I always remember my Papa pointing out a woman in a brand new $100,000 AMD and her red soled LV shoes, fancy business suit. We were at a coffee shop sharing a cappuccino. He asked me what I saw, I said "She's rich!!" And he said "No, she has A LOT of bills!" That always stuck with me.
She may be rich for all anyone knows I know some people that pay for cars like that in check and wear plenty of jewelry and yes some are happy and some people are not
Papa is a very smart man. Appearance is everything but you never know what their life is really like. Also Graham feels he has to keep up with his Friends because he's scared he won't have any. My Cousin does that, spending like it's an addiction. 😢.
i love this show but since these are circa 2002, they are so ridiculously outdated I’d love to see new ones. I cringe when I see what we used to pay for cell phones
Andrea Bay very few people actually buy them outright, these days you usually just pay 50 quid a month with unlimited everything, Back in the day the handset was cheaper but you could easily spend hundreds on calls if you weren’t careful
Graham is lovely. I can see how his issues arised because of his mums partner treating him badly and the mum not protecting him from this. The scene in the london restaurant is lovely where his mum says she is proud of him. You can see how much this meant to him. I do hope he went on to have a happy life as I sense he had so much to give in terms of career. Hopefully he found some sincere friends too.
I loved this episode!!! It's amazing how all these different traumas can lead to bad adulting decisions! I've learned a lot about myself through watching these! Thank to all those that made themselves vulnerable going through this process so we can all learn and grow!
Poor boy, you can see the pain in his face. He's very brave and so self aware. I'm sure he'll fix his low self esteem and go on to do great things and live at peace with himself.
I've watch about 4 episode of this show and to be quite frankly this episode and this man is kind of fresh air to watch. He didn't complain he actually trying and not blowing the budget money that he was assign. He's pretty mature about the situation and it is refreshing to watch. Also, he's taking the responsibility to actually pay for his rent. He take extra hours instead of partying and using credit cards so that's quite good.
I am glad I didn't comment until the end of he episode. My first impression of him was just pure disgust, but by the end I find him charming, smart, and quite humble.
Because the children play on the guilt factor and so they can't say no but unfortunately it just doesn't benefit anyone in the long run. It has to be drilled into people that you have to work for what you want and to live within your means.
@@meaganglaser Clearly Mum chose a man over her children. Happens all the time, sadly. This episode still bothers me, even watching it now. I'll never understand how a parent can choose another person - particularly someone who HATES their kids - over said children. It's sick.
She deserves to be taken for granted because all the time he was growing up she took him for granted assuming that he would be OK with her placing a man as being more important than her own son. She gets what’s coming to her in the end called karma.
Absolutely Ridiculous I agree. But if I was his mum I would see sense and wouldn't put up with a partner who disrespected and had a problem with any of my children. It seems with the money given to Graham it was only treating the symptoms not the root cause. Love your name by the way 😅
My parents are very well to do. They worked hard their whole lives and lived below their means and invested carefully. They eventually built up a sizeable investment and real estate portfolio. They made it perfectly clear that it was their money and they weren't our personal ATM machines. They paid for our college tuition but we had to work part time to pay our expenses. IF we graduated they bought us a modest new car and gave us a one time cash gift to help us establish ourselves. If we blew the money on a Las Vegas vacation , oh well, no more was coming from the parents.
My dad used to say “this isn’t our house. It is my house. I paid for it. You are a tenant until you can pay your own rent or a mortgage. I look forward to the dinner invites.” My brother lived there until he was 29.... lol.
college tuition paid, *a car*, cash to start your life... that's freaking enormous. i freaking wish that was my life. my parents refused to even give m lunch money or an allowance, so i started working part-time as a lifeguard at 13 and haven't stopped working since. could tell they couldn't wait for university to come around, until then i made sure to use their food and shelter and felt blessed for it, because i figured many others don't even have that and/or don't survive. my parents would tell me to make myself a lunch from whatever was in the fridge and to take the freaking bus. maybe what you experienced was common in your circle, but trust and believe, a very lucky few get the kind of start in life you did. what a blessing.
Something that interests me is that the only mention of his (presumed) sexual orientation was between mum and Benjamin. He didn't seem to have a boyfriend, or to be spending time in specifically 'gay' clubs or venues. I wonder whether he was having issues accepting himself in terms of his sexual orientation? Things were quite different in the early 2000s. Could have been worth exploring that rather than just focusing on mummy issues.
Things weren’t different in the early 2000s. I’m not gay myself but had gay friends and even had a gay flat mate thing a were completely normal and they never had any problems hooking up and living their lives like anybody else. I think people think we live in enlightened times when actually I feel as though people are way more narrow minded now rather than back then.
I'd rather be with very few friends but those that I have lift, inspire, motivate, challenge and love me. Not my wallet. Also, thank God I don't drink alcohol. What a waste of health and money.
yeah it is just weird that he is expecting people to change at the same pace as he is, did he even talk to her in advance about the new chances and lisa needing to pay rent on time?
In every one of these shows that has the person spending money on expensive clothes that person looks awful; you can't see where the money has been spent.
Graham’s mother really pisses me off. Back when he was younger and even right now it’s clear that men have and still are far more important than her own blood child. That is disgusting. 😡
This was in the 2000s no unlimited data or mins or texts it was 400 mins 400 texts and 400mb data or something and no spend caps so obviously went over on the bill lol
There's medication that helps with compulsive shopping. Some of these addicts need to be medicated. I'm a former compulsive shopper. I've been in recovery for a few decades now.
bigearedmouse17 it's just pure stupidity to pay for your adults child's lifestyle. It's quite cruel really because they are then lacking the skills to self provide and be financially savvy.
He is cute but needs to be more appreciative of his mom. He seems to feel he is owed ...and yeah his ' friends' are not considerate of him either. It feels kinda sad to me.
33:31 'Accepted'' Woa mother of the year here so she detest her son for not being straight and she is aware of it that is why she pays for everything because she sees it as a punishment and as a way to live with herself in a ' I pay for his stuff so I am a good mother' kinda of way. Her son knows that his mother cannot accept him and uses it as a mean to punish her, she does not love me so she can pay for my stuff at least.
I think he’s a nice guy - his mother doing a very bad job of raising an independent son, I’d like to know it was ok in the end for him. Going by the fashion this show is about 15 years old.
I once read a comment on youtube it said, "a man who chases women will always run of money, but a man who chases money will never run out of women," this gentleman is buying his freinds affection,
Ben Fry always needs to try to find some angle about the guest being screwed up from either their parents doing a bad job or being bullied. In this episode, Ben tells Graham's mom that the reason why Graham is messed up is because the mom isolated him when she learned he was gay.
I find it stupid to bring him to that shop. Obviously, he was enjoying the attention of the shopping assistants in the expensive shops (he mentikned that himself). So she misses the whole point here. As he has a cool style and wants to be special, at least she could have introduced him to second-hand shopping, even cheaper, and sustainable as a plus
Yes, fashion and prices are vintage but the person/family issues aren’t outdated. Let’s look at the kids in the US who just had their parents buy their admissions to top colleges- and end up doing prison time.
