Thank you for doing a video on this subject. As an introvert myself, and single, I haven't been out on the dating scene lately. Yet, I remain in that constant state of self-improvement, and I do hope that I meet a high-quality lady someday that is also in a self-improvement mode as well. Because after all, if you want high quality, you have to be high quality.
It's funny on Sunday I will watch this video on repeat for about an hour but during the week when I'm at work it takes me an hour to get through it the first time, then I have to replay it later in the day 😅
I’m definitely an introvert but thankfully my job keeps me around people. Otherwise, I’d see no one! 🤷🏼 lol On the dating scene I don’t care for drinking. I’m not against it by any means I just have soooo many more interest. It seems to me finding anyone that one, tells the truth about it, two doesn’t use alcohol as their entertainment. It starts off like it’s not an issue but soon I find out it’s how they entertain themselves. Absolutely NOTHING wrong with that but I need someone that enjoys other things more. Anyway, I’m older than your normal audience so it’s different maybe 🤔 You are definitely setting a great example for women. I love that
Ur videos r really helpful 🖤📸 i feel good as am a introvert. Yaah it's imp being an introvert how to approach, how's the mind set and all . Ur videos r amazing.. love from India ❤️
As an extroverted-introvert, the biggest crutch introverts have (imo) is that they use this label to define who they are. "I'm X so that's just who I am"
I think some peoples definition of introvert is a little different than others lol. Different levels I guess. Here, let me help some of y'all feel better about yourselves for a minute rofl. My version of introvert is more than just socially awkward and not like being around other people. Some of us go well beyond that. Borderline panic attack in a sense lol. In a sense it's got nothing to do with not wanting to be around other people. We want that, but It's I don't want other people to think negatively about me, at all. What if I don't live up to how or who I think I am? And then I'm just thinking the whole time "ok, this is going ok, when the hell can I get out of here before I fk it up?". And for me, I've been like this for so long that I have this fear that if I come out of my shell too much, everyone will make a big deal about it. I definitely don't want that. It's a very difficult and stressful life to live sometimes lol.
The only thing an introverted guy needs to know about dating, is that you have to stop being introverted. Turn on the extroversion, be demonstrative of who you are. Show your personality etc. It is very easy to get stuck inside your own head, and immobilise yourself, be inactive etc. But introverts tend to have high IQs (which is why they are introverted in the first place), so they have the potential to easily flow through social interactions when they want to. It is just a case of pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. But if you do, you will be noticed by women if you have the characteristics that they are looking for in a man. Also, don't fret about your introversion, as it turns out women are often fascinated (and turned on) by a guy who is difficult to read. Be mysterious once you have her attention, and she will want you to kiss her.
As an introvert, I did not get to go on my first date until I was 26; struck out every time before that. I'm a quiet homebody, in bed by 7:30pm even on the weekends and love my quiet time. I asked out a girl who I thought was "completely out of my league pretty" (I call her my modern-day Marilyn Monroe) because I just decided to take the risk one day one more time. No cheesy pick up lines and no cheesy macho approach. I probably came off as a 1950s nerd asking her out politely and simply. Amazingly she said Yes. By shear luck, we had similar personalities and likes/dislikes and similar ambitions for later in life. Three years of dating later we were married and 19 years later we are still married. How did I use my introverted personality? I really have no idea. I often wonder how I got so lucky. I once asked her why she said yes to a date when I'd heard there were other guys at work wanting to court her. She simply said nobody else ever asked her out; which amazed me, I guess it's true that girls who are too pretty sometimes never get asked. And, that I asked her nicely...she emphasized the "I asked her nicely" part. The rest I think was luck that we were well matched. I never put on a show that I was something more or did anything to try to impress her. I just talked to her, respected her (just be polite and friendly to not only her but everyone...she can tell if you are sincere or not) and took her out to do things I liked to do and that I normally did (again, no flashy dates that were outside of my daily routine/life of things I normally did)....and....I didn't focus on or hit on her prettiness or on sex (months of dating before getting around to the intimate part, hey, the getting to know each other by talking was working well). And well, she liked that. Money was not an issue. Back then she was making $27,000/yr and I was making $18,000/yr, so she didn't date me for my money....we worked at the same employer. But she knew that I had ambition and drive to do better in the future and so she stayed with me and I eventually did substantially better. An interesting note, I proposed to her after 2 years of dating. And when I proposed, she said Yes and said that it was about time as she was ready to say Yes six months earlier and was getting close to giving up on me. I never saw the signs that she was ready earlier. Of course you are probably wondering if I'm still married why am I watching this? Because I like to learn about different things on self-improvement and RU-vid makes that easy; I don't need or adopt all the advise, but it's interesting none the less. My advice as an introvert who isn't good at conversation to start (I'm not a quick thinker on my feet and need time to absorb and analyze details before going further), think of basic probing questions to ask on the first date. Then go home, and write some notes down. On later dates, think about what she said and look at your notes on the previous dates and then pre-write/remember deeper follow up questions. For example, if on the first date you find out she likes to snowboard, after asking about how long and where she likes to go, you start asking much deeper questions about why she likes it, what's that deep drive inside of her that makes that fun and interesting and you ask the right, sincere, meaningful questions you get her thinking introspectively about herself. My wife found that attractive as by the second date other guys she had dated were more focused on her boobs at that point.
