Man HUMILIATES Teenage Girl... 

From a two girls home perspective I used to HATE when ppl tried to make me feel equal when they complimented my sister and then tried to make me feel included and gave me a compliment. It did more damage than good. Compliment my sister and don't have pity over me please. It's ridiculous and it doesn't teach us anything but to second guess a real compliment.

Story 2 According to some tales, if you thank the fae, you assume an obligation they can call in at any time, and owing them favors can be dangerous because you never know what they will ask for. Even helpful Fae can be dangerous, because their motivations are not human

Story 4- Leah didn't do anything to you. It was her mother. Saying a teenager isn't pretty just to spite someone else is awful. 16 year old girls are also typically very self conscious and saying she isn't pretty will only make it worse

On Story #1, you nailed it. I have teenagers now, but I still have flashbacks to those tantrums.

Story 4- ugh. Circumstances may rise where you compliment 1 and not the other and that's okay... example- jo is in a dance recital while je isn't so you tell jo how well they danced. I would not tell 1 sister they were beautiful in front of the other if they're both dressed for a party. Dudes problem is he only sees 1 of the girls as his family and that's sad

#1 It was a creative way to deal with the problem NTA. Another way you can also do it is set out a couple of outfits and let the child pick. It sounds like she's trying to exert her independence and giving her a little freedom within boundaries will sometimes solve the problem.

a fair amount of kids at the schools I went to often came in sweatpants, t-shirts, fuzzy slippers, and hoodies if it was cold; as long as it wasn't revealing, or too torn up, nobody cared if they were wearing PJs or regular clothes. The dad called his kid's bluff, and the kid got pissy once she realized that she wasn't going to get her way.

The last one is such a redit aita trope: "Somebody has been bothering me and I never confronted them about it, then I had an unexpected outburst about it. AITA?"

About the first kid, sometimes natural (safe) consequences are the best ones as you don’t need to argue. I refused to wear shoes for a while at 4. So mom took my shoes & extra socks in her purse & pushed me out the door. In snow. 🥶😅

Not a parent, but a 19 year old girl with Autism and ADHD. Diagnosed as a kid. I have vivid memories of throwing tantrums over jeans, socks, too tight shoes. They were less tantrums and more genuin meltdown/panic attacks because the materials severely overstimulated me. I've learned to manage, but I also prefer wearing dresses when I can, or just leggings and socks that don't have weird seams. My parents just wranggled me out the door 😂 never refused to get dressed, but I did cry. And cry 😂 Listen I love my parents, and as I got older and figured out how to talk. (I actually demonstrated by showing them how I felt with couch materials. I think dad in story one did great. But idk, mayebe there could be a reason for why she has some much trouble with day clothes vs soft pyjamas?

My mom used to be highly emotional & took any perceived slight very personally. About 20yrs ago she asked me how my hubs & I could let things just role off our backs & not get upset over things she would have felt disrespected over. I told her the we both choose to pick our battles bc not every annoying (or maddening) thing really mattered in the grand scheme of our life together. And the “battles” we do choose to take on are how we learned & taught ourselves to make healthy boundaries & ultimately healthy decisions together. She still credits me for that to anyone she possibly can bc it helped her find more peace & acceptance in all her relationships, including the one we share. It’s nice that at 66yo & 44yo, we still help each other grow, and now we enjoy the same openness & trust towards growth with my kids who are 23yo & 21yo. We feel like we’re making real generational change - we let go of the ideas that wisdom only comes with age & that respect must be earned - when it comes to mental health & wellbeing by contributing to each others progress towards a more fulfilling life. OMG I could build on this topic forever bc it’s something that I’m really grateful for. XOXO

It’s Apple Picking day!

Gen X Mom & Grandmom here & I agreed with you on all of them: #1 The dad taught the 7 y.o. a lesson! #2 Yes, for some people that is their religion & the o.p. shouldn't have made fun of her religion. That's just disrespectful. Treat ppl like you would want to be treated. #3 You're explanation was perfect! The o.p. needs to move on & M.Y.O.B.! Gossips & liars are in the same category in my book! #4 I come from a multi-generational family of divorce. There are so many "steps" we had to stop using the word. This o.p. was definitely the bad apple. I understand having issues with adults, but a person never, ever takes it out on a minor! That's petty & selfish! Great show!❤

The only thing I’m going to do seeing a kid go to school with pajamas when it isn’t Pajama Day is salute the parent for picking their battles. 😅 As for “traumatizing” and “embarrassing” the child - I mean, she’s the one who wouldn’t get dressed. Actions have consequences, and this was a fairly mild one.

