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When author Susan McCorkindale lost her husband to cancer, she knew one thing: how she did not want to handle her pain. She did not want platitudes, and she wanted more than peace. By describing her journey of what she learned from sleepless nights and being still, her talk gives both those who are grieving and those who love them the tools to get the good stuff from grief.
Susan McCorkindale is the mother of two sons, a well-known autism advocate, and the host of the popular You Tube show, Flaws Are the New Black. She is also the author of two memoirs, Confessions of a Counterfeit Farm Girl and 500 Acres and No Place to Hide: More Confessions of a Counterfeit Farm Girl. Susan McCorkindale was born and raised in New Jersey. She loves Bruce Springsteen, the New York Giants, and the Jersey shore. A graduate of Marymount Manhattan College, Susan spent five long, hard minutes pursuing an acting career before making a detour into marketing. She has held top spots at Family Circle and Popular Science magazines, and today is the editor of Haymarket Lifestyle Magazine, Gainesville Lifestyle Magazine, and The Business Voice.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@dreamyboyd4588
@dreamyboyd4588 3 года назад
Grief is just one of those things that is so different for everyone but this lady is so right - any motivation, any little bit of house work that gets done... Should be celebrated as win.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Thank you.
@rkms5606
@rkms5606 11 месяцев назад
🙋🏿‍♀️🎉👏🏿 Yes
@janinelewis8753
@janinelewis8753 Год назад
Five months ago I lost my mother and husband both unexpectedly in the same week. I have been told I have complex grief. All I know is two people who meant the world to me are gone, and because I have children who are also in pain life must go on. This is the best explanation of grief I have heard. Thank you for your wisdom.
@ButtersCCookie
@ButtersCCookie Год назад
Thank you for sharing. I am moved and share your pain. I am holding you in my thoughts and heart. What's left of it.
@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb
@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 7 месяцев назад
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from ?
@christopherscotellaro
@christopherscotellaro 9 дней назад
We will never meet but please know you are loved. I love you. Peace.
@arnoldschram9155
@arnoldschram9155 3 года назад
Grief can be the most transforming and humbling thing to go through. I loved the way Susan told her story... Kind of magic. Beautiful.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Thank you very much, Arnold!
@Jungaloowi333
@Jungaloowi333 Месяц назад
losing someone I loved so so much humbled me beyond belief. I learned a very very hard lesson.
@sylviamcdevitt327
@sylviamcdevitt327 Год назад
It has been 20 years since Chase Daniel left us at 4 1/2 months old. We still have difficulty, but we are able to talk about him and speak about some of the sweet memories we have, though he was with us for a very short time. While the tragedy will never leave us, we are able to keep his little soul alive. He is our personal angel.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale Год назад
I'm so sorry, Sylvia. xo
@bjw2585
@bjw2585 2 года назад
I lost my husband a month ago. Which seems like eternity, and just a moment. Your talk was remarkable. Thank you! I am going to think of margaritas when I wake up in the morning each day, and wade through my ocean of grief.
@rkms5606
@rkms5606 11 месяцев назад
🙏🏿🤗
@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb
@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 7 месяцев назад
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from ?
@ghostdog7306
@ghostdog7306 9 месяцев назад
My daughter died and I'm having a hard time functioning very well. Thank you for sharing that
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 4 месяца назад
I'm so very sorry. There's a beautiful book called Finding The Words by Colin Campbell. I found real comfort in it. You might, too. I will keep you in my prayers.
@philaman1972
@philaman1972 13 дней назад
I have no words. I am just in awe of this woman and everyone else who has experienced such trauma.
@XianKai
@XianKai 2 года назад
Awesome talk. After dealing with multiple losses in just one year I am still looking for HOW to navigate my days. You've given a path to take.
@jilllatif2330
@jilllatif2330 2 месяца назад
"We don't move on from our grief, we move forward with it."
@randisoh
@randisoh 3 года назад
You got to take care of yourself first so you can be whole to help others.
@susanmccorkindale5787
@susanmccorkindale5787 3 года назад
You do, Randi. Thank for watching and commenting.
@charliebrownabel
@charliebrownabel 3 года назад
so important for us all to know
@bcarr5163
@bcarr5163 4 года назад
I saw this on Facebook and watched it here on RU-vid. My husband died last year and it has taken a year for the real grief to set in. Your talk was very moving.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 4 года назад
My deepest condolences. There's no timeline with grief, it ebbs and flows, some days better, some worse. My husband has been gone 9 years and some days it hurts more than when he first passed. On those days I double my efforts (and my patience!) to push my eldest to continue to achieve. It's a good use of my grief, for him and for me. I will keep ou in my prayers.
