Being with Asian parents is basically getting so much pent up anger but not being able to show it, so you just lock yourself in your room and start crying. 💀
Yeah, if I ever say I do not want to eat my mother cooking. She literally wouldn't let me do anything else until I eat her cooking, going as far as to confiscate all my gadget. Good mother, I deserve that for being Lil'shit
As a white person, I would never get away with that. I would also never let my kids be that disrespectful. However, there are too many parents out there who let their kids do whatever the hell they want.
Yeah my mom was taught by nuns so when I used to act up I’d always get my ear pinched sometimes with nails if I was behaving like an embarrassment as she would put it. Fortunately, I don’t act embarrassing anymore and she’s more relaxed now
@@allisproduction2716 yea lol, and when they see me cry, they just enter the room and say that they are sorry and they have made me a favourite dish of mine lol
The door one is so spot on that I completely lost my shit. Slamming the door in frustration after getting scolded by your parents is the Asian household equivalent of "so you have chosen death" 😂
If either of us kids ever slammed a door, we were made to stand at the door, open and close it correctly over and over until our mom told us to stop. Doing this made us feel more stupid than anything else, so we didn't slam the door again. lol
@@DaniRoachi We would get spanked, but that was reserved for serious offenses. I actually only got spanked twice in my entire childhood. My mom's favorite punishment was to have us write a phrase 100+ times. Man, the wrist pain was enough to make you wish she'd hit you.
I dont like how asian parents are being villainize these day . Bruh i tell you they are the best parents the emotional bonding we have is beyond beautiful . I literally can Di fr my parents at any day Nd the way they love me ahh im so grateful . Whereas western parents lol their bonding is soo technical nd commercial . There is no emotional bonding half of the western kids even grow up w out their parents Nd bruh their dads ? Huh they are rarely in the picture . Nd the kids are soo so rude . No wonder why their parents leave them nd they grow up to be criminals nd bunch of psychos who always thinks about $ . Yah some asian mum can be hard bt its always the minority whereas majority of western parents are bad or they do a bad job raising their kids . So stop exaggerating stuffs
After having a bad argument, Asian kids close the door way more quietly and calmly as compared to other days Cuz we can't afford our parents to misunderstand🙃
@blank bold of you to assume I can enter another room After my mom yells at me, I have to do extra chores and I can't let her see a single emotion or the situation will become worse. The fact that she will stare at me when I do things is even more frustrating.
I’m not Asian, but I felt this on a spiritual level, because my mom was raised by Asian parents due to foster care. Fast food is a rare delicacy in this household.
Dude, for real. We had pizzas once or twice a year and that too after much persuasion. The concept of having it even twice or thrice a week seemed ridiculous to me when I first watched american shows lol
@@hhhhh-me1fb wow, that's a lot of cultures. Indian myself. To each their own I guess. Personally though my parents demonised and disapproved fast food a lot and it was very uncommon in our household 🤷🏽♀️
Nice to know that despite being mostly white I still have the most Asian mom out there. Like I do not talk to my parents "normally". If mom tells me to do something I gotta do it so she won't yell at me. I also eat whatever she makes and does what she says. Never disrespect them.
I get how people joke about it a lot, but that doesn’t mean that it’s a good topic to joke about. How does normalization in child abuse make a funny joke to people? It gave me depression. I don’t know about everyone here, but I’d stop normalizing it.
@@asingularmcnugget3341 It shouldn't be normal and I was depressed for a while too. My parents are a lot better now. I don't understand how it got this way that parents think it's okay to hit their own children. It's not. And I guess joking about it sorta helps with coping.
@@asingularmcnugget3341 It's funny because it's relatable. What else are we supposed to do? Laughing at our trauma is literally what keeps up happy and not sad and depressed 24/7
As an Asian we can’t show any emotions while being lecture, if we talk back or try to explain they’ll be more angry, especially if we cried they’ll be so damn irritated
If I ever slammed the door I just know from past experience from when I was younger that I would usually get in more trouble for slamming the door than for whatever other thing they were mad at me for.
