We are sharing my journey with gender affirming procedures because we want to give a transparent sense of what this process has been like for us. As I state in the video, this is not an endorsement that surgery is something necessary or even good for everyone to undergo. This channel represents my experience and my experience alone, so I don’t claim to speak for other trans people in any way. -Shaye
Shay you were a very handsome man. But you are an absolutely gorgeous woman. Your eyes are even brighter. It’s like your inner beauty and confidence is really coming out. I know this had to take a lot of guts and courage. I applaud you for sharing your life with all of us. And Amanda you are one strong supportive person. You both are beautiful. I’m glad you are sharing your journey with us. A lot of people myself included do not understand a lot of this. But with you being so open honest and vulnerable it is helping us to understand. And I want to thank you for that. I’ve never judged I’ve just always been curious. Like how does one know? What kind emotions are they dealing with? And then most of all I think to myself do they have a support system without being judged. My bonus child I believe is going through this as an adult. My spouse is not supportive. It really bothers me. Watching you has given me some insight of how just maybe I can help them.
What you’ve felt like on the inside is becoming more apparent to us all. Beautiful. I am an 85 year old woman who is becoming educated. Thank you. Carry on! ❤❤
Hi! Love your content! I'm 80, just started HRT 4 weeks ago, already feeling better! My skin is softer and less oily, my chest is beginning to "stir". I may never have such surgeries, but the benefits of HRT, I believe, will still be a comfort to me. I may have to depend on a wig and wardrobe to present more feminine, or, at least androgynous! Best of luck to you both! I will subscribe!❤❤❤
Shaye looks like a model to me. As a fellow shy person, I love seeing her go from being really shy to being more comfortable talking to the camera... more confident. 💕
I love watching this couple, this is as bold as a person can be, to find their True self, one question I do have is, and Forgive my ignorance or maybe I shouldn't go there, but will voice adjusting be part of the transition to meet the closest possible to that of a Woman voice? Can that be adjusted surgically or is it strictly through personal training and coaching?
@@Defender78 As with any part of transition, it is entirely up to the individual. I'm not sure how Shaye feels about her voice, but I myself am working towards a more feminine voice. I have been to a speech therapist to help, but it mostly comes down to practice, and trail and error. There are two different surgeries around that area. One is the tracheal shave, which reduces the size of the adam's apple to a feminine standard, but doesn't change the voice. The other is voice feminisation surgery, which hightens the pitch that you speak at. It's important to note though, that even after this surgery, you will need to train it so it won't sound coarse. It's also not uncommon for your total range of pitch to be decreased, unfortunately. Because of this potential risk, as well as the fact that you have to train anyway, it's recommended to put as much effort into training as you can, before jumping to surgery. Personally, I believe that I won't need to vocal surgery. I can get it to where I want it to be, I just can't maintain it yet. So practice will be key (too bad I internally cringe whenever I try...). I do plan on getting the tracheal shave though. While shifting your voice into a higher register actually moves the adam's apple up naturally, and can somewhat hide it, I'm just worried about it being visable when I'm not speaking.
@jcoulton4 From what I've seen/heard, people can most certainly train their voice to a higher pitch. I followed Eden The Doll's journey with that surgery and she was having quite a bit of issues with her voice after her surgery. It seemed really intensive from her videos. I hope all is amazing with everything you have planned. 💕
Amanda, the love you have for Shaye reminds me of my wife. I’m going to be 37 this week and I’ve been with my lovely wife Jordan since 2014. I began my mtf transition in 2022 and day by day I’m just happier and happier. Just HRT and social transition. FFS is something I want but it’s scary too. Thanks for being so open about this journey. I would have understood if she couldn’t do this and left me. She didn’t. Transition is such a beautiful but overwhelming and terrifying process. It would have been so much harder and lonelier without my wife. I love the love you two share. Keep shining your light. You’re both beautiful souls and I look forward to all your new content. Lots of love. 🫶 -Sara
I just love Amanda. I don’t think she gives herself enough credit for being just as wonderful of a person as she is. She shows her love in so many different ways. You can tell she’s just such a caretaker, and she loves you Shaye, to the moon and back! ❤
Shaye is so beautiful. I’m so grateful she’s able to have these procedures that make her feel more comfortable in her skin. And Amanda, besides being very beautiful herself, is such a wonderful partner. What an amazing journey this couple is on! I’m grateful that they choose to share it with us.