@oscarnotreallyawiener
@oscarnotreallyawiener 4 года назад
I lost my wife in 2018 to cancer, I don't think I will feel whole again.
@oscarnotreallyawiener
@oscarnotreallyawiener 4 года назад
@@SusanMcCorkindale Thank you Susan you speak for many of us I see.
@susanmccorkindale5787
@susanmccorkindale5787 4 года назад
@@oscarnotreallyawiener I'm so very sorry for your loss.
@kalestanslink
@kalestanslink 4 года назад
I saw this today, brought back sad memories of losing my sister, but also good ones. I think we dont forget things that are important.
@maxpoyntz4960
@maxpoyntz4960 3 года назад
The most important thing in any loss or change to living, is to feel the pain you are feeling when you're feeling it.
@AnastasiaCostcalla
@AnastasiaCostcalla 3 года назад
What a superb woman she is, having gone through all this and now helping those of us who struggle. Thank you for your words, your honesty and your understanding.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Thank you so very much. I appreciate you watching and leaving me a note!
@davidnevin5515
@davidnevin5515 8 месяцев назад
Love the speaker. Thanks for sharing. My wonderful wife passed away four weeks ago. I had cared for her for many years with dementia. Yes I grieved. But my wife is definitely in Heaven enjoying all God’s Blessings. What could be more wonderful than that. She is the lucky one, and I use her inspiration to have myself now helping others in our Community.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 4 месяца назад
You're a good man and you were obbviously a wonderful husband. Your community is lucky to have you!
@jaymoneyDollaHolla
@jaymoneyDollaHolla 3 года назад
I lost 3 family members in the last 2 years to this awful disease, thank you for speaking out!
@gabrielivar
@gabrielivar 3 года назад
i feel you man, hope you're alright
@roxg8702
@roxg8702 3 года назад
I’ve been busying myself since my hubby passed 4 years ago. I’m exhausted too. Trying to “grieve” during covid ...Thanks for sharing your energy.
@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb
@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 7 месяцев назад
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from..?
@m1sfit_l0v3
@m1sfit_l0v3 2 года назад
So much heart, so much spirit. Incredible talk. She absolutely nailed it, to hear that she did so much good after going through such a challenging time... That's a special kind of lady right there. Damn!!
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 2 года назад
Thank you, Chris!
@geenaremsby
@geenaremsby 3 года назад
Beautiful metaphor, sitting in an ocean to feel her grief, she didn't drown she found peace. Thank you Susan, really appreciated this and very timely for me.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Thank you, Geena.
@DJ-yj1vg
@DJ-yj1vg 7 месяцев назад
The worst comment I had was to draw a line in the sand so to speak. In other words, after a point in time, just forget about dad and live your life. But my dad was a large part of my life. He's the reason I got back into woodworking because it calmed me down during mums own cancer battle. It helped me feel close to him., which gave me strength
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 4 месяца назад
No one should ever suggest such a thing. Keep your dad in your heart as you move forward, and he will help you be strong and find joy.
@sherrieglewis
@sherrieglewis 4 года назад
I love that, being still. Lovely talk.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 4 года назад
Thank you Sherrie!
@mycrazylifeismine
@mycrazylifeismine 3 года назад
I did too
@sorphealove3321
@sorphealove3321 3 года назад
that is a perfect state isnt it!
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
sorphea love indeed it is!
@elaineward1925
@elaineward1925 3 года назад
Being still, it's a gift.
@gaborsette
@gaborsette 3 года назад
We don't do anything good with our grief until we allow it in? wow that hit home!
@susanmccorkindale5787
@susanmccorkindale5787 3 года назад
Thank you. I'm glad it resonated with you!
@ginastyler320
@ginastyler320 2 года назад
One of the best I’ve heared and strucked me. So comforting specially at this time of my raw grief of losing my husband in a sudden and unexpected death. The best advice ever! Hope I can be strong like her after my grief sinks. Thank you for that wonderful and inspiring words, well done and heartily shared.
@emmasmythe
@emmasmythe 4 года назад
This talk really got me, tapped into some real emotions about my sisters death, thank you Susan 🥰 😘
@susanmccorkindale5787
@susanmccorkindale5787 3 года назад
I'm so very sorry for your loss. I appreciate you watching and commenting.
