Interracial Relationships in Post-Apartheid South Africa 

Honest discussion is the only way to progress. Don't waste time w people who speak fakely and with toxic positivity. No progress will ever be achieved with them!

@@Skylightatdusk exactly, I'm a black person and I won't be angry if someone from white or Indian community says they were taught by parents to hate black people, at least they are being honest and we can work forward from there

@@n.m6249 A lot them say they don't but still have that confederate flag beliefs. I'm not only talking about Africa.

@@mademade8092 I fully believe you, many claim not to be racist but their actions speak otherwise. Wait till their child dates a black person. In Europe countries are going right wing due to deep core racism

@@n.m6249 As Indians from North we stereotype south Indians in our movies as dumb, unmanly etc and that made us have prejudice agaist blacks too. You will find Indians Being cool with whites and whites being cool with Indians but Rarely see bond within Indians and Black's. Racism in North India is wild, I remember children and teaching mocking dark kids and illtreating them. Just bring honest, Also Crimes committed by blacks made this prejudice even extreme.

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i pray over your marriage , God will protect and bless you.

Is that still happening in the world

So sorry to hear that, you deserve to be with someone who values You for the person that you are and not by the color of your skin.

Pray and leave it in the hands of the Lord

Oh wow that’s so sweet to hear

Hi Nelly, how are you. Thank you for sharing that. I always try and stay true to myself

Wow true. He is not like the Average Indian. Average Indians are so arrogant and feel they are better than the black counterparts. I went to a computer shop where you were allowed to check out specifications because it was a big shop with a show room. Wow the Indians and whites were doing what ever they wanted. But this shop owner told me Africans no touch. We just see how it looks with our eyes and buy or not but we don't touch like the other races. Wow. I was from pharmacy school I Russia where I went through 6 years of racisim. With the people telling me Go home. This is not your land and stop breathing our air. And here I was home. And an Indian was treating me in Africa like the Russians in Russia. I hated Indians from that day. Then 10 years later I was to go to the US. And guess what I got an Indian working at the embassy. And less than a minute he told me to just come back pick my Visa and passport. While the white employees would look to find faults and add more requirements. He treated me better. Now I had to change my mind about Indians all being brainless. So it's mostly situational I guess.

@@rickyreward226 wow

@@sebastianreddy8067 I'm proud of you Man. May the Lord God bless your family

What a brutal expression,but it made me laugh 😆 White Namibians are mostly of German descent. I met a few,and their German was perfect,like they were tourists, just flying in from any German city. I found this very unusual. And somehow creepy with their typical boere kakhi shorts,shirts and boots.., Like tanned tourists that have been on a safari - for 200 years 😂

​@@sandrineroesch8706I bet none of them can speak any of the local 'native' languages, and yet some probably concider themselves to be proudly Namibian, supposedly

😂😂Namibia ittle Sister of South Africa

@@sandrineroesch8706I live in Namibia and most white people are boere meaning Dutch descent and the Germans are the minority white group.

​@@serogolemogole2685 you are spot on.

It must be sad and burdensome to be a child of a mixed relationship though. I feel that one could lose a sense of true identity because it's easy to say I'm black than to say eish... I'm black but my mother is something or vice versa.

@@mkululimbali2206 Only if your identity is solely based on yout race or colour of your skin...it's a beautiful thing to be a product of a mixed relationship and also to have kids by someone of a different race. Our opinions of race need to evolve and grow. Love is beautiful ❤

Yawn 😴

@@mkululimbali2206 To”loose” identity? So many mixed people have a strong identity and so many not mixed lack an identity. Only prejudice can cause judgements with no ground….

Well good to know

If foreigners do not respect South African they have to be quiked out !

When foreigners misbehave in Europe, they say that they should be deported and they make a big fuss. When european/indian foreigners come to Africa and ACTUALLY kill and misbehave, nobody says anything. This is the double standard.

