Best Reply to "Main toh mazak kar raha tha, aap toh bura maan gaye" Reply with polite/sarcastic/rough TONE as per situation/person: ""Mujhe ACHHA lagega, YEH sochkar toh aapne yeh nahi bola, HAI NA""
Thank you for this video, I am so happy you bought this topic. I am 39 now, but from my late teens and my entire 20s I have faced this a lot, people used to make fun on me and then others said com'on its juts a joke be a Sport. I learned it the hard way and took a lot of time to have this attitude to stand up for my self. I wish I had you telling this during my youth Guruji. You are doing something great for this society, Indians and so on. Thank you so much 🙏
Very true.... mother-in-law comment on the physical appearance though she herself is not having high standards...but when husband don't speak, she gets more pumped up to do more.
Truly agree. Kucch time pehle I started drawing my boundaries and sometimes I feel my circle has become so small. But I love the peace and bliss I feel in my tiny circle of people who genuinely love me.
Me too,the moment I raised boundaries not only circle became small I came under harassment and my phone hacked by known...I am seeing the psycho ,narcissist and flying monkeys.
@@padmini1380 God phone being hacked is another level. I am sorry you are going through this. I believe you can file a police complaint. I would have if I came to know.
Sir you are definitely true I have also good boy image some people try to bully me in the group ,but now I will fight for myself it's about my self-esteem
Much needed in our society! I am a girl who speaks very politely and respects everyone. but when someone tries to bully me thinking I am weak, then they know my Explicit Vocab! And then their facial reactions is out of this world.
Id. Very true. My husband used to say i didn't know how to take jokes. Usually on my parents n family. But, dealing with your closest ones is the most difficult. Once i tried it on him and he got wild saying that I didn't have the habit of joking, so i was not joking, i meant it.
I totally agree with you. Someone used to body shame me publicly. I also did the same thing as said by you and totally disconnected with such people. Now they don't talk any nonsense... 👍👍
Sir I stumbled upon your channel yesterday when I watched your video about why Gen Z will never be able to buy a house! At that time I subscribed to your channel and now watching this video I think I made the right choice! I'm quite an intimidating guy 6.2 feet tall and this July will be turning 18. At first I was unable to understand why my own friends laugh at me? Why do they use passive aggression against me? But then I knew it was because they feel too comfortable with me thinking that i would not do anything to them which is also true. I have read a book called "HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE" which tells, 'make people around you comfortable with you and I did just that! But those people want more standing in our social groups and now they are slandering my name it's been quite a long time now as I'm using that books teachings and everytime I do that the result is the same... I can make friends very easily but after that they use passive aggression against me to further their social standing. I'M DYING FROM INSIDE because of all this Sometimes I consider becoming a true Villain (beating people, smoking being a chapri etc) but then I see my mother working hard to earn money day in and day out to provide for me and my brother. Yes, I do not have a father. Lost him due to a heart attack when I was in second grade. And being a chapri doesn't suit me as it goes beyond my bottom line. Please sir make more videos on such topics related to youngsters and give kids like me some guidance!
My father in law did this very thing- say whatever he wanted and when I reacted he would say he was just joking and I'm too sensitive to react. Worst part was husband agreed with his dad knowing what was going on. At first, I tried to ignore it, then rationalize, then I introspected on myself that what if there is something wrong with me? Then overtime I realized I was not overreacting or crazy. I distanced myself but since it was in laws family you cannot completely shun him. Finally, his toxicity broke my marriage. Thank you Sir for sharing these videos.
Sir 19 yr old this side.I appreciate your content. I was not anticipating that you would put a video on such a topic. I am so grateful to you that you've put such a video. It gives such agreat insight into psychology of those bastards
Truly said Sir.. you are becoming a mentor.. I will just say one thing. If you have to oppose him or hit him back, do in public and not in person. If he can make fun of someone in public, he has to accept himself getting insulted in public only. If you say in person separately, the rest will not come to know and your personality shall remain vulnerable to them.. hence protest right there..
Namaskar sir🙏 Ye to 100%sure hai,ki adhiktar cases me log apne andar ki kadvahat , jealousy etc hi,majak ke roop me nikalte hai,meri personality bahut weak thi,thodi bahut qualities hone ke bavzood bhi,Mane ye face kiya hai,par ab kisi ki himmat nahi hoti,aur mujhe bahut accha lagta hai,yahi mai apni beti ko bhi sikhati hoon,ase logo se doori banao.
