How to tell if someone TRULY likes you or they're just being NICE

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@Poodle_Gun Месяц назад

I feel like nothing ever happens if I'm not initiating.

@billie1438 Месяц назад

Apparently I'm not for anyone either 😎

@abeerkindred5038 Месяц назад

Don't take it personally my friend. You never know what's going on with them. At the same time, match their energy

@moneymakinmitch8130 Месяц назад

real 😓

@jammyjay917 Месяц назад

Same here, I seem to have to initiate.... even after I have stopped doing so...

@zombine7103 Месяц назад

You mfers imitiating all the time and failing all of your relationships? Btw, im a man and i will never initiate. No first move.

@warrengauthier4699 Месяц назад

No one is so busy that they have no time for you. If they like you, they will make time.

@mariaromano8927 Месяц назад

Absolutely true.

@blu3j00Ls Месяц назад

Yes. We should discern whether we matter or not to the other person to move forward.

@ephemera5714 Месяц назад

Unless they have kids, work a full time job and have other commitments lmao

@gabrielledawson4863 Месяц назад

@@ephemera5714 Yeah, I just thought of my brother who is a father of a bunch of kids, one being special needs. He's always busy. He's not mean or dismissive, he's just really that busy. Whatever free time he has he spends with his family.

@warrengauthier4699 Месяц назад

@ephemera5714 : OH bullshit so they NEVER get laid? You rode the short bus to school didn't you?

@brendenm4338 Месяц назад

If a person likes you, they will put in effort & make it easy & it’ll feel natural

@user-zs6gh1xk5f Месяц назад

For 25 years of my life no one has done that, I mean also friends, not just romantic partners, I'm considered pretty by some people, I definitely know I'm not ugly, I'm empathetic, I have my values, I don't know what it is that pushes people away. But I prefer to think that my people will eventually find me and for now, God is protecting me from not so good people (i think they are this and that, but maybe they are not any of those things). My problem is I attach to people without them wanting it, or without even knowing who they are and then I see their true colors and I'm disappointed. But nonetheless they are never scared of losing me, they never fight for me, I'm the only one chasing and fighting for people, but not anymore, I am done, I will choose me now.

@veni5126 Месяц назад

@@user-zs6gh1xk5f I didn't use to fight for people at all. I was scared of being dependent. I never wanted anyone to attach to me. I often felt guilty about rejecting some meetings so I was rescheduling ouf of gulit, shame or fear. If people didn't have any mental issues, the video would be mostly true. Personally, I think that most people have some kind of issues, so it's never black and white. Good for you for focusing on yourself though. When I started doing it, well first I learned how much I was not okay and how much it was affecting my life that I've been hiding it for years. And that what I mistook for my empathy was just fear, of being critised, rejected or yelled at. Yk you can't be rejected by others when you reject yourself first. You can't be critised when you fail if you don't try. Finally with time I learned that people actually like me. Even when I'm down. Even when I do something stupid or childish. I even learned to like myself, with all my high sensitivity and overthinking, even if sometimes one small thing is enough for me to lay in my bed all day with my face in the pillow. Now I'm on the other end and I often come across people making excuses not to meet. Oftentimes they want to meet, but they seem to get scared when the time for the meeting actually comes. I can never now for sure what's going on on their mind, but I hope that with time they'll trust enough to talk about it or be honest why don't they actually meet. Anyway, it's probably never good to push too much. Since it's everyone's own responsibility to take care of their mental health, the video actually still works. A reliationship requires effort from both sides. You can support someone and give more than the other person when they're having a harder time, but it can't last forever or you'll drain yourself.

@frankkennedy6388 Месяц назад

Is that true? A girl I knew in highschool accepted many invitations but barely tried socializing with me.

@anweshakar146 Месяц назад

Which is never

@hazelhazelton1346 16 дней назад

This is bad advice and you should feel bad.

