I live in Toronto. The other day, as I left the subway a gust of wind blew off my hat. A nice stranger shouted, "Yo look, it's the hatless freak!" And pedestrians started beating me with planks of wood and barbed wire.
one time i got pizza from an alley and said "only in new york" as i crossed the street with my alley pizza. if there was justice in the world i would have been stuck by a cadillac escalade
This isn't accurate because half the reason NYC is so disgusting is because they didn't think to built alleys. You wish you had alleys so that all the rats and trash congregate there instead of the street (see Chicago).
As someone who lived in proximity to nyc for over a year and habitually doesn't wear hats because they make his head itch, this video really helped me understand why I always felt anxiety any time I went into the city. Not only was the trip guaranteed to cost $20-100 more than whatever my highest cost estimate was, I couldn't even properly take part in one of it's people's most treasured cultural ceremonies: the dropping and retrieving of the hat.
Breh y'all commenting these sarcastic stories to make fun of the tweet but can't see that the tweet is literally being sarcastic as well lmfao "ah, yes, i get it now"😭😭
showing a lot of growth here. firmly held principles, beliefs, but also- contrition. humility. self reflection. its what weve come to expect from joels of all sizes
I left my sweater on the M train one time and when I turned around just as the doors were closing, the woman who had been sitting next to me was putting it on.
Little Joel has honed his craft so efficiently that he can drop a highly problematic take and apology video and disavowment video all in one shot in under 3 minutes! Remarkable powers from someone so little!
This person received the bare minimum of social courtesy and immediately pictured themselves as Sam Raimi's Spiderman in the scene where the New Yorkers all stand up to the green goblin, and honestly, I think that's kind of beautiful
this video captures the true human experience of being online. reacting to hate towards your city with defensiveness, reacting to praise of your city with derision, and then an acceptance about the fact that deep down, it's not about the city, we just like being haters lol. we're not proud of it, and yeah we're just being assholes, but hey man, look man, that's life baby. we should all probably stop. but will we? okay im gonna stop writing this comment now my point is that this video has a three act structure and we come away from it having learned something about the human condition
The self-reflective meta commentary now coming bundled with the video itself completely blindsided me. No longer having to wait 10 whole minutes is the type of consumer conscious practices we've come to appreciate from Little Joel.
I wonder if Little Joel looks at the meta commentary and debates whether he should put it or not, and then thinks about putting a meta meta commentary to justify having the meta commentary in the first place
As somebody who has lived in California my whole life the story of strangers helping pick up a hat moved me to tears. Cooperation, much like water, is a mythical vapor here.
i wholeheartedly agree as well, even as someone who lives in Seattle I feel like kindness is truly a figment in everywhere but the mythic land of New York. When I slip off a banana slug and fall down rain slicked sidewalks directly into the sound, not a single person has even *asked* if I'm alright from atop their orca-boats, and i feel like such formalities ive only heard in legend across the country from the beautiful new yorkers. Stories like this motivate me, that just maybe I'll one day be able to live in a better concrete jungle. With not only less constant construction, but more importantly, more love. Peace and love in New York City only 💚
We love the example of someone with a flat tire. On the east coast: "You friggin' r-word... Here, lemme help ya fix it." On the west coast: "Oh... that sucks. :)."
as someone from seattle we are also distant and cold but it’s actually because we’re antisocial and depressed. we may tell u to pick up ur hat but it will consume our daily capacity of courage.
It's funny, I've had my own "Your hat" story from visiting NYC, where my subway pass was lacking funds and before I could turn back to reload the card, some random teen ran up, shouting "Hey, pops, I got you", and used his student pass to get me past the turnstile. And while I can understand Baby J's amusement about people using stories of random acts of kindness as an example of good NYC culture, despite it being something that can happen anywhere, I struggle to imagine anyone doing that same thing for me back when I lived in Toronto. Maybe Hamilton, but defintiely not Toronto.
The other day I was pulling away from a drive thru at a Taco Cabana in Houston. The cashier yelled "Wait! Your card!" because I almost drove away without my debit card. Thank god she was from New York apparently.
My New York altruism story is that one time my dog picked up a dead pigeon on Broadway and 96th and I tried desperately to get it out of her mouth but she was resolute. Eventually a group of strangers helped me out and one of them suggested offering “a trade” and another sacrificed her muffin and a third helped me move my crazy dog the second she dropped the pigeon. It was incredible. But this was after like twenty minutes of other New Yorker walking by and taking pictures with their phones. So.
