I’m Struggling With Suicidal Thoughts (What Should I Do?)

Подписаться 705 тыс.

Просмотров 51 тыс.

50% 1

I’m Struggling With Suicidal Thoughts (What Should I Do?)
Send John your questions. Leave a voicemail at 844-693-3291 or email www.johndelony.com/show. We want to talk to YOU!
Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255
Get John’s new book, Own Your Past, Change Your Future here: bit.ly/3Lmf076
Get a money plan for real life! Start your free trial of Ramsey+: bit.ly/2JcSe6H
Learn how to change your thoughts, change your behaviors, and change your life. Subscribe to the Dr. John Delony’s show!
ru-vid.com?...
Twitter (@johndelony)
Instagram (@johndelony)
Facebook ( JohnDelony/).
These platforms contain content, including information provided by guests, that is intended for informational and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to replace or substitute for any professional medical, counseling, therapeutic, financial, legal, or other advice. The Lampo Group, LLC d/b/a Ramsey Solutions as well as its affiliates and subsidiaries (including their respective employees, agents and representatives) make no representations or warranties concerning the content and expressly disclaim any and all liability concerning the content including any treatment or action taken by any person following the information offered or provided within or through this show.
If you have specific concerns or a situation in which you require professional advice, you should consult with an appropriately trained and qualified professional expert and specialist. If you are having a health or mental health emergency, please call 9-1-1 immediately.
Ramsey Network (Subscribe Now!)
• The Ramsey Show (Highlights):
ru-vid.com...
• The Ramsey Show (Full Episodes): ru-vid.com...
• The Dr. John Delony Show: ru-vid.com?...
• The Rachel Cruze Show: ru-vid.com...
• The Table with Anthony ONeal: ru-vid.com...
• The Ken Coleman Show: ru-vid.com...
• The Christy Wright Show: ru-vid.com...
• EntreLeadership: ru-vid.com...

Опубликовано:

28 июн 2024

Ссылка:

Скачать:

Готовим ссылку...

Добавить в:

Мой плейлист

Посмотреть позже

Комментарии : 185

@TrackProbe 21 день назад

I am scared of living and scared of dying. Trying to find courage for now.

@Feber2001 11 дней назад

@scratchaboobear 12 дней назад

Ocd is obsessive intrusive thoughts and images. I was diagnosed with it. It’s a very rough and scary subject to talk about and this episode made me cry because I’ve been struggling with it since I was 18 years old, I’m now 39. I hope she finds peace with it soon and doesn’t struggle with it as long as I have.

@infiniteluv5589 3 года назад

I thought I was the only 1 having a weird quick thought like that.....but would never do it. I wish her well.

@1CJ6 2 года назад

Me too. I just thought I was having a dumb moment.

@73cidalia 3 месяца назад

Intrusive thoughts are very common.

@HammsterMusic 22 дня назад

Its called "ideation"

@MabelRD08 Год назад

That happens to me almost daily. I'm glad this is being talked about openly. P.S: I love her realness and how articulate she is expressing her ideas.

@dnt_vtepedr 3 года назад

One of my childhood friends died by suicide two weeks ago, 30 days after her 16 year old daughter died by suicide. I'm here because I'm trying to make sense of it.

@stellarocquie7957 3 года назад

Sounds like Daisy and Melinda Coleman. RIP to all of them.

@daniellelandau7762 3 года назад

So sorry

@bethl 2 года назад

I'm deeply sorry

@donnafontaine2799 Год назад

Such a tragedy for you and all of their family and friends 👪 trying to cope with this I have had 2 people In my family die from suicide ..life is hard..be kind to one another never know what other person is going through ..and I want to say pray for peace for each other !

@Matt-cr4vv 10 месяцев назад

Oh my goodness that is beyond horrible. Suicide is such a sad thing because so often we genuinely do not understand why it’s happened and are often left without any answers.

@joanntebo2835 3 года назад

When she said her daughter might deserve better ... Oh my heart ... I felt myself thinking, "So do you, her mom! So do YOU!" Praying she follows up for the sake of the wonderful life she has ahead.

