Speaking of perspective, the framing of your main shot is a thing of beauty. All the lines and angles in the top half of the frame are very reminiscent of a city skyline... And of course the displaying of these functional forms is the essence of Bauhaus :)
"Danger alone acquaints us with our own resources, our virtues, our armor and weapons, our spirit, and forces us to be strong. First principle: one must need to be strong - otherwise one will never become strong." - Friedrich Nietzsche
I've found that becoming more "capable" has been something that helps me feel more confident and masculine. Being able to do some minor repairs around the house or on the car, seeing something that needs to be done and being able to do it, cooking a meal that makes eyes roll back in delight. These all come down to just being capable. And, yes, training in martial arts or a fighting style also makes you capable of violence and more able to protect. As Girl-Dad, these are the things my daughters will look for in a man because these are the things I model for them along with love and sensitivity.
Agree, I'm not handy or always do it the best way but I can do some basic DYI. Cooking however, I'm mostly cooking at home and I love it. I have two sos and they already helping me in the kitchen which is very awesome. I have done quite some Judo/karate in my past and that did shape me too. The way Japanese think about their body and mind is great. I earn less than my wife, she is a doctor and I'm a youth worker. I am skill fill in talking, emotional support etc (in my own language although I have dyslexia and ADD) But the fact that my wife earns more doesn't make me less man. And in being who I am I'm not that poster man of muscle and axe in hand, im mostly on the other end of the scale. And I think people, men, should keep in mind that everything is on a scale but we are all men.
Hey man, I appreciate what you’re doing, and I’m all about embracing traditional masculinity too-I totally get where you’re coming from. But let’s be careful not to fall into the trap of seeing things in black and white. Absolutes can be a slippery slope. I’m a fan of your work, so keep doing your thing! Just a reminder, though, stay sharp and don’t let the hype about what it means to be a man steer you off course. Love your work, keep it up… but stay vigilant on falling for popular plaudits of what it means to be a man.
If you want masculine energy, master the skill of shooting a gun, whether a long gun or a hand gun. Target shooting can be very good for hand-eye coordination, fine motor skills, and balance. It involves danger, you have to know how to handle it safely. If you should obtain a carry permit for self defense, you have to be to know when you can and cannot use it. So you must discipline yourself in the use of a firearm, knowing when you can and cannot legally use it, and to know how to keep your cool in all situations when you carry it.
As a still single 46 yo professional woman, this is exactly what so many men need to hear : regardless of what the ‘feminist’ movement would lead you to believe, all women long for a man, a gentleman. And because society has let you down, we find ourselves lost too. Thanks for your videos : I can still hope to one day meet a true gentleman …
On your 4th point. I'm married for 18 years, with children, and some of the happiest moments are when I take my wife on a date. I try to make it happen at least a couple of times a week.
Dear James, I finally got around to watching this video. It's one of your more successful recent videos in terms of views, so that's nice to see. And a lot but sincere congrats on your first 100K! I've always been frank with you, and you've made it plain you value my input, which is kind, and I obviously am here because I tremendously value yours. What with the opinions I've expressed in our past interactions, it will probably come as no surprise to you, this video had several points where, not only was I in disagreement, I was quite put off. You've alwauys welcomed disagreement from me, so I shall do my best to do the same for you. "Chaos is a very feminine state" why do you refer to feminity so negatively? This is a shallow stereotype that ought to have been left in ancient China, and I find it interesting that you later mention, "Yin and Yang." There is wisdom in the past, but there is also slavery, our ancestors were not always wiser than us today. I'm glad you had such a positive experience boxing and came away "feeling more alive" than you "ever felt before," that's terrific. But it raises my eyebrow that you're recommending that every man engage in, "some kind of fighting training that puts you in touch with your instinct to protect." One wonders how regularly your own idol and beneficiary Raphael Schneider does that, not often I'll wager. Clearly, you can lead a full life as a man without it, though this is a more minor point. As for the statement, "a woman's life is meant to be easy and soft," this especially gets the alarm bells ringing. You