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I used to watch your college essay videos as a senior in high school!! (Got me into the college I wanted to go to so thank you😇) Now I’m 24 working a job I don’t really like…and coincidentally find myself back to one of your videos. Haven’t been here in a while, but I can’t be more thankful I found this video now🥹 Your videos saved me then and they’re saving me now😌 Sincere thanks from Japan!
Reneau, I’ve been watching you since I was 17 now I’m in my twenties and this really help me out, I’m currently in the military and I really want to get out and go to college. With the fear of “what if” it stops me from thinking that but from your advice , I’ll start saving up and thinking more of the future. Thank you again Reneau and wishing the best for you too!
Oh wow this warms my heart to hear this inspired you. I really hope you achieve all your goals and that you find a way to squash that fear of “what if”. Good luck, and thank you!
i just found your channel literally an hour ago and i’m already so thankful for you! you’re rlly funny and give great Real Advice that a lot of people are too nervous to talk about?as someone in their 20s rn just know you’ve already helped me and i’m sure many who have been following you! :)
So real and appreciate this video. Wasted 1 year of my time trying to chase a relationship with my ex bf in Chicago. Totally understand how you feel. Finally single again and living for me ❤
Early this year I was so depressed and lost faith in life, especially about human relationships. I then went on solo traveling in Southeast Asia and it really helped me a lot. It changed and broadened my perspective about many things and most importantly, for the first time, I felt peace and happiness being on my own. Knowing that that was even possible was so meaningful. The experience healed a part of me. I also found out that such good experiences have another power, they continue affecting you positively even after the event has ended. You get healed by the good memories in your head, they nurture you and give you hope every now and then.
I love this (and also it’s such inspiration to go to Southeast Asia… I’ve wanted to go there for about 5 years now). Also, your comment reminds me a lot of Anthony Bourdain and how profound he always made travel seem.
Although maybe the most of the points you said are someway not that far from my reflections, but I enjoyed the video a lot cause it is more structured than my casual thoughts at least😅.. so that 's really nice that I didn't just put the video in the watch list and watched it right away. Btw. I might have to visit the german Alps again, it so fascinating not to go there, because you know I already live in bavaria☺
Yes yes get yourself back out to the Alps!! Man, I miss them (so beautiful). Also, duly noted! The people like me scripted. Thanks so much for your comment
"Why limit yourself to the german part of alps though? After recently visiting Innsbruck in Austria, I got so awestruck that I decided I will take Someone there for a vacation one day, climbing The Path of Perspectives before descending to an Alpine Zoo (which is still at pretty high altitude for a zoo!). Also @yesreneau , wouldn't jump to conclusions regarding people liking you more scripted. Speaking for myself at least, your spontaneous rambles are as much, if not more enjoyable to consume!"
Oh that’s funny, I hadn’t thought about it like that. I guess it depends on what sense someone’s using the words… It’s easier to get healthy than stay healthy if you’re comparing 1-3 months of exercise motivation with a lifetime of exercise motivation. But it’s easier to stay healthy than get healthy if you think about how much energy needs to be expended each workout to 1) get healthy vs 2) maintaining. So maybe the first refers to motivation over long periods of time and the second refers to actual energy spent per a much shorter unit of time. Really good point.
Wouldn't that be great, if health was just down to excercising? If you let your organs and body parts accumulate enough damage with bad habits there is no going back without spending small fortune. You let your mind go with drugs and there maybe no going back period. I'm not a doctor but yeah, it seems to be easier to prevent losing health than regaining it.
I recommend everyone to read The Power of Less It talks about having less in life so u can focus on what is most important to you. It’s an easy read and included are step by step practical tips. 🫶🏼
I wasted my 20s as well. Not doing rich girl stuff but working a dead end job. Got a divorce at 27 then started RU-vid and made the last 3 years count haha. Least you can say you have learned from it. Most people don't ever learn and wake up in their 50s not knowing what to do.
Hey I used to see your videos when I was in highschool and now I've graduated and been working for two years. It's been so long. I am so so happy you posted again!
