One thing I know for sure is that children need to learn respect, discipline, morals and manners which God has assigned to us as parental to perform and give accounts of. No systems or society should overlook that!!! How will u feel if a child stabs your child with a knife 🔪 to death because of lack of training like it recently happened in Croydon London 🤔. May God help us all ❤
Thank you for this video. Quite sadly, African and Asian families are the most affected when it comes to child protection issues. As a social worker, I'm working with a family that had all 4 kids taken away from them due to situations that would have been totally avoidable if they had know a little more than they did. Its been nearly 4 years and no solution in sight. Parents, please while we take time to care for our kids, lets spend some time to read up on laws and case reviews surrounding kids so we know what is applicable or not. God will help us all.
Amen. Thank you so much for raising these issues up. You put it so objectively and honestly. One thing remains, we parents have the responsibility to discipline our children when needed, and we do it in a loving way. We want our children to be adults who never require police to discipline them.
The system is not designed to help families tbh. Im single but ive heard similar stories... they want our kids to be like theirs. Lack of respect etc. Good job becca, youre an inspiration. May God keep your family together
When I hear some of these stories I realise we have to work twice as hard as parents than our parents did. Why can a child stab a fellow child to death 😢😢
Eeeiiii this issue hm, I went through a very similar incident with my second child, totally relate to all the emotions you went through with these Social workers and the school authority. We'll I'm glad I came across your channel as a fellow Ghanaian RU-vidr also based here in the UK, new Sub here 😊
Parents also need to speak to their children. I do not recall myself nor my siblings breaking things or destroying things, it’s been normalised when it’s not. It’s nothing to do with age but rather a lack of boundaries from a young age so it’s for parents to implement that from as young as possible.
Hmmm it is well sis! Spot on, I remember I took my baby to Tesco for shopping and my girl was only 8 months crying a lot only to come out from her pram which I 11:22 did by carrying her and still doing my shopping and a lady saw me and said to my daughter why are you crying? You looked well taken care of and have beautiful hair on! Do you know this lady went ahead to tell me that she is a social worker and I was happy instantly because someone realised she was well cared for within just short encountered. In the nutshell, let’s all be careful because you never know who is watching.
Since when was crying an issue lol? If that’s the case I would have been put into care, I literally cried constantly as a child. Plus children who are privately educated are abused and come from wealthy families so seeing a child whose hair is fine etc; doesn’t mean they’re well looked after,sometimes it’s emotional or mental abuse.
These social workers need to allow parents to discipline their children and stop picking on parents who do minor discipline. Yes my mum beat me when i was a kid but its made me into the strong woman i am today ah theres actually abuse going on they need to investigate that instead of minor things ..
No. Social Workers are abiding by the UK law on child abuse and acceptable discipline. Do your due diligence to read the laws around this and stop trying to change them, these are not new laws. If you want to beat your child move to another country that allows this.
I remember an Indian boy came to school with what seemed like sore eyes and dark rings around his eyes he was in the same Class as my son… the school wanted to accuse the parents of beating the child and even went on to question the child intensely about his eyes that were swollen👀 it turned out the child had a severe allergic reaction🙄 to milk….👀 they assumed the worst…before checking anything
Children get bruised riding their bike or playing football or falling and schools want to say it’s abuse…. Yet so many children still die because they can’t be asked to do anything about the real victims and go after the innocent ones
Either you will lose your child in the uk through dangerous NHS doctors or through social service. What is the difference does it make .? So .. why are you still there ? I was brave to leave this hostile, toxic and 2-faced little island after 17 years and that was the best decision ever made.
I’ve worked with social services in the u.k n it takes a lot of evidence for them to take kids away from their families. They work with the families to sort out the issues presented.
Whatever, my son was beaten by Neil Moncrieff Ben moncrieff dad. The local Authority are trying to remove my child and cover up facts. Aspire Accademy allowed Neil Moncrieff friend Kelly Young aka Kelly Thompson physically abused my son. For 7 yesrs i was placed on the At Risk list for false allegations. Bath child services racially profiled my son. Giving him a bespoke education of a prison enviroment. On thd estate i live Kellh Young abuses children then reports the family for her abuse. In Odd down Bath over 25 children taken by false allegations. Natasha Swaby told me that her team make hundred thousand pounds. Her team wirk with Kelly Young and her family.
Hitting your children is not considered appropriate discipline in UK. Learn the standards and laws of the land you live in and stop trying to bring home country values and practice when they are not welcome.
