The narcissist will never change. There have been times I’ve wanted to clear the air; but something always stoped me. I believe it was God saving me from heartache, pain and manipulation. I’m going to pray for you. I admire your honesty. God bless you ❤️
Yes it was God stopping you. You can never "clear the air" with a narc. It (the narc) will only create more FOG. Remember what God said in 2 Timothy 3:5.
Nearly every narcissist I’ve come across has never taken accountability for their actions. They don’t have the ability to repent. My experience was a blessing in disguise, it brought me closer to God. The negative was having to constantly fight against demonic forces. A narcissist who is unforgiving with vengeance, will constantly speak negatively over your life. The tongue has the power of life and death. Narcissists have no Conscience or empathy, therefore they speak recklessly. I’m going to upload my channel and testimony very soon.
Sharon johnson I did the same thing with my Narcissistic mother. I did not see her for three years Z I did not attend her memorial service or her grave side service. I did her back to our hometown to be buried but I refuse to attend..
@@mbvlove3133 We didn't even have a service. My aged father wouldn't be able to take such a long day. Perhaps a double memorial when he passes. Who knows? I'm proud of you
YogaMom, same with me! I would be still full of guilt and shame and all of those self-sabotaging ways. Massive massive Bravery and Massive survival tools to go forward in that peace, better each and every day☺️
I really wish I could help you in some way. Thank you so much for your courage, kindness, strength, integrity, intelligence, stability and of course support. This is only words in a comment but we are real people who care about you. I listen to your videos late at night and they are so comforting to me.
Tom I have so much to thank you for & life isn’t perfect but is so much better. A large part of that is down to you. I want nothing from you but I want you to share in having a better life so will be sending over £50 (no idea in USD) shortly x
Wishing you peace and love. Since you are disabled you qualify for fuel assistance. They cover heating bill from November 31-April 31 each year u have to reapply. Applications start in Sept for the upcoming Winter , but u can apply anytime during that timeframe. Most apartments don’t have oil heat. That’s expensive and unusual.The utility companies also put u on a low income rate all year once u officially apply for fuel assistance. Best of luck.
Thank you so much for your videos your videos have helped me tremendously and understanding what I was dealing with. Your videos save lives. I'm one of them. The pain I was feeling was so great my confidence was so low finally it's getting better
You sir are one of my favourite people making videos on this subject. You have helped me in so many ways to silence those tapes that play in my mind from my child hood. Thank you.
Dear Tom, we got so many great videos from you. Here we can find topics and you answer so wisely. I think it is our turn to give something back to you! I am concerned about your health. Take care. Peace and Love.
I’m sorry about your health relapse and wish you healing and peace. It’s a relief to have you back- and all the support that will be offered. Your channel was the first one I came across this relief of having other people who lived the same insanity helped me not feel not so alone in it, I appreciate your compassion in telling the whole truth of this awful disease of the soul, a warp in their mindset that has such a devastating impact on the victims -survivors. I only wish there had been social media back when I was young that I could have been enlightened and gotten help and support a lot sooner. I knew and some other people knew there was something very abnormal about the narc-psychopath but it took a long time to find out what it was...Thank you so much!!!
Your videos helped me so much. I was beginning to have intrusive, suicidal thoughts dealing with my deeply toxic narc mother. I've been happily NO CONTACT for 2 yrs now. I was considering therapy but I don't need any ...you and other RU-vid Narc channels saved me $$$ + a ton of pain, so I'm gladly giving back.
I'll be donating for sure Tom. I'll detail some of my situation but you don't owe me any feedback you've helped me enough. Any feedback you happen to give me would just be a bonus. I love you my friend.
Hello Sir long time no see ! You are one of the first who really helped me to understand this narcissistic live I have to endure ! Thank you 🙏🏽💜 nice to see you ! I had remember you're videos not long ago !
I have donated in the past and will gladly donate again and share my story. Tom, you really are the best and have helped many of us through dark times and I hope everything will be ok for you.
I mentioned your channel to someone who was going thru a horrible time, recently. Hope you are feeling better. Your videos are the first I discovered and they helped me immensely. Sending love and peace. I a
Hi Tom - I hope you are feeling better, and that the road to good health continues at its steady pace. It’s funny - you mentioned how you want to offer help in some way, and all I kept thinking about was how much you’ve already helped me. Helped me along this road which at times feels most lonely as not too many people understand it. Or that a lot of us who do understand it have been so conditioned as to not share our fears and thoughts and true feelings for the fear of repercussion. But not you. You seem to push through with a bravery and incitefulness that truly inspires. You who has seemed to come out of the darkness full of compassion and heart. I will be making a contribution for sure.