Life after college is so challenging. My life feels upside down at 24 while 2 years ago it felt like everything was going in the perfectly right path ... :)
I feel you, my life was also upside down my first year after graduation, then I kind of knew where to go. But with so many things going on, you sometimes get overwhelmed. I heard it's called Post-Graduation Syndrome. Or at least some people call it that because it's really common for anyone who graduates college. Still, life has its ups and downs. Try moving forward with your beliefs. Avoid debt and start dealing with life one day at a time. Don't forget to breath and drink water.
Right. Omg. I hate it when people of privilege complain. Yes, we all wish we could do things the right way the first time but we're not all stable that way.
I'm going to be 24 soon, and with covid and all, I felt like my 20s was a shit start, but! While watching your video, I literally made a list of what I want to achieve without the fear of it happening or not! The most unrealistic things possible for me, but I needed this to recenter my life according to how I want my life to be like, just like you said, be the author, so yea, thank you!! It's great to see you posting again!
This is amazing!! Heads up, the one point I didn’t include (because I was too long-winded when explaining it), was to make sure to work from base principles when you go after your goals. Translation? Make sure you are ALWAYS working with good fundamentals (e.g. 1% system improvements will work over time, be willing to look at your approach and be brutally honest about what you suck at and need to work on improving, etc.). But yeah, that’s all, just wanted to say it in case it helps! Thank you so much for your nice words :)
As a person who has seen your channel pretty much since you started, I think you have done pretty well. Perhaps your life has not unfolded to each of your desires but you need to consider that societies values are such that enter into conflict with developing a wholesome life. You have very good values and standards and to survive in todays environment while keeping your integrity, that's already a huge accomplishment.
I'm about to turn 24 and i''m moving back home with my parents to save money and prep for my move to Los Angeles. It's tough in your early 20's but i'm trying to make the best of it. One of the hardest parts is trying to balance the "don't spend more than you make" and "go travel before you can't anymore" between eachother. I don't want to forget to have fun while chasing my dreams but right now my 20's just feels like a never ending stress fest and I cant catch a break... please make more content like this :)
omg I struggled with that balance too😭 like I absolutely need to save but I also absolutely have to life in the moment ahhhh! but I suppose the chaos will be funny in the future
Since you're replying to everyone please tell me how you feel about the emergence of AI and super intelligence and would it further enhance the class divide of capitalism?
My very non-expert opinion is that AI will probably further the class divide, because the people who code it and best know how to use it are already the financial elite… so they’ll probably use it to promote their own interests
I discovered you when I was obsessed with getting into an Ivy. I did it (c/o ‘21!), but now that I’ve graduated I’ve been struggling with what’s next. Writing your own syllabus is daunting. There’s a billion things to try and only 24 hours a day (and only so much money in my bank account). I’m anxious about wasting my 20s-I get so anxious I paralyze. I’m learning to swallow my fear and just DO. Like you, I’m also trying to internalize that I can truly succeed at anything I put my mind to; to stare failure dead in the face and say ‘f it we ball.’ We did it once before. Sure there’s always risk involved, but it’s scarier to not try. Why was it easier for us to block the naysayers high school versus now?
Hmm idk why it was easier… maybe because our brains weren’t fully developed in high school, so we didn’t have the capacity to consider that maybe there was some validity in what the naysayers were spouting. Maybe it’s actually a sign of maturity that we’re able to listen to other people’s opinions and not immediately dismiss them, even if those opinions are against us 🤔 lol, I have no real idea though, this is just a theory! Congrats on getting into that Ivy you were working so hard towards!! And yeah… I’ve definitely found the “billion things to do, only 24 hours in a day” thing really daunting, too. Especially when you’re good at so many things, it feels like there are infinite options. The way I’ve liked to go about it is just to start with the most exciting thing and just keep crossing things off my list (or recalibrating) as I try. Who knows, though! Life is just a fun fun game for each of us to keep writing our own rules to.
