YES! Get it all spelled out in writing BEFORE one of you move on to a new relationship. Especially the financial situation. That's Brex's future. It should be 50/50. Medical insurance, medical bills, education costs EVERY thing!!! You'll find happiness again. Hang in there!! Hugs ❤Glad you are living with Melinda she's been through a break up with a child so she should be a good mentor during this time. I'm really sorry this happened.
Bexley is a lucky little girl to be surrounded by so much love. Realizing that you and Eli are better as friends and still being able to co-parent on friendly terms is very mature of you both. You are an amazing mom Lacey and you will get through this and find your "new normal".
My heart breaks for you Lacey and I have so much respect for the way you and Eli are handling this situation, putting your daughter's best interest first and foremost.
Lacey, as a single mum to 3, beautiful children, let me say that in the kindest way possible, you do not owe anyone an explanation about your separation from Eli. Be kind to yourself always!! Your heart will heal in time & you'll find love when the time is right. Just love you for you & take all the time you need to heal. Xx
Youve grown into motherhood so beautifully Lacey! Youre either glowing or emotional when you talk about your Baby, & it just shows how much you love her 🤍 Keep the faith & keep going girl, you got this! I respect both you & Eli for keeping the peace for Bexley, all the very best 🙏🏽♥️
I love that you are setting boundaries and protecting your peace, and Bexley's peace. Nobody has the right to any information you don't want to share. Sending you love.
You are honestly both handling this way more maturely than many parents in their late 30s / early 40s. Big kudos to you both for keeping baby girl in the forefront of everything and not showing any bitterness publicly.
@@mogznwazare you being serious? She has every right too say and feels what she does if you don't like it get gone if not then get over it and continue to support her and Bex
sobbing. lacey, i love you so much, you are not alone. ik your going through a lot but all your fans love you, and we care about you. im so sorry your going through, what your going through. but you are so beautiful in each and every way and such an amazing mom. we will always be here for you. i love the fact that you and eli are still communicating and continuing being amazing parents for bexley 💜. i love u lacey
You owe nobody any explanation of your break up it's nobody's business but yours your ex's and that's it as long as you guys co-parent good together that's all that matters
It doesn't seem like it now, but everything happens for a reason, Bexley is blessed to have two amazing parents who love her very much. It will get better as time moves on. Much love to you all ❤
Good for you to keep things private and protect Bexley. Hang in there honey, it will get better. It will be great to have Melinda to support you and keep you active. ❤️
We all love you Lacey, and idk what happened but love Eli too! That being said please get a court agreement while you're getting along. It will make it so much easier later. ❤
My heart really goes out to you Lacey. I can't imagine what you're going through, but I love how you're handling it and you're being so mature for Bexley. She's a very lucky little lady to have two parents who love her so much
My ex and I have shared custody of our daughter. She resides with me but visits him every other weekend and every other holiday. We basically take turns on holidays. I live in Florida and he just moved to Arizona. She is actually in Arizona right now visiting him for half the summer. Really you should do what works for you and Eli. Love you girlie. You got this! ❤❤❤❤❤
Big, big hugs to you, Eli & Bexley. 🤗 The most beautiful growth we have is during our hardships. I will be praying for continued healing, healthy coparenting, and allllllll the good things.
As a co parent myself I am sending you both so much encouragement and strength to get through this together, as a co parent it can be hard especially when going to having your little one every day and to every other week, it can definitely pull on your heart strings. May you both do amazing on working together , remember you both love your daughter so that's the most beautiful part. Always so much love to go around. Wishing you both the best in your lives. God has big plans for you both!! Hugs 😊
I love how mature you are handling this Lacey . I'm proud of you and Eli for being adults over bexley. I missed seeing you and just super glad you guys are ok
Sending much love and big hugs to you, Eli and Bexley. You are being so mature with this. Lacey, you don't owe anyone an explanation. Just keep Bexley in the forefront and it will work out. God bless you all. Melinda will be a big support. We are all here for you. Love you.
