I’ve been there I had to change the way I thought about food and my habits. My husband is super skinny. I just changed one habit at a time. It all started with oatmeal. I ate I cup and half for breakfast with 2 tablespoons of brown sugar. Because oatmeal is healthy. Then i slowly a1/2 of teaspoon at a time till I’m down to a half of teaspoon of brown sugar 1/2 cup of oatmeal. That took me a year. And I have lost 7 lbs a year since. Then I added walking for 5 mins and went up. It’s slow but I celebrated every minute. I focus on being healthy and being active now. I may never be prebaby weight but I’m healthier and I can run up steps. You are doing great so celebrate the desire to be healthy and one 1/2 teaspoon of something at a time❤
Great work! Grains like oatmeal can be really inflamatory for a lot of people which can slow their progress. Same with dairy, sugar, gluten, beans, and nightshades. You can see my comment above for some helpful things to look into. Low inflammation meals like AIP diet are very helpful. Sounds like you are consistent and have a great mindset.
When she said she thought she would just be taking the kids for walks all the time I knew where it came from; All the fake instagram mom “influencers” are skewing the expectations of soon-to-be moms and then making them feel inadequate once they have kids. These women are putting on a facade! Moms need to realize this.
As someone struggling with anorexia nervosa for almost 14 years, her story resonates a lot. I wish her well and strengh cause it's hard being a mom and struggling with weight changes specially in a society that praises pregnancy and expects people to look like pregnancy never happened(might cause weight gain in most cases not to say in all) The pressure is big. Stay strong and take a deep breath girl💕🌟🦋💜⭐🙌You are not alone.
Ugh, I’m not even a parent and this made me tear up. I pray that she gets good help and can learn to love herself for her own sake, but also for her family. We only get one life, none of us deserves to spend so much of it feeling that way.
I am so much like you. I am 33 with a 4 month old and a 3 year old. I’m not where I want to be, but I’m done having kids, so I feel at peace knowing I can lose the weight and don’t have to put so much pressure on myself immediately. I wish you peace and comfort. You’re worth not feeling so bad about yourself as you work to prioritize yourself and your health.
@@SarahConnor562 thanks for the tip lol I stopped pumping long ago and baby just finished her freezer stash of milk. I’ve been dried up for over a month.
Baby girl, here is my 2 sense. Love who you are at this very moment. Then, gradually morph into who you want to be. You're trying too hard and your body is fighting back. The moment you stop trying, the weight will fall off. Focus on the blessings in your life, not the curse. You're awesome just the way you are. Hugs...
Losing baby weight can be so hard physically & emotionally...been there! Perhaps you might consider getting your hormones checked to make sure everything is in balance. Pregnancy & postpartum will do a number on your hormones...wishing you the best, you sound like an incredible woman!
Having two toddlers are no joke, they will suck the life out of you ❌❌❌ with sleepless night, getting sick, whining, feeding, and all the constant cry. Please give yourself some grace. Go shopping and buy clothes that fit your NEW current body 🛍️ . That should help you feel somewhat better about yourself. Good luck and congratulations on your two kiddos.
Chronic sleep deprivation can make it so hard to lose weight. Just do your best and when your kids get a little older it will get much better. Buy nice clothes that fit you well even if it's a bigger size, do your hair and makeup, make yourself feel beautiful as you are. Eat good food and exercise to make yourself feel good. Your husband loves you as you are.
I've been married for 16 years and have been pregnant most of my marriage. Given birth 6x plus 2 miscarriages. I've struggled so hard to lose the baby weight as fast as I used to, ever since the 4th child, it's been such a struggle. Since I was little, I struggled with body image issues. Dealing with stress from life, homeschooling, homemaking, and hardly any help the way I need it, it takes a toll on mental and body health. 14 lb overweight and I wish I could have more time to myself to get healthy.
I am so grateful for this episode. It's a mirror image of my life. My first husband, a terrible human, would constantly make comments about how fat I was getting with my pregnancy (put on 33lbs). We divorced. But since then, it's always that if I am a size 6 again and fit, he will love me again.
Being a mom. Being a woman in general is so hard. I relate to this on a whole different level. I have good days and I have bad days. I’m back to my pre pregnancy weight. But it took me YEARS to lose weight and get to where I wanted to be and the second I was happy with my body. Boom. Pregnant. Today I am back to pre pregnancy weight but I don’t look the same. I have all the loose skin and the stretch marks.
If you are reading this caller, you are not alone! I'm in the same boat. Lost weight right away with baby #1. Baby #2 never was able to drop the weight. And I happen to be married to a naturally thin husband that LOVES salad, fruits, veggies and everything healthy. It's tough feeling unhappy with your weight despite trying to fix it.
Sleep deprivation and stress can seriously affect weight loss/gain. When i was in a high stress situation years back i couldnt keep weight on for the life of me and it was really distressing.