I remember vacationing in Chicago for a few days, having never spent much time in a big city before, expecting rough, rude city folk, but then I realized lots of people there are actually really nice and thoughtful, they're just in a hurry because everyone walks or takes the bus/train. That's literally all there is to it. The illusion of gruff detachment literally just comes from seeing thousands of people every day and needing to go somewhere
I'm very biased bc I've never lived anywhere else, but I genuinely think people in Chicago are generally nice. making small talk is so effortless, everyone holds doors for each other, people smile back, and I have had very very very few rude encounters with people. we're just busy, honestly.
I was on an Amtrak from Chicago’s Union Station to the new Moynihan Hall added on to Penn Station in NYC (beautiful, by the way … really miss the city) and the fellow who ran the dining car was this lovely older Brooklynite. I was taking my guitar in a sleeper cabin to a music thingy on Long Island (I no longer like flying), so I had four meals across 32 hours in which to appreciate this man. Well, one thing which surprised me was how many senior midwestern citizens take train vacations-the dining car was always riddled with 70-year-old couples from Ohio and Iowa and such. The other surprise was: EVERY LAST ONE OF THESE COUPLES asked this jolly, endlessly patient New Yorker “Aren’t you scared to live around all that crime?” and “I heard you can’t walk anywhere without getting robbed!” or “It must be terrible to get mugged every day,” and I started tracking in my little notebook how often I overheard him questioned about “the terrible dangerous crime-ridden city” but I stopped counting after sixteen. And every time he’d explain that he’d never been robbed in all his life, how he went to plays and to restaurants all over the city by subway day and night without fear, and how much he loved his city … and the older couples weren’t having it: they’d seem skeptical and keep asking and at least twice, once the dining car fellow was out of earshot, I heard his interrogators tell each other “Well, he must be lying, poor brainwashed guy.” And the dining car fellow _would_ ask the couples, after they’d questioned him, where they’d heard that New York City was so impossibly dangerous, “Where did you hear that crime was so bad?” And every time they’d just reply “Oh, you know, we see the news…” and he’d press “Which news?” And most would eventually, and seeming a little hesitant about it, after some pressing reply “Fox News,” almost as if they sensed a realization, some self-awareness, was dangerously nearby and might at any moment be imposed upon them. But the old dining car fellow would just reply “Huh!” and leave it at that, but he must’ve been amusing himself with this-the same conversation playing out identically so often. But the part that struck me was how consciously the senior couples seemed to want to protect Fox News, their beloved source of a shared identity, from being held up against reality and tested. Talk about brainwashed! Believe me, living just outside Chicago I get the same thing … from other residents! “Oh, crime is through the roof.” But if I ask “Oh, did you get robbed recently?” or “Wow, tell me about what’s happened to you,” not only has it turned out _every time_ that they _haven’t_ been robbed … but they also get a little testy, like they sense that via some gambit they’re about to be lured into reality. But I always drop it at that point. People can find their own way out of the fog if they want to.
Suburbanites are probably the most brainwashed people in the world. I don't know if it's because stupid people like dull environments or if dull environments breed stupid people, but you don't find intellectuals in "quiet neighborhoods."
one of my favorite anecdotes as a younger teen was once when me and my cousins took a trip to nowhere Wisconsin, we were talking to these white teenage boys we met. when we told them we were from Chicago, they asked "have you ever been shot before?" without hesitating.
Okay this opens up a way bigger conspiracy between Fox News and New York. Why does Fox News have a vendetta against New York. What did New York do to get Fox News to point it's propaganda spout straight at it. Is it because there's a lot of immigrants or black people there? Is there a deeper reason? I'm invested now. The pins are on the cork-board.
I was expecting another cut where you were in a 3rd room like, "Ok, so I was looking over THAT footage and I have some more thoughts," and it just kept going with more cuts in different rooms for way too long.
