Sex shouldn't feel like work. Both partners should only have sex when they are rested and in the mood. If you are not horny, don't do it. It should be spontaneous. It should never be scheduled unless you are trying to make a baby.
@@VampTwinkie Its definitely not at big as it was 20 odd years ago, nowadays to buy a house and pay the bills and raise kids well you do need two incomes
Yeah and they're looking at her like she's crazy. I don't have kids. 4 is more than enough for me. If the sex is great every single time, 4 times a week is perfect amount.
Look, guys are site stimulated. If you WIFE WITH KIDS is still HOT...the man will get stimulated and want it whenever he is around her. Especially a young husband
My husband is divorcing me because of this! We have sex 4 times a week and it’s not enough. We have 2 kids. I work, get off, pick up the kids, help them with homework, clean the house up a little bit, then it’s time to make dinner, after dinner clean up, bath time for kids, reading time with them, then bed time.
Bass Mainer try my style.... i do it every 2 days but i go 2 to 3 times on the sex day so its basically 6 to 9 times in a week. for me its like going to the gym. men’s testicles need recovery. but when sex day comes i will go 2 to 3 rounds. after first round it only takes me 5 minutes before it becomes ready again... trust me its the best feeling.. the 2 days off builds up your lust for each other. if you cannot do it then try every other day.
Juliën Bernard that 3-4 times a week is not gonna happen once you have kids . When I’m married however my rule is sex everyday if she wants it that often . Keep your man happy or he will leave
Agreed. That lady must have an addiction to sex because we've all experienced that one weekend or couple days where you get it in 4-5 times because things are fresh and new and fun. But how can you do that consistently every single day? OMG
amen!! cuz chile my freak days over. if im a freak its a lotttttttttta effort and mental training. "u can do this. make him cum, so u can sleep good." be the highlight if i wanna have sex now. #truthbetold
This is the funniest damn segment they've done so far I can't stop laughing. So glad to see all the ladies finally getting along the chemistry is getting better. Especially with Jeannie ☺️
@austin they've ALWAYS got along. The ignorant ppl in these comments just seem to *think* and put together in their own mind that these girls have issues. LOL
As a woman, let me just say. THAT WOMAN IS CRAZY! I don't know who in the world is up for having sex 28 times a week unless they are not working and have a sex addiction. We don't know much about the man, maybe is a very hard working person and like TamTam said, people get tired. I'm sorry, but a divorce over this? I don't get it! Maybe she really needs to find a fellow rabbit to satisfy her :-S
I agree with you. That's a lot to ask of someone; it's also petty of her to leave her husband for something like that. It's quite interesting though...if the divorcer was the man, I'm certain the conversation would not have been as light-hearted.
Before kids, we were getting it in everyday, wherever we went, after kids 2-3x a week, after my hysterectomy due to fibroids (still have ovaries) a couple months ago, down to 1x a week 😕 hopefully it will go up again once I'm %100 better 😊also kids have moved out.
According to the average healthy relationship you are about average. Good for you that you are compatible sexually. Without regular sex most relationships will be doomed to be unhappy
When I’m only 20 , Engaged and LUCKY if we do it 3 times a week. My man is an electrician working 14 hour days 6 days a week, and he’s tired. I don’t at all take offense to it. Of course he’s tired ! A normal person would be!!
Doing it every single night going make u bord of the person eventually the excitement just ain’t gonna be there no more , every other day or maybe two days in between would be good for me it gives u the craving to want the person again
Now once a day I can understand! But having sex more than one time every day?! You have got to be kidding! How can anyone do it that many times every single day? That's just too much for me to think about! I get tired just watching Buffy The Vampire Slayer do it!
LMAO - I'm long in the tooth now, but in my 20's and 30's 3 to 4 times a week was perfect. A man needs to recharge and he biologically does not have the same amount of fluid as he did on day one if he doesn't wait until two days later to perform again. Plus, at some point it becomes painful to the male to keep trying to ejaculate in too short a time!!!
I've been married 15yrs every other day works great for us and we have three kids but there not babies there all pre teens, but were still super attracted to each other and we make time to be alone. To each it's own :-)
I’m practicing abstinence until marriage and its been 5 years now. When I get married, I ABSOLUTELY will be doing it every night. I’m sure eventually later down the line its not gonna be like that, but in the beginning I’m letting my friends and family know not to bother us for awhile.
Ohh Adrienne Adrienne Adrienne! Hahaha she'll see. Especially as soon as she has a baby!! The second you and the hubby have all your clothes off is the second the baby wanna start crying😩😩😩😩
Agree. Not to mention a man's stamina - even if they are a pro athlete - needs to recharge!! It gets very painful for a man to try and come after twice (and that's after resting for a few hours!!). As the saying goes, I want to see the tape on those couples stating they can go at it 5 times a night without the women being sore and the man being in pain.
