Absolute GOLD. You really hit the nail on its head here. Any man supporting or suggesting feminism or you doing only fans is not sufficiently masculine either. I've noticed masculine men can't stand feminism or a women that preaches those notions too strongly.
I don't think those are masculine men but rather toxic ones. It depends what exactly from feminism they support. If it's the 50/50 and sex work is empowering to women=run! Besides that's not even true feminism.It's libfem bull that is detrimental to women. If he understands why he shouldn't consume porn,why women deserve the right to bodily autonomy( abortions) and supports equal pay and equal opportunities for women then i say that's a good man.
My experience is different. The mysoginists and abusers can't stand feminism and independent women, because they can't control them and they hate that. Real masculine men don't care if you are independent and/or feminist, because they don't want to control or abuse you and they know that if they provide and are nice, you will appreciate it, even though you can absolutely take care of yourself. They also find confort in the thought that if they die suddenly, you& your kids together will have a strong mother that will be fine and not a weakling that will be at the mercy of others.
Is this your outlook towards stらippers and women like belle delphine too? Because I think they're smart for not reserving their sexuality for a man and they're making money too.
1.Compulsive complainer 2. Over the top reactions 3. Support feminism 4. They don't lead 5. A man who likes gossiping 6.Who wants to be chased, desired & wanted 7. easily offended 8. Argumentative 9. The coward 10. A man who does not offer to help 11. A man who is finacial/career situations. 12. Too demanding
“Hard times create strong men, Strong men create good times. Good times create weak men and weak men create hard times.” I will remember this for the rest of my life❤
They really exist, I've dated one and he really knew how to play the "courting" game in the beginning, but after 4-5 dates (a month or so) he complained that I didn't call him at all (he called me once a week) and on our last date (10th or so, he was 30 minutes late), in a restaurant (he invited me) he said: "Will you pay this time"? He ordered pizza, I had a cup of tea, he worked for a bank and I was a teacher back then. When I stopped dating him, I realized that the signs were there even before the first date. I met him online, he asked me out, set the day and time but didn't set the place and didn't follow up with details the day before the date. On the day of the date I texted him in the morning "So where shall we meet"? I shouldn't have done it, I should have ignored him. This IS a red flag - if a guy doesn't follow up with details of the date at least a day before the date, it means that he wants to set the dynamic where you are the chaser or he is just bored and not motivated enough to date.
Thanks so much for sharing that. So very helpful. Incredible. Fatherless and role model-less men today are useless. Can you pay this time? I would share my discomfort with paying, pay my share and say have a good life.
SAME and when we went on the first date the energy was off the entire time. I was walking in my femininity and he was just annoyed by it but because I knew the signs I didn’t even call or communicate with him after that. Moving on has become a lot easier now that I have been studying this page and others on femininity. I’m grateful.
@@ladyofspa I paid with poker face (inside I was like: "Damn, what the hell am I doing here"?) and then I went for a 5-day trip to Spain, which cleared my mind. And there was one more red flag - after 3 months he didn't ask me to be exclusive and didn't delete his dating profile. I could tell that he was not that into me or he was just playing around. The lesson that I learnt from this is that courting is just bare minimum and some men may use it to trick women.
@@Chimalmita1 Yikes you continued to date this man for 3 more months? Dating and courtship are miles apart not the same at all. Most dont know how to date much less court. Iam so glad you moved on✔️♥️
The number 11!!! I’ve always felt weird when men have asked me what I do for a living, for which company I work, and even how much I make, especially when thats the second or third question they ask 😵💫😵💫
Same here…and have been running across more and more “men” like that these days. One guy was a doctor… I hate say it but most of the guys I come across like this do come from single parent households raised by mom.