That is very SELFISH of you to say.

he ddnt do it alone, all SAns fought for liberation. unfortunately some of them were actually fighting for interracial relationships😀

True

True 👍

Kkkkkkkkk do you mean he wanted to preserve the white people for any purpose ? For development of the country ??? That would mean he believed ONLY white people can develope south africa. That would mean a inferiority complex 😂😂😂 I dont believe he believed this

He only got political freedom ​@@mfundo1pumla

Extremely so and you continually defending your selves

I don't agree. Because we have grown up in a more integrated society as have our children, interracial relationships are more common than before and based on education and class as opposed to race. Unless my reality in my circles are different but it's the norm.

@@MsMandsa You are over exaggerating Amanda. The norm, really? Where are you from, and what's your socio-economic status if you don't mind? I am from Cape Town, and come from a middle-class background. Regardless of socio-economic status Its not the norm at all, and Cape Town is probably the most liberal place in South Africa. Personally I only date black and coloured women. I will admit though, in all my romantic encounters with white women they were always foreign, mainly from Germany or Austria. Never local, so I am just curious what your background is, and so called social circle. Also ironically majority of my white friends, are also foreign. I find that foreign whites, are far more liberal/non-racist than local whites.

@@liveinwisdom3610 johannesburg and also middle class. I guess we can only talk of our lived experiences. But I hope it gets better with each generation. I am not sure how liberal Cape Town is, I have never lived there. 🤔 I am in the legal profession so I am not sure if that is also why I have been in diverse circles. Maybe it's an exception and not the norm, which is sad.

Thats for the best

Deuteronomy 7:3 In-Context 3 Do not intermarry with them. Do not give your daughters to their sons or take their daughters for your sons

@cezz "Do not intermarry" meaning a different belief (on the inside), not a different skin colour (on the outside)

what about the woman ?

His wife , yes. The Bible didn’t say, white wife, blacks and whites have nothing in common, we should marry our own kind.kerosene and water don’t mix

@@ERSReed2024different skin color, black and whites have nothing in common, we should marry our own kind, kerosene and water don’t mix.even the Bible agrees

Tell us - how so?

@@platophilosopher1293 Go outside & observe.. come back and tell us what you saw..

Bullshit. Things are not that bad at all.

​@@mattontop2262 POV: The "its not that bad" crew are often privileged & will never see the full context of the situation...

@@duwaynem.467 please explain. I’m not white btw.

facts so true an people aren't trusting enough to change

I like the fact that she squarely took it to where it all lied, racism. Nothing less, nothing more. Yes of course poverty in fact and in mind played a role in the looting to Kickstart the whole thing.

That's the spirit of black people always. The only race that embodies it so well in this country

Spittle!

What BEAUTIFUL children!

I understand people's wishes for unity but There's no such thing as the "human race", there are many different races on this lovely planet and that is a beautiful thing, why are our differences a bad thing ? Why do we try to side step away from our beautiful differences ? Human life is an incredible experiment, people just can't see the beauty in that, they can't accept reality. As for mixing races it's nobody business who sleeps with who like nobody's.

@@jessicaF61985 Except there is ONE race. The human race. Scientifically humans are a race. Phenotypic differences aren't a race. Humans have just adapted to their respective environments. Surely you know this?

@@evah787 agree, so cute.

Disgusting people mixing their own heritage out of existence

that country has the highest rape stats in the world

Hey Mangete..howzit?

@@alexcope8142 plz come be part of it Nd enjoy yourself ✌🏽🤷🏽‍♀️

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one trick follow your father blood also respect your mother blood and honor today if your father was a king you will become his successor In arab world or muslim world You will follow your father and you get his inheritance.

@ zakiyamcabdulahi516 yes Africans follow the fathers blood line. But if you look through the history of all humans we all used to follow the fathers bloodline. Recently things have changed you find people who claim to be bit of Italian bit of African bit of German if you follow my example here. I don’t have problem with people doing that honestly but my question is why DNA test allow only boys to trace all their maternal and paternal bloodlines but women can’t trace her blood line from both side of maternal and paternal. Along the way the women DNA will limit her from tracing all her paternal side. Hence if you read the bible the heir was always male. By putting my one cent here it doesn’t mean the little girl she is not important but I am just sharing my one cent understanding. Unless maybe DNA advances and the same can be done with our daughters. Hence women would change her surname not the men that’s because of the DNA inheritance before anything

@@zakiyamcabdulahi516 follow your mothers blood line. Her DNA will be present 3 generations down the line, however the fathers DNA disappear after 1 generation.

