He simped for her, she ran roughshod over him then, and she's still living rent free in his fantasies. He feels like he punched above his weight with her, and so is looking backwards rather than forward, he needs to go see a therapist and work on himself
So if your husband cheated and left you…then got together with that person married them and then stole your child custody…you’re telling me you’d be just fine? 😅🤣 Good job believing the narcisttic interrupting as*hats in this video.
@@theegreatawakening1937What are you even making up??? SHE LEFT HIM, HE’S STILL CALLING HER HIS WIFE. Tell me your sexiest without telling me. You so badly want the man who takes of his kids to be the wrong why??? He’s doing his job as a parent and a father. You sound pathetic, the man in the video called HER his WIFE, not the mother of child or dumb shit.
@@mixedmamiiD same here my ex wife gets 2k a month in child support on 1 child and refuses to work and lives on government assistance for some reason the courts don't see a problem with it
@@E3fieldservices7144 They should be forced to get a job if receiving support and child is school age. No sitting at home watching soaps. Doubly so if receiving alimony.
yeah.. masters degree does not mean shit nowadays... companies want to play a fraction of what you are worth... it is a struggle to find a good job with a good environment and with a decent salary... it seems that we are asking for a miracle lol... The market is a piece of shit... a traditional career sucks.. unless you are lucky enough to land a job at a gov agency or gov run company (public) ... otherwsie you are screwed on the private sector... except if you are lucky to land a job in those humungulous corporations...
The fact that he’s still wearing & touching his wedding ring shows how much he took those vows seriously! This man is deeply hurt. I feel awful for him
How is no one putting together that he cheated on her and married someone else? That’s why the court gave the child to him instead of her. Because he had a 2 parent home. She didn’t.
@@theegreatawakening1937Who did what to whom is not a determinant of this court. It's simply to apportion child support obligation, and the recipient is the parent with custody. Plenty of men have had to handle the shitty end of this particular stick...
@@theegreatawakening1937See I would believe you but I’m literally proof that’s not always true. My mom was single making 20,000 a year and still got custody of her 3 kids. If that mom truly wanted her kids should could get them no problem. Especially if HE NEEDS HER CHILD SUPPORT, but she’s not, and he’s the one caring for the child. He literally said “how could you do this to us?” Cause the man makes significantly less than her.She would have no problem getting custody if she actually wanted it.
@Tyler Singelton, you did not know that there are dead beat mother also. Women who would rather party than take care of their children do the same as the dead beat fathers. It goes both ways, been that way for many years.
@caporal pistachio it is also bad when a woman, the non-custodial parent does it, as well as men, the non-custodial parents does it. The woman is not a girl but a grown woman, the guy is a man. Get it right, man.
@caporal pistachio Woman are not girls, there is a difference. A woman is an adult, a girl is not. Big difference, unless you are a little boy. Best you learn about biology. Go back to school and learn it.Troll.
@@DUECE12412 lazy? She still works 40hours a week. I bet more than you do. Who is anyone to tell her she needs to make more money. $625 a month($7,500yearly) should be more than enough for child support. Which is how much you would pay making 30k.
@@kingkanga6034 lazy because she quit her high paying job with master degree to go be a supermarket clerk and make 40 thousand dollars les. No job is equal , she wanted to swindle her way out of paying the child support but it doesn't work like that.
He is paying his share as the custodial parent. The support is not based on maybe future jobs, or lottery winnings, or pixie dust. During the marriage, what did the parties make? Thus her willful attempt to cheat the child by either working 1 day a week or quitting and getting a starter job is a fraud the court sees through.
I feel like it would be valid for some, not necessarily for her. I have generalized anxiety disorder and I don't think I'd make it at a corporate job...but if you are going to claim something like that, I feel that you should see a doctor, as the judge said, and get a doctors note that states that the job is deteramental to your health...IF that is, in fact, true.
@@promisedove yeah.. if she really had that, corporations have some sort of Employee Assistance Program. She could have gone on some type of short term family medical leave and/or asked to be in a modified position until that time was up. For her to INTENTIONALLY leave sounds like she really is a piece of work. No doubt once she discovered she had to pay child support she put the wheels to quit or get fired. Bitch didn't even try to make it better for herself. She just wanted to screw her ex AND her kid over. One wonders if the child has some underlying medical condition.
This is the problem, you men think it’s about favoring the gender/ women. Most of the time the woman has custody’s, so of course the man has to pay. Hence the reason men always complain about paying child support. Don’t want to pay? Fight for custody, which most men won’t 🙃
This seriously needs to be on TV. If it wasn't for just coming across one of these videos on youtube, I would never have known this show exists and it's now my all time favorite to watch!
