Hey everyone, I just kinda came out to my somewhat homophobic mom through an angry really mean rant text and she was super nice about it and said she wanted to talk about it sometime soon after she had time to think and all that stuff so now I’m not leaving my room because I feel bad. Edit!! I had a conversation with my mom. We’re both Christian, but she has really different views than me. She was really nice and told me she’ll love me no matter what. She also said that she just doesn’t exactly agree with my views but she’s totally willing to listen and support me and make me feel comfortable by not trying to change me. It was really amazing. I know she might not ever completely agree with me, but that’s okay. I’m okay with that. It’s definately going to be a journey, but I know now that it’ll be alright.
Congrats on coming out! It’s a really hard thing to do you shouldn’t feel bad I’m sure she understands why you’re upset if she’s been somewhat homophobic in the past
It's okay to feel bad, that's an understandable emotion. Your mom may need time to come around, and that's okay. I hope everything goes okay, love from Ireland
Every year for Christmas my grandma cross stitches an ornament for me and puts my name on it. Earlier this year I came out to her as trans and even though last year she said she wouldn’t be making any more cross stitched stuff she cross stitched a pride flag with my chosen name on it this year.
It's uncool to not love your mother, unless that woman has beaten you, ignores you, abandoned you, manipulated you or she took advantage of you. Unfortunately the exceptions are far more common than they should be
For me, it's my Dad. He's a narcissist so that was fun growing up, but now he's mostly out of my life. The newest mostly exception being a funeral of an family friend from when my parents were together. She decided to stay friends with both of my parents, as Dad can hide what he is pretty well from people he doesnt live with. Hopefully he wont bother me or Mum.
That's my mom :/ (btw sorry for venting) everytime i act differently from what she expects, or i dress in a way she doesnt like, or feel proud in myself in my own body or even insist that she actually respects me, my gender, my pronouns and ultimately who i am, she treats me like garbage. she tells me im being egocentric (for not doing what she says), she tells me im ugly, she stops talking with me, she denies my needs (im autistic so i really depend on some things to not be overloaded/have a meltdown), so yeah i dont love her because i cant love someone who wont even look me in the eyes and see me for who i am and honestly im thinking of moving out to live with my father because i cant stand this anymore :(
I asked my parents for a new (gender-neutral) middle name for Christmas and the compiled a list of their top choices and had me pick the best one. I'm really happy that they were willing to be a part of my transition in this way!
I work at the neonatal pathology department and the staff room is always full of ladybugs. I don't know why, there are literally dozens of them on papers, vases, windows... It's kind of wholesome since they symbolize hope.
I work in the lab for a big urology practice. I do all of the FISH testing (fluorescence in situ hybridization). There is a picture of a fish on the door of my room (I need a separate room because the test is very light-sensitive). And the on occasions that call for it the other people in the path lab give me fish-related items. They even call me "the FISH guy."
I've heard that in a way the ladybugs themselves are unlucky to themselves, because they hold the world's sorrows in their spots so other people can be happy and in peace. Of course that could have been made up solely for Bullet Train but I think it's adorable
I know no one cares but I really wanted to tell someone. So my great grandmother grew up obliviously not knowing about lgbtq+ (I didn’t know where she stood since she was old school). I came out as trans(FtM) 2 years ago to my parents but not to anyone else in my family. Long story short I left the room where my great grandmother was (leaving my mom and cousin in there, I left with my dad to get drinks) I came back to my mom saying that she told my grandmother without my permission about me being trans. Fast forward a couple of months my mom and great grandmother were talking and my great grandmother says “Tell Luca I love him.” I almost started crying right there.
Yeah, my dad instantly accepted my son when he came out. He's never once misgendered him, not to me either. Which makes it all the more depressing that my friend (or should I say "ex friend?") who's known my son since he was 5, needed reminding every time we met that my son is MALE. She always says "oh, sorry, I forgot, it's so hard to remember because I always knew you as a girl" but my dad just instantly got it and never gets it wrong. Suffice it to say that I don't feel like she's actually a friend any more and we're slowly drifting apart. Not for want of trying. It made me so happy to hear such a positive story about your great grandmother. I think acceptance is the natural response when someone loves you unconditionally.
