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She still does that but also wears wigs

@@halatiny6537 LMAO

I was so confused when i saw her on the thumbnail, she looks like chad chad.. but also not

I think she’s worn a wig for around 8 videos?

other youtubers i thought were killing their hair but it turned out they're just wearing wigs are kennie jd-who's very transparent about wearing wigs in her videos, often mentions it at the beginning-and izzzyzzz, who often wears who wigs in some videos, and then her real hair in others. (edit: you can tell some of them are wigs, just because they wear the same colors in different videos. izzzyzzz's wigs are extremely unique and stylized, so you can tell easily)

Its giving couples counseling and chadchad is their therapist😂😂

Chad Chad's chadness is intimidating

They are posed with all the skepticism of Jane Porter braced against a tree, shrinking away from a very forward man in a loin cloth

I would also be afraid of her because she's just so cool I could never compare to her and that scares me

that is just standard hotel podcast setup etiquette for 3 people when one of them is a woman

"Le shit, attention à l'araignèe"

Sacrebleu! Un kangaroo a détruit mon garden! 😮

Wouldn’t that be l’outback?

@@AmyAberrant we insert too many f-bombs to properly evaluate the indefinite article.

Le gasp

i… have just realised what the “not really” means in that context omg

Her name is Chadine Chaddington and she's british, actually

​@@HighFiveTheHorizon she's actually our new king! Charles is short for chaddington

@@mahyuhhh i’m…genuinely curious, what did you think she meant when she said that 😭

@@vivishii_ Probably as a joke

I knew about this, I took French from 6th through 12th grade. Got A's every single year. If I was in France, sure I could survive on what I know but definitely nowhere near fluent and I would struggle in conversation. On the other hand, I grew up with many Spanish speaking friends who taught me a lot of conversation skills. I can't read or write much Spanish, but I can understand 85% of what I hear in conversation and I can communicate day to day subjects competently, though not perfectly of course. I'm a nurse and I still rely on translators for intense medical conversations, but I can do the basics myself like asking if they need anything and understanding the answers. And as an added bonus my Spanish speaking friends all spoke different dialects as they or their families were from Mexico, Cuba, El Salvador, Puerto Rico, Spain, and the Dominican Republic. It made it harder at first but now I'm glad I really understand a lot of different people.

never was a full spanish speaker, though my family said they considered me bilingual when i was younger (not sure what happened to this LOL) but was raised by my hispanic family who immigrated from DR and Colombia and i did well in my four years of spanish but that was only due to my previous knowledge. people would ask me for help on tests and quizzes since i was good at it, but i could never help them and i felt awful. it was genuinely from past experience and not the class and the class didn’t teach anyone. i’m glad to see someone with a similar experience and even someone who grew up to help others overcome this. i appreciate you

Dreaming in Spanish for the first time felt magical. I hope you get to bring that joy to many people!

same problem in Canada with French, there's jokes here about having the gym teacher teach french while taking you outside to play sports, and it's absolutely my real experience

That explains why Spanish class was so hard. It was all without any real context. “This is this word, this is that word,” etc. Good to know it wasn’t just me!

Surely it depends on your parents.

​@jekanyika to an extent ofc but the societal messaging is extremely pervasive, and its not just parents and teachers but also peers. even as a 4yo i didn't want to be associated with anything 'girly' because it was always lesser. people learn and internalise misogyny at an insanely young age

@jekanyika what ratt said. a lot of girls go through a "hating femininity" stage when they're younger, in part because they just don't get to be kids within the ideals of being feminine.

Honestly, that's when I started to get rebellious. I saw my brothers doing the same thing and not being criticized. That would irritate me so much.

@@ratt2199 tmi: I’m autistic, but that also meant I never really got any of the shaming and labeling of things as “girly” or “gay” or any other general labels, cause I was always like they are just things and I didn’t get why society subtletely dmininisbed these concepts by making it seem negative

They are

I agree

i think that’s a symptom of every person in that room is sitting like a bisexual

lmfao thsi is the best comment ive seen

She's the alpha here that's why

Love how you stated this!