Well said, great advice, and proof that these things do work out if you stay true to yourself and not try to be someone you’re not in hopes of landing “the one”….thanks for sharing.
1. listening to others, curiosity 2. Always consider the matter carefully 3. Independent, Know yourself, this also makes it easier for you to understand the other person 4. know how to use body language
I have found being an introvert has taught me to better understand people, their struggles and motivations. I also developed a strong sense of empathy towards others as well.
@@derrick2251 RC is an in-your-face narcissist. A lot of men these days need a boost of the dark triad juice to dispel their inner Nice Guy, but they shouldn’t get too carried away with it. RC is almost as insufferable as his pal, Rollo… another wild narcissist.
I hear ya - UwU! Great tips - by Courtney! And speaking of “Introverts…” Sigma Males are also Introverts - and they tend to do great with women! It seems like a Sigma Male is the guy to be - they get the best of both worlds. They’re not Beta Males, and they’re not necessarily Alpha Males either. They’re sort of in the middle. They’re kind of Introverts, because they don’t want to be distracted by other people’s thoughts and views all the time. They know what they want out of life, and they’re focused - and they wake up each morning ready, and they put their whole mind to it! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
I’m an introvert. I only talk to a person one on one or a small group. I can get shy around a large group of people. I am selective who I bring into my life. I think introverts are more genuine and extroverts just want attention.
When I found out what an introvert was I remember thinking” 🤔 oh that’s why I find myself yawning at 7pm at dinners with huge groups of friends or just wanting to get back to reading my book when I was at parties lol”
Oh man! That just happened to me over the weekend. I can take large groups but for only a short period of time. I'm INFJ personality so it can be super strange for me.
As an Introvert it is difficult, I've been told my "tiredness" after a day out is just an excuse to leave/escape and go home, to which some think that means I don't care or I'm not interested. I guess the key is to find someone who understands how introverts work cause they can be massively misunderstood.
I think the key thing irrespective of personality type is, To find someone that actually wants to know the other person. And to know them so deeply (be "in tune" with them) that they can start to feel what the other person is feeling..... when they start to feel it. When both parties do this it is really beautiful, Imagine an extravert and introvert (who are dating) go to a party, It starts to get "a bit late" and the introvert is "done", the extrovert senses this and actually suggest to the introvert that they should look to head off soon. And the reverse is also true, that the introvert though "done" can sense that the extrovert is having a good time and so puts off suggesting to leave.
You either need to be wealthy, be in the top 5% of male looks, or have a really stand out attractive personality to get anywhere with women these days.. I hope you have 1 of the other 2 qualifications...
Women will not consider introverts to be "mysterious" unless the introvert is hot. If you're a not-hot introvert, then women will see you as boring. Unfair? Yes. Are women fair? No. Are women logical? No.
Good points. I was pretty introverted in high school and part of college. Being an introvert as a guy is a major issue with dating. However, I did push myself to become more social and now I'm more of an ambivert. In the end, you can use some of your listening skills to enhance your dating experiences, but you still need to do more than usual compared to someone who is a natural extrovert
I am an introvert by nature and I don't regret it. It helps me to package myself very well, being kind, sincere and truthful in all my dealings with people. Although some insincere, untrustworthy and negative minded people see it as a weakness and take undue advantage of it. However, posterity eventually makes me a winner all the time.