Story 4: Woah, that was a trip. I have a lot of questions. Have you ever told her that she shouldn't fish for people to compliment her daughter? Have you ever told her the extent to which her behavior has been affecting you? what did the little girl ever do? I have been in this boat, where you want to give one child a one-on-one moment, but the parental unit believes they should be equal in said moment. you also sound like a major bad apple for acting like just because she isn't blood that means she isn't family. Here is one last question, DOES THE MOM DO THIS WITH EVERYONE OR JUST YOU? if the answer is everyone then she's a bad apple and you sir are a crab apple. If it's only you, then hun you are a bad apple because you are making it blatantly obvious that you have a problem with that kid and she can tell. NO MATTER WHAT A CHILD SHOULD NEVER FEEL UNWATED BY FAMILY!

For the third and fourth stories, if you have a problem with someone, the key is to communicate it well. In the third story, I think it is a good thing to pull the coworker aside and explain to them that you think they're lying. That kind of behavior is likely to cause friction. You could be sparing her becoming a social outcast at work. And that's what the person in the fourth story should have done. If you genuinely have a problem with your sister in law, talk to her in private like an adult. The way that person went about "confronting her", through hurting a child's feelings no less, is so beyond anything that's remotely acceptable.

So the folklore behind not thanking the fairies is that fairies love bargaining and making deals with mortals, and have a thing about debts. If you thank them, that means you acknowledge that they did something for you or gave you something, and now you owe them a debt, which gives them power over you. My guess is, if the coworker believes in that stuff so deeply, then she might believe o.p. is a changeling or something? I'm not a believer myself, I just grew up on fantasy stories and love learning the folklore of different cultures. No effect on whether or not o.p. is a bad apple, just thought I would share

I’ve always found that when someone lies about the most ignorant things, they will lie when it matters

As a parent who works with elementary kids and in a kindergarten classroom, I can absolutely say that we don't judge and half the time, we wouldn't notice lol. I notice the fancy dresses, but not PJs.

I feel for story four they should’ve said something like “complements should be appreciated and not expected” or something like that rather than call a teenager ugly. I feel like maybe he should try harder to complement the other niece more but I can understand why it might be a little awkward if they haven’t been in each others life long and they’re being pressured to complement a somewhat random teenager

As a parent, dad is a good Apple. A fight to get the child dressed before school is a battle I wouldn't take on. PJs are fine for school and if the child understands now that she has to get dressed for school or wear PJs, hopefully it will be easier. Story 4) I'm going to catch shit for this but why does the SIL feel like she has to get people to say the same thing to her daughter that was said to the step daughter? Like you said we don't have all the info. Mom asking for her to compliment her daughter everytime could do more damage to her daughters self esteem because if she does get complimented she won't believe it

Story 4...I think you missed something that I kinda...hyper focused on...she referred to their biological niece as MY niece... inherently implying that his step niece is 'less than'..... gross

For Story 3: Inquisitively pointing out the logical inconsistencies within a lie is one way to address a liar. Another way is to act unbemused by their lie. For example, in a monotone voice say “Cool” and proceed to carry on doing your own thing or change the topic. Engaging with the lie (be it positively or negatively) could incentivize the behavior, but failing to react or be impressed can disincentivize a person from lying. If you directly confront the liar, they are likely to feel threatened and double-down on the lies. If you go along with the tall tales, you’re enabling the lying. In both cases, you’re unproductively giving the liar the attention they crave. Instead, encourage honesty with positive reinforcement by only paying them mind (outside of what’s necessary) when they’re truthful. Otherwise ignore them.

As for story two do you know that he was the one bringing it up? Maybe every time he told someone else she jumped into the conversation she wasn’t part of and her asked him about it. We weren’t given that information really

Story 1: Good Apple. It’s called consequences! Which the earliest she learns, the better! As a parent & an educator, I love when parents set expectations & shows that there are consequences to their actions & decisions.

For the 1st story...GOOD APPLE DAD!! The only thing I may have done differently would've been put the kid's clothes in her backpack so she could change at shcool

Yes, number 2 would fall under paganism. It is religious. Paganism just means nature worship but it encompasses several religions.

Apple 1: I agree. As a parent sometimes just sending the kids out in pjs has to happen. If the kids feel embarrassed about it, then they need to do better about getting ready… Apple 4: I also agree. Don’t hurt a kids feelings just to get back at the parent. If you have a real problem with how the mother is fishing for compliments for their child, talk to her one on one, and maybe bring in your brother on that conversation. Let them know it’s irritating, but do it in a civilized and adult manner.

Apple #1: Good job, Dad! Elsie won't melt, wearing pajamas. Smart way to handle the situation. I think the mom may be enabling Elsie's bad behavior. As you said, actions must have consequences. Apple #2: I'm with the author. Say thanx to as many fairies as you like. But, as Rebecca said, rubbing it in her face was rude. Apples #3 & #4: I can't improve on Rebecca's take on either story. Right on. Croissant day? Time to go to the market!

