Is He The One? 5 Questions to Know for Sure (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy) 

That's it, I'm the one. I'm the one for myself

1. Do you personally find him attractive? 2. Is he capable of and willing to adapt to your activities? 3. Does he help you self actualize? 4. Is he worth it when he’s at his worst? 5. Is he ready for a relationship in his current state? If he’s not ready, he’s not right.

His daughter will know not to be treated any less than a queen. Wow !

I don't wanna lie. I am a guy and I watch this man's videos a lot. It might be hard to believe but a lot of the believe ideas meant for girls also apply to guys. Plus he always makes me think critically of my interactions. Goof job

This video was so dramatic!! But he speaks the truth

I started watching Matthew's videos when i was still single and I've learned sooooo much from him. Now I am 100% sure I've found my forever person and we are engaged 😊💗

I met a guy with whom we have almost everything in common. He has the personality of the guy I always dream of and he seems to be really into me. I just don't feel any sexual attraction though. It sucks because all my friends tell me I should give him a change, that he is perfect and that the attraction will build the more I interact with him. Still I can't help but thinking of one or two guys who were completely different from me and what I wanted BUT they gave the chills every time the came close to me from the first few meetings. It sounds so simple, but it is now that I realize that no matter what standards you have for a man, if there is no chemistry, there is nothing.

When he said “can he scuba dive” my mind went straight to the gutter

"Doc, take me to a time when he is not selfish" ahahahha

i watched this video 3 years ago, a friend of mine recommended Matthew's channel because i was really down and allowing many things that I shouldnt have to someone who wasn't good for me (and I wasnt good for him either)... and here I am, many rewatched and learned videos before, Im having the relationship of my life, happier than never with another whole different set of people... I just engaged to my current partner in crime and a brand new me... Im so thankfull for you guys... therapy and art helped too, but Matthew and his team...♥ they put me in the path of a new adventure♥ thank you so much

matthew you just by far give the best love advice

This video is pure GOLD , 2 years later and I still come back to it!!

I already knew these things when I left him and your checklist just solidified it...plus I needed to hear it again. The difficult part is getting through and letting go of the emotional ties.

"Do you want to... JUMP HIM" Hahahahhahaah that's so funny Mathew!!!!!😂😂😂😂

Can I have "Mini Matt Hussey" so i could bring him in my pocket, then everytime I feeling down or get lost I would ask "Mini Matt Hussey" for any advice.

Just because you love someone, doesn't mean it's the right someone. Thank you for that.

The reason people get so mad at you, is because you're telling us what the male thinks. When I realized that, I really started to hear you. Thank you. Just ordered your book!

It's weird how sometimes we insist on relationships that, deep down, we know aren't going to last. Such a waste of time! Self sabotage at its best.

I absolutely Loooooove how creative your new videos are man! you nailed it how can someone forget these points time machine! scuba dive! you are a teacher who cares about his students and constantly grow and evolve to drive your message home

"Chemistry doesn't magically appear halfway through the relationship" try telling that to my demi ass lol

This guy is genius. Happy to have women looking for and exposed to legit material.

Replace ‘he’ with ‘you’ and you have your answer! Everything you seek from someone else you have with in, until then you are not ready for another 💕

Your videos keep getting more and more unpredictable and creative! I can't resist them

Thank you Matt, I'm in a really hard heartbreak period now, but thanks to your video you're making me realise he's not the one for me. There's a great chemistry between us, but I have to say he's definitely not Mr Right. Thank you for your videos, I'm learning so many things, not only concerning heartbreak. A big hug from an Italian fan of yours 🤗

Matthew should absolutely have a "love camp" for women... like a 6 week program where he conditions women for healthy relationships. I'd absolutely go.

Classic! But the more I watch it, the more I realize how hard it is meeting the person who meets all the 5 criteria.

I am so happy there is people like you in the world, normalizing healthy and constructive relationships. Makes me want to be more of a happiness activist myself. Thank you Matthew.

I met this guy @ my work, and like the day I met him he like open my eyes , he actually pulled out his hand & handshake me like WOW.I felt a connection & I wonder if he did too. I before had bad taste of guys & didn’t know my worth, I would accept anyone who would come to me if I found attractive. But this guy just seem so different out of the guys I would like , he has Charisma, a positive attitude towards things, he’s friendly & talkative. He made me feel comfortable towards him & I’m not shy at all with him. I also haven’t really thought about sexual towards him it’s more of personality & brain. How he is.

the creativity and philosophy behind this video make me appreciate your channel even more! great work guys!!!