This question seriously i hate when men ask what u do for living how you surviving how much u get in which position you are it doesn't make sence to ask like this. I say to them r u came here for knowing my biodata before marriage 🤣🤣
@@priyalsinha8939 ikr??? it's sooo unattractive too, for a woman to ask a man what he does it makes sense because he is supposed to be the provider but the other way around is just nah
Floored. Jaw Dropped. I just discovered the problem I’ve been dealing with an ex I still long for. And to think I was banging my head trying to figure out what I did wrong not being worthy enough to receive proper love affection consideration gifts and dates. Wow the joke’s been on me. He is FEMININE. 😔🤯
I dated a feminine man it was awful, he always complaining he had a victim mentality. He was always looking for me to fix everything and always asking for money. As soon as things got hard he would run. I blocked him now he’s someone else problem and he’s complaining about her. 😂😂😂 geez 🙄
My ex of 6 years was so feminine 😢 I had to do all the work by myself and he lied to me about wanting to improve his lifestyle, save money, and plan for a marriage and future. I was extremely drained and wasted a bunch of time only to be heartbroken in the end. Nothing I did was ever enough to make the relationship work because it’s impossible to do it all alone. My next relationship will be with a man who can complement my energy rather than throw me off balance.
Same here exactly the same story. And guess what in this moment he message me. Please tell me how you succed to not be trapped? They never want to live eather
@@jennyrosa553 my ex hasn’t contacted me because I think he’s too hurt from the breakup. In your case you can either ignore your ex or tell him why you can’t keep seeing him. Either way just try to remember that even though being lonely is hard he will never give you what you deserve if you keep enabling and forgiving bad behaviour
Lmao that’s not feminine, that’s simply that he’s lazy. I’d go so far as to say that it’s actually bold of him to do that considering he knew the feathers he’d ruffle doing that. Boldness is a masculine trait. People confuse masculinity all the time. You can be lazy as fuck and still be masculine. Just think of male lions who chill all day while the females lions do all the hunting. Are those male lions any less dominant?? No, they could STILL kick the females ass! That’s masculine!!! If the female can beat up the male then that’s feminine!! Unless he acts flamboyant then he’s simply lazy and that has nothing to do with his lacking masculinity. Educate yourself through LEGIT SOURCES so you can stop getting this shit wrong!!!
I recently dated a feminine man. I didn’t know that’s what I was dealing with until I saw this video. But I did ask him if he was gay in our first date. He said no so I asked him if he was bi lol. I felt the energy and I also remember thinking he is different. But I thought different was a good thing since I’m trying to go for other types of men than I’m used to. But it turned out disastrous when his disregulated emotions got the best of him and he emotionally and verbally abused me. So that was the end right there.
I've noticed the feminine signs in a guy I've been getting to know, but I think it would be too offensive to ask if he's bi. If he is gay, he wouldn't be with me.
@@fa9183 No really. In my University I met a guy, he was getting married with an other classmate ( Sophy) just bc he wanted the money and lead the Family Company. Others just don't have the guts to admitted, or simple they are Biosexual.
I have recently dated such guy. one our first date i really wanted to ask him if he is gay or not. We dated for 1.5 months and it was disastrous as he was soo confused and emotionally vulnerable all the fuck** time.
Even tho my dad is not strong in his masculine I think I owe it to myself to lean back & reclaim my feminine if I dont want to be unhappy for the rest of my life..its like learning backwards
@Z. M do they tho? An article said women warm up faster and feel more comfort around gays I have even noticed in bars ran by gay men and women don't feel as much tension around them bc they know their intent is not sex as with straight males
Cover narcisist is another kind of person.. they are simply evil.. they are mean, they enjoy being manipulative while they provide everything to trap you.. then they send you to work.. but as a form of manipulation.. a feminine man is like a defective man.. in spanish we call them "un hombre mamita".. (a mommy's man).. a man that behaves like the woman of the house, so you have to take the male part being that trait against the nature of a feminine woman, so they take you out of your natural place.
I have known too many feminine men as acquaintances, as friends and a couple I dated. They are exhausting! Take, take, take. If you know any, they are not even worth knowing even as just platonic friends block them and don’t waste your time and energy somehow eventually they will turn to you to rescue them from their problems. Walk away now 😊😊😊
I am dating a feminine man... he is bi, very emotional, sensitive, getting easily offended... We are in love, he pays for our holidays... at the beginning of our relationship he wanted me to chase him, saying he is shy, but I refused to do it and now he is the initiator of our meetings, txts... etc. I teach him to become masculine, I refuse to be too strong. He makes me presents, I have never seen anyone kinder and tender than him. When we are together, he behaves as a real man, but when we are apart, he gets too emotional and we both suffer of his unpredictability... yet I hope to teach him to have his emotions well in hand. I'm from Eastern Europe, in my country men are mostly rude... I enjoy my relationship with my feminine boyfriend) Thanks for the video ❤ Yet I think, you described narcissists!
