@@thecatnextdoor12 exactly, why people are so mean and miserable here...oh yah i think they are just jealous beause these men out there are not good enough for any kind of normal women, thats whythey are bitter
"She wants to be a homemaker and I love that about her." I wish you two all of the luck in the world. Buy a cheap ring and you can upgrade later if you are still together and in a position to do so.
Clearly she wouldn’t be getting married, if she was going to college and have any other life plan. I sincerely do wish them luck, he sounds so happy, it’s refreshing.
@David Kopp He really has has no idea. I hope I am wrong, but I'm old enough to be cynical. (You can probably tell by the two spaces after the periods 🤣😂.)
@@NeededGR13F My mother always says where there is life, there is hope. Even though they're young, they have the same life goals regarding marriage and her staying at home, which is a huge plus. Some couples that are much older than them aren't even on the same page about that and they spend years figuring that out. Anything is possible and I hope you are right.
Why does everyone assume this won’t work. My parents got married after dating 6 months and have been married for 40 years. One of my best friends had a shotgun wedding to a girl he knocked up in a bar and they’ve been married for 16 years now. Old school types that don’t believe in divorce generally don’t get divorced.
I met my husband in 2012 @ 19 yrs. old. I married him in 2013 at a courthouse (about 9 months into knowing him.) We've been married for 8 years this march. There wasnt an "oops" we just genuinely fell for each other. We're still having fun and learning a lot together.
He’s all over the place and talking over Dave. He sounds like a love struck teenage boy. 🤦🏾♀️ She’s only 20! This will end badly. SLOW DOWN young buck!
Some women want to be stay at home wives/moms. Some men want that from their women. Theres nothing wrong with it, if they can agree on it and make it work for them. A lot of judgemental people in this comment section.
I couldn't agree more. It wouldn't be my way, but I haven't seen a single red flag here (even though to me the idea of spending 3000 on a ring is incomprehensible, but that's been known to happen by otherwise reasonable people as well).
I’ve seen this story many times, guy with a low self esteem that typically comes up short with women finally meets a woman that has shown interest and feels like he’s hit the jackpot. He then moves at light speed because he thinks that’s the best he’s ever going to get despite any red flags. So he proposes right away and worships the ground she walks on before they really get to know each other. Spoiler alert! It doesn’t end well ESPECIALLY if she’s only 20 years old.
My wife and i got engaged after 2 weeks of dating. Once I realized how fast we were moving, I put the brakes on real quick. We were engaged for 3 years and got married once she got pregnant. We are still together and stronger then ever. Sometimes life works in funny ways. God has blessed us
To the naysayers my husband and I were 19 yrs old and this coming feb we will be happily married 18 yrs!! My parents got married at 17 and 18 and next yr will celebrate 41 yrs!! Myself and my husband grew up quick and have been way more mature than our peers! he sounded so head over heels in love God bless them!!
We were broke when we got married. We spent $150 on the rings and less than $5k on the wedding. Most expensive thing was on the photographer. A good photographer was the best investment we ever made. we paid cash for everything and never regretted it 8 years later.
Same here! nd 10 years and going. Never like that wedding cost thousands just because ppl over charge any service that starts with "wedding" (dress, cake, planner )
💯 second is how my parents got married on $5 and lasted 50+ yrs until both died within a few yrs of each other. It’s not about the cost of the wedding or ring it’s about the lifetime of marriage after.
JP is the way to go. Afterwards, maybe take out the immediate family for dinner. BTW, buying a ring at a estate sale or at an auction is a good way to get an inexpensive ring.
A wise man once told me that the most important trait to look for in a wife is Integrity. Maybe women that have this trait of integrity do a better job at honoring their word , commitments and promises for better or worse in sickness and in health? However, Integrity must be instilled in both parties to be successful. And obviously, lots of love and patience!!! Good luck to the both of them as they might need it!
My folks married when they were 20. Dad made $5 payments a week for Mom's ring. Still married 57 years later, Dad built wealth, and Mom has traded wedding rings for bigger ones over the years. :) So yeah. it can have a happy ending. As for me, my husband and I got engaged just 4 months after we met. His friends were all "Dude, is she pregnant?!". No, I was not. Just knew we'd found each other's soulmate. We married 11 months after that. Twelve years, still going strong.