yourself interviewed Dr. Ganowski just a couple of months ago, do you think she'd describe her job as easy and soft? Helping men who are often in crises with their sexual desires, habits, and marriages? What would a woman army vet have to say to this video in which you tell her her life ought to be "easy and soft?" Is the army "easy and soft" or, no matter what she does for her country, is she a failure as a woman precisely because she is accomplished in this area?" Play that traditional, masculine role, it's what you're meant to do," aren't we meant to be whoever we choose to be, so long as that is strong, polite, and kind? What about the stay at home dads, who are not in a traditionally masculine role, who just want to take care of the garden, clean, cook, and raise the children, are they not playing the role they were meant to? And, "one of our purposes is to procreate and you need a woman to do that," good grief, why are you asserting every man on the planet is meant to have children, what do you base that on? You do realize some men can be happy without children, don't you? Besides, some people are infertile, this kind of language seems to leave them out. You are the James who, fairly recently, made a video on feminine habits men should take up. You continually downplayed overemphasis on masculinity and encouraged respect for women. This video isn't nearly as bad as Redpill channels when it comes to being disrespectful to women, not even close, but it can be read as a small step in that direction. We've had our differences, I've always kept it real rather than sucking up to you. In your responses to me, you've always been your suave, attentive, gracious self. I've always thought of you as someone with a tiny ego and a huge set of manners and accomplishments. I still do. But frankly, I would not have subscribed if this was the first video I saw from you. Looking at the comments, I saw people voicing similar opinions to mine being called "soyboy" and the like. Online, I've been called a simp and soyboy of course, and it always makes me smile and puts a little pep in my step. Those are the people you *don't* want to impress. However, it's disheartening seeing this level of discourse in your comment section (I'm sure you'll agree with that part) while you, in this comments section, contrary to your previous habit, respond only to the comments praising you, so far as I've noticed at least. On a sidenote, I'm glad you continue to say we should do our best to help our community, or just the world's poor in general, or both. You bring that up repeatedly and that is something I value. You recently said you had grown and you wondered what your ex-girlfriends saw in you. I truly hope that growth will prove to be in a positive direction. As ever, James, all my fondness and respect. -Jeremiah
This is excellent advice! Wonderful words of wisdom! Obviously you have a gift of communication as your content is spot on. I am older but I hope people really took this information and will apply it to their lives. Keep this content in your files. It would make an excellent Ted talk.
Fun fact: I've put myself in danger through joining a protest group who voice out against injustice of the govt. Got beaten by the police twice and took tear gas.... But I'm voicing out against corruption....
As always well done video I agree with gentleman who suggested cave diving. I had an opportunity to do it couple of times & it’s definitely fun and exciting
Honestly gentlemen, im still on a journey to fix some of my behaviors that I'm not proud of. To create myself into a proper gentleman i know it will take time and discipline to make me into a proper man.
Could you make a video about mark mahoney’s style and image and how to apply that style into daily life, so less exeggerated, maybe also something that would be appropriate to wear at school
It is helpful to recognize masculine and feminine energies, but be careful about enforcing untrue female stereotypes. It is insulting to women and misdirects male behavior. I agree that having regular contact with women can inform a man about proper behavior and expectations in male-female relationships. A man who grew up with other women is noticeably better at being at ease with and communicating with women generally.
For myself, I don't give a darn about masculine or feminine "energy" but I certainly agree that untrue female stereotypes are insulting. This video had a number of concerning points. I truly hope this is not the direction the channel goes in. It would be enormously disappointing.
One day there will be a serious discussion about whether James is an immortal,or if he has been reincarnated several times. Because there is no way a man of his young years,could possibly have this much wisdom. My pet theory is reincarnation. World War 1 flying ace,reincarnated as a World War 2 SOE officer,then Cold War MI-6 officer,and finally a Global War on Terror-era MI-5 officer,before becoming our man James. Alternate theory: His father did a damn fine job raising a Man.