I agree❤

​@@zakiyamcabdulahi516no a interfaith kid should never be a Muslim it's wrong

She's a hero ❤️

Bhagya, you are so pretty. Are you single?

Bang on the money , fr fr

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You must confront the person.. Don't leave it to fester..communication is vital..people don't know what you are thinking if you don't speak up.

I keep hearing that about them

I was just literally laughing at the fact that it was uncommon to see an African President with a darker pigmentation on a continent where majority of the people who live on it has a darker color pigmentation lol.....I just don't think folks think about their belief long enough to even ask themselves is this belief mine because it's self/world embracing or is this a belief I inherited?

Not all black people are Africans . Africa is a continent and many difference between us , a Ethiopian is not south African (two separate countries and cultures and language) just like a moroccan could be amazgh , arab or European

Who named the continent Africa?

@@sarai5467 then such a person will be referred to as Ethiopian. Maybe most of you didn’t get my point. Which is this ; why is everyone else referred to according to their nationality except South Africans? You need to understand very well that the classification of Black and White came with Apartheid and it is extremely inaccurate because the colour BLACK and what is classified as a black person are two totally different things. It’s unfortunate we had to accept that classification to the extent that Steve Biko fathered Black Consciousness. My question is why is everyone else referred to by their descent/ where they come from as opposed to Black People? There are Indians, Ethiopians, Asians, specifically Chinese, Japanese people etc. SO again, what is a Black?

@@lungamadoda6992 A Roman General

That's true ,during the apartheid era ,if you are white and you associate with a black person or a person of colour or visa versa you were locked up with a immorality case against you ,I saw that happen many times in South End in Port Elizabeth ,and today there is still that cautiousness amongst the races of South Africa and the saddest thing is that this government is worse then the previous government where it comes to apartheid ,no one trusts one another but I know just one thing South Africans are unique and without this government we will unite ,with God as the way will be the time South Africa will mend.

@@tokkieandrews9988 I don't agree with you when you are saying apartheid government was better than the ruling government

@@ncubentobeko7927 what I meant is infrastructure, the job situation, schooling ,everything was working ,and with this government nothing is working that's what I was referring to ,but the government itself I really do not agreed with their policies they like this government do not care or cared for poor people wether white,black,coloured,or Indian ,what believe is that the governments are chosen by the people wether wealthy or poor so they should be working for the people,but unfortunately all over the world ,governments are just for themselves not the people ,when I see how some people have to live it's heartbreaking knowing South Africa is a very wealthy country and this government does not make the people part of that wealth ,the wealth is shared with other countries ,like lending billions of dollars and giving the money to Cuba and you and I have to struggle to survive with high petrol,electricity, and food prices through that we are actually paying back that loan.

He is a traitor.

@@tokkieandrews9988 Well said. That exact situation is playing out everywhere as the real enemies are the intl bankers, who control OUR parasite snake govts. Resist all redundant policies.

I second this!

the dream of Kalergi and Marcuse will be a dream of only one population ...and Sonia ,you do not belong to that population

@@lanosduki3426 Rubbish 🗑️! That is a hoax beloved of the far right.

Did you see Heidi Klum and Seal with their children of course people will stare at that spectacle talk about natural selection thats a prime example of it ENJOY the decline.

@@georgewilliam1736 What is your point? Without racism there can be no whyte people.

Antiwhite farm murders prove the antihwite hatred

The travesty of the ANC/SA COMMUNIST PARTY/EFF leftist policies is worse you wanted a RESET enjoy the decline.

yes..we see how good the rejection of ingroup preferences is working out for all european populations

Am I correct in thinking your social network is based on what school/church you attend and whether you perceive someone to be rich enough.

do you expect everybody to be mixed race browns in SA in 200 years time like northern brazil??

You are spot on ... cultural differences a big adjustment in interracial relstionships for both!!