@thisisjustright
@thisisjustright 3 года назад
Agree 10000%
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
@@thisisjustright thank you!
@emmasmythe
@emmasmythe 3 года назад
@@susanmccorkindale5787 appreciate that and your talk, thank you
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Emma Smythe you’re so very welcome!
@priscillasantiago7970
@priscillasantiago7970 Год назад
My mom was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer too on 8-16-22 n passed 8-31-22 she went fast for that I have peace she didn’t suffer much n went in her sleep but now the pain inside me is so intense
@leotencall
@leotencall 3 года назад
What a breath of fresh air... Wow. Grief is such an overwhelming emotion, something I feel I've had to deal with too many times... I think I'll need to rewatch it a few times to be able to let go what I've been holding onto... Susan, thank you for this.
@susanmccorkindale5787
@susanmccorkindale5787 3 года назад
Leo, thank you for your note. What a lovely surprise to find it today. Stay well. Susan
@trustfactornow
@trustfactornow 3 года назад
i came here to say this!! she's so awesome!! i mean.. i cried..but happy tears in a way i think.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Trust Factor thank you so very much!
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
@@trustfactornow thank you so very much!
@trustfactornow
@trustfactornow 3 года назад
@@SusanMcCorkindale you are very welcome, you talk was wonderful!
@lifebysuzanne9405
@lifebysuzanne9405 10 месяцев назад
It’s been a year and half for me since losing my husband to ductal prostate cancer. She is right people say the dumbest things. Society expects us to get over it and move forward. That’s an impossible expectation to put on anyone drowning in grief. My husband fought so hard for his life I was right by his side in the hardest fight of our lives. He died in my arms in bed in our home just like he wanted. Those of us with faith have many neat packaged comments to make too but all I want to do is scream why? Oh he’s in heaven now. Great but I want him with me! If you’ve taken care of your loved one yourself it’s a shock to stop. What do you do now? Routines are hard to let go of. That constant worry stays with you a long time after. What are the labs the scans the tests the appointments what do we do now???? The entire time being a rock that everything will be ok. Pasting that fake smile on all day and crying alone in the shower late at night. So scared. I’d been on a roller coaster of fear, worry, non stop thinking and researching and praying and begging for a miracle. 2 years the battle consumed me and my husband. It takes time just to let that all go. The second guesses after. The what ifs. Would anything made a difference? You think of all that. I am a jersey girl. Steel is in my veins but losing my husband and best friend of 40 years is by far the hardest thing I’ve ever felt in my life and it’s a struggle to move on without him. One of the doctors told me the second year would be worse than the first. I was convinced nothing could be worse than this but I was wrong. I’m Half way thru the second year it’s been so hard. It may take 2 years it may take the rest of my life but I’m not getting over anything and that’s ok. Loss changes us. We are not the same. Hard to bounce back from this. There is not an expiration date on grief. We find our way thru this journey at different times. And that’s ok.
@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb
@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 7 месяцев назад
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from ?.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 4 месяца назад
Yes, the second year is hard. It's all hard. We don't get "over" grief. We just figure out how to navigate with it. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself, and don't worry about what anyone else has to say. I recall with great clarity the time after my husband's death and the feeling I'd stopped on a dime and didn't know what to do, my routine was gone. Ultimately, I found a new routine, but it took awhile. Be gentle with yourself. I'll be thinking of you.
@gabrielivar
@gabrielivar 3 года назад
Grief is such a hard one. I know between myself and some friends we have been dealt so many blows these past couple of years and watching how we all process differently has been a real thing. One of the girls actually started making us all talk about it and it's made a huge difference, we all get together in a group now and just tell old stories and I think that it has really helped us to understand and move forward. I really liked this one, she's got some awesome points. Going to send it along.
@charlottewebbnotthebook
@charlottewebbnotthebook 3 года назад
Thanks Gabe
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Thank you for watching, for leaving me such a nice note, and for sharing my talk. I hope you and your friends will continue to tell old stories for a long time to come. Everyone will benefit in many ways.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
@@charlottewebbnotthebook thank you for watching. I'm so happy you enjoyed it!
@lesliecrossI
@lesliecrossI 3 года назад
How refreshing! I think such a perspective does wonders not just with grief but any pain we feel, any discomfort - what is the lesson, how can we grow and how can we let go. If we practiced such awareness more regularly I dare say humanity wouldn't be riddled with imbalance it currently has. Marvelous talk!
