I jump from one relationship to another to find happiness. Guess what i found? Pain lol. I don't wanna blame myself for all the horrible stuff i've been going through but I need to change this behavior. One step at a time.
I'm at the crying stage lol. Trying to convince myself, the way you try to convince a friend they deserve love, that they deserve better, when they've been told their whole life that love was only meant for others. Thank you for this video!
until a few days ago I was completely dependent on a girl. than she started to be distant and put me aside. i felt really bad but that made me realize that I mustn't base my happiness on other people. i started take more care of myself and love myself more. i am enough. thank you Marina for reminding me
@@developermindset2871 i stopped trying to constantly get her attention (it hasn't been easy because i was used to that) and i began to live my own life. also, i started doing mindfulness meditation and devoting more time to myself
I am so happy to hear that Molk. With the world changed so much, our relationship with ourselves and others have been tested and a reassessment and recalibration is necessary. This really is a time for inner work. May your path be full of light.
I am only a child yet i am severly depressed, I have no one to talk to and rely on my friends more then my family. My family used to tell me to shut up over the death of my dog which led to me bottling up my tears and I started crying silently, my family also have favoritism and I am at the bottom of the barrel. If I know no one would commit over me commiting I would have commited already. This video helps alot
Video starts at 06:29 1. Write ''I am enough'' and tape it on a wall 2. Start a journal where you write what things you do that make you happy aka your hobbies 3. Look in a mirror and say ''I love you, you are beautiful/powerful/strong/lovable''
Yes echopathy, isn’t it amazing? Bravo for shifting and evolving. Our world reflects back to us the agreements we have made... The beauty is that these are simply agreements but not actual truths. The truth is that you are worthy and magnificent. And therefore you have the sovereignty to revoke old agreements and create new ones to which you are now aligned.
I love your ornaments on the fireplace mantle. Also you're earrings, you obviously have an eye for design, need an apartment / house tour! Thank you for this video, I got rid of my circle of friends, so I am now lonely. I was on my smart phone all day so I got rid of that, so now I don't have the all day distractions of podcasts, reels and instagram. The silence is now deafening. I hope I can find ways to feel fulfilled and meaningful connections. People seem dis interested, take ages to reply or simply don't bother. I think the whole world just wants to stay homes on their phones.
Happy you are clearing space for your dreams to come to you. Practice listening to Nature. Get a hammock or simply a chair on your balcony, go outside and listen... insight and beauty is seen and heard in the silence among the manifested thoughts of God
Thank you for your lovely reply : ) I do feel better when I am outside. I live one minute from the beach and I do need to sit by the water more. Since getting rid of my phone I am getting outside more. I was praying but stopped, will start conversing with God again @@DrMarinaOster 🙏
@@katcampbell9213wishing you the best ❤ I’m also trying to fix the problem this video talks about and deleted social media like you. Haven’t cut off my friends but I am distancing myself a lot so I can learn how to make myself happy
I've learnt that you must never rely or depends on others for help or happiness its a selfish world we live in and most people only think of their own needs.
It's so hard, because I suffer with borderline personality disorder. I think this actually helps more than anything I have looked up to help with that.
Intentionally search for something like this cos I have become so miserable trying to seek happiness and validation from people who's only selfish and greedy 🤧. Yes, people change 😶,I gotta focus on myself. I gotta regain self-worth 🤧 Thankyou ❤️
Wow, just wow. This video is my first step into growing myself as a person who was so used to being dependent and repressive and this is helping to remind myself that I am enough. Thank you
I'm pleased to say that I've created my own happiness and financial stability and I haven't got to thank anyone,would hate for someone to say if it wasn't for them I wouldn't be where I'm at.
Wow this is fantastic and something I definitely struggle with. I suspect that the root of these issues come from the death of my lovely father when I was just 15. A lot of losses followed (our family home, moving areas) and lots of change throughout my late teens and 20’s. Even though I now I have a lovely family of my own I’ve been hurt a few times by friends over the years and have changed groups of friends a few times. I feel the lack of those ‘best friends’ to prop me up and provide support and at times feel like a child who needs someone to nurture me (when I have my own young children!!) I think I really need to learn to rely on myself more and trust myself more rather than always looking to others to make me feel better ❤
I’m sick of it, I’m letting people control in ways I can’t understand They take advantage of me and on my free time, I spend it helping others, I never even get time to myself without others asking my for their BS please help:( it’s getting out of hand and I want to stop but I feel like I cant
Sorry for this vent but I need to write it out somewhere I hate that I don’t love myself enough and look for people to love me instead. And when that person doesn’t love me anymore, or worse hates me, i feel like a big part of me is gone. The one that made me love myself, the one that made me happy. I always focus on making myself likeable to others and I strive for being liked by everyone.
Hey Marina! Glad to see another video from you. Your last one was 3 weeks ago, hope everything is okay in your life :) This is such a strong message! People believe that we need more money, more fame, more stuff, more validation to be happy. But everything above our basic needs is just not viable and healthy, unless we have the right mental state. I always believed that we are already perfect circles. Not half circle looking for someone to make us whole. But perfect and making each other even more perfect :D I loved what you said that you are your own universe. Sitting down and searching for that strength within should be taught in schools :) Along with self empowerment Its not ridiculous. It is amazing!