I know... she sounds like she wants to go straight from her parents taking care of her, to a husband taking care of her. She needs some time in between on her own, taking care of herself!
@@twincherry4958 You're right he's not going to listen. He seems so smitten that no one could stop this. He's already decided he's just figuring out how.
They met in January and he is all over the map. Pausing the clean up of his mess because "he needs to save for a ring and a wedding". And did I hear she is 20 ???? This will end badly for him.
Wait until after she's 21 and see. Women go through this crazy magical transformation at 21 when they can "legally" drink and party. Seen it happen with pretty much every single one of my friends who got married between 18-20.
Her family is very traditional, and she no doubt has been raised like that. Usually the children, especially the females marry at young age. One can also expect that she knows how to cook etc. and has been taught to spoil her man. it sounds a little 1950s but he is very excited, and she is not easily going to bail on him if she is from a traditional family. She WANTS to be enaged too - and he wants to grow into a very traditional role. She is into Dave Ramsey, he has a good income so if they get divorced it will most likely not be over money issues. and she let him know that a 200 USD ring would be O.K. too. her eyes lit up when she saw the USD 3,000 ring and now it is up to him if he will spend that. DR is O.K.with that.
He sounds so much in love 😁😁😁.. some people get married after months of dating and stay together for decades. Others date for years and get divorced within a year (I've seen it happen). Good luck !
Oh wow, my now hubby and I went to a pawn store and picked out a beautiful diamond ring for 300 dollars. 10 years next year and I wouldn't ever change it out, still love it.
You met in January ??? She earns nothing? Sounds a lot like a typical narcissistic start/rush into a relationship where she only wants a breadwinner 🙈😄
People say she is too young, but age and maturity end their correlation after the teenage years. I've met plenty of 30/40 year old folks who aren't mature at all. Plus the older you get the more stuck in your ways, the more selfish you become. Marrying young can be rough, but you have to learn and grow together even if it means learning through mistakes.
No no and no. It's not only because they just meet in January. She is 20 and wanting to be a homemaker. She is a baby. He's still in the infatuation stage. The financial advice was spot on. I will apply that.
youdont know her, i know lots of mature youngladies who married young and are still happily married. i am so sorry you dot have good examples around you to see the difference.
To all the people calling this guy a simp: My husband and I knew we were going to get married about 6 months into dating. We waited a few years for me to finish school before getting engaged, and then got married a couple months after that. But if I wasn't in school, we probably would have been engaged in under a year and married not too long after that. We've been together over a decade and married for 8 years, still going strong. If it's the right person, you'll know. You don't have to date for years to know it. My grandparents knew each other for two weeks before they got married. Not dated for two weeks, they met two weeks before their wedding day. They were happily married nearly 60 years when my grandma passed away. You all can keep claiming men who get married/engaged quickly are simps if it helps you feel better about your crushing loneliness. Hopefully someday you meet someone who makes you happy enough that you can't wait to start your lives together.
Amen. We dated for only 4 months before getting engaged. We knew before that. AND we were only 18 when we got married. We are going to be married 20 years in May, and are still madly in love. Gone through thick and thin. Commitment is treated like a 4 letter word these days, but it can lead to a vast amount of happiness throughout life.
Congratulations, that's fantastic. All the happiness in the world to you and your husband, well done. It's also not what's going to happen for 99.999% of the people listening.
It is based on a very successful advertising campaign that was launched by De Beers (diamond corporation) in the 70s. It is insane that people still think that it is normal. Probably the most successful ad campaign ever. They should just go for the $200 ring. You can buy a nicer ring when you are in a better financial position. They could do so much with $3000.
*I used to think Dave Ramsey gave the best advice* BUT... After this video, I think the advice just gets better! Have a great day wishing you guys the best
@@keepitreal8939 i mean he mentioned he only has the credit cards and a car and said he was paying the credit off before stopping. So she could take the car in the divorce
Got married at 20 and 23 and still going strong almost 20 years later. I actually think it may be easier to marry younger when you don't have a house and you are still getting into a career because then you build a life together rather than when you are established and trying to find how you will fit into each other's lives.
I had been a long listener of DR and learnt a lot from him in life. But lately I don't understand why he brings these ladies in the show, who don't understand the real issue of the caller and just laugh. Dave did and does a great job at understanding the problems and give great suggestions..but these ladies..kidding me? They can't even talk.