@chrislim7976 4 месяца назад

As someone that has dealt with loved ones that have sexual abuse and suicidal issues this is an absolutely great call and response from Delony.

@Matt-cr4vv 10 месяцев назад

I really appreciate how John makes tough or traditionally taboo subjects something people can openly talk about because so much good comes from being able to show that these things often are normal among many people and don’t make you crazy. And that’s such a helpful thing for people to help them learn they aren’t insane and shows them there’s hope they may not otherwise think exists.

@hansonallie 3 года назад

One thing I can really relate to here (among others) is the difficulty in finding the right therapist; I’ve big time struggled w/ that!

@maximwilson1482 2 года назад

Same.. I've come to the conclusion that the online services (ie the inexpensive online therapy platforms) are not worth it.

@KittyKatt69 Год назад

Yea, the last therapist I was assigned was young and didn’t even care. She was there for a paycheck and I shutdown and Neva went back. Before that, they tried to assign me pills for psychotic individuals that I would Neva take and got tired of lying every week telling them I was taking it

@VioletEmerald 2 месяца назад

@maximwilson1482 Better Help's two or 3 i tried was the worst of all 10 or 11 therapists I've tried. They really run the dammit. Only like 3 of the 11 ish I've seen were really good. But they were indeed really good and I'm very grateful for them.

@lithiumike 3 года назад

There are some really terrific therapists out there. I am very thankful for the professionals that crossed my paths after an abusive relationship. They really helped.

@therealsilens 3 года назад

Some powerful stuff here but a great episode. I'm not sure words can describe the power of the work that Delony and those like him do everyday.

@maximwilson1482 2 года назад

God, I heard the pain in her voice when she mentioned her grandfather, then her parents... more concerned with saving face then protecting their own daughter. I pray she overcomes these demons.

@foodlover8078 3 года назад

I experience the same. But I think is more when I’m sad, or depressed. I talk myself out of it. Like shake it off! Don’t think about those things, you’re not that kind of person. That’s what I say to myself

@ComedyPodcastPatrol 2 года назад

I also have random thoughts like this. I think it’s more common than people think. It’s good to know that it’s all in our head and the reality is you don’t want to actually harm yourself. Although it is crazy where the mind chooses to wander. Very courageous to open up like this!

@gdaygday1209 3 года назад

Crazy i am here listening to this tonight..........So much can be said but here i sit in silence

@callmecordelia7181 3 года назад

Glad to hear this talked out. Having been abused and feeling like a burden has led me to these thoughts before. Thankful for my relationship with God and my pastor and some older godly ladies that helped me through it. So glad we don’t have to be afraid to talk about this.

@deborahd2936 2 года назад

Learned a lot about myself through her story. Thanks for the transparency!

@steelearmstrong9616 Месяц назад

This is actually quite normal for most people to feel suicidal and death everyday. Being human is mental health

@christinab.2864 3 года назад

I don’t think she has depression for thinking these thoughts it’s more anxiety. I have the exact problem.

@shachede6828 3 года назад

she is beyond those! she is suicidal. it has escalated, anxiety doesn't make you want to stab yourself. depression causes that

@jones2277 3 года назад

@@shachede6828 agreed. she's suicidal but deep in denial about it. i hope she gets better. she seems like a good person.

@oliviaacosta6239 2 года назад

Victoria I really hope you get help. You are worth it.

@darekgwozdz 3 года назад

"Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ." - II Corinthians 10:5

@Caprivlogs 3 года назад

Enough with the scripture. Totally inappropriate

@Deee_TV 3 года назад

Thanks for this.

@Deee_TV 3 года назад

@@Caprivlogs very appropriate actually.

@TomiaMacQueen 3 года назад

Totally appropriate and applicable if you understand the scripture.

@alexcajiao7489 Месяц назад

Exactly! You need to renew your mind. And that is by the Word of GOD and by faith in the living word (Jesus).

