Yes. I see so many people trying to "fix" their partners, "mould" them into what they want them to be or try to change them into their type, which will never work out in any relationship, NEVER go into a relationship with baggage and don't be in relationship that brings in baggage, because neither of them will *ever* be able to fix each other's baggages. Try to fix it on your own and then go into a relationship. So yes, you can never change someone to fit the mould you want them to be.
@@roshnikhader5661 I also think that changing the partner into something that fills up the own emptiness or own insecurities won't work because you get dependent in an unhealthy way that won't help yourself or do good to the partner in the long term. But I think the thought or the rule that says that no one should be going into a relationship with baggage can kind of result in a relationship anxiety. I think if someone finds a partner that he/she loves it is brave to still go into the relationship even when having baggages - even sometimes big ones (if it's even possible for someone not to have baggages at all). It's just all about communication. When there is the right partner he/she will understand. I think it's kind of wrong to say no one should ever go into a relationship with baggages because i think that baggages even a lot of times firstly resolve when in a relationship because they then become very clear. Relationships are so awesome and difficult at the same time because they make someone more conscious about oneself. Staying alone is easy. Relationship is the difficult stuff. And relationships get so much more intimate when your resolving the baggage together, with the help of the partner, with talking and empathy. Not BECAUSE of the partner.
So yeah I kind of agree but I think it's just about openness and no one should be scared or too cautious of getting into relationship stuff. Because the problem is that many close up for years and they never will get into a serious one ever because they fear it too much. No one is perfect.
@@d.h.geetha7678 it means having time for yourself. For example, fyou want to go on a trip for couple of days alone, your partnet should be okay with that. It means not be together all the time, having time separated makes everything more light. ♡
@@itsnerdbehaviour21 Actually I got it from our pastor who held a wedding seminar in our church and the Bible. He taught us how to make things simple in a marriage, because out there it is too complex, so try to really make your family a place for all family members to share, fun, help each other, full of love, joy, understanding, and being aware of their respective responsibilities. -Each. "The perfect family consists of family members who have imperfections and work hand in hand to create a heavenly atmosphere and environment before we are in heaven." 🙏
I especially agree with point 5, but point 2 is confusing. I don't think you should ever minimize your or your partner's feelings if there is a big problem. You should work through it with open, honest dialogue coming from a place of kindness. It isn't a competition of "I'm right, you're wrong" it's about taking challenges and learning/growing from them while being respectful and kind so you can build a stable future together. We got married at 18 and 19, which we received a lot of stigma and judgement for. Yet we've traveled the world together, worked as self-supporting uni students and and continue to build our life together. A few more years and I'll finish my qualifications to be a psychologist and he'll be an epidemiologist :)
Notice how “Intentional” all three couples LISTENED to their spouses while they spoke and gave good eye contact… critical in marriage communication along with close physical touch.
Romantic relationships are not a beautiful thing. Romance causes a lot of problems in this world. Life is a lot better without romance than it is with it. Romantic love is not special at all, and I think that the romantic type of love isn't real. More than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, And most couples who are still together are usually not happy being together. Also, there are a lot of toxic romantic relationships. Like an example is that abuse happens a lot in romantic relationships.
@Thawne1338assuming they mean you both have to be very forgiving and quick to apologize to one another instead of letting your person sleep unhappy with you
When the sweet woman in pink sweater told her husband that he's the love of her life, I think his face just got redder. After 50+ years of marriage, the spark is still there. Amazing!
“Our marriage hasn’t been perfect. No marriage is perfect. There were times when she gave up on us. There were even more times when I gave up on us. The secret to our longevity is that we never gave up at the same time” Excerpt From All Your Perfects Colleen Hoover
Best marriage advice I’ve ever heard: “only you and your spouse are in your relationship. So actually it won’t/can’t be like anybody else’s. You two will have to figure that out.” The no-advice advice. 😂
I remember this one night when I was still in elementary school, my parents went to their bed room and talked. I overheard their conversations, which is basically both my parents agreed not to let any of their parents interfere with their marriage. And now...they've been married 39 years.