Thank you so much for taking the time to film these little interviews as a way of documenting your journey! It helps so many people to have you both as a wonderful example of pure LOVE!
From here, Shaye already looks STUNNINGLY beautiful! I can’t wait to see what you’re having done. I just can’t imagine you getting any prettier! 😍 Amanda is gorge too!!!
Shaye you are so gorgeous. There is a peace & stillness I get to experience when you speak to us. I'm so happy at the support you have - it wasn't the same for my friend & she died. I'm still a bit haunted by her journey and have educated myself ever since she expressed her intention to transition in 2015. Back then I noticed so much fear arising in my system around her opening up & it did take me several months to catch up & realise 'no big deal'.
It’s very brave to share your journey with us. You’re both so intimate on Camera. It’s like you’re chatting directly to us. Amanda are such a lovely person and so thoughtful and deep in how you approach everything you’re a really wonderful couple both of you. I wish you the very best with your surgery, but Amanda is right how you feel really comes from the inside. The outside does matter but the inside is where things really change. Sharing your journey with us I’m sure helps so many people find their beautiful insides as well. Sending you both love.
I have a family member who is transitioning, which whilst I support them, it can be worrying and difficult to get my head around it all. Your videos are so helpful for me to have a better understanding. Thank you. I hope your surgery and healing goes well xx
Shaye, I know you already had your surgery but I hope you are healing well! Shaye and Amanda you love for each other is just amazing. I’m glad you’re there for each other to walk through life. I always look forward to your videos. It honestly helps me to be more open and understanding of transgender women and men and have honest conversations with myself about being an ally and what that means. I believe I’ve come far especially coming from a fundamental Christian background but I still have ways I can improve. I first fell in love with you decorating your home, before your Mormon Stories episode, but I love this side of your RU-vid too, maybe more. Thanks ladies!
Beautiful both of you, I'm 70 years of age and I think things could have been better back in the 80s when I dreamed of transitioning but did not like now have the money. Shaye, I wish like you go through with surgery you have been going through now for the last three years. beautiful.
There is a comment just above yours of a 80 year old lady who just started hormone replacement therapy. Maybe that’s something you still could consider. Wish you all the best! ❤
I just want to say that I think that you both are such beautiful women inside and out. Shaye, I just have to say that I think that yo have one of the most gorgeous, sincere, and amazing smiles that I have ever seen. the way that the sun is hitting you and then the sunbeams that you emit into the world...just beautiful! The way that Amanda looks at you and the way you look back at her...that speaks volumes! I could only dream of being half as beautiful as both of you! Thank you for all the rays of sunshine you both put into the world!
You both are so beautiful inside and out. Shaye, your journey was meant to be. You are so brave to live your life authentically, and thus far, you look and sound amazing. Love to you both from Royal Oak, MI ❤
Praying the surgery is smooth for you both! Also, that Shaye will heal quickly and be as pain free as possible, and Amanda will know that she is helpful and be easy on herself! You are both so WONDERFUL and I always pray for the easiest road possible in your journey! 🙏🏻
Congratulations! Would love a video of what you did that was helpful post-op to make recovery as comfortable as possible. My wife is having surgery later this year and I’m feeling all those feelings with you!
Beautiful women both inside and out. It’s refreshing to watch your channel. It’s so full of honesty, transparency, positivity, and understanding. The support and love you have for one another is enviable. Speaking of envy, I wish my hair looked as good as Shaye’s.
Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I find it fascinating and it is educating me on the things individuals/couples go through when they are "different" from the "norm". However, while I starting watching for education, I find myself coming back and to watch the love between both of you. I see the work that Amanda has had to go through in understanding this change and showing you the unconditional love she has for you and her family. I see the appreciation from Shaye and the need to make sure Amanda is comfortable with every step. It's beautiful to watch and is very apparent in your videos. I pray that you continue to grow and love each and always cherish each other because I put myself in your shoes and although my husband is the love of my life, I think it would be so difficult for me to go though this. In the end, I believe I would, because I can't imagine not having my husband in my life and if this is the only way I could so that he is happy, I would. But it takes a love so grand as the love you both have for each other. Cherish it because it does not come around often.
You both are beautiful, inside and out. And reading the other comments from older trans women has given me hope. I'm a 71 year old trans man who transitioned late and still have another surgery I desperately want. Maybe this will give me the courage to go forward! Thank you!
There are another 3 60+ trans people in this comment section, you guys seriously need to get in contact and form like a support group for each other... And if you could make some videos, that would be amazing 😍😂, I'm so intrigued 😂. But even if not, just to encourage and love each other 😚, just my idea... But it's a good one 👀🤭😂, take care
I am so happy for you Shaye!..To see that you have such a phenomenal support system in your life!..Your biggest cheerleader is clearly Amanda, and she is also number one out of your whole support system!.. It’s so nice to see that when someone is struggling and is trying so hard to find themselves, and their true self at that, they also have the love and encouragement needed when navigating throughout this journey!..I only wish that everyone who is going through what Shaye has, also had the amazing support that she has!..How incredibly awesome would that be?.. You are both truly blessed to have each other!..and I wish you both every happiness that this world has to offer!.. You guys have a beautiful family and are such an inspiration!..I have no doubt whatsoever, that you guys are helping so many people through your honesty and vulnerability and your courage to put your lives on all social media platforms!.. By doing so you will give others the courage needed to line up and match how they look on the outside with how they feel on the inside!.. I love your channel and content and I thank you for sharing!..❤❤❤.. I will also be praying for Shaye and her upcoming surgery!..Praying for success and a speedy and pain free recovery!..😊
Shea you are gorgeous and you can hear peace and comfort coming through your voice. You literally are slaying it. Simply stunning. I’m so grateful you and Amanda are still together and love. Will always follow your journey.
You are both so brave and so loving. Shaye shows such appreciation for Amanda when it would be so easy to be caught up in her own journey. Really admire you both. Xxx
Thank you again for sharing your experience. I just had FFS last month and it proved harder than I expected. I unfortunately went through the entire surgery and first couple of weeks of healing by myself in another country and then traveled back home. I’m so happy with my results so far and look forward to when all the swelling goes away and feeling comes back. Speedy recovery Shaye. Love you guys.
Being so open about such a personal part of your life is beautiful and amazing. From my end I find it most fascinating, enlightening and I'm so happy that you are both honouring yourselves.
Shaye, your surgery is amazing, you are so beautiful! Wishing you and your family the very best! I hope you are feeling better in your new authentic self. Thanks for sharing, it is such an education for many people including myself!
I saw a few of your Halloween and home theater videos years ago and then lost track. Now I see you’ve been very busy. Good for you! I’m sending nothing but love to you and your family. I’m so glad you are all supporting each other, and growing together. It’s a wonderful thing.
Blessings on your surgery. May you heal on the inside as well as the outside and feel more like the true you as each day passes. My positive thoughts and prayers are with you and your family!! ❤
Thank you so much for sharing your journey. You both are soo beautiful. Wishing Shaye gentle healing and Amanda lots of good energy during this time. Love to both of you.💖💖💖
God speed to you and your family as you take another step in this journey. You’re very brave. I’m thankful you have such a supportive family and I’m sure you are too. In the end love wins. Be strong.
Im a new subscriber and i just want to say i support you doing whatever makes you feel happy and normal in your journey!!! I fell in love with your channel because of the love you have for each other… you are both amazing people!