Apple #4: So I think it's definitely an underlying problem with the Sister in Law. But I also think it's not right that Bria isn't getting to enjoy her compliments within conversation, because Lia would be missing out. The case is not always that they are both going to get the same comment, or the same praise in life. It's like handing out trophies just because you showed up for the race. I don't think it's a way to get out of NOT complimenting Lia, but trying to make it so that the compliments or praise can stick for Bria. I mean are they going to give Lia a cake and presents on Bria's birthday? Because that's how this reads to me, it reads as overcompensating for Lia. Like Bria was dressed up to go out and deserved the compliment, where Lia wasn't going out or trying to look special. So why would she get a compliment too? The 'no you're not pretty' comment was lashing out, and wrong, but the build up around the situation is more than is being mentioned.

I also think it's weird that the uncle in the 4th story also calls Bria MY neice. But he doesn't say that about Leah. Like, does the uncle not consider Leah his neice?

The first story definitely depends on where they are from. It seems more normal in America to dress in leasure clothes and stuff. I know where I grew up the school would have definitely called the parents to bring clothes if a kid showed up in their pyjamas. We have to wear school appropriate outfits, which means no pyjamas, no costumes, no sportswear etc. In the school I went to, I can be sure that the girl would've been ridiculed for wearing pyjamas, and it would be something teachers would be discussing on wether the kid has a safe home situation.

Number 1 is a good parent. Children need choices and natural consequences. I think that's a very gentle way to teach her responsibility for her choices and behavior. If they never have consequences they grow up to be entitled adults

For number 3 I would go crab. I say this just because I had someone who would lie so much. She really annoyed me. I mean once she was talking about how she spoke a language, my sister was friends with her older sister so I was talking to her and saying how cool it was that they spoke that language. She asked her friend and apparently she was lying. She would constantly do things like that. It got to a point where I would just not want to listen to her.

Thank you Rebecca for being such a light in this world. Your videos always brighten up my day!

Love my Wednesdays when I can wake up and listen to you❤

16:39 Only thing I could think of is if they work in a field where they handle confidential information on clients (ie finance, accounting, law, medical), so maybe OP was just concerned that this woman might not be the best to handle confidential information/this woman poses a significant risk to the company for her lying ways.

Going through a lot lately and your videos help ease the pain. Thank you! ❤️

Happy Apple day! Story 1: While I can't fault the father for what he did, I also don't agree with it. So I'm gonna go with Crab Apple. While the kids are going to forget about it within a day or two it's still gonna be something OP's kid is gonna have to put up with for a little while. OP could have easily brought the cloths his wife set out for her with them and when realization hit given her the clothes write the office a note, given the daughter a firm final warning and the daughter could have gotten changed at school. Story 2: I'm Norse pagan so not much really overlaps with Celtic mythology (I think) from my own but the belief is if you say thank you to a fae it's not as good of a thing as you might think. Ultimately the coworker (i can only assume) was giving OP the warning from a place of concern and for OP to go out of their way to be mean about it, yeah Bad Apple. This could have been resolved so many better ways than blatantly disrespecting her faith or beliefs. Story 3: having nothing better to do than gossip about the workplace liar is just as bad as being the workplace liar, both are petty and just dumb. Unless the lies effect you or someone you care about directly, it's not your place to expose them. Bad Apple. Story 4: If it had been just in front of the mother OP would be in the clear, but since it was done in front of Leea, (probably spelt wrong) who by the sound of the post did nothing wrong and undeservedly hurt her feelings yes, yes OP is the Bad Apple. Keep your disputes between you and the person it's with, dragging people who have almost nothing to do with it is unnecessary and just mean spirited. As an uncle I would NEVER tear one of my nieces or nephews down in front of the others especially if my issue is with their parents not them.

I like your take on story three. Love this series as you always get me thinking

My only thought for story #1 is wearing pajamas could be considered a sign of neglect, but only if it was a regular occurrence, since teachers are mandated reporters it would be something to take note of and if I was that child's teacher (depending on my relationship with the parents) I'd just mention it either in passing in a non-judgemental manner or bring it up to the Home/School Liason or an Admin if I was concerned. But I know how much people can read into comments and feel one way when that's absolutely not the case.

Ive been so excited for this all day 🧡

On story one, I agree for little kids, but in 5th grade I was being bullied at school (and my parents did not care), so I was stalling to not have to attend. My parents forced me to go to school in my pajamas, and my social life was wrecked until I was a junior and transferred schools.

With story 1 I totally agree. Children need to learn natural consequences of their actions. While they are young and something like that is not gonna hurt them, especially when they're 7 years old.