@@happydillpickle it’s sad to hear that your friend needs to be corrected everytime, but it’s great hearing your dad instantly accepting and not misgendering!
@@lucahello Yeah, funnily enough I was a bit scared to tell my dad: my son asked me to "prepare him" bless him, but I needn't have worried! I think I expected that older people will have a harder time getting their heads around it but as your great grandmother proved, that's definitely not necessarily true at all. There's actually a long, long history of Trans men out there so the old people aren't necessarily as naive as we might assume.
My grandma wished a happy birthday by text this year/last month. She started it with "Happy birthday dear grandchild!" (I'm nonbianary) It was just something small, but it made me really happy
As an elementary school teacher, I can guess about the banana situation. The other kids were probably jealous that the bananas looked so cute and were begging for their own, but the teacher didn’t have decorated bananas to freely hand out, or the kids were just making a ton of noise each day exclaiming over the decorations on the banana (which, as much as I love elementary kids, I can totally understand needing a break from the daily noise over something as relatively simple as a banana!). Those bananas that the Mum drew did look absolutely precious!
I just learned about Happy Tail Syndrome from this video and i'm simultaneously feeling like that's so wholesome and also I'm so sad for the poor doggos who were so happy they ended up injuring themselves 🥺
I'm currently dealing with the human equivalent of that-- pain around the sides and front of my rib cage area. Basically, a lot of the muscles that move when laughing; muscle strain like this is normally caused by strong coughing, but in my case it seems likely that my laughter started it. No particularly large laughing fit, so I don't know for sure. Either way, laughter is definitely not the best medicine in this case... I hope those dogs' tails heal quicker than my torso has. I think it's a bit easier to rest a tail; keeping it from wagging is probably no simpler than trying to avoid laughter, but otherwise I think the dogs should be better off, since it's become very clear to me just how involved the torso is in balancing, shifting positions, lifting "heavy" things (anything heavier or larger than a half-full mug, not even anything really heavy), raising an arm... Tails shouldn't be irritated by any of those as much.
I'm a dog walker and I asked my regular clients if they knew about it and one (she works in a vet's office I should have known she would) came back with "Yes but I've never seen it clinically", another said "One of my golden retrievers was quite prone to it", and a third said "Lucy gets that from time to time". Of course Lucy would!
I've been friends with one of my best friends for around 13 years now. Earlier on in our friendship she told me she had a crush on me, and I told her that I didn't feel ready for a romantic relationship, and that I still loved her a lot, but that we should just be friends for the moment. A few years after that I came out to her as asexual and on the aromantic spectrum. We're still going strong as best friends, and I'm infinitely thankful that she did not decide to cut off our relationship when I told them I didn't want a romantic relationship with her, and that they always will accept me for who I am
I love that he didn’t get the 500 miles reference with that picture. “I would walk five hundred miles and I would walk five hundred more.” Keep being an absolute delight, Jamie
The past couple of years, I've developed agoraphobia and I haven't seen any of my friends. I've begun to feel like I don't really have any friends anymore because I never go out or see anyone. Yesterday, a friend came over to visit very briefly, and when we saw each other, we were so happy!! It was just so wonderful to see such a good friend after such a long time of feeling like I didn't really have anyone. The fact that she seemed so genuinely happy and excited to see me just warmed my heart. That's a wholesome thing that's happened for me recently.
My mom brought me and my siblings to a Bernie Sanders campaign thing in 2016, me and my slightly younger brother had just gotten phones and i didn't charge mine enough, and when it died an old lady offered to play tic-tac-toe with me in her bible So we played several rounds of tic-tac-toe I remember basically nothing else from that except that, idek if I won any of them I just remember it was really nice I think of that often
I am disabled and spent most of the 30th getting health insurance stuff straightened out. A couple days later my four year old walked up to me and asked, "did you get your Medicaid straightened out?" I replied, "why yes it was," and she said "whew, well that's a relief!" I hadn't realized how much she was paying attention, haha
it shows that a simple kindness costs nothing. I went the corner shop the other week and got my friend a can of Dr Pepper just cus I know she likes them. She was like "you sure you don't want it?" and I was like "no. I don't like Dr Pepper. I got it for you specifically because I know you drink it" and she was so touched by that small gesture. The small things matter.