Oh you don’t know how much I can relate! My man is gay but he fell for me because I am more of a masculine woman myself (does it make him bi?). He is also much younger than me. I like to sometimes take the lead and do not have fear or anxiety so I’m able to make the fist move etc. however, how is this working out for me? I’m not sure yet. Will I always be happy to take the lead? No. Do I want a man who relies on me financially? No. Do I want a man who needs to be chased? No. After all, he is a man and doing all these things will backfire. I love how gentle he is and how we can talk for hours and it feels so natural. But I have a feeling this won’t be enough.
@@FreyaF-ww7qw Seems like love can change our feminine men and us. How long it will last, God knows. By the way, I am very feminine, but was in sport which made me strong-willed and enduring... I can make the first move, but do not enjoy it. We all are different, we combine masculine and feminine traits. This video is about how so-called men can use us... this is not about romance and love, just about taking advantage of a woman
Why would a woman choose to be with a bi or gay man? Sad, scary and desperate. I would take a feminine straight man over a bi/gay man and I only desire a masculine straight man.
If you encounter any of these traits, don’t put up with even one of them, no matter how sweet he sounds or how good in bed, you can not make a man masculine. Run!
@@sheesha007 its not universal issue. Masculine men exist it is how you come across- you cannot expect princess treatment if you dont look like one (not beauty related but more of princess attitude) - you will naturally attract strong masculine provider men, always look your best and look like you dont put up with BS or feminine guys, they will not even dare approach you lol my strategy and it WORKS!!! 🎉
My ex is a feminine man. He is the worst ever. I didn’t know this until I see this video. He is exactly what every rule describes. Very horrible experience.
This sounds like the traits of a covert narcissist...but the points are valid and i can relate these type of people are energy suckers and mentally and emotionally exhausting 😓😓
I have a very demanding emotionally feminine guy, he don't know how to control his emotions,he don't provide as a man, he expect me to ask when I need and am not that woman who likes asking all the time, he can stay even 3 months without him providing anything also because am not asking,cos I can't deal with that all the time,It has taken me several years to understand a feminine man, and now I can't deal with him as a life partner! A man should know when to provide to his wife/partner without waiting her to ask
I‘m somewhat of a feminine man, although a majority of the traits listed here don’t apply to me or not anymore. Still, the older I get the less I feel the need to change anything about that. There are deep-rooted parts of my value system that I place very much above being a masculine man or finding a mate. In the end, one should never be gaslighted into being something they don’t want to be. Sexual polarity, like any polarity, is a trap. It’s what brought us here in the first place. Strive for singularity instead, the merging of opposites within yourself and the world, thereby ending the cycle of suffering that is life.
As long as a woman is working she is in her masculine energy and she will attract men in their feminine. Don’t talk about what you do not want to bring into your experience ladies.
No sis. Working is a human thing...not a masculine or feminine thing. Humans are designed to work...that's you see retirees go back to work. That's why you see people who are super rich continuously building businesses and investments.
Jobs & careers are a necessity for most, but maybe your point is specifically more to avoid boasting & overchatting about it, unless he asks. There’s a scene in ‘Network’- an older film where Faye Dunaways character WILL NOT SHUT UP about her career fixation, not even during the lovemaking.
@@kayjeffs3741A women who goes to college,has a job is masculine. That's simple. These are all mens job not yours. Your job is to wash the dishes,raise children and clean,make him comfortable while he pays all the bills
This woman giving out so much game …. It ain’t even funny!! Learn so much from your channel… the conversations we never have in our homes!!!please keep them coming!!!!!❤
😮😮 there was a guy I knew, he was CONSTANTLY trying to prove how manly and macho he is Infront of the world, and yet, something felt wrong. He was a demanding complainer, deceiver, manipulator, gossiper, and literally - I just realized he embodies ALL the features mentioned in this video. He was actually secretly super FEMININE!! 🤯🤯🤯
You just described my soon to be ex husband. Expected me to financially support him and be loyal to him, all while he cheated on me the entire time and then made fun of me behind my back and accused me of doing all the things he was actually doing. Never had the guts to even admit to anything and was super jealous of my career, but would rather gossip about how awful I was instead of spending that time to do something with his own life. Blames everyone else in the world for his problems when it’s his own laziness and promiscuity that brings it on himself. Always broke but that’s someone else’s fault too. Coward. I am now a happy cat lady.