You are so good at this!!😊😊

Love the vids as soon as i saw the dot i clicked the vid Keep up the great work

As a pagan I have requested my friends blow out candles at my house (if they wanna be the one to do it before we leave) to apologize to the spirits for not snuffing it out. I keep it casual myself and just go “sorry!” In a whispered tone. Just our way of respecting the dead. Anyway they have always been super chill about it even my best friend who is catholic. She usually snuffs them out more than me at this point. My other friend says “my bad homies, next time”. All seem fine to me XD Weird side note, I know, just wanted to say religious or spiritual belief respect should go all the way around even if it sounds strange to you. Just like if someone said merry Christmas I would say it back, if they say grace at the table I always join in and pray, I have attended church ceremonies and bat mitzfahs for friends. Just be respectful if their beliefs are not hurting themselves or other people.

First story mom was the bad apple for judging dad for not enabling Elsie’s behavior.

Story #2: i disagree with you. He asked her not to repeat the warning and she still wouldn't stop. Going with the comparison about religion: imagine someone pushing their religion on you when you told them not to. His action in the cave and especially telling her are still very petty, so at least crab apple.

1) good apple 4) the mother has issues. She needs to stop forcing compliments from others for her daughter. She is clearly projecting her insecurities on her daughter. I would hope he spoke to the step niece and explained he was sorry he hurt her feelings and he didn't really think that but he is tired of her mother forcing compliments for her when anyone compliments the step sister. Sadly she got stuck in the middle and he didn't handle it well.

With story number one you shouldn’t typically show up to school in your pajamas, but when I was in school every year, there was a specific day design where student/staff could wear a pajamas to school co

Re: story 2- I’m really happy that you picked bad apple! I’m a miscellaneously spiritual person- idk what names to call my beliefs, I just kind of vibe and do what works. Some of them aren’t even specifically spiritual beliefs but just a different perspective on the world and universe (like Gaianism). One more “common” belief I have is the fae. It is a very commonly held belief that you should avoid thanking them because they may perceive that as you creating a power dynamic of sorts. It’s also common to say stuff like “don’t f*ck with the fae” or even, as in the story, “don’t thank the fae” or stuff like that. According to the mythology, they can range from actively malevolent, to mischievous, to helpful/good. OP’s colleague was almost certainly either giving them advice or like, just saying the equivalent of “don’t get arrested lol”- depends on how it was said. Either way it most likely came from a place of caring. And yeah, outright bashing and making fun of someone’s beliefs, especially if you’re not like good friends with them and it’s okay to do so (most of my friends are atheists from religious backgrounds, when I used to be very Catholic, we’d often have little debates because it was fun, but they were as willing to give as I was- the goal wasn’t conversion or making fun, just questioning ig). So OP telling her he did that was definitely a bad apple move. Especially for someone who genuinely believes the fae will smite him or smth. Poor woman probably hastily gave them an offering of apology on his behalf lol. (Saying lol because I’ve had to do this for myself after telling my Gaelic pagan friend I accidentally thanked the fae- they made me Just In Case haha). I don’t personally believe the fae are that… idk, picky? Especially about the word we use. As long as one is respectful. But, like I said, if my Gaelic pagan friend catches wind that I did something considered “careless” to them, they’ll get me to fix it for their own sanity, and I comply because it doesn’t hurt me any and who knows- they could be right- they know more than me on the topic haha. It’s so easy to be respectful of someone else’s beliefs and not rub it in their face if you’re not. Bad bad apple.

Whenever I get home on Tuesday and Thursdays im always soo excited for bad apple and podcast

4th story: I think it is the Mother that is doing the damage. If the mother is constantly demanding compliments for her daughter in front of her I can imagine how that is undermining her confidence and embarrassing her. I am glad her Aunt stood up for her.

the coworker in story #2 reminds me of Professor Trelawney from Harry Potter

How does the fairy story coworker know he thanked the fairies? Did he tell her? Because then, yeah, a bit of a jerk. Otherwise, no, he's fine, he was just trying to get out his frustration over her shoving her own beliefs in his face even after being asked to stop.

I think with the workplace liar (breakfast with Disney 15:03 ) story, it’s very reasonable to warn coworkers about someone who could potentially harm them. Like sure, why does it matter so much that someone lies about themself. Harmless, not completely but it doesn’t immediately affect you. However, if someone is pathologically lying to those around them, especially in a workplace setting, then how will those coworkers know if something is ever true? What if coworkers believe them to the point of their own detriment? Lies spiral. Once you start you don’t stop. And it’s so so very important to nip these things in the bud while it’s still small, like silly lies about self. Cause one day it won’t be silly and small. And letting them get away with it continually even if it is silly and in the grand scheme meaningless, gives them the green light to keep it up. That is not a coworker I would feel comfortable with and if they lie about nonsense, then I would never be able to trust that they wouldn’t lie to me about more important things.