11:44 very possible reason for loving smoke detectors? Autism. (Saying that as an autistic adult - we have some pretty niche interests sometimes.) Autism or not, the amount of love and support that this little sweetie has for his special interest is very positive and will only help him to be confident and happy throughout his future!
Since I just started doing a social transition at work, I told one of my supervisors that she was welcome to give me feedback or advice regarding style and that just made her so happy she actually did a delighted squeel. All of my colleagues also make a point to call me by my chosen name, both to help themselves and me get used to it (I'm in my late 30s, I've got to get used to being called by my chosen name too). I've always known I worked at the right place, but the responses to my coming out definitely sealed the deal.
I'm not really someone who likes kids but whenever I hear a story about how someone went out of their way to make a kid's day I can't help but think that's adorable
I can just about imagine Jamie trying to help run a laundry business like: “I have absolutely no idea what I’m doing but I’ll try my best because this person is going to see their sisters and I don’t care what they say they are taking the entire week off”
Happy new year everyone! Actually something wholesome has happened during the holidays. I‘m not out to my parents but if they aren’t completely stupid they could know that I’m not straight since I’ve been walking around with a pride bracelet for a couple of months until I lost it and stuff like that. So recently when my mom talked about potential future partners she said husband or wife. That happened twice during the last weeks and she has never said that before. Before it was always just husband (I’m female). That made me happy.
Well, I've been up to fighting with a transfobe online, becoming an adult and now struggling with more dysphoria (probably because my brain is aware of the fact that I can care of my transition and I'm scared af because I live in a pretty fobic country). And how are you guys?
Keep being you, only your own opinion of yourself is important. If you're giving the world the version of you that you're proud of, nothing else counts. The right people will love you and those are the ones who matter 😁
I know I'm a bit late to the party, but I wanted to share that I got top surgery last Thursday! It was the da before my birthday too, so I thought of it like a little birthday gift to myself. The anesthesiologists even sang happy birthday with me before I went under. I'm still recovering and am in some pain, but seeing and feeling my chest so flat has been the best experience of my life. I finally can say I feel really comfortable in my body, and I want to keep this positivity and confidence inti the new year. I hope you guys are having a good new year so far as well!!!
My highlights of the year are! 1) Getting to see the new Black Panther movie as a Christmas gift! 2) Starting to exercise daily! As of now it's been 107 days! 3) Getting a type of alcohol I've never tried before as a Christmas gift! It's called Rum Chata (I'm also turning 32 in May)
Some nice wholesome stories I can share: 1) I was visiting my aunt at her home and was admiring the new photos of the family and other deco she had on her walls. One framed picture was a painting of a fat calico cat in a chair. I said, "Oh that looks like Kiki (my cat.)" My aunt immediately took the photo off the wall and handed it to me and said I should have it and also to show Kiki when I got home, and that it was fine as she'd find another picture to put up on the wall instead. 2) For my 18th birthday I was surprised by my youngest cousin who gave me a stuffed Pikachu. All thru my childhood I had a stuffed Pikachu that I adored; it was very small, could fit in one hand, and I had gotten it for my 7th birthday from my mom. Around 15 I lost a LOT of my possessions in a house flood, including the stuff Pikachu. By this point I had almost forgotten about it. But she had remembered I had one, asked my sister about it, and with her help found an identical one online for me. 3) On Christmas many years ago, it was months after the passing of our oldest family dog, Bo. We had all moved out and away from each other by this point but got together for holidays. Bo had always sort of been "my" dog, as he followed me around and liked me best of the family even after I moved away for college and my sister was still at home. I had been really depressed from his passing, and knowing how close Bo and I had been my sister got me a little statue of a black lab that looked like Bo as a Christmas gift. I can't remember any of the other gifts I got that year, as that one blew them all out of the water. It's been 10 years now and I still have the little statue sitting in a place of honor on my bookshelf.