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Leslie, thank you. I so appreciate you watching and leaving me such a thoughtful note.
@tumbleweed0680
@tumbleweed0680 7 месяцев назад
Beautiful sharing and so true! Those of us who study or work in mental health/grief and loss have learned just what Sue said. That is, there is a sixth stage of grief- making meaning of it all. We can only do that by giving back some of what we have been given by those we have lost. Finding purpose.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 4 месяца назад
I couldn't agree more. Thank you for sharing that here. It will certainly help others.
@wrathofviolets
@wrathofviolets 2 года назад
I am in tears. I lost my boyfriend to suicide just four months ago. This is so spot on and so incredibly powerful. Thank you so much for sharing
@amyfloren4581
@amyfloren4581 2 года назад
I am so sorry for this terrible loss you have been through ❤
@wrathofviolets
@wrathofviolets 2 года назад
@@amyfloren4581 Thank you so sincerely much💜
@user-ll1wj8eh3y
@user-ll1wj8eh3y Год назад
My boyfriend died last Friday he was accidentally suffocated by the air conditioning in his car I think you know exactly how I'm feeling I hope you are doing well,I'm not ok Does it ever get better 💔 Because it's painful
@glory1star
@glory1star Год назад
@@user-ll1wj8eh3y OH No sorry to hear about your lost!❤
@sandijamartinsone8488
@sandijamartinsone8488 Год назад
Darling, I am so sorry for your loss. I feel your pain - I lost my fiancee to suicide 2 months ago. Now just Trying to see the light in the tunnel.
@regina-reda
@regina-reda 3 года назад
This made me cry, such an amazing Ted talk. Thank you Susan, such smart kind words for all of us, as we will all face this.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Thank you Regina!
@regina-reda
@regina-reda 3 года назад
@@SusanMcCorkindale thank you this was so beautiful.
@snakejohnson2740
@snakejohnson2740 3 года назад
Amazing woman.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
@@snakejohnson2740 thank you!
@deirdrebyrnes2227
@deirdrebyrnes2227 Год назад
Me too. I lost my husband a year ago and also went through phase of being so busy. But what really helps is to take moments and let it wash over you
@phoebec232
@phoebec232 3 года назад
I applaud this woman for her journey, so beautiful and so apt. Something we all fear, all go through - but how we cope, how we allow ourselves to process - it's so important.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Thank you Phoebe.
@aaronhorvath3291
@aaronhorvath3291 Год назад
My dad passed away on Ash Wednesday this year, and I'm going through a lot of grief. I feel like I'm just here trying to look for answers and help on RU-vid. I think this video was very helpful.
@jodikennedy8886
@jodikennedy8886 3 года назад
Thank you Susan, I sure went through some memories. I lost my partner too, enough said except thank you again.
@susanmccorkindale5787
@susanmccorkindale5787 3 года назад
My condolences, Jodi. Treasure your memories and take good care of yourself.
@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb
@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 7 месяцев назад
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from ?.
@garimamahendru5011
@garimamahendru5011 2 года назад
You will move on or get through is the worst phrase one can say to a grieving person. It's just been 6 months since I lost my husband to covid..he was only 36 and I miss him immensely. The loss is huge but as u said...let it simmer to make you do something commendable not for the world but for your ownself. True!
@johnjjgravely
@johnjjgravely 3 года назад
Now this is raw, real talk, great speaker.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Thank you so very much, John!
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Thank you so much!
@nancygraskonski
@nancygraskonski 3 года назад
Lovely stories from a father who loses his mother and creates her best recipes for her grand children and his children, filled with loving memories.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Glad you enjoyed it @Nancy Groskonski
@TheBenBenitaShow
@TheBenBenitaShow 4 года назад
YOU are a great speaker and you f*cking NAILED THIS!!!!!! Great job!!!
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 4 года назад
Ben , thank you so much!
@keithpotter7366
@keithpotter7366 3 года назад
1000% agreed
@sammie4695
@sammie4695 2 года назад
Why do people always have to use the "F" word, even in your comment on such a sensitive subject as this. No one has any CLASS anymore.
@benbenita8628
@benbenita8628 2 года назад
@@sammie4695 Imagine having nothing better to do with your time than post negative comments on social media? In case you were not aware, it IS ok to JUST KEEP SCROLLING!!!! ;-) I hope your day gets better!!!
@sammie4695
@sammie4695 2 года назад
Look BENNIE, you didn't "keep scrolling". I stand by my comment.If the shoe fits Wear It!