W comment

Maybe it's just me, but blaming the patriarchy is so misguided. Every marginalized group suffers under the capitalist neoliberal statuos quo the world has. Especially the poor. There are a lot of problems with our societies, but the root of all evil is not the fact that men owns the world. It's the fact that a handful of men owns it. Viva la Liberté. Viva la Equalité. Viva la Fraternité.

@@azpont7275 but it's not about who owns the world, it's about how women are sistematicly treated differently than men in a lot of aspects that affects us in the everyday life because patriarchy is the root of misoginy. It's something ingrated on society that most people still replicate.

@@azpont7275 but it's not about who owns the world, it's about how women are systematically treated differently than men in a lot of aspects that affect us in everyday life because patriarchy is the root of misogyny (and many other things). If that woman is a POC, than she may suffer much more. It's something so ingreated on society that most people still replicate because it's THAT normalized. The fact that "only a handfull of men own the world" does not change that. Just because one group is suffering does not invalidate the other, the root of each problem is different. But if you think patriarchy is not completely to blame, look no further then what is happening with women's rights in the USA, look at the recent sexual harrasment case in Italy. Look at all the news about d*ad women k*lled by their partners, look at all the news about child marriages. Just take a look at the news.

Seriously!! The double standard is unreal

yup. fellow trans man, grew up as a tomboy, it's absolutely unreal how much little girls get policed on their behavior and the way they dress. i was like 8 being told by my grandma to sit more ladylike for no reason except because girls 'aren't supposed' to sit like that. (there are practical reasons for sitting 'ladylike' but, uh, i never wore skirts so they weren't relevant???)

one thing I always think back to is that I wish I was allowed to climb trees as a child :( i wasn't allowed to because as a girl it wasn't ladylike, and if I scraped up my knees I wouldn't look good in dresses (CRAZY to me now to think back on that). I did end up getting scars on my knees from an accident and am just now at 25 learning to not be embarrassed about them, or feeling I shouldn't dress a certain way, because I have "ugly unfeminine legs." Being socialised as a young girl is so fkn weird.

your comment also made me think of something I heard a trans girl mention once, about how she was treated after transitioning visibly and 'passing' (this was years ago, idk if that word is still in use bc I get the connotations can be a bit weird, but that was the way she described it at the time). She said she was called a b*tch and rude when she was just being as assertive as she would've been when she was younger and publicly passing as male. It had nothing to do with her behaviour, it was the way she was expected to behave as a woman, and because she commanded the same space and tone that she did before her transition, she started getting all sorts of harassment from people who had no idea she was trans, they thought she was a cis woman who was being unreasonable.

@@RealElongatedMuskrat let’s go climb a tree together!!! Idgaf how old we are! (I will say it’s a bit scarier as an adult though 😂)

And immediately after I finished writing this comment they said it was infantilizing but still lmao

Oh my fucking god he actually says order for her lmfao Like what if she changed her mind after she told you what she was thinking about ordering And “take the initiative” is so bad it sounds like you finish ordering and then she’s like “And I’ll have the” and then you interrupt her to be like “And SHE’LL have the quinoa salad or whatever”

Man I need to stop pausing the video and making comments before I see what joke they’re immediately about to make next lmao

It'd make me super uncomfortable if my date treated me like that. Also, I don't want some guy I barely know sitting next to me and placing a napkin on my lap.

It seems like a SUPER weird thing to assume your date is okay with that. Even if a guy meant it with the best intentions, I'd honestly be a little creeped out how much he'd be getting up in my personal bubble and essentially talking over me. Ordering for your date might be sweet if you have been together for a while and they've expressed they want you to do that (if they're away from the table/etc) It feels like a lot of these dating advice guides for men forget the hypothetical women you'd be dating is in fact an adult who might be put off by the other person taking control of every detail.

bisexual sitting also overlaps with neurodivergent sitting, so it's abelist too (source: autistic sitter)

@Alastryona true! im both a bisexual and neurodivergent sitter myself, and i didn't even think of that lol

@@alastryona I am read this, as I'm waiting for my legs to regain feelings for the third time during this video, so I can finally (maybe) actually remember to go to the bathroom.. (I don't really see my ADHD as a disability, but maybe my life would be a lot easier if I did..)