You made me realize the man I was with wasnt the one and now I met a man who has a high potential and I can see him giving efforts eventhough I was a huge mess when we met... interestingly I know him from my past, I was not as strong as I am today (also because of some of your content) and ran away... now we found each other again and eventhough we could not see each other for about a month after our first date (I was sick and made him sick and then he got reinfected with something that he had before) he shows me in a lot of beautiful small ways that he cares... thank you hussey, for being such an amazing guide and coach - even without ever partizipating in any of your retreats your content has helped me a lot to see what to look for in a man! ❤❤❤ Greetings from Germany friend!

The thought of dating just instantly gets me tired but I'm never going to be ready for the cemetery.

I'm 100% that he will be the perfect husband 😂😂👌

that time travel one... hahahaha that was hilarious

When I saw the car he was in, I was like " WTF, where did he bring that car from"

Ok so where did you get the Delorean????!

I know I’m not the only one who see’s a very sexy Harry Potter here...

Keanu Reeves is officially THE ONE

Me: "Of course I can scuba dive." *proud* Matthew: "... your family party where they have to talk to all of your relatives and all of the different characters in your family..." Me: *runs*

can we please talk about the fact that Matthew is wearing NO pants at 3:21min ! just noticed by watching this video the 3rd time...

This video is 7 years and you are still the best, Matthew!!! ❤

"Do you want to... JUMP HIM?!!!" HAHAHAHA 😂

He's the one. He's so the one. I'm excited just typing this. Woohoooo!! Thank you, Mathew for all of your advice. I've been using it and that's how I met him!! I'm irresistible to him!!

I can't focus on what you're saying because you're too damn attractive Matt. That's really not fair.

Hit the “like” button as soon as you said that thousands of people could be “the one” I agree 100% and it was so refreshing to hear

I had never laughed so much in a video until now when you said do you want to f... Him? 😅😅 I was so serious and then so hilarious. You make this very interesting and entertaining. I love you Matthew!!

I’m 60 and still waiting. I met someone , went on a couple dates , then my son went in the ICU for a few months, so then we went on a couple dates after that, then he went in for hip surgery, and he got a terrible staff infection and has a pic line with liquid antibiotics, then we were going to go out but I fell down my icy flight of stairs and broke my wrist in 3 places and injured my tailbone! He came over and kissed me , and now I’m worried I have staph infection !! I’m scared 😱

I thought Suba Dive was another way of saying WILL HE GO DOWN ON YOU. Just following on from the first point.. lol Naughty me. Smack my hand.

So tragically, my who I thought to be the love of my life, dumped me with no warning three weeks ago and proceeded to start dating my friend while we were still living together two days after. This is clearly a tough situation to work though (which I did not handle with much grace), and at first I didn't think I'd be able to get over it. Slowly, (or quite quickly - I can't be that weird mopey ex that still lives in the house) I've been making progress on my own. Watching this video (and a few others) has SERIOUSLY helped me make more progress. I'm sure you only think of your videos and advice as how to help women find and keep a man. But you are helping me realize that maybe it wasn't so perfect, and I can have the confidence to find someone else, and there will be another love of my life... or 6. Whatever, it's 2017. But honestly, from the bottom of my over-worked heart, I appreciate all of these - and you.

Hey Matt and co.! Just wanted to thank you all for your always optimistic and insightful videos. You have all done amazing work that helps change the lives little normal humans (like myself), and I just wanted to express my gratitude, because I am sure you can never hear it enough. :) Cheers from Canada.

Yeah it's hard to digest when someone we are deeply in love with isn't that person.

I don't believe in THE ONE either! Qualities that make you happy versus too many downsides. The same for him.

This page is secretly a man's guide to women, I love it! Kudos to you señor Matthew!

lol where'd you get the time machine from. That was hilarious.

I've always considered the whole "if you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best" statement as a life style change.

I'm at the 3rd one and I got to say, that this is probably just as helpful to men as it is to woman😊 thanks mate

Good point Matthew. Why consent to the worst that a person who claims to love you, should do unto you? Love is not consenting. And not consenting to wrongful acts doesn't mean you love the person any less.

what the hell, do people like that even exist? does anyone have that kind of relationship?

Matthew, I thank the universe and you for your existence. One of my dreams is meeting you and give the sweetest hug you could ever have

When you said "intelligent is sexy," I had to click like.

