INTJ Female: The INTJ Female and the Struggles of Being Utterly Uncommon 

“She doesn’t choose to lead unless she has to.”

I’m a INTJ workaholic and continual learner with a 135 IQ. I do not like excuses and conformity is an insult to my intelligence and a daily struggle. I’ve often been told I’m weird which I let them know is a compliment to me, “thank you!” My circle is small, not just anyone can share my space and I often have issues with romantic relationships. If you can’t first stimulate my mind, I will get bored. I don’t have drama and don’t have time for it! I’m a truly commitment phobe. I need my space. My brain won’t shut off, and I have undiagnosed ADHD! I am stern with my boundaries which make people think that I mean, but I’m not. When I say no I mean no! I am loyal with a heart of gold. But I won’t let you play me and I don’t sugarcoat anything. I’m honest, authentic and I tell it like it is, I don’t sugar coat shit! I don’t mean to hurt you, but I feel like I’m hurting you if I don’t tell you the way you need to hear it especially if you come to me. Ijs! 🤷🏾‍♀️

As a female INTJ, I dont care what men or women think of me. They are equally human in my eyes. It just human that I like, dislike, and insignificant 😂

„Why aren‘t your smiling more?“ - „cuz‘ you don’t give me any reason to.

As an INTJ, I think this video repeats itself too many times. I got it the first time😊

The "she doesn't choose to lead unless she has to" is true for me. I've always struggled with leadership roles in school during childhood because the expectations are rather different from what a leader should actually be. It's more like they voted you to be a leader for you to be the first one to follow orders and be the first one to be blamed for failing to do so. Having parents who don't understand that is also another thing because they raised me in their standards, so I had a hard time fitting in with society. To this day, I don't have friends, but I feel a lot more confident and comfortable being alone now, unlike when I was younger, I was always anxious of not having friends.

Ironic that a video on intj female attributes, (which includes an obsessive focus on efficiency) would repeat itself word for word in numerous places:) yes, i am one of these intj women and i am being analytical...but overall i enjoyed the content and felt it was accurate.

Idk if I’m an outlier as an INTJ woman who often chooses to lead. Maybe it’s just based on life experience, or maybe I naturally assume leadership without thinking about it. But I generally volunteer to lead, because I know that ~90% of the time, I’m the most capable leader in the room 🤷‍♀️ and I don’t do well working under bad leadership

Most comfortable with men (boys) then puberty hit that then messed up these friendships. I had female friends, but few and hard to find and always were more able to connect in conversations with men.

Sounds like a positive affirmation / meditation for INTJ women. Still, spot on. I tested INTJ back in middle school and am now an attorney, single mother by choice of twins; doing it all on my own and loving it!

Perfect description of INTJ ladies

"A master of her own fate"

I recently learned of the terms, "sigma" males & females. That is, lone wolves, basically. I identified with that. You have lots of leadership qualities, but don't necessarily want to lead. This video is great, too. Very fitting. 👏🙏💫

Wish I had known this back in the 1960s but I just struggle to exist. I have taken several tests online now and always come up INTJ with score of 100 percent in imtuition portion. I remember a test for the 7th graders. One portion was abstract reasoning with shapes asking to match what was similar. They got more complex so I went into the zone in my mind where I would wonder about things and where I went with my art. I finished the whole test. Later I was sent to a room at school to talk with a guy in a suit. He told me I scored the highest in the school with a 1+. Then he said a boy in the next aisle got was the next higher scorer and haf I copied from him. I was n not told why I was there. So I thought I was in trouble. I was also very shy, a loner and did not respond as this all made mo sense. Then he said math scores did not reflect this and was I not trying. I again did not know what to say to this . I had transferred from a religious grade school in 5th grade snd had been 2+ years behind in math. I loved to read so was ahead in other areas. Then this guy scowled and looked at.me and said , well what do you like to do in school the most? I said I liked art class the most. He then looked at me and said " well that explains it" and sent me back to class. I never told my parents as I thought I was now out of trouble and the school never told them of the test. Well it was the 1950, 1960s with a lot of female potential suppressed and lost. I look back and think of what more I might have accomplished if I understood what I do now. .

These traits are what led me to lead a completely unconscious emotional adult life. It's fascinating to consider now and look back on. As I have raised children, (often wondering why I didn't feel MORE mushy expected affection for them!), I am reading, thinking, and figuring out my next chapter in life. The struggles are very real. I often think, Ignorance is (would be) bliss."

A woman wearing a muzzle (as you have in your video) would not likely be an INTJ. Conforming with the rest of society isn’t in our nature, especially when all indicators suggest society is suffering from mass formation psychosis and not operating from logic ie: the last few years.

Greetings from an intj- sigma from Switzerland...🤩🤭😏😁

People at my work tend to assume that I am shy because I don’t talk much and I don’t have bubbly personality. I don’t consider myself as a shy person, I just prefer listening and analysing and if everything was said during the meeting I just say if I agree or sometimes I add a few thoughts.

Well this music in the background is very annoying and doesn't fit the topic in my opinion 😅 otherwise, I would agree with the essence of what is being said.

INTJ in secrecy they win

Am I the only one that is annoyed with the voice and music? I tried to focus

Wooooow!!!!!! This is 100% on Point!!!! 😳💯🎯

It is inconsistent to call female INTJs rare, and also say they alter the female stereotype. Rare confirms the stereotype.

Thank you, guys)))

Love it ❤❤❤

One of my coworkers told me that if she saw me coming down the hall she would examine her conscience. I don’t know why. I did seem to be the one people came to for answers, although my responses were often questions. “My printer won’t print.” “Was there an error message?” Or, “I don’t know what to do about X.” “Did you talk to Y?” I also got good responses from judges-when I explained why I thought ignorance of the law was sometimes an excellent excuse, I was thanked and excused, not sent off to civil court like the woman who said she was a racist. And the time I explained why a time limit on a meter and a parking limit on a space are not the same thing and the sign was worded wrong if it meant to prevent the adding of more coins after the time expired.

Thankyou ❤

Identify? You can identify all you want, but if you don't test out INTJ, you aren't. If you are by psychological measure a female INTJ, the struggles are very real.

As an INTJ female ,I have so many friends and I smile a lot .guys is the stereotype or am I mistyped?!😢but still I do share many of the characteristics of an intj,🧐I am so confused right now😣

Love it 😍

Just pop some X and become the new Grimes 💪

You really sound like David Attenbourgh describing a rare rodent.

Is this an AI channel?

As an IDIOT, I disagree.

Boy! I can't stand the narrator's voice

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