You’re talking rubbish. There’s not a single Black person who has struggled to marry outside of their tribe owing to cultural differences. Where do you take the BS you just wrote? In fact, inter tribal marriage is one of the reasons there’s little to no cases of tribal violence in South Africa. It’s a phenomenon unheard of. When the national party established SOWETO and divided the regions according to tribe, it was deliberately to encourage tribal tensions which did not succeed as Black people from differing tribes got along fairly well and intermarried. Don’t import your tribalism into other people’s lives without presenting any factual information. You embarrassed yourself in this comment section with the level of ignorance you put on display.

how many laws are there in SA against european people that are only 7% of the population and how many of you did stand against them?

@@shadrackchabedi3447 Replying with insults just shows what's in that brain of yours. You could've left your opinion in the comments section.

Racism has its roots in tribalism and this is something that most whites have never heard of. They just know that because they are constantly told that white people are intellectually superior with a greater ability to reason, they must be racists. I'm not sure how pertinent inter tribal relationships are because black me will have multiple partners during their so called marriages. Saying that people will end up loving the other race is laughable. I assume you are in your 20's writing that nonsense. It's the first thing that springs to the surface when things go wrong.

God bless you and your family

Honestly half stare out of disappointment: they lacked courage before when not asking someone out who belong to a different race out on a date, and now they see you in a relationship with someone who looks like them and think,"Dang, you're with him that means I could have dated you, man I missed out!"

You must be beautiful being of mixed ethnicity. I always remind people....Let's remember too, that there's only ONE race, the human race. Historical text says differently, but we ought know this isn't true. Just as 'white" is just a made up word, a word created by the Americas first European settlers, a word to denote skin shades, but there's truly no such thing as "white" skin. UNLESS, you are the shade of A4 paper! haha It's a ridiculous word to denote skin shades, bec all continents, even among similar ethnic groups, you will find many varying skin shades, from the palest, to the darkest, pertaining to the specific global region. It's so interesting to think, that white historians & colonizers, did a great job at convincing the world, that anyone who wasn't so called...white, couldn't possibly be of equal human value, or be as smart, hard working or as beautiful, etc;, etc;. It's a very sad world that we live in. Take care and all the best.

It’s sad that you use the word “coloured”….considered highly offensive in UK!

@@rarayena9639 its not sad, this word has a different history and etymology in South Africa

@@rarayena9639 it's not, South Africa is not the U.K.

What's a "mixed race black" person? A colored?

It you were from the rural parts of the country, the remarks by Whites wouldn't be any nicer. Urban people tend to be more tolerant.

It's because white people wrecked havoc on black SA for centuries.

@@zaddysenemy2291 WREACKED

Mixed-race black women. What is that? Is she black or mixed-race? Can't be both. This is not America, where people are confused/in denial.

u don't just turn a blind eye to fascist an prejudice takes alot of courage an the the Good lord I swear it will take Generations to fix

I don't think they r waiting for people's approval. I'm sure they r leaving their best lives. They r just highlighting people's response of their union!

This is a lie ....

@@vusidlamini6275 the Western Cape is stuck in the 1950s

You can't be serious?! If anything, the Western cape is the *worst*!🚮

White people with sarcasm and acting stupid, those fake smiles .

Western cape is super racist

And that is the truth,no one can force you be with a race u dont wana be,saying its racist is just a way of forcing people

And the other thing is thta this media is brainwashing people to believe certain colour is better,all bullshit,in 100 years there will be no whites left,that wil never happen

​@@spiderman-jv8weyou don't know their reasons.

Very true. Same can be applied to xenophobia. I've dated outside of my nationality (that is dated other Africans) but in the end opted to settle down with someone from home for no reason except that's just who I fell in love with🤷🏾‍♀️

I hope we cab be friends

Am from Tanzania

Every country that white people colonized has Colorism and/or Racism

Not true, You don't find this type of behavior and Latin America.