I divorced one. Feminine men are mostly raised by single mother masculine woman who has to be masculine for survival Understand the 4 traits: healthy masculine, healthy feminine, toxic masculine and toxic feminine. All feminine men have the traits of toxic feminine traits like gossip, slander, passive aggressive, smear campaigns etc. Toxic masculinity is like Donald trump, they’ll pay for all your needs but physically or emotionally abuse you. They compare you with other women, “you’re so fat”, forced sex etc. Master the four traits.
My ex was a feminine man with a sweet feminine mother and masculine father. I think the trigger is that he was complimented for being cute as a child. I think you should never ever compliment males for their looks, it really spoils them and they become feminine
@@Bubbles-od2tvBecause women have emotional incestuous relationships with their sons. They are not getting the emotional affection from their husbands so they get into this lovey dovey relationship with their male sons and when they grow to turn teens these mothers don't allow them to just be men they are always there. They often say their sons are the ones who will always love them and there's nothing but the love of a mother and her son.
@@redleeks6253 Eyew. My (ex) mother-in-law once admitted to me (& in front of my then-husband, her son) that she wished her son, who had a platonic gay pal for a bit as a teen, WAS GAY, TOO! “Then I could have him all to myself.” 😳 He wasn’t in the least, TG, but it certainly demonstrated what you described up there. He was a very good husband but years of subtle brainwashing left a bad taste in his mouth about a lot re male-female relationships.
I'm a feminine man and I don't have those traits. You can't categorize a whole group... overly masculine is not good nor is overly feminine.. both are to much.
Totally on point ! I Experienced most of these and felt highly disappointed. I don’t wish this on any woman . He was so feminine I couldn’t build him up even when I tried . He loves his mommy too much 😂
I met a man once that asked me out on a date. He came to my door saying he forgot his wallet but had enough loonies for his own Swiss chalet meal and then later farted on the couch and told me he farted. RED FLAG. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and had two more dates. We went to a movie which he paid then bought one hot chocolate and wanted to share it instead of buying two. NO NO NO. When I didn’t see him anymore he asked for the candle and wine bottle back . Can you imagine him in a divorce. I thank God I picked up the red flags He also hated his mother. Stay away from any man that hates his mother ladies.
Also please be aware of guys who told you from the very first beginning of the relationship that he was used to be chased by women in the past and ask you for gifts in the early dating stage. It’s not a good sign even if he’s just testing the water by telling you such things. Some guys are very spoiled by their families and female friends and he would take advantages from women who shows interests in him
I hear this & keep noticing how the youngest son (or only) often is a bit spoiled by mummy (& older sisters, if any). Even a more masculine guy can still sometimes revert to traits later that show he’s feeling entitled to a little more of that than is rightfully deserved🤔
⚠️🤮 If my man* does the whole masculine thing -& is happy with it, I’m more than happy to dote on him, give him whatever 5 love languages he likes, anything to show (appropriately) my love & respect. But demands right off the bat? Watch me walk! * That is, in a mutually committed, exclusive relationship, of course
Mm, if we’re lucky. But a passive, victim mentality male will sometimes just become even more butthurt & bitter. It’s not just a phase we’re talking about here but their whole identity. They’re not exactly open to change
Thank you so much. I found your channel by chance. Casually i am getting involved with a man with some of these feminine traits. At the beginning he was really attentive and always concerned about me. Weeks after that his energy has changed, he takes long time for replying my messages and i am almost always the person who seeks contact first 😕. In his case i found highly attractive how he expressed his emotional world and his empathy side, incredibly this brought out my side of wanting to protect him because he shows himself vulnerable. after watching your video i don't think this will last long. our energy doesn't match and i feel abandoned by him 😓 Thank you very much for the information, it has been an eye-opener for me ❤ P.S. sorry for my English, this is not my mother tongue.