@PspTomisi 6 дней назад

Excellent video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

@laurawheeler-px6oz 6 дней назад

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my marriage of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back

@PspTomisi 6 дней назад

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

@laurawheeler-px6oz 6 дней назад

Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

@PspTomisi 6 дней назад

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

@phased3941 5 дней назад

You'll get over it... eventually

@ac5788 Месяц назад

People can conceal their thoughts, their personalities, but not their energy. If you learn to read that, then you will never struggle again.

@frankkennedy6388 Месяц назад

How do people "read energy"? Everyone around me feels the same.

@ozramblue117 Месяц назад

@@frankkennedy6388intuition and body language. Some people can do it more naturally than others and some people are just kind of “blind” so to speak. Saying energy is easier than trying to describe the ability to read body language and interact in real time. Subtext is also involved. Have you never seen when the words in a conversation are an entire mismatch with the visible body language? Also generally girls are better than boys at it. I’m generalising though so please don’t jump down my throat. Posting online is a perfect example. How often we miscommunicate with people just because tone of voice is not present? Add tone of voice to sight, and looking at who you re communicating with. Then add touch. Does the person ever touch you when you talk to them? How does that make you feel? Often how an interaction makes you feel includes your subconscious telling you what the actual “energy” is. I imagine there are books and books on the topic but from what I can tell some people are masters at navigating “energy” or “vibe” or whatever word one wants to attribute to whatever is really going on behind any interaction. I am mediocre at it. I can read interactions between others moderately well but don’t find it nearly so clear when it is an interaction with me. I think that’s pretty common though.

@demetriusshuler1391 Месяц назад

@@frankkennedy6388ask them certain questions and see the type of face expressions they make when you ask them.

@MoistDelta. Месяц назад

@@frankkennedy6388 you just have to observe people more and know what to look for. Eventually you will be able to just feel it without having to pay attention as much

@DontOpenThisChannel Месяц назад

😂 what a bs

@HereIsANewGuest Месяц назад

Some people are really busy, with work, family, activities... sometimes they don’t find time to do everything they should do. So, sometimes it happens : they like you, but they don’t take time to call you back. Of course, maybe you don’t want friends like that.

@Murph_gaming Месяц назад

I think this video is more for single people who are interested in someone. If that other person doesn't make time to spend with you then don't waste your time on them.

@Igoendez69 9 дней назад

@@Murph_gaming I thought it was at your friends

@Murph_gaming 9 дней назад

@Igoendez69 I mean you can apply it really in any situation. People that want to spend time with you will make time for you.

@Anna85-zt1dj Месяц назад

Easiest thing in the world. Just invite him/her. and when she/he finds excuses not to meet it clearly means she/he doesn't really like you.

@ellensunden2778 Месяц назад

Not always. The person could have social anxiety issues.

@Anna85-zt1dj Месяц назад

@@ellensunden2778 Give me a break, it's rare. You Americans are obsessed with anxieties.

@jackdeniston6150 Месяц назад

So, no women like any Men.

@EspieTi Месяц назад

@@ellensunden2778 exactly my thoughts

@paulsawczyc5019 Месяц назад

@@ellensunden2778 Or maybe they are scared of your religion.

@qtben17 Месяц назад

Thats what I did, i took a step back, listed all the red flags ,cons and pros, strengths and weaknesses. waited for the other person’s initiation- weeks passed by and nothing. Time to move on and Thank you, next.

@grahamnielsen4797 Месяц назад

False friends are everywhere! Good friends encourage you to do well and never get jealous when your doing well! Plus are happy to help when they have time.

@jjorjojo Месяц назад

Good point but you might be on the wrong video

@Quicktwosteps Месяц назад

Man, so many people are uninterested of me then. That's a lot of "moving on" I have to do. They only want my homework and services. 😔😔😔😔

@ozramblue117 Месяц назад

That’s most people which is why generally one does well to have a few close friends. Try restarting in your forties in a different country! Plenty of courteous acquaintances but friends? That takes time work and experience.