@johnnyflores5954 In Europe it is even worse. There’s a lot of hypocrisy. Whites there act like they like Blacks but it doesn’t mean they really do. Visibly ethnic non whites do not get the best job opportunities, nor do they have the same socioeconomic statuses. The majority are poorer and live in working class or sub standard housing. Worse, heaven forbid if they fall foul of the law. They are treated a lot harsher. Yet these voices are the first to scream and shout off the rooftops about how great they have it. There is a mistaken belief ‘oh well it is not as bad as…’ and they kid themselves into believing they are trailblazers and things are improving. Things are going backwards not forwards. Perhaps it is time to be more honest and quit lying and pretending. Being unable to talk openly about this topic is quite sad really

I agree. but they cant go back to their place of origin because they wouldn't enjoy the same standard of living and race status they enjoy in Africa particularly South Africa. In India they would be lamenting with hunger and disease in polluted filthy overcrowded rat infested slums with open sewage and being treated as second class citizens due to their caste. However, in Africa they get be middle and upper class business owners and second in the racial hierarchy behind whites. Why would they leave?

Exactly,they go back

Yeah this my issue w/ South African colonizers! The F u in their country for? Making up your own rules and imposing it on the natives! And then stripping them of their own basic rights.

The nerve of these people! If you don’t like Africans, why don’t youmove back to India or Europe?! WTF

Wish everyone had that mentality

She probably knows that and knew that the only way to have her son in her life was by accepting that Pam was a part of his and later their children's

He supposed to choose the mother of HIS children.

How did you not know?Did you miss the riots?

Hi, this beef between Africans & Indians, I've never heard of this & hope it's all been peacefully resolved, but can I ask are the Indians Indigenous to the area or do you mean expatriates from 🇮🇳?

@@sakabula2357 I heard about the Zuma riots, also there is one riot or the other in kzn and I didn’t know that the Indians there and the Zulus don’t get on well.

@@jahmah519 Indians are not indigenous to Africa. However, the ones in KZN have been there since the Apartheid era and were brought in by the British to work on sugarcane farms.

@@theonly6359 Ime so sorry, please forgive me, I just looked at your comment & not the post, I thought Phoenix in the USA, ime so sorry & know Indians are not Indigenous to Africa, the mindset of some Indians is 1 of woeful greedy intent, some are extremely racist & collateral is their Messiah, but not all are like this & no one should stoop to this pitiful level, this World is here to share but some think its all fair game hook or crook.

Tookie , bad habits really die hard, frankly

Started with Jan Van Reebek.

Really? It didn't start with the VOC and its trafficking of enslaved Asians and Africans into the Cape Colony? The Groot Trek just happened to coincide the emancipation of slaves then? And the Boere Republieke who continued to raid Indigenous settlements for "inboekelinge", didn't officially agree to outlaw slavery until the 1880s? Just the British? As for "Khoi and Dutch sailors" marriages: the children of European men by Khoekhoe women were "Bastaards" for a reason.

LOL try telling that to the San and the Khoi, genocided by bantus' for nearly 800 yrs.

@@roncoots3800 so your ancestors came to finish the job? All this of course, as you ignore the intermarriage of the Bantu and the Khoisan communities. Smh.

Definitely it creates including. Imagine living alongside your neighbor, but y'all consider eachother as rivals. It makes no sense. Something has to give at some point.

When Love comes thru the front door,Hate crawls out the back window and oozes around for awhile,then disappears into the dark all the way down the alleyway! When hatred come thru the front door,it very similar only more tragic.Only in the case of S.africas Cancerous Apartheid crap.Hateful Boere types scurried up towards the north part of Africa for pay dirt. or even Australias desert land down under,perhaps to stir the same formulas thru similar attacks from some innate spiritual-ill,& sub-cultural demonic hatred!

Racism is Everywhere in SA. You don't to adopt to see it

Eish...heartbreaking stuff

Shell Bells • What do you mean to adopt a person of colour? As if they are stranded stray dogs, right? Why not say adopt a white person? Undermining Africans as usual, your comment shows South Africans as low class with low self esteem waiting for white saviour. Disgusting mind set.

White Genocide is also pretty heartbreaking. Miscegenation is selfish. It negatively affects everyone.

That's good to see. I'm just tired of this racial feud here in SA I believe when people intermarriay it creates diversity and less tension. Just my view.