As a single mother it took me a long time to accept any kind of help. So use it if it’s available and don’t feel bad or guilty. Trust me It’s there for a reason. Lean on those amazing people in your life. It takes a stronger person to ask for help then to struggle. And remember it’s ok to have those rough days or even weeks. It does get better. You got this darling. ❤
We did 2 -2-3 custody when my daughter was a baby. It was ideal because we were only separated for 3 nights at most and then it’s fair 50/50 and the weekends rotate. It does get “easier” but there are some moments where missing my daughter still brings me to tears, I’m sorry babes 💕 love you and Bex both
Always here to support you Lacey . I can’t believe your 21 now . Our daughter is just a few months younger and will be 21 in September . You will find yourself again . I’m proud of your for still supporting Eli and his channel and wish you both the best . Will be sending a little something to cheer you to your parents PO Box soon
Lacey, you got this! I know it’s hard. I’ve been through this as well. I’m thinking of you and wishing you all the best. You do get a little more used to it but it is different. Just take one day at a time. Melinda and you will be good support for each other. ***hugs*** 💗💗
You are so strong for making this video. You did not owe anyone any explanation but you pushed through the tears to tell your audience what you are going through. You are an amazing woman.
You’re being so graceful with this transition and I think you’re such a sweet and sincere person. and such an amazing mom. I love how you set your boundaries on sharing your life with the public. You will continue to have an amazingly beautiful life because you are a beautiful person.
I’m so sorry to hear what you’re all going through. 😢 I can’t imagine having to give my toddler up half the time. It’s okay to be devastated by it. That means you’re attached to your baby! I hope things can work out for all of you in the best way possible. I’m a single mom too so I know your heartache.
You and Eli said almost the exact things 😄 It’s the best thing for the kids always if the parents can co-parent and get along. I think in the near future you guys should really get everything on paper .The beginning is hard for everyone and working it out is great but your lives will eventually go in different directions and issues will come up that someone is going to want to change things up and the others not going to agree with . Look forward to some videos and seeing that Lacy spark again💗😊
I’m so glad you and Melinda are living together. You have so much in common. Love all the channels all your family’s have created. Have been following for 2 years now. Sooo excited for your next chapter Melinda has your back❤❤❤❤
Big props to the two of you for laying positive groundwork & boundaries. No one on the internet is entitled to ANY of your business or an explanation. You are doing an awesome job of protecting your daughter in the future.
This just breaking my heart. Prayers out to you and everything you're going through right now. Thankful that Melinda took you in and you all can bond more together and your daughter has a cousin around to play with ❤️
You've got this Lacey, breakups are difficult especially when you have kids, but you and Eli are both great parents and you will get into a routine that will get easier for you all. Having Melinda and Scarlett their when Bex is with Eli will be a great distraction for you and you won't be on your own. ❤
Awe, hunny. I'm sorry ❤ but keep your head up! You got this! And you and Melinda are going to have so much fun living together and having the girls there. It's gonna be really good for you, gals! You are a wonderful ❤️ mother, Lacey. And you are surrounded by people who truly love you and Bex. ❤❤❤
Can't imagine how hard this must be for you but the way you put Bex first and being considerate about each other's time with her is great. You'll figure this out and if you can keep this up she'll be a well-balanced kid :)
5:25 keep yourself busy, i know how hard it is that first weekend, those first couple months were so rough!!! Its been 9 years now!!! You got this girl!!!! Melinda is a great person to help keep your mind off of everything!!! Its hard... But you got this!!!
You don’t need to apologize for crying because it’s just how you truly feeling at that time. So don’t worry. I hope that you’re having an amazing Tuesday with little Miss Bexley.
As a child of divorce, it’s all going to be okay. My parents also are still on good terms and the divorce doesn’t affect me. They got divorced when I was 10/11. Obviously Bexley is still very young so it’s different for her but just know you shouldn’t have to worry about her! I go to my dads on Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday morning. I go to my moms on Wednesday midday (after school), Tuesday and Friday morning. Friday midday till Monday morning are one week at my dads and the next at my moms. All the love and support ❤
I’m so sorry you guys are going through this :( but it seems like you are handling this so well and very maturely. I’m very proud of you for setting your boundaries too with your privacy because you deserve to have that!
I’m super proud of you Lacey for not sharing 💞 Some things should be kept private. I hope everyone will respect and support your choice!! Hope your 21st birthday was a blast💞 You deserve the best! Right now co-parenting is going to be whatever Bex is and you guys are comfortable with!!
