If You Hear THIS, He Will Break Your Heart! - STOP CHASING & Avoid This Red Flag | Matthew Hussey 

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Or you're hurting yourself. Think about it. Why pursue someone who has made it clear they are not ready or that they don't want a relationship with YOU. We gotta take a look at ourselves n our lack of self love n self value to even wanna continue to push the issue. That's first n foremost

@@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool They are telling you they are not ready for a relationship, move on, or enjoy the hookup. To get hurt, you have fooled yourself into believing it could be more.

Love it. So true.

Same. 3yrs & I left 💕🥂

@@chiobabe2180 how has your journey been since you left? Has he tried to come back since? What were some things you learned from this experience? Sorry for all the questions I’m still trying to heal & gain knowledge & grow through other prospectives.

@@Lulubeelove well he tried to breadcrumb me after 2 weeks no contact, I left him on read. This past Thursday he randomly sent a picture of himself with the caption “thoughts ?”.. left him on read again. I’m not EvEr reaching out again. If he wants me back he’s going to have to literally buy his way back & come with a full commitment or arrangement where I benefit drastically at all times. I’m not giving him another second of my time.

Releasing an attachment to outcome and trusting that was meant for us will never pass Us by is the magic key that I learned a few years ago. Instead, getting excited about whatever is going to show up is a great way to live day-to-day. Because we are all energy frequency and vibration, if we are pushing or chasing then naturally the other person will continue to go the other way. We attract things, as energy beings..❤ pull back your energy and put it find yourself, with pure intent to learn more about yourself..... we would never want someone to be with us out of fear of losing us, but if they demonstrate consistent long-term genuine and authentic behaviors that are not reminiscent of a covert narcissist.... then that may be something to consider. And if we fear losing someone then we weren't complete enough in the first place,😊

This video is power! Truthfully

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Exactly

Yup. The good old saying is let them grow up on their time, and not your time. Best thing I ever learned. Still difficult though to value yourself

10 years here :( so difficult to end the relationship, I was told to my self, one more year and enough, one more year. I was so blind :(

@@Starmajor391 that’s a good saying thank you ❤️

@@zumzizumza8963 I’m sorry 😢🤗 hugs

Me, too. 17 years. Raised 2 children with him, and finally left feeling I had no ability to have a healthy relationship and never would. Matthew Hussey wasn't around when I left him, and I threw away more years believing I was destined to be single.

wishing you the best of luck on the next chapter of your life ❤

courage to *_leave_* what doesn’t serve or satisfy us. courage isn’t about lining up a replacement (finding someone else). it’s courage to stand by for your values, needs and desires enough to walk forward, and continue the journey to your ultimate destination with integrity and discipline

The solution is stop looking for anything outside of individual purpose. We are NOT all meant to be married/ in romantic partnerships. This is a Divine assignment. Society has bamboozled ppl into thinking having a romantic partner/marriage is the end all, be all to a fulfilled, happy life.

The anxiety stems from not wanting to be our true selves and attempting to control the future, versus be fully in the present moment and find the joy in that. When we repeat patterns in relationships with those that seem unattainable, it stems from being unable to be seen or heard or accepted or validated or unconditionally loved from a parent or both. So if something is not going the way we would like it to in our lives, that means to focus on ourselves and continue the inner child healing and Shadow work, versus attempt to influence the external world. When we do that, it's a subconscious distraction from not wanting to see ourselves as we truly are, that's why we can't see others as they truly are. Not wanting to hear someone when they tell us or show us who they are, stems from being a child and not wanting to truly see that our parents may not have had our best interests at heart, that they were covertly narcissistic or emotionally neglectful etcetera. But as we age we are called on to reparent ourselves in the healthier ways and learn the self-love and self-value and self-worth that most parents do not typically teach us. Unshakable faith and trust and confidence in our intuition and our expression of our true self, not the one we created subconsciously as a child to present to the world in order to fit in or be liked, is what we're supposed to listen to❤ but we have been subliminally programmed without our knowledge, to not listen to our good instincts and use our minds to talk ourselves in and out of things. Once we gain self Mastery of our thoughts and begin to just observe them, and meditation is best for that.. an entire world of truth will open up😊

@jenifernadeau that is the best description I've ever heard. Thank you.

When we understand energy and the universe and the part we are playing and how everything is already within us, we innately know that what is meant for us will not pass Us by❤ we don't have to actively go searching in certain places or for certain people, as energy, we attract. We are in charge of our own vibrational frequency so once we determine what we desire, when we become that first, we attract the same. We don't have to write off people because they're not a good match, they may end up being close to us in other ways. If you beLIEve something is hard to do, then it is. If you look at it as fun and easy, then that is how the universe responds.