@Blessed2004
@Blessed2004 2 года назад
Wonderful Susan thank you for taking time to present this for all of us that need it I got diagnosed with cancer last year my Mom moved in to help support me Few months later she got sick also was stable then slipped through the medical cracks she ended up leaving this world. I am grief stricken we took care of each other 40 days later found my cousin passed in her sleep again like a sister and support. Your talk helped me. I’m doing well and stable. God Bless xo
@aleidbarend
@aleidbarend 3 года назад
Thank you Susan for coming out the other end of such tragedy with such wisdom, this talk helped me more then I can put to words. Thank you thank you. God Bless You
@larrykofoed3755
@larrykofoed3755 3 года назад
The comments I hate is when people tell me that I have all the memories of my wife. It's those 39 years of memories that haunt me every single day.
@emmatshields
@emmatshields 3 года назад
She speaks with such love, passion and pain.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Thank you Emma!
@nicholaskolokotrone
@nicholaskolokotrone 3 года назад
We hold onto pain for as long as it serves us, when we learn it doesn't anymore we stop.
@mintylava4123
@mintylava4123 3 года назад
What an emotional and heartfelt talk, how true. Thank you for your grace Susan
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Thank you for your lovely words. I appreciate you watching!
@scottallencolorado
@scottallencolorado 3 года назад
Thank you Susan for sharing your story. It was inspiring and gave me hope. All my best to you.
@andrewpain_speaker
@andrewpain_speaker 4 года назад
beautifully moving talk
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 4 года назад
Andrew, thank you so very much. That means so very much coming from you! Please feel free to share it with anyone you think can benefit from my message.
@pierremartinetto
@pierremartinetto 3 года назад
Ur son is rly lucky to have u. I was diagnosed with autism in my early 20s and if i had a lady like u helping me and showing me the way i feel like things would have gone differently. but u and ur son r very lucky to have each other after all u have been thru.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
pierre martinetto Thank you for your kind words. Please take care of yourself.
@tamyajones1638
@tamyajones1638 3 года назад
I really don't like when people say.. You got to get over it and move on.. You gotta live life.. Well yeah but I gotta do it in my time.
@susanmccorkindale5787
@susanmccorkindale5787 3 года назад
When it comes to grief, everyone handles it differently and in their own time. Thank you for watching and leaving me a comment.
@sheilalindsay
@sheilalindsay 3 года назад
love the name of this talk and everything that it is. what a beautiful way to process grief!
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Sheila Lindsay Thank you for watching and leaving me a comment!
@itanimathoma2584
@itanimathoma2584 2 года назад
This was exactly what I needed to hear
@leeibbertson1184
@leeibbertson1184 Год назад
Thank you. Beautiful
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale Год назад
Thank you, Lee.
@therealbellasantarosa
@therealbellasantarosa 3 года назад
I could feel this, and those tools are going to help many, thank you Susan!
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Bella Santa Rosa thank you! I hope they do!
@timmymckinley
@timmymckinley 3 года назад
yeah... really. wow.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Tim McKinley thank you 😊
@user-ll1wj8eh3y
@user-ll1wj8eh3y Год назад
I'm confused devastated I lost my boyfriend last Friday He was 24 he was beautiful inside out smart full of life tender soft everything 💔I miss him so much I'm scared I'll never be happy again I never knew somebody like him Every thing reminds me of him 💔 our car trips our intimate moments when we used to sing together and danse in the car when we smoked when I used to find his car outside waiting for me💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔it's painful
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale Год назад
I'm so very sorry for your loss. 24 is far too young.
@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb
@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 7 месяцев назад
I'm very sorry about your loss, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from ?
@1Rdby
@1Rdby Месяц назад
Condolences from the bottom of my heart. I can absolutely empathize with deeply loving and losing a person who is extremely unique in so many ways and feeling that nobody could ever replace them. I lost my partner 5 mos ago and I’m still drowning in grief, but getting by day by day. God bless and I pray you’re feeling better. ❤️
@johnbradey
@johnbradey 3 года назад
What an enlightened and beautiful human being! I am better for having heard these words of wisdom. Thank you!
@aleidbarend
@aleidbarend 3 года назад
So wise! So grateful for this talk
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Thank you so very much!
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
@@aleidbarend thank you!
@jodykearney4023
@jodykearney4023 3 года назад
Thank you for sharing your story. This helped me a lot I now know how to handle my grief and I am looking forward to my new journey.
