Inside the Mind of a Female Narcissist  

She is one of a kind!

She’s the realest and she’s funny and adorable like shes my mommy ok ok

​@@TreadingtheBorderlands lmao

Hi Sara, where are you from? The video is Pure edutainment - what a story and Ty for sharing and having courage ✊

So pleased things are better for you and you're loving your life 🙌

I think woman are becoming more NPD bc it’s a man’s world but the men are becoming boys and woman are becoming like men .. bc you give us no choice .

I'm pretty sure I didn't speak in Black/White about reactive abuse. Defending yourself is a reaction to a threat. BUT you will come off as abusive. Since someone like me can't see your side of the issue, I can be hurtful and not even notice; this is my normal. You're hurt and criticize me for hurting you (anger, sadness). I will defend myself. Again, I can't see your perspective so you just think I'm a sadist our for destruction. Like Dr. Ruth said, it's all about a narcissists (emotional) survival. This comment is not to be dismissive of your pain. Your feelings are valid and your truth. I'm just telling you how my brain sees the world.

@@cLuStErBMiLkShAkE I understand what you are saying and totally right. I didn't think it was black and white thinking. I am hearing you describe a situation where two people misunderstand each other's intentions for whatever reason and because neither person has healthy interpersonal skills it results in mutual abusive language towards one another because they are both trying to defend. Exactly as you said. I feel like I am describing a different scenario where there are malignant people out there who are in fact deliberately doing something or saying something they know is hurtful with the calculated intention of getting a rise out of the other person. This is where I feel this term is a thing. The difference is in intention, which is hard to prove. I also think there are people who keep conflict going even though they realize the other person is trying to repair and they are just holding out to punish. Both scenarios do happen and I also don't think this type of abuse is specific to people with NPD. I also don't think black and white thinking is specific to people with NPD. I am not an expert, but I think we ALL are susceptible to black and white thinking. I know as a kid, I was more idealistic because I had not lived long enough to understand nuances. As I get older I have learned to question more beyond my initial thoughts. I felt horrible calling him a narcissist. I still do. I am not qualified to say that. I do believe there is SOMETHING with him. But I don't know what that is. My heart goes out to him and I take total responsibility for my outburst at the end, no matter how awful he was being. I realized that I need to recognize when I feel pushed too far and disengage. That is on me. But, I need to be fair to myself as well and that was over a year of that before I hit my breaking point. the fact is, we need to find people that bring out the best in us, not the worst. I ended it for that reason. I am rooting for him, but I don't believe he will seek help the way you are. Honestly, you really are doing amazing. Keep doing what you are doing.

@@averagejane09 In all fairness, when you are being hurt by someone you love, it all seems malignant. 💔

@@cLuStErBMiLkShAkE I can understand that. For me it depends on the intention. We all make mistakes. If the hurt was intentional it feels malignant. If it was not intended, it feels like a misunderstanding. That is just me.

She's fabulous!

Those channels are keeping you in victim mode because they are calling Narcissists MONSTERS that targeted you for destruction. The channels that teach you how to become whole and thrive in life (Crappy Childhood Faire/Tim Fletcher) would be channels that support healing and growth. We all are survivors of our own childhoods and, unfortunately, the survival continues through a narcissist's defensive behaviors towards their people. Tell those sh*t channels to teach about mental illnesses instead of Sadism and I will stop saying that they are keeping you in victim mode.

There's a book call The Borderline Mother that is really helpful bc they describe 4 different types of Cluster B Mothers. Since our traits cross over, I even saw myself throughout the book. I bet you'll find you mother in there.

@@cLuStErBMiLkShAkE thank you!

Unfortunately, if you want authenticity, you get the cussing. There is a warning so you have a choice BEFORE watching this video. I do understand that is can be off putting but it's part of who I am and even in The DSM 5, surprisingly (ASPD trait). So, in the name of Jesus, try to soften your heart for my disordered mind and see the message beyond the vulgarity (another ASPD trait).

Why would that ever matter. I cannot comprehend this type of thing.