Where has your wisdom been all my life! 17 years of toxic relationships. I just moved, sold my home, left my business for a man who promised me everything. I was moved in for 2 weeks and he kicked me out over 1 argument because i discovered he was lying about his finances. I lost everything. Learned what a narcissist is. Had never even heard the term before.

Yes thank you The one is a myth, a good person can have a decent fulfilling relationship with tons of different people (not multiple people just two people I can’t speak for that)

I was so confused between two , and now I am clear. Loving isn't enough, there's other little things that counts.thankyou

For all you ladies out there watching this, just a reminder; it's a two-way street. Now a days, I've noticed that many men (myself included) struggle with women who have a lot of expectations but nothing (or rather, barely anything) of value to give in return to the relationship. The only guys that'll accept that are the ones with a lack of self esteem and who are generally of low quality... and let's face it, no woman would ever want such a "man" in the first place.

Everyone has issues if he or she is the one. Yes, everyone. When you are intimate with someone you enter what I have previously called, The Field of Intimacy. It is like a special field where you feel close to your partner and he to you. It is because of that special field that the good feelings of love and attraction come about.

And how do we know if a guy is really ready? Because sometimes, they can say they are ready, even though they are not. How do we understand they don't do all the stuff just with enthusiasm, not because they are ready?

This video made me leave my relationship. I said yes to myself - and found a new person who is without a doubt my one. Happily married :)

4:29 I thought I was going to agree with Manilyn Monroe but thank you for guiding us to the right perspective. 😅

That BACK TO THE FUTURE bit is 🔥🔥🔥. You are my favorite, Matthew. I’m so grateful you exist. ❤️😘

Omg I died at 6:17 😂😂😂 please bring out the dorky humor more 👌🏽

Very useful & entertaining. And the 5 question point goes both ways in asking of the girl too. Men know it too by same questions & answer. 1. Is she sexually appealing to the guy? 2. Is she willing to do/learn things out of comfort zone? (same way family/friends environments. Shyness etc.) 3. Does she stimulates intellect? (lots of guys get majorly turned off by lack of intellect for long term "living together" relationships) 4. At bad times, is she a complainer or helper in solving life's problem? (complainer makes a guy's life worse, supporter makes the guy feel relieved, & strengthens him to take on challenges) 5. Does she say she's not ready to commit? making promises, asking for more time to adjust to the idea? (Guys feel good when they give a girl time & understanding, & feel great when she finally come around & commit. but if she won't ever be ready to commit or into it. Guy will feel wasting time & at a stand still, held back in life. Often after breaking up, will the girl be more willing to commit/adjust when dating the next guy. As she learned that's what drove her last relation apart.) Just my 2cents additional tips/food for thought ;) Nice to see this guys teaching & helping women how to treat guys ;) Never forget couple is one team, one unit. You & him together facing life. I have someone, we fell for 1-3 it's mutual, and we're great at nr.4, we strengthen eachother in life, bonded as team. But I'll tell you nr.5 is a big problem. "If the guy isn't ready, he can't be right" so same goes "if the girl isn't (ever) ready she can't be right" & that's why we are just good friends ^^ moved on. Have someone in your life, or keep them out of your life, but never let them stand in the doorway, for they will be blocking traffic. I always loved that line ^_~ works for business relations too.

Brainal - I love it. It's such an important part of a relationship and attraction! Thanks for coining up this wonderful term Matthew and Jameson :)

Hi Matthew There isn't anything called a perfect relationship or a person in this world,everybody come with unique traits and flaws ,the art of navigating all situations with that person lies the real challenge.

This video is massively important.

#5 REALLY hit home for me! That helped tip the scale as to whether or not I should leave a 13 year relationship...🙁

As a guy, I greatly appreciate these videos. They not only teach women what they should be looking for but also teach men how to show up on the radar and maintain themselves. I also strongly believe that there is no such thing as *THE ONE.* I have turned down several opportunities with women I’ve had great chemistry with because, as you pointed out in question #5, I didn’t believe I was ready. I’ve also had to back off from other opportunities because the women had better chemistry with someone else.

Surprisingly, I totally agree with this guy. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years and while I'm still questioning myself if I've done it right or wrong, watching this video has just confirmed that my decision was right.

Omg! He is so right. And I'm so afraid that there is no such a good guy.