I love going out to the park. But sometimes I prefer not to because everytime I do it, all I see is couples. And I think to myself: I would like so much to have a girl in my life who wants to spend moments like that with me as much as I want to. Walk together, lay down on the grass and talk for hours, eat ice-cream... It just makes me sad. Not angry, not resentful. Just sad. Why can't I have something like that ? Why does it seems like everyone can, but I can't ? I know it's not a matter of physycal attractiveness because a lot of those guys are average, just like me. I hate sitting on a bench and eat my ice-cream alone every week, but I just don't know what to do. Everytime I think I have met a girl who may be interested in me, it turns out at the end that she wasn't. Or she didn't want anything serious. I just don't know what to do. I fear one day I will wake up having 30yo feeling as lonely as I feel today.
From one introvert to another, preciate you Court! Focusing on my career and other priorities as I’m 24 and 3 months out of college, is important to me long before I think about putting a woman in my life.
i like how so many people here claim to be an introvert then they said i practiced and now im an extrovert !! dude u cant become an extrovert with any practice , you can only become more social !
A positive video about introverts, but being painfully shy, having social anxiety all my life is not a positive thing, as commented previously I've tried NLP, CBT, group therapy, one to one talking therapy, reading self help books, breathing techniques and all have worked a bit but I've just got to live with the condition, I have had quite a few girlfriends but have been single for more than twenty years now, women get bored very easily and give up if you're not the outgoing type with fascinating conversation.
Happy Friday, Courtney! I would consider myself both an extrovert and introvert as I'm outgoing with people but I definitely embrace my privacy. When I don't know someone well, I'm definitely going to be more introverted but as I get to know them, I will feel more comfortable to see if they're worth trusting or keep at distance. My girlfriend and I are totally different from each other but it evens out as it's a good balance between her and I
Being an introvert is a lot harder as a guy I think. Many women look to men to lead the energy and generate the spark on the date (and pull them into a positive vibe), and if you don't have the energy it can be an awkward uncomfortable date for both parties.
I definitely felt that reading the room moment the other night. I joined some coworkers to a Karaoke Bar. I really like singing, but I've never sung at Karaoke. Never liked the bar scene. Also most of the songs I know are show tunes, joke songs, or old songs ranging from drunken sailor, battle hymn of the republic, or 1950s big band songs. Most of the songs being sung were more modern and I thought it would be weird if I sang something really old. Well I noticed non of my coworkers were brave enough to go do Karaoke themselves and I figured since I like singing I should go up there and do it, but what really inspired me was seeing all the couples in the bar. Particularly one couple a table over who seemed really into each other. I had one song that would really fit with what I was seeing. So I overcame any anxiety I asked the DJ to play the song when I came up. When it finally was my turn I started singing "That's Amore" by Dean Martin and the bar just lit up. People cheered some got up and started dancing. When I was finished I got a lot of compliments, the DJ had a big smile and looked really impressed and the lady from that couple a table over complimented and gave me a thumbs up. Have to admit it was a real ego boost for me that night. Looking back I think a mix of being a really unexpected, but well known and a very fun song along with the fact I knew how to sing the song well is why it was such a hit with the crowd. I don't think I would have picked that song if it wasn't for being able to look around and read the room.
Because , they might not be awkward. Introverts can't be bothered with small talk, discussing weather and mundane crap. Or showing intrest in stuff that isn't interesting.
I think you are wrong about knowing what you want because of being alone. I've found that being alone has not brought me the clarity of knowing what I want because of lack of experience figuring it out. But that's just me.
I cannot stand small-talk because it seems too artificial. I really love going deep into a conversation. I've been told I would make a very good therapist. But some woman take my kindness as an excuse to sexualize me.
Best thing to do as an introvert: walk away, read a book, take martial arts, & focus on science. With the current dating scene she’ll likely be as single next month, if she’s not you dodged a bullet.
I'm 46 and I'm more ambiverted these days but naturally I'm a introvert.. I still don't like big crowds and a big homebody. I'm perceived as "boring" by most women. I'm silly, goofy, friendly and mild manneted but I'm also direct, assertive. and no nonsense. I think my personality throws people off. I get them comfortable being them and they show their true colors, cause they think I'm weak...when I give that same energy back I'm labeled as "mean". I've dated here and there for 21 years... my problem isnt meeting women, it just never lasts very long after meeting them. Been single that long too. I'm 46. I'm at a point now where I'm happy being on my own.. I've learned to love it...now I don't care about meeting anyone lol.
@@Lordran__ thanks for taking the time out to read it. I know it's kinda long...just thought it might be people similar to me and too let them know it's OK to be single, don't have to follow society's standards of happiness.
