How To Make A Rude Person Look Insecure For Insulting You 

I’m very tall for a woman. I’m 6ft without shoes. I can’t make myself shorter, so I have no problem with looking taller. I walked into a club one night and this little guy said “wooo….are you a man?” And I looked him up and down, and said “no sweetheart. Are you?” And I walked away. His friends laughed at him, and I won. 😂

I've built my sense of humor as a defence growing up as a fat kid. Really made me appreciate the power of spoken language as it destroyed every attempted bully and won respect. Probably helped me develop an unhealthy obsession with wording and over analysis, too.

I told my kids to tell me some of the insults they've gotten while in school and they would come home to tell me. Then I would give them some good comeback lines for friends or even bullies in school. They would come home the next day and say "Mom, I made the classroom/lunchroom fallout laughing with that line"... It really boosted their confidence and cut down on any insults, backhanded compliments or bullying they encountered.

Don't take hurtful criticism or insults seriously when they come from a person whom you wouldn't go to for important advice.

You will always regret losing your temper but you will never regret staying calm and appearing like it does nothing to you.

A woman called me misogynistic once, I replied "How narcissistic of you to assume I hate women as if you represent all of them".

My best one was after putting on 10 pounds. A guy with a beer belly said "damn your getting fat". I just smiled, poked his gut and said "just trying to catch up". Smile dropped off his face as I walked away with a smile.

#6 “Show that you’re unaffected.” Unknowingly, I used this technique throughout my thirty-one career as a cop. I can’t tell you how many thousands of times someone insulted me as a prelude to their question. Ignoring the insult and answering the question as if it’s sincere almost universally diffused my “adversary’s” verbal attacks. This is great material, I wish I had the influence to make these videos mandatory viewing in our Police Academy. Cheers from Boston

So basically: "Do anything that isn't getting angry, offended or throwing a tantrum." A lot of people today could learn from this video.

Simply ask the person who is attempting to diminish you "what would motivate you to say that"? This lets everyone know that you don't accept their insult as being valid, and puts them in the spotlight, and under intense social pressure, to justify their rudeness.

Worked as a prison guard. An offender that was always sarcastic and lippy approached me in front of a crowd of them. Him-“ya know, when I get out I’m gonna move right next door to you.” Me- “You can’t.” Him- “why?” Me- “I live too close to a school.” *I walk away* The whole tier blew up.

I once had the best comeback to an insult that I still laugh about today. At work I was singing away when someone told me to stop singing and that people like me who can’t sing shouldn’t sing in public. So I said “oh okay, so do you also believe if people aren’t attractive they shouldn’t go outside?”. Would you believe he said yes!!! So of course I said “so what are you doing here?”. As you can imagine the whole office erupted in laughter whilst this guy struggled to regain his posture.

I love a good comeback, even when it’s directed at me. I (jokingly) told a coworker once “That file should work. Although I reserve the right to change my mind later-I am a woman after all.” His snappy comeback was perfect: “That’s fine. And I reserve right not to listen-I am a man after all.” 🤣 Touché sir!

My grandfather used to repeat often: "Never forget your sense of humor, buddy!" Laughter will take you a lot farther in life than constantly *being offended*.

I'm learning as much by reading the comments as I did by watching the video.

This video has helped me so much. Someone said “nobody asked” after something I said out of the blue and I replied “what makes you think I was talking to you?” And that shut them up

One of my favorites is when I tell a joke and someone is trying to be condescending and says "Yeah, I don't get it" as though it wasn't even worthy of the title 'jokes'. I replied "I'll tell you when you're older" and even he genuinely laughed at that.

Innocently ask the person insulting you to repeat what they said as if you didn’t quite hear it, look confused and ask them to explain it. Then watch them squirm with embarrassment with all the attention on them as they struggle to explain something that wasn’t funny.

Don't react to toxic people. Not giving them a reaction when they desperately seek it, is far more powerful.

as a child I dealt with rude kids insulting me (they thought I was weird and quiet) just by laughing whenever they tried to insult me. it made them so angry and confused, it was great! the best way to respond is to stay calm, no matter what strategy you use

I was at work talking to one of my coworkers. He makes a crack about the shape of my head. He said you should stack some books on your head so it looks like a perfect square. I replied your right, you do have an EYE for fashion. The man literally had one eye. The best part was it took him a second too. He said hey your right...wait a minute😔. I apologized for the burn and said, I'm sorry but you get me I get you, it's an eye for an eye. I showed myself out after that lol.