There is a saying "that too much of a thing is a disease." Two to three times a day would make sex loose it's "specialness" in my opinion. Adrienne's idea of everyday (even though that is still quite a lot) is A BIT more realistic.
Esther Grace There is no book or science that determines what's considered a normal sex appetite and what is abnormal. If the men and women are healthy and don't have external pressure they can have sex frequently.
2-3 times a day is WAY too much -- not many men can MANage that! After all, there's a reason why the instructions for fertility tests say to "take the test not earlier than 2 days after your last ejaculation"!
My ex would make me wait.. he said a woman initiating is unattractive.😒 and it doesn't feel the same if you have sex all the time. Then I met my current man and that man is total opposite!! Thank God. Sometimes I still have to pull myself out of my past trauma and ways of thinking. The feeling unwanted and not good enough because my man literally wants ME! IT'S A BLESSING
+sami ijaz no i agree, we've been togheter for 11 years and i've had alot of different sex...but the hormones that give you the same yerning that you had before is not the same anymore always. Sure sex always feels good, but sometimes i just want to sleep or to do something else.
@@Thaleya1 Yup finally someone gets it! When you in your late teens your hormones are going crazy and you ain't got no responsibilities or stress, then yea you can get down 2x a night. Lol Once you get past your mid to late 20s them hormones start to slow down a lil. Especially if you got 2 to 3 kids in tha house. Once you get into your mid to late 30s, 3 to 4x a week is good! Lol (Been married 18yrs)
Sex is work..why would that being the relaxation of the day?? Especially if you have kids..but to each their own...the ladies were right doing it every day didn't happen..there might be someone out there who does it every single day but geez idk how
Ok I don't know if I'm normal or not but everyday is TOO much. When I actually get the URGE to do it or when that CRAVING comes, its usually once every two weeks. I can do it every OTHER day to please my husband, but not everyday. Once every two weeks is when I need another fix lol
I am a guy I'm 26 years old I haven't had it 4 years now , and I'm in that age tho 22 to 26 is a hard age to manage .. I know it's a too long period , but I'm not dead without it tho , sex is overrated
I guess it depends on the person. As a dude with no kids, once a week is enough for me. I work FT and I work long days so when I get home I'm freaking tired. Plus I gotta get up super early to go to the gym before work so everyday is too much for me.
It's not that the girls are saying they CAN'T do it multiple times a day, they're just saying it's not realistic. Sure, in theory that sounds amazing, but when you've got yourself a full schedule, plus kids, you get exhausted. No harm no foul in taking a day or so off.
Sex when you loose your virginity is very painful and the moments after. I had pain during sex everytime until 3 years later when I had my child. And I was 23 years old when I lost my Virginity. after giving birth I have no more pain.
I'm with Adrienne! My average is about 20-30 minutes. I don't understand the problem. She's 33 & I just turned 27 about 3 mos ago... We're not super young, but we have a bit more of a hormonal advantage. Maybe that's a norm for me bc of my slightly higher sex drive, but sex 5 or 6 days a week is ideal for me. I love sex. And I love really good sex. I think about it as often as the average man would. I love sharing myself with my partner. So, to not have my sexual needs being met, EVEN after working together as a team to correct the issues, would be a deal breaker. I've never cheated before, but I could imagine that emotional connection not being made could drive someone to want to cheat.
Boogiefizzie Ya but Adrienne says all this and doesn't have any children yet. She can't relate so idk why she's opening her mouth on these mothers and claims she knows what she's talking about. How can she predict how her children will be like and her life with them if she didn't even have them yet?!
That is a legitimate reason to get a divorce. It doesnt matter what your sex drive is like, if you aren't being satisfied, you should not have to stay with that person. My last relationship only lasted 6 months because I only got to see him 3-4 days a week and he wouldn't even get me off once a week sometimes and it is so frustrating to have a partner that doesnt care about your needs.
If the person I am with is not willing to satisfy me sexually, then I am with the wrong person. I am amazed you stayed that long. I had a gf who did not satisfy me and within a month of living together, I gave her an Altima. It did not take long for me to realize she was the wrong person so I left.
I don't know if I could do it 3 times a day! But 4x a week is fine. 😂 Working all day and then coming home to clean or cook... No Sir! I can slip some quickies in maybe but I work and get tired. 💀🤣
Me too!! I am a triple rabbit. I love it when a man wakes me up and gets me going half asleep too. Very erotic. But it must be in a monogamous relationship because then I get hornier for that man each and every time we go.
Adrienne did come out and finally say she had to talk to her husband cause she couldn't do it every night. All the girls said finally you understand..she did say she felt bad about not doing it cause she was saying she'd do it everyday..
My ex as a husband made love EVERY single night, sometimes 2 or 3 times a day for 8 years... Menstrual cycles and all. Now that I look back, I definitely think he had a problem.