For the fourth story my grandparents did this to my mom every time she got a compliment my grandma would bring up how great her brother was too even when he wasn’t there, and my mom was VERY used to it and didn’t see much of a problem…… until I was taking about a HUGE accomplishment that I achieved and my grandma brought up my cousin and interrupted me existedly I didn’t say anything and we had to go very soon after. In the car ride home BOTH my parents were furious and my mom spoke up on how bad that made her feel when she did that to her, but she couldn’t watch her do that to me too. For the story I think the stepsister could be causing trauma to Bri. This doesn’t excuse the fact that is HORRIBLE that he told a probably insecure teenager that she wasn’t pretty. However I see where he was coming from. Love❤❤❤ the bad apple series I’d love to know anyone’s opinion on this

Story 2 - I have a good amount of experience with that world. To some people, it is as serious as Orthodox Jews takes their religion. To others, it’s a curiosity. To others yet, they have a feeling there might be some truth to it but aren’t sure. It’s a huge spectrum. It sounds like OP’s coworker takes it very seriously. However, it also sounds like she was completely oblivious of how unwelcome her sharing of those beliefs was. I agree that OP could’ve stopped bringing up the cave, but I also think that the coworker should’ve stopped pushing her beliefs on others constantly. I think OP is a *crab apple* here because she was being too pushy and not respecting OP’s lack of interest in hearing about those beliefs repeatedly, but it was still kind of petty and disrespectful of OP.

I heard the first story and started dying in laughter because I was most definitely wearing pajamas to school tomorrow

Apple 2 is a good apple. Don’t tell someone not to do something they wouldn’t normally do anyway unless you want them to do it just to SPITE you

I wish I knew it was National Croissant Day earlier today. I've been to the store already. 😂

I just screamed it’s apple picking day out loud without thinking and spooked my dog 😅

Apple #1: I think it depends on the kid. If your kid is constantly refusing to put on daytime clothes, shower, wash their hair, brush their teeth, or do other things like that, it may be worth getting them evaluated for Sensory Processing Disorder. I had SPD and all those things were difficult as a kid because of the sensory experience, and memories of being forced to do them ended up being traumatic and backfiring. I would have loved to wear my jammies to school as a kid (and, honestly, as an adult, but I try not to lol!) because they’re so much softer and more sensory-friendly than regular clothes (especially scratchy clothes like jeans!). So make sure to consider the possibility, if that’s the situation.

Story Two: I would have just said bad apple if we were treating it as superstition, but if we’re treating it as her religion, then I have to say crabapple. Because here’s the thing, that is pushing her religion on him. He’s been respectful of her religion in the past. He even tried to say “Hey, I know you believe it, but that’s not my thing” and she wouldn’t stop reminding him. I’m disabled and I use a cane, and the number of times random people have taken that as an invitation to start praying for me or telling me my illness will be cured if I accept Jesus Christ into my heart is insane. Like I’m just trying to exist, I didn’t ask for that. The name of the cave is not his fault, and it’s ridiculous that he can’t even talk about going there without her trying to push her beliefs on him. Was he a bit of an ass for rubbing it in her face, yeah, but like, I get why. If you’re going to push your religion on other people who have said they weren’t interested, you don’t really get to be surprised when they push back. It’s not nice, but sometimes that’s what it takes. I personally wouldn’t have done it, and I think there were better ways, but I can’t really say bad apple, unless we’re saying bad batch Edit: The reason you don’t thank the fae is because they can then collect on that debt, which is sometimes very bad. But also, if you wanna meet a fae, it might be worth the risk. She didn’t explain why you don’t thank the fae, so that’s not really sharing the legend to me. That’s just being pushy.

As someone who used to be into the new age spiritualism, the coworker is taking it to an extreme, an argument could be made it's almost reaching the point of harassment.

My English teacher in 6th grade would alsways start the class by telling us the national thing that day and it was such a great memory you should totally start doing that!❤

