As a 54 year old watching a lot of videos about younger people feeling lost and disconnected I feel for you. Don't ever feel like you're not good enough and don't compare your success to your friends, colleagues and family. Success is subjective. On the surface they may look like they have life figured out but I can assure you they most likely don't. We're all just winging it - even me. One day at a time, one step at a time, one activity at a time. There's no timeline. Do what feels right and set achievable small goals. Little goals add up to big goals. Hang in there!
I can relate to feeling behind. I’m in my late 30s and haven’t accomplished as much as my peers. No house, no spouse, no kids. And hobbies can be a way to procrastinate. Been there.
If you aren't in pain, can eat, can sleep, be happy. You never know what would happen in the future. Some people are blessed while for some there are adversities waiting to happen. If you're lucky and good things are waiting for you, you would be wasting your time being unhappy today. But if bad things are in your destiny and your life will get worse, you would be wasting your happiness today. Hope you get what I'm saying
Thanks for sharing this Abbey. I'm 34, living at home, single, and not working. I've been going through a serious health problem this year, which added to the depression I was already feeling. I usually would avoid my friends whenever I was struggling. But because I was in such a dark place this time, I decided to open up about it, and it actually lead to more meaningful bonds with them. I think it's common to only want our friends to see the good parts of our life. But I hope you have some friends in your life that you can lean on while you are struggling, and who will love you regardless.
When you speak about having fear about nobody caring about your vlogs, that’s understandable but people do care and find value in your videos, even if it doesn’t feel that way right now. It’s really nice to hear someone be so vulnerable with what they’re going through and how they’re feeling, it’s a nice change.
I can really relate to this video. I moved back into my parents house when I was in my 40s. Long story but I had a big life crash (relationship disintegrated, career disintegrated, depression, as well as other stuff etc). Obviously, I don't particularly want to be here and having to deal with my parents' weird smothering ways, but is what it is for the time being.
If you don't want to work a 9-5 and get stuck in that same cycle for the rest of your life. Then, you will need to use your free time wisely to explore new skills you can learn, brainstorm a realistic plan, find a new passion/hobby. You have to put actions into your ideas or else they will forever be just an idea. The hardest part is starting, once you get started then the ball will naturally move itself. I was in the same situation as you in 2018. I had a stable job, but i felt lost and incomplete, like i was stuck in a cycle and not growing. But, i realized that i never had the time to brainstorm anything because most of my time I spend was working, working, working. So, i randomly quit my job without having a plan B. So, that gave me the pressure and to force myself to think of a plan, since i had all the time in the day now without a job. It took me 3 months to brainstorm and another 3 months to execute my idea. I now own my own business. Theres been a ton of down-days these couple of years, but i'm happy with how much i have grown as a person from it. Long story short: You need to force yourself to get uncomfortable inorder to make that change or else you will be too comfortable to do anything new.
Hey 👋 I think it’s easy for us to naturally want to give advice to someone struggling but it’s not always helpful - so I’ll try to avoid that right now. What I do want to do is reassure you and validate you. I think what you’re going through is something we all experience. And the fact that you have courage to speak of it on camera is remarkable. I know your content will help someone out there struggling- it helped me for sure. Don’t get caught up in comparing yourself to others, we all have our own journeys and things always don’t look as they seem. I hope you find time to reconnect without yourself and pour some time and energy into your well-being and happiness. Also wanna say that vlogs can be a way for you to get out and explore while making content. Consider that? You can plan something out for a day and make it happen when you have time. Those who wanna see your stuff will see it and since you are somewhat new to it, you will gradually find your style and settle in. Go for it! Don’t let the fear rule you. Best of luck in life and I hope my words help you, even if it’s just a little 😊
It feels like everyone should have a script to follow. It's hard when people don't talk about it and it seems like you're not following the conventional path. In my mid 30's. Not married, single, no kids, and not a homeowner. Seeing my friends and colleagues getting married, starting families, able to afford homes due to having 2 incomes....I feel like I'm behind in my life. I can't imagine having to move and adapt to a new environment. I moved to a city I disliked many years ago with my family and I remember that feeling. Hang in there. Life does get better, but also know that you can create your own script. Take care!
I'm in a similar situation and in my 30s too. I would have loved to connect with you cause we have similar interests and I feel we have a similar vibe. Anyway, same situation here, and the worst indeed is to cut all social connections cause we're too embarrassed by our life situation. I did that recently, cause my ""friends"" (acquaintances) ask "what's up in your life" and honestly since a few years, I came to lie to them cause honestly it was so embarrassing to tell them the truth.
I'm gonna be 28 in a month and I can relate to what you say. I never really had any friends, I'm still single, still living with my parents and never really had much of a life. All I do is work, go home, hit the gym, repeat.
I think that's great you are taking the time to reflect on your life. I'm older than you, Abbey, and lived with my parents in my late 20's. I found that getting out of my comfort zone opened up many opportunities for me, and I grew so much as a person. It can be scary, but it's worth the risk. Wish you all the best, and thank you for sharing.
I cant wait to see your vlogs ! I watch a youtuber who lives a normal, peaceful life and I love it. She just shows food, her dogs, make up, skincare ( i would love to see your skinscare routine because your skins is georgous...💓) Personally i dont like vlogs when too much is going on. I like normal life. Just try and then you will decide if its a good idea or it's better to do something eles :)
@@abbeysolute and i forgot to mention that that youtuber shows several days in one vlog, not just one :) I think it's clever. It's very difficult to come up with many interesting ideas in one day. Wish you luck :*
Just go on with vlogging girl. Be brave! Your topic is very interesting and a lot are in the same situation. Wish you all the best and sending hugs from Seitzerland ❤ Greetings Susanne
“Feeling anger, anxiety, or sadness is normal. Emotions are a healthy, unavoidable part of life. However, wallowing in your emotions is a choice. Feel your emotions, recognize them, then move on.” Mark Manson
Check into get your bloodwork done also, you might be lacking in essential vitamin. my 22 year old is still getting on my nerve after we hammered to "do this or that" now time to move out this fall and in panic mode. OH WELL, TOLD YA SO!
Don't be too hard on yourself for living with your parents. Enjoy the time you have with them. Things are changing and its not unusual for people your age to live with your parents. A lot of Italian families have multiple generations living under the same roof. I believe in Amish families the youngest child stays living with the parents to take care of them in their old age. It's your life so don't compare yourself to others. Figure out what you want out of life. Seems like you're doing some self reflection so you'll get there.
I moved states for my dream job, which I couldn’t find in my home state, so I had to move away from my parents home. Although to begin with I preferred being out of their house, I now prefer being with my parents.
Just here to say I understand and empathise. Don't be too hard on yourself. Also, you're plenty interesting enough for vlogs! Have you seen vloggers nowadays? They are getting away with murder😂. You'll do well.
Have you ever heard the Rise Against song, "The Black Market?" Life feels like that. "There's a life that we can lead, but we're lost, inside of these holes."
I want to encourage you to try a bold video. I want you to go out to the downtown area of your city and ask people questions. Older or your age and ask for wisdom and what they learned and how they got there and their failures. This could help you and us watching.
Stop comparing and Stop saying you are not good enough. If you don't like where you are then MOVE you are not a tree. Complaining does not help us at all. We all work, we all have periods in life that are not the best.