@MrNoName7474 Месяц назад

That’s not true! I value you as a friend! Wanna hangout after school? I just need to finish my calc homework first and then we can hang. Quicker i get that complete, the quicker we can get started…

@StrategyCats Месяц назад

Many people want to have good friends, but not everyone is capable of being a good friend

@tvsonicserbia5140 Месяц назад

Problem with this is, some, usually introverted or shy people might start to think, oh they're not iniating any more, they don't like me anyway I shouldn't call them.

@nobasshuh Месяц назад

so frustrating... makes me wanna go sonic on top of them

@asia.t 7 дней назад

and that's a problem. being shy is a fault that will get no one anywhere but alone and that's just the truth. i've never seen a happy, shy individual. i'm introverted, too. but being an introvert doesn't justify being a serial recluse. your thoughts are lies that only stop you from moving things along. 💯 just do it

@osmsksms5444 День назад

Because it’s true?? Then why don’t they initiate?

@MrSzoSs Месяц назад

I’m always too depressed so people assume I’m a weirdo but if someone asks me questions or tries to get to know me then I feel sudden spike of energy and I’m being myself again

@oksusu7503 18 дней назад

yooo i'm kinda the same

@wangcheng5188 Месяц назад

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

@michael-gg2rh Месяц назад

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back

@wangcheng5188 Месяц назад

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

@michael-gg2rh Месяц назад

Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

@wangcheng5188 Месяц назад

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

@Darksphere101 Месяц назад

My advice would be fill your time with things you enjoy and things that help you improve yourself. My own relationship ended a little over two weeks ago, and I've had to ramp up exercise to help get through it, among other things like rekindling old hobbies

@char-su9vu Месяц назад

Yes, sometimes it's that you may not mesh well. Also, even if they're not interested, it could most likely be for your own protection in the long run. Meaning that the friendship may end up hurting you if you pursue it, but they're not that keen, but the friendship ends up happening anyway. This has been my experience over time. On both ends - being the one who's been interested but not having it reciprocated and also the one who's not been overly interested but has been pursued. Also they may be hiding what they're really dealing with eg. depression or anything; and it's not they wouldn't like to be friends it may be they just don't have it in them at the moment to be a good friend. And they know this about themselves, so don't want to hurt or disappoint the other.

@YouTotallyCan Месяц назад

Personally, I am genuinely happy and interested in people. I tend to see the best of most people I meet and wish to be able see them more. But my time is limited, and I have to work a lot on improving my mental health. I cannot count the people that are so dear to my heart and often found myself too exhausted to ask for news, even though I deeply think about them on a regular basis. I find it hard, because my behavior doesn’t reflect how I feel. I sometimes told people about it. But still wonder if they might think of this as being polite. I actually genuinely like them. But I really need time to take care of myself, and considerate enough, not make all this a burden to anyone else. So I can be at my best when we meet, and share good times. I still have friends I can share this with though. No worries, I’m not alone in this ;) It is just more complicated for new friendships and relationships. So, yeah, it is not always about you :) Hope It will get better soon :)

@koroshiyashinigami Месяц назад

Wow! Just 2:21 minutes and I've NEVER seen someone explain and give a concrete answer to this topic even after watching 100s of hours of minutes to hour long videos! So concise and precise, to the point and clear conclusive answer, which didn't leave me confused or like the video creator just spun some words, or just gave a pseudo-science answer and didn't answer anything which happens most of the time, and every time before this WHILE being so inclusive and letting them know that the other person doesn't mean to demean them. This was an awesome vid, thanks to the algo for recommending and thank you for creating! 🎉👍

@joedaley6031 Месяц назад

sometimes people don't have space for another close friendship in their life, whether because of things that are going on for them, or because they have the right number of close friendships already; so sometimes we can have a real connection with people but not be open to having a friendship we might otherwise "want" to have; so it can be confusing sometimes to feel both pulls. And sometimes people are just too polite or just weird. We all have our weird moments!