I’m sorry for this letdown. But there are strong signs this situation doesn’t look good for long term romance- being the first to text, to reach out, is masculine energy (chasing). Then, being in your feels & wanting to talk about it with him is feminine. Still, studying up on these things elsewhere (like here) is a great sign for you! I hope you find a better match :)
Interesting take from a woman’s perspective. I can agree to a good bit, but some of the points I’d say need more nuance. Take the sixth point for example. The examples you gave are good example of what a man should definitely not do, but if I felt like the woman I’m pursuing isn’t reciprocating much energy then I won’t waste my time, simple as that. Good video 🙏🏾
I've met men like this and they are often in-closer gays. Edit: 90% of bumble dating app users. Managed to be blocked 2 times because the sensitive things like to insult women but don't like being called out.
My husband is feminine almost hit all of these. The only difference is he’s not a coward and he provides 100%. Since he’s not super masculine he grills a lot and helps me wash dishes. He also takes me shopping and lets me know what looks good. He chased me & doesn’t believe in feminism. The other feminine traits unfortunately yes! I’m masculine a natural leader so we balance each other out.
I'm in the grey area Im a protector & provider I'm strong but I'm emotional & empathetic I not ashamed to be feminine because everyone feels samey & unoriginal not there true self & I don't complain a lot & To me the complain thing is a cop out because masculine men complain more imo not less idk where people get this info
I think there are very few hard hitting feminists. They’re vocal but they’re a very small percentage of women. What’s really hurt women are them sleeping around so easily
Growing up in the post women’s rights era taught girls they could have it all. The problem is striving hard in your education & career is completely different to striving after a man &/or r’ship. Romance is a whole other thing. We need to relearn how it’s done.
YOU PREACH, LADY!🙌👏❤ God bless you for the wisdom you share with us, empowering women all around the world! Thank you so much! I always wait for your videos!☺
Thank you so much for this video!!! It's so cool I'll be happy with more videos like this. I've been with fem men narcissistic and that's the worst...It's a pity why I didn't know that before.
Thank you. I am a single mother, and resigned my job last week. I had a feminin men boss who tried to make me believe that he is in love with me, in order to motivate me to work more, getting hím more money. Finally I end up with no money át áll, gaining hím business. Now I watch carefully to whom I talk to. Thank you for helping me. God bless you.
I often wonder what sort of effect on boys & men a 2 lesbian parent household will create. Even for their daughters- the young women coming up in the world. It’s such a social experiment & really gives me pause 🤯😬
So serious question. Is it feminine to have your significant other to pay half of rent so you both can save and go live at better places and have better dates is that wrong?
@@miloudivyne Naw sis you might just want you a sugar daddy. if man doing yall part cooking cleaning etc. and going to work for themselves, and all you want to do is sit there and be pretty and pampered id defiantly be looking the other way
There is nothing wrong with two people helping each other and saving money for a better future, don't listen to these bitter lazy women, brother. @@laquonwesley7740
No, especially when the situation is calling for it. The fact that both of your are on a mission encapsulates the concept of love and teamwork. The sheer toxicity of this one comment here in the thread are 5's who are aiming for the 1% of man, not realizing that this is unobtainable, despite society making them believe otherwise. You're adults, she knows when she deals with a feminine man and a masculine man, and it perfectly fine if you need to split the bill for grandeur purposes. You'll overcompensate on other areas, showcasing your masculine prowess by default. Hope this helps.
This video could not have come at a better time! I’m currently involved with such a man who is also gay (bi?). I’m starting to wonder if we are not headed for a miserable ending.
⚠️ I wouldn’t presume to call this a red flag for anyone else but myself, yet this sounds like the perfect setup for a woman who is willing to be submissive & maybe even a bit masochistic. That you’re here expressing doubts does sound like your gut is warning you, sweetie.