So for the first story I think I'm gonna have to go crab apple and here is why. This is a very common thing that I have heard about from other stories as well as something that does happen in TV shows as well, keep in mind that I am from New Zealand and I watch a lot of American TV as well as just hearing a lot of stories from people online and things like that, I also don't have any kids of my own and the last time I was in school was quite awhile ago, but I think firstly it depends on a child's age and secondly depends on the kind of things you're trying to teach your kid it also depends on Mother and father I know it sounds a bit weird saying that, but I feel like fathers have this more approach of we're just gonna get in the car we're gonna do this I'm fed up I don't wanna deal with it where as mothers are a little bit more patient and it's not always that way but just based on hearing the story like I could tell immediately that this was a father and just by his wording I was like yeah that sounds like something my father might've done like it's a very fatherly thing to do whereas mothers are usually more sensitive about these things and so I can understand it from both perspectives where the mum would care especially since while her friends and a lot of nice parents aren't gonna care there are gonna be some parents who unfortunately will judge her which is really sad and again it depends on the type of school that the kid goes to and just the neighbourhood and all of that in general like there are a lot of factors but I'm going crabapple just cause I feel like the Dad could've handled it differently, just based on other stories like this that are similar which usually have children who are a little bit older so again the fact that this child is younger I don't really know if that changes things or not but for older kids like a kid who is maybe nine or 10 or someone going into middle school, it's a very common thing with parents especially fathers to trick the kid to try and get them more motivated like okay you can go to school in your pyjamas if you're gonna be late and then get them in the car and circle around the block and by the time they've done that they're like oh crap we're actually gonna go to school I don't want to and then the Dad drives back home and they quickly get ready for school and go so that's why I'm gonna go with crabapple because that's what I think he should've done but again the kid is seven and it depends on the school environment but kids can still get bullied from a young age I know I did so it's really hard to say, but yeah the reason I'm going cry is just because I think what the Dad should've done is something that I feel like most parents would do where you get the kid in the car you start up the driveway or start up the road drive for a little bit and then the kid obviously will realise oh we're actually gonna go to school I don't want to go to school my pyjamas and when that kid said I really don't wanna go to school my pyjamas I thought okay that must mean that the Dad is catching on and is gonna turn around and when he didn't turn around I was like well hold on now you're taking it too far like you should've turned around when the kid realised because that was them understanding and freaking out obviously yes this will teach them a lesson but if it was an older kid like I definitely think the father should've realised and turned around because that's just taking it too far like circle around the block once and then if the kids still wants to go to school and their pyjamas are still doesn't want to get changed then that's when you take them to school but you still do the driveway or block test first in my opinion but again that's just how I feel based on different experiences I've had from things I've seen as well as personal experiences I've had in primary school so those are just my thoughts, this sort of situation has never happened to me but I have had similar situation because I also have a disability and so I would tantrums and things like that as a child, but like I said I can see both points of view both the Mum and the Dad but I have to say crabapple just because I do think the Dad went too far with actually taking the kids to school, but again it is kind of hard to tell because the kid is only seven but since it is a little girl rather than a little boy there might also be an issue with that or it might depend on what kind of pyjamas the kid has there could be a lot of factors like I said so I think the safe option and just the best option or best thing that should've happened in my opinion was for the Dad to stop when the kids said I want to go home now and then turn the car around and actually go home I feel like the mother wouldn't have yelled at him she would've said oh yeah that was a good idea that was a good trick and then you can use that for later when the kids older as well so yeah that's why I'm going with crabapple that's how I feel and that's just my opinion on the situation.

First Apple, I think, if the kid felt ashamed, humiliated, etc. It was a bad apple. I think a better choice was gonna take hidden a pair of clothes on the car so she could change in the car, when she ask to go home

Story 2: my apple for him was crab apple because he told her multiple times to stop and sorry of this sounds rude but he never mentioned he was talking to her. I feel like we don't have all the info we need to fully decide. He could have been talking to a different coworker and then she comes out of nowhere and starts talking about to not say this. And he told her to stop telling him that multiple times. Im not saying i would have done the same thing but im saying she kept pushing after he said to stop and he just got back. Im not saying what he did was right either that's why my thing is crab apple, i most likely would have just stopped talking to the coworker if she kept disrespecting me if i asked her to stop telling me something. but I feel like we don't have the full story

#3: I had a friend that was like this. We were good enough friends (over 20 years of knowing each other) that I actually told him "Sidney, you're full of sh*t, but you're still my friend." He loved doing live action gaming (Vampire the Masquerade, Dungeons & Dragons, Star Trek and Star Wars fan groups, etc). He was good at it, but his imagination never stopped and didn't just stay confined to the gaming. He used the fake stories to build himself up (in his mind) in people's opinions. RIP Sidney.

I don't really feel like op on story #2 did anything wrong. I don't really have strong opinions but I go good apple 🤷🏻‍♂️ For #3, I go crab apple, I just didnt think op did anything so terrible. I just agree that yeah, gossiping about it would just be rude tbh but I don't think I could give them crab apple

it is SO MEAN to insult a 16 year old child becose you dont get on with her mother!