@ACL7211 Месяц назад

Most people are lonely as hell. It's pretty rare for an adult to just have too many friends.

@mathius_dragoon532 Месяц назад

Oh! This one is easy for me because they are never interested.

@ca6248 Месяц назад

Same. 😂

@zoetjez Месяц назад

I lost a friend last year because I didn't initiated often enough for her. I sent her a text every week and that wasn't enough for her. She blocked me on everything, without explaining what I did wrong. I have ADHD and PTSD and a lot going on in my life. I'm not able to text/call/see someone everyday and I don't want that. It's not only about the person who doesn't initiate (enough). Friendships are realtionships and relationships need rules and honesty. Everyone wants and needs different things. If someone doesn't initiate it doesn't have to mean they don't like you. Maybe they have chaotic life/ are busy. Maybe they only want to have contact every month, but you want it every week. I think it's important have an honest conversation about what you want from each other. You also can just ask someone if they like you. You don't have to read someone if you just talk about it

@ashleycnossen3157 Месяц назад

There are people that I like and love. But I am incapable of maintaining friendships over the long term. It's me, not them. So while yes, you can move on, don't make the mistake in assuming they don't like you because of this.

@ellensunden2778 Месяц назад

I always decline invitations, even if I like the person and want to go to the activity due to my fear of social situations and fear of people. It has nothing to do with them.

@ellensunden2778 Месяц назад

@@lancefurcinite6518 Please keep your self-righteous, condescending advice to yourself. Unsolicited advice is both rude and condescending, and I will not tolerate being spoken down to like I'm a child. Shame on you.

@beeje1309 Месяц назад

@@ellensunden2778 Tbh your response shows you need all the advice you can get really

@lancefurcinite6518 Месяц назад

@@ellensunden2778 That's funny!!! I thought I was maybe giving some helpful advice here and wasn't trying to be condescending in any way. But given your obvious attitude toward my comment, you can just piss off!!! Bye 👋

@lancefurcinite6518 Месяц назад

@@ellensunden2778 Oh,no wonder you fear social situations, you're obviously an asshole.I do expect this comment to be deleted like my last. Funny how you get to spew your crap out at me,but when I reply,it gets deleted. Hmmmm ?

@ephemera5714 Месяц назад

@@ellensunden2778 I have no idea what they said but I'm 99% sure it had some truth to it and it hurt your feelings otherwise you wouldn't be tantruming and trying to guilt trip people in a youtube comment section.

@allycat365 Месяц назад

Or they could be like me, who has anxiety and I have to force myself to do things like get togethers (I do for my boyfriend's sake) 😂 but if someone asked if we want to go out for food or something I would respectfully decline, not because of them I would just rather... not 😬

@amithbhagat Месяц назад

Thanks 🙏, It's practically a harmless way to find out someone's interest.

@OlBlueshound Месяц назад

Good answer. To be honest I don't want friends and I know that I hurt people sometimes but I definitely don't want to hurt them. I just have had enough of people and friendships take up my time and friendships are all about compromise. I really truly like some people I meet in life and I can admire them or their skills or thoughts but I simply don't want to invest in friendships anymore. So I'm polite and sincere but I never look to further the encounter. So as this video says don't take it personally and enjoy the moment you have and then move on.

@paulnicolas172 Месяц назад

Unless that friendship is going to be with a person who will be with you till the end and enrich your life then I totally agree that friendships aren’t really worth the time or effort .

@ca6248 Месяц назад

That's honestly how I feel most days. I get it.

@OlBlueshound 29 дней назад

@paulnicolas172 yep that's right too. One special person to me is better than a lot of acquaintances.

@OlBlueshound 29 дней назад

@@ca6248And it's not a bad thing at all. I don't need followers or an audience LOL. I'm happy just being me. Best wishes.