I have a cat called Jiji! I appreciate you sharing these pieces of happiness, but i got really distracted by your cat. I was reminded of the movie Kiki's Delivery Service. Which reminded me of Jiji. (Both a character in the movie and one of my best friends) I'm going to go pet Jiji now. Have a wonderful day and stay safe :3
A wholesome thing that happened to me is me and my cousin nearly accidentally outing myself 😂 My dad was going on about having two daughters (I’m ftm, and I have an older brother and younger sister) and I whispered ‘Sad times’ thinking no one would hear me because the guests were all having their own conversations AND MY COUSIN WHISPERS BACK ‘Sort of… one and a half daughters’ because she didn’t want to make me dysphoric but also didn’t want to out me which I honestly just thought was hilarious😂
Since we're leaving nice things in the comments, I just want to say I've been on testosterone for almost a month now, after trying to get on it for 13 years. I'm 31 and just starting my physical transition and every day it makes me just a little bit happier. So if you're also struggling to find a doctor to help, don't give up, it'll happen some day! ❤
This makes me happy. My afab son would have turned 31 in November. He hadn't managed to get on T yet when he took his own life the day after his 25th birthday. I wish he'd been able to read your comment.
@@starrywizdom I'm so sorry for your loss. It has been difficult to hold out hope, I won't lie, but I feel lucky now that I finally can start my journey. I wish he could've, too. ❤️
Wow, that's a long time. I can almost feel your relief through the ether. It makes me so utterly frustrated and angry that all those people who campaign against Trans rights don't even care to research the reality of how long the process takes, let alone acknowledge it. Wishing you all the happiness in the universe!
One thing I'll never forget is the time when I was pretty unwell and my boyfriend (we'd only been together a little over 2 months at the time!) literally drove to my house to drop off a little care package for me.
My last few years were pretty uncomfortable for me. 2021 I ended with "2022 can't get worse". it kinda.. didn't - but certainly didn't improve either. 2023 started in a way that actually made me feel like it's gonna be better. I managed to clean a lot (I have executive dysfunction and chronical depression which made my flat a horrible mess) and while I still have ways to go I already made plans for the next weeks and I'm just so proud of myself for getting back on track. Cheers to everyone reading this - if 2022 wasn't your year or this year isn't gonna be yours.. there's always hope and you'll get through this. You survived until now which means you're strong and amazing, so anything life throws at you you'll make it through. And there's always gonna be someone to help you through, just ask for (and accept) help - from friends, family, or strangers on the internet (or professionals). 💜
just had a wholesome thing happen to me today. in a discord server im in i asked about if anyone knew how to make friends. one person responded, and after a bit i went to say "you are so sweet thank you" it came out "you are so wet thank you". long story short after my embarrassment and a few laughs i ended up gaining more confidence in myself and a new friend too!
HAPPY NEW YEAR! Have a great year, everyone! Also, my wish for reacting to lighter content has been granted. P.S. I tried to express gratitude to almost every channel I follow. It felt nice.
Two of my very best friends are people I asked out and I'm so glad I was able to overcome the fear and pain fo rejection to keep their friendship in my life
the story of the smoke detector boy reminds me a bit of a boy i used to more or less be friends with, who was OBSESSED with elevators. I dont know why, no one really knew why. I dont know where he is now, but I remember hearing once that apperently the new place he lived at 'cured' his obsession for elevators. I sadly never saw him again but I hope he lives a wonderfull live now
"Are the teachers just trying to suck the joy out of life?" You'll have to forgive them. They have completely forgotten that they were ever even children in the first place.