@@Nightswarmer categorization of a disability is actually a slightly interesting topic people get wrong a lot. i think what people don't understand is that disability is not diagnosed based on what particular affliction you have (that is to say a condition that CAN be a disability is not always inherently disabling enough to warrant a formal diagnosis), because a diagnosis is given out so that you can access the necessary help, not just for "finding out the truth" or whatever people say it is. So my ADHD would be considered a disability because it affects me severely enough to be disabling in everyday life, whereas with what you said it's possible that your ADHD, while noticeable, may not affect you enough to make you feel like you need to call it a disability (because there is no objective scale for disability). Same as how someone whose ring finger was amputated would be affected but might not consider themselves disabled, whereas a limb amputee would be more likely to do so. me choosing to write this doesn't really mean anything about you or your comment btw, this just kind of interests me and it was on my mind after having to explain it to someone.

@@ejynk Well, I've always been dependent on other people watching out for me and I just today actually moved into my own place that isn't a dorm with roomies or my mom's basement.. I usually think I'm "barely functioning", but I guess this is really the ultimate show on if I actually do manage completely on my own.. I have been considering starting meds, but my mom always used to be so against it and at this point I'm so riddled with anxiety that going to the doctor to ask for them is paralyzing.. Not only about going to the doctor, but also I feel like 90% of my personality is just ADHD symptoms and if I take all those away, I'm kinda terrified about what might be left.. And probably the only reason I have kept my current job is because the boss is my mom, but she's moving across the country now.. So.. Yeh.. Terrifying..

Wtf is that emoji thing?

@@AmyAberrant

@@AmyAberrant it's one of the new youtube emojis, its a hand covering a face. Also a fellow What We Do In The Shadows enjoyer hello :)

@@NivaOranir :)

@@NivaOranir WWDITS is the best show anyone has made in a while. I stand by that.

I assume they’ll censor it there too actually. If she uses a stage name and has no interest in using her real name I just imagine she doesn’t really want people to know it lol. But I don’t have patreon so who knows!

@@stellarae8257 if anyone’s wondering, they beeped it on patreon too. which i’m fine w cuz yknow privacy and all

True

@@lamibonxd agreed. Being online robs us of enough of our privacy so I imagine keeping that private let's her keep down the constant harassment of being a popular woman online.

@@lamibonxd ayeee I was right!! Thank you for confirming lmao 💛

Isn’t the point of swearing to not sound nice? How do you swear nicely?

@@AlexCarrillo78 i think you’re taking the word nice way too seriously in this context. I speak in Spanish w my family so I translated it the best I could. Their point is that I shouldn’t swear cause that’s not what “perfect little ladies” do

Disgusting behavior from them🤢

​@@victoria_is The question was more rhetorical, I think. The translation is perfectly understood.

The misogyny in catholic schools is insane

the urge to have at least one foot in the chair is so strong for me

"Chronic gay sitting tendencies". That's the best way to sit, my friend 😌

I would have gotten in so much trouble at that school, I'm afab but love to "manspread", it's just so much more comfy than crossed legs or legs together

the way that i commented this 3 days ago and am now in pain cus sciatica from sitting in a bad posture for too long do not follow my example lmao

My mom never said it was because I was a girl, but she also told me I couldn’t wear sweatpants to school lol, she wanted me to wear jeans

I went through a 'i want to wear cargo pants' phase and my mom never let me cuz it wasn't for girls

I remember when I was quite small I wore a shirt and shorts that were different shades of purple but my mom insisted I should change. I said that my dad and brother could do it so why couldn’t I. She just said it was because I was a girl and they’re not. I’m n-b now but I still think about it from time to time. Despite being a second wave feminist, my mom STILL came to that conclusion. Idk I haven’t asked her about it but I’m hoping that that was a learning opportunity for her about double standards. Regardless, I still had to change lmao.