Same bro , my mom thought I am watching some shitty things ( you know what I mean ) that's why I closed the door . But I just want some privacy that's it but being a indian middle class kid the word PrIVacY is not in the dictionary of our family 😂😂😂
I've been closing my door since I was young so no one bats an eye But I swear now that I'm getting older my dad demands I keep the door open unless I'm changing😭😭⁉️
@@myouniverse0613 it's not that it's just that I tend to show a more serious side with my parents. I'm sure you probably also act differently towards your parents than to your friends
I’m not Asian kid and I don’t have many similar experiences. But I was taught to respect my parents, say please and thank you, do what they say, etc. However some kids are rude to their parents and it is always so strange to see them call their parents by their real name not Mom or Dad. I have this one friend who shouts back at her mom all the time whenever she gets upset! Like I would be grounded for the rest of my life
I'm an Indian! And these both cases are truly different,,, here's parents didn't even let us cry after beating up badly and fun fact is *they again beat us for making us to stop from crying* 😂
Same here..... But i left crying.... Im emotionless and day by day my bad and cruel side is rising....🥲 I dont laugh , i dont cry , dont get angry . I use a fake smile now
@@darklordgaming764 a lot of times the only way to cope with unwanted situations is to actually feel those emotions bc it's unhealthy to just bottle it up. ur feelings are completely valid bro
people who’ve been raised by strict parents, most of us can do things most people cant, like controlling our anger, accepting what they give us, and never talking back, the amount of suppressing is unspeakable, speaking by majority and daily experience, we can’t speak our minds to them, because it’s considered “DiSresPectFuL”
"You just went back home during our walk in the woods because I left you alone and you got scared? I can't believe you've done this. How disrespectful of you. I was worried" My mom right before pushing me down the stairs. And i didn't have the right to be mad at her
My mother is like ' you should tell your feelings to me'. When I accidentally speak out my feelings she'll scold me and say that I'm disrespecting her.
It’s kinda sad that most Asian kids aren’t allowed to be angry. Our parents push us to our limits but we still have to respect them. Edit: holy crap, wasn’t expecting that much likes. Thx, u guys are so cool.
I once told it to them, and duuude I'm never doing that again 🤣🤣now my mom doesn't let me go to a friend's place bc they are 'bad influences' and also 'we can never trust you again' bitch you never trusted me in the first place, why do you think asian kids know everything their parents don't want them to know
@@meherchadha499 oh my mom heard my friend swear and she told me to stop hanging out with her, which is weird bc I don’t really mimic the things my friend said and my mom cusses way more times than my friend did, and at least my friend never cussed at me.
I’m gonna tell you southern parents aren’t afraid to do anything to discipline their children I feel like 85% percent of your pain. I’ve seen how Asian parents are so mad respect
As an Asian kid we HAVE to follow orders, you cannot speak when lectured, you cannot let out your anger, you cannot cry when lectured, they have every right in the house .. I cope by crying on my bed at night, I cannot let out anger towards friends for I will be called "Dramatic".
When I cry, my mom says "Don't cry! Don't pretend that you feel bad!" But when I control my anger, stay strong, and don't cry during a lecture, she says "Tch, look! You aren't even sorry!"
Being an asian kid or asian in general, learning how to inhale, exhale after a 5 mins talk with your family esp with your mom is like mastering any of the breathing techniques from Demon Slayer.
We all(almost because not everybody’s same) asian kids are legend for how good we hold our anger towards our parents whenever we are mad because we know what will happen next lol
Lmao I feel like it's the same for Serbian parents- or my parents just started acting like Asian parents after living in Asia for ai long (I think Taiwan was the place we were in the longest)
I am also an Asian child and it's so relatable.. Sometimes I feel frustrated from this but I still feel that this is better. Our parents teach us to respect our elders and value everything we have. They will get nothing by scolding us, but still they do because they want us to be a better person. And it's not that they always scold us, they love us more than they scold us. But yes, one thing Asian parents should give us is a little privacy, but only a little. They don't give us privacy because they want to guide us and teach us what is wrong and what is right.
I grew up this way as well and it is normal because my parents love me but if I act bad or do something wrong they punish me with scaling to what I did. From my perspective they taught right from wrong because if they would have just said don't do it again I doubt I would have listened. To some people who don't and probably never will live this way it seems wrong but it's very normal in European households, at least from my perspective. I also don't mean to offend anyone just wanted to chime in.
Went to my white friend's house and he was speaking to his mom like that and I just walked out. It was a huge shock that it was real and not just comedy. We are no longer friends so I have no idea if he treats her any better as an adult.
he might, hopefully. most white teenagers are like that. i think its just a teeanger thing. i dont get along with my mother, for separate reasons, but still.