Ill be in the same boat when I’m your age brother. Some guys just have it. Others dont. I’m one of the ones that dont, and I’m perfectly fine with that
I'm introverted myself. You are very on with many things however, ladies do find it a massive turn off. Most ladies want a man that's going to take charge right away and get them wet fast. Guys like me like to take our time and really know someone first. That's a huge turn off for most modern ladies because it's uncommon.
As an introvert, this video made me feel understood and validated. In an extrovert-centric society, we are often overlooked and oftentimes think we are wrong for being the way we are when that is not the case. We have many strengths that extroverts do not, especially when it comes to dating. If you are an introvert, be true to your introversion and do not try to be more extroverted. You are the way you are for a reason. Just be yourself; you will find someone who will enjoy being with you because of who you are.
It also helps for the person dating a Introvert to speak up too. What I mean by that is to maybe talk about a topic you like too. A lot of the time, I'm the one having to carry a conversation, I'll speak on things, but I hate carrying it. Like you said at the start, it's mostly due to social anxiety and a lot of people don't ever give any time to to talk. The reason why things turn into small talk.
And I'm not trying to be rude but men should never listen to press conferences like that from a woman. Like when she is talking and giving advice about dating to men here, she is not talking about and considering 95% of the men out there. For proof look at her boyfriend. It's a decent looking white guy. Like whenever I see these women giving dating advice, when you look deeper, you see they all fall into the same stereotype. They pick a decent good looking tall white guy as a partner. So yeah again, when they're talking about "guys", it's not 95% of us sadly.
Don't be too introverted 😬I am very much so, and before i knew it , BOOM! It feels like life has passed me by. And that feeling has made me even more introverted.
Great video! The “do not rush” part definitely resonates with me more than the others. Sometimes I feel like silence in conversations is likely to kill the mood. The longer or more frequent it becomes, the less interesting the convo. But after watching your video, it’s a great reminder to not feel rushed to make a conversation as exciting as possible compared to those of extroverts with little to no pauses. It will flow naturally; all it takes is confidence and practice. Thanks!
I identified myself as an introvert for way too long… Just like I don’t believe in “morning people” and “night owls,” I also don’t think there are “introverts” and “extroverts” You absolutely have a natural inclination to one of the other, but the environment you place yourself in will shape you into one or the other I used to work as an engineer and exhibited all the “introvert” characteristics… then I quit my job to do real state sales It was VERY uncomfortable, but I believed in myself and that I could adapt in order to succeed And by the way, I make way more money as a real state salesman than I did as an engineer
Unfortunately for you, the difference between introverts and extroverts is real. And it's based on the different ways their neurophysiology works. In other words, your brain is wired one way or another, so you can't just switch between them. So, trying to pursue a career which doesn't suit your type can be lucrative, but it will increase your stress level and, most likely, will make your life miserable.
@@сырпошехонский You can adapt and succeed in any career if you believe in yourself. And that’s not just woo woo spiritual mysticism. That’s what the whole book “the Biology of Belief” is about. I’d recommend it if you like reading.
A social anxiety video wood be great. I am a hardcore introvert, probably in the social anxiety spectrum and small talk for me is agonizing, going mgtow for the solitude and not having to interact it seems.
I'm just glad you're running a RU-vid channel in general. I'm getting sick of other girls who try to run similar channels but do it for the views or attention. You give good advice & even some tough love when necessary. I found your channel about a week ago, & already found myself bench watching most of your videos. Only to find out I had already been doing a lot of things you mentioned, but I still have some work to do. I'm in the process now of hopefully getting together with this girl I meet years ago, I don't know how she's still a good girl, but I know girls like her are hard to find. Thank you for your hard work & time you put on this channel, & thank you for being classy.
Great tips! And speaking of “Introverts…” Sigma Males are also Introverts - and they tend to do great with women! It seems like a Sigma Male is the guy to be - they get the best of both worlds. They’re not Beta Males, and they’re not necessarily Alpha Males either. They’re sort of in the middle. They’re kind of Introverts, because they don’t want to be distracted by other people’s thoughts and views all the time. They know what they want out of life, and they’re focused - and they wake up each morning ready, and they put their whole mind to it! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
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I am an introvert and very socially awkward. I am fine on stage in front of a crowd, or in front of a camera. The guy on stage is just a musician and hiding behind an instrument. He's not really me. Making my RU-vid videos, it is just me talking out loud and a camera just happens to be catching it on video. However, when I have to talk individually to people, especially trying to do a date, that's when I fall apart. I do not get many first dates, and I almost never get a second date.