The uncle in the last story i feel is absolutely disgusting being that im the "step child" in my family i couldnt imagine being treated that way it just breaks my heart for that young lady if you have a problem with sister-in-law pull her aside and address the problem dont put your niece down (and yes im saying niece cause in my world there is no step or half there is just a whole family) teens already go through so much bad apple uncle and sister-in-law gets crab apple (i dont think she is being malicious she just need to know one can get compliments without the other)

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In my opinion apple 2 isn’t a bad apple. He is allowed to bring up his hobbies if it’s something that makes him excited, & he shouldn’t have to stop just because she keeps repeating something he finds annoying (he could ask her to stop) he’s also allowed to say what he said in the cave if he wants to-& even to let her know he said it. (If what she says is real the it’ll be useful to know that he did, so she knows what happened to him) She didn’t have to repeat the warning. One time is fine, then she has warned him. After that it just comes off as annoying or trying to force her beliefs on him (regardless of her intentions that’s how it will come off) while he’s just trying to discuss something he’s excited about. I say this as someone who believs in this kind of stuff to a degree. I have no proof that the fae are real or not, but from everything I know about them, it is not worth pissing them off or accidentally entering an agreement with them if they are real. So I agree with her warning, but if he wants to go ahead & do something potentially stupid then that’s on him, & doesn’t make him a bad apple; she has done her part in warning him. (However I will concede that while I believe in this stuff it is not my whole life like a religion, I live under the impression that what people do is on them, I don’t get upset about people judging me for it)

#2 was actually mental/emotional torment. He created an “unsafe workplace” in his coworkers mind. He is totally allowed to do everything else but like Rebecca said taking it back to the workplace is inappropriate and spiteful. Ruining her work day because he got annoyed. Rude.

#4 is so messed up! That girl is never going to forget her uncle essentially calling her ugly, that’s going to shatter her confidence. That’s a brain altering moment for sure. She’s going to need so much therapy to get over that now

1st story: I am an elementary teacher in a district that has a strict dress code. So PJs would be a write up, however I am assuming that isn't the case here since it wasn't mentioned, so I go good apple. 2nd story: The co worker is a bad apple for refusing to stop when another adult asked them to stop, I get OP was constantly bringing it up first, but OP was excited and probably wanted to share their hobby. So unless the co worker asked OP to stop talking about it, bad appoe. On to OP.... How did the coworker find out about you yelling in a cave? Were they there or was OP just being a butt head and bragging about it after the fact at work? Bad apple! 3rd story: WHO CARES!? Mind ya own dang business until it affects you. Bad apple! 4th: Oh. My. God. 🤦🏻‍♀🤦🏻‍♀🤦🏻‍♀🤦🏻‍♀ OP! No! No no no! You had me, you had me on board at the beginning, you shouldn't always have to give both of them a compliment. I completely understand if you were having a "private" conversation with Bria (sp?) about something she excells at, that doesn't then mean you have to side track and also compliment Leah. Where you lost me was here... "They were BOTH getting ready for a party." BOTH! Its in moments like that where YES, BOTH girls get a compliment. I don't care if you don't think Leah looked good or not, that was NOT the time to say that. There is NEVER a time to say something like that to family. Yes! I said family! She is your family! RUDE! I want everyone to know I wrote my opinions based on just the stories, not R. Roger's opinions. 😁

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Why did this particular episode of "Am I The Bad Apple" seem so bizarre? Oh well. The woman in her 50s who claimed to be having lunch with Walt Disney when she was 4 and 5...I don't necessarily think she's lying. I think she's not remembering well. I haven't been 5 years old since 1989 when I turned 6. I'm going to be 41 this year and I don't remember details from back that far. I think she might honestly have gotten to have lunch with someone somehow associated with Disney that her adult mind 50 years later or so falsely remembers the person to be Walt Disney. If the 🍎 in the story told me that the person I believed to be Walt Disney couldn't be because of death, I would try and contact family to find out the truth...I can't do this though because my entire family is dead. So that point is moot. I'm just saying that I'm not entirely convinced the woman is lying as much as she's remembering facts wrong. Before anyone says anything, yes, I know that she might just simply be lying. We only have the 🍎's personal perspective to go off of...now, if he actually confronted her and she doubled down on it, then yeah, ok. But that never happened in the story. Ok, there, that's my pace.

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Story 2: I can speak to this a bit. The coworker sounds Pagan. So, yes, you're probably looking at religious beliefs. (Although, her reaction does seem a bit dramatic to me for the Pagans I've met, so I could be wrong and she could just be really superstitious.) As for if he's the bad apple, it's kind of tough for me because part of me feels the same way when I encounter beliefs I find ridiculous. It's a fine line between respecting others beliefs and calling out BS and It's not super clear to me where we should land on that, especially when the beliefs feel detrimental to the person who holds them.

I think for story #4 this man was definitely the bad apple. Never, ever tell someone they are not beautiful.

#1 yea the school I used to go to, every day there were like 10 kids wearing pajamas, All. The. Time.

Story 3 is a little bit weird on OP's part but I do think it's possible for this lady to end up lying in some way that's actually going to hurt someone and so you do want to be cautious about that. If you see something like that happening then definitely say something. I mean if you just talking to a co-worker and you're like 'oh that lady stories she's so full of crap" that may be ok but definitely don't call her out to her face in front of everyone.