Wow, we are so much alike! I took a long break from dating to care for my deal mother, who passed away, then had another ten years to care for my disabled sister who also passed away. Before that the guy and prior were narcs. I attracted a high profile narc, who from long distance had me on a roller coaster, walking on eggshells, that I don't do right, and he will discard me. This year I have never had so many illnesses drs. cannot explain other than low immunity, I know it is him, I attract these people too. Now I feel so deeply depressed for esp. as having gotten older, like that make it harder. Have a therapist but what can she do?

@@janebraun4482 I so hear you! It definitely sucks and most of the time therapists are just a bandaid. I still go to my therapist though, because I feel a tad bit better after I vent to her! As for the chronic mental and physical illnesses I know much of the trauma and abuse I endured through the years led to most of them, however, it is hard being middle aged to come back from the illnesses since the body does not recoup well as we age! Gentle hugs to you and I only hope that somehow life gets better for us while we are stuck here on this big rock in the universe and we get a break and moment to breathe and something to finally go good for us before our end comes!

Thank you, I think I have PTSD from so many of these people taking advantage including professionals, where they took my money too!@@AphroditeMoon77

As long as we're breathing it's not too late to heal. Better alone than in bad company.

@@kiki19822 except for the fact that I am so horribly, chronically ill that I am bedridden and unable to work, so the treatments I need are unattainable due to no income!

I agree he has become more passionate, mature and sounds wiser.❤

The issue is alot of people THINK they know what they want but have no idea who they truly are at a soul level, let alone what their soul needs. That is why, most advice is not about changing the other person but about understanding ourselves better.. That way we can hold ourselves accountable to surrounding ourselves with the right people for us

@@IndigoHazelnut Most people arent investing in doing the hard work it takes to ‘know thyself’. It is a catch-22 for those who do, as the selections become fewer and fewer while solitude because more alluring and attractive because of the guaranteed peace it brings. That peace emanates and radiates outward because it seems that the more one finds it, the more all types of energy is attracted to it and wants a piece of the peace😂😂😂

It’s ok, we all have lost wasted time in relationships. You learnt what you don’t want in a relationship. but when you have feelings for someone it’s hard to let go. saying goodbye will come, your only human.

@@888alp it’s easy for me to say goodbye. Once my peace is thrown off, he has to go!

Instead of the low vibrational emotion of lack, look at it as blessings and opportunities for any lessons you needed to learn in the way you needed to learn them. You could not have learned the lesson from anyone else other than the person that taught them to you, and they don't even know how they helped you, because we initially look at it as pain and suffering There is no race here on Earth and we just keep coming back until we get it right anyway, we're all energy frequency and vibration and energy cannot be created or destroyed. We come here in each lifetime already predetermining the soul contracts we are going to have with particular people , partners, family members etc.❤ when you can forgive yourself for not being ready to learn the lessons, then you can forgive others who are also coming from a place of their own childhood trauma. Everything is a mirror for us. When we don't have deep innate self-value, self-love, self-worth, daily self-care and self-respect.... a healthy level of self-confidence and Trust in our gut intuition, (which most parents do not teach us at all because they are coming from a place of their own childhood unhealthiness) then we can only attract those who also are emotionally unavailable, or have a lower level of self-value. Like attracts like, that's how energy works. If we're seeing something in our life that we don't like, we're meant to ask ourselves how did we subconsciously attract that when it's not something we consciously want to? We have to take the subconscious belief programs from childhood that are still with us as adults and make them conscience and then create what we desire❤ that's empowering, isn't it? We are not victims, unless we beLIEve we are...😊

lots of time left! some never have the realization....your next one will be amazing! ❤

so true 💛

Take your intuition to the Lord and line it up with his. Ours can be tainted by bad experiences.

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I can relate, I'm often told I live and behave like someone from a previous era. While I dislike many things about the modern age- and manners seemed much better centuries ago-, people weren't necessarily happier back then when the only accepted way to live was proper courtship and a single lifelong marriage. People just stayed in their wretched marriages and/or had affairs on the side. The only way to be truly happy is to be content as you are, regardless whether you have a romantic partner or not.

This is just tragic; choosing to stay married vs the dating field. Wish u all the best, and don't second guess yourself. I pray u find love again.❤🙏

You are still young, @meganwildhood3893. And you have access to all this great advice. Go out there believing in yourself. You have time.

they'll say they are not ready after sex ha. So don't sleep with men for a minimum of 3-4 months. My 2 Cents

Seriously the best interviewer ever

I loathe the aggressive listening, so off putting.