I had a woman tell me I was a worthless piece of crap. I said "thank you, glad to hear you think I am improving". while laughing and smiling. She was dumbfounded and rendered speechless. Everyone laughed and I never saw her again for the rest of the night as I was too busy talking to her friends. One of which I went home with.

When one of my children scored well on a standardized math test, her father said, “You know she got her math brains from me, right?” I replied, “She must have because I still have mine.”

When someone insults you say "I don't get it" then smile and walk away, if you can't walk away keep smiling only at that person. Or, "How original! I'm going to remember that the next time I want to tear someone down to make myself look good. Thanks mate".

You know how a joke is ruined if you have to explain the punchline? That's what I've done in the past with someone who's trying to insult me. I'll say "I'm sorry I was just in my head. What was that, please?" And act really interested- full- attention. If they double-down & repeat it, I'll say something like, "What do you mean?" Still, full eye-contact, slight polite smile. It doesn't happen often, but it's very useful. I only had one person, one time lol go to the trouble of Explaining their insult to me. To that, I kept eye-contact for a few seconds, looked away like I was contemplating it, & then came back with "Well, that was hurtful. Did you Mean to be hurtful? Is everything okay? Would you like to talk about something?" --"NO!" ~"Because I'm Here for you if you need to talk something out. You Sure?" { D

I'm one of those people who thinks of a snappy reply three weeks later, so I developed _The Look_ when people say something insulting. It never fails.

Best one I heard was a guy calmly say: "Why do feel you need to insult me? I don't insult you."

How about just shake your head and laugh and then say, “You’re definitely the type of person who would say something like that.”

I like saying, “Thanks for noticing.” It works every time and shows strength.

In the Fire Department Academy my nemesis was a stereotypical pugnacious Italian dude. He busted on me constantly... One day he found out we home schooled our children... Trying to embarrass me in front of the other firemen, he says: "Mr. Farnsworth, I would NEVER homeschool my children!" "That's probably a wise choice, Johnny..." 😉😁👌🎯

This entire comment section is priceless!! in college my male house-mate and I were leaving the house and he left the door open. I asked him if he lived in a barn. He said "yes, and I just let out the cow". I laughed snot out of my nose..

I admire people who makes a comeback with an expressionless, straight face. The late Leslie Nielsen is one of them.

my all time favourite comeback is " i do not wish to engage in a battle of wits with an unarmed person"

That "can you host" line is genius. Bravo to that kid

As an Australian it’s second nature to laugh at insults thrown your way and not be offended, it’s like a sport to us

I've never gotten to use it but one idea when insulted in a serious, not joking way is to act like you don't hear them, lean in and stare at their teeth, point to your tooth and say, "you have something stuck..."

I once replied with something like "Oh, wow, that was very funny. You are a very funny guy." to some insult, and actually laughed becuase it reminded me of the scene from Goodfellas. The one insulting me started becoming upset and then it make me laugh even more when he asked something of the sort "You think I am funny?"

From experience, I must say laughing at an insult only works when the person making the insult has no malignant intent with the insult or when there are other people around who will side wide you if things escalate. People who do have malignant intent will simply send more and more insults at you until you set a boundary.

Insults are like an energy. You can reflect it, absorb it, or disperse it. It's what you say that matters especially. Be careful with your words.

I wish this existed 32 years ago. I could’ve used it against my bullies.

When I was 15 I was playing in a soccer game and my opponent kept making remarks about my hairy arms. I ignored it and smiled back for a while and he just kept at it. So he said it again, I laughed and said "Yeah, I can see that! And I've gotten past you every time in this game." He didn't say anything for the rest of the game 🤣 At the end of the game, we had won 4-0 and I came up to him to shake his hand and I said "Man, if only your team was as good on the field as you are at talking so much". I left the guy deflated.

There’s an Italian saying, I don’t know if the literal translation makes sense though: When the offender is nothing, the offence doesn’t subsist.

