"She should be more on the side of who you could be than who you are" As a woman, it feels SO good to have someone like JP say that. I feel like I'm constantly at odds in my relationships because too many guys want to stay just as they are, and not be better enough to at least be respectful and considerate of me. So glad to hear JP would agree.
It's because he's a complex person... I Love this clip. And I have Many More saved that are similarly kind, insightful and full of Peace and wisdom. But there's flashes of anger and... IDK? Resentments? Rage? And for those on the other side of the ideological spectrum , who don't want to hear certain truths From him.... That's all they need. A reason to dismiss him, and avoid the difficult process of looking deeply in the mirror. Don't get me Wrong... He brings a lot of value to the table. Another Canadian Doctor who brings tremendous amount of value to the public discourse is Gabor Mate. Attached below. m.ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-qOJ0lUSBI14.html&pp=ygUoZ2Fib3IgbWF0ZSdzIHRob3VnaHRzIG9uIGpvcmRhbiBwZXRlcnNvbg%3D%3D
I will pray for you and your family, Mr. Peterson. You have thousands of people around the world praying for your lovely wife (I'm from Spain). Hope she gets well.
Mr Peterson, you know if you ever need anything, theres way too many of us willing to be there in one way or another. All our Love and Hearts and Hopes are with You and Tammy every second. God Bless
It’s so nice to see an amazing Canadian psychologist that speaks the truth and not just what the books say. May God use you and may you reach more and more people
This is a very good talk. I'm very saddened to hear that Jordan Peterson's wife is fighting a serious illness. My hopes and prayers are with Tammy and Jordan Peterson. I wish Tammy a quick and full recovery after her surgery.
My husband just passed away on July 10. Yesterday would have been our 35th Wedding Anniversary. I met him when I was 17, we practically raised each other. He used to say, "the best ideas are other people's ideas" a good way to look at things. I gave the tribute at his funeral, I miss him so much, each day it hurts a little bit more but I'm sure that's to be expected for awhile yet. We fought hard in our marriage, went to hell and back a few times. But we often said how "lucky" we were to have each other.
Just saw your message. sorry for your loss. I hope time has healed some wounds. You are blessed to have had such a good guy and relationship for so long. Some people never have that, ever. Still, the loss hurts. Hope you are doing better.
@@mikemichaels166 Thanks for your kind words. It's been over a year now...I think the ache intensifies before it subsides...may be awhile yet. We were both flawed people, good and bad, life gave us some hard stuff that I still have to cope with but I do know how very blessed I was to have someone I "liked" to go through those many ups and downs with, someone to lean on along the way. I suppose that's one of the things I miss the most, besides his very presence, is that one person in my corner, always.
I come back to this video when my fiancé and I have hard discussions. It gives me the courage to not give up and to be someone worthy of contending with.
This is Dr. Peterson’s proof to feminists that he isn’t a patriarchal sadist. He advocates wives that are able to stand up and help their man become better rather than worshipping them.
Loving intimacy is what counts I am an Atheist...and share your idea One needs something, an idea, a light, a way of life, Bigger than us to inform our behaviour. Lots of love from LDN😊 Lots of love to the Grand Old Republic
Considering that it's a cultural universal, it probably also is antifragile (as defined by Nassim Taleb), so I wouldn't worry much about it. There are some things that only get stronger under antagonistic pressure.
@@regulareverydayhalfbirdguy Great point. I'm curious what would Taleb himself answer to that. I assume marriage will transform am aweful lot, beyond recognition.
@@typhoonofideas It is entirely possible, though I still trust that the fact that the underlying evolutionary foundation remains practically the same guarantees that the human universals growing out of that foundation will also tend towards roughly the same cultural solutions as they have for the last few thousand years. If one learns anything from Jordan Peterson's lectures, it's that marriage, as well as other cultural phenomena, are far from arbitrary; they are solutions to deeply biological and economic problems unique to human individuals and groups.
I'm looking for hard headed woman (headed woman) One who'll make me do my best And if I find my hard headed woman I know the rest of my life will be blessed yes (yes) yes yes… Cat Steven's concurs.
Yay... Sounds like he is talking about my Mum and Dad...adventure...pain, fun, and love, along the way. My Dad once said to me..'I hope you get to marry a woman like your mum'... I didn't get it at the time... I do now😓 But at least I do get it now☺ Good for them.