My tips after being together for 9 years about to be married: 1. Talk about the hard stuff (money, kids, responsibilities with the house etc.) 2. Be sure you're on the same page when it come to each others families (like respect and boundaries) 3. Compromise, you can either be right, or get what you want you can't have both! 4. Always date each other, go out together, plan new adventures 5. It's good to have a life outside of each other 6. Actions speak louder than words
She looks like she comes from money. Rich ppl have social circles they are in and have to maintain themselves to impress each other or just avoid being gossiped about
I’ve found laughing together goes a long way. I started my marriage with “helpful criticism” like reminding him to use a cloth towel to wipe the sink instead of a paper towel. And “turning the light off when he left the room” and other habits I found annoying. He said oh yeah thanks but would still forget, and if either of us were tired or irritated, it was a sharp conversation. A few yrs into marriage I found I could express these same thoughts with humor and love. So now, when he’s finishing at the sink, I’ll say something silly like “oooh boy cloth towels are just such a cool invention, they are so superior to absorbing water than tree-paper!” And we’ll laugh and he’ll go grab a cloth. Or I’ll grab a cloth and do a silly dance as I sneakily tuck it behind the sink for him to use. After all these years he still forgets or maybe it’s just not his priority, but I get better results when I make it fun or silly, it helps me not get annoyed or exasperated too.
Thank you for sharing, I'm at the beginning of my relationship but we see ourselves going far and I think I have exactly the same problem as you. He don't have a logical mind so sometimes he do things and I can't hold my commentary "do like that it will be better" "faster baby im waiting" "baaabyy you can't do like this omg 😩". And it exhaust me, and him I'm sure. When this happens I feel like I'm against him and I see only the difference. To change the mood I need to be alone or come back to my family, do things to resource me. Do you have any other advice?
@@AnnaIsHere we live in a really humid area, so the stuff between the tiles mold if we don’t wipe the water off. We actually wipe the whole counter too, for spills and food bits so if someone puts a paper or mail on the counter, it doesn’t get ruined.
Together for 13 years, married for 7. My advice is to 1) Understand and accept that you are with an imperfect person, as you yourself are imperfect. 2) Be the kind of partner that you want for yourself and don't keep score. 3) You cannot change a person, so accept them as they are. Obviously, this doesn't mean to accept abuse or infidelity. Just to accept that they will never be the perfect man or woman and neither will you. 4) Agree that you will both do the best you can to care for each other and hold up your own ends of the partnership and discuss what that means to you before marriage. 5) Real love is not a Disney movie! There will be hard times when you're both stressed and aggravated, hot times when things are sexy and happy go lucky, and bland times when every day is the same, and these times come and go in cycles. 6) Commit to date and court your partner for life. The work isn't done just because you've got them. That's all I got. I believe in marriage and partnership, we're better together. Good luck, everyone.
I have been married to my sweetheart for 51 years this past Valentine’s Day. What makes it last? We try to see out of the others eyes. We respect the other persons differences. We don’t compete. And we pray and love God. This makes the difference. Prayer solves a world of troubles.
here's several things for making improvements in your marriage Try to discuss more Help each other out more Try to give and take more (I read these and the reasons they work from Pavs Partner Pundit website )
Who you marry is important...I was married to a narcissist for 12 years. Accept, get to know each other well, communicate, respect each other boundaries, make time for each other, appreciate each other, have each others back, be reliable, be emotionally supportive, care for one another, forgive each other, be loyal, be faithful to each other, never take each other for granted. After 16 years unmarried I'm still looking for the one who matches these qualities. Love the one you are with.
@@madelynnazario8361 its terrible experiencing a narcissist but a man with all the qualities you mentioned does not exist. You need to settle for someone who makes you comfortable understands you and does not have any of your deal breakers. No one is perfect and very few ppl are blessed enough to find their soulmate
@@Katarina23 I have to disagree with your statement. There are a lot of people who have all those qualities and more! No one has them 100% of the time, you’ll be doing good to get 60%! That’s where pulling your share of the weight comes in, with patience, understanding and most of all forgiveness. You’re right that no one is perfect. My husband is not perfect and neither am I but I will tell anyone who will listen that forever and always he is the perfect one for me.
I've always had this tiny fear that after years of marriage, my future spouse and I would basically fall into roommate mode and we'd stop being as affectionate. This gives me so much hope.
This is where I'm at right now, it's very frustrating and discouraging feeling like your hope is fading and you're talking to a brick wall. All I can do right now is pray and try to focus on my own growth. This video helped me, especially when that one couple said "sometimes the tunnel is long, and dark".
My best piece of advice is, marry your best friend. I’ve heard it a few times before and it’s the truth. God lead me to my now husband and he truly is my best friend. Even when the years that people say the honeymoon phase would be over... it was never over. Learn to love God first, and you’ll learn how to love your spouse and others better. And when you do that, and they do it, It’s a lot easier. You’ll have arguments, you’ll have fights but try to minimize it. You’re human, ask for forgiveness. Ask God to be the best partner you can be to your partner. Laugh , love , forgive and pray often.
Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks.
Ain’t that the truth. You can be a Godly person or an atheist but if you marry a narc, your marriage is dead in the water because you’re all alone except to be abused. The narc is God (in their own mind).
Advice: Even if you're mad at each other, try to go to bed with each other. Whenever my husband and I argue to the point where I don't even want to talk to him, I still want to go to sleep next to him. In the end we always come back together and we'll talk through our problems and work it out. Also find someone who is willing to fight through the tough battles with you.
Two things I've learned in my marriage to my husband are to be stubborn. Not to be stubborn against each other, but to be stubborn with each other by walking together, no matter what trial or hardship comes our way we are determined to get through it together. (We've lost four embryo babies in one year and we are currently paying off debt like crazy people. 42K in 18 months so far and counting!) The second thing I've learned is to laugh a lot and about silly things. For example, I love tickling his feet even though he hates it! :)
Ah the little things. Whenver my fiance yawns I stick my finger in his mouth/cheek I fish-hook him. He hates it. But we always end up laughing. Thanks for your pearl of wisdom
1) Stay intentional with your spouse (don't go dormant or passive with communication or time together) 2) Don't be critical or judgmental (your way is not the only way) 3) People continue to change throughout their lives. Instead of being fearful of your spouse changing, celebrate each others growth. 4) Be open & honest! Hiding things from your spouse (including your thoughts or feelings) is only going to cause more harm than good. 5) Forgive. Forgive. Forgive. No one is perfect. Practice empathy and patience daily. (Unless it's abusive in any way! Then seek help.) 6) Laugh a lot! You're never too old to be goofy together. 7) Be grateful for your spouse. "The grass is greener where you water it." Remember why you chose that person, show your appreciation for him or her, and never stop flirting.
Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks.
All of these are good advice, but #6 seems iffy -- like, for example, what if both spouses are quiet, sad introverts and don't like to laugh or be goofy???
Married 11 years now and I know I am blessed because it feels like I won the husband lottery. I have the best man in the world! To God be all the glory💝
I don't know about that, but rather so many people don't understand what it means to have a relationship, or to care for the other person's heart and their needs, or to have good boundaries in times of difficulty. Also, it seems to me that too few people are willing to reach out and speak about their challenges, hurt feelings, or problems that they have in a marriage with their church members or their family or their dear friends because they feel isolated, or afraid or even ashamed. But the truth is, having a broken place in the marriage is no different than having a broken leg. In both cases they need attention, loving kindness and help to get back in alignment and heal. It's so important to speak up and get help when we're in a tough spot, but not in the blaming way, but rather in a compassionate and hopeful way so that the marriage can be healed and a couple can move back into that beautiful space together that we see these three couple all share.
I honestly have felt this way for most of my life bc my parent's marriage was completely awful. Toxic. The way they split up was even more difficult so i grew up and said, i don't wanna commit and end up like them. I'm now 30 going on 31 with a fear of getting too close to someone bc I'm afraid it'll be a toxic mess.
Probably it’s people who didn’t do the work up front within themselves and basically we end up choosing the wrong person or are the wrong person... not saying either is a bad person, but it’s not the right person for each person. We don’t really pay attention to certain qualities needed for successful marriages or qualities that blend well with your qualities..
Married 7 years, happier than ever and our relationship is even better than when we first started dating. The secret is to FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT...fight it out until there is nothing to left to fight about. The key is to never give up and always fight fair and reasonable. Now we hadly ever fight because aint nothing left to fight about. I love him more every day.
My parents have been married for 42 years and ive never seen them hug, kiss, or say i love you to each other. Its refreshing to see older couples still expressing love
“Really the only reason it worked in those early years is because we both loved the Lord. And we taught our children to love the Lord.” 🥺 omg thank you for this. So encouraging.❤️
And people these days say romantic love is just a social construct, what a joke. This generation just doesn't have the patience or lacks communication.
I'm turning 20 this year and I prayed to God to help me prepare for marriage and to give me info about love. This is what I get within the next few hours. 🥺💕
You asked, He will show you. That’s how God is. Many people think God doesn’t show them anything but... the truth is they really just haven’t truly asked Him. You’ll do well. God will give you the perfect spouse for you just be patient and focus on Him. When you learn to love God you’ll learn to love your future spouse and others. ❤️
Don’t rush, sweet love! Divine timing, you will know. Although I gotta say, I had a few failures first. My greatest advice to finding the right partner (at this stage of life) is only to put yourself first, you must first find peace in your self and your direction and heal any past wounds. Then the right one will basically waltz in your life and compliment the ride. I always thought “when you know, you know” was a little ambitious.. but on our first date I thought “I’m going to marry this man.” And I wasn’t wrong!