@@yesreneauthank you Taylor. I guess the only thing we can really do in life is to enjoy it as much as we can with the time we’re gifted. I’m excited to see what you’ll stumble upon next ❤️
list of advice "slides" from the video: *#1. save more than you spend* (1:01) *#2. write your own syllabus* (2:20) - choose your own truths, easy to get manipulated this days *#3. if you can dream it, you can do it.* (3:47) *#4. peace > people* (5:28) - be liberal in killing relationships that hurt *#5. don't crush the butterfly* (6:23) - metaphor never got dispelled here but it seems to recommend to consider letting go with grace, of people and things we latch on to for happiness, and staying open to novelty and variety *#6. get therapy* (7:43) - or just reflect on things you do, track your progress *#7. take your art teacher's advice* (8:27) - it's easier to stay healthy than to get healthy *#8. travel before your achilles ruptures (or another covid hits)* (9:29) - Taylor enjoys traveling and recommends doing your thing before unforeseen circumstances prevent it (@yesreneau Does that mean your tendon isn't healing well :( ?) *#9. put the "THOR" in "AUTHOR"* (10:17) - big part of life are stories we tell ourselves. it's possible to rewrite negative narratives to divinely epic
@@yesreneau It's my pleasure, fiddling with your contents always is. Glad the foot's getting better. You're looking very healthy, like you've never stopped doing sports during the recovery. Do you plan on frequenting at the Central Rock gym coming months? Gotta love the audience engagement under this video. It's like every comment gets a reply all of the sudden. Even though there seem to be an unspoken rule of only one reply per thread... let me try and drop few more Qs in attempt to spark a discussion: - Did I get it right regarding numbers #4. & #5.? You've already spoken about it in number 8 of your ""27 things I've learned(...)"" vid, but back then there was no mention of ditching people without letting them know what's wrong, which some may misunderstand as cruel. Hence request for elaboration. - Where was it that you were gonna go in April if not for the injury? Has the plan gotten pushed ahead or dropped? - Is the TikTok posting gig going on? Has it's bureaucratic hierarchy gotten more acceptable over time if so? - Could you recommend a good foot massage place in NYC? ♥
Girl, I love this Video. Thank you for talking about your twenties. I like how you phrase stuff and your weird comparisons get me insights. Thank you for making videos with good CONTENT.
I don't want to be captain Hindsight, but if you made mistakes in your 20s isnt that better than making them later down in your life ? like miles better
As a 29 year old, fellow waster of my post-grad 20s-I just need to express how much of an ally you’ve been to me throughout the years. You are by far the most relatable content creator for our generation and I hope that’s at least some consolation for all of the uncultured swine whom have attempted to troll you. Keep being fabulously you-we’re all in this together, mindlessly laughing as the world behind us goes up in flames (ya know like that meme)…. Much love❤ K.S.
This is such a positive lovely comment, I completely second this! There's another realistic down to earth person on YT I also like named Chelsea Callahan who lives in NYC. Same type of realistic and positive content w/ very relaxing vlogs!
Lol “uncultured swine” 😂 I’m dying over here. Your comment is so thoughtful and really means a lot to me. I’m happy that me sharing my life has meant something to other people going through similar experiences. (And I hope one day you won’t mind if I get all rich and famous and unrelatable in some very fancy ways… because that is still #peasantgoals. Ahaha but no, you know what I mean.) Ahaha I know the meme, and I’m definitely there laughing right beside you (but hoping, at the same time, that some people open up their gosh darn eyes so that maybe we can even put out this fire 🔥 #getlit) 😂
Wll but actually yr life was much more exciting like any adult. I have been struggling with a mental breakdown from covid before I even moved out. 😪no one knows my pathetic story
im so glad i stumbled across this channel. iv only seen a few of your videos but every single one of them radiates such absolute authenticity its hard not to feel inspired. thank you for all this and i hope you keep uploading for as long as you want to
i haven''t been here in a while. sounds like some great lessons, and i'm guilty of some of these myself, so wouldn't say they were wasted. i hope you won't be making a similar video in a decade. got to stay focused on those dreams
Glad to have you back to the channel :) and thanks so much for your comment-I’m definitely doing my best to live my next decade in a very intentional way
Fabulous b-rolls. 😂 Does your tendon injury allow for climbing yet? Is the foot still in a boot? How did you go about it's rehabilitation? Any special procedures? Do you still sing in a choir you mentioned during one of the streams? Which one is it if welcome to be an audience?
i missed you so much, was watching one of your old videos the other day, and showed to my bf. and this one came as a glove (is that a thing in english?! lol) for what we are dicussing this week. So happy to see you gere again! Also: wea love your sense of humor. All of my love to you, directly from Brasil 🇧🇷
Ahaha no, no fun glove quotes like that for us in English (although now I wish it were a thing🧤). So wild to me still that people like my videos enough to share them with other people in their lives ❤️ I’m so flattered, and I’m glad to be back making videos for everyone! Thanks so much for the comment, and I’ll have to get out to Brazil at some point!!!