@emikotagahushi941 Месяц назад

I think the harder part is when you get invited to do something and when you ask for further details, they hesitate because they didn’t think you’d take them seriously. After that, you just can’t trust them anymore. So to be safe, you just laugh off all of their invites.

@Accrovideogames Месяц назад

People like that are insincere and manipulative. It's best to avoid them altogether. When I invite someone, I really mean it. For me to withdraw that invitation, you need to do something that makes me change my mind about you.

@anushreegupta1500 Месяц назад

Exactly what happened. I asked a guy I see regularly that wanted to talk about something and he said he was busy and then from the next day started avoiding me completely. And before this we used to talk and maybe I misunderstood his friendship for interest.

@paulnicolas172 Месяц назад

In my experience , only time a girl likes you is if she is attracted to you otherwise she ignores you or hates you or is just being nice because she has to be or she wants something from you

@filosofem03 День назад

The fact that there are people out there who truly need this video to understand how life in society works, makes me really sad. In any case, thank you for bringing this to other’s attention.

@AmericanJohnnyBoone Месяц назад

Take it from a 54-year-old man who has been around the block a time or two. Outside of business settings where communication is mandatory, a man won't talk to a woman unless he is attracted to her. If he really likes you, he will not stand you up unless something catastrophic happens.

@dededoritos Месяц назад

I was not expecting such toughtful and honest reflection when I clicked this video. Glad to hear it!

@PurpleBox89 Месяц назад

Kind of figured this out....slow as I am...but it was good to hear it from someone else. "Let their actions speak for themselves" Put in the effort, but see what they offer in return.

@svp3rn0v47 Месяц назад

Everyone of them hates me; they’re just being nice.

@user-ov4wr5yu4r Месяц назад

It can be like that sometimes. I found things changed if my life changed so that I was with a totally different group of people. Maybe you are in the wrong "group."

@missmayflower Месяц назад

Doubtful.

@paulgibbons2320 Месяц назад

Exactly what I did. Asked if he was here to help me. Blinnked alot smirked and said No. Made one road a difficult one to take.

@brianc1651 Месяц назад

Best and most true tip I ever heard was, if they like you, they will make it easy for you.

@Em_Rey Месяц назад

Thank you very much this was very insightful 😊

@ceci3387 27 дней назад

thank you so much for the affirmation and showing the importance of communication ❤

@bunnyff2970 Месяц назад

Nicely said 👏

@mikey6-9 Месяц назад

Me : it is what it is 🗿

@decoy2636 Месяц назад

Their thoughts come come from their mind and are vocalizing thoughts when speaking You're just looking for the right vibe

@g4md0r32 3 часа назад

Although not initiating is a surefire way to tell that someone is at least interested in you, imo you *will* get very disappointed if you were never the *popular* one at any point of your life.

@jeremyfisher8512 Месяц назад

I think this video should just be like a hint rather than a 100% fact. Making up little tests and games for others to go through without them knowing and then using that as a way to cut contact with them and end the relationship is bordering if not already crossing the line of being manipulative. Especially if you start using these tests as a point in an argument.

@Kelly-wx9ry Месяц назад

If someone is making jokes that are non-suggestive consider it friendly conversation. Nothing more.

@laurivaltter Месяц назад

with EXPERIENCE!!! i never wanted too much experience but not entirely my fault either

@mikyl-fo8rh Месяц назад

Actions and words are confirmation. Normally words cannot carry much weight in demonstrating resolve, but when we are highly emotionally vested in a venture, words are more meaningful. A normally stoic person may force out an 'I love you' when its true or in contrast, 'I don't love you anymore' when its true.

@Hello-hello-hello456 Месяц назад

This does not account for people with social anxiety or even a strongly reserved homebody personality.

@Jay_D_Ashe 9 дней назад

Extremely helpful

@ws6778 Месяц назад

I am sure when they get out of their own way to make my day.