I’ve been researching non stop for 3 months to figure all this crap out. Unfortunately, I fixated on it, but it wasn’t until I came across your versions of Narc Abuse. The way you talked about the situations finally gave me that last piece of the puzzle. So, that I could finally let it go. I think after 3 months of the Discard and 3 months before my custody court case. I would say that is really good timing. If you wouldn’t mind I would like to set up a time to talk to you? Share my story with you. I have enough to become my own RU-vid Narcissist Abuse Coach. Lol Have a good day & thank you for helping me get on with my life!
Hello Tom😀, so nice to see you again on youtube. Please if you feel well enough please do more posts. You have helped me soo much, and I will try and help you soon
Good morning sir, I have been following your channel for about 5 years now, and I appreciate everything that you share with your own story. I myself struggle with a narcissistic mother and have gone through so many similar occurrences and dealings with my own struggles throughout my young adult life, that you have shared to viewers on RU-vid. I say this with sincerity that I hold credit to you for the eye opening clarification and/or explanations of all the questions I have had locked inside my head throughout the years whilst dealing with my narcissistic mother. I have wanted to ask you for quite some time, if you by chance would mind having a personal conversation if you ever have free time. I thoroughly enjoy what you are trying to accomplish and the goals you have reaching out to people like me across the internet. I am a firm believer in helping others and blessing others by passing the blessings I have been granted with, on my day to day life's journey! If you ever have free time I would love and sincerely appreciate if we could have a one on one personal conversation via phone or email. And once again, thank you for what you do. I for one am very proud that you as an individual take the time to make these videos, reach out, and help others. Sincerly, Halston Hodges
So glad that you are back Your videos have helped through some very tough times I will help if possible and pray for you to get better and get through this. Peace and Hod bless you.
It is very very difficult to ask for help, I think specially who has been through so much trauma. I hope that those who can help you with donations do help. Even if it's just a little bit it all adds up. I'm proud of you for having the strength to ask.
Hi Tom xx hope you are OK as well as can be xx I really want us to find happiness in ourselves again I really really do love from Donna England xxx 🌍🥰🌝💗🌹
I've just made a donation, Tom, and I'm wishing you well. Although I've been NC with my entire narcissistic family for almost 6 years now, I wondered if you could make a video on whether to interact with members of the family who didn't abuse us but knew that we were being scapegoated and did nothing about it. Should we forgive them and interact with them--even from afar--or just have nothing further to do with them? I'd be interested to know how others have dealt with this situation.
If there is any risk that these people will be "feeding" information about you and your life back to the dangerous people, I would stay away. (or perhaps feed false information, something different to each one. And if it gets back to you, you will know where the leak is)
@@recoveringsoul755: Yes, something to think about. Although these two aren't toxic-- and I don't believe they would feed false information to the toxic gang. But they would tell the gang they spoke to me, and I don't think they'd ever make up nasty things about me. I'm still mulling this over in my head--🤔--that's a tough one.
You are fabulous. Can see the kindness in your eyes-these are THE BEST, on this subject I’ve ever heard. And I’ve heard so so many. This is REAL, your experiences are genuine-they have to be-no one who hasn’t been through it comes NEAR what you’ve shared. So blessed by them all. God bless you and yours.
My narc "mother" is trying to kill me, literally... I need help! I have been going through my lifetime, of narc abuse by her.. but never knew what she was until about a year ago! I always thought somerhing was wrong with me, and that everything was my fault... I am now 61 years old...she is 82. I have had really bad health issues happen to me these last 3 years. to the point of near death a few times lately! Heart problems, and 2 strokes in the last 2 months! she calls to abuse me, What "mother" would do that???
I hope you are ok. Please check out HELPS law firm. This is a non profit program to help Seniors and the Disabled with all debt. Debt or fear of can kill especially if we're already physically compromised. Bless you!!!
For those who wish to hear will hear. My journey has ended: Love and friendship endures all things and those who gossip they betray and those who walk away they walk away. Should a person treat another badly then they have some kind of illness they are dealing with and thus one is compassionate in one’s mind with understanding towards them. They are ill. Love is reaching that state of inner detachment like Angles who are constantly maintaining a higher vibration by transforming reason into what belongs with the other and what belongs to oneself thus not being effected and drawn into reacting to that of lower vibrations. The proof of friendship is those who stay no matter the differences. When you tell everyone your damaged emotions you are telling everyone you have so little control on how you feel and that others in fact are in control of your mind. I pass on the wisdom… PROTECT YOURSELF From People's Emotions: BK Shivani at Sacramento (English) ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-TXOa3N21U80.html Your Thoughts ATTRACT Your LIFE: BK Shivani at Orange County (English) ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-9RhzuMWbBmA.html
His volume is usually low, so I got these $9 dollars external speakers since I listen to his channel again and again. They work great! So much better. www.amazon.com/Logitech-S120-2-0-Stereo-Speakers/dp/B000R9AAJA
