the timing is insane i’ve recently been feeling low bc i’m so lost and idk what i want to do with my life. i’m 19 so it’s like my life is just starting but i have no idea what to do with it. it’s been stressing me out a bit but this video made me feel a little better so thank u
You both have got this. You have time. We don't always know what to do in life when young. We find our way. I had a multitude of jobs before I found my current role and I have been in it for fifteen years. I love it, most days. Today was tough as I deal with challenging behaviors on a prevalent basis. Have faith in yourselves, silence that inner critical voice with practice. Treat yourself like your own best friend. Nourish yourself, your family and friend with replenishing and healthy sould food. Music, films, podcasts, articles, books of your liking. Learn about yourself.
Hey fellow infp. Don't stress. I'm 44 and I have been a teacher, photographer, stay at home mom, Rollerblader for Wal-mart (back in the day they had skaters do pricechecks) and roller derby. I love gardening and working in nature too. You are not on anyone's time card. You are on the planet to do you. Your time, your journey. Don't worry about societies pressures on when anyone should be this far at 20 years old and this far at 80 years old. I switch it up all the time. I don't know what I want to be when I grow up and I make myself try different things to see what interests me. Do not...but I'm talking to a fellow tribe member so you already know we don't play by anyone else's rules but our own..... (I'm quietly whispering after trying to look bad and tough in the last statement but follow rules of the land I'm not saying break the law😅)
As an INFP with depression I’m finding it really hard at the minute to even figure out what my core strengths are. I currently feel like I’m just existing. How will I even know what my strengths are?
Hey, I am an INFP and struggle with depression and anxiety too at the moment. What really helped me so far is theraphy, because I had no one I could talk to in a safe environment before. I already traced back multiple problems to their roots that are are burried deep in my childhood and can now work on them on by one. As a practical advice I can just say, set yourself tiny achievable goals first and try to do/reach them even if it is just watching a movie or go and eat something you like. This way you will build up your selfesteem and happiness again and can tackle harder goals over time. I felt very bad for a long time now and sometimes I still struggle, but I had a core realization recently. "It wasn't my fault that all the shit happend to me in the past, but it is over and now I am responsible for how I react to it! It doesen't have to be this way and I don't have to stay the same way forever. I can work on myself and still can reach my goals eventhough others had a better start and reached them already!" Wish you best of luck and that you feel better soon 🤗😊
@@Cerubim thank you for your advice, you’ve given me a lot to think about. Going back to work certainly helped but was worried about people looking. I no longer yearn for big social gatherings and feel anxious in crowded places. I’m glad to hear that therapy is helping you and I hope that it continues to help you while you revisit the dark moments of your past 😊
Oh gosh wow, 😭. This sounds like Shinji Ikari at beginning of neon Genesis anime and movies. Wow. You might be shocked how accurate than maker of those movies is portraying what you wrote. 🌍
I also suffer from depression. It's not static though. Sometimes it's better, sometimes it's worse. Never manic. It does get in the way of my goals because I tend to feel exhausted just surviving the day often. Don't know how to help.
I am an INFP. I live in place where I think I might be the only one. People think I am weak, selfish, and a nerd but from the inside I am a caterpillar waiting for the right time to come out of my cocoon and fly high. These videos make me feel special and help me smile when the rays of hope are completely blocked. This channel has made millions like me feel unique, useful and courageous. I cannot do much for you as a teen but I would like to thank you with all my heart. I wou,d like to thank you with the core of my heart and if I could I would've done alot for you too and I hope I can. Thank you
This is so heartwarming. It amazes me how you can be so forward-looking despite the adversities. But of course, the rays of hope never dies on an INFP like you. You always find ways. March on. :)
Hey this is an old comment... and you may not see it.. but I want to give you a small piece of advice. I'm 28 and until about a year ago I felt like you describe. The truth is. Your cocoon isn't something that will pop off on its own. You're going to reach a point where you struggle greatly and it just gets in the way. That's how they come off. Through adversity and the conviction you will need to face it with all your heart and might to do what makes you happy. Sometimes it may take you a long time to make a decision on things. Remember that not responding while you think can and will be taken as a decision in itself to the world around you. So please, do not be afraid to creep out of your shell now and then, to challenge yourself, and do not be afraid to be loved by those around you. It's not about being special, its about being the best we can even in the worst places, and learning to love even when things seem lost to us.