I have heard Matthew say in interviews that he is not sure about monogamy or marriage for himself, and after hearing his opening statement, that he doesn’t believe there is one person for each person, and that he believes there are literally thousands of people that could be the one for us, that solidifies the fact that he definitely should not ever get married. I hate to say that, and I don’t believe in marriage either, but if he literally thinks that there are thousands of people who could all give us the happiness that some people think just one person could, that’s a sure sign that that person is not a believer in marriage, which is in fact, a commitment to one person for the rest of their life. If there are thousands of people that could make him happy, why would he ever settle down with just one? It’s almost like he is saying he will just date until it gets boring or he’s not happy anymore, and go on to one of the other in the thousand-Mark group that could also make him just as happy. Weird concept. Especially from a person who is trying to help people find their one true love

I'm back watching this video after 2 years, same guy, same reason. I've been in a 6 years relationship, and I still don't know.

Matthew Hussey, you are by far, the best I have ever seen. Blessings brotha.

Do you want to jump him ? I laughed like hell lmfo 😂😂😂

Oh how I wish I had this information before I got married. I got into a marriage that left me broken and miserable that ultimately ended in a nasty divorce. The fourth point really drives it home for. I love this content and I'm going to share it with all my friends ❤️

Omg how much i needed to know this 5 questions right now. Yes love is a decision Love the way u explain it Mr.Hussey, sooo helpful Thank you so much

If he’s not ready he’s not right... Brutal, but fair. Thanks Matthew.

Another good stuff from Matthew! What I like the most about this video is when you explained that quote attributed to Marilyn Monroe. I was enlightened because I did agree with that quote. Thanks for making things clear. :)

point 4 is actually the most important one in my opinion. that's the reason why they say the person who brings out the worst in you can't be the one for you. and I totally agree... I need to leave and find my one, my teammate someday. I have to go

1:03 very funny, but don't agree :)... I mean of course you shouldn't be completely repulsed by him, but extreme excitement right from the beginning is even a bad sign to me... it's like all the attraction is in your head and not based on the other person's personality and will die off once you get to know the other person better, whereas a small attraction has the potential to build on the other one's real personality over time which will then be lasting...

Thank you so much for this video. I just broke up with someone and I thought that it wasn’t the right decision. Now I know that it was, just because of that video. We were not meant to be together. He is a good guy but that doesn’t mean that is good for me. 💜 thanks matthew.

So...according to #1 then, you're the one... :-D ('cause that' the only one I heard and that was enough for me). I had an epiphany yesterday, I was having problems with my boyfriend and then I realized, most of my life's problems have been caused by men (emotionally bullying from men, stupid mind games, etc), and I have allowed those things to affect me because of the simple fact that I cared what men think.(up until yesterday) So I decided right there and then to stop caring what men think about me. To 100% stop caring.(including my boyfriend) Women become so self conscious because they are always trying to please men. The next time a guy wants to give me a hard time because of my personality or my looks or whatever he doesn't like, I'll tell him, listen if you don't like me, go find someone else then. Done. easy. A weight was lifted off my shoulders when I made that decision. Now I can't even get through an entire one of these videos. They seem so silly to me. I only clicked on it cause this guy's hot. To women everywhere: Just try it. Try not caring at all what men think. It's just feels so good and liberating.

I think my favorite quote is you saw all of me loved me when my worst secrets and you loved me in my imperfections. I think when both people know all the worst and still see the best in them is just amazing a1

I got a crush on you 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍 All what u said are soooo trueeee ! P.S: how come you are so cute 😍

Im living alone in a different country where my man is from.. and so far the videos of urs that i have seen i guess i've been the same way and it works wonders when all you do is be the best version of u be loving and polite excluding all the negative things (which are obvious) great job Matthew👍🏽❤️

i really needed this

If he's not ready...he's not right.. Best thing you've ever said. If this is followed in the firstv place man.. Lots of heartache wouldn't happen. 💘 it

This is sad. You just basically described my ex when I’m currently trying to move on :(

Dude, this is absolute gold. You are doing a huge service for women, and as a man I have to say I'm a huge fan and I admire your mission. You're like Corey Wayne for women. Huge respect!

I was really thinking something different when he said, can he scuba dive? LOL. Don’t say I have a dirty mind, you know you were thinking it too!!!!

This has to be one of my Top 3 Matthew Hussey videos 😂💖🐳

So, sex, scuba, conversation, teammate, and timing. Perfect

The time travel part was hilarious. My fav part was the mention of brainal, having stimulating conversation. I tend to get deep in conversations, I talk about everything, I sometimes have an imagination like a child that's infinite. And I need someone who will be as open and can go deep with me. While sharing there perspectives on life.