Attraction alone is not enough. Just because you feel good with someone, doesn't mean you can build a healthy long-term relationship. You need to align on values, respect one another, and have good communication. I play couple question games like Lovify. And, it actually does help in sharing expectations and build understanding. But, actively listening to your partner and putting efforts into understanding can take your relationship to a whole new level 💗
My parents were atheists. However, their marriage of 50 years was as good as any. They were completely devoted to each other and they ceased being together only by death. So, if religion is what you need that's fine, but for some folks that apparently isn't what holds them together and happy.
My ex's parents were atheists...and they've managed to stay together for more than 50 years. To me, they looked as happy to be with each other in old age as those couples in the video. Personally (I'm a Catholic), I think I need more than faith in God to last with anyone. I need to make respectful-of-the-other choices, for one...and he has to do the same.
It's always atheists that have to point out that religion wasn't the source for them in any aspect when religion is mention by others. Why? Couldn't you just say WHAT DID keep them together, what was the marital advice? There were other two couples that didn't mentioned religion but you just zoomed on to that specific comment out of everyone. Y'all are like vegans for real always have to scream it at the top of the roof to be validated. No one cares that you don't believe, it's your choice. 🙄
The key to sticking it out all those years is found in how those generations were raised. They had a different mentality back then: when something broke, they found a way to fix it. They didn’t just toss it out only to go out looking for a new one! Back then, things lasted longer. Today when we buy something, we do so with the mentality of it can always be replaced or returned if we don’t like it so we don’t have to get too attached if we don’t want to and if that shiny new thing rolls around, we can always upgrade. The new wears off and we get bored and it’s just easier to go out and replace it than to just fix it. Today, things aren’t built to last, they’re built to be replaced and we’re raised on a disposal mentality because it’s easier and more convenient. We’ve lost the ways of even wanting to learn how to fix stuff because we have such a short attention span and too busy to want to care to learn how to do so.
This made me cry, my husband and I are celebrating our first wedding anniversary this year, February 13th. And I can't wait to be like these couples and spend the rest of my life with him.
For those of you who are single and wondering where their soul mate is, I advise you to stop wondering. They are out there somewhere preparing to be your person even without you there. Patience is key to love, when it comes to; finding the one, dating the one, enduring the one and living a full life with one.
Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks.
May I suggest something? Learn to love God the way He loves you. You’ll learn how to love your spouse greatly, and in return you may get a spouse who loves and respects you the way Jesus loves the church. A man who loves God can be a gentleman, who treats and cares for his wife with respect. As long as you put God first, God will supply all your needs according to His will. You’ll be very blessed with love ❤️
Don't expect your partner to stay the same. One of the beauties of marriage is that over the years as you both get older you grow and develop together. So no he isn't the same man you married but your not the same either you've both grown and developed into who you are today and that's beautiful.
I just left a toxic relationship that left me with trauma so I decided to look for videos for clarity and I found this. I am proud of myself for leaving even though I had emotional attachment. I know dating nowadays is difficult but I will not settle for anyone that doesn't treat me like the queen I am. I will carry on working on myself and leveling myself up.
We’ve been married for 13 years and I’d say actively choosing to meet each other in the middle, talking to each other with respect even when angry, and continuing to have fun with each other has made our relationship very strong.
I want to marry my best friend. I don't have a best friend yet but i want a love where, when we're 80 we can still laugh at that joke from when we were 40.
I married my best friend. Truth is we can laugh even if we're miserable with one another...I think everyone has to be their spouse's best friend otherwise I don't see how it'd work on long term.. The problem is, if you don't make it you lose both your best friend and your lover...High risk - high reward
Society has to return to marriage, to family. We need to return to the father. Kids need their father at home. Men need to forgive their mommas. Drop the anger, the resentment, and love the father.
Yeah such a bad thing that people in the past weren't allowed to leave a bad relationship.... It's good that we now are able to habe many partners but you are right, some people need to relearn to fight for their love
@@leonie7356 The desire to have many "partners" is a reflection of the void in the heart looking for fatherly love. That's why we need to forgive our fathers, love him, and return to him. I wish you the best, bruh.