I'm 23 and I've been destroying myself over the past years. When I was younger, people would automatically look up once I entered the room and constantly tell me how virbrant, glowing and full of potential I was. And I felt that, I felt my potential even though I didn't know how to excess it. But I pursued a degree that gave me no joy, left me completely isolated because I was surrounded by people who just seemed to dislike my nature. And so I slowly but surely dropped everything I believed in, my morals, my values, my dreams, and now I feel soulless, like a puppet that just barely manages to exist. I finished my bachelors early this year and have been struggeling what to do with myself next. I'm not kidding if I say that I not only act like a puppet who just repeats what other people say and do, but that I'm also so weak, with such a destroyed aura, that I don't even know how to keep going. I need money so that I can get out of my toxic environment, but I recently I've been getting ill every couple of days and my head is killing me. I'm not a functioning human being even though now would be the time for me to move on from my past and make it better. I don't expect much response, just wanted to share.
Am infp too I js wanna say I been thru the same thing tryna meet expectations and js copying what others do and even say but the world is the world and if u try to look for things in the world u won’t find any, getting rich or money will not fulfill u and u might think well everybody wants money life wil better but you’ll still feel empty inside, there is a God in in heaven and he created u and loves u very much Jesus Christ helped me overcome my addictions, social anxiety, and made me feel whole bc I have his presence may he be with u in ur struggles ❤️❤️💗💗💗
I am 20 now, will be 21 in few months and I relate with what you said. I did take a degree on a subject that I truly love but my surroundings were really bad. Students and friends in my class were not passionate bout this subject and so teachers were fed up and almost gave up on us. Even though they try to take proper classes, I can feel that they have no expectations for us. Also my parents have almost completely lost trust in me because I am not even trying to fit their expectations of me. When I was a kid it was easy to show that I am good at studies so my parents built a lot of expectations for me, which naturally I couldn't make. My mom and my younger brother are the people I love the most. But now my mother believes that I am selfish and do not want to achieve to help the family and my younger brother thinks that I am irresponsible and depressed all the time. I am not saying all these to upset any Infps out there. I trying to find a way to get out of this situation but I also have no money or job. It is really frustrating sometimes😁
Most INFPs are like this before the age of 30. We struggle with depression. But please keep following your intuition and doing what you love. Remember that nothing in life is a must, so don't feel any pressure. Another thing that can help INFPs see the direction during depression is spirituality. You can also try it.
This video literally spoke to my soul… so relatable 😭 And seeing fellow INFP’s share struggles in the comments made me realise we’re not alone. But it’s funny how infps strive for connection and simultaneously solitude… I now want an INFP friend to further elaborate on our paradoxical tendencies 🙂
@@philrei2797 as long as you're always trying to improve yourself, acknowledgement is the first step. a perk of being an INFP is that we're feelers and tend to introspect. I hope your relationship improves^^
Thank you for this inspirational video! As an INFP who always feels lost and frustrated because of the pressure from families and society, I feel warm inside knowing that I am not alone and there are still hope for someone like myself...
“It’s not that you’re purposeless. Rather, you’re in the process of discovering it” 10 years in the process of discovering, maybe another 10 more years and I’ll find it when it’s too late
Sometimes the journey is full of purpose in itself. Enjoy yourself, learn, evolve and share good things with others. Don't live a life full of anguish in hope for a great happiness in a distant future. Make the best you can with the time you have and you will feel proud of yourself very soon.
in theory , it sounds good ..but when you live it in the real life everyday , ohhh..its living hell , even if you are a late bloomer , the journey is very tiring 😢
Not all INFPs feel their life has no purpose. Not all INFPs compare themselves to others or feel worthless. Childhood experiences and family dynamics mold the adult. InFPs are incredible sponges.
I've been flitting from job to job, with freelance writing a constant; I'm strongly INFP. But when I turned 65, I decided I'd had enough of writing for other people and decided to cut my own path. Your videos are such an inspiration and comfort to me. They have helped me see why I do the things I do and why I always fall back on writing. Now, I'm writing daily children's stories and putting them online; I haven't missed a day since August and I'm still having a ball. Thank you for helping me get there.
I love watching these INFP videos. They all make me smile and nod. I love being me even when it's hard. I always remind myself that all the pieces will click eventually and the connections we see in our minds are real...at least to us INFP's. I'm 42 and started my own business 5 months ago. Not my dream job but a good stepping stone to get there. I couldn't work for others anymore on their schedules and under their thumbs, with rules that didn't make sense, things that weren't efficient and terrible efficiency and lack of customer appreciation. Ugh So draining!