You look South African am not taking anything away from other parts of yr makeup am just saying wat am seeing

@@andilemzanywa4331 my dad is 100% south african maybe that's why

@@Angolaisbeautiful how is ur name and surname Nigerian then if ur dad is South African?

@@cp0rings286 since when did cardoso become a nigerian name?

uBabalwa, its not a choice, Mma . the heart choses . the big deal is the family.

It is the heart choice👍,totally agree! NO BIG DEAL ABOUT IT. IT IS PEOPLE THAT MAKE IT A BIG DEAL!!

Your very right brother

Paul Zinaka, so true! One needs to have a good look in the mirror. Since leaving SA, I learnt that I needed to love "me". And when I started loving me, 😊.I started loving and excepting everything around me. I AM SO HAPPY THAT I STARTED THIS JOURNEY OF MOVING AND GROWING👍. NOT ONLY PHYSICAL,BUT SPIRITUAL.

Ngala Hansel, and that's why they come into Africa and still discriminate against us and tell us that "Africans are one leg in the bush and one leg in the home".

@@sholaaiyetan2968 I tell you o my sister. Na from Naija u from come right?

except mistreating the black folks from zimbabwe etc who come to SA to seek a better life. a few have been murdered recently. maybe you didn't know?

@@ngalahansel6066, yes, I'm from Nigeria. But I'm your brother O, not your sister! lol!

@@kimbozw1808 idiot, you missed the point of this comment

Am not Ethiopian but I know people rom ethiopia Just mere boasting nothing to be proud in ethiopia

Double standards and so rich coming from a Tribalist nation like Ethiopian constant in wars in Ethicity stupid people who hate each other.. go fix your broken country

@@Bahre8872 key word "Am not Ethiopian" say no more..

@@WinTW9 I'm Eritrean

We Ethiopians are dealing with our own type of racism and tribalism. So we are not immune to this either

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but fuck, instead of thinking white black yellow or red, if you want to fuck a white woman don't worry if you want a black woman don't worry if you want an asian don't worry live calmly without stress

Some racism especially the one you're talking about of black girls hating on black men being with a white person or another race is secondary and acquired racism from the American movies. In South Africa there's no shortage of black men and also chances are none of those girls would have wanted to date you had you not been with the white girl. So people really need to start to think before they act and not act on impulse as to what they "deem" to be expected of them by the society even when it makes no sense at all.

Who wouldn’t be disgusted by such evil.

@@MrBooYa-yd5er you think race is as important today than in your bigot parents days?

Indian mother she's right not crazy.

@@sphelelendlovu8874 Uyahlanya wena

Old ppl stuck in a time cultural prison

We fall them royal

@@codew2467 Chiney Royal. A full Black person and Chinese person.

@@celticmulato2609 we also call the Indian black mix C**lie Royal. I am from Vere, Clarendon, the sugar belt and we have alot of interracial relationships with Black and Indian folks. More time we drop the C word and call them royal

@@codew2467 you call them Royal? Why?

@@khaltsharivist365 I grew up hearing folks called Indian/black mixed persons, Royal. I don't know the reason. As a previous commenter stated, Chinese/black mixed persons are referred to as Chiney Royal in Jamaica

I’ve always been curious about Trinidad and Tobacco interms of how black people of African descendants get along with Indian people, to be honest here in South Africa I find Indians South Africans to be extremely racist

@@lungamadoda6992 it’s the same in Trinidad 🇹🇹 and Guyana 🇬🇾. Indians don’t like blacks but there are some interracial couples between the two groups and the kids who are made from the reunion are called Dougla.

@@lovelymix8056 black people were the first in those countries but they allowed Indians to defeat them

@@lovelymix8056 so erasing the black race is good

Aye Trini 2 D Bone 🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹

Honestly, the Phoenix Massacre can never be forgotten.

The world has no idea how bad the July unrest was to put it mildly. There still has been no justice for violence against black bodies and you are not even allowed to point it out because you're branded a trouble maker...