@@brentleask3877 Well first thing's first: don't be worried about any of it (as much as is possible right now). Strange as it may seem, but social anxiousness and introversion can both be attractive to women as long as you're genuine in your interactions. I'd say you should work on your social anxiety however you can but it may even go away to an extent or even fully simply through socialization. As far as introversion is concerned, I don't think that's a problem at all unless it's to an extent where you hate social activities or talking to people, in which case you've strayed into antisocial territory.
Another good video. I agree with a lot of these points, especially the selectiveness which got my very extroverted friend confused. One point that I agreed with was the slowing down of the conversation, which when I've done it had a lot of women in my area confuse with disinterest.
@@andersnielsen6044 5 percent is a tiny fraction. So let me word it better. So you think that 95 percent of people who claim to be introverts are using it as an excuse for some underlying problem? They are not actually introverted? haha Well, you are definitely entitled to your own opinion that's for sure but I will play along. I am an introvert. I don't like being in social settings for too long or much at all depending on the context. I would rather be at home reading books. I have a job, degree, PT certifications, I don't drink, smoke, do any drugs other than have some caffeine every now and then. I workout. I lift weights and train MMA. 6'1 and in good shape. I have lots of friends from my childhood still and my job who I do hangout with still just not as often because I am older now and that stuff slows down. So please tell me, what am I projecting here? Or do I happen to be in the 5 percent? Would Courtney in this video happen to be in the 5 percent as well? I would love to hear this haha What am I projecting here buddy? Maybe you will say something correct and blow my mind about myself I didn't know. I am open minded, hit me with it.
@@bane3991 I will do it short (busy in negotiations). People (you included) needs to grow some balls and get your asses out of your comfortzone. And STOP listening to all these Self-Determination Theory and all this positive psychology where "everything" that feels right for your little egos, need to be stopped. Just because your mother continuously says it is just fine, that you stay home and hide under the carpet, does not mean that she is right. None of you are in the 5%. You both "choose" to be it ad hoc, which is clearly comfort. Courtney is on youtube reveiling herself in the social medias etc.. She is nowhere near being introverted.
@@andersnielsen6044 We need to get out of our comfort zones? Let me try to understand this logic here. Let's break this down. Because we don't have an interest in something means we should force ourselves to do it? I don't like going to the beach, should I force myself to do it? I don't like dirt bikes, should I force myself into riding them? I don't play video games, should I force myself to play video games? I don't like playing with dolls should I force myself to play with them? I don't like tomatoes should I force myself to eat tomatoes? I don't like watching soccer or playing it, should I force myself to sit through games or go out to a league and play? It's not about getting out of your comfort zone. It's not about egos. Comfort zones have nothing to do with this nor does egos. It's about people having different interests. I don't have the interest to go out and party, it's not fun for me. I don't see the appeal. I think going to the club and grinding on people is trashy, in my opinion I'm not saying people who do it are trashy I just don't like that culture. I don't like the culture of alcohol being around, I don't care if others drink I just don't like the environments. I can't stand loud music or things that are loud in general. I don't like being around 500 random people I don't know I would rather be by myself, how is being around a ton of people considered fun? It's not like I'm scared to be around these things, I can do it but I just find it boring and annoying. But some people think it's awesome. I tried it and hated it. Same way I train MMA, most people don't see the appeal of training because you get punched, kicked, choked, etc which I understand. I hear it every now and then. I wouldn't tell someone they have no balls because they don't do that or any interest I have I just have the common sense to know we all have different interests. Why can you not see people have different interests? So I'm not listening to some positive psychology or whatever it is you think I'm listening too, I just have enough common sense to know people have different interests. You know you wouldn't tell me to grow balls to my face haha so just stop right there. Nobody has ever done that to me, ever. Except on the internet you get calls all kinds of things.
I am an introvert. But i think i am also shy. I don’t think my introversion gets in the way. Once i get comfortable around someone, I’ll talk.. and I’m really smart. I have spent a lot of time learning psychology and sociology. Ill make the conversation engaging and reflective. I think my shyness is my problem. I was bullied a lot in school growing up. I was a fat kid with autism. I was socially awkward and got picked on by family, friends, and girls.. I learned to be quiet and shy by getting rejected/made fun of over and over again. the fear of rejection can hurt so much more than the rejection itself. I’m self aware if my issues. I gotta talk more. People flirt with me all the time, and I quickly look away because i get anxious. It’s not a lack of confidence. It’s more like a self esteem issue. And words of affirmations to trick your brain is such foolish thinking. You’re picking up an ideal to fool yourself that you are a worthy human being. It’s just wishful thinking. I just need to expose myself. Let people see me.
