad person and I do not want want meet you. You should be respectful but it is not a thing to keep. #3 You should know your values and take care of them but it depends what they are. If I cheat on you should leave, you know I do not stay with you and I am not worth your effort. But if we disagree on politics and you make drama on it, it is a childs play on your side. #4 I share what I feel and I appreciate any kind of support from you. If I know I can count on you it is a big deal. #5 Completely unnecessary. You should live your life and even if you have free time and do not want meet me it is fine. If you want meet me but you do not to make me miss you it goes too far. If you want meet just meet, do not play games. # I miss 2 important things ▪︎Take initiative. If I offer a date and you can not at this time you should make a counter. Tell me when you would meet. If you can call me first sometimes it is great. ▪︎Make compliments. Tell me what you like in me. If I impressed you tell me too.
My wife refuses to take a day off-she's a teacher and has months of days on her PTO-yet refuses to take a day-for herself-I am a teacher as well-I keep 3 weeks of PTO yet will take a few days here and there to pursue my interests.Doing this enriches the relationship. As for my body and hers. I enjoy exercise. She eats healthy and cares for our kid. Honesty, Care and Understanding of a person's past, present and future.
You asked for it… My Preface: Respect over anything else is how you keep a man. This takes care of nearly everything else. To Her points, which I mostly appreciate: #1 Attractiveness: As a man I believe in pursuing excellence for myself and my family. It says a lot when a woman puts in the effort to stay physically fit and attractive. I see guys comment, just like I heard constantly in church, “Looks fade.” That’s not the point I’m making. Aging is normal and Lord willing I’ll do it together with the wife of my youth so I don’t even notice the differences. She just stays attractive to me because I’m attracted to age appropriate women. #2 I would change this to honesty and communication: Relationships fail when either the woman or the man lets things fester and boil over. I disagree with the idea of “Don’t let him walk all over you.” As a man you are the leader and you need to establish this arena and maintain a respectful dialogue. The point she makes sounds a little headstrong. That’s super unattractive. Assertiveness with what your desires and disagreements are is fine. Being headstrong is not. Maybe it’s just the way she said it. #3 The willingness to leave: Sorry, but every man knows women will leave for right or even wrong reasons. This has no bearing on male, or at least my, attraction to a woman. There’s no need to point this out. I would like a woman with values who shares her feelings with me so I have a chance to work through it with her before she leaves. Maybe this is what she’s getting at? #4 Support - Even more importantly, Respect I can’t believe none of her guy friends mentioned this. Maybe they’re super young. But respect is the NUMBER ONE way to make a man feel special. What does that look like? It looks like deference, not ever making fun of him in front of anyone else, not putting him down. Men need respect over affection to feel loved by their wife. #5 Missing each other: I’m not sure if this is an attraction factor for a man. I can see how this would be for a woman. While I think it’s imperative both people have a calling and purpose that aligns and parallels in a way that may bring them apart for a short season, this may be more of an important thing for a woman to see for attraction. It really just may depend on personality types.
I think theres a difference between taking care of yourself and making yourself look "hot" or "attractive". You're correct. No one can make your wife hot except your wife. However, that is her choice to make. You can't force her. I'm not entirely sure that your partner is a reflection of you and your emotional development. Everyone is different, so partners can't be reflections of each other. Both you and your partner can be at different stages in emotional development. Interest is a double-edged sword. Both men and women have to find ways to keep their partners interested in staying in their relationships.
@CourtneyRyan I agree with everything she said. I would love to see a video about how to keep a woman interested, particularly from a married woman’s perspective.
Not that the points are meaningless, but they are naive. Over years you are going to go through some incredibly difficult things. Its respect, communication, and teamwork.
Yup, please make the "keep your woman interested video". I've been married for almost 3 years and we're going strong. But I don't want to take my wife for granted either. I appreciate your view point. Thank you for making these kind of videos.
I agree with all of them. Everyone needs to be there best self at all times both on appearance and habits. The only acceptance that comes in is aging, we all age differently and as long as you are doing your best you partner just has to accept it, or not. Support is something we always need but not always in the same quantities, The need for it ebbs and flows throughout the relationship. I am interested to see the how to keep a woman satisfied video to see if anything is different.