I was going trought a lost path. Even simce i was little thinking even i worthless and different. Even thinking maybe i have a personality disorder. Seeing that i wanted to so everything and think differently. But then I realize im a infp amd this cured so mamy things and click. Now ot makes sense and it has help me to be happier and i love been a infp. Now i know my path. Do everything and try everything thats who we are
How often do INFPs find themselves wanting to share their wisdom with others and wishing to teach others? Or is that less of an INFP thing and something a different type experiences?
It's all the time for me cuz I seem to surround myself with people with problems. When I try to share my insight and try to comfort people I call it my cheerleader mode. I've found that when I'm at a loss and I don't have a handle on my own situation I get pissed at myself and the world for not being better than it is, in other words, easier to deal with. So much of my self esteem comes from being helpful and meaningful to people.
@@meaxmae Same on pretty much all of this. The only thing I can't say is the same is a tendency to surround myself with people that have problems. In my case it's two-fold: I actively look for people that have a problem, and I give off an aura or something that makes it easier for my already established friends to approach me with their problems. Sometimes I wish I could see what they see.
Its such a deep pain to live as an Infp man ,like you are literally an opposite of the role model ,nobody understands you,Endless lonelyness, Infinte creativity but no skill ,everyone says infps are soo positive and generous But im not really sometimes im draining and negative reallly reallly negative ,Likeyou are an introvert and likes to bealone but its such a pain if you stay in it ,8billion people and none of them like you, I can realte to those real videos ,Finally i found some hope ,but almost all of my friends try to take my happyness and destroy my dream so i isolate ghost them but they dont care cause they dont need me ,and it feels so sosososo hopeless when you realise you are nobodies favourite person,nobody loves you .Most of my chatting are with myself or with ai s 😂
I was taken aback when I heard you mention you being in an engineering course while you're into philosophy. That describes my whole situation rn and this video resonates with me so much. Thank you ♥️
Thank you for creating these videos. It feels reassuring to hear that these things I feel/experience are not just limited to me, and can actually be strengths rather than weaknesses. It sucks being the only INFP in my circle and I often feel unworthy or unvalued. I really appreciate the validation.
God I wish I watched the Late Bloomer part when I was young. It wasn't until my late 20s that I realized that confronting the pain and dealing with it actually made me more powerful. I feel like I had 40 years of development in 2 from there on. It's a superpower honestly.
I relate...I'm transitioning into a healing based biz and it's slow going, I can have trouble being organized while others point my short comings as to way I am not "driving forward". Anyhow...yes I like "compete" with myself! I knew that when I was younger and I did sports that weren't team based, long distance running, mountain biking and I did well when I embraced "it's me against this run, race" sort of thing. I'm doing my best to stay on my path as broke as I am for now I know I can alter and shift creatively to live my highest life purpose and help others. Ok...I really relate to this vid, always a rebel and living my authentic self while others around me at times are triggered by me and jealous even though they are more "successful". I dont know that I give up, I tend to hit very long pauses on goals, projects as other energies bekon my attention but ya it's not always good. I have wished I was more "J" but seeing the dark side of the "j" and the over organization with everything just isn't me. I guess I rather be a disorganized (at times) mess, lol.
Can’t believe how accurate this video is. Thank you so much. I feel less lonely and less worthless. My fellow INFPs !! Be kind to yourself and be proud of who you are ❤️ I know it’s not that easy but keep self reflecting and you will reach there . Good luck.
You shouldn't give up, because then the naysayers will just get stronger and more dominant in your life. Don't listen to the negative too seriously. Acknowledge it, certainly, but don't pay it any mind.
I ain't giving up... I just put an expiration date on all the things I'm doing; which is a bit sad (leaving colleagues) but this helps me to grow and figure out what I really want to achieve... Great video btw. Thank you.
@@SeelenTaucher No. None of the 2 jobs I had in the past 2 months were good for me, they were stressful and made me feel hopeless and sad. Specially because the payment was very little and I worked 12 hours a day. When I tried to speak up for myself got fired from one of my jobs. I quit my other job because customers were really really rude and ended up crying everyday
@@sofivivian7909 I see...so there is not even much "private and alone time" for yourself, which is needed for you as infp. Plus, if the wage is less and the job is not feeding your infps strengths...that's why many of my nf friends got into burnout or depression. The world needs to prepare more space for introverts and feelers as well. If the soul was not fed, than it suffers...