The way I put myself in danger is when I swim (it's my main sport). At some point during the workout I will just start swimming and try to see how long I can go without breathing. Haven't got to the point of passing out in the public pool I train at but boy do I feel alive after this
You sir are spot on with this subject. One issue is the lack of masculine fathers ( single mother raised boys ). The black community, of which I am a part, has an epidemic of this sadly. My generation was taught to suppress masculinity. The result?? Dating is dead, men are weak and women are lost. We are seeing the first of black homeless women boomers. They were told by Oprah 🤮( the color purple for example ) that men ( black ) were of no value so “ you do you girl!” If it blows up? The sugar daddy of the century ( govt.) will bail you out. See it? Btw govt housing sucks. Signed A black man raised with a father that escaped the “ hood “ and made the top 1/4 of 1 percent income amongst black men. See Thomas Sowell for more. As James mentioned in a recent short. READ.
Hi. I think it's better that men are getting in touch with their sensitive self. It's better than a guy becoming hostile because he feels he cannot show his emotions.
Hi James, I'm trying to leave a lengthy response to this, and it's not being let through. Sometimes, RU-vid automatically takes longer comments, alows the RU-vidr to moderate them, and decide if he wants to approve them. Please let me know if that's what's happening. Thank you so much!
Ahahaha, low income neighborhoods and night time walks at home trough the forest and clearing.... yeah it's a wonder for your mental and physical health... you light a cigarillo and just take in the sounds... the reasuring thumping of your hearth, the steps of your boots and the swinging of your beltloop with a small knife sheath on it yeah... wonderfull times.
Men did not cancel 'chivalry' ..feminists did. 1975 was the year that my 'gentlemanliness' was attacked..consistently. Finally, after years of arguments..it faded away. Two generations past...and it has become a forgotten 'pleasantry. I miss it. It was a courteous gesture...in a civilized society. I see women rejecting the fem' and looking for gentlemen again.. Maybe the old 'spiteful' trend is dying out. We'll see.
Not sure what to make of this. Chaos is feminine and order is masculine? I don't think that's true - the women in my life are well-organised and have their act together whilst some of my male friends and acquaintances are pretty chaotic. I don't think this makes them less feminine or less masculine. Seriously reviewing Tucker Carlson, dropping uncritical references to Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson... Can't help but feel the channel is going in a less interesting direction. If the manosphere becomes your full-time job you have to follow the money, but it's a bit disappointing tbh
James, you make excellent points. The one thing that you didn't go into, but is more important that almost all of your points relate to testosterone. Of course, like with many things related to masculinity, testosterone has earned a bad reputation, mainly to do with synthetic versions that are abused and misused. However, testosterone is a vital hormone to make men feel like, well, men. Many of your points relate to producing more testosterone in healthy ways. Your point about being around women has been shown in research, as well. Another interesting thing is that your first three points, danger, discipline and mastery, relate to the primal objectives of early man, forming hunting and war parties. Obviously there was danger there, but you needed to be disciplined and masterful to make that kill or otherwise be killed.
I agree that testosterone is very important. I think it is a chicken and egg situation as to whether certain masculine behaviors will lead to higher testosterone or high testosterone will lead to those behaviors. As long as you live healthily - eat well, work out, and sleep well - your testosterone should be just fine. One point that I chose to remove from this video for the sake of time was this... Think about soldiers in WWII. They were starving, exhausted, malnourished. They probably had very low testosterone, chemically speaking, but their actions, bravery, and valor made them more of a man than we will ever be. When it comes to masculinity, I believe mind is stronger than matter.
@@Gent.Z Yes, I completely agree. I do think though, that for the majority of these young men, the foundation of their lives growing up, what they were taught, what they valued, what they experienced, did a lot to give them that will to survive and thrive even in the absolute worst of circumstances.
I have been saying the same thing for years. And I absolutely love women,and appreciate having so many quality women in my life. Women have a tendency to live in an emotional world of feelings and impressions. They are very susceptible to being influenced by popular media and popular movements,because by nature,they are social creatures. This often leads to them having chaotic lives,based on impulses. Men,especially when raised by a strong father,have a tendency to be more organized and structured. We see life as a series of problems to be solved. So we tend towards detachment and stoicism. We are more likely to chart a course,develop a plan,and then work to carry it out. These are not absolutes. There are exceptions. Maybe even a significant minority of both genders that don't adhere to these norms. But I definitely agree with James.