Being a introvert is never really easy, as it can be challenging to deal with. However I thought just be yourself and be the best you can be. That all that anyone one can do.
Introverts of the world: UNITE! Separately. Dyslexic Introverts of the world: UNTIE! 😊😊😊 {FWIW: While I am not dyslexic, I am DEFINITELY an introvert. AND have ADHD, which unfortunately WAS NOT DIAGNOSED until I was around 38 years old...🙄}
Yeah, there many people who think that are introverts, but are really just shy, lack confidence, and suck at socializing, and try to use that as an excuse. Similar to how someone might try to convince themselves that they have adhd when they probably don't and just want to excuse their crappy habits. It wasn't till I improved most aspects of myself, getting healthier, improving my social kills, and gaining confidence, that I truly knew I was an introvert
Cool story, bro, I mean, sis, but this video skipped one teeny-tiny, quite important particular detail. How the hell does the introvert even arrange a date? It's pretty challenging to ask a girl/woman out, especially when you find her attractive. I mean, come on. I need tips on how to get a woman, this stuff here may be useful, but later, once I need some advice on how to act/behave around her.
Quiet people always know more than they seem. Although very normal, their inner world is by default fronted mysterious and therefore assumed weird. Never underestimate the social awareness and sense of reality in a quiet person; they are some of the most observant, absorbent persons of all.
This video described majority of my dating life to a tee as I'm someone who is very patient and doesn't rush into anything when it comes to relationships. I'm very selective about what I want, and whenever I'm on dates with women I give just enough to keep them intrigued yet keep the cards close to my chest and allow the woman to find out things about me over time.
You've got some good points, but I don't think introverts' attractiveness scales with age. Once you get to your mid 30s or 40s and you're still single and introverted you start to seem creepy. Speaking from experience lol.
As a introvert I thought I was doing ok talking to a girl. Talked to her for months. She was showing interest. Wanted to learn more about me. Finally made my move with roses and a teddy bear. Then find out she isn't single. Might be the end for this sigma. 😕
talking to a girl for months before you made your move? Dude! That's just a waste of time. It's also inherently unattractive to any girl and it communicates lack of confidence and indecision. You should be asking a girl out within the first few exchanges - test her attraction early on. If it's not there, move on yo the next girl. And flowers and a Teddy Bear? That's for GFs in their birthday, not some chick you're asking out for the first time.
@@jleano609 sorry I'm not a Playa like you. Lol. I don't let people get that close to me quickly. It pissed you off more then it did me that's what I find funny.
@@Outlaw4640 I’m no player in fact I’m pretty introverted too. The simple fact is this though. Being confident and decisive are majorly attractive for women. The more time you spend with a woman where you don’t escalate and instead tell her more and more information about yourself, the more she sees you as a friend instead of a potential lover. This is because there is no excitement or emotional tension and having that “spiking” is what gets her into you. Also it’s kind of “sneaky f@cker” game to play “we’re just friends” with a girl first and then switch to “surprise! I fancy you!” That’s what Nice Guys do, because they lack the confidence to be authentic. And women thus hate Nice Guy Sneaky F@ckers. So Sigma, when you meet a girl you like, move fairly quickly. If it’s texting you’ve got 24hrs max to ask for a coffee date. If face to face it really should be at the end of your FIRST conversation. It’s honest and direct. Plus you’re not wasting time because you’re testing her attraction early on. If she says NO then you can just NEXT her and talk to someone else.
Hi Courtney , I hope you should read this, i am an introvert. I tried to start a conversation by asking that i liked her perfume, But then she gave a look like (WTF), had i did any wrong, i need to hear from you.
I just don't know how to live in a world where I'm introverted and I'm expected to approach women, who 90+ percent of the time already have a boyfriend, its like, whats the point
Dating, I don't flirt. She is on the rag, or she is involved. Lol, done. Eye sight, fit and healthy. They are taken. The best ones (women) are the angry (giveme that look of anger) ones.
I absolutely hate small talk and basic conversation. To avoid so I go on dates that involve movement like going to an arcade for example, bowling, sports, walking around at a mall and grabbing something to eat. 1 on 1 at a table is just cringe level for me, it reminds me of a job interview.