@@SeelenTaucher Yes! Thats what my infj friend and I think, the world is not made for people like us, feelers and introverted. Thank you for saying that. And yes, not having some alone time for recharging is exhausting. Specially because I already have mental health issues. 😞
@@sofivivian7909 I thank you for sharing your thoughts, and experiences, cause this gives us power to change the world in the outside as well, because we want the introverted feelers to have their space within the world as well as all extroverted sensors. So I asked myself why there was no night cafe with books, silent cafe where everyone has their silent corners, books, laps, silence, but still around people, but just in different ways...no music, but you bring your own, dimmed light and stuff... from afternoon till night, because nights are less stressful, especially for sensitive souls. Could you imagine places like this? Any other ideas?☺️🌟
Any infp who is highly neurotic? How do you deal with yourself? Have you ever felt that you should have been Dumb so that your mind stops wandering negative things...stop seeking perfectionism..please tell..
In the big 5 personality test. I score very high on neuroticism. When I am in my weakest, I desire just that, have not a single thought, but that is just me being tired to exhaustion as I was always taught to be a caregiver, so I by default feel like it is my responsibility gauge and adjust other people's emotions actively to be harmonious and positive state. That and having the standard desire of non conflict and to be free to be me has me running through some extraordinary hoops, if I am not cognizant that I am doing just that. Lot of work behind and long way ahead to get rid of this undue assumption of responsibility.
Honestly currently I have a ton of problems and they never seem to end, they're like a parade of headaches, and when there's a lull in the parade I'm on autopilot working more than full time and I don't get enough rest which makes me cranky. When I have time off I'm at a loss at what to do with myself and I get mad at myself for squandering that precious time -- I recently realized I feel better when I take myself out to museum or nature park visits and I have to be deliberate about it. So fine tuning my recharging habits helps. Also one time I had trouble sleeping and I told myself "I'll think about that (problem) at 3 pm tomorrow" and that relaxed me so much! Like pushing clutter off a tabletop. I found out it's a handy trick to set appointments with yourself to make things manageable.
Don't take yourself so seriously. Seriously, I don't take you seriously, so why should you? JK...about the second part. I was serious about not taking yourself serious. So, seriously. I have learned to relegate my ludicrous speed and random thought patterns to background noise. Once you've got it down to a dull roar, you can better determine what's worth worrying about and what's just "in your head". When you get down to it, you'll find that there are only a few things that are really important. Thusly, there's only a few things to really worry about. Here's something that may(or not) help- Life is to be lived, not examined and figured out.
I resonate so hard with this video! It gives me hope to move forward, realizing I'm not the only one who feels this way! I'm rooting for all INFP to get to where they want to be. We are not alone and we can make it! Our souls may be sucked at time but never taken out of our bodies, so it will always come back and make use grow and more powerful.
I don't have any friends who are INFP in real life, and I feel like no one understand me. Found your video and it's so me. Seems like everyone in your comment section are also understanding, why don't we make a INFP group/channel/community? I hope we can share our story and get better and grow up together. If I make a group, is there anyone else here want to join?
My boss is an infp, so am I. A lot of times we clash ?! He is a male doctor while I am a female m.a. there will be times when we dont get each other and there are moments of connection where it’s idealistic star gazing story telling . Guessing it’s a stress thing at work where we connect to our shadows. Naturally infps are sloths so i get it. We both don’t wanna be there (;
Ok…let me start by saying I’m old as dirt, but I have learned a few things along the way. I have come to the conclusion that INFPs always think they are failures at life for one reason or another. But the thing is INFPs are simply late bloomers, if you will. INFPs are the chrysanthemums in the garden of life…not tulips who look so beautiful early on, but fade away with the first hot days. Nor are we annuals lined up to decorate a border. Chrysanthemums weather the cold spring days, the hot summer droughts and then after all the other flowers have had their day, the chrysanthemums come into their own and continue to thrive through the frosty days of autumn when all the other flowers have given up. Your time is coming. And also remember…It’s not giving up…it’s moving on.