It may not sound witty or whatever, but when someone says something rude or seemingly offensive, I stop, look directly at him/her, and calmly say, "I'll bet you didn't mean for it to come out like that." They have only two options: Tes ("Yes, I was insulting you")or No ("Yeah, no, it came out wrong.") Either way, it's disarming and forces honesty.

Insults in essence, are emotional attacks. The best thing you can do is disassociate from the person, yourself and the situation for a brief moment, lock your emotions in a safe place and handle the insult as if it's a theater play and you're doing a scene.

I'm a naturally shy person and sometimes people mistake that for not having confidence in yourself. Don't ever get the 2 of those things twisted. Shy people don't always lack confidence in themselves. My sense of humour is so dark and quick that if you insult me in front of people the comeback wont be pretty, you will be laughed at and I won't be affected by your insult. This has happened so many times at work, I've been labelled as brutal and ruthless between fits of laughter from the people present.

a fat and rude boy in my class asked me jokingly, “doesn’t she look like she would die of type 2 diabetes?” he was talking about this really nice girl in my class, and I fired back with, “I mean I wouldn’t be surprised if you did…” I was scared in my ability to do that💀

My dad and paternal grandma would insult me quite frequently. I rarely had a comeback because I was too busy absorbing the hurt feelings. I held on to that trauma for years. Thank goodness I don't care much about what people say about me anymore. 👏🏼👍🏼

not directly related to this video, but i have autism and systematically applying the advice from this channel has helped me become more charismatic than 95% of my peers.

The problem with savage comebacks is that you can't undo them when it turns out you *really* shouldn't have said that.. Regret is a bitter teacher that extracts a harsh tuition. Learn to be a little gentler in life. It will get you further .. or at least it leaves you happier

For years my niece used to constantly make fun of my thinning hair line to a point that it became tiring. One day at a family gathering she decided to try it again to show how "cool" she is. So she asks (from across the table) "Hey uncle George, so when are you getting your hair implants ?" My immediate response was "Whenever you decide to get the breast implants you desperately need". She has never mentioned my hair since.

The problem isn't so much coming up with a great comeback, it's coming up with the comeback in a timely manner. If you can't counter the insult within a few seconds, just don't.

ive also learned that when you insult someone that insulted you, look them in the eyes after because it’ll kinda scare them and it lets them know that your not hurt in any way possible and it kinda challenges them like “is there anything else you wanna say?”. Im all about eye contact. Every time i’m insulted, i look them in the eye and i say something, it’s always a dub.

I will share something about my life. Some people(family or friends) try to bring me down with words or actions, but I respond honestly and make it a one-time only. The problem is that if you are trying to prove something, like not showing a reaction to create some impression, it is because you depend on these people emotionally and mentally. And I say there is no need to react with anger but be fully aware of what you deserve, and if other people don't contribute to you in life, don't be afraid to lose people.

I’m not quick witted, I’m a chill dude, so I never know what to say as a comeback…I’m not nervous, my mind just doesn’t go into a defensive mode. But it makes me look weak. I don’t know how to fix that.

If someone is trying to insult me, I don't care about upsetting them.

I love how to deal with bullies techniques. I am a woman only 5 feet tall. I have a friendly personality. Bullies zone in on me like an animal hunting prey. This last guy (last week) I simply either ignored him or gave him a blank confident stare. It was a 2 hour small social event. While I want to be pleasant 99% of the time, bullies do not respond well and it is good to have these fantastic techniques.

My fave comeback is to say, "He's doing his best." Roll your eyes and add, "That's what's so tragic." Works every time.

Definition of diplomacy: Being able to tell someone to go to hell in such a way that they look forward to the trip! More people really ought to cultivate that type of much needed ability!!!

Successful people don't become successful that way overnight. What most people see at a glance- wealth, a great career, purpose-is the result of hard work and hustle over time. I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life..