+The English Tree I definitely had to get used to it, I mean, when we first got together it was really rough because I would end up incredibly sore. But I couldn't really say no to him either, even when I'd try he'd get all pouty and I'd eventually give in. The only time we didn't have sex was if he or I travelled separately which was maybe once or twice our whole relationship. Even when we went camping (out in the woods mind you), sex was expected. We split because he was a pathological liar and I hated his mom and she hated me.
+kurdistanss well to be honest, he was a very very good lover, very passionate, some orgasms were more intense than others. But yes, in all honesty, I would fake it sometimes, especially going on the 3rd or 4th time.
"Four times a week isn't a lot"?? Adrienne, ONE time a week is a lot. Let's get that straight. And I know a man who wouldn't want it every day, not even ever month, and that is my husband. So yes, four times a week is a LOT.
I guess normal is relative but to me, once a week is the minimum and if you get too busy, you better have it twice the next week 😂 that # for me is the balance bw desire and practicality.
Loni is really annoying! stop rolling your eyes, its not her fault if you dont get passionate sex once in a while.. I Totally agree with Adrienne, 20 to 40 minutes is about right and if you feel like having a quickie 5 to 10...
Having sex EVERY DAY is way too much! and this is coming from a female nympho!!! like Tamar said i need a day or two to reflect!! Plus, having sex everyday with the same person can get kinda boring.
All you need to know is that I'm engaged. Meanwhile I bet your perpetually single ass wonders why she can't keep a man with your "oooh sex 4x a week is more than enough" mentality.
thatkidd jennifer I agree it's too much. I want to ask you, do you think that by spacing the sex out throughout the weeks would prevent you from getting tired of doing it with the same person? In your opinion what should a couple do to avoid getting tired of sexing the same person? I despise the foul act of cheating and think that sex with many different random partners is damaging to one's physical health, soul and mental and emotional well-being. Thanks. I kindly await your response....
wow jennifer I need a moment to take that in and let that sit with me. I shall totally marinate on that as I'm totally in agreement with you. I also acknowledge that there are people who don't see it that way. Your point about how you should not have sex just because you're horny is a very good one. Unfortunately, we live in a society that promotes and values random sexing lol; but since having this conversation with you I've really come to realize that a connection and a bond while engaging in sexual contact is so much more powerful and stimulating than empty, horny, physical attraction sex. This way, I feel we value it more because we focus on the love connection to it instead of abusing the act of sex because remember, great sex starts IN THE MIND. :) Hope we're still on the same page. P.S. I know you have great, passionate sex. You better get yours girlfriend!
I've been practicing celibacy now for 5 yrs + all glory to God. I'm anticipating my honey moon to get it in, so I'm looking at them like huh? When you've really been holding out, you can't wait to get struck
I sympathize with Adrienne, I’m married and I always want it. But it’s easy for me because it doesn’t take all that long, like seriously 5 mins and I’m good no shame 💁🏽♀️
I hated how at the end Jeannie and Adrienne were asking the men if they would be down the have sex every night. I don’t think that was the point Tamar and Tamera were trying to make, they were trying to say that ofc the sexual attraction is still there, but when you’re a mom sometimes there isn’t time for that every night as you’re very tired. Adrienne need to wait until she has children. Especially if she has more than one
First off what would classify as a quickie to some of you? And secondly quickies don't exist for me. Even if I wanted one, it'd be longer than that. Lol sex 4 times a week is pretty solid. I personally wouldn't need it everyday. Haha
Four times in a week is a lot in a week for normal people who work, cook, clean , have kids , run errands ... Now take all that away then sign me up for everyday!!lol
LOL this so funny. I remember being the Adrienne in my group. " Yeah! me and my fiance have sex every day, blah blah" Got married, the kids came. That scenario quickly changed. 16 yrs later. If i get in a solid 2 a week, 3 if business was good. I'm more than satisfied. She'll learn, we've all been there.
"That's why I ain't having no kids, cause I like to have it everyday'" lmfao I love Lonnie!!!!! sex is great, but once you stop having it, you get used to it! until you start up again! lol
Adrienne is always putting out such a guilt trip making people feel bad for “only” having sex 3-4 times a week... that is good. Especially for married or people in long term relationships. Adrienne is ridiculous. Don’t shame people for what they do
4 times a week is GREAT -- in fact, speaking as a man, even though I personally have a pretty high sex drive, 4-5 times a week is the most I can do on a sustained long-term basis (although I can do much more than that temporarily after a period of abstinence)! After all, there IS a reason why the instructions for taking a fertility test say to "take this test no earlier than 2 days after your last ejaculation"!
Ive been in a relationship 3 years and we finally moved in together 2 year in and the first year we did it EVERYDAY at least one time sometimes more but eventually we started to take 1 or 2 day breaks and the sex felt way better.
