I think it's just really hard, especially on national radio. I've started conversations with people before with the intent to tell them a thing. And then dance around that thing until much later in the convo - or don't say it altogether. You're right but it must be really hard to do
@@aaronsacks470 yeah I get that but they purposely took the time to get on the air if they want good help they need to give good info, if they are embarrassed by the situation why even cal in the first place knowing its on air, no ones perfect though just commented as an observation...
I worked in an ER for over a decade. I can relate. I wish people would just tell us the truth. I don't care if you overdosed on something! I am here to help you, but you have to tell me the truth so I can treat you as fast as possible and get you feeling better. It's ok to be overdosed on drugs or alcohol in an emergency...I WANT you to get long term help; but right now, I just want you to live and recover from the emergency. I know awesome drug, alcohol, and addiction counselors, but they can't even get into the equation until AFTER you've been honest and gotten better from the acute emergency.
One of the most annoying calls I’ve ever heard. Those guys were too patient with her. I probably would’ve hung up on her when she got to the alcoholic statement.
Right because the husband being a stay at home dad explains why she's not only an alcoholic, but a gambling addict. So I guess all those dad's out there that live in bars after work instead of going home to their families every night are justified.
I can relate; recovered gambling addict and alcoholic. Always trying to solve the problem of the day fingers pointed out never realizing what the real problem is. Until you solve the addiction the house the job the wife/relationships, money will never click into place. AA/12 steps saved my life and gave me a better one! And I avoided that solution for years because “I didn’t have time”
This woman just casually throws out there @ the end of the call, "Oh yeah I'm an alcoholic and I have a gambling addiction". Why do women get off the hook for this kind of stuff?
I’m nervous for her. A lot going on here. Why did she wait to tell them about her bank account being over drawn, drinking and gambling. I feel bad for her.
She caught them with the “you wouldn’t tell a stay at home mom to get another job”. Damn right 8/10 times they don’t, they say “she needs a part time job while at home” or “you need 3-4 jobs to support your wife”. But as soon as it’s a woman making the money it’s “your husband needs a job” BEFORE telling her to get a 2nd. Good on her for calling them out! But damn hope she does get some help, hopefully she’s made it out since this call!
Gambling will keep her in debt forever. The solution is to get therapy for gambling. Then she need to work on being sober. The job is not the issue it's her gambling.
How did she not lead with I'm an alcoholic and gambler?!? I'm impressed how they managed to uncover that. Based on the first few minutes, thought the title was wrong.
Dr. John, that's what Psychologists do, they dig all the information until they get to the root of the issue. Then they work with you on healing the issue that's impacting your life.
That's a first, opening another bank account when one is overdrawn. This lady danced around the real issue the whole call till right at the end. Doesn't matter if she gets the new job as long as she keeps on gambling.
Talk about a failed attempt to call them out lol. Dave doesn't mind stay at home moms if the finances are in order. Definitely doesn't sound like the case here.
My only issue with these guys saying "He needs to get a job! He can't be a stay home dad right now." is that they don't know what the child care costs will be versus the dads potential income. Without that info, there's a real chance that the dad ends up working just to pay child care and not even bringing anything home to the table.
Gotta love how Dr Delony saw tbrough her situation.. Really world class handling.. I am wondering why the man in question is content to be a stay at home dad when he should be making money to keep the family from drowning in debt.. It is heartbreaking how she wants to defend the indefensible..
@@saulgoodman2018 They had to force that out of her, so I hope I am wrong, but maybe that is just the tip of the iceberg. My wife is a physician and tells me that very few of her patients admit to all their issues at once. Do you really think she is seeking help over 1.5K?
7:00 that's a great sentiment. Some people will work things out and try to have productive conversation. Some want to go to war and they're well trained. Don't fight them
I thought I've seen a video where Dave did say for the women to get a job as well if there is no child that needs taken care of anymore. My question is he a stay at home dad to for the kids? Thats just an assumption because they didn't ask and she tell them why. Maybe she did but I didn't hear it from the vid. If he did stay home for the kids its justified because of childcare cost is expensive. Dave when he defends the stay at home mom its because of childcare cost. Anyway let's not forget Dave is traditionalist.
@@lillynumber2 Dave is not in this video and I've heard him defend the man when the woman is a mess. The point is that the man is not the problem here. He is not the one blowing money on addictions as far as she has stated. She is. Besides. This is not an income issue. Even if there are no kids involved and they were both working, she would still be blowing thier income on her addictions. Don't you see the insane sexism in this? Even though her addiction is the problem, the husband staying home became the focus.
She is 100% correct. Dave has said multiple times, whether people were in debt or not, that stay at home moms are wonderful. Sometimes, these hosts are hypocrites
He only says that if they can afford to stay home or are working toward staying home. He doesnt say it if the family needs another income to make ends meet
This lady needs addiction help before working on the financial problems. She is right that Dave would not have encouraged a stay at home mom to go to work had the situation been reversed.
Facts they were capping on that one, when men have called in similar situations they told them to man up basically. They don’t even know how old the children are and if it makes sense childcare wise which they always do for women 😒
I’m surprised that she can get through the financial background check. She seems like a risk if she is opening up checking accounts to avoid paying overdrafts. John is really good at reading people. I didn’t pick up on the underlying problem
Smash your cellphone and get a land line instead. Get wifi for your home computer when you need to access the internet. You will be surprised at home much time you save now that you are not surfing on your phone. This is what I will do the second that I retire.
It's easier/"fun" to be self-destructive than being better versions of ourselves(for most). Who wants to see something beautiful being built vs monster trucks or destruction derbys or wine tasting🤷♀️🙄🤦
What you put before your sobriety will be taken from you via your addictions. Remember. Get substance abuse treatment as this is a spiritual issue. Once you sort out your addictions, the rest will sort its self out.
Why on earth would you go on air for the whole world to hear all of this? If her new employer hears all this stuff they probably aren't going to want to take the risk with her anymore. People so freely put out their personal information without any regard to the consequences. A lot of people watch the Ramsey show why not just go talk to a priest or financial counselor in private
John answered the question as if we are living in a Hallmark movie... He doesn't owe his family an explanation, maybe the brother in law, but everyone else will shame him and judge him for quitting 🤣
Being a stay at home parent is putting generational investment into the family and the society at large as well Never shame a family who has capacity to nurture their children with a stay at home parent to the benefit of our society ❤
Im missing Dave and the button on this one. And shes only repeating what he said about the "stay at home dad". I dunno something fishy about a man who wants to stay home (DONT COME FOR ME!) 🤣
i don't think these hosts sometimes realize how hypocritical they are on the stay at home dad vs stay at home mom scenarios. This call is a very good example i think: Someone commented on this video that "Dave only advises stay at home moms when their "finances are in order" in agreement with the hosts saying the husband need to get a job. She is making 80k with her current job, with that income their finances are in order so the husband can be a stay at home dad. Her problem is with budgeting and addictions and then the hosts decide one of the solutions is for the husband to get a job. For what! So they can have more money post addiction expenses. They are treating symptoms instead of the problem. The simple fact that they thought the husband getting a job is something that is necessary in this situation highlights their hypocrisy on stay at home dads vs stay at home moms. They don't seem to realize it themselves but they clearly have a different tolerance level for stay at home dads vs a stay at home moms.