A lot of the time they say it's so men or adults in general don't look at us sexually, which I did experience as a 10 yo, but no one ever thinks on how it shouldn't be up to the kid to dress for the adult gaze.

lmao she’d have an aneurism if she actually came to campus

I would say it depends on where you are or in what cultural environment you are in. In many countries food is served on plates for the whole table and it is seen as polite to serve others before taking some for yourself. This is not confined to only dates or women though so again, context, but it's not inherently a bad thing. If you are moving in a western environment though and you only do this on dates or for women it comes off as infantilising and controlling.

​@@gggthsba big difference between those is also the familiarity between people, if it's family or close friends putting food on your plate it's a lot more acceptable than a relative stranger.

your fight or flight is not meant for modern society. “my friend is being hurt” never had to be answered with “no no, it’s a fight for youtube, everything is ok”

In middle school and very early high school (COVID happened late in my freshman year so not much of high school) one of my friends did boxing and I felt the same way. My gut reaction was to help but I had to force myself to stay still and watch because it’s just a sport, my friend will be okay, they aren’t in actual danger. It felt like such a strange reaction considering my actual fight or flight reaction is to run away and avoid danger lol

I just imagined the both of them jumping in there lmao…

This happens when I watch people dance. Idk how to dance at all, but my body twitches at certain beats

When I realized Jarvis was gonna be in a boxing match i was already feeling my fight or flight spiking to protect him lol. Not that he can't do it, I can see he's been training and I know he's a smart and healthy individual.. but to hear the nicest guy on youtube is gonna be in a fight, it confuses my brain lol.

100th like

I love Hayley Williams omg

@@vtilyaaaaa and I love Chad Chad omg x2

@@jessearmstrong-kooy2930 So do I!!!

Somehow I feel like that’s the point

Sarah Schauer once pointed out that for people to find women funny they have to think they're smart, and that will always stick with me

If you’re actually funny people won’t care if you’re a woman or not

@@RichardsGaySonNot how sexism works.

@@Waspinmymind there are plenty of successful female comedians

@@RichardsGaySon yeah, and those successful female comedians also get a lot of flack for being women. i get your point. logically, your gender doesn't matter when it comes to whether or not you're funny, but sexism is not logical.

Anyone who hasn’t worked a service job in a while should read the book On The Clock by Emily Guendelsberger. She’s a journalist who works three modern service jobs - a call centre, a McDonalds, and an Amazon warehouse - and describes how much more dystopian these jobs are now since the advent of digital productivity tracking.

Oh yeah, that's just the tip of the iceberg. Imagine having to also have to stop and submit a whole ass form just to step away to pee.😢

Right??

Thank fuck I live in a country with worker's protections. My time at a call center was fairly benign in comparison to what I hear from Americans.

I worked for 2 calls centers. The first one was for a bank, I only made it there 8 months. The second one I got fired from just short of 2 years. Reasons were for my “unaccounted” time was way too high for them and I would blow through my sick time as soon as I got it. Whenever I didn’t have the sick time to call out I’d step away from the phone more often. You best believe if I was gone longer than 2 minutes I’d get a text asking what I was doing. I got Covid at the beginning of 2021, but didn’t have the sick time to cover it and they didn’t have to go by state laws for time to cover for it so I ended up working through one of the worst sicknesses I’ve experienced. Got a write up a couple weeks later that my unaccounted time was too high and that ruined the transfer to the other department I had set up. Come to find out 9 months after being fired I have ms 🙃 Long story short, if you live in the US, don’t work at a call center.

We can only assume that this is the TRUE Chad Chad. Every video on Chad Chad's channel is not the true Chad Chad. Hence, why this one specifically was not anteceded with "not really." Follow for more Chad Chad science tips ✌️

Her full name is Chadchad Notreally

I always try to ask customer service people how their day is going and to be as patient as possible with them, hopefully I can be a glimmer of sunshine in that gloomy ass job

Listening to this while working at a call center is wildly cathartic

I feel so heard now!