Been there. What changed my life struggling with this: 30g of protein within 30 mins of waking and then 30 mins of exercise (keeping your heart rate below 135bpm). I walk 2 laps around my neighborhood outside and listen to worship music after a protein breakfast. Sometimes throw in some light weights for arms and legs after when I have time. GAME CHANGER. For weight loss, mood booster, energy booster, self love, etc. You got this!
I really struggle to lose weight! At the moment i'm eating twice a day and nothing big at all. I really don't feel hungry in the mornings. Yesterday I first ate at 3.30 and today I ate just 2 gluten free sandwiches with some ham and 2 slices of cheese. I must try eating more protein to see can I kick start weightloss. I know before I started losing inches, not necessarily pounds, when I started eating more but mentally for me it's very hard to not see the numbers go down even though I lost inches! I also suffer with chronic pain - back problems after a car accident - so exercising is quite difficult. I need 2 new hips and I'm only in my 40s 😢 2 days ago I was able to walk a bit but in 10mins I was only able to walk around my house 5 times as was in so much pain. I also have high cortisol levels which doesn't help
You don't look the same at 18 than you do in 30s. I guarantee you she looks very good. I am 38. I am not attracted to a twig. I guarantee you she looks good.
I didn’t not have PPD but I had similar issues after my second child. Intermittent fasting and ketovore (as much carnivore as possible) has made a HUGE difference to me, insulin resistance go it way better, over 20lb lost, sleep is better, mood is better, brain function/work performance better… I highly recommend it!!!
I have spent some time in the Harrisburg area and the food options are absolutely abyssimal. The food quality is really bad. I only spent a couple weeks there and gained some weight. Also all social events involve some sort of icecream or ultra processed food. These is a hard area to be healthy.
I never had children, but I lost 100 lbs during Covid. I gained 80 lbs back. I had to learn to love myself. I bought clothes that I love. I feel healthy. I hope this caller learns to love herself.
I’m fat but fit. My problem is I’m ugly as a female. Never been the pretty, skinny, model type. I’m not into wearing dresses or make up and expect to be single the rest of my life cuz guys are not interested in an ugly female. I have weighed the same for the last 30 years. I gave up
I do not want to love this fat body I’m in. I grew up fit . 5 kids later I’ve gained 70 lbs . I look terrible, I feel bad about my body shape - I need to change.
I hope I help someone but what you have to do as a woman is lose weight gently. Hear me out. Slow down and hear your intuition Read about intuitive eating and read Paul McKenna I can make you thin.
You can't risk the energy deficit when you have two toddlers running around. What works for a young childless guy in his twenties who gets tons of sleep doesn't work for a woman in her mid-thirties who's awake at all hours.
@@briskettacos Fasting was something that everyone did by necessity for basically 99.9% of human evolutionary history. We evolved for it. There is 100% not an energy deficit when you fast for a measly two days. You get an increase in energy, not to mention peace and mental clarity. Reduces cancer risks, improves memory, makes you happier. Everyone should fast regularly.
@jacobrodriguez7771 Seems you heard me but you ain't listening. You're a young man with adequate sleep and time to kill. You cannot tell someone else what they "should" experience, given you never and can never experience that. So of course it seems easy to you.
My great-grandmother had 16 children and never complained about being overwhelmed and also never turned into a giant disgusting land-whale. Get it together modern western women.
Perhaps you have a healthy weight, let say you have a perfect body and all your ancestors are just what barbie and Ken source of inspiration, but comment reflects that you are a cruel, mean and disgusting person and there is no gym or diet that can fix that…
Our hunter gather ancestor women started having kids at 14, had 5-10 of them, all while gathering food and firewood, sleeping in caves, and being lean and fit. Grow up.
False. Pregnancy at that young age might have killed them + rendered them unable to reproduce ever again. There's a reason our ancestors waited until maturity to let young women marry. But I get the feeling you have nothing good happening in your life, so your only self-esteem boost comes from condemning others. I hope you can put forth the effort to escape your current situation and do better.
@@briskettacos Yeah just project and make things up instead of speaking facts. Women throughout history have had children as soon as they were able to. We even have records (Catholic marriage records) from the middle ages in Europe, so this isn't even debatable. I don't know you and you don't know me, so trying to make things personal just makes you sound low IQ.
@briskettacos exactly. The mortality rates were really high in those era's until modern medicine was able to mitigate risks. Even at that America still has the highest mortality rates.
@PLD.608 that’s false, that is taking an average including everyone who died as babies. If you lived long enough to reproduce (which is the example I gave) then women could easily live into their 40’s. Also, that’s still not justification for being a fatty. Even if they died in their 20’s they weren’t fat. Lose weight.
"The weight came back" Yeah lady it just magically flew back into your fat cells out of nowhere. You shoved that weight into your mouth, chewed it, and swallowed it. Choices.
You're a troll and have no clue the physical, chemical, and hormonal changes that occur in pregnancy. And even AFTER, there are changes. Your opinion, as someone who can't give birth, is irrelevant. And I pray that any woman you date runs fast as hell in the opposite direction.