Story #4: It obvious that he doesn't consider Leah to be his niece, and that's his prerogative; you can't force family feelings on people. The problem is what he said. I can't imagine saying something like that in front of that girl - definitely a bad apple.

😂 story 1 is so damn relatable. I love in a country where the vast majority of schools have compulsory uniform and you can get pulled up for neglect if you don't make sure your child is in full, clean uniform. But I listened to this story while having my daily morning debate with my six year old, who gets up and dresses herself without issue (most days). Today She's feeling rebellious. I soo wish I could just send her in in her PJ's.

Is it bad that over the last two days I’ve binged am I a bad apple. I mean pretty sure I’ve watched all of them at this point

Didn’t know it was croissant day yesterday and unknowingly had a chocolate croissant 😋

I almost always agree with you, but I totally disagree with the first story. The kid is seven. They don't need a day of consequences for their actions. An alternative, would be to drive them to school in their pajamas, but bring school appropriate clothes to change into. 7 year olds throw tantrums. You should teach consequences, but like they are 7. Also,it could be traumatizing. She said I didn't have the energy to fight with her. This isn't a teenager. This is a kid. A seven year old. Sorry but bad apple. Mother good apple.

Wow! As soon as the words 'Leah's not gorgeous' were said, I already made up my mind! Bad apple!

As someone that is a wiccan and my mom is one as well I want to say something about story 2. With fae and fairies they aren't like us and they look at "thank you" as a way of you saying they did something nice and now you owe them. And fae are very Mischievous. And They can also bring pretty deadly things around if you attract the wrong fae. I know alot of people don't belive it but Honestly I think your coworker was just trying to make sure you stayed safe. However if they keep telling you not to do that it's kinda not right ether. That's your work place and your religious beliefs shoud not be rubbed into peoples faces. I've had people tell me how "I need to just belive in Jesus and pray" during work all the time and that's not ok. Them telling you that is also not okay. So I'm thinking crab for both party's in my opinion (btw sorry about any spelling or grammar errors I have dyslexia)

Man I love apples!! :D 1. Good apple, for sure. Both parents warned their daughter multiple times and she was selfish, inconveniencing everyone else and disturbing their routine. Going to school in PJs only once isn't the end of the world. If it were a common thing or she went in with bad hygiene or something along those lines that might indicate neglect, teachers might get involved, but that is not the case here and you have a good reason for what you did. Worst case scenario, the teachers assumed you ran out of time and/or didn't notice and accidentally forgot to get her dressed for school as a one-off event, but I promise they are much more concerned that she is present, fed, safe and healthy. 2. Bad apple. Religion or not, this is a belief, even if you only consider it a superstition. While you may not agree with her, that coworker was trying to offer you helpful advice. She was looking out for you. The REASON you don't call out the fae is because, especially in European tales, they are mischievous at best and outright dangerous in many stories. The bad apple portion comes in when you went out of your way to spit in the face of her well-meaning advice and her beliefs. You don't have to believe her, but you YELLED the one thing she told you not to say. How childish. 3. Bad apple. I get that she is lying, but I agree with Rebecca, it might just be because she is covering for what she considers a boring existence. I'm not saying she is in the right either but to make it your mission to turn the entire office against her is too much. Let your coworkers draw their own conclusions based on their experiences. 4. Bad apple. You and your sister-in-law. I see what she is trying to do, but this is not the way to accomplish it. Each girl should be recognized for their accomplishments. When you are forced to give a throwaway compliment to the other, it is disingenuous and insulting. Give compliments as they are earned. If her mother feels she is receiving less recognition from you or other family members, she needs to talk to you in private and have an adult discussion and perhaps, if you agree, you can look for more opportunities to offer compliments to the other. Regardless, telling a teenager girl to her face that she is not pretty just to prove a point to her mother is petty and hurtful and by doing so you have probably ruined any chance you may have previously had of building a relationship with either one of them.

You know, Mrs. Rogers...I just had a king cake with Nutella in it. Pretty good. I still prefer cream cheese and blueberry, but could be something to pick up on your way to Mardi Gras. ;)

In the Leah story she should have pulled the sister in law aside and let her know that she is setting her daughter up for disappointment if she continues to insist everyone praise her daughter when someone else is praised. It’s unrealistic.

Apple #1 I would have packed an extra pair of clothes

I have a narcissis mother and i was rasied by her only. Now as an adult im now realizing just how much she is toxic and its not always me that is the problem. I know have a major disability because of it. I cant get over it because she will never admit it. Now with my son shes the total opposite and projects her wrong parenting on me all while in denial how she rased me.

On the first story I was so confused and shocked until the story said ‘she wears normal clothes every other day’ because I have uniform schools and forgot others probably won’t. 😂

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