Oklahoma City resident here to say the friendliness in New York feels notably more genuine than the friendliness here. It might be a (real) city thing in general since OKC is like 90% suburb but... I swear everyone's creeped out by everyone else here. Lots of squinty glaring and street crossing anywhere I can walk, and I do it to others as well. Meanwhile walking around NYC I felt like a human being and was comfortable treating my peers as such. Same goes for NJ, the people were much friendlier there than I'd expected or was used to. I'd say the "hospitality" that Oklahomans so badly want to be known for is almost entirely just muscle memory - people hold doors for one another and fuck up the order in 4-way intersections trying to let one another cross first, but I have maybe one friendly chat with a stranger every 1-2 months. Hell, my friend and I thought we were introverts until a trip to NJ convinced us otherwise! Our city's structure just isn't built for socializing and, by extension, the people here are widely antisocial by default. Don't take your city's friendliness for granted, Little Joel, it really is a notable trait.
I moved to KC last year and other than the tenant union I bumped into when dealing with my landlord, people seem pretty shitty or at least blank to each other. Bummer.
From the perspective of someone who also lives in Oklahoma and watches Little Joel videos I hate to break it to you, but we're in a state in which people are more interested in being able to have free access to guns and worried about the "gay agenda", and "them foreigners taking our jobs" than the poor education system, low wages, high poverty, poor health outcomes, and so on and so forth. "Shifty-eyed" is par for the course. 🤷🏾♀️
Just moved from okc to nyc and these are my thoughts exactly. I would add too that the kindness of nyc also feels more genuine in a way because of the completely no-strings-attached nature of it compared to okc. On the rare occasions that I have had nice interactions with strangers in Oklahoma, there's usually something about me that I feel like I have to hide in order to keep things cordial. The kindness is contingent on me being like them. People will openly talk about hating democrats, worrying about the lgbt agenda, being excited about coastal liberal cities flooding (yes, I actually heard someone say that) and so on. Makes it hard to take the surface level politeness very seriously.
@@AVeryLongCat You hit the nail on the head when you said “no strings attached” about interactions with ppl in NYC. i live in nyc and the interactions are usually short but genuine. new york is an international city, so literally everyone here sees a thousand new faces every day. the world visits new york every day. so we’re interacting with people constantly; it forces you to be sociable and friendly.
New York is like, maybe the single most mythologised city in the world. I know that no expectation I have of that city is going to be accurate. It is a city made out of myth. I’m not actually particularly interested in what New York is really like, but I still feel like I _have_ to go there some day just to “make it real” to me.
@@gregoryford2532 Yeah I think New York is significantly more mythologised than Atlantis by society. The myths we make about new york are *believed*. Which is much stronger than a myth we all know is fake (save for some weridos out there)
it's a big north american city. it's about exactly what you'd expect if you've visited one of those at some point in your life. not a bad place to visit, since there's a lot to see. not super "exotic" tho
As a fellow New yorker, I think the sentiment is more ironically pointing out that there are actually nice people in New York. The city gets such a huge rep for it's hustle and bustle culture where people don't stop to say hi or generally enjoy social pleasantries with complete strangers, but that's just my take on this one. 😅😂
@@MrRobertRue Chicago isn't that bad either. Detroit is pretty bad but honestly Detroit isn't and never was in the same league as New York, Chicago, or Philly. It's more comparable to LA.
Born and raised NYer here! A month ago I almost ran into traffic trying to grab this guys cap that the wind blew off. I couldn't just let it get run over when it landed a foot away from me🤷🏾♂️ NYers love to mind her own business but in the moment we have such deep empathy to. Btw Joel, I liked your accent just fine 😊
I think this is what that tweet’s really about, and it’s kind of funny that Little Joel, as a New Yorker, doesn’t like it. I feel like there’s a pretty strong “mind my own business” mentality among most folks in NYC, except when you see someone who needs help. Those moments when strangers model low level altruism give lie to the “fuck off, don’t bother me” mentality that is the city’s reputation. So, overall, this Little Joel video is a mixed bag to me. On the one hand, I do hate people treating New York as a monolith and acting like their (frequently either hipster or yuppie) lifestyles emblematic of “what New York is” or “what makes New York great.” On the other hand, I too enjoy the fundamental decency New Yorkers demonstrate everyday, and I wouldn’t want to deny this NYC enthusiast their moment of happiness in having someone point out their hat fell off.