For sure I can guarantee she experiences way more stress as a retail grocery cashier than she ever did at her corporate job. I ve had office jobs and retail jobs. I can definitely say that I know for a fact office jobs are way more laid back and cause you much less stress daily and you even get to be away from the general public with customers. I loved my office job and hope to get back to that sort of gig one day. M tired of retail. I literally told myself at the start of my college days that once I graduate my degree will guarantee that I’ll never have to work a low level or low paying or even a retail or grocer job ever again. Then the pandemic happened and I had to take what I could get bc my bills had started to pile up. 🤷🏼♂️
I will say yes to that. I worked at retail and I worked in an office as retail support. It is much stressful working at the front of house than it is at the back of house. She probably got that emotional distress from a customer who probably yelled at her for pricing a can of soup for a dollar more.
@@BooHefner well, the woman had his child, he could not see her often but still haf to pay for her child support. If a parent is not worthy to support a child then it should automatically go to the opposite parent.
That lady is full of it, she only got the low paying job in hopes to find her self in a court room discussing reduced child support payments, just to turn around and go get a high paying job again
The crazy thing is she still would have made a lot more money with the 70k job and the full child support payment than she would have with the 30k job even if she had no child support payment. So she just screwed herself.
Guys and Girls like that often charm other women into giving them room and board and do chores inconsistently so that they only work part-time and not pay child support. If a guy or girl comes up to you and tells you a sob story about how evil their ex is and how “understanding and much nicer” you are- shut the door, change the locks, say what you need to ghost them because you are caught between baby momma or daddy drama. If the bum won’t pay for their kid because he lies and says that the ex is spending the lousy $200 a month on herself, you are being set up. Consider what they are contributing now, not what they say they’ll do, because you will hear similar excuses.
I know this is a year old comment, but it wouldn't matter if she went to find a higher paying job after, if the father found out he can take her BACK to court and get an increase in child support based off her new income. Gotta love the court system finding silly loopholes like that.
I mean, if that's the case is really dumb thing to do. Dad can ask for a increase as soon as she gets the high paying job again. So to risk your livelihood just to pay some less will hurt you more than it will hurt your ex/your child. But on the other hand, my uncle worked informal jobs most of his life to avoid paying for his older child and focus on the ones he had with my aunt.. so it's possible some people are so selfish the become real bad at math/decission making in general.
April Jones, obviously you are not in the job market. People with masters degree, including me, can't get a job. If you think with a masters you can get a job, then show me proof that a masters degree guarantees well paid jobs. We, veterans struggle to gain employment even with masters degree. Some people with masters mop floors as a way of living. Now, in this situation, I blame her because she should seek mental health assistance to evaluate her mental conditions. Sometimes you must quit a job that is doing more harm than good.
@@mortymortal7 That is correct but also a divorce may affect job performance and may need a new job. Masters Degree is not a pass to high salary or secure positions. Like I said, lots of people with masters work in gig jobs making $25,000 so why the judge can guarantee secure high paying jobs?
@@TheMsnita jijijiji I feel you. My point here is that imputing money you don't make is filthy and judges should do time in prison..... like 20 years or more for such crime. At least the judge didn't cared about gender, but men in general are the ones who suffer for being good husbands (In general). They're criminalizing the system. In this situation, the dirty husband is chillin and doing nothing so she is rewarding him????. If I can speak three languages and get an education, why he cant do it? Nahhh... if both parents can take custody... Then zero child support!!!
She really sat there and admitted she took a job beneath her simply because she didn't want to have to contribute more to her child's wellbeing. I'm glad these videos exist because the children of these people need to see them when they're older, so they understand how little they mean to some of their parents.
Mam you do not play!!!! I really respect the way you treat everyone equally and admire how well you stay composed when people get to divert the conversation to anything outside of what’s needing to be addressed
@@gamergodofjustice seems new to the world of “love” I just hope he doesn’t think it’s over and know that he can still go out there. It feels he put her on a pedestal while she saw him as any other guy
What she is learning is how the "family" court treats men. The court does not care about your struggles, your standard of living, or your quality of life. All it cares about is that you pay what the court commits you to pay. Judge Vonda has a lot of men sitting on the other side of the aisle with women owing support. This is EXTREMELY unusual since women are typically awarded custody 90-95% of the time. Texas is likely a 50/50 custody state. One of the few.
@@winning3329 Exactly the opposite. In 45 of 50 states, they follow the failed tender years doctrine that is gender bias and no judge I am aware of has such much as peeped about the gender bias of the "family" court laws. This ensures that women are given custody of the children and men are required to pay child support that includes a wealth transfer based on gross pay and grows as men make more money. As a bonus for men being discriminated against they get to see their children one weekend a month and every other Wednesday night typically. It should be mandatory 50/50 custody out of the gate with ZERO or very limited support where the lower-income spouse gets X amount of time to get to work and start producing as men are expected to do. That would be EQUALITY! Also, the few women who pay child support and fail to pay go to jail at such low percentages that it is laughable - more gender bias by the courts.