@dportal844 2 года назад

I love Dr. John man. He is so thoughtful.

@bllackwing 3 года назад

Brave girl, Victoria. I am on that same ride. I hope for all the best for you.

@pattyajones 2 года назад

I totally GET where she is coming from. Victoria, you are my hero girl.

@lynnhopkins6949 3 года назад

Healings strength through the Lord Jesus Christ for this young lady! Rebuking evil thoughts ideas from this young lady to be safe a Loving wife mother! Safety throughout her Life through the Lord Jesus Christ!

@evvie01 Год назад

Thank you Victoria, this conversation could have been me as far as the family abuse goes, but there is much more. Unfortunately I did not get the right help as I got older, a few husbands and no children later I am alone and still struggling, but making progress. Tons of baggage, I do have someone to talk to and her listening has made all the difference over the last two years. I am in my 60's and though I have the thoughts, (which started around first or second grade) I could not burden the people I love with guilt, I can't make them feel like they may have had a hand in my decision.

@MarieBender-np6vc 2 месяца назад

Aww big hugs for a brave mama. How many new moms struggle & don't make this call but needed it. That holding the knife thing brought memories from my 1st pregnancy 24yrs ago. Never told anybody never got help would have been nice to not suffer so much so long alone if it was just talked about more.

@tsmith1280 3 года назад

Thank you Dr John you are amazing.

@Meemee-mo5it 3 года назад

Wow! Incredible job Dr. John!

@Lon1001 3 года назад

Escape fantasies are a coping mechanism for depression which also feedback and fuel more depression. Depression is more a symptom of not being able to function healthily in a toxic society. The only cure is to experience personal growth in an upwards direction but the way to achieve it is not what the storybook tells you, having dreams and goals only takes the wind out of the sale when it feels like they are futile and impossible or too far away. Seeking therapy might work for some people, but only of they identify and steer towards the root cause for the individual, which is unfulfilled needs (be they socially, financially, sexually, professionally, creatively etc). Trauma certainly is a big obstacle but it's only insurmountable as we make it in our own psyche.

@kris2455 3 года назад

I thought that too...but now I have all I ever wanted and it changed nothing about how I feel inside

@foggycraw6758 21 день назад

Practice gratitude? @@kris2455

@daniellehoffman1672 3 года назад

Thank you so much for this. I needed to hear it

@StarzMiercolesGomez 3 месяца назад

I have these thoughts everyday! I fight it though telling myself it’s selfish. But this world really does suck and I would love to go.. 😢

@razmiddle9410 3 года назад

The caller got some great advice, I hope she really does follow up on it!

@jansilloway325 2 года назад

I needed to hear this.

@nathansimpson5721 Год назад

Wow. I didn't know other people experienced this as well.

@vickiegray3571 3 года назад

Powerful ! Thankyou John Delony

@kylemedeiros6907 3 года назад

AWESOME CONVO

@joslinnick 2 года назад

Maybe I have a problem, too. I have literally thought the same things my entire life. "What if I just turned the wheel of my car and got into a head-on collision with the car going the opposite direction?" "What if I jumped off of this cliff right now?" I always assumed that these thoughts were totally normal.

@Calgarysrealtor Год назад

Not abnormal as he said, just not normal

@oliae2898 Год назад

I have these too.

@VioletEmerald 2 месяца назад

Sometimes the intrusive thoughts are more like a form of OCD or anxiety, a huge fear of death. But no, I don't think about those things when I'm driving. I've never had most of these thoughts but I do feel scared about how dangerous certain things are very occasionally. It's not "what if I stabbed myself" level stuff though. It's not turning into oncoming traffic but it's being impressed horrific accidents don't happen even more often.

@patriciacole8773 3 года назад

I must share that I believe three things on this topic. We have an enemy of souls. And a ready Savior. That’s one. Two is the enemy of souls tries this on all of us. Three, these thoughts injure the melancholy character type more readily.