Waiting is not wasting, it's preparation for you to become a healthy person. Healthy relationship consist healthy individuals, and it always worth the wait! 💚
Been married 13 together 21. What made my marriage last so long so far? We met at 25. Decided to date a long time so there were no surprises. We worked hard and saved up for a house first. Then we traveled a lot and work on our careers. Then we got married at 32 and kids by 38. This prepared us for our difficult time in our marriage when the kids were toddlers. Not having money stress or marital stress is the key. My kids are 8 and are very happy. It’s crazy how many friends of theirs are living in divorced single parent homes. Many are poor and struggling and you see it though the kids
*+1 :( 2 : 1: 3:) 4: 4 : 1: 1: 2: 1: 3 whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here🥺🥺
(15 yrs this Nov. 2021) 1. Do your laundry separately. Trust me. 2. Have times where you do your thing and your spouse does his thing. It’s okay not to do everything together. 3. Pray together. 4. Find something you enjoy doing together and do it! 5. You can go on dates at home. Put the kids to bed or put on their favorite movie, and then you two have dinner in the kitchen or drinks out on the porch (or wherever).
honestly, no material value could hold a candle to this... THIS is the biggest flex, I hope everyone in the future can find love and a partner like these folks.
Marriage is the hardest, most excruciating, exciting, fulfilling experience I could ever ask for. All the lessons I’ve learned, the mistakes I’ve made and repented for, the things I’ve learned about myself and my spouse, I wouldn’t take any of it back. All in all, even the worst times, built me into the man I am and I am continuing to grow. Marriage is taking two stones and polishing them together into a more perfect fit. There’s no such thing as true love. Not like how the stories tell you. Nobody is created perfect for another. We achieve perfection by compromising and by growing to better suit each other‘s needs. By sacrificing and building together until the world you’ve made for yourself is a heaven on earth with you two functioning as the guardians of its garden. Live, laugh, love, and don’t forget to forgive.
Me and my wife have had Our fair share of struggles, but what my wife and I have learned is... As long as we are all in, everything will work out. All in with the Lord. All in with our marriage. Miracles will always happen. Sometimes God just needs to work a few thing out.
We both love God, 4 months boyfriends and 2 months engage, married after 6 months, now we celebrated our 26 years. no need to waste time of grudges and anger but apologize and forgive = LOVE
The best advice I can think of is become best friends before marriage. I have been married to my best friend for 11 years. We've had our ups and downs. Even had people say I was crazy for getting married 19 but I am very happy where I ended up at and have plans to grow old with my best friend.
My grandma and my grandpa were married for 58 years. He passed away in February and both were religious. I'm sure that Jesus blessed their marriage! I hope I have a marriage like they had 🙏
I love this! So inspirational ♥️ my husband and I have been together since we were 13/14 years old and we’ve been together for 10 years, married for 4. I’m confident we will last forever because we have already been through 10x more than the average couple and we made it! I love him so so much! We just decided to start our family and I’m just so excited to start this journey and grow old with him! 🥰
I was married 50 and 1/2 years, and Donald and I enjoyed being together, he made me laugh, and my advice will be love, respect, admiration, and gratitude is not about me are about us. Eliminate minor problems, and concentrate on each other happiness, it is also about being the best person you can be, Donald used to say if you are happy I am happy, and that was like music to my ears. I lost him 4 years ago and I miss him very much.
I’ve been married for 8 years now, (not long in the grand scheme of things) I would agree with all those lovely couples - take time with each other, put effort into everyday with your loved one. We have never argued with each other, yes we get annoyed with each other but we talk about it and usually end up laughing afterwards. Also be best friends as well and husband and wife... it really does help. Talk about your day, listen to them - understand them and there passions. Enjoy every moment, good and bad 💛
Married for 6 years. My advice would be to always show appreciation in the hard times. It's easy to get lost in the world and trying to find your way out of difficult life challenges. When life gets hard make sure you still verbally and physically show your appreciation for your partner. There is nothing worse than feeling like things are hard an no one appreciate the work you put in.
Been married 52 years, and you do have a lot of ups and downs. But talking is the key. Do not let stuff simmer. I love my wife more than ever. She is my hero.
Always try to work as a team, never see the other as an enemy or an obstacle you need to overcome. Useful especially during disagreements and fights. If you trust each other to be on each other's sides, a disagreement turns from battle into working together towards a sollution or understanding each other better.
Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks.
Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks.