From the actual what do you prefer; that you are still attracted is what I would choose. This could mean, physically, emotionally and intellectually. Its true, today most ppl can access the other things financially, but you can't really buy being attracted to your partner (although ive seen dudes who have tried😂). Also, about stopping disrespect right at the front; that is just something you should do in life in whatever context from whomever (sometimes even yourself). The earlier disrespect is addressed and stopped the better. Habitual line steppers only continue their habits and never get better with time. These ppl rely on you to just grow accustomed to their abuse. They only escalate so its easier to put it and to this right at the start.
1. Correct, doesnt have to be to the extreme like super model, which is unrealistic for most women, just look healthy enough to be able to be with me til im around 60+ (our life expectancy is lower than you so if we got a good chance to last til 60-70s youve done a good enough job), but major extra points if you do look like a super model for your aesthetic background through your eras of aging, that'll just make things a lot easier 2. If a man has a major history of toxic relationships, absolutely, if he doesnt though, like maybe 1 or 2 weird situations, dont be so particular on that, cause the chance he'll respect you sufficiently is a lot higher off rip so you wont need to worry about that, avoid the "boss b*" mentality by becoming too much of a prude, you shouldn't be getting offended at every single joke i throw at you, throw it back, lets have a comedy movie moment😂, it'll keep me on my toes if youve got some wit on you, women having a sense of humor or at least being able to synergize with a man's sense of humor and follow/contribute to the flow of conversation instantly gives us respect for you. I know its weird, but i aint never go "she'd make an amazing wife" to any women who hasnt made me laugh and give me a good comedic comeback or add to my joke to make it funnier. You could be below average in looks and youre getting cuffed over the model anyday with that in your tool belt 😂, maybe cause genuine female humor that men can relate to isnt common, takes a special women to be able to go into a guys mindset of comedy and execute flawlessly.😅
I think this is good common sense especially on the taking care of yourself as best you can. On the"walk way" part; I agree it doesnt need to be said . Agree on the "guving each other space" . So 👍
Something she didn't mention was that physical intimacy is actually extremely important to keep a man interested. That isn't exclusively sex either, just anything like cuddling, hugging, kissing, giving massages, etc. If a man is craving physical intimacy because he's not getting enough from his woman, he will likely leave or cheat.
I think people over complicate relationships. Do you want to know the secret to keep a relationship strong? One word, you ready for it? EFFORT. No relationship will ever fail when both parties are putting in effort, and thinking about how they can give their partner the most love, and how they can be the best version of themselves. Even if only one party is putting in effort. Effort by one will eventually inspire effort by the other. The next thing would be serving a greater purpose together that transcends the two of your wants, and desires. But primarily it's all about effort. This one paragraph will save just about any relationship before it fails. But put in effort now. Don't wait until the relationship is on the rocks to suddenly start trying.
I can speak to the last point, because the woman who I love and I think like me, has to miss me because of the challenge it takes for me to visit her. Not that I don’t want to, I love the challenge and her.
This is my favourite channel even though I don't always agree with everything that is said (only normal). But I will say that the best way for a woman to keep a guy interested is for her not to act as if she is morally superior than him. So difficult to find a gal that is down to Earth and aware of her own flaws, thus regardless of how a man builds his own value it's impossible to connect at a deeper level with people who think they are better than you - and most of your reaction videos of women prove just that. Keep-up the great work:)
None of my exs never tried to be interested to keep me interested so I was more interested to get rid of all those uninterested ! Now I’m more interested to live happily and interested !
1. Get A Hobby a real one 2. Bring something to table besides your emotions 3. Don’t get offended 4. Get A real Job 5. Workout and exercise Your all in don’t have to be perfect 10
@userTe.legram_RealCourtneyRyan the stay at home wife has the highest % of divorce. Just the facts . Bring emotions When the Big picture Maters the most to men. Dumping your man for someone better ,when your fat and low energy your self. Your man works out 5 days a week when you can’t even do 1 pull up. It’s important to be Equally yoked. When one bull is pulling harder the other,it will make you go in Circles.
I liked what Sarah Lauren said, and I would very much like it if you made a video about how to keep a woman interested, for sure! I'm not in a relationship at this time, but I would like to be prepared for that so I can be the best boyfriend and husband when those times come.