Breakups are never easy but as a former single mum I can say the fact that you two do t talk about it on the internet what and why you broke up is the best thing ever and my oldest have never ever heard me bad talk his dad it was not my space or place to put negativity about his dad in to his head. Co parenting can be amazing too
I'm so sorry youre going through this! Its heartbreaking to split up what you thought was going to be your family, but it can be better and healthier all around. My sons dad and I split up right after he turned 1, and it was super hard at first. My ex had some issues he had to work through but there was no hate between us. We also didnt go through the court system, we worked out our own visitation schedule, mostly based on his work schedule since it wasn't flexible like mine, so our son would spend every Monday and Tuesday with him, and the rest of the time with me since we lived an hour away from each other, but now that hes in school, and my ex lives in the better school district and his new wife is amazing (and one of my best friends, shes the greatest thing that happened to our family tbh) so my son lives with them during the week and with me on weekends, which was a hard transition but its been working out for us all. Its all in the mindset of doing whats best for our son, and he doesnt even remember us ever being together so there hasnt been a lot of questions about that either, at least not yet. I have a really good feeling that both of you have enough love left for each other and obviously an overwhelming amount for your daughter that this transition, although it might be hard, will still turn out for the best for you all even if it is different than the original plan. You got this Lacey!! ❤❤❤
My heart aches for you both, having to be without Bex half of the time. I'm sending lots of love and hugs. You are so strong and have such a great support system. ❤ Both you and Eli are good, loving people. I wish all of the best to all 3 of you. ❤
Many prayers and lots of love sent!!!! Stay strong you all are amazing!!!! God bless you and thank you for putting a smile and impacting others lives and my life each and every day!!!!!
Oh I’m so sorry you all are going through a tough time but I’m glad your still friends especially for Bexley. Please don’t apologize for crying or showing your emotions. It’s all still so new and it’s definitely an adjustment to get used to. I’m so glad that you and Melinda will be living together! You both can support each other and she can help you on those hard days because she’s gone through it as well. ❤
You got this Lacey. It will be hard at first but you will get third this. I am glad that your co-parenting. I am also glad that you and Eli can be supportive to each other. Hugs to you.
Im so sorry to hear this love 💔 Just remember that you are blessed to have Bex, a BIG supportive family, you also have crazy pieces, your bio family and your youtube family. You truly are blessed in this situation. Bex can always enjoy you guys separately and that will be her normal going forward as she is still small, although it maybe tough for her at first. You know how some ppl need a break from having a kid and need space, alone time, wish they could be single again cos parenting can be overwhelming at times; well treat half of your week like that, and go out there and do as you please. You are blessed to be given that freedom again so make full use of it. Also remember that when you have Bex, Eli feels the same way as you do, he would be missing Bex too, so it’s ok to feel the way you do. Bex is blessed to be loved by two wonderful parents who want the best for her. Not every child gets that privilege. Furthermore, it is advisable to get a custody agreement written on paper and legalized. Circumstances may change in the future, and it would protect all three of your interests equally. Supposing you meet someone along the way that wants to move states, or Eli does, it’s better to have a legal backing. Think forward as well, and since you have Bex and are on your own, try and secure yourself a house so that you don’t have to be dependent on rent. God forbid something happens to you, and you can’t work, Bex will need a permanent home to stay at. It will obviously take sometime to get that kind of money, but work towards it as soon as possible while you can (sorry, i think a lot and of all possible scenarios 😬). Keep focusing on yourself and get distracted, it will help you a lot. Also, since you are in a vulnerable situation right now, you may invite ex friends into your life, or they will come to you, but just remember why you let them go in the first place, cos if they made a mistake once, they’d do it again cos that’s their personality. Stay happy and your beautiful bubbly self that we all love, lovely. 😘
I’m so sorry you and Eli are going through this. Seems like you’ve got a decent handle on things. Keep Bea at the forefront and I’m sure you’ll both make 5he best decisions. 💕
It's no one's business. Both of you do the best for Bexley. You both are great people. You have a great families behind you both. Take a deep breath honey. You are a great Mom and hes a great Dad. You both love Bexley. Your doing great. You don't need to tell any of us anything.
At the end of the day it isn’t anyone business but you and Eli. You both can let people know of how much you want to share. As I said on Eli’s channel “everyone comes into your life for a reason or a season”
I commend you both for taking an adult approach co-parenting. My heart goes out to you both. Break ups are hard. I know in time life will become easier.
Lacey, it's perfectly normal to be sad and hurt, and just know that you have your amazing, loving, family, friends and all of us right there for you and your little princess. Hold your head up high and never ever let anyone dull your sparkle. We all love you and your little princess Bex to bits. Sending you loads of love during this hard and difficult time.