I'm divorced after 20 yrs. Seeing this gives me hope I can be married again someday. Congratulations to all the couples still choosing each other everyday. It's a beautiful thing 💕💕💕
For me love, patience and respect. I had learned that perspective from parents. My parents have been married for 50 years. And I had been married my husband for almost 16 years. Everyday is a learning process. It was not a box of chocolate and bed of roses. And you gotta to love the Lord. Prayers are only way to make the marriage more stronger. Goodluck to you all.
Something that is really important is wanting your partner to succeed with or without you, being interested in things that aren't just common or shared interests but in whatever they are excited about at that particular time. Learning new things as a method of bonding, if she is into a new hobby the (even if you think initially it is boring) learn how to share that joy and enthusiasm, especially early on in the little things. Listening, empathy, just attentiveness in general... treat your partner like they are the most important person in your world and that you always want their opinion or that it is safe for them to share their feelings. A relationship isn't a competition, you are a team and ultimately it should be about lifting each other up. Too many couples I see that have jealousy between one another.
Listen, communicate your feelings, don’t yell, be patient , forgive and apologize, it’s both of you against the problem, not against each other. Always have hope, always pray for each other, be grateful and be kind, love is the only thing you should not save up, don’t hide what you feel and always know that both of you are humans who don’t have all the answers and can make mistakes.
Best marriage advice I've ever heard, which my husband and I have practiced for the 7 years together, is that regardless of how much you don't want to speak to them and even if you think you want to divorce them in the moment because you're so angry at them: ALWAYS KEEP THE RESPECT. We have an agreement that if we can't trust ourselves to keep the respect, we take a time-out to go be with ourselves to cool down enough to return to the ability to communicate with respect. It could be minutes, hours, or even days (but that's rare). That means, that the one 'waiting' for the other to cool down may also need to deal with any feelings of abandonment that could come up. And those need to be worked through and healed. It's easier to do a time-out than to say hurtful things you'll regret and have to apologize for later. In order fo this "ALWAYS KEEP THE RESPECT" practice to work, both people must agree to this while calm and centered. It's part of the relationship agreements thriving couples make ahead of time, before the sh*t hits the fan.
Love is truly just a chemical reaction sending hormones through your body like dopamine. But after awhile those reactions will start getting lower and lower. That is why marriage is hard because it’s not always going to be puppy love. It’s just a different type of love and I think people forget that and fall out of love thinking they didn’t met their “soulmates” because it’s not always going to feel like rainbows and butterflies. So remember to take it easy and always keep trying to keep the romance alive
Love a the key. Been married 20 years and love my husband so much. It’s just a choice you make to stick through the rough patches and you’ll see, love bonds get stronger with time.
For me, love, patience and respect. I learned that from my parents. My parents have been married for 50 years. And I had been married my husband for almost 16 years now. Everyday is a learning process and I have to extend my patience with my partner. It is not a box of chocolate and bed roses.
20 years together this year about to have our 3rd. baby and married for 6years. Sort of did everything backwards lol but we are happy and going strong. RESPECT is the most important thing ever.
I just loved this. My fiance and I have been together for 11 years (I'm 29, we fell in love as teenagers and I'm always grateful). It's hard to become adults together. I think the most important lesson I've learned is to be okay with growing and maturing differently with different priorities. And appreciate differences! Dating yourself would be horrible. And to learn to not overreact when those differences cause problems. It's hard but getting through hard times strengthens the relationship!!
Oh no so sorry about that dear.... Why on earth will a man put tears in the eyes of a woman even when she’s still faithful to him.... He still doesn’t understand that a wife is a blessing to man...
Best 2 marriage advice I can give is 1. Always Communicate. Share your thoughts with one another openly. 2. For those couples where jealousy is in the air, trust your partner. Otherwise, don’t be married.
My husband and I didn't meet till my early thirties and his mid thirties, and we have been married for almost two years now. The thing we've found is to have complete and open communication--if something is said that hurts your feelings, ask what that person meant by it. Usually you find out that they meant something different, or that anxiety about something else caused them to react more than they normally would. Also, being that we didn't meet till later we both are a little set in our ways. Discussing the differences and how we can meet in the middle smooths any bumps in the road. Also, marry your best friend. Then you just always enjoy spending time with them--much of our marriage has occurred simultaneously with the pandemic, but we've absolutely loved being able to be with one another every day. Probably because we used to have a hard time leaving each other at the end of each date back before we got married. 😂 We just love spending time together and talking with one another, over spending time with anyone else. So wait for the right one, someone who can be your friend through thick and thin. There are more important things than the Hollywood romance. Friendship and communication are Waaaaaay better. ❤️