this is literally what the first part of the video is making fun of lmao. new yorkers jerking themselves off for having the most basic level of human decency
I lived there 8 years like 12 years ago, it's the only big city & also only US city I've ever really spent time in. That said, I really have a staggering number of memories of the kindness of strangers. W/out all these random people making split second decisions to look out for me I would been run over, hit by very high speed bike messengers, mugged, raped, locked out, had to walk from deep somewhere in Queens all the way to deep somewhere in Brooklyn at night, lost my wallet several times over, arrived at work w/ coffee spilled over me or snot hanging from my face... Putting it altogether like this makes me wonder how tf I survived anywhere being the adhd blubbering fool I am but yeah. There's definitely a generosity and impulse to step in that we don't have where I grew up and that I admire. As fckd up and complex as it all also is, obvs, w/ the very visibly atrocious inequalities, and the no social net thing, how even when you wanted to help someone homeless strung out or psychotic that seemed in real need, you never knew if getting authorities involved would just make it worse for them... And how the charities & non-profit world felt ineffectual at (absolute) best. Things that make me feel almost guilty that I got out of everything so unscathed w/ so many people drowning all around. Not a healthy way to feel, kinda why I was done with it. Grateful nonetheless.
I really wanted to reply to that tweet like 'doesn't that happen in every city', but the replies were so pro-New York I thought I'd be ripped to shreds lol
It isn't about the actual act, it's about how it's flavored. If I drop my hat in a suburban neighborhood, maybe one person will pick it up and say "excuse me, you dropped this."; if I drop my hat in NY, 30 people will jump me and scream a conglomerate of "YOUR HAT" variations in a Brooklyn accent whilst fervently gesturing with their hands in an itallian-esque manner. Honestly a horrible take from little joel, maybe Big Joel will have a better one.
Multiple people I know who’ve lived in NYC in the past tell me you could start having a seizure or heart attack in the middle of the street there and hundreds of people will walk right past because it’s “not their business”
i think the biggest reason to like nyc is public transport. im from outside the US and im in NY for uni, and idk if i could live in any other city than nyc if i stay in america
Sure other people in the world will pick up your beanie, but only in New York can you be desperate enough for a shred of hope or joy that you can think of it as a lifechanging show of brotherhood. tHATS NEW YORK BABY!!!
I’m from Seattle and from my single week in NYC, I’d say New York is friendlier, at least on a certain level. People might pick up your hat for you in Seattle, but it will be reluctant. Barely anyone talks to each other here. New York definitely had the feeling of having a bit more random interactions with strangers. But it’s definitely not the only place like that lol. Plenty of places are more friendly and open than Seattle, which is notoriously cold and asocial
the PNW is probably the least friendly place I've ever been, for what it's worth. it's got its merits, but the warmth and openness of the populous is not one of them.
great video, when i pressed the like button an NYC subway rat dragging a pizza slice jumped out of my computer and told me i dropped my hat - would recommend
Yeah New York is crowded and noisy and smells bad sometimes but occasionally when the Green Goblin is fighting Spider-Man you can throw shit off a bridge with him and tell him “This is New York! You mess with one of us you mess with all of us!”
While visiting New York City, I once helped a young couple carry their giant baby stroller up the stairs of the subway to the street and they thanked me profusely for the help. I assumed they were so thankful, because only non-New Yorkers were helpful to people and they were not used to such kindness. Thanks to this tweet I now understand how wrong I was about those who live there.
I’m from rural Alaska, spent college years and a few after in Connecticut, studied abroad in France, worked in London, and am currently living in DC after a decade living in NYC. And I’m willing to say that exactly that kind of pro social behavior is really rare, especially in American cities. New York DOES have more of it, as a huge diverse city where everyone is living on top of each other either fosters a pro-social attitude, or looks like DC where people are so selfish it honestly boggles my mind that anyone would ever choose to live here, or like the vast wastelands of cars that are most American cities.
Tbh I would say it’s wayyy more common in the South, I mean you can debate whether or not it’s sincere or someone just following social rules but that is common and expected behavior here
In my experience in Ohio, nobody's helping. Arizona, depends on where you are. Texas you're pretty likely to be helped. Oregon is also generally pro social. New York cancels out any kindness with sheer banal capitalistic evil... Though that's increasingly everywhere as the capital class tightens its grip around the throat of our mostly apathetic/ignorant populace. As the american dream steadily transitions to a nightmare any city people move to in order to 'make it' is increasingly filled with the downtrodden. Pro social behavior comes at an energy premium that fewer and fewer people can manage to afford. Fucking liberal/conservative bourgeoise propaganda treadmill, both sides only benefit the wealthy. One does so by making vague gestures toward equality (like tax breaks for landlords lowering rent prices marginally) and the other does so with overt malice, the result is the same. Ranked choice voting and no electoral college or this generations children wont live till 50.