I guess he took internet jargons for real😂. If u go by ancient SE Asian societies, man is beyond energies and women is made of energies. So pls educate your victorian misunderstandings before you blabber..
what is a ‘ real man ‘ ? I don’t think the concept really exits . Someone who is kind , for me is the perfect ‘real man ‘. Sports , good , mastering something good , clothes and confidence .good , but classing women as softer and classing chaos as a ‘ feminine concept . And a woman’s life is ‘ meant to be easy and soft’ ? Come on . Gentlemen are not sexists . Respect women, don’t treat them as second class citizens, think on .it’s not 1971 mate .
This only appears to get women on your side. “ awww you’re so sweet n respectful,”they my respond to your statement. They go to bed with me because my audacity to dork the truth without patronizing then, get the river flowing. If she disagrees, then go find another “ man.” Problem is there are so few anymore. 🤷🏽♀️ I didn’t believe at first either, but it works like a charm. Biology.
Dear James, I finally got around to watching this video. It's one of your more successful recent videos in terms of views, so that's nice to see. And a late but sincere congrats on your first 100K! I've always been frank with you, and you've made it plain you value my input, which is kind, and I obviously am here because I tremendously value yours. What with the opinions I've expressed in our past interactions, it will probably come as no surprise to you, this video had several points where, not only was I in disagreement, I was quite put off. You've alwauys welcomed disagreement from me, so I shall do my best to do the same for you. "Chaos is a very feminine state" why do you refer to feminity so negatively? This is a shallow stereotype that ought to have been left in ancient China, and I find it interesting that you later mention, "Yin and Yang." There is wisdom in the past, but there is also slavery, our ancestors were not always wiser than us today. I'm glad you had such a positive experience boxing and came away "feeling more alive" than you "ever felt before," that's terrific. But it raises my eyebrow that you're recommending that every man engage in, "some kind of fighting training that puts you in touch with your instinct to protect." One wonders how regularly your own idol and beneficiary Raphael Schneider does that, not often I'll wager. Clearly, you can lead a full life as a man without it, though this is a more minor point. As for the statement, "a woman's life is meant to be easy and soft," this especially gets the alarm bells ringing. You yourself interviewed Dr. Ganowski just a couple of months ago, do you think she'd describe her job as easy and soft? Helping men who are often in crises with their sexual desires, habits, and marriages? What would a woman army vet have to say to this video in which you tell her her life ought to be "easy and soft?" Is the army "easy and soft" or, no matter what she does for her country, is she a failure as a woman precisely because she is accomplished in this area?" Play that traditional, masculine role, it's what you're meant to do," aren't we meant to be whoever we choose to be, so long as that is strong, polite, and kind? What about the stay at home dads, who are not in a traditionally masculine role, who just want to take care of the garden, clean, cook, and raise the children, are they not playing the role they were meant to? And, "one of our purposes is to procreate and you need a woman to do that," good grief, why are you asserting every man on the planet is meant to have children, what do you base that on? You do realize some men can be happy without children, don't you? Besides, some people are infertile, this kind of language seems to leave them out. You are the James who, fairly recently, made a video on feminine habits men should take up. You continually downplayed overemphasis on masculinity and encouraged respect for women. This video isn't nearly as bad as some channels when it comes to being disrespectful to women, not even close, but it can be read as a small step in that direction. We've had our differences, I've always kept it real rather than sucking up to you. In your responses to me, you've always been your suave, attentive, gracious self. I've always thought of you as someone with a tiny ego and a huge set of manners and accomplishments. I still do. But frankly, I would not have subscribed if this was the first video I saw from you. Looking at the comments, I saw people voicing similar opinions to mine being called "soyboy" and the like. Online, I've been called a simp and soyboy of course, and it always makes me smile and puts a little pep in my step. Those are the people you *don't* want to impress. However, it's disheartening seeing this level of discourse in your comment section (I'm sure you'll agree with that part) while you, in this comments section, contrary to your previous habit, respond only to the comments praising you, so far as I've noticed at least. On a sidenote, I'm glad you continue to say we should do our best to help our community, or just the world's poor in general, or both. You bring that up repeatedly and that is something I value. You recently said you had grown and you wondered what your ex-girlfriends saw in you. I truly hope that growth will prove to be in a positive direction. As ever, James, all my fondness and respect. -Jeremiah