I'm an INFP, retired after 35 years in college education. A lot of what I did then seemed useless, and everything I do now seems useless. It's no use! PS Add memory loss/tremor/involuntary muscle spasms to this and I get almost constant frustration. It's a good thing my psychiatrist prescribed medical marijuana to me. It has saved my life.
Im cryinggg wow i didnt know that a single video that randomly being auto played can understand me better than people who are closed to me :") this is very helpful and motivating❤ thank youu for this and i just wanna say that I like your voice. It's very soothing😊
This video speaks so loud to me, of course INFP, specially right now that I finished a five year long career studies, and feel completely lost because I'm not sure I like the path following that career. Thank you for reminding me that I'm not alone in this and that I have to work on building my own path, even though it will be hard and feels somewhat impossible right now Thank you
I don't think I should count on comments being seen, but as an INFP, I feel most attached to playing video games and the friends I connect with by playing Splatoon 3. It's obviously not something I think I can fixate on because it's just a game, though, and even though I have many other curiosities and morals, nothing resonates as strongly with me as Splatoon 3 yet. It makes me uneasy. I'm around 17.
I resonate with dragon age more so than the real world... I write fanfiction about it and I have learned so much about myself by writing it because it gives me a place for my own expression... but I also have two master degrees... your imagination is your superpower as it leads to idealism... idealism leads to goals and if you're really passionate about it you won't give it up... Don't worry too much just work with it...
I understand, I’ve been there. Look for why you like the game - is it the community? The sense of accomplishment? Making a strategy, competing, getting better at something? There’s always other reasons we’re addicted to a game, and often those reasons point back to our strengths and passions. Eventually you’ll be able to apply them to real life too, you just haven’t found your niche yet
PURPOSE is not a thing to discover You "choose" your own Purpose of life Example : Your purpose of Life can be "living a decent life" Or "Helping the homeless in your area to get them job"
Just for the protocol: I don't feel useless. But I don't know what to do. And I'm scared as shit that one wrong move from me will harm this boy for good and maybe I will never see him again. I rather think you are useless. Cause you all see my painand you aren't blind like me, but you don't tell me any shit so I would know what's the right thing to do in this situation! At least that's how it looks and feels for me. And most times it's just unbearable. And if I'm totally honest: If I had the opportunity, I would trade every single person on this planet, everyone of my friends and family, just for the simple single knowledge that he's safe and sound and well cared for for the reast of his life and not played and used by anyone evil.
I really needed this today!! 🥲 I'm an INFP who wears many hats--artist, mushroom logger, grave finder, photographer, personality theorist, life-coach in the making, and solo-traveler. BUT last year I also got roped into helping a local restaurant as a server on weekends because they needed people, and it has been a brutal learning curve with a pace that I just can't keep up with without things falling through the cracks (curse that inferior Te!) I still consider myself an artist before everything with illustration as my career, it's just hard when I want to do well at the restaurant too, understand that I AM able to connect well with the people I interact with through the restaurant, but I'm definitely NOT the first choice for getting things done quickly or efficiently compared to everyone else.😅
I have to laugh at this but also wish you good luck. I don't even have a handle on myself so if you could solve your INFP then good for your INFP! I was telling my bf this morning I hate my personality type because I suffer for nothing.
@Rainbow Crow so true. As an ENTJ I'm concerned with telling people the truth by recognizing how they think objectively. Unfortunately, I can do this by detaching from my emotions, so when I tell you the truth about yourself, there's a 99% chance it will hurt your feelings. Basically, if I don't tell you the truth, then I have to watch you suffer, and if I do tell you the truth, it will hurt your feelings and you'll reject me. People presume that I'm trying to hurt them by ignoring their emotions, but they don't understand that I'm willing to hurt my own emotions if there's something negative but true about myself. The end result is chronic rejection, isolation, and lonliness. My blind spot is trying to find a balance between truth and harmony. Alas, the window isnt large, the truth almost always hurts. It's the ENTJ's catch 22.
@@eminemstrash2021 Truth can hurt many times, because it's destroying our ways we thought of us and the world, so the world we thought we knew, is burned down and that can hurt on first instance. But if truths is out there, we are not building sand castles, but our true selves and the understanding of us and the world outside. Hurt might be part of healing process, because you learned consciousness 🌍❤️ I always had been grateful for every truth, even if I rejected (not the person) the truths first...but reflected afterwards. Where fear might be there is most potential of growth. 🙏🏻 Thanks for daring to be honest in a rational way.