Well to their defense, they do very hard work under terrible conditions, lots of noise and way too little support while getting thrown at with demands from ansolutely all sides: from their boss(es), to parents, to kids to the cleaning staffs, to the pile of organisatory paperwork that's still sitting on their home office desk undone :3 And if they're American .... then they get drill training instead of funds for enough pencils n teaching materials. It's more concerning when they're at it for a while and NOT sucked joyless. Then they're probably Dolores Umbridge 2.0
I want to share my favorite feel good story that I'm tangentially connected to😊 A couple years ago I was watching the music video for You'll Never Walk Alone on youtube and reading the comments and there was one comment from a sweet elderly lady about the difficulty of getting older and slowly losing your friends. The wonderful feel good part is that her comment had over 6 thousand likes and hundreds and hundreds of comments from people all over the world saying they would love to be her friend, me included, and every couple of months we check in with her in the comment section of the video to make sure she's still doing well❤
The girl who kept meat for her cat reminded me of a job I had on highschool at a place that sells chicken, and we used to get two pieces of chicken and a side for our lunch break, but that was way too much for me so I always shredded one of the pieces and take it home on the container that the side came on for my dog. May dad says he would get to the door like 5 minutes before I get home and he was always so excited when I opened the door, it was really cute
Watching this video was a wonderful end to the first day of the new year :) thank you Jamie for all the comforting thoughtful and fun videos you make, I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels like even though we've never met or talked you're a friend who does yt videos. You make such genuine stuff sometimes it occurs to me wait this guys a youtuber i like... coz half the time watching your vids had the same familar feeling as watching one of my oldests friends streaming games :)) I'm rather tired i hope this makes sense haha
I came out to my mom as a trans guy! she wasn't so supportive but not homophobic either. But she said that I can get a binder for my birthday! I also started learning spanish (so at the end of learning spanish i will fluently speak 5 languages) Thank you for asking what Ive been up to at the end of the vid! and? everyone who sees that, have a great year
At 6:10 with the "Happy tail syndrome," my dog had this too. Some dogs, (mine included, of course) just slam their tails into things as they wag them, creating a little sore spot towards the end. My family had an interesting time trying to bandage a still aggressively wagging tail one day.
For whatever reason, I'm generally in a depressive episode over new years. I love that you did a wholesome video again and hope you keep up the tradition. I like to just marinate myself in wholesome/happy/comforting stuff while I ride out the depression (I'm bipolar, these episodes are just a part of my life) and these types of Jamie videos are all three of those things. Thanks!
7:55. The "thing" ladybugs leave on you is hemolymph (the equivalent of blood in insects). It's a defence mechanism, because that fluid smells and tastes bad and will remind each predator ignoring this to newer swallow a ladybug again. That's also why the "warning colours" the usually have. Very easy to remember. Also, some other bugs "disguise" themselves similarly, because they lack that defence mechanism but still benefit from being mistaken as a ladybug (for example. That would than be a case of batesian mimicry, which by the way, in a given ecosystem, only works if the unpleasant (tasting disgusting, toxic, stingings etc.) "original" is more common than the imitator (otherwise the predators would not learn to avoid bugs coloured like that). Another example: wasp = "original", quite stingy fellows, dozens of hoverflies = imitators. So, sorry to break it to you, the ladybugs leaving some of that yellow-brownish fluid on you is a sign they don't like you... And yes, I'm an entomologist/arachnologist, so sorry not really sorry for digressing on that. I could go on for hours. Or hold a presentation covering that theme beyond others. Which I actually did numerous times.... 😅Bugs are awesome! And so are you. And thanks for the wholesome video! Great way to start a new year.
Not the greatest holiday season for me this year. My dog died the Friday before the week of Christmas. He was 16 and I had lived with him since I was two years old, he was literally like my brother. So I've been pretty mopey as of late. But I always like watching youtubers like you because y'all always make me laugh and feel happy. Thanks for being you! Much appreciation and love! Here's hoping to a great new year for all of us!
Something wholesome: (I have to state this before I begin my story: I am disabled but it is not very visable so I wear a Sunflower lanyard an official sign of someone with a hidden disability) My story is as such; there were some problems with the trains on my way home before Xmass so there were too many people running around me and I kind of blacked out But then this elderly couple walked over to me they had seen my lanyard and helped me to calm down, got me and all my stuff onboard the train and walked with me 'til I could handle it my self (Later I learned they were heading in the opposition direction....they just didn't want to leave me stranded)
Hi jammi, this will prob get buried, but I want to say something. To all the young LGBTQIA+ People in the world, it’s ok. You are human, and everything will be alright. Yes, yes, it’s cliché but I like making people feel better. Stay safe out there! ❤️
"People are people So why should it be? You and I should get along So awfully "Can't understand What makes a man Hate another man Help me understand" I ❤️ Depeche Mode
Sometimes we need happy clichés to pull ourselves out of the seemingly endless angry tirade of transphobia out there! Actually, we ALWAYS need happy clichés, so thank you ❤️💛💚💙💜🖤
just had a massive arguement with my parents and theyre lowkey kicking me out of the house ✌ happy new year i guess lmao this video is very much appreciated for calming my nerves :')
Hoping they have come round but if not I hope you have at least some time to get help, do you have any friends you can stay with? Idk where your based but some charities/ housing associations should be able to help you. Hope your managing and that the year gets better for you.