@LB-rj7tk 4 дня назад

for me it's not personal, i just have a really hard time meeting my friends and my boyfriend and family in between my job and studies and self care routines on top of the fact i'm an introvert and i had mental issues i have to keep in check so as to not fall into a crisis, so i will probably not pursue new relationships.

@ErcoleBellucci 18 дней назад

If they ask things about you or questions=they're interested in you and it's more than any compliment

@arghyarathore7466 Месяц назад

This is the reason I like this channel she says things very clear in simple language I also had a same issue with a lady I like that lady but everything was initiated by me i apple this stepback method

@bimsaragunathilke4901 Месяц назад

So what happened after using this method?

@Autogenification Месяц назад

@@bimsaragunathilke4901 It's only been 20 hours so give it a few days and we'll see what OP has to say

@BossPlayas Месяц назад

@@bimsaragunathilke4901on to the next lol

@PsyduckRecommendations 24 дня назад

@@bimsaragunathilke4901 I assume the person probably showed or didn’t show interest. I’ve tried this in the past tho and got no initiation or incentive from the person until we just ended up talking less and less. The person wasn’t doing well mentally however so they just needed a break and time to think and focus on their own life. After a while, we started talking more again.

@Jimmie14 Месяц назад

I feel bad because I always hang out with 99% of my friends online and rarely ever meet in person unless it's a birthday or something. One of my friends doesn't use the internet much so whenever we are together it has to be in person. The problem is I never schedule because I'm stuck in my internet hangout mindset, so he ends up making every plan. I do want to hang with him and accept literally every time he initiates, but I never initiate for him unless it's my birthday

@wayneisname4544 Месяц назад

I'm lucky I love spending time alone 😂

@metsrus Месяц назад

I think you might be lying to yourself, why bother watching a video on this topic then?

@wayneisname4544 Месяц назад

@@metsrus Because I still like women

@metsrus Месяц назад

@@wayneisname4544 I respect your honesty.

@Rubenz343 Месяц назад

@@metsrus Because I want to know more about how people work?

@YJo1223 21 день назад

Salience takeaways: "You shouldn't take it personally. Not everyone is for everyone. People have diff. preferences. It says nothing about your value and you as a person, and take what it is. It's fine not everyone has to like me."

@Mlogan11 Месяц назад

You certainly can tell some peoples interest or not by their body language and actions. Not everything needs to be verbal. Shy awkward people won't initiate even if interested, so the pull back method won't work with them.

@happiestman978 Месяц назад

Cool advise

@annainspain5176 Месяц назад

I stopped initiating and ended up with no social life at all.

@basshunter9018 Месяц назад

Great advice! all of this is true, can relate to this 100%. I'm always the one intiating - with both sexes, always speak first, ask them out. they never initiate - most dont text or say yes to me. So i just give up, i mean how long can you keep knocking on closed doors, i just learn to never ever initiate anymore

@rosez.8124 Месяц назад

I really needed this reminder and advice 💯 Yes that’s what I’m doing and realized I should do before, I try take step back a lot of times and try not initiate with the one I like. Same issue I’m having with him as that girl. 😒 I try think optimistic but I still get bothered being ignored and I definitely have fear of being “friend zoned”. I know is not best timing to even bother dating him anyways. If is meant to be it will happen in divine timing 🤞 I try keep that in mind.

@Mina-ko1qi 14 дней назад

If you live in/near Toronto, everyone is "busy"

@themi6sportsnetwork171 Месяц назад

This works for texting as well 👍

@izzykazoo7569 26 дней назад

The penalty for being incorrect is so high that it's not even worth the risk most of the time.

@fitgainsbyrory Месяц назад

this is gold

@demonspecialist67 20 дней назад

This video is actually facts. It’s also the reason I’ve given up on dating, because this is all you need.