@lauralarsonre8191
@lauralarsonre8191 4 года назад
Thanks for sharing Susan. Great story of turning grief into amazing things.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 4 года назад
Thank you, Laura. I so appreciate you watching and sharing to spread the message to those you need it.
@sienaredders
@sienaredders 4 года назад
It is.
@sienaredders
@sienaredders 4 года назад
@@SusanMcCorkindale I got this Susan, when I lost my partner, I just wanted people to stop telling me how to feel, or tell me I would get over it, I just wanted to mourn and it felt like no-one wanted to let me. Your talk really speaks a truth!!
@susanmccorkindale5787
@susanmccorkindale5787 4 года назад
@@sienaredders thank you. I'm very sorry for the loss of your partner!
@billiejeanbrasier
@billiejeanbrasier 3 года назад
What a beautiful talk, and so gentle. You are a great mom.
@susanmccorkindale5787
@susanmccorkindale5787 3 года назад
Thank you so very much, Billie Jean!
@billiejeanbrasier
@billiejeanbrasier 3 года назад
@@susanmccorkindale5787 you are very welcome, wonderful talk that all those facing this should see...
@susanmccorkindale5787
@susanmccorkindale5787 3 года назад
@@billiejeanbrasier thank you so very much. Have a wonderful day and take care of yourself.
@BruceWayne-nm5cr
@BruceWayne-nm5cr 3 года назад
This is the perspective I needed right now. Fantastic speaker and even better topic. A lot of helpful tools here.
@jacksonradern
@jacksonradern 3 года назад
pretty amazing human!
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Thank you so very much!
@markheichorn
@markheichorn 3 года назад
Wow. I needed this more than I realised.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Thank you for watching.
@childbean2309
@childbean2309 3 года назад
I lost my grandpa,grandma and my dad in the last 7 months I’m really struggling bt this helped me a lot I’m put my grief into helping my children with school and other activities ...
@charlottewebbnotthebook
@charlottewebbnotthebook 3 года назад
Thank you for sharing your story, it's one of those ones that really gives me some perspective in my own life.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
And thank you, Charlotte, for watching and leaving me a note!
@charlottewebbnotthebook
@charlottewebbnotthebook 3 года назад
@@SusanMcCorkindale Your talk is so in tune with what happens inside us, thank you!
@tubularvideos
@tubularvideos 3 года назад
For so long we have been putting our emotions aside, it's such a relief to see this here now though, finally people are opening up. Healing is on its way
@geenaremsby
@geenaremsby 3 года назад
I really believe this as well, more and more people are seeking therapy and looking for ways to let go!
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Thank you so much for wacthing.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
@@geenaremsby thank you so much for watching.
@andrewtsilas
@andrewtsilas 3 года назад
I lost my wife same way, that you Susan, thank you so much!!
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Andrew Silas I’m so very sorry for your loss. Thank you for leaving me a note. I’m glad my talk resonated with you!
@christineterpens3136
@christineterpens3136 3 года назад
Sorry for your loss Hope you found comfort in this wonderful talk as I did.
@lauriebaker7608
@lauriebaker7608 Год назад
Wow this lady is amazing l have a grand daughter 7yearold I'm helping her to read write stories and teaching her another language she's doing well at school I'm so proud of her and my grief is love more give more.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale Год назад
Thank you, Laurie.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 4 месяца назад
Thank you. Your granddaughter is lucky to have you!
@timmymckinley
@timmymckinley 3 года назад
We just lost our Nana a week ago and I am absolutely floored by this explanation of grief... Can't even get the words out proper right now. I'll be sharing this with my family. Thank you.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Tim McKinley My sincere condolences on the loss of your Nana. I’m glad you found my talk helpful.
@timmymckinley
@timmymckinley 3 года назад
@@SusanMcCorkindale That's nice of you Susan, thanks for reaching out.
@jeansammy
@jeansammy 3 года назад
Powerful beautiful story, good people do great things.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Thank you, Jean. I appreciate you watching and leaving me a note!
@betsysloan4619
@betsysloan4619 3 года назад
I loved this talk! I am also a Jersey Gal! Yes,I am using my grief to help others !
@susanmccorkindale5787
@susanmccorkindale5787 3 года назад
Thank you, Betsy! Once a Jersey Girl, always a Jersey Girl. Stay well!
@betsysloan4619
@betsysloan4619 3 года назад
@@susanmccorkindale5787, Thank you! I lost my husband on Jan 01,2020. Thanks to my husband's journey i became an advocate for Alzheimer's. I have a show,Chatting with Betsy .