Damn... Im glad Im not the only one who saw this shit and said what the fuck? No court of law has any legal right to compel me to work at any particular job. Ridiculous.
Imagine a man in court saying he has a master's degree and a good paying job at 70k a year but quit because the divorce caused him emotional distress....lmao..... can't make this shit up
When my ex wife was setting me up she took a lesser job for 6 months before she filed for divorce. I been paying her like she makes 14 bucks an hour, when she makes 80k now lol. Time to go to court
I fought so hard alongside my ex while we were together, because his first ex wife w as absolutely insane. But now that I'm his second ex wife and I see the narcissist gaslighting our own daughter, I'm not sure what was real and what wasn't. But I still fight for fathers everywhere.
Most are judges, not the ones you see on RU-vid or an actress playing one like here, give people chances and breaks all the time. You need stop forming dumb opinions on RU-vid and shit you read on Google
Just noticed the other Intentionally underemployed couple in the seats behind the current case. Wonder if seeing this case play out the way it did gave hope to the elderly lady raising her kid
even if it was intentional, the law is with the mother. The judge gave child support to people who doesn't deserve it because it is law so for this case too, she should be impartial
I had a similar situation where my ex-husband vowed that he would purposely only work jobs where he'd get paid under the table. He thought this would prevent me from getting support for our three daughters. Then he thought since I made more than him, I made $40,000, he wouldn't have to pay support. He ended up paying $1000 a month for all three girls plus medical.
My ex brother in law left my sister with 4 small kids, always got paid under the table, and never paid a dime of child support. My sister got them raised, and he died at 50 with Chirrhosis of the liver.
As a European I can honestly say, I like this very specific part of the Texas Law that you mentioned, it prevents people from cheating the system by being under employed to pay less child support.
This was a "refreshing" case, as when men got tagged for support, either lost their job or were economically impacted beyond their control, they were still responsible for the court ordered amount. The only time that would change would be if he made more, then the mother would take them back to court to get even more due to his increased income.
@@RaffineDebauche What about keeping the full custody of the child? Or shared custody (no one is obliged to pay child support to the other?). I'm from Europe, maybe laws are different, but men never want to keep the custody of the child or even shared, they would rather pay child support (which they delay to pay many times and mother just struggles by herself, while she can only notify the court and with all the bureaucracy..well still no money). Because men wanna keep their jobs and don't worry about waking up early to get kid ready for school, then get the kid from school, feed the kid, wash, deal with tantrums, teachers reports, have to skip work to take the child to doctor and even stay at home taking care of a sick child. No way, also they wanna move on with their dating lives and a kid is a burden. Court has no problems with shared custody at all, but men don't want it. LoL if woman says "i want the full custody" men be like "you got it girl".
Better to be the weekend father .Do all the relaxed fun stuff with fishing, hikes ,amusement parks. Rather than stressed running late early mornings with kids screaming ,faking illness ,rushing to get dinner ready.
Those "assets" should have been split property during the divorce. The ex-wife just exposed that she performed fraud and withheld "marital assets" because she thought she had saved enough for herself. Good catch!
IF this is real... dude still wearing his ring... either he moved on and married someone else, or he is still in love... which would be heartbreaking...
I noticed $5,000 condo lady in the background. Its wild that she sat through this case and still decided to sit there and argue about paying child support for her child.
I disagree with the ruling. The premise is that you are obligated to pay based on what you made "prior" to divorce. Yet the premise contradicts itself because when a person gets a higher paying the job the court then adjusts the support based on their new "higher" income. But if someone gets a lower paying job they don't. Whatever the precedent, it should work both ways. And no one should be forced to work a job they hate. Meanwhile the less ambitious husband gets rewarded financially for not pursuing his full potential? This is not fair.