Cultural differences. The skin coloyjust happens to accompanyit incidentally

@@thembisomakatha7800 or forgiven

Not hard form him to lover her: she's got a pretty face, lovely big ass n big boobs, and if she loves him back the same well, the man's a king 👑

There is no problem at all😊, when living in Europe or Scandanvia,as I have been living here abroad!! Once you travel out of your "so called birth country", your brain gets a major shift👍😊. That is what many people should get someday!!

what we today see is the deconstruction of europe europeans are today more into outgroup preferences and following what is promoted , oikophobie one way or another europe will change

Extinction is real the world will lose its beautiful diversity

UK is different. London just pretends to be easy going.

Europeans are breeding themselves out and they don’t even realize it

Load of rubbish. First of all, its relatively common for whites to date and marry within their race across cultural lines, same thing with the black groups, so you are misrepresenting/exaggerating the South African Dutch-descendant/English-descendant divide. Secondly, the pedestalization of dating whites amongst blacks is a very small minority, and they usually come from impoverished backgrounds, and see dating/marrying a non-white person, as a way out of poverty. Because across socio-economic status, black men conclusively marry within the Nguni/Khoisan/Basotho black tribes, at a rate of 98.2%, and they marry even more within race the higher their socio-economic status. Which is contrary, to everywhere else in the world where multi-culturalism exists, where for example Black men in England or Brazil, overwhelming marry outside their race, the higher their socio-economic status. In addition to my previous point, black men that do date out, typically date coloured and more rarely Indian women. I will admit though, black women, usually date outside their race more often, and they overwhelming date White men, but its the same reason why Filipino's, Thai etc, marry white men, its usually for economic reasons. You also claim that you took "black taxi's" into the township and talked to the men over there, and you could not sit next to black men, because they would want to touch you all over. 😂 I know this is a lie, because first of all, its taboo for a white person to go into a township, and even if you do go, visitors are usually treated with the utmost respect, especially foreigners (tourist/legal) and outsiders (non-black South Africans). A man can possibly lose his life, if he inappropriately touches a female he does not know in the township, especially a outsider. Anyway, you go on and say that, your daughter, was offered much more dowry(lobola/bride price), than an equally equivalent black women. Its not uncommon, for black people to JOKE about dowry with visitors, but the question I have is how do you know what the equivalent black women would be offered? You do know that its a negotiation and not fixed, and typically there is a joke among black South Africans, that outsider women are in fact more budget friendly, because their family usually does not want a bride price, because its taboo within their culture to "sell" their daughter. Whereas in Nguni/Khoi/Basotho culture it is considered a customary offering, to show the brides' family, that you have the resources to take care of her, because anyway in the case of a divorce, the man does not get a refund. You also say that during apartheid, you dated a non-white man. So based on the context of your comment, I am assuming he was black? First of all this was illegal and seriously taboo for a white girl, especially someone of Dutch descent to date a black man, and usually had dire consequences for the man. So I strongly doubt, you even went to a black area to meet this mans family, it would be believable if you said that you had a secret relationship. The point you made about Western beauty standards. Is also overexaggerated. Skin-bleaching in South Africa, amongst LOCAL blacks, is very rare, I have really only seen a handful of middle-age ladies, with bleached skin, never younger. But yes, "lighter skin" is perceived as being more beautiful, but "lighter skin" does not mean WHITE skin, the ideal is commonly described as "Yellow bone". The Khoi/San "stereotypical" skin tone is a good reference point, I also say "stereotypical" because light-skin amongst Khoi/Sans is a stereotype, majority are not light-skin. In regards to weaves, I agree, its unattractive, but again you are overexaggerating the prevalence, majority of the black women I see, that have fake hair, usually have it in "African" styles, such as braids. Anyway, judging by your subtle dog-whistles, it sounds to me like you are trolling, but I will entertain it anyway, just to educate non-South Africans.

You don't get it?.....you can't be serious......suddenly the standardized eurocentric reference of beauty imposed globally, is news to you?

@@nerioraw7815 Nonsense, amongst us GLOBALLY racially ambiguous is the beauty standard. They typically want voluptuous body features with an hour-glass shape, and racially ambiguous facial features and hair texture with light-skin (NOT white skin).