Having some good comebacks in your back pocket can be helpful. It lets people know you arent an easy target therefore gaining respect most times.

this video makes me looks forward to getting insulted lol

The problem with the laughing at the insult examples, which makes sense for this video, is that none of those people are actually trying to insult the other person. The context makes them more like joke and you can clearly tell that whatever they're saying is for the absudity and laughter than it is to actually be insulting. This makes it much easier to laugh at where as if someone is trying to insult you the laughter may not come as easy because you realize this persons instent isnt to make you laugh. Basically the intent to offend you can be more insulting that the insult itself even when the insult doesnt really offend you.

I always say "Sorry, I don't value your opinion one bit".

I get verbally bullied by my classmates everyday, and whatever they say it's only after a while that i think "Oh, i should have said this!" One thing for certain, though.*Never show that you are unaffected or laugh along with the joke!* I did this for a good full month, and in the end those guys crossed their limits with a few others joining them, as it shows that anyone could treat you according to their wish.

I usually just smile and respond to trolls with “I’ve been through more in life than you can possibly imagine. Your comments don’t matter to me” and walk away. Occasionally I stay and just watch in silence to see how long their angry tantrum will last. Most trolls have left me alone by now, I think they believe that I may be sadistic and treating them like free television. I grew up in a very violent and abusive childhood, so it’s occasionally entertaining to see how unhinged these entitled brats get when you are just silent. A slap in the face would just make me laugh because I’ve been through literal torture. Most trolls seek a reaction or attention. I guess when you have dealt with enough trolls in life, you become the troll. I still find these videos interesting and I feel bad that some of my friends get genuinely upset over hurtful comments. Trolls are worthless so they want others to feel as worthless, jealous, empty and miserable as they are. Misery is the only thing some people are capable of and it’s tragic.

I love how Tommy from Peaky Blinders handles insults or threats while he's talking: he just pauses, ignores what they said, and keeps talking.

My advice-instead of getting angry or offended, be amused. It drives them nuts and keeps you level-headed. I don't mean amused in a mocking sort of way but like amusedly curious about why the other person is being so hostile

Another approach is to very calmly ask - "Did you say that to hurt my feelings?" and wait for their response. You could follow up with a concerned "Why would you want to do that to someone?" or "What would motivate you to do such a thing?" My kids use such an approach at school. The aim isn't to denegrate, just to illuminate. You could also add (if you're feeling a bit nasty)... "Not getting enough attention at home perhaps?". 🙂

Fastest way to build confidence. Just constantly put yourself in challenging situations, get off your phone and go outside and live

The verbal counter punch that will dismantle your attacker peacefully. Thanks

He missed a type. The Over the Head style comeback. William F. Buckley was a master: "I won't insult you by pretending that you meant anything that you just said"; or "I'd like to agree with you but that would be an affront to your intelligence"

Ill sum it up for you. " React without emotion. " Narcissists and manipulators want a reaction. Either their way or upset. Well dont react and take away their power. Youre welcome.

My favorite come back when insulted or threatened is a simple "oh yeah" or "aight" and just walk away....kill with kindness or silence.

I was called F**got and G*y every damn day on the bus, and my simple yet loud response so everyone could hear was “Stop licking your lips at me!!”

Once we went to a wonderful Vietnamese restaurant on New Year’s Day with my sister in law who at the time just had a habit of being rude..We were seated at the table and the lovely waiter came over and was taking all of our orders and there was a bit of a language barrier. No problem we were getting through it. SIL was just running her mouth for whatever reason and out of nowhere the waiter asked her what her name was. She said her name and he said “no wonder”. Her face was priceless. 😮. I truly think he had zero intentions of trying to insult her but she kept asking all of us; WHY DID HE SAY THAT?? To this day (30 years later) my now ex husband and I still crack up hysterically over that moment and say No Wonder all the time as a general insult 😂😂😂😂

You know narcissists cannot take tit for tat, they just flip into victim mode when you return the same favor on them 😂

I actually pulled a high status reframe in high school. a girl made some snarky comment to me and I turned to one of our mutual friends and asked if they remembered what her name was. she got very upset.

The Dalton character in The movie, roadhouse, had the best and succinct comeback to an insult I've ever heard and I've used it for over a decade in political forums on the internet. And it's almost universal in it's effectiveness. After being insulted I simply say, "well, opinions vary.". It's probably easy for me because I never actually feel insulted. I always see them as a reflection of the person making the insult. The only human being on the planet that I've emotionally or intellectually given permission to ever hurt me with words is my wife. And she never does.