I am very glad this judge saw through this. FYI? I did take a lesser job after our daughter beat cancer - but with my former spouse blessing because I wanted to work in service of child welfare/ charity as I felt moved to help like we had been . He respected that and HE got a better job to increase his support ! ( I had made the larger income for 12 yrs in corp - he has hadthe larger income for 15 - and I have the better insurance now so they are on that ) but it was done with respect and discussion . I cannot imagine just upsetting your childs life balance/ expectations out of selfishness and pettiness! I am so glad HE has the child!!!! ( We share - we are blessed with a good divorce, great friendship and pretty happy family)
My ex is the residential parent and she took a $10/hr job just before we split. She has a vocational degree in the dental field but won't use it and never has. I even offered her my GI bill while we were married since you can give it to a dependent. She could go to school online and even stay home with the kids and have college paid for and graduate with a degree to get her a good job. She didn't want anything to do with it. I now pay out the ass in support each month because I obviously have a little more pride in myself and have more gainful employment than $10/hr. I also cover insurance and most of the childcare. She gets Medicaid and other public assistance. There comes a point when child support payments get to be so high for large income disparities between parents, that eventually any incentive of the receiving parent to find better employment gets destroyed. Underemployment is harder to prove than you think in most gynocentric court rooms
How did you marry without getting a pre nup. I always tell people pls get a pre nup. No spousal support in case of divorce only child support and that too limited and equal. If you're not paralysed, dead or mentally challenged then you can work just like a man and healthy woman can. Nobody should be spoon fed.
As soon as the judge congratulated her on a divorce I figured this is going downhill. I once worked 6 months as a food stocker at Walmart with a Masters degree because no one would hire me. Why does this seem implausible to the judge. Also a judge told my brother that his letter of completion from high school was the same as a diploma ( it is in fact not) and had to pay more child support than his job was paying him. Maybe someone should have told his employer.
The woman admitted to intentionally leaving a higher paying job... A GED or Letter of Completion IS the same as a diploma despite your loser brothers complaints, and his child support is based on what he could make if he weren't a lazy drug using bastard... Don't even try to pretend, We have all heard your story before a hundred times... Stop supporting your loser brother is the real point.
@@snuffywuffykiss1522 So if I have a kid and I hate my job I'm never allowed to quit? I'm usually on the guy's side but imo this is bullshit no one should be forced to work a job they don't want. If I have a degree in accounting and work it for a few years only to realize that I fucking hate it and it makes me want to kill myself everyday and then I find out being a carpenter is my dream job I have to keep being an accountant forever?
She made a grave mistake. She specifically said she intentionally left the job, not that she was forced out of the job. The facts surrounding her are completely different and she could have gotten her child support reduced had she come with a different story
@@AntiTheBird if you only support yourself, then yes, quit the job, go for the dream. But if you have children that you need to care for, or provide monetary support for, then no, unless you can make enough to provide for your self and your commitments to your children then you stick with that job, and if you hate it so much, then you use that motivation to get qualified to the point you can earn enough to take that first option. And if you hate that job enough that you are considering ending your life over it? Then at that point you need professional help. And at that point while getting that professional help maybe something can be worked out differently for the childcare. TL; DR, you have a child, you have a commitment that overrides your desire for a fun job. You take what you can get and work out the rest in the background until the child comes of age. And if you decide to let your child suffer because you decide to go for the fun option regardless? Shame on you. No wonder you would be the one paying the support.
@@Kherron201 I guess I just have a different philosophy on this, but I suppose I would also want custody of the child but for another hypothetical just to clarify, if I’m a kid and my parents both have high paying jobs that they hate, and decide to quit their jobs and both work as cashiers, as long as they are providing food, shelter, clothing and an education I wouldn’t begrudge them that decision at all, as their child I don’t feel entitled to any certain type of lifestyle besides the legal necessities. Do you agree with this second hypothetical or do you believe parents should have to prioritize their children over their own mental health. Also professional help isn’t a magical bullet I know plenty of people who ended their lives after years of professional help.
jeanthree the only thing she talked about was herself. You don’t get to be selfish when you’re a mother.. you brought that child into the world so Both parents may have to make sacrifices but she intentionally did what she did and that’s wrong
Took 25 agonizing years to pay my child support in full. Hated every moment but that last payment ( 20 years ago now) was the ultimate high. No more DMV suspensions. At the time I earned $25,000 a year and my child support was a $1000 a month, due the math! With tax deductions I had nothing left! All holidays I never spent with my kids bcuz those were her holidays not mine. Birthdays, were enjoyed the week before. If I wanted to spend more time with my kids I needed to bring her cash incentive. I could go on and on on the mental hell I went thru. Today me and my kids have no relationship. They have written me off as a total loser but I hope and pray the lord will bring us together some day as a family.
I love that she wasn't allowed to get over on her ex. She was just hurting the child in the end. I mean come on, with that little bit of money, she would only be paying the cost of daycare anyway, because daddy not only cares for the child, but he also has a job as well.
There’s probably a really really good reason the man got custody and not the woman. Courts almost always give it to the woman so there’s gotta be something BIG that we don’t know about.
Reducing your meal to make someone else grow lean only to realize that the other meal you forfeited is added to your intended recipient of your wickedness… which you now suffer😂😂🤦🏽♂️