@ameenahsf 3 года назад

Yup I've had these type of thoughts and just as casually. Keeps life interesting to say the least lol

@user-sh5sc2zv7w 2 месяца назад

You are not the only one!

@patriciaegan7244 23 дня назад

I just started listening, from my understanding about suicide it’s done immediately. BTW, don’t choose that! You have so much to share with others. My interest now is more about choosing dignity in dying by choice. But that needs to be fully understood by those who are choosing to do this. Some are in extremely hard times, and sometimes what hurts me, I remember what other people are going through.

@Agaettis 4 месяца назад

I love how she describes it, ive experienced this since i was a child and thought it was normal. Its been very scary sometimes....especially when i have to stop walking down the stairs because my brain imagines me throwing myself down the stairs

@junebyrne4491 11 месяцев назад

I got through it by telling myself that I can’t today. But if I feel awful tomorrow, I can revisit that.

@themarkus6472 3 месяца назад

one good man in the world gives me hope to go on

@pinkcloud5046 13 дней назад

I think it's normal to have flashes of suicidal thoughts in a world like this. People that act like everything is peaches and pie are the ones we need to worry about.

@VioletEmerald 2 месяца назад

Ooo Dr. Thomas Joiner is his favorite suicide researcher and after a close friend of mine perpetrated a murder-suicide, killing his wife and then himself, Thomas Joiner became my favorite one too! His book on understanding murder-suicide was so helpful and brilliant. Seriously. It helped me move past the trauma i was stuck it. Past the confusion and guilt and shame over platonically loving this man who ended up committing such an evil act.

@itsonlyatail 3 месяца назад

I have always had those thoughts since I was a kid.., I have attempted 3 times, then I am even more down on myself because I failed. But the thoughts go on and on. I have depression, anxiety and was diagnosed with ADHD a couple years ago. This makes me angry because my life makes my life make so much sense now and if I would have been treated, my life could have so much better and I could have been a better mother. I dealt with emotional neglect as a child and my best friend of 46 years died of pancreatic cancer and my brother, that I was close to died the year after. I have no friends because I feel I don’t fit in anywhere. I am married, 49 years but when I talk to him, he wants to fix it and that doesn’t help at all. I do take medication and see a therapist… but the feels never goes away.

@kita3256 2 года назад

Please follow up with her. This is what I go through.

@melb2734 2 года назад

Learning TIP skills helped me. It's one way to bring down emotional arousal when you're having a bad night. (Though I recommend talking with a doctor before trying some of the skills if you have a heart condition or are on beta blockers). Now Matters Now has some good videos on this. It's also a good idea to remove lethal means and create a safety plan.

@soarhighyandow9109 3 года назад

We all have two wolves within us we can feed. We have a nice, good wolf and bad, mean wolf. We can choose to feed one or the other. Not literally wolves within us, but figuratively.

@thedude9082 2 года назад

The dangerous wolf is our shadow side. Good people learn to control that dog. Just thoughts from Carl Jung about the shadow.

@davidmilhouscarter8198 3 года назад

Dang, I feel the same way as that caller.

@jasonrodgers9063 3 месяца назад

In the past, I've been perched on that crumbling precipice overlooking the abyss, seeing no way forward. I was saved by the love and support of my Dear (late) Wife, and my two wonderful brothers. I am greatly blessed.

@skidrat55 3 месяца назад

That first line is amazingly well written. That's a great way to describe it. Sorry for the loss of your wife. Hope you are doing well

@JJJJ-he8bz 3 года назад

My suicidal thoughts are not anyone else problems but my own id never tell either it creates to much stress for the other person. If I get beat I get beat. I like to think of it as man to man coverage with no safety help.

@davidwinter2096 3 года назад

IFS Therapy is great for this.....

@shaniquejoe5108 2 года назад

Fleeting thoughts I have those way too often

@Tofushoots Год назад

Many people have thoughts like this. It’s commonly known as “the void” there is a psychological term for it but can’t think of it right now. It’s like standing on a roof and feeling the urge to jump even when you don’t want to. You don’t want to do any of these things but the curiosity is so strong you actually stop and consider it a moment.