My comeback on an insult would be: ‘what a nice thing to say; you must be very proud in saying it!’. Another one would be: ‘you should use that line more often as that’s very becoming, it gives you class!’

Acting uneffected and dismissive works too. People only do these things to get a rise out of you. So basically trying to set you up. The way around that is to not give them what they want, and even perhaps what would be worse to them-be kind when they expect anger. It teaches them how to act, as well as keeps you in your happy place. We don’t teach with aggression. We teach with kindness.

most people who make uncalled for insults are always the ones that have the insecurities themselves! once you understand this you can just laugh back at them 😅

The people who resort to everyone thinks /says are the weakest. I like to respond, "it's me, not we. Speak for yourself." That usually brings silence.

I was a heavy drinker and then stopped and went back to school and got my AA. My sister made a comment to my cousin and said “I always thought she’d be in AA, not get an AA!” That made me laugh so hard!

I’ve been told many times that I have the patience of a Saint . But anyone being rude or insulting to me or any of my family and friends and basically anyone I deem to being bullied. Will be told in short order to curb ignorant attitude. To hell with a witty retort or come back.

The clapbacks in The Weakest Link (2:56) would have been so great to show. Those are my favorite insult comebacks!

I love not reacting at first and then tell the person attempting to insult me what they should have said but phrased it in what an actual intelligent or funny individual would have stated.

I was leaving a job and at my fairwell, with all the staff present, the CEO gave this wonderful speech with an insult in it. I was HR manager, and believed a happy workforce will mean a healthy company...which him and some other snr management didn't agree with, as they saw people as numbers without feelings. So he praised and then continued to say, "although she was a bit too emotional at times". Before I could think I responded with, "well, at least I have a heart". Some were so pleased I said that and I could see them smiling behind their hands and others turned around so not to face him as they chuckled. That was the end of his speech too.

There's so much info in this video it could've been broken into a multi part series. Also: being able to laugh at yourself is invaluable.

I like to say “I’m sorry, I didn’t hear what you said. Will you repeat it?” Especially if there are others around.

The weakest link one was EPIC....she didn't even know what to do with herself!

I have two useful put downs: 1. I was in a cafe eating a bacon sandwich when an old lady said to me “that pig will come back and haunt you”. I didn’t believe her until I met you. 2. You like to bait people? Well I’ve met good baiters and bad baiters but you’re the best I’ve ever seen, no truly you are, you’re a master baiter…

a big part of the trick is the timing you will usually need a moment to think of a reply but you have to do this in a way that people don't notice you actually took that time it's like at 4:40 you may just act like you're letting the insult sink in and then the comeback feels like you had it ready from the start, while you'll actually have used the time for preparing it. it's not easy to create this illusion, but it's necessary otherwise you will rush, and it's incredibly difficult to actually come up with a clever response in a fraction of a second so you either need to sort of make a little act about the silence or use some word filler to delay the actual comeback, while leaving the impression that you were building up to it (even though you didn't know yet what it would be exactly)

What I like to do is give a compliment that will make the person regret it, like "bro, you're a smart guy, I'm sure you're able to reformulate that in a better way." Or "I'm sure you don't really mean to say that."

I’m always amazed at what you can get away with if you make eye contact and smile or laugh. They assume you’re joking. Every. Time

“I’ve had a good chuckle over that one” *“I’m coming after you”*

Those of us in the South have a very simple and very effective way of responding to an insult and letting them know they cannot affect us with their insult, while at the same time making them feel like they just got roasted but in a way that they really can't take offense to without looking petty and mean-spirited. We just smile and say " bless your heart ".

The Jordan Peterson clip is perfect, telling the person to reframe in the form of an actual question.

So it all boils to self confidence - either the confidence to find humor in the insult or the confidence to cut the person from your life.

"Clean You Room" is only banal to those who haven't cleaned their room or made any effort to change/clean themselves in the last 20 years. Proactively cleaning your room reminds you that cleaning oneself and self-reflection is a lifelong endeavor.

The ultimate comeback? Say “and God Bless You” …that creates an unbeatable Karma shield