Hi Doctor, today I will start to watch all your videos. I'm trying to survive on my own depression. Thanks for the videos. Keep helping people like me. God bless
After my partner of 9 years ended things, partly because of the pressure of me always relying on him I have got myself in a situation where I'm trying to find a home for that reliance. Someone from my past has come back into my life and allowed me to put all of that into him and it's so incredibly unhealthy. This is the first step on my journey of breaking out of this horrible cycle. It's scary but needs to be done.
Thank you Doctor Oster for taking the time to make this video. I have recently got dumped from a 5 years relationship, and I realize I never cared about myself and never did amything for my own satisfaction. Your words and advice really help me. Greetings from South America!
Dear Kenny, this change in your life was a blessing in disguise- it means that you are ready to honor your worthiness. And then the external world will match your new evolved state of being.
@@DrMarinaOster thank you for your response and support. We really don't know each other, but you really helped me and should feel proud of yourself. Wish the best for you
This video is extremely good and I look this content because I needed, but this video is literally changing my life right now. It made me aware of emotions or patrons that I didn’t even know the names. THANK YOU❤
I love to learn to play the piano. I don't know how to start so I started learning it alone my way. I am enough as you said and voila it is more satisfying and more fun to learn it alone. I am not kidding.
Thank You Becks s, Health & Happiness are often tied to being your own hero - becoming aware of our patterns and triggers and having the courage to change our behavior. I salute you and honor your commitment to yourself. Bravo!
i was emotionally dependent on this one person because of how they understood me and my emotions better than i did myself which was crazy if u think about it but like i started to think that if this one person gave me comfort, attention, validation etc i would immediately be happy. i just really didn’t know how to take care of my emotional well-being so i relied on this individual to make me happy. big mistake ngl, ‘cause people don’t really give u that emotional fulfilment that u need when you’re so empty and deprived from self-love. even when i got their approval, i was happy for a while until all those negative emotions came back to me. it was a never ending toxic cycle.started to realise the problem was within me, only i was capable of loving myself and understanding my emotions so i let go
First of all i want to thanks u a lot, i didn't try the exercices yet omw n ngl the mirror part even tho i tried it makes me cry. This is so beautiful coz back then all i can see n say to myself bc of my depression was horrible things. Anyways, wish u all of u guys to find ur true self n be happy by ur own.👐
I am not saying you are wrong I know you are telling is absolutely true and scientific but no matter how many times I tell myself that in front of the mirror it never gets through me I never actually feel it's like they are empty words and there is always someone better than me somewhere. I cannot even impress the person that I work really hard to impress
Marko you have to give yourself permission to be vulnerable. You have to look yourself in the eye when you say those sacred words. Forget about others, the noise will always be there to distract us.
I really liked this video and agree with you 100%. My only question is then, is why do so many psychologists tell people that they need friendships and other close relationships with people in order to be happy?
Desert ghost, choose to be the center of your own universe. When we realize our magnificence and therefore worthiness, we feel complete from within and enter into any relationship from a place of power and choice to enrich our life.
You are such a loveable human being and very relaxing. I did have this problem then I decided to watch something about it and you came the first. I do agree with you but in case of team work we need others to join us and help us throughout our work. For instance, for setting up a company or an English academy you need some people. But I got this idea from you that you are trying to instill self-confident and self-love in us which I love. By the way, I am really proactive person and every single moment of my life I want to do sth non stop and that is making my life really hard and I am constantly looking for people to talk with to fill my time
Hello! So,i did the mirror thing and i started crying lol....I finally realise how bad i have been feeling recently...and it kinda help me to feel a lil better.thank you so much for the tip💗i
Dr. Marina, I’m curious. After watching this video I realize I have not been giving myself love enough. My own parents would call me awful names and guilt trip me growing up (they would do a lot more than just this). I may not be perfect but I know deep down that the offensive names they call me even today are not true. They use this as an excuse to not introduce me to people I know I would work well with. Like everything, my relationship with my parents (or anyone in general) is separate from my relationship with everyone else. When faced with parents who keep making me feel bad about myself and being bothered about the negative and untrue things they think and label of me to be, what is your advice for this? Thank you. You are a shining light for all of humanity. Sincerely, Thomas McGuigan
Hey Marina, thank you so much for this video. Your channel is so warm and welcoming. The methods you provide are simple yet they do so much wonder for the soul.
Dear dr marina, I'm in this problem.. I depend on one of my bestfriends attention and care.. and i get frustrated when i feel that im not treated equally .. and that is mentally damaging me i get angry and i keep overreacting and overthinking about small stuff that kind of dont matter but to me they do.. like seeing her less often or walking by my house and not checking up on me although we didnt see each other for a while.. although the person that I'm talking about does love me and i don't know.. Hope you reply..
Sorry but this is not enough. Affirmations is good but it is not enough. You need to give more constructive directions in hell for someone who doesn’t believe in themselves, to start believing in themselves.