@joyjones7745
@joyjones7745 2 года назад
I was once advised to not only grieve but to grieve well.
@just-4-meImworthit
@just-4-meImworthit 3 года назад
I definitely had a bit of a chuckle when she mentioned the part when she felt like she was going to throttle someone if they gave her one more or hug or asked how she was one more time - i went through that, still am going through that. People dont understand that sometimes you just need to be left alone to process. This lady is pretty fantastic. Really enjoyed this.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Just 4 Me Thank you for watching and for the kind words. Take care of you!
@jngazy526
@jngazy526 2 года назад
Recycling her grief into helping her family♥️♥️♥️♥️. God bless you ! I love that idea and I’m going to try it , I kinda feel it working already….
@rontjacks
@rontjacks 3 года назад
Processing a death is living with death, a soulful disfunction of sorrow and path to recovery that can sometimes take a life time.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Agreed Ron. Bless you!
@beckham48
@beckham48 2 года назад
You couldn't get over it you live with it thinking about them everyday
@loidazabala2143
@loidazabala2143 3 года назад
Bravo! kudos to this brave woman👍
@susanmccorkindale5787
@susanmccorkindale5787 3 года назад
Thank you!
@samuelygeissler
@samuelygeissler 3 года назад
Bless You Susan!!!
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
And you, Samuel!!
@44TJG
@44TJG Год назад
It’s almost 2 years since my husband died suddenly. I try to watch this but am in a deep dark place but just can’t. I shut everyone out because no one understands.
@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb
@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 7 месяцев назад
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from ?.
@josephthibeault4843
@josephthibeault4843 8 месяцев назад
Thank you
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 4 месяца назад
Thank you for watching and leaving a comment.
@jessTcarter
@jessTcarter 3 года назад
Those words, 'you'll get through it' dismiss everything you're feeling at the time.
@lestnewman
@lestnewman 3 года назад
Beautiful and compassionate talk, thank you.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Thank you for watching and commenting!
@lestnewman
@lestnewman 3 года назад
@@SusanMcCorkindale Thanks for giving the talk Susan, means a lot to me right now.
@susanmccorkindale5787
@susanmccorkindale5787 3 года назад
@@lestnewman You're very welcome, Les.
@charliebrownabel
@charliebrownabel 3 года назад
I related to this so much. It took me years to understand and process the death of my brother but when i finally did I learnt so much about myself, our family and him.
@jaymoneyDollaHolla
@jaymoneyDollaHolla 3 года назад
Yeah I feel you man, it's such a hard thing to deal with
@AnastasiaCostcalla
@AnastasiaCostcalla 3 года назад
When my sister passed away it took me at least 8 years to get over it. I totally understand.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Losing a sibling is heartbreaking. I lost one of my brothers a few years ago. I miss him every day. Take care of yourself.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
@@AnastasiaCostcalla death of a sibling is like having a huge part of your insides ripped out. I'm sorry you've had this experience. I have as well. I hope you have wonderful memories to reflect on.
@cindynok
@cindynok 2 года назад
Wonderful, widowed 4 months and trying to find my way.
@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb
@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 7 месяцев назад
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from ?.
@jacksonradern
@jacksonradern 3 года назад
i've always stood by the fact that some of the greatest pain we will ever feel will lead to the most growth... well, at least for most of us.
@dreamyboyd4588
@dreamyboyd4588 3 года назад
"for most of us" ....yep, some of us have a real problem with letting go
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
I agree. It takes time, but if the individual is open to it, it will happen. Thank you for watching.
@tonimt1712
@tonimt1712 Год назад
Ma'am you said it, if I can get out of the bed and get my kids to school on time that's a win. Well I'm starting with just getting them to school. Soon on time..soon with real clothes on. I loaded the dishwasher and wiped the counters.. it's a start. Thank you. I feel understood.
@annekevandeven4895
@annekevandeven4895 3 года назад
Thanks, wonderfull talk 🙏❤️
@susanmccorkindale5787
@susanmccorkindale5787 3 года назад
Thank you for watching and leaving me a comment!
@jayneelisabet1159
@jayneelisabet1159 2 года назад
Amazing lady. I´m still giving lifts in my pyjamas but there is hope now.
@dragonfly3517
@dragonfly3517 2 года назад
Thankyou😌😌😌
@nancyschaefer9748
@nancyschaefer9748 Год назад
Thank you, I will going through this soon as my husband is near the end of life……
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale Год назад
I'm so very sorry.