Also apply to tall kids, still now I try to not get close to people when walking because I feel like I'll knock people over by accident

And then the second that you cross your legs in front of your class, they start laughing at you because they think that you're masturbating or smth

Btw, thanks to Jarvis and Jordan for also speaking about the read only mindset. Made me wanna comment, as I’m trying not to be scared to put myself out there, even though a harmless comment can attract lots of toxic trolling

​@@welivina thanks for sharing with us, I promise we don't (usually) bite :p

just try to remember that all the hate on a comment can stop by you just ignoring the notifications lol. Sometimes if I’m getting negative attention on a comment and it’s not credible criticism + I still stand by what I said I’ll just ignore my notifications. Open the notification box but not actually read anything related to that comment. Just an idea! Spending a couple hours away from your phone when that happens can help you realize that that drama is only on the internet and doesn’t affect your general life. With time I’m sure you’ll get more comfortable :) ​@@welivina

Same boat here, no shame in struggling to move out, take care of yourself first 💜💙 as long as ur in a safe spot rn

Wait.. HUH💀

i cant imagine the emotional toll that the job gives u :( hope ur holding up alright, wishing u well!!

Yooo me too! I got one day off calls recently and it was just this moment of.. wait my workday can be peaceful? What?

Real

God for real! I went from working in a call centre (govt contractor, i won't go into detail but people were in pretty harrowing situations) to being a receptionist at a local business and I was genuinely showing trauma symptoms for at least the first 6 months at my new job. Like hypervigilant, tense all the time, jumping at any noise, frequent panic attacks and migraines, constantly wondering when the other shoe would drop and I would be in trouble etc, feeling like I was being constantly surveilled even though I wasn't anymore. It took me a long time to trust that something bad wasn't about to happen because I was so used to work being painful that it freaked me out when it wasn't. Tbh even now I still get a little spike of anxiety if I spend >5 mins not actively on task, but we're working on it 🙃

To anyone currently working in a call centre you are worth so much more than how you are currently being treated, and you aren't being weak or dramatic for thinking it's inhumane. You deserve so much better ❤❤

for me (an autistic person) my education unsurprisingly went downhill in 2020.i mean i absolutely hated school in 2019 but for some reason i could do all the classes fine, bc i didnt really… do any schooling in 2020 i suck at class now. i stopped going to school in late 2022 right now im not being homeschooled im just kind of lying in bed all day, its not great anyway i think i started off with a point but i forgot it so now i just said a thing for no reason

@@TPNsBiggestFan wow. what the fuck. are you me? covid started my freshman year, i got diagnosed as autistic this year, and the cptsd from being invalidated and not properly cared for/ my disability being ignored my whole life bubble to a head and allowed me to take home instruction. im home all day, don’t interact with anyone but my mom. i started in march. i graduate in june, 18 in july. i don’t feel like i’m functioning like a regular human at all. my life timeline is fucked, i haven’t even applied to any uni so i’m inevitably taking a gap year

(not saying you’re troubled ms chad it’s me)

For reallll

Basically screws you over socially and educationally for the rest of your life, it's great!

@@lydia-cain true

@@lydia-cain tbf the educational part of high school doesn't do too much IMO. Like yeah it exposed me to so much knowledge but the American school system is all about memorization and cares less about the actual learning and retention. The social aspects however are beyond necessary. Spending like 8 hours a day 5 days a week with your peers teaches you socialization fast and it is sink or swim at that point and I feel like homeschooling just wouldn't give that to you.

ugh that's the worst part about wearing skirts, i can't sit normally unless they have built in shorts or something. >X(

​​@@dottyContrarianI wear bike shorts under all of them. (Can add pockets) Or I got now step one underwear (because I have been stealing my bf's underwear) it also helps if you chafe

@@tatiana4050 i'll take your suggestion. :)

@@dottyContrarian because for the life of me I can't sit still.

Underwear is still clothing so I honestly don’t care about that

Same, I feel you. ❤️ it’s tough.