It’s interesting that you mention France, because when I first went to Paris I expected a lot of rude behavior … but my stays in Paris turned out to be the lengths of time in which people have been the nicest to me. At the time I interpreted it to be changing attitudes: I figured I was meeting a younger generation who weren’t as rude as their elders. But in hindsight, I think people are nice in Paris because of what you say: out of necessity, with so many people from all walks of life living together in close proximity and having to get along. And probably the perception of the French as being rude has more to do with miscommunication than with anything else: social norms are different the world over, and the French are very direct when they speak, which folks from other cultures can find offputting, and people from the USA in particular are trained to smile all the time and to think something is terribly the matter when anyone around them doesn’t always smile … while the rest of the world don’t forever grin like idiots, and even find such giggling and grinning a bit pathological, or even a sign of being a bit simple.
@@danopticon my thoughts on that from spending a few months in france: French people are predominantly bilingual, but they will not speak English if you don't at least try to speak French. My guess is that stereotype came from typical American tourists showing up with absolutely no respect for local customs or culture. I watched tourists try to ask questions in English and upon being waved off just trying to speak English LOUDER. I'm sure they walked away thinking the French were rude.
my take of the tweet is that the hype of new york - the expectation of something unique and extraordinary - had been totally suppressed by its perceived faults. when the hat is dropped and then retrieved, the city is no long dominated by filthy rat-streets, but brightened by the people who all strive for a better life within those rat-streets. it represents the human element, the connection of the individual to the whole, and thus an overwhelming sense of belonging and meaning. you’re not a stranger in new york, but a member of it.
I was in Montreal one time and some guy's granddaughter dropped her hat, and not only did I tell him about it, I told him IN FRENCH. Take that, New York!
This is genuinely one of my favorite videos on the platform. The imitation. The hate (which as we know is good). The apology directly installed within the video itself. It all just... works. Thnak you litle joe
i think when people talk about that stuff, they're referring to the strength of the local social contract. i have lived in a bunch of cities and have moved around a lot and new york does in fact have a very strong social contract compared to most of the western cities i've lived in. it is legitimately striking how willing people are to help you and how concerned they are for your well-being despite not knowing you at all. i love san francisco, it is a beautiful city that i'd love to live in some day, but i can't rely on the other people there to look out for me the same way i can when i'm in new york. this is of course subjective and i'm like, a white guy and that has an effect on how i experience the world, but that has been my lived experience in the city.
Yep I agree. I travel high or drunk alot so sometimes I end up at the wrong bus stop and at like one in the morning people will like the sbs isn't running, the local is a block down. Like I didn't know the dude. The people out in San Antonio where I lived for a few years would never do shit like that. I got yhe cops called on me multiple tomes out there for smoking weed.
I don't have any data to back this up but usually walkable (I know that's a buzzword now but bear with me) and dense cities like NYC have really strong social contracts. I imagine the reason you don't find that in SF is because the city is not very dense at all. Not only has the lack of density resulted in the entire city being replaced by elite tech bro scumbags, but less dense neighborhoods don't foster the strong ties you find in NYC. And I think that before people are comfortable with helping random strangers, they have to be comfortable with the "strangers" they find in their own neighborhood. Same reason why suburbanites are so closed off -- they don't even know the people in their own neighborhood, so why should they pay attention to you? Or even trust you?
One time I was talking in a Discord server about how I lived in an apartment building that was on top of a bunch of shops, so I could just go downstairs to get, like, burritos or chinese food pretty much whenever I wanted and someone said "Oh, I didn't know you live in New York too." Like that sort of mixed zoning is unique to NYC and not something you'll find in basically every city and even most suburbs.
@@gregoryford2532 Some suburbs and rural areas have zoning laws that really strictly make sure that you cannot mix residential and commercial like that, but mostly yeah, if you live in any sort of place with a sizeable population you'll see that kind of thing. But still, someone in the server heard me talking about it and was like "oh damn, only in New York, bay-bee!"
