how to: SELF CARE WHILST DATING! (don't lose yourself) 

I love you so much ma'am 😭

My way of practicing self-care whilst dating right now is investing and focusing my energy into my mental/emotional and physical health ❤. I believe in being my true self and putting myself first during this time. I've been hurt in the past and have been on a long ended journey of healing. The right man will come along during this process (all in God's hands). Love you Breeny you're amazing! 😘 God bless

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seek JESUS and he will take care of you and church for a relationship where Christ is in the center . Sister breeny remember to pray ,

I sincerely appreciate your help❤

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👏👏🥂 and She does it all with grace and class, with no need to hurt or disrespect anyone as she does it.

Healthy self ...heal THY SELF

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LOVE it!!! 👸🏿💅🏿🧘🏿‍♀️

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Ikr! Just gorgeous!

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so sweet thank you, the same for you

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@@potentialrizing1949 ♥️🤗🤗 hope all is well

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Dan kiley wrote 2 books that i'd suggest everyone to read one is about emotionally immature men (that include narcissist) called "Peter Pan syndrome" and another book called "wendy dilemma" (on women who act like mother with their boyfriend or husband and how to break free from those patterns)

@@historiqueafricaine thank you very much. I will look up for them

When these men approach with their sad stories and woe is me logic...leave him be. He's not in a healthy or mature state of mind to love you properly! If he truly wants you,, he will go on his own self love/self care journey and return when he's healed. Had to learn this the hard way 🤦🏿‍♀️

Stop having SEX until it's a Relationship.

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I’m glad to hear that ♥️

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I’m broken and I’m still always everyone’s healer😐

@@melanievintimilla7835 stop doing that hunni put yourself first, heal your soul first♥️

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Wow. This statement just changed my life ❤️ thank u

Exactly ! A partner/spouse is a gift from Allah and is supposed to make you grateful and turn you more towards Allah . But when you focus on the gift forgetting the giver ,This very thing will be the source of all your misery . Let’s not forget why we are on this earth in the first place .

@@csamro1697 you're welcome 💕

Amen sis ‼️ making a man a God is idol worship and we don’t time for that as high value women 💪🏾

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@Autumn Green how did you make that shift? I'm in a relationship....6 months now and it seems like im only happy when I'm around him or when I'm talking to him. If I feel like he's pulling away or we have a disagreement it ruins my entire mood.

@@sunni90 It's honestly still a lingering challenge but it has gotten a lot better. My advice to you is to have other things in your life that you care about/make you happy. You have to make yourself happy outside of your relationship if you want to be truly happy IN your relationship. You are so much more than just your boyfriend's girlfriend. Also, I had to take my boyfriend off of a pedestal. He's honestly the first genuinely good guy I've ever dated and I was focusing so much on how amazing and perfect he was, but now I realize he isn't. You have to realize your boyfriend isn't perfect and humanize him. And finally, it sounds like you might be afraid of losing him. You have to force yourself to accept the reality that you might lose him, allow yourself to fully feel every dimension of that, and let it go. You have to realize that you will be perfectly okay without him, in order to be healthy with him. I hope this helps!

@@autumngreen7872 thank you for this

Reading this because I am in the same position and it’s hard

@@autumngreen7872 oh my god. thank you I fucking struggled and was depressed and anxious all the time not knowing why! I'm so glad I'm not alone. you helped me alot

Agreed. I guess its all about caring what THE RIGHT people in your life think instead of caring about what every other person thinks. Not every person's opinion is worth caring about and its up to you to decide which opinions matter.

You will never be able to make everyone happy. At the end of the day, you have to choose your battles and ultimately get to a place where you are happy with yourself first and foremost. Otherwise, you will be too busy pleasing others and their egos and unable to find peace from within. Once you are happy with yourself, you'll effortlessly be able to see whose opinion or advice should or should not be considered. I used to be a people pleaser a while back and to be honest, lacked a lot of internal peace. Work on yourself, work on yourself from within..find yourself..and watch everything else fall into place. :-)

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Same! But it's mostly work for me. I feel like my hobbies died when I went to college. Now I feel like I don't have the time or the energy to redevelop them or discover new ones.

Stephanie, have you TRULY sat in your grief and mourned the death of that relationship? Forgiveness is layered and comes in stages. Forgive yourself for decisions you did/didn't make. Get counseling if necessary. Do so for the children if there were any because they were affected as well. Start the process of learning who you are in this season. Rediscover your likes and what gives you joy. Give yourself permission to let go of the past hurt and to move forward into your new space of whatever you desire for yourself. Pray for him and release him to God. You will find that in time that the hurt will ease and lift. Also know that there's nothing that you could have done further to change his mind. Blessings on your journey to restoration and wholeness.

@@lovebug6388 did the work and still doing those you’ve spoke of ! Realize some are in your life for reason and some for a season. Still counsel with pastor monthly and release. Let go and let God because I cannot change him. I work on me and everyday bits of me smile through

@@stephanieking4776 absolutely! Some people are blessings and others are lessons. Nevertheless God will give us double for our pain, shame, and guilt if we allow him. I realized I was my own resistance to the healing and wholeness I had asked for. Now that I have released my grip, I feel lighter. My Kingdom assigned, spirit guided mate is in en route to me and I am excited! God's about to wow me in such a way that I forget the pain of ever being hurt. I pray the same for you 😊

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Men should be jumping hoops for YOU!

Don't feel attacked sis, we've all been there before! Take this as an awakening to put yourself first and require your man to step up or step off...no more settling for less than you deserve queen 👸🏿

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@@CrystalDatingCoach I feel like it's women who jump hoops now, and they have to prove that they're worth a text, call or a date. Men are so lazy and they don't do courting anymore. Sex is easily accessible to them now, they don't want to try.

@@arielaava2102 I don't have conversations with Text. Say. Call me later and we'll talk. Don't have SEX until your in a relationship. Men do Court...just stop chasing them. 😍