@ConyCho 16 дней назад

Thank you for sharing, it's time to move on for me.

@thomasg627 4 дня назад

In most cases it's really simple, but you have to look at men and women separately with different questions to ask. Very easy it is with gaps in money and/or age, where almost always there is no love involved from either side, the woman wants money and status, the man wants a young girl in his bed, that's all. It will end when either the girl finds a richer man or the man finds a younger girl. Upon equal income and social status, telling whether a woman really likes a man is fairly easy, because she will want s3x just as often as he does, meaning all the man has to do is not ask for it as often as he would want to and see if she then asks for it. Whether a man likes a woman is a bit trickier, but can be figured out by how often and for how long he wants to hang out with her outside of the bedroom, where the woman has to figure out how much of his time he can't be with her because he has to work and check how much of his remaining spare time he wants to hang out with her.

@vancityguy 29 дней назад

The ole “put the ball in their court.”

@francesfisher795 2 дня назад

I used to text people from my church on holidays, they responded. Then I stopped and so did they.

@ludoxe999 Месяц назад

Few people I hangout with have fear of disturbing people... So not very helpful because they rarely initiate

@mrgalaxy396 Месяц назад

If they don't ever initiate, they're just not interested enough in maintaining a relationship with you 9/10 times.

@thefarmgirlfelter489 Месяц назад

And what if NO ONE makes the effort to come to you?

@Maria-yo5og Месяц назад

I think sometimes it will show through their voice tone ,eye contact or how they will interact with u when there's people with you , sometimes it will show through their humor because some people will put truth between jokes .

@John-yg3xk Месяц назад

Gorgeous with beautiful accent

@amagpie8239 Месяц назад

This exact thing happened to me a few weeks ago. I was going to meet up with this girl, but then she cancelled it the day before. Afterwards whenever I voiced my want to reschedule she would just say she was busy. I was a bit confused at first since I thought she had previously shown sings of interest towards me, but what do you know, she was already eyeing someone else. I've let go of it now though.

@CastleHassall Месяц назад

but when they tell you they could be lieing.. judge by actions over time, and how they treat you over time etc

@jeremyfisher8512 Месяц назад

The moment I stop initiating, my current friends don't do or say anything for like 6 months. And the friends I've met that do initiate do it EVERY WAKING MOMENT OF THE DAY and I have to cut contact for them being too clingy. Nothing beats family though, I call them and they call me, minimal effort and it just works.

@Bellissimovolere Месяц назад

I really like Francesca…

@gaudiestivy4297 26 дней назад

Your accent is awesome

@dickiewongtk 5 дней назад

Always assume they are just being nice.

@realme-pw2lc Месяц назад

If I don't have plans and someone asked me, I'd go but if I'm already doing something or has something planned or planned to do nothing(still something to do), I would just say no.

@JamFlava1 Месяц назад

I see love as manipulation tool. What is love? I don’t understand love I know what it is but i don’t feel it.

@sludgerat666 Месяц назад

I'd rather die alone than go through it again.

@Andrew-jj6er Месяц назад

Go through what?

@cazoo1483 Месяц назад

Huh. This makes me rethink myself honestly. I do want to hang out with people I like but I don't initiate anything in case it turns me into a bother (rationally I know it won't always be like that but I think that'll be something I need to work on) but no wonder nothing happens when the other person no longer reaches out

@SagarPatel-ef8rf Месяц назад

I wish she just told me she wasn’t interested rather than saying I’ll be busy. And then basically ghosting me 😢

@lisaaquaris6932 12 дней назад

Just me getting into someones life- like I'd always been there- and literally becoming like bffs 😂 ( Seriously- I saw it somewhere- but just being someone to talk to when around the person you want to get to know- really does help- I made one of my best friends that way in only a year. Just don't be so into their life that it gets creepy....)