I totally agree with your point. I hv experienced it too and guys just build themselves using girls who r ready to do 50/50 and then leave that girl for someone who does barely anything for them
So, if feminine men do exist (or if so) care to find out the reasons behind their existence, and can we help them out to overcome whatever is troubling them?
Now I'm confused! My bf is emotional,gossips and all but to me (we gossips lol), don't lead. But he also pays all the bill, never let me oay for anything, plans the date and trips, chases and pursues me every single day, doesn't complain about things(he will do the work to change). So what is he!
He sounds like a good one! Hey, nobody is perfect. Nobody can fit a mold. And everyone has some masculine and feminine traits no matter what their gender ;)
Sometimes, women bring this upon themselves by behaving masculine, by offering to pay for example. Women can pay as a gesture of appreciation, once in a while buy think about it, do you really want to split the bills over everything when you are married? Really? Don't you feel loved and pampered when the man does his part for you which including footing the bills? I'm not talking about the situation where you earn more than him and he cannot even afford to pay. If that's true, would you even want to date him to start with? Chasing the man is a big no. I found out the hard way. He can turn it around and say he didnt really want it anyway...
That’s one of the oft-mentioned reasons women shouldn’t be pursuing & dominating. Men find autonomy (& just moving on to others) easier than what women typically want & need.
I disagree with him agreeing with feminism as him being feminine. I think that's him being fair. Well, what feminism was at its core. Modern day feminism is a bit far fetched
I came to learn about how feminine man traits but i learned that i'm actually a masculine woman 🥲 Except the be fearless, brave, lead etc part. Maybe i'm a little introverted, shy and proud woman 🙃
I came here to check if my bf was feminine because I'm dominant and it kinda works😂👌 but it also kinda sucks cuz you're competing who's more girly kinda thing (attached to feelings) so it creates confusion. I believe love dynamics can be different for everyone but is the natural more lasting afterall?
@@xxsnow_angelxx3953 I believe that way too, after all no one is %100 feminine or masculine. Couples must be complete each other with harmony. And also i don't agree feminine traits in this video at all. It would be more correct if it was called man who has toxic feminine traits, cuz i think there is so much women here who don't have those facts like complaining, over reactions, gossiping, argumentative etc.. Aand i noticed that i'm complaining now 🤣🤣 ok, i accept it 👍🌝
So relatable ... Masculine but not fearless and brave . Masculine in the sense that I'm able to control my thoughts and emotions well and think like a man (not argumentative, complaining etc.) but still want a man who can provide and protect . I think the 'masculinity ' we think is a by product of our introverted nature because depending on others for a lot of things do not go well with our personality. What do you think about this?
Videos like this make me feel so much resentment towards my mom for setting me and my sisters up to be prey for these types of guys. Not only did we not get this information, we were raised to be "strong independent women" and people pleasers. That led us right into the arms of these feminine men. I'm so grateful I'm healing and learning though
@@greyfox4838 this video was right, feminine men do be trying to argue. First of all, *dimwit, but I'll assume that was a typo. The reason "strong independent women" was in quotes was because its not about having those traits, its about the archetype. A "strong independent woman" archetype is usually not independent at all. She exhibits strength as a defense mechanism and tends to take on other people's problems. And its usually so that people have a positive idea of her, meaning she's placing her self worth on how much other people like her. A "strong independent woman" can absolutely be a people pleaser, because to be seen as a strong independent woman, you don't have to be independent, you just have to be strong. People will be happy to pile their crap onto you when you position yourself as the strong one, and most women who do that are doing so for social approval. So no, they're not opposites within this context. But this might be too much for you to read.
So many feminine man and more in Europe stay safe ladies better to be single and make your money and be happy then deal with this type of man they jus getting benefits for themselves
The guy who complains a lot has nothing to do with feminine or masculine. That man is wounded and might strugling at that moment but has nothing to do with feminine energy. It has to do with his emotions and his thinking patterns.
Feminine men also who date women i noticed that when real masculine man is around they get turn on excited happy all into that man he will leave his girlfriend to be with this man i had that happen to me now we are broken up i noticed he was very with and me
Yhooo 😂me too I come across with such feminine man he was always saying that I'm too spoiled he can't carry my bag and open the door for me ...I left him he was such a complainer😂😂