Amit ji, very good video which provides direction to anyone, not only youth. MAG Taking care of self esteem is very important. This needs courage and confidence to stand for yourself and draw boundaries.
True, Indians need to be aware of narcissistic word. There are so many narcissistic people around in Indian family and friends they jus target the vulnerables and take supply from them
This phenomenon is very common. I have faced such things as well as done some things unknowingly. Maybe, awareness about the issue can help solve the problem.
My childhood and teenage and some part of adulthood has also been disturbed due to such attitudes. I was more intelligent and higher achiever than most in my group but to put me down ‘friends’ around me used to make comments on my thin body, or even say something on my Mercedes car comparing that it is not as good as Tesla while they themselves even didn’t own a normal car. I used to be a very ‘good’ sanskaar boy, never argued firmly believing Karma, but during night times used to always think about these things feeling sad for myself. Realised much later that self esteem needs to be kept higher than everything.
My 10 ye old son goes through this on daily basis. His Chacha abuses him and when he complains to his dadi, she says that chacha jokes and it’s his bachpana. Don’t mind his jokes.
You said all the things are too relatable I faced each every thing in my scool but now I don't even tolerate and I come to violence if it come more and more
Summary : It's sad thing if this is happening too you frequently... analyse your weak personality trait , which people are usng against you... Next time ask them : are you these close to me ?? to say things like this ?? Don't be so niceee...ask them why did you do this ?? give a huge warning to them in personal iin such a way that they don't dare to do next time... many times it's your body shaming or any activity which is made fun so give them a tight warning don't be afraid of breaking a relation... b'coz no friend is better than having a toxic friend like this... Only wife is allowed to say things that too for some extent... Maximum times these people let their inner feelings out in the form of joking so stop bearing this much of toxicity Many times they do this when they are drunk...so explain to them when they get into normal zone... Joking on other community is not good... if someone is doing , say them do this on ur community instead of targeting others... they wll try to justify by saying " u don't have sense of humour'' But say them go n say this type of things to ur family instead of me... sometimes even the way of saying is important if ur weight is increased then they can say it in nice way also... or they can say by joking also... that type of people should be dealt in a strict way... many times people joke when they know that they don't have nothing t loose... like they will don't joke on their boss... they only joke if ur taking it easily so next time stand up for urself... Give them a warning once by saying we are not this close for joking like this, i am not feeling good if u behave like this... n be prepared to be treated in ur way in u do this again.... Be good n nice but don't be in a such extent where anyone can usse it against you... Thank you for reading summary I'm doing this because i'm practising my typing speed so i just watch n write the summary simultanoeusly Have a great day sweet people... Make someone smile today Hare krishna 🥰
@@ClarityForYouth plz speak in summarized way sometimes ur videos r too long to give time yet bear importance to watch and the matter can b spoken in half time
I am a good boy(27) in my family and my parents have expired ... Lots of my relatives do this kind of things to me ... But last month I had a big fight with my mausi infront of everyone where I lost all my cool when she was trying to bully me. I was feeling guilty for that shit but now after this video I am not. Even 2 of my uncles does this to me all the time ... Now I will have to teach them both a lesson 😢. Feeling really sad but I think it is necessary and they are forcing me to become bad. 😢 Thank u for the video ❤ I learned something today 🥹🙏
Absolutely the guy who talks n jokes about his wife in front of relatives friends is a weak insecure man.. Insecure of himself and jumping to conclusions... Either wife is so strong n unmoved that she will take time and then act.. Or just confront him.. If possible during that time.. So it doesn't repeat..
I have observed many peoples makes jokes on other close family members.... example father jokes on son .. father jokes on wife.... friend jokes on each other.... They seems that buy joking they create healthy environment...than serious environment.... I personally not like it. .but get confused.. whether i am right or they are right?!! If any one shows reaction to jokes on him . People will tease him on that point more. So parents tell children to ignore
I'd but I easly teach these type of nonsense people in their language.....systen fad detey h..... sir....u are absolutely right sir....🙏🏻🇮🇳💯🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥😎guru kamjor nhi bnata guru vinamrta ke sath strong bhi bnata h that's guru's defination...🙏🏻