Thank you for sharing what you feel comfortable sharing with us! You owe us NOTHING more than you are happy to share. I am sorry you are going through this ... and I gotta say also super shocked. Anyways, I respect how you are both handling it (just watched Eli's vid) and your commitment to doing what is best for Bexley. You are being more mature than some much older people! Keep doing what you are doing. I am glad that Melinda opened up her home to you and Bexley. I have co-parented with my ex, (my daughter is now 23) and so I know firsthand the struggles and also the importance of not dissing the other parent ,... being a team for Bexley. Take care and thanks for being real.
Sending you a big hug! It is okay to pivot. We don’t know what we don’t know and when we do we are allowed to change our lives direction. I hope you are in therapy. Being a former foster youth, our past can really effect our relationships and family dynamics. This can’t be easy for you. Please speak with some to process all that this transition brings up. Eli is a great father and this will still be a beautiful adventure. You deserve to be happy and happy parents raise happy children. Remember, we are not the sum of what others think of us. Sending you love and light during this hard time.
Lacey you are handling this so maturely and I’m so proud of you for that! Remember as long as it works for you three, it doesn’t have to make sense to others. I’m so glad you have another single mom to help you navigate this and I wish you all the best ❤
Awe I’m sorry to see/hear this. You will get through this even tho I’m sure at this moment it in a way feels like no one understands or no one gets what you’re feeling and it makes total since cause our feelings are our own and what we feel another might not or the feeling of you feel in some sort of way that may be embarrassing or at fault or whatever ever feelings you will have at any given moment just roll with it cry laugh do what you have to. Though we all want to know what happened it’s no one’s business and you don’t owe anyone anything. My advice 1. definitely get something in writing and be ready if it goes to court document document document. Colorado where I’m from common law is recognized so we had to go court. Which in hindsight was a good thing. Maybe not at this moment as it’s still fresh but things change it’s better to have it filed for those just in case moments. It’s not saying he’s a bad dude he’s not it’s just looking out for Bexley(sorry if spelled wrong) 2. Establish a funding on both ends. Hence advise above. Crap happens and knowing there is a fund ie: I gave my mom 100.00 and his dad gave 150.00 every paycheck(he made more then me) we were not allowed to touch it unless it was an absolute emergency. Such as an unexpected medical expense etc. what we had left which after 17 years was a fair amount but we gave to him at graduation. That way neither one of us could blame accuse etc where the money went. It was comforting knowing that when life’s happened and it did either one of us knew it was there for those just in case moments. (Definitely helped when my kiddo fell and got stitches not once but twice there was money to help cover the unexpected expenses) and kept the anxiety at bay. 3. Stay off each others social media and ask people friends family do the same or don’t share what they saw/heard. only till you both are ready to see and accept everything. 4. It’s great to be friends but keep your stuff private it’s fine to share the basics but keep what’s going on in each others life on a need to know. Again until your both ready. 5. Lean on someone you’re not super woman no one is. It’s ok to cry in front of your loved ones including baby B. It shows your human…. 6. Bexley is going to be fine. No matter what happens/happened neither one of you did this life happens and sometimes it’s messy.. read this line again…. Till you believe it. Take care sweet cheeks you got this you’re going to be fine even if you don’t see it or believe it at this moment. You got this.(something I say to myself in the mirror everyday b4 leaving for the day and at night I say you did it. )
You’re doing great and it’s amazing you guys are working things out amicably. Take the advice on doing it legally through the court though. It doesn’t mean you don’t trust each other it’s just a wise decision for Bexleys benefit. It may all seem fine now but things can change, especially if and when more people are added to the mix.
The video part of you in your car: You look happier, and more relaxed..more confident and upbeat. You are even more focused and alot less anxious. Good for you! You are going to be just fine. You are a strong woman and just keep trusting yourself that you are going to knock down any roadblock that comes in your way. Youre in good hands with Melinda, that's for sure! Happy Summer! 🏖 🎉❤
Hi Lacey. I was a single momma for a bit. Me and the father to my child had my child one week and I’d get her the next week. It’s hard for sure but you got this! Stay strong momma❤❤
1. Don’t apologize for being human and having feelings. 2. You are not in charge of anyone else’s emotions, so feel what you feel, no apologies needed. Lastly, you are amazing. This chapter maybe hard but I believe that you will rise up and meet any challenge that comes your way. You two have proven to be amazing parents and will no doubt continue to be. Sending love!!!