😀 now you get "ok" ? 😁

@@CeciledeLuire 😄that’s funny!! Now I get a response and ❤️😊

@@redinkrose8840 😄 so cool, happy for you!! 😊💛

Agreed!! ❤

Us guys can fall in love with you girls just because you made too long eye contact over coffee machine at work. But then, after a relationship has started, we find out all the practical stuff - what do you do, what are your hopes and dreams. Do you want children, do you want marriage, what are your friends like, what are your parents like etc etc etc. At the end of that process, which can take months, we discover it isn't going to work for us. So we dump you. Often we don't tell you why, because there's nothing really wrong with you, we're just not compatible, and we don't really want to risk you saying "But I can change!". We don't want you to change for us. It's too big a responsibility too soon and makes us too obligated.

Great points. I agree. I don't agree with the dumping part. That's just cowardice-for men or women. It takes integrity to say "I'm really sorry but we aren't compatible" and stand by that, even when the person get's upset, wants to tell everyone how bad we are or tries to talk us out of it. We don't ditch people because we care about their feelings, we do it because we don't want to deal with their expression of their feelings. Messy. Inconvenient. Not fun. Better to have integrity and deal with their anger/upset, sooner than later.

@@IntuitiveCoachTheresa Let me give you an example. When I was 25 I was dating a girl of 18. Now everything was fine at first. I never had sex with her, because I never have sex with women until I'm satisfied that I am happy with the implied obligation that women always put on gifting sex. So everything is straightforward. Now around about 2 months in she's telling me about all her hopes and dreams for the future. Problem is her dreams for her future career are going to take her a long way from my dreams for my future career. Then I also meet her friends. Now her friends are 18. Her female friends are ok, but her male friends are immature. They drive my crazy. After 4 months together the guys in her friends group are really becoming unbearable. So the practical reasons for the split are that due to our difference in ages her future path are divergent from mine and I don't like her friends. Now I could've just told her that I don't like her friends and I don't see me playing a part in her future. But I know from experience things are not that simple. There will be a reaction to every reaction. I have to think about that. She might say "well to hell with you. My friends are fine, and so are my future plans" or she break down in tears, beg me to stay and say "It's OK, I'll change my plans and ditch my friends!". Well the first one is fine and delivers what I want, a clean break, but the second one is problematic. I don't want her to change her plans or her friends - not after a relationship that's only 4 months in and might not go anywhere. So I just tell her it's not working for me and leave it at that. And yeah, it certainly didn't avoid the anger anyway, judging by the tirade of shouting and swearing I got in return, but it successfully headed off the possibility that she ditched all her life plans and friends in the hope that she could keep the relationship going. So the point was that sometimes, when we dump a girl, we don't go into the reasons why because we don't want to complicate matters unnecessarily. I'm pretty sure when women say things like "It's not you, it's me" when they are dumping a guy it's for the same reason - it's a phrase that says "there are reasons that I have for dumping you but you can't really do anything about them and it's not because you're a bad person and could change, but I don't want to have a long debate about why because it won't get us anywhere and neither you nor I will gain from it". I've always figured that when a relationship fails it's a good thing. It's another bullet dodged. Another woman that has found out in time that I'm not right for her, or maybe I found out in time that she was not right for me. It's when a relationship fails when you've built your life around somebody else that it matters, but if it is nowhere near that far along you just pick yourself up, dust yourself down, and keep an eye out for the next relationship. People allow themselves to get too hurt by relationships where no real commitment was shown.

Amen!

It'd be a bit challenging to have mad chemistry with a wufe who sounds like a trans male and looks 10 years older than her real age. Also, you do know that those 2 are still very young so to use them as an example is a bit premature. Let's see where they are at in 10 years first. There will come a time when Leyla will experience feminine exhaustion from her business first value. The moment motherly instincts start to really kick in is when you will start noticing a shift in their dynamic as a couple.

@@valshiro515 Even though young, they were together for 8-9 years. But you could be very well be right, time will tell. Although they have plans to reach billionaire status and that may take 5 years or more and Leyla shows no signs of slowing down. But if she decides to have kids, she'll be able to afford all the help and still work part time. That's the beauty of financial freedom. I still believe their couple is much stronger than most built on initial affection that goes away in 6-9 months.

the "WEIRDO" got me haha 😀

So true these men are selfish.

Sooo right

Me too!!!!!!!!!

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he's great ❤