@NurturingTalents how can he know she is a gem after 8 months or so? That is an indication he is being manipulated, maybe unintentionally - thought she has an end game of being a housewife.
how do you move for her, you're talking about marriage, she got you into DR, she's got no debt, she wants to be a homemaker. how do you get into all that, but you "don't know the specifics" of what she makes?
FaintAura Your worldview is exact reason why I cheer for them to do it now, before they get any more knowledge on the subject and start calculating, it’s pure and nothing comparable will ever happen to them again.
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"Does she work?" "Yeah currently she does, she wants to be a homemaker and I love that about her...." "That's nice. Does she have any debt?" I had to pause it, I was laughing so hard. Bro, you're in trouble. Hope it's a looooooooooong engagement. You just met. You don't know who she is, and part of that is because she's so young she isn't done figuring out who she is.
Gray K. ... It’s a different era. Times are different now. Studies show that the younger people get married the higher chance of a divorce. It’s a different time. People start wanting to ‘find themselves’ (especially women) once the reality of being a wife and mother sets in. It’s different when you don’t have the internet and all you know are the people in your neighbourhood and nothing else.
I preach this as well but I hope it all works out for them. The statistics are not good for people getting married under 25.The only thing I hope is that they at least don’t rush to have kids. At least enjoy being young and married and have fun before the kids come.
Spent $636 on my wife’s engagement ring. About $30 on the wedding band. Everything was rushed. She loves them both and it’s about the symbolism not the price.
I tell everyone . TAKE YOUR TIME.Met my husband at 17 . 4 years later- got married . 3 years after that - first child . Another 3 years - second child . We’ve been together total 10 years but it was 4 years before we got married and 7 years before we had babies . If it’s meant to be - it’ll be ! This dude is 16 all over again for this girl
I'm surprised at the negative comments. The way this guy talked reminded me of me and my husband. We've been married 15yrs, 6 kids. We both knew we wanted me to be a SAHM. We've been through some rough times but I love him more every day and I know he feels the same towards me. Hope we live a long life together, and I hope so for this happy guy and his girl too. ❤️
@@sandrawhitfield7102 No. Just seen too many fellow brothers get their lives destroyed by moving for a girl, then it turns badly. If you want to move somewhere new, do it for yourself, not someone else. This applies to both men and women.
NurturingTalents yea it would be better if she moved for him so he could dump her and leave her out on the streets instead of it happening the other way around.... seriously though it doesn’t matter which person moves, the relationship is never guaranteed. Life is full of risks though, so do what works for you and your relationships. You can always relocate again if it doesn’t work out.
The lady didn't want to answer immediately, she thinks that no matter what your financial position is, that you should spend everything you have on a wedding, real shizxit
Getting married young is not a bad thing. Don’t go crazy on the ring or wedding. People do get married while they are in college. It is not a prerequisite to finish first. Wanting to be a homemaker is not bad as long as everyone agrees and the books are balanced.
Facts. He got with a 19 year old when he was 24 and now he’s in love and planning a marriage 8 months later? She’s not even able to drink right now. Her life decisions should be taken with a grain of salt at this point. I’m not even the same person I was when I was 19/20/21 years old. Dude think he’s living in the 1940s.
A family wedding is better and more logical because of social distancing. So you really enjoy the night with people who actually care about you and your wife.
@@ShearF3ar Both people have decided early that they want the same lifestyle. He will work outside the home while she works "inside" the home. Few parents can tolerate being home, especially with children, these days. I admire them and wish them well.
just met shes 20 just got a high paying job she wants to get married she wants to stay at home and not work where have i seen this before? divorce court
Dr. Johnny Sins ... it is but at that age she will end up being one anyway by the time she’s in her late 20’s. According to stats. Well not a baby mother per say but a single mother.
I don’t think it’s anything wrong with getting married young. Way more prospects and you grow with the person. Dating is much harder the older you get because people become jaded from their bad mistakes.
She's 20 years old dude. After she's been married a while and some kids she's going to feel like she missed out on partying and she will leave you. Any wealth you manged to build is already half gone and good luck try to visit your kids. You need to slow down.
So if he can put step 2 on hold to buy an engagement ring/honeymoon, I'm assuming I can put step 2 on hold to get the tree limbs cut down hanging over the power lines going from the street to my house? (My 1000 dollar emergency fund wouldn't cover it)