@Rosinamo5058
@Rosinamo5058 24 дня назад
I don't think we 'get over it', I feel we just learn to adapt our lives to carry on but know it's still just a part of the new way of life
@thereisnosanctuary6184
@thereisnosanctuary6184 2 года назад
I need a hug.
@Akira282
@Akira282 2 года назад
amen Susan. I lost my wife way way too young at 34 due to a chronic lung disease called LAM. We never knew it was as bad as it was. So, it was completely sudden. She died during pregnancy. I now have to raise my daughter without her mom. Thanks for sharing your story.
@darynkatano
@darynkatano 3 года назад
My girlfriend died in 2017, at age 19, and at the beginning of this year, I thought I healed significantly from the loss of her, but it's gotten so much worse, and it's breaking me, and I miss her so bad 💔💔💔 I try to cope so much with it by imagining her with me constantly in all kinds of situations, and sometimes, it makes me feel better, but other times, it's extremely hard...
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
I'm very sorry to hear this but ask you to be patient with yourself. Have you explored working with a grief counselor? Mine was excellent and not expensive. I will keep you in my prayers.
@albanavarro430
@albanavarro430 3 года назад
My husband just die December 14 2020 in his job we was together since 1980 till 2020 I missing him a lot
@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb
@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 7 месяцев назад
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from..?
@sonthibutsalee
@sonthibutsalee 3 года назад
We hurt because it means so much, we heal because we are worth it!
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
I love that, Sonthi! Thank you!!
@sonthibutsalee
@sonthibutsalee 3 года назад
@@SusanMcCorkindale you are such a good speaker!
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
@@sonthibutsalee thank you so very much!
@tammyrenae4163
@tammyrenae4163 Год назад
I lost my husband on Christmas... I feel so broken..
@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb
@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 7 месяцев назад
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from ?.
@larryulery3729
@larryulery3729 2 года назад
Thanks Susan you have given me a Way to channel my grief I love to cook so that is the way to channel my grief getting through the holidays is the first hurdle Christmas was are holiday
@SUJAMUK
@SUJAMUK 2 года назад
It's exactly 10 months since my beloved husband of 44 years passed away and 2 years in December my younger sister passed away. I don't have any children. I don't enjoy anybody's company although my nephews love me and want me to spend time with them. I talk if anybody calls me but just want to be left alone. I spend most of my time watching anything to do with grief on you tube and videos about how to overcome loss of your loved ones. Removing his name from bank accounts and the house as we had everything in joint names is very painful. Now I have to do all the jobs he used to do. It's hard.
@Prettymapleleaf
@Prettymapleleaf 2 года назад
You are so loved. I am so sorry for your tremendous losses. I lost my partner Glenn a month ago and I am completely shattered. Like you, I’ve been absorbing all I can regarding grief and an afterlife. Sending you so much strength and a big hug.
@SUJAMUK
@SUJAMUK 2 года назад
@@Prettymapleleaf thank you. Nice to know that there is someone who understands. Sorry for your loss..
@Prettymapleleaf
@Prettymapleleaf 2 года назад
@@SUJAMUK it’s okay to feel all that you are feeling. Flow with your grief and you move on WITH them. ❤️
@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb
@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb 7 месяцев назад
@@SUJAMUK I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from ?.
@SUJAMUK
@SUJAMUK 7 месяцев назад
@@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb I am living in india now. Came back to India for good after spending most of our lives in England. Nothing went according to plan. Here I am all by myself.
@josuelepiere
@josuelepiere 3 года назад
Out of something bad comes something good.
@SusanMcCorkindale
@SusanMcCorkindale 3 года назад
Yes. If we allow it! Thank you for watching.
@silviagreta8182
@silviagreta8182 Месяц назад
Love never ends so the grief never ends...u just learn to live with...thats it
@halfcentury1112
@halfcentury1112 3 года назад
Great stuff - XoXoXo - god bless Susan!
@susanmccorkindale5787
@susanmccorkindale5787 3 года назад
Thank you. And God bless you too!
@dodgersfanextreme
@dodgersfanextreme 3 года назад
Lost my wife last year, still hard, really hard.
@susanmccorkindale5787
@susanmccorkindale5787 3 года назад
I'm so very sorry for your loss. Be patient with yourself. Some days will be hard.
@lindseyburns1019
@lindseyburns1019 Год назад
After my dads and nephews deaths, I became a nurse.
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