life after miscarriage... how I'm actually doing... 

I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through a miscarriage. It’s awful to lose a baby. It’s going to be a year since my first pregnancy and missed miscarriage in May. And I totally relate with you when it comes to grief. It really never hurts any less. I’m slowly learning to live with the grief and not be sad all the time, but honestly almost the entirety of last year I was walking around sad. I never understood grieving people prior to my miscarriage. It’s crazy how we expect time to lessen the pain and help “get over it” but that’s not really how it works. I relate with the church thing, too. I couldn’t go for almost two months. It was also Mother’s Day the weekend of my miscarriage & I watched the online service. They had asked the mothers to stand briefly and I couldn’t hold it together watching that. I think even the identity of whether I was a mother was confusing to me. It’s just so hard. All of it is so hard to go through. I never realized how difficult having a miscarriage would be. Hugs to you. I will be keeping you in my prayers. 🤍

Love this background soo much🥰Love you girl, praying for you!!🥺🖤

I spoke to you when this first happened to you, I’m an old lady now, I had two miscarriages in my lifetime, one at at 3 months and the second at 4 months, back in my day woman were just supposed to get over it and move on, it wasn’t a big deal in other words..I have 5 children and 6 grandchildren and I’m 75 yrs old now and I still think of my lost children and I know I will see them one day, it does get easier, you will,find joy again and you will never forget your child but you will find that place that you can enjoy life again, your husband, family and friends, they need you and you need them even if you don’t think so..God Bless you , you will be alright I promise❤️

You’re speaking right to my heart in this one. Praying for you.

I needed this today❤️ thank you for sharing your story. Hope life has brought you many blessings since this.

I am so so sorry you had to go through this

My heart hurts for you so, sister 💔 like you’re saying, grief isn’t something you can get around and the pain you feel is because of how valuable that precious child is to you. And the shattering of your dreams for their life. You will always hold that in your heart. But The LORD truly meets us where we are, in our pain and I pray you feel held and sustained by Him in your weakness. He knows our anger and how we question things and want to bargain with Him and deny reality…He wants to hear all the cries of your heart. I’ve been feeling that same theme in my life, when so much is taken away, trusting God. Especially when life doesn’t feel good and joy is a battle. Our tears make us long for heaven, when all will be made new. Praying for you and love you Kendra!💕❤️💕

I’m so sorry you went through a miscarriage. I’m sending you all my love and I’m praying for you. Sending you big hugs 🤍.

Thank you for sharing your story. 💕🙏🏽 God bless you.

Thank you Kendra for opening up on your feelings. I cannot imagine being in your place. I will be praying for you and Nick for healing. I am mourning with you both. Actually I cried a lot watching this video. I am also going through pain and this whole week I have been going through the motions. I thought I was okay and I kept praying to God and thought I am actually okay. I think I was not able to acknowledge that I am sad and tried to mask it. But your video opened up my wound and I just cried it out. So thank you for this video. Again there is a season for everything and I hope you will transition into a season to dance soon. God bless your family.

I keep you and your husband in my prayers 🙏🏼 Ever since you announced your miscarriage I pray for you and Nick almost every night.. so just know that we are, Christian and maybe even non Christian people, thinking and praying for you. You’re not alone ❤️❤️ ~ “Rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep” Romans 12:15

My heart still breaks for you both💔 I am so deeply sorry for Nick and you. Praying for you.

I'm so sorry for your lost kendra

I will be praying for you during this hard time❤️ Psalm 147:3 He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.

Hi. Sorry to hear all of that. “. The Meaning of Life is to find your Gift, The Purpose of Life is to give it Away “ _ Pablo Picasso . You will find your Gift & Purpose…..🇬🇧. 🇺🇸. Hands across the the Sea.

Still praying for you & thank you. You are the first who has said take your time in grieving. Myself, I rush through my feels so I don't have to keep feeling. But I have found that I get along in my room & just like you talk to us in the camera that is how I talk to my daddy(God). & it has helped me tremendously. He is so loving & kind. You are in my prayers.

My friend, you will heal. Yes your pain does have a purpose. Sometimes it gets you closer to God. My grandmother went throught this 3 times. After so much pain, she got pregnant naturaly and had a healthy kid at 43. For her it was a miracle. That kid is my dad ☺ She tells me sometimes how that pain she went throught brought her closer to God and how she could get pregnant and have kids even after giving up. Because after my dad she had another kid amazingly and again it was an easy and healthy pregnancy. Never lose hope and always know God can heal you from everything and is here to take care of you.

Oh Kendra, I get that. I’m very structured too and I like to plan and know what’s coming so miscarriages hit me hard too. This month marks 12 years since I had my first miscarriage and the memory is always there. I always wanted a large family and I didn’t understand why God would do that to me. 11 years to the month after that first miscarriage, our fifth baby was born. I see the beautiful picture now and know he wanted my current children here. Had I not miscarried they would not be here. It’s so hard and I’m so sorry for it but God is sovereign and I can’t wait to see His beautiful plan unfold in your life. Also I’m so glad that we will spend eternity with our babies in the presence of the Lord. That always brought me so much comfort.

I can’t imagine what you are going through and I’m not going to pretend to. I am going to say that I am sorry for your lose and I hope you do come through this.

Kendra, your willingness to display your vulnerabilities is admirable. I can only imagine how difficult it is to share this with everyone online but I’m grateful that the Lord is using you to comfort other believers. It actually was encouraging to be reminded that our pain has a purpose, and I’m also learning to hold fast to the Lord and trust His character even when my emotions bring me to despair. Thank you for making this video and know that we’re all praying for you❤️

Thank you for sharing this and being so open💛

Sending you prayers! 🙏

Thank you so much for making this video, and having the courage to post it. Today makes a week since I passed my baby. I also tune the pain out, but it always returns. I feel empty inside, and so, so, so terribly sad and hopeless. I know it will eventually get better, but this is hard. Thank you again, thank you for your vulnerability. Sending all my love. ❤

Hey Kendra, Praying for you during this very difficult time in your life. I really love the book videos that you have on your channel. I'm someone who really love's to read. God Bless you Kendra 🙏✝️.

Still praying for you and Nick, Kendra. Please please please don’t rush through this. This is a time for mourning and healing will come later. You may not be thankful for the mourning part but you will be thankful for the healing.

Beloved healing takes time. Give yourself some grace and take your time. This is your journey. Prayers up for you 🙏🏾❤️

Praying with you and for you... I have never gone through a miscarriage so I can't begin to understand what you are feeling. However, what you said about healing not happening how we think or hope it will made a lot of sense to me. When we heal I don't think we are ever the same. Healing doesn't return us to our previous state. As you said, we are left with scars (be them physical, emotional, or mental). I don't think we can or should expect healing to return us to our previous state. For example, I had a very traumatic c-section and I am still healing physically and emotionally. I now fear getting pregnant again, which I never feared before. It has left lasting scars physically and emotionally and I honestly don't know if those scars will ever completely heal. (If you are interested, I have a video on my channel explaining what happened... it gives a little insight into the emotional scars I am trying to heal "TRAUMATIC C-Section Birth Story *EMOTIONAL*"). Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us.

Sending you a big hug! 💕

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