@@gregoryford2532 Uh, no... no they don't. Trust me, the town I live in has a population of 17,000 & you have to travel nearly 100 miles before you find a town larger [which still only around 50,000 people.] Not only don't "most shops" have apartments above them, I actually can't think of ever seeing, in real life, a business that had living space located on a floor above the business space. Also, shops on Main Street out in nowhere USA aren't four stories tall because they aren't four stories tall. In my town there are like 4 dozen non-residential buildings [at most,] with about half of those being churches, then a number of government buildings [courthouse, public library etc...,] then hospitals, & finally the 8 or so businesses that have more than 1 floor have 2 floors & the 2nd floor is warehouse/storage space & most of them are underneath the main business floor, not above. Maybe your getting that idea from movies or something? Or maybe because there are plenty of stores that look like they would have at least more than 1 floor in them. But its a combination of having high ceilings & old-style commercial buildings [like 1800s & very early 1900s,] having like a fake front for the building that makes it look bigger than it actually is.
I moved here a year ago after growing up on a farm, and it’s amazing. I found a room for $650/mo with awesome roommates, I have access to everything I can imagine, and just going for a walk is so stimulating. I’ve cured myself of all my woes, 10/10 would do it again and wish I had done it sooner
I’m currently in New York and, earlier today, someone left their gloves on the seat of the ferry as they went to disembark. I managed to catch up with them and give them their gloves back. Very fortunate it happened while I was here rather than while I was at home as then I would have been forced to have simply thrown the gloves overboard.
My most memorable experience, admittedly one of the few, experiences in NYC, was when I was in Little Italy at some kind of festival. There were booths of people's wares in a street market. I was bending over a rather interesting magnet booth picking out homemade animal magnets, and I here, "'ey you looking good over there!" I straightened and looked around wasn't sure who it was for but nonetheless interested, and one of them goes "oh! dude looks like a lady!" I had a (rather shameful) moustache at the time, but it was peak skinny jeans era and I was wearing the tightest of purple low rise 2009 jeans. Another thing is that I'm trans but at the time I wasn't out (not with that fuckin dead brown caterpillar across my upper lip). They didn't know, but they did know. That shit used to always happen, but it wasn't scary cause it was clear I was a """dude"""; now, it's scary cause they get mad. I guess because they think being turned on by a trans femme is gay to them and threatens their masculinity and they can rage over it (did they rage when they shot one to trans porn?). Anyway, not to digress into darkness, but I did get harassed by some authentic New York Italians in Little Italy with the accent and everything. Good times. Anyway, I live in Portland, I hate it but nowhere else seems that much better anyway. I will defend the pnw to my death. Yeah, we're insincere! Yeah, we are often flakey! Yes, there is the Seattle Freeze (that portlanders don't think they have, but I'm from western WA, and it's the same damn thing but """nicer""")! but I love this part of the world. I'm born and raised, I can't not.
I don't think anyone on public transportation in any city would be this attentive to other people, let alone in NYC. The rule seems to be avoid eye contact and pretend other don't exist as much as possible.
I grew up in NYC and lived there as an adult. I also lived in London, Moscow, LA, Denver, Atlanta and Hong Kong. NYC is the most friendly mega city. I live in Vancouver now and it's like LA with rain. Introverted narcissism is the meta of this city. I also love Atlanta
Have you been to Toronto? I've been to NYC and Toronto multiple times and in my experience the people of Toronto are much nicer and it's not even close. Though I have to say, New Yorkers are nicer than people in Montreal imo, which was a pretty big surprise to me
@@Alex-cw3rz bruh you cannot call people unhealthy who are forced to wade through thousands of bodies every single day alone. You would have to be unhealthy NOT to not be affected by that. I cant imagine not recognising every person i looked at every single day. Thats sounds so terrifying
@@lordbauer5983 how close do you have to get to talk to someone, I'm not saying you should kiss them. Also are you implying the only reason they would ever be on a train is to lose a hat.
@@KurtyMurdi do you think the reason the person is on the train is to lose their hat? I presumed already on it and then I'm talking about their mental health, can garentuee this person has social anxiety and that is not healthy.
Flashback to when someone told me they loved NYC bc they always ran into everyone they knew despite it being a massive city. And putting aside the fact that that’s how neighborhoods work, I didn’t know how to tell her it was bc she was filthy rich and only hung out in rich ppl places. It isn’t the spirit of NYC, it’s gentrification….