I know this is a joke, but I would never treat my parents like that. Like I may get mad at them sometimes but I would never ever treat them horribly. Omg thank you for the likes lol
As a white person, I can assure you that, at least in my family, the Asian family representation is far more accurate than the white one It’s absolutely impossible for me to show any emotion in my house😍
So I’m not the only one😭? I’m white too but I’m polish and Slavic parents are extremely strict.. so I would not even be thinking twice about not slamming my door
I'm Black and Hispanic but yeah we got strict rules like the Asians I guess but not too strict though. I'm basically saying I could never speak to my parents the way white people do. Edit: Wow guys thanks for all the likes
No cause I got compared to my neighbor's son for being a 'good' son 'helping' his parents with chores- bc I wouldn't do the laundry JUST THIS ONE DAY, even having a good reason for that bc I literally FRACTURED my foot. GOD. I LOVE this family 🥰😍
As an Asian, I agree with everything that happens in here. We couldn't lash out on our parents, is FORBIDDEN to slam the door, does every household chores and still must ace every single test. Ways to become Asian 101.
0:49 this is just too accurate 😭 you have to be really careful so that even just turning the knob doesn’t make a sound and then u just stand there turning the knob as slowly as you can like- 💀✋😭
I'm not Asian, but when I was younger my dad used to be a little strict. The only difference between me and the people in the comments is that when I was seven, I had enough and told my dad I hated him. Every night after we brushed our teeth, we would give our parents hugs and kisses before going to bed. But the next night, he said no because you hug people you love, not hate. I genuinely felt bad and cried myself to sleep that night. The next night after we brushed our teeth I broke out in tears and said I didn't really hate him. He was very nice about it and understood I was just angry. I asked if I could start hugging him again every night and he said yes. I'll never forget that experience, just writing this got me crying again. Don't forget: no matter how strict your parents are, they're just trying their best to raise you right. They will always love you
U are going to make me cry😭. I want to ask a question to you, that is, why did u said "I hated him"? You must not say that. I never say like that to my parents. You are really bad. Go learn some morals and disciplines. You fool. I respect my dad so much and I never say anything bad to him. And if I say so, he will be very angry and beat me. I'll never say that to my parents. U are not having any discipline. U don't have any discipline so i'm not gonna like ur comment. I'm not saying that I don't respect my mom and sibling. I respect my mom and my brother but I respect my dad the most bcuz he is the head of my family. My mom is so close to me. I love my family.
@@itachi7592 I have no excuses, what I wrote is the truth and there's nothing I can do to the past now. If you don't care for my comment, you shouldn't like it. You have an opinion, and whether or not others agree, it's still yours. It's good that you respect your family.
As a half-Asian person, I didn't have it as strict as the skit shows, but respect for my elders was ingrained in me from an early age. I am still taken aback at the disrespect of my generation toward their teachers and other folk, not to mention the lack of discipline in parenting nowadays.
@ilkldme They're your predecessors. The one give birth to your parents and the one make you live whatever is in your family. They give you a body for you to exist, they raise you, they give you a good living with many money is also there. Ethics, Morality and guidance is there for you to become a good person. They support you, despite hating you. You are their offspring and what else you want me to speak of. Unless... maybe you lived a horrible life where your parents are damn young and stupid for following feelings that they don't what a single judgment what to do when its comes parenting or for the living. Well... actions always bear a consequence I guess. Sorry but this is a fact
@@ThisCapybara parents always ordering us to do something every time and treating us like servants while they do nothing, calling us insults while they at the same time bring us down and making us feel inferior, expecting something we cant totally control e.g. high grades puts a mental pressure on us, and we feel that we do this not for ourselves, but for our parents. so i don't know how that is discipline...
LMAO GOODBYE im way too experienced in sneaking around and making no sound, (a product of strict parenting). so i open the door really quickly without sound and close the door again, quickly without sound
i am also indian and i remember my father scolding me in school in front of other children and parents because i put a negative sign instead of a positive sign in 1 question. 😭😭😭
this video has to be one of the most accurate videos! and as an asian i think we should be praised for the way we r taught to grow up and being respectful towards our parents who r literally the reason why we live and secondly because we learn to appreciate each and everything little thing we get..... :)
I know this sounds dramatic, but if you’re in prison, you would appreciate things like good meals and positive social interaction that normal people wouldn’t have to and shouldn’t have to be overjoyed at receiving. If your situation is so bad that you appreciate any morsel of affection given to you, then it’s not something that should be praised. Also, respecting someone because you fear then isn’t respect, and genuinely respecting somebody who treats you horribly is pretty toxic. Maybe it’s s different case in your household, but personally, I don’t think parenting like that should be praised
I’m Irish / African but tbh this is kinda true I’m like the “white” one but I’m very great full and not rude like the video. I’m not rude to my parents and they’re not rude back. We all respect each other and that’s what every parent should be like. I’m very grateful that I have parents who don’t hit me or say rude things to me. We all deserve a good parent :)
Respect goes both ways, and I'm glad you are respectful and so are your parents. The rude white kid depicted in the video is awful, but kids like that are usually the ones who were super spoiled.