1:58 the answer is "ALL"... if a girl has a high value man that ticks all her boxes, the answer is "ALL"... and that's why it is a bad deal for men to get married - because a woman can let herself go and get all the cash and prizes in the divorce
I understand leaving if he cheats because who wouldn’t do that, but if he messes up? I messed up all the time. I ever heard someone say if I mess up their walking away I would probably walk away then and there because I know I’m gonna mess up something.
Be useful, which means you can't be "anti-useful" or a burden. Make a plan or decision at times, know what you want to eat, and solve one of your problems so he doesn't have to. The last thing a man wants when he gets home is some "honey do" list or to have to handle you through some basic life task.
Point 1: If you're taking care of yourself for your partner then its a waste of time - you have to do it for you. You also need to be in a position where you're not doing things to "please" your partner. Point 2: This is basic common sense. Point 3: Boundaries are important and this is a good example of one - completely fair. Point 4: Needs to be mutual, or its nothing. It's never good to live in each other's pockets or to be together all the time. Space is important in a relationship.
While I agree that love is a choice and when you make that commitment to someone to marry them, you should stick to your vows. But I also think it’s disrespectful to your spouse to let your health go down the drain once you’ve tied the knot. To say something like, “well he/ she married me so now I can be lazy and not try to impress them daily is just disrespectful. We all have days where we aren’t feeling great physically and mentally, but overall, we should always be striving to make it easy for our spouse to live us. Although physical attraction isn’t everything, it certainly is something. For men, because of testosterone, physical attraction tends to rank higher on our list than for women. Same way that status, resources, and ambition rank higher on women’s list. Overall I would say that the things this girl talked about are true for both men and women. Let’s all just try to work hard at being the best version of ourselves first for our own benefit and then for the benefit of others.
"Keep yourself hot" doesn't literally mean looking sexy and tight clothes, it means looking healthy/clean. Basically being healthy & clean is just baseline (it just sexy even when woman don't intend to be) Guys like the same girl if she's all dolled up or just wearing t-shirt, no makeup as long as she's healthy & clean.
As people get older you're exterior looks become way less important. But I think it's important when you're out looking for someone. It just doesn't have any value when it comes to what's important in life.❤
So many questions about the tik tok video. Is the women at home working at motherhood and the household? What if they can't afford someone to clean the house? Are both working? Is one working the over night shift. Expecting any of these three to be done in a way both are satisfied with takes working together to achieve them. When each will work out. What is the clean house checklist for daily and weekly? How do we eat healthy which is THE most important factor in good health. Married now 25 years and working on this is hard. Requires open communication that validates both people. This example is WAY to simplistic.
All we need to do is talk. Talk before an issue blows up. Listen to your partner. Do things for them to show you care. I want to bring flowers to someone because she needs to know I care. I want to be my best for her.
100% Courtney. Looks may fade but they should fade naturally like at age 45-70 lol. And when they naturally fade you fade together which is its own beauty. Being fat at 25-40 and then saying looks fade is an excuse for being careless and putting in 0 effort to take care and show respect for yourself and your partner. Both people should want to be as attractive as they can for as long as they can with each other.
As a Man Self Care and Effort is Important. Respectful Boundaries are healthy in a relationship. Strong Foundation and Accountability are essential with not Co Signing on each other B.S.
I can't disagree with most of this. That "I'm in your corner" aspect CANNOT be overstated. If a guy knows that he can be combating life, swinging away , trying to be the best he can, and still feel like there is a good woman that is supporting him, appreciating him, and perhaps catching the things that slip through the cracks...he will value that woman like gold, and fight to the death for her.
Unless they got their partner by lying their ass off about who they are. How many women go on and on about how much they love beer and football or whatever shit they think men want to hear? More often than one would think.
Honestly keeping yourself hot goes for men and women. Personally staying in the gym keeps me feeling good about myself regardless of if I have a partner or not and that self-esteem attracts people naturally.
I don’t agree with the first points of keeping one “hot”, I think it’s more taking care of your self. And there also some things that the other in the relationship can’t change about themselves.
That extra high-fat coffee, the extra helping at dinner, snacks in-between. At some point each spouse gets disgusted with the other and the relationship degrades. Later items of being supportive resonate with me and how my now ex-wife failed on her behavior towards me including putting on 80 lbs. during our marriage. She should have recognized what she had in me, as she certainly does now, ...as she faces the walls of her house with no one around.