I love this video so much I actually just turned 30 two weeks ago today and your video spoke to me so much what frustrates me so much is that I can’t really say I woke up and smelled the toxic friendships until 26/27 just in time for covid also the worm grasshopper analogy hot so hard How I wish I could take back the time I wasted on people I hoped would see my value and just focus on building peace within myself.
Time perception is funny... When at airport waiting for a delayed plane, time seems to drag out. Then when we land at a holiday destination and visit many places in one day, it can seem like there is not enough time and day just passed us by so quick. Yet when we recall those events later it's opposite no? The wait is just a blip in the memory while the action packed day is a huge, detail rich event in comprison. In this book "Your Brain is a Time Machine" author talks about interesting time perception studies. Some seem to suggest that, as we age, we not only experience years as passing us by faster but estimate equal time intervals as shorter than youngins do.
Dear YesReneau, I am 23 and recently became aware that life is very short and I can't try everything. Now I find it very diffucult to make a syllabus.. I can't decide. What do you suggest?
I suggest moving towards the thing that seems most fun for you and trying it out. If you can make it work logistically (and you still like it after figuring that out), then I would continue moving in that direction. If you end up not liking that thing after trying it, then I would move to the next thing that most excites you. And then I would rinse, wash, repeat that process until you land on something that works for you.
Hi YesReneau, I can't even recall when I first stumbled upon your videos (probably mid/high school), and now I'm going to college. I remember the inspiration I felt when I watched your college essay video, and the chuckles from your very extensive yet freestyle jokes. Thank you for your sincerity and good humour, and for always sharing your reflections. All the best with your future!
Im so glad you posted! I missed your content. I always look to see if you upload bc I resonate a lot with your videos and aspire to be as aspirational and authentic as you 😊 I’ve watched your content since high school and I graduated university last year. I quit a bad job I had for 3 years, took time off to travel now that I had money saved, …and now Im unemployed taking a pause to figure out what I want to do next. I have a fear of “wasting my twenties” but I see myself in you and I feel as though you haven’t “wasted” much. You’ve travelled, created art/content/had a devoted hobby, loved friends/boyfriend, and restarted your journey countless times. That seems like the adventure everyone strives for!
You remind me of my ex-wife, same age with same misunderstanding to her age at time, trying to get stronger while getting hit by life is not the solution. In 20s, you have to be flexible to the those hits learning how to survive and if you did so, you will enjoy later what you have passed through. I can see that you still suffer and haven’t recovered yet but believe me you will recover soon ❤
Aye I’m 23 too! And saving a lot more than I spend, saving about 35% of my income by living cheap! YesReneau helped me a lot through my time in college and I’m glad we are both doing ok now
Hii yesreneau! probably the first time commenting I have been watching your content for a decade I guess! (I came to know about Ivy Leagues through you). All these years, your content changed and ripened like a good wine. we do not know you fully, we can never know anyone well enough I suppose; but seeing you grow, seeing you swim with the rising and falling waves, and still swimming brilliantly, I suppose time passed soon, or maybe very slow when thinking about some episodes. it is wonderful to keep seeing you here. you are doing what many including myself could never muster the courage to do - to be free. I wish you a stroke of very good luck. keep striding
This comment is so meaningful, thank you ❤️ you hit the nail on the head of exactly what I’m striving towards every day… if I don’t have the courage to try (even if it’s sooo incredibly hard), then I feel like I would just be curling up into myself waiting for my moment to die. Thank you so much for wishing me luck, and I’m sending some your way as well 🍀
I think, yeah, it might seem a tad bit pretentious. But it's also my life, and the feelings are real, so I figured other people might relate to feeling on top of the world and then being told you are a complete failure and were a bad investment
Watching this on October 16th 2023. My final two days of my 20s. 😭 I wasted my 20s on stupid stuff. Sighs. Depressed and sad right now. Turning 30 on October 18th 2023.