I know it's a year late but I hope everything is going okay for you. Hopefully either your parents have come around or you've found a better support group. Have a nice day, internet stranger!
@@MiaTheOtterPup I've definitely been doing way better mentally and otherwise :) altho my relationship with my parents is still very strained my dad has come around a little bit which I'm very grateful for. I'm also gonna be moving out w my brother hopefully soon once we save up enough money. I've completely forgotten I made this comment but I genuinely appreciate your concern and "checking up" on me, it really means so much
I never understood the whole "they wont say 'I love you' for forever!" Thing. I'm 18 and I still tell my family that I love them.. Sometimes multiple times in a row because I often almost immediately forget if I said it already and I just want to be sure they still know that I love them
Before i realised i was AroAce i told my "crush" i had a crush on him and he was super nice and told me he really likes me as a friend and now we are basically besties and i don't know what i would do without him as my friend. He is an amazing friend and i wouldn't want anything else
Why does this have to be only once a year? Please can I request you make this video more often. I need reminding that there are good people in the world
The first time my husband and I watched Moana, he turned to me, pointed at Hei Hei and said "It's yoouuuuuuuu!". So now I am technically a Disney princess...chicken.
happy new year jamie, your content is always both entertaining and informative, keep things up the way you do and never change unless it's to improve yourself
This made me so happy especially the train one. I love it when people you don't expect to be very caring like rowdy boys in the mall are actually very sweet
Moths are so cute!! I love them more than butterflies (which totally creep me out) because they seem stronger and less creepy. I mean, butterflies are cute too, but I don’t love them as much as moths
6:23 my friend has a dog that wags her tail all the time, only her tail is very hard, so it's like a bat smacking into your legs but you aren't mad bc it means she's so happy to see you
My family dog when I was a kid was like that. Her tail felt like it was made of wood. Sometimes we'd think someone was knocking on the door but it was just Riley wagging her tail against with something
Just want to say thank you for this tradition. You and Shaaba's videos always lift my spirits and I'm so glad I got to start the new year off with this positivity.
So literally moved 1300 miles to move in with my "friend" after losing my job. She bought me a bus ticket and we got married the year after. We've been married for five and a half years now.
Hi, so there is something I want to get off my chest. Last year, I came out as a FTM Transgender to my parents. They were both supportive and made me feel happy. I've been wearing mostly clothes from the men's section (I know that clothes have no gender, but it helps me feel better) and recently I cot my hair short. They both complimented me on my looks, even when my relatives joked about me looking like a boy (I didn't come out to them). So there should be no problem. But a few days ago, my mum and I were watching TV together, when they showed the trailer of a film about a trans kid. My mum muttered under her breath: "Why do we always have to watch this transgender-stuff, now it's everywhere.". When I asked her, what she said (I thought I misheard), she said nothing. But now I'm kind of scared . Actually, I want to start wearing a binder and go to a psychologist to learn more about myself and take more steps in my transition. I'm scared to bring this topic up, because she alredy showed a negative reaction. Legally, there should be no problems, because I'm an adult. But I really love my parents and I don't want to disapoint them. What should I do?
I think she was just bored with the media. Here in Finland, they only show murder investigation dramas on tv nowadays. I've complained about it sometimes to my mom, although my mom likes them a lot and we watch them together. Just, sometimes I would like to watch something else. But I like murder dramas too. This is just my guess, but maybe you're being hypersensitive to the negative response because it's from your mom. Maybe it was just an outburst and not actually reflective of how she feels generally. Maybe you could talk to her about it and your feelings, if it's bothering you.
My sweet wholesome thing, is I watched Heartstopper (first time, no coming for me 😜) with my youngest over the holiday period, we both loved it, and some tears were had