This is such a beautiful video. The way you both talk to each other makes me feel so safe. The respect and love is so apparent, honestly, humility, and faith in humanity are traits you both clearly share. Sending much love.
Shaye, my thoughts are with you and all the family on your next step to be the true you. wishing you all the best and a healthy recovery and can't wait to see the next updates. 💐
Gender dysphoria is a trauma response. Shaye is experiencing a mental health breakdown and our current society doesn't help people find the root of the problem, they join in with the dysphoria. If it were 500 years ago, you would have to face the trauma and deal with the issue that caused the dysphoria in the first place. If we told a bulimic person, "yes, you are so far, you should go throw up again"....that would be insane. No one would do that, but yet, when people have trauma that manifests as gender dysphoria, everyone jumps on board to support the mutilation of people's sacred, divinely given bodies. Our society is drowning in mental health problems. I'm so sorry for whatever you experienced that made you feel unworthy as a male. You were worthy of love, you still are, and you're a child of God.
I couldn’t have said any better. Thank you for your educational and kind thoughts. We have national mental health crisis and everyone is just fine with normalizing it.😢
I also think after he mutilated his genitalia he will be off looking for a man to make him feel womanly. I don’t think his “ project” ends here.. I feel bad for his wife to go with it this far and just being discarded after everything is said and done. I don’t see this …whatever they got going on lasting.
Shaye, you are stunning, first of all. I have watched your journey the whole time. You and Amanda need to know that you really are changing the world! Secondly, I am a completely straight woman, and you are so inspirational even to me! I love that you two don’t let anyone dictate your happiness. Keep it up you two, I love you both!
Such a beautiful video! ❤Thank you for sharing your journey with the world. Freedom is self-determination. And as you both said, it's for each person to choose what beauty means to them, and what they need to feel good in their own skin.
You two are so amazing, thoughtful, entertaining, and compelling. What a wonderful aesthetic you have. I value your inner selves, even though your appearances are stunning.
Amanda!! I want to be you when I grow up! You are so supportive, loving and knowledgeable!! I use every single one of your videos as a lesson that I get to apply to my daughter and I’m just so grateful!! Kate will be starting puberty blockers within the next year, which I’m so grateful we can do for her and I feel like I’m the lucky one that gets to come along side her and just cheer her on! Thank you both!!
Shaye, you look great to me, the plastic surgeon definitely knows what he is doing. Amanda is so incredibly supportive in helping you both (and us), navigate through these processes. Feeling really confident that all will be well. Question: I was wondering if both of you have thought about taking some courses in meditation Ike TM, it would be fascinating to see what spiritual connections this would add to your souls journey. Thank you for the update Amanda and Shaye, have a safe trip.👍❤️
Any kind of medical decision is so personal... I tend to shy away from medical procedures for myself, but it's so inspiring what can be done to help those for whom it's the right choice! May the procedure and healing process go as smoothly as possible!
what an exceptionally extraordinary journey you both have aligned with; brave and intense; vulnerable and fierce; both ends of intense emotions plus all the nuance ones inbetween; adding on parenting too, to the mix and wow! y’all are truly leaning into being human beings in this particular physical manifestation✨❤️🔥✨❤️🔥..
Thank you so much for sharing your brave and - for me still very unusual - journey… your story is very important for learning and acceptance of the society. Many greetings from Austria and good luck!!!
Thank you both, for continuing to share with us 😊. Today I received word that the Nuffield Brighton (UK) hospital have increased their surgical capacity. They're able to offer me an outpatient appointment, within the next few weeks..I'm finally going to be considered for GRS! It's been such long wait - I was first referred in 2022. I've been able to save enough money to start having Laser Hair removal again, & my is BMI is an acceptable 24.4. (the maximum allowed/preferred by the NHS is 28). Anywho, I was just really chuffed, & wanted to share. I hope that's okay? Best wishes to you both 😊.