Thank you. What makes for good healthy relationships can be taught in schools. 1 in 5 have DV/DA. I find this talk of 'trading up' or "trading down', while useful, doesn't get us anywhere. It monetizes everything. Lets accept that in an intimate relationship each party brings something to the table. There is no man's work or womens work, as such, just work. Divi up the tasks, organize the day, week, month, etc. Talk to each other. Have a habit/objective of sayingf 'I love you' more than once a day and before you know it you will be celebrating your 25th Wed anniv with lots of great memories of the fun moments, and how as a team you overcame or came to terms with those 'rainy days'😊 It's not rocket science or brain surgery, but psychology can help😃
@@huss2600 Fair enough...but if you don't at least think about these things and set some sort of goal on this, it may fall into abeyance. A relationship needs five good things for each bad one, not necessarily of same magnitude. That little 'I love you' might be the small good thing that saves your marriage.. Good point tho😊
His wife has a rare form of kidney cancer that is very awful and has had two devistating surgeries. His daughter is also very ill with an autoimmune disease. He also suffers from depression as does his daughter.
It troubles me when I see Jordan playing with this wedding ring. I think he realizes how essential his wife is to his calling and loves her as much as life itself. We should all have been so blessed. Edit: The vows should be "love, honor, cherish, and when exercising the headship of Christ, obey" for both parties. When either party need a Holy Ghost kick in the ass, we accept it as an act of supreme love.
I scored 99th percentile for intellect, 2nd percentile for politeness, and 90th percentile for assertiveness. My girlfriend is highly agreeable, unassertive, and probably just above average for intellect. I have a fear of being criticized so I reflexively demolish the slightest verbal accusations in any argument or discussion. I know I can work on letting those criticisms through and listening better. How can I show her how to be assertive enough to get her points across and not be discouraged by my response? Anyone in the comments, if you have any ideas at all, please share them with me. I love her very much and I know what happens when one person in a relationship can never say what they think. I don't want that to happen with us. Please help me.
Try Dr. Peterson's self authoring program, ask your wife to do the same. Then, when you both have your future authoring somewhat roughed out meet together, at a table (to help focus, dedicatedly), once a week for 20 minutes, uninterrupted, and try to put those two futures together into one good story.
I had a similar problem. Start using that 99th percentile intellect to think strategically and understand that not all "battles" have to be won and relationships are a team game. I got about the same as you, very low in agreeableness also, but that shouldn't matter. What matters is long term so learn to accept a loss, learn to be shameless and learn not to care. Mine knows she will get demolished in an argument but I let her have her piece and victories, it's not a competition. As far as making her assertive, I don't know. I stopped being an ass and she opened up over time.
Outcome controls behavior. If you punish each other during disagreements because of sensitivity to being thought wrong, you will motivate each other to suffer silently. It's a good idea to explicitly voice this as a concern to her. Self control is key. You should both know the conditions under which the other is most likely to be receptive and calm. Before discussing the points of disagreement, decide on a common goal so you begin as allies instead of opponents. Try to agree that what you're sorting out is worth the battle. My husband is 0th percentile agreeableness, I'm above average. For us, getting good at contending with one another has been like anything else -- practice is essential.
Luckily, you had the foresight and integrity to open up your logic for scrutiny by posting lectures on the Internet, otherwise you could still be rotting away in the grey mechanisms of university culture. Something, coincidentally, that the more twisted elements among your peers, those nurturing ill-founded perspectives and indulging ego-based psychological processes by experimenting with the propagation of ideological bias in the minds of our young as an act of revenge almost, certainly wouldn't be brave enough to do... And for good reason. I like a specialist and I've appreciated your efforts greatly over the years, but I can't help dreaming about just how dangerous you could be if you were to dedicate the time associated with one's becoming adept in conspiratorial intrigue. Too dangerous to be tolerated, probably.
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HiIamFin I’m a woman and I agree with you. That’s why I cannot stand feminists, they are a small minority making lots of noise and doing unbelievable damage.
Ha. I think a point is missed here. He chose the person good for him. And he offers her something money cannot buy... Most people lack the insight and intuition to know anothet peson. And they marry strangers.
Jeremiah .A Also, I didn’t know myself so how could I have made a wise choice? I think choosing the right partner involves a bit of luck. Many of us marry young and have no idea who we really are....it was so for me. I’m now a window, living alone and able to examine my personality more carefully. Maybe too late to have another meaningful relationship, but you never know! What’s most important is that I’m at peace living alone and loving it.
@HiIamFin how is marriage rigged? Are you saying Divorce is rigged? Cause if that's the case you have some good statistics. However, it's shifting. For Example, Stay at home dad's are winning in court at the same level. So the modern working women is paying child care like men. As more Dad's stay home, and become PRIMARY care taker it will become more even. JP says he's been fortunate in his marriage. I don't see how marriage itself is "rigged".
Jordon you are such an incredible guy but you must be difficult to live with. Are you happy with your lot in life or at odds ? If you dissect l9fe to much you lose the colour.