@divingfalconfpv4602 Месяц назад

If it is toward me they r just being nice. Cased closed

@_quixote Месяц назад

Once I decided to say nothing to one person. No DMs for months

@PaulsElectricPiano 13 дней назад

Learn to tell the difference between trying, which is good, and trying too hard, which is not good. If you find yourself trying too hard, be honest with yourself as to why, so you can do better next time.

@TRAVELLEROFWORLDS Месяц назад

Nonverbal communication matters. So does verbal. Look for a balance. Look for character.

@nobasshuh Месяц назад

Fellow initiators, just befriend each other atp 😂😂😂

@19NOTAFOX91 Месяц назад

Just learned this the heard way. Had a girl string me along for 8 months and just found out the other day from a 3rd party she never cared about me. Lesson learned.

@rood25 4 дня назад

I’m sorry to hear that, man. That probably hurt like hell.

@MrNoName7474 Месяц назад

There’s a girl at my running club that I get along with well and talking to her seems so easy. She’s always the first to leave though and looking back it’s like I think I’m always the one to move and sit next to her. I only see her once a week at most though so I don’t feel like there’s much opportunity to see if she will initiate though it certainly wouldn’t be the first time that test made me realize there’s nothing mutual. I’m often finishing the run after her so I have to go sit near her or else expect her to get up and move seats which I wouldn’t expect. Can’t really talk to her on the run either because she’s always alone with her headphones in rip. I’ll just keep doing the same exact things and expect a different result eventually.

@paulinakozub6480 20 дней назад

so nobody ever liked me, noted

@luckystarship2275 Месяц назад

There are over 8 billion people in the world. You'll make a new friend.

@sludgerat666 Месяц назад

Maybe its better of this way.

@brianc1651 Месяц назад

For me, it's interesting. She is clearly isn't interested, as I ask to meet and she always has something going on, but never suggests an alternative time. Yet, texting wise, it's very much mutual. I will text her when something interesting comes up, but if I don't bother to text her in a week to week and a half, she will text me. Clearly, she feels good as texting friends, but doesn't want an in person connection. We very rarely work together and that is the only time we talk in person.

@michaelhussey440 Месяц назад

The film that men would like to see is a more important one: How can you tell if a woman is NOT being nice but wanting to lead you on, to tease you for her own gratification ? I can give one point , which is that they will at some point have a VERY stereotypical look on their face, which is a kind of excited look. But how else ?

@veni5126 Месяц назад

Personally, I often feel guilt after rejecting a meeting for a longer time, so I reschedule it ouf of guilt. I can't even tell what does it mean to truly like someone. Like is it about romantic relationships or friendships as well? There was nothing new for me in the video. I hoped it'd give some clarity how to (not)behave when I like someone as a person, but I'm not interested in a relationship with them.

@jelenamarusic3641 Месяц назад

There is a 3rd option - a person could like you, but still not want to see you so much if they are an introvert. I am an introvert, so I rarely actually want to meet other people, even those that I like, even those that I genuinely love. I prefer to be alone and reading is my favorite activity. With people that I love, I am good to see them once a month. The people that I like - as little as once a year. It is not at all personal. Obviously, I see the people that I love more often than once a month, because I respect their need to meet more frequently.

@tobe-you-tube6612 Месяц назад

When you know you know

@glenbateman5960 Месяц назад

This is one of those rare situations where assuming is an act of wisdom and self-preservation. I assume any woman being nice to me is either doing her job or was just raised to be nice. I assume she is not flirting or showing any personal interest in me. Not at all coincidentally, I have never been accused of se*ual assault or worse. I have never lost my job or career or reputation or freedom because I misinterpreted a woman's hints, signals, signs, or body language. The first rule when it comes to interacting with women is CYA. It's also the second rule. And the third. And all the rest. I'm 63, and as far as I know, no woman has ever flirted with me. If I'm wrong about that, no problem. If I'm right, also, no problem. CYA, fellas. Nobody else is going to be looking out for you.