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Great video ! 1. No body gives a fuck 2. Disapproval is speculation- who truly knows you but you 3. Caring about disapproval or approval is flawed. Once you get approval you fear losing it again . Dope - be aware of social feedback and act accordingly but don't let approval or disapproval determine your self worth
Ive left so many stupid chat rooms and social circles i used to would have put up with abuse from for years, just for a taste of approval. Its easier to just cut it off and find something else to do. Ive been more productive, and10 times happier just not being in an environment where I was seeking approval but afraid to even speak my mind. To hell with it I ACTUALLY was able to quit once I disconnected from the "network". I have better stuff to do now. I would rather be by myself than be surrounded by soul suckers and shit-lords. And ive been more comfortable finding other social situations that don't require me to sit in my computer all day and stroke peoples ego and pretend not to be bothered by blatant insults and social bullying.
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my RU-vid channel 2 months ago about self development. Now I have 145 subs and almost 75 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.
heard this inhibition comes from thousands of years of living in small hunter gather groups when everyone knew everyone and this trait stays with us to this day that these complete strangers are within our circle and within the group you must behave.
As a person who has lost 60 pounds over the course of the last several months it’s true that it does feel good to get more looks on the street or compliments from friends and family, but what Julien is saying is completely true and it’s something we all need to keep working on. Negative seeming comments and negative feelings can linger in your head but you need to fight through them and feel good about yourself. Work on yourself and take positive feedback but don’t let anyone stifle your journey and don’t waste time on what a friend or stranger said that might have hurt your feelings. It doesn’t really matter in the long run. Take advice but don’t worry about aligning up to anyone else’s goals for their life.
Amen. I seesaw on my weight but I swore when I was stoned that I lost a few pounds in my head. That was after I added chlorella to my milkshake from the orange julius at the food court.
Soo crazy I started telling myself people dont give a fuck about me so I would stop being paranoid! this was like months ago and now its just a little voice that brings confidence to walk down the street haha real talk! Anyways! Hope you guys can see this one day also!!
Yes! Also whispering out loud to yourself things like "why am I giving a fuck? Im not doing anything horrible, so who cares" helps me when I start getting self-conscious or nervous about mundane stuff.
The things we hate about other people tend to be the things our parents railed on us about. We internalize those things as negative even though they're just opinions. This means those people you hate are like you except they haven't been taught to hate that part of themselves. They hate completely different parts of themselves and judge other types of people.
bro the end part with the movement is awesome. a consciiusness raising and freeing group i loe what u did here i was so waiting for people to put out positive visions. love it keep going this way
Julien, you are such a gift to me, from me and....Jk. but everyone around me is grateful for your vids, talks, motivation, and guidance! Everything I've seen so far, really aligns and resonates with me!!! 😁👥🙋✨💞
The book, the subtle art of not giving a fuck has the concept of getting comfortable being uncomfortable... THIS concept seems to relate to this video! Awesome video Julien!
9:23 So I don't usually watch RSD videos anymore since you guys deleted virtually all the old vids but I have to say this is so spot on. Today I had a manager/friend at work call me a white knight for criticizing his angry reaction to a girl (employee) who wasn't performing her required duties. White knighting is for r/niceguys and incels but I recognized him calling me a white knight was coming from a place of insecurity because I knew that my manager knew she was into me, and I know that it makes him envious. It annoyed me so much because I knew this perception was flawed as I'm not into her, but I didn't know how to explain this realization until I watched this video.
I know I just read it on the comment above all three things but the second thing really hit me like I only know myself nobody else does and me knowing myself matters to me many people most likely don’t know themself doesn’t matter to me though just matters what I know I am good and bad qualities just like everyone else that’s all
On a logical standpoint what you say makes sence. Nevertheless it's really hard for me to live out your points. I trying to become aware of them in my everyday life, but that's easier said than done. Thanks for the great video.
Thankyou so much . Thankyou soch much u r amazing . I was so depressed of my life . I thaught every thing wrong in my life is cause of me but no its not like that .
1:27 Actually they do when you're very attractive. I get stares up and down, looked at like a zoo animal, alot of smiles and people follow me, try to talk to me, sit next to me, invade my personal space. I wish noone cared though and i was invisible
Bro from time to time I get into my head. This video is like a cup of cool water waking me up from a dream. My mind wants to play tricks on me. Thanks for clearing up my perspective.
The best way is to quit social media, cause when you don't use it, you naturally just forget about what other people are doing.... Start going on long walks by your self and wow
Haha I know Julien from being banned.. Amazing the content you make right, really impressed! You take all the self help advice out there (+ a lot of Jung) and really create it into something comprehensive. I salut you!
Narcissism is technically, if you want to get totally 100% truthful and exact, which definitely doesn't hurt, the LITERAL INABILITY to perceive anyone or anything as being important in your reality except oneself. Like there are people who actually don't have that ability. So not everyone is a narcissist. Just trained to be self-absorbed. Hope you take this comment in the friendly way its intended.
@@releasethefrogs narcissism is on the rise and taking a strong effect on western people. Social media is partly to blame for sure. But it's also a sort of evolutionary adaptation to society. True full blown narcissists are suffering from trauma which then leads to them displacing it into others and making them feel their pain. All in all stay the fuck away from them, you cannot help them and LSD is a great way to have an ego death if you yourself feel you care too much or have an inflated ego and feel very self absorbed. Hope that helps
1. Believing that no one gives a shit about you is a hard mindset for certain people for example like you had mentioned if you’re a celebrity like Brad Pitt people are constantly on your ass and their living is based around what their fans think of them. So it is hard to just be yourself. And in certain culture like African culture is so much based on appearance. When I went there people would constantly make comments about how I dress and wouldn’t even accept me because of it sometimes
Whats cool is if you do 5 pushups in the middle of the street, you are making other people become more interesting simply because they now have an interesting topic to talk about to somebody else...at least...for 5 seconds max haha
No one really gives a fuck abt someone else( it seems ppl only care when it interferes w their goals -conflict) From my experience: always remember your worth
For tip 1 what if you have something that makes you visibly different? I'm blind and use a cane, and I get people watching me all the time. I know because people, on a regular basis, think it's within their rights to grab me without even speaking to me or shout directions to places I may or may not be going to. Guess just focus on the other 2 then?
@@Lavidadeyari Voiceover for iPhone. Under settings > accessibility. Or any screen reader on a computer. Edit: Also whatever the Voiceover equivalent is on Android; I don’t own one but plenty do.
I've spent so much time trying desperately to win the approval of others, the more I try to do it the more stupid I look. No longer will I crave the validation of others, it's desperate and completely unnecessary.
Does meditation helps in this problem about caring what other people care? Meditatiom what i have heard it reprogram your brain defaulting your lizard brain fight or flight response what other people think what i am doing...
I like how you are dressed in expensive cloths ans you talk about spiritual and esoteric matters. Spiritual people can be succesful and rich too not in a cave meditating! Or that if it makes them happy