@MrBungle900 9 месяцев назад

These are called intrusive thoughts. It’s a part of anxiety related to OCD. May also be connected to the Freudian Death Drive if you wish to look at this from a psychodynamic perspective. Hope this helps.

@ssp287 Год назад

Honestly I think this way sometimes too.

@carriechilders4854 Год назад

How do we get help with no insurance and no job tho? I listened to this and sobbed the whole time.

@oliae2898 Год назад

Right? It's so expensive.

@libertyna933 3 месяца назад

Check mental health availability in your county. There are services for people without insurance or income.

@rikicakecreations1615 2 года назад

Covid19 also changed me I feel unsure and confused 😕 a lot of the time I had covid19 in june 2021, 4mo ago

@barbarabermingham9385 2 месяца назад

Therapy!!!!!!

@amelianinan 6 месяцев назад

I feel her.

@Feber2001 11 дней назад

This could be an amalgamation of true suicidal ideation and/or OCD.

@MarkK01 7 месяцев назад

Man this is deep. My mom, sister brothers and myself were abused by my father growing up. My father had a revolver and he threatened to use it on us. Social Services removed us from the house 2 times for the abuse. I am 54 now but have struggled with that all my life. I do have 2 kids and am proud to say that I raised my kids differently and never touched them out of anger. I did not want them growing up like I did. My wife came from a really happy family so she never understood how I grew up. I have been a work alcoholic all my life so my wife could stay home with the kids. I have missed a lot of things with my kids growing up so they could have a good life. My son has a issue with that and really resents me. My kids are now adults still living at home with us. In 2013 I was involved in a bad work accident that has required 3 surgeries to date and I still need to go for another. This accident has left me on permanent disability. Now that I am unable to work my life has been rough. My kids do not respect me, my wife does not respect me. My son regularly tells me to F**k off. My wife laughs when he does that. They make rude comments that I do not make enough money on disability. All my life I have suffered from some sort of depression. My depression has 10 folded because I can not work and provide my family with the life they had before my work injury. I feel like a burden to them. Lately I have been having suicidal thoughts. I have tried talking to my wife about this but she tells me to be a man and smarten up. So I know exactly what this caller is going through. Luckily I have a really good Dr. that keeps me grounded for the most part. I see him monthly. I had to give up all my friends when I got married so talking to someone about this is impossible. Life can really stink at times and I really hope I can pull through to see the other side.

@yo-pb4dm 2 месяца назад

I’m so sorry man, I wish I could help

@marywiggins7411 17 дней назад

Can you find some social services through your surgeon, or a church? Counseling and/or medication might help. Go by yourself first, then ask your wife to go. Your ADULT kids need a deadline to move out, they need to launch their own lives.

@michaellemmen 14 дней назад

I tell pretty much everyone i meet my life story my boundaries are so messed up but I really don't know how to change its like when my mouth opens BAM you know everything about me. I don't know how else to communicate.

@Anangelfromabove 2 года назад

I’d say 98 percent of our come from childhood. A lot of it does! Not sure exact amounts but it is a thing!

@epsilona7472 3 месяца назад

Watch the Bluey episode - Baby Race, it's a great episode to show that as parents we focus on how inadequate we are, as our children se us as their whole wide world and we're missing it.

@HappyDays6058 Год назад

I can relate.

@evearcana2392 2 года назад

For the caller and all other thinking the same thoughts - please look into Neurofeedback therapy for these looping reoccurring suicidal thoughts. It saved my life and I know it can do the same for you! 💖

@apriltownsend8463 18 дней назад

I'm kinda there right now. Been a hell of a last 18 months and I'm just tired.

@cheeseface2323 Год назад

I have struggled with this. It’s a form of ocd

@yourfriendinvermont2478 3 года назад

Call of the void is the term for this l'appel du vide

@ITCONFIRMED Год назад

Same city vibes.