I don't even have Asian parents, but I'd never do any of that. That's a fricking death sentence (now that it's just my mom, I don't have to worry as much, but I still hate asking for the smallest things)
I’ve heard my little brother and my stepsons talk like this to their moms in the past, yes it’s an exaggeration but when a mom tells their kid to go to school and the kids says f*** off and intimidates the mother to make her go away, it makes this pretty accurate unfortunately.
@@honeymeadows22 it does bc i live my life for Jesus. my attributes and my attitude is displayed through how we should act. i respect my mother and dad, and all my elders and would never do that. it's not right to cuss or to do those things. i have been taught these values since i was born.
As an Asian, I can VERIFY all of this! 😂 We are taught to be respectful to our parents at the utmost degree, which is actually good, looking from any perspective that's not the child's. 😂 Edit: WOAH! *39 likes!?* Thanks guys! You're the best! Have a great day! ^^
@@kiera6326 true though. At school it's considered disrespectful to not to bow to your teachers when you see them in the hall way or walk into the classroom. Notice in Korea, japan, and china (idk if you listening to kpop jpop or cpop), when idols are done performing they always bow 90 degree. Also you are suppose to address your elders differently from how you would address your friends. For example There's actually two words for "you" in Chinese. One for when you are talking to your friends, one for when you are talking to your elders. IT'S NOT ACCEPTABLE IF YOU CALL ANYONE OLDER THAN YOU (BY SIX YEARS OR MORE) THEIR NAME!!! YOU HAVE TO ADDRESS THEM IN A REALLY RESPECTFUL WAY.
@@yudu9058 That sounds like overkill lol. Yeah, I noticed the thing with the you pronoun. It’s actually the same in some other European languages (although the formal version has died out some to mean more of when describing a plural). I think it’s so debilitating to enforce a hierarchy to that level, because it prevents anyone from ever being questioned and belittles whatever authority or opinion the younger people have.
@@kiera6326 No not really, because respecting the elders is a cultural trait we inherit and are taught since childhood. When we grow up and see how disrespectful children are these days towards their parents, we appreciate the things we were taught at a young age even more. Throwing a tantrum is not tolerated, so as children we learn early on that the world does not revolve around us and we can't expect other people to please us all the time.
If I slam the door, my parents would be like, "HEY YOU! HOW DARE YOU SLAM THE DOOR?! COME DOWN, WE NEED A FAMILY CONFERENCE!" 😂, and the child who slammed the door would be like, 😰and would rush down stairs and plead for apology. Then parents would not forgive until all kids stand at the wall. lol
As someone with Asian parents, I will never ever find it ok when my family abuses me and is toxic to me! I would disown them and not the other way around! You don’t have to bare with that shit! My friend literally cried on the phone talking to me because her mother was insanely toxic and insulted the shit out of her! I wouldn’t be proud to have asian parents and NEVER normalize toxic behavior and abuse, asian or not it‘s never ok You shouldn’t do that to yourself! Respect should be mutual.
First tell me your age? Then I'll decide if you're telling the truth or not. I can guarantee you all who call Asian parents toxic have no idea what toxicity or abuse is. You'll never learn what all your parents go through to make your life easier for you. I too, never learned until I matured enough.
Even though my asian parents were really strict, I respect them for raising me decently. Its a lot of hardwork and pressure, especially now as a new parent, I cannot imagine having to raise multiple children in the conditions my parents did.
I have the advantage of living in a very windy and hilly area. So if I ever slam the door out of anger I always blame it on the wind 😂😂 and my parents accept that lie thankfully.
I’m asian and I don’t do it anymore, but I used to slam the door like that after getting yelled at, but I was never punished for it. And I talk to my parents like “the white kid” as a joke, but I’ll never ever swear at them.
I'm a white kid but my parents act like Asian parents... If I get angry I have to do it SUPER quietly because my brother and I aren't allowed to shut our bedroom door.
As an asian, we don't even have our own room and privacy. We do our best to control our anger because we might get beat up in front of other family members if we did.
I'm an Asian with those 'rare' nice parents (but I totally relate with the Asian door one). Anyways, I'm really sorry ya'll have it hard and I hope it gets better. I also feel bad that we might think white kids are like that bcoz I'm pretty sure they're cool irl (ik this video is a joke btw).
I’m American, my parents are decently strict, i am aloud to speak as I please but I still have to listen to them. If I were to slam the door, I would be yelled at, though. Lol
Im afro american too. My moms the same, and dear god will she yell at you till your ears bleed!! I just take it all in because i know its just so dumb to like, get all worked up over the smallest things.