Yes their first point of call isn’t the parent it’s Social services … when people take their children out if school to homeschool their children they call Social services 😡🙄
Once you report those useless teachers to ofsted they come on you like hell asking you why ddnt you talk to us before you reported us to ofsted. As if they call you when they notice something on your child. Instead the contact safe guarding.
I had a similar story, but i intend to ask the school or social care to write a letter to me about the conclusion, because you never can tell what will happen in the future. What do you think?. Many thanks for the video though.
Listen im born in uk and the system is a mess my child use to come back from school with cuts and bruise and tourtured for how the teachers shouted at them and i must be ok with that? If i ever sent my kid to skl in that state i would have them taken my child did fall over and graze the knee i had social service come glory be to god they left but they need to stop playing with pepole children and the uk is now messing with kids minds telling them about if ur boy you can be a girl with there demonic force i ple the blood of jesus on the sadom and gamora here in the uk but i ended up homeschooling aint no currupt system of babylon haveing my kids
In British schools I know they question children in ks1 about their home life… immensely 👀 this is how a lot of parents from certain ethnic groups come under the radar… eg the Asian or African children… communication is key especially with your children before during and after school… I used to ask my children how their day was.. we discussed the good the bad n the ugly of the day in school even if it didn’t involve my child… my children’s school knew not to ramp with je and my child as I wasn’t a walkover😡👀 the sun is to destroy a child’s success and confidence…hence why alot of Afro children especially boys are excluded from school… mine is home schooled… schools today bring gave the ability to educate my child… education begins at home… and my child wasn’t excluded… I saw the nonsense they were trying and took my son out… ASAP… the English system is a prison to prison system… where their aim is to destroy Afro children and their future….
Read up on the law ASAP! Read up on child protection law, read on safeguarding read on everything you can. Don't rely too hard on people helping you. Go to the library find time make time or they will destroy you
One Nigerian family came in Uk with 4 kids and all was taken by sc,because mum was hit one of kid,but was not at all so seriously.. Is very sad😢.. They went to Nigeria empty hands.
@@halima6926 Hi,I know this case from my good friends,so they told me the truth. They were a nice family with happy kids. Shame is, nobody told them about this law,so they are aware.They came for working here only for few years,but because they didn't had any support from layer or Government from their home country,they failed 😔. They fight in court for probably 2 or 3 years. Mum said that she smacked her daughter,but I believe it wasn't that bad like abuse or anything. There is many kids and young people rude to parents that you never see in you country, because that law put parents in jail for discipline kids...
@@lenkamuhammadova1463 Thank you so much for the update. So sad, that this family had to go through this stress. I pray they got their children back and living happily together. Thank you also to Becca for sharing insight into your experience and educating people on the UK Safeguarding law.
Honestly l am a single Mom, l just came in and scared to bring my child because l am working as a healthcare assistant and a single Mom.lmagine being scared to be discipline your own kids.Lord have mercy.
You are scared you won't be able to hit your children...or scream at them? Lol you can't make this up.. I have my own children who have done things wrong..I've never needed to hit or shout at them to teach them the lesson. The problem is you use lazy discipline tactics which don't actually change the behaviour, just makes your child be more clvwr about how to hide said behaviour from you
They don't understand the Black diaspora, because my daughter going to get her behind beat, If I have to tell her over, & over to do something, & sometimes I have to raise my voice too. 🤷🏿♀️
Hello Becca, thank you for this video. My son is SEN child who is yet to be assessed by a paediatrician, on the waiting list. The school has applied for support from the government but it's yet to be approved. They told me my boy cry alot in class and guess it's because of the environment, they started using ear defenders on my 4 year old son and I had to send an email to them to stop it immediately. Now my worry is that my son always resist when when we are on the way to the school. I practically forced him yesterday. I'm so worried because I don't know what is going on in the school that is making him not wanting to go to school because he can't report to me if anything happens. Honestly I'm so sad as I'm writing this and so confused. They told me they've stopped the ear defenders but I don't know if it's true because there's no cameras in their room. What advice do you have for me please.
@@mylittle2054 I really wish I can but you know how the application is in getting a school place especially here in London. If I withdraw him, no where to go for or is there another way to do this.
I have seen Children with Autism who are sensitive to sounds. If the class is noisy your child might be bothered by that. What was the point of not accepting ear defenders ?They are constantly covering their ears to noise and crying because of sound sensitivity.
@@beccabaetv thanks you so much.for that good information.please can you do video on recently skilled worker dependent visa.all the application process.