As someone who went to public school, it is absolutely WILD that someone HOMESCHOOLED was thought of as a poor student??? Like,, in that situation it really is a poor teacher scenario

Same here, too. 💜

Same journey for me too. It's heartbreaking realizing the adults in your life failed you, yet not as heartbreaking as believing it was all your fault. It wasn't your fault. I'm happy that you're healing. I try to be the adult I needed back then, and speak up when something isn't right, especially for kids. I find that healing

She has conditioned us all like Pavlov's dogs lol

i can't imagine being homeschooled that long wow

Eyy full Monty homeschoolers in the house

Hope you’re feeling better..

i am very tired so hopefully that made sense lol

trad trad

straight men think women can only be tricked into a relationship

Schools apparently miss the point of teaching anything other than how to develop massively complex coping mechanisms to protect yourself in a ruthless environment. And that if you let go and just BE relaxed and not alert and fight or flight all the time you get punishment for that too 🎉🎉

Well, it’s also, you know, German, the language too tight fisted to buy vowels and spaces between words.

me with Dutch fr 😭😭

Omg same with the english part!!!

Yeah, I have to take a sweater everywhere I go despite it being 100 F° outside lol

Im literally sweating and having a hot meal in rooftop cafeteria rn because it's Russian winter inside. dreading the cold feet

@@Hip.Username same lol!!

lmao I used to hate it too until i realized that I'd much rather freeze to death than walk anywhere in my country's scorching 50°C+ temperature, now I never really take the cold for granted 💀

"Not really"

ADHD and autism, I do it every time lmao

my mashup-addled brain does it sometimes even though I’ve never heard the original song

As a European for me it was the opposite, I took Spanish instead of German in middle school. It was a huge mistake as my attempt to learn Spanish, meant learning my 5th language, not at all easy. German would have been a much better choice as it was the 2 language I ever learned. However, my German had experienced limited development of more advanced vocabulary and grammar rules along with writing ability, for 6 years by that point. Although I had been born In Germany, my family moved to my fathers home country the summer before 2 grade and I had to concentrate on learning my 3 language. Fortunately I chose German In Highschool and as a consequence, I was able to both learn new knowledge and refresh my memory. Funnily enough, I feel that I have the broadest vocabulary in English even though it is my 4th language.

thats amazing

That's actually really cute lol.

Goodness gracefully

We had “art class” where my mom would send us to the garden and draw a random plant and describe it lmao

​@@sarahbauserman8256 that's very relateably homeschool

Are you referring to the shorts? 'Cause I simply CanNot. 🥴

thank you i support chad chad world domination🫶🫶🫶🫶

thank you tali i needed this bless u ✨💕

Thank you tati! We owe it all to you 🥰

Bless this manifestation🥹💕

What nationality are you if you don't mind answering?

Can you still recall the 2nd language

@@bethanychatman9531 German

German here with 2 years of Spanish, 4 years of French and a couple of Japanese and Korean lessons. I barely remember anything because it was over 15 years ago and outside of singing along to music I have no practice 😅

@@EclipseINF its english so yes, but I have been using english basically daily since 7th grade so its not really a fair comparison

Why?

She’s a radical dame - she seems like a super fun person to just kick it with too..Love her ❤️

For me it was the other way around: I got to know Jarvis (and then Jordan) because of Chad Chad. I love these 3 together, I want her to become a permanent member of the Sad Boyz

@@user-ky6qj1ww3d wym why

@@PaulaC-137 agreed

He looks so jacked!

i was delirious and it was a long weekend 😭

@@SadBoyzPod haha its cool it happens to the best of us.

y e t

And can we also acknowledge how damn beautiful these three are 😧

on the other hand, scammers are fair game lol

first name chad last name chad

middle name chad

stupid question, where can i find them (obv insta but yk)?

u were meant to be here, your voice matters so much more than you know

It is actually a name, it's from a Celtic healing Goddess; but really?, of all the Celtic names they could have gone with?.

@@babs2952 Yeah, especially given Rowling’s obsession with pun-adjacent names I cannot fathom that name was chosen with good intent

oh my god I had something similar, with these paper workbooks we had to order from the "school". The actual work seemed inadequate in retrospect but the weird comic art was really funny sometimes.