I was raised in a white South African home. No domestic worker ever entered our home. No gardener either. My parents beleived that by doing so, the workers would feel like 'slaves'. I married an Afrikaans speaking white man. Never employed workers as I was used to doing the work myself. My children emigrated to Australia. They settled in very quickly as they were used to doing all their own housework etc. I dont have a problem with people of other colour or culture. To be honest, I dont know anybody thats from another culture/colour, except ofcourse when I go shopping. And I just greet them, I have absolutely no desire to get to know them. I choose my friends wisely. Nobody in my family have married outside our culture, so I cant say I dont like something that I know nothing about. My neighbour is black and if I bumped into her in a store, I would not even know that is my neighbour.

If you've lived in the bottom of a caste system based on color then you'll know Julie Mauger is on point. I saw blk wmen in West Africa with burned skin due to toxic whitening creams! The weave industry is worth $6.6 billion! What's weave? Human hair impoted from Asia, our sistas glue to their scalps! Beauty standard aren't a construct and they can't be altered. The white womn is the blk man's kryptonite.

Very much so, I hate this videos as well. We don't have problem with mixed race relationships they even embraced.

Elisa, you are also an older woman with a now much calmer outlook on life in general because the competitiveness of dating , building family , veneer of respectability is behind you so it kind of makes sense that you'd perceive things differently. People can want to live their lives peacefully with no drama but do you believe IR hatred can't co-exist along with ? you are dreaming. I am in europe . i have a white dad and a black mom. my white side of the family wrote me off entirely when i was around 4-5 . Really not surprised in SA its all cuckoo for cocoa puffs

@elsa Hoffmann you are spot on and I agree with you 100%: it's all about how you were raised. Unfortunately, a lot of people were not raised to value education, so they may not have furthered their education in psychology; therefore, are not aware of inherited beliefs due to his or her environment, such as the nature verses nurture debate. Furthermore, people are people, so there are those, who most consider to be good because they're not willing to inflict bad intent onto others for personal gain, coexisting in environments with those, who most consider to be bad people willing to inflict bad intent onto others for personal gain. The fact of the matter is all people are incentivized to behave in a certain manner because we are all selfish beings, which is natural. The "good person" generally treats others like she/he wants to be treated. The "bad person" generally treats others how she/he treats him or herself. Some knowingly, some unknowingly are grouped into these categories. The solution is to bring more of an awareness to diverse thinking. By first acknowledging that it is okay to be different! A stick has two sides, yet it is the same stick. One side is opposite of the other, yet it's okay to be on one side of the stick before learning of the opposite. A greater awakening and understanding is experienced by the individual when realizing that there exist an opposite side; thus, the individual feels more entitled to make a distinction between the two side after being exposed to more data. THE KEY IS TO NEVER STOP LEARNING. More data means more of an understanding of what a stick really is, the sticks functionality, the sticks purpose. This is the definition of growth. We all start out as a child growing up in a world of contrast. As children, the only way to really know what we want from what we don't want is by getting experience but experience comes with time. Unfortunately, humans don't have a lot of time to be present on this earth in our physical bodies with other people we love and enjoy the most; therefore, most will view time in an economical sense of lacking time; consequently, out of fear, we may have a tendency to adapt to the environment in which we are raised, on a micro-economical scale, slowly beginning to believe what those around us believed. More over, since parents have the tendency to believe that it is the parents job to teach children what to believe, parents will do their best to indoctrinate the mind of their child/children while in their presence, with respect to time. This cycle can loop for generations until we exit the loop by crossing state borders, then countries borders to meet new people, live in different places around the globe, explore, become open to cultural differences, collect new data, and evolve back into being human beings...

@@PHlophe thank you for this comment. It’s not easy at all, I’m in an IR and in SA it’s so fcken stressful. The white people are so racist towards me as the Black partner etc.

Its up to you. Thats the beauty of democracy, you have a choice.

Are you afghan?

@@ChromeMan04 African. Why?

@@baruasafi5880 ur last name that’s why

@@ChromeMan04 In Swahili African language it means 'clean'.

@@baruasafi5880 oh that’s interesting