Lacey as a single Momma myself my best advice is to feel the feels and to be honest about your heartbreak if and when Bex ask questions in her teenage years (who knows what will happen between now and then)! Also I admire you for not wanting to put negativity out there about the harder parts of a relationship. I tried my hardest never to say any unkind words about my ex because like you said I did choose to have children with him so obviously there was some kind of great things between us even when it didn't work out with us in the same house. Co-parenting is possible even though it's rough. Melinda was a good place for you to land because most of her house will probably be kind proof and to be honest she's had her own heart brake as well so she can sit with you when you need someone to! There is no doubt in my mind that Eli is a good Dad and that he loves his little girl so I hope that brings you comfort!
As long as you are all happy in the long run that's all that matters. Also I personally agree with others neither of you have to explain anything to the public. Share what you want and don't worry about the rest. I actually do agree with getting something in writing regarding Bex. Maybe chat with a mediator just to get things on paper to protect You, Eli and Bex. (My Sister did this with her children.) Not meaning anything will go south but just in case. Hugs! Time heals all wounds.
aww lacey, making me cry! I have a 3 year old daughter and it’s hard for me to be away from her for even a few hours so I can’t imagine a few days 😢 I hope everything works out for you guys❤
My situation is slightly different because me and my daughter's dad broke up before I found out I was pregnant, but we've always made it work and never gone through the courts. He sees her every couple of weeks, just due to distance and work, but that's what works for us. He also has her at his when he has a week booked off work so she can spend time with that side of the family. Him and his family just took her away on holiday as well. Honestly you might find it tough being away from Bex now, I did at first. But honestly you become so grateful for the break. When my daughters dad took her on holiday recently I got so much done. Housework, taking rubbish to the tip, clearing stuff out to the charity shop. Take time for self care and you time while she's with Eli. You're both handling this so well, and so similarly to how me and my ex handled co-parenting. It's worked so well for us and it's been good for our daughter because we've never had fights or arguments, we just all get along. We even used to take her on holiday together. Anyway I've waffled on long enough now 🤣
omg! i’m so sorry!! i promise everything will be okayy! god will find you a right path where you go, i love you so much! have a great day! just remember too keep your head up and i know you are very brave and strong and you can do it!!
I love how supportive you both are being with each other. Very proud of you both. Putting your daughter first is a sign of fantastic parents. 👏🏻 Being a single parent is hard, but you have to look at it that you are doing what is right for Bex. You got this girl 🫶🏻 xx
Love you Lacey ❤️❤️ I fully understand you don’t want to talk about it and you never have to or feel like you need to! You made me so sad I started crying 😢 but I’m so glad you, Eli and Bexley are ok and nothing major happened and you two are still friends! I hope things get easier for you and I love and support you so much! ❤️❤️
Beautiful you, I have listened to both your video and Eli's and even if you are having a tough time right now, don't give up. You both express love for each other and you seem to have a deep friendship and care for each other. So let time take its course. Cherish your friendship and maybe try couples therapy. You are both such nice people. And you will get through this as long as you both remember to put your daughter and her feelings before your own. I believe in you. None of you deserve hate. Relationships are the hardest thing in life and quite honestly, I'm hugely impressed with how nicely you seem to have solved it. More mature than many older people I know. You both talk so much about each other and both express love for the other so don't give up and don't take anything in advance don't let this be an absolute decision but see it as a period where you get the opportunity to gain distance and be able to sort out problems and talk about things. And dare to seek professional help couples therapy can work wonders. And there is no shame in daring to ask for help. Love and warmth to all three of you.
I'm so sorry Lacey but. I'm glad that you have support from your family and Melinda love you and Bexley and Melinda is your guardian angel and we love her and scarlett and it's no one else's business but yours and Eli I used to be a single parent with two kids and it was hard but there both in there 40s now and I am married but like I said it was really hard with just me and the kids when they were younger but you are strong and will get through it
Oh sweetheart, I am so sorry to hear. I do want to say I'm very proud of you an Eli for being able to come together and still co-parent responsibly. It's a beautiful thing when you're able to put everything aside and focus on what's best for the kiddos. ❤ You'll be alright love, you're doing a fine job. Take your time to grieve the loss and come back to us when you're ready.
i just went on my RU-vid app and saw this and this makes my stomach really upset I’m really sorry with what you’re going through Lacey. Stay strong and I’m so glad you have a family to lean to for anything you got this! ❤
Oh Lacey I’m so sorry you’re going through this but I’m happy Melinda can be there for you and Bexley ❤ It is great that you and Eli can coparent easily . Everything will fall into a routine once you all get into the groove. I was a single parent with 2 kids and I was thankful I had a friend who was able to let me move in and be there for me. ❤❤