@toasteronfire2 2 месяца назад

I wish someone approached me the way he did her when i was having suicidal thoughts. Now im fine but i kinda had to live with them for some time.....time fixed everything for me but i wish someone told me that i should get help and that im not overreacting and stuff.

@jceggbert5 3 года назад

man, it's super weird seeing John get visibly angry

@jones2277 3 года назад

when did he get angry?

@kita3256 2 года назад

Angry? When?

@alancohen810 Год назад

Very common form of ocd

@michellewilliamson3195 6 месяцев назад

Yeah, right. Reach out for help. There is no fucking help out there.

@BEACHDUDE71 4 месяца назад

Because no one cares

@volumecontrol7434 2 года назад

OCD pure O? Testing yourself with intrusive thought without repetitive actions to relive it.

@hoonterrrr 3 года назад

Victoria, if you are reading this - I recommend that you see a psychiatrist first before a counselor if you are open to getting a diagnosis and treatment. Make sure your treatment correlates with your therapy too. Unfortunately some mental health professionals care about money so its going to take some time. Good luck!

@stellarocquie7957 3 года назад

Psychiatry is a cult that uses drugs to manipulate it's subjects. VERY risky, dangerous suggestion. Trauma informed, holistic talk therapy is a much SAFER and successful option.

@VioletEmerald 2 месяца назад

@stellarocquie7957 yeah I would NOT recommend addictive numbing antidepressants. Therapy without meds is all most people need but they need the right modality of therapy and good therapy.

@liveinms9949 7 месяцев назад

Sometimes medication my be needed

@roserowley911 Год назад

1:00 intrusive thoughts are different to suicidal thoughts

@kita3256 2 года назад

Victoria = hero

@jones2277 3 года назад

i never found therapy helpful. it's hard for me to understand how it's so helpful to some people.

@thedude9082 2 года назад

Tried talk therapy to. Seemed useless to me personally. Mindfulness is a good start for me.

@chiragmehta8212 Месяц назад

Exactly. I came out worse. They made me feel worse

@73cidalia 3 месяца назад

Intrusive thoughts are common. They're even more common postpartum.

@adrianreyes7153 3 месяца назад

I feel for the lady. Doc is right, she is better off With her than with another woman..worst case scenario the next lady to watch her child can be like her own mom.

@jesussaves89 2 года назад

That's demonic i used to get thoughts like that I've neve been suicidal either. One time it got so bad i got deliverance and it was a spirit that was casted out. I know there are not christians on here but guys this is very spiritual if it's so random.

@sodvine3486 Год назад

It is

@chem3066 2 месяца назад

May be OCD intrusive thoughts that pop in, she may not be depressed necessarily.

@clementine3836 12 дней назад

Suicidal thoughts are in my mind every single day and I literally praying for death while I still wake up and I am trying to understand why. To just suffer more or? I dont know 🤷‍♂️

@lizbits9339 14 часов назад

I care. I wish I could comfort you. I get it.

@alezandradavila2581 2 года назад

Yes .. I fight it with god

@AltruisticWarrior 4 месяца назад

"soothe my baby" she said. It sounds like she may be post partum? I haven't listened to the whole video yet but it's important to distinguish how long this has been going on. Post partum is certainly no joke, my wife suffered a great deal for about a year after the birth of our son.

@Deee_TV 3 года назад

Yep, that's probably a Devil speaking to her. I'm an educated person, in university and I'd consider myself quite responsible as well, but im also aware of spiritual things. Grace be with her.

@Hamyhamster24 3 года назад

🤦‍♀️

@Davrainbow 2 года назад

This is a symptom of OCD lmao.

@EvanEml 15 дней назад

Sounds like OCD to me

@deed1436 3 года назад

She just has a touch of ocd and it’s escalated because of her hormones after having a baby. A little bit of ocd thats mixed with a hint of post partum depression. This is pretty normal and will fade. And if she’s taking birth control too, that’ll really cause these types of problems.

@bethl 2 года назад

She said it's been since she was a child

@BEACHDUDE71 4 месяца назад

I'm giving myself two years