I wouldn't say it's gentrification. I'd say that your buddy just likes cities in general. People in suburbs see each other all the time too, but rarely interact, probably because they don't even realize they're seeing the same faces -- people keep to themselves. Pretty miserable environment for non-introverts.
@@mikeyreza the fact that she routinely ran into friends from her private school in the kinds of environments that only the wealthy can afford in neighborhoods that are increasingly becoming unlivable for the working class is the result of gentrification. Her parents make 1 mil plus a year, she is not an average New Yorker.
"You mess with Spider-Man, you mess with New York!" 2nd citizen joins in: "You mess with one of us, you mess with all of us!" 2nd citizen throws arms out while holding weaponry that is to be rendered onto Goblin's face via throwing.
I've met a few nice people from New York, but I've also met a lot of them who were very rude, enough for me to form an opinion about NYC culture. The thing that differentiates their rudeness in my mind from other rude people from here or other places is their insistence that they're not being rude, they're just "being from New York" so I should be okay with them being rude to me while I provide them with customer service.
I get what you mean, as someone who grew up in one of the boroughs and then one of the suburbs, it is so weird. It's such a weirdly romanticized place is simultaneously really high and really low- like there is some pride about how tough the city is and if you make it there, it really shows your mettle and people just are impersonal and nobody cares about nobody, but also this guy helped me with my bags rather than kicking them down the stairs while people just flowed past like a river flows around boulders. Like...I saw someone just destroy himself falling down or on some stairs. He looked like someone in finance but most people just flowed past him, didn't stop and stare or help, except for one or two people, and then cops and medics were there treating him almost instantly while people just flowed past. There's this weird callousness but also instant help in the situation.
For me, it's New York style pizza. The best fast food period. I even ask for extra sauce and the staff is so friendly and more than willing to oblige. One time I asked for a bagel and they gave me three. I said, "Wow, three for NYC!" and the nice friendly New Yorker laughed and said, "I'm going to call you 3-for-NYC!". Now the every place greets me with "hey it's 3-for-NYC!" and ALWAYS gives me three bagels. It's such a fun and cool atmosphere in New York, I go out at least 3 times a week for lunch and a large iced coffee with milk instead of cream, 1-2 times for breakfast on the weekend, and maybe once for dinner when I'm in a rush but want a great meal that is affordable, fast, and can match my daily nutritional needs. I even dip my fries in NY style pizza sauce, it's delicious! What a great city.
Nah Joel,, youre right that helping someone get their hat back is something that can happen anywhere, but the enthusiasm, the spirit, the unhesitating, fearless eruption from *everyone* "YOUR HAT YOUR HAT!!" Thats something that really is unique; you can't find that just anywhere. It feels intensely human and soulful, i think, and in most places ive lived and passed through and traveled to, its not 10 people all going "YOUR HAT YOUR HAT," its 30 people going about their business for 10 seconds until one of them slows down, thinks for a second, and then "Uhm excuse me,,, you dropped this" Which is admittedly still extremely human in its own way, but it lacks that charisma and willfulness and personality of the Hat Scene. You really do not see that everywhere.
my favorite part of Spider-Man 2 is when the titular Spider-Man is on a subway train surrounded by concerned citizens who simply want to tell him he dropped his mask. (which if you think about it, a mask is like a hat but MORE)
New York City: A city whose bustle alienates people to such an extent that experiencing basic human decency has the same emotional impact as being rescued from subway tracks I also think people go weirdly hard on NYC about things, but I also found it weird how often I personally found myself intensely touched by what would be common decency almost anywhere else
I used to live close to the city, and I always find my own experience to be the total opposite of what people say online. I always felt like the city was lonesome, cramped, and either too hot or too cold. Moving in any other direction, I noticed happier people, people that you could fall into random conversation at a grocery store with. My personal feelings are that NY is so hostile that people HAVE to have some semblance of banding together, or it might be too unbearable to live in.
Little Joel viewer here (Lil Joel popped up in my recommended; i have yet to witness Big Joel as of yet {i don't think he's real}), and I kinda tuned out to what you were saying and just enjoyed your incredible NY accent & voice, so your comments at the end were perfection. Thanks for continuing to bless my recommended page 💜
great video, i really enjoyed how you cut away and did a little retrospective thing about the first half of the video but...but ngl I'm disappoint that little joel didn't keep cutting out to another retrospective examining what he said in the last layer until the video started to devolve into something weird. idk
