men need women MORE than we need them - reacting to golden bachelor tea 

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Wooow she is the best, bless her ♥️♥️🤗

Being single adds 50 years to your life.

Yeah I'm trying to be like grandma yall. At this point it would take the second coming of Jesus to entertain the idea of getting married and having children. My parents are my best friends and I'm good with that ❤

Anyone ever heard of many century old men?

The people that leave you for gaining weight even

​@@user-tx6lz7pm3yWhat is a man's excuse for having the stomach of a pregnant woman? Her excuse is that she is actually carrying a child.

Men aren't even loyal to their own male friends. How many times have we seen and heard the "I can't believe he slept with my girlfriend" stories.

​@@user-tx6lz7pm3yExcuse her for having a baby, hormones issues, etc. You, on the other hand, have no excuses for your obesity. You men do not have to deal with the bodily changes that a woman has to deal with on a regular basis.

Absolutely facts!!! I say this all the time. These guys Dnt even visit their homies In prison but will put on a show at their funeral n go hard for them when they around, messing up their home n everything for their homies.

Aww! There are some good ones but they are few and far between.

They don’t make them like that anymore ❤

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Periodddddt

When I come across comments like this, I tend to get into a conundrum about whether to give myself a (false) hope or not.

I don’t either. It’s exactly as you say and I’ve been close enough to death since childhood to know this and have even said it before. People get shocked and insulted when I’ve said the truth about death. They’re usually the ones that have little to no experience w it and have no idea what they’re talking about. Once it’s obvious to me they have no real experience w death I put them on ignore. They’ll find out soon enough for themselves ✌️

Yes, that. Also, you could die alone after literally decades of being a wife and mother. Men usually die first and adult children have their own lives. They may or may not be present with you as you lay dying. Most people die alone, even if they have lived full family lives before that. That's the crucial realisation here. In our dying moments all we have is ourselves (and God - if you believe in that) and we need to be okay with that.

Exactly!! I’m so glad we’re waking up bc they will take advantage of you

New spoiled girly here, how do we get them to value us, like what DO we have to do?

@@BuddhaMamaDramaSadly we can’t get them to do anything. We can only control ourselves. Value and love yourself and you won’t settle for anyone treating you for less than what you deserve. Once a dusty comes your way he will be repelled by your self-love. Him not recognizing your worth will make him repulsive to you quick. It may take a while to find a man who recognizes your worth, but in the meantime you will continue to grow, flourish and nurture amazing female relationships

@@magnarcreed3801 Not sure what you mean by “pull out the strap”, what is this “strap” and what do you mean by pulling it

​@@BuddhaMamaDramaYou shouldn't have to "get" a man to value you. If he doesn't value you from the jump then that's a problem. Move on to the next one until you find one who is worthy of YOU. Remember as a woman and spoiled girly - YOU are the prize, not them.

it's a man's world

THIS!!!!

This!!! At least having an inappropriate emotional relationship at work. At 👏🏻the👏🏻least👏🏻

Absolutely!! No way you’re moving in a stranger after 30 days.there was definitely something going on before his wife past. He could at least have been respectful enough to have waited moving her in. Men are gross

Some people move really fast, especially if they feel like they are "too old to wait". It's a game, find a replacement as soon as you can so you can go back to your norm schedule.

​​@@o_oLISSo_omy aunt died a varient of covid and she suffered really bad.After 1 hour of her passing away he told his children that he want to get married and searched for women.Unfortunely this is happening.They don't need to date a women before their wife's alive.They can find a woman after their wife's death.And I was thinking they are lovely couple.I lost my hope for love after that.

this is what i was saying as soon as she said the new woman worked with him.

I also don’t feel much sympathy for men. And I’ve also been hurt a lot by men.

So many stories of low value men leaving their wives when they are sick, you even hear it from the nurses. So horrible i’m sorry, karma will do her job

found someone from an app found out he has a kid found some pics of his wife and it seems like she had gained weight maybe after having the kid idk how i feel about this person i asked him he says he is not married but the recent pic with her is in august soo what do u advise?

Yup. Happened to my good friend. She found out while battling breast cancer.

​@@aena5995 wdym you don't know how to feel abt them lol if that attracts you, go for it. Like attracts like.

yup

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So basically they want a slave.

Yes, bingo

That's why they love dogs and hate cats

Exactly. They ask what women bring to the table. As if men are Evangelical angels who marry women for charity. Most men don’t meet the needs of the average woman. Whereas most women meet all the needs of a man.

And it always about cooking or cleaning. Never about love, companionshio, friendship etc.

​@@rowantic6539You should listen to Princella.

That question is reverse psychology. It's women who select their mate based on what he brings to the table. That question is a 🛑 flag.

Exactly!!

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😂😂😂😂. I love it

nice! xDD

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yup

Exactly

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Also sometimes he's fooling around with a cheating woman too... so you won't necessarily see them out together, he might even say he's single but he's not really alone

@@Blazecfc deflection doesn't solve the problem though? Pointing out the blame in others is important thanks👍, but not as a response to direct questioning where an individual person is accountable.

@@MELLMAO what in the world? That's evil.

Male loneliness is a natural consequence of male behavior. Women walked away because we didn't want to deal with them.

You know what's so funny you guys are the same people cussing out men for not being feminist or supporting women you guys acting like women are pure news flash women don't support other women either stop act like all men does this

@@Player-kq6fd keep crying, moid

​@@Player-kq6fd We support each other more than men support us, that's for damn sure. We would have never made it this far if we didn't support each other. It would only benefit men if we were to remain insecure and unsure of ourselves because we're easier to control in that state. That is why we tear ourselves and each other down and can be judgemental and cruel. The patriarchy has pitted women against each other to depreciate us, so we compete for scraps of male validation and bare minimum treatment. It's like a type of self-assured destruction that makes us lower ourselves and believe that men are a prize, a limited resource, that we fear we will not be fulfilled without. Once we build each other up and fulfill ourselves, we realize the lies we've been force fed and that we don't need men that want us to be lesser, men who don't want us to know our true worth and capabilities so we stay under their thumb. We're simply not putting up with men's bullshit anymore and more men are lonely because of it. We're not cussing men out to be feminists anymore because that doesn't work. Now we're showing them that certain behaviors are unacceptable by walking away and they'll have to change if they want to keep up. The ones who complain and blame us for leaving don't see the problem or choose not to fix it, so they get abandoned to wallow in their bitterness. Not every man is terrible of course, there are some great ones, but keep in mind they've had the most power throughout history and they got us into this mess. They created and perpetuated this system to only benefit them and now it's crushing them in an ironic turn of events. They have the choice to break the mould, to progress with women in a healthy, respectful way that benefits everyone, or they'll be alone. Simple.

​@@crystaleunoia3974That's literally not true. Women's greatest enemy is another women😂😂😂

It’s worse. Some men stay with their girlfriends and wives just because she is his personal maid, give birth to his kids and is a nanny to his kids.... Yet they still want a 50/50 relationship.

I'm actually not surprised. A lot of men are with women they'd drop in a millisecond for someone they like better given the chance. The only thing missing is opportunity. Discernment is so important. A lot of relationships are purely based on convenience because there's no one better on Google maps.

This is why I stopped dealing with men. It’s no use dealing with things that parasyte you, you waste your efforts on, and LIE

I hope he does leave her so she Dnt have to suffer from this scum bag.

I hope he does leave her. She needs a better chance and a life lesson. Ew.

They move on quickly because they didn’t suffer like the women they dumped on. I hope your mom heals n finds whtever makes her feel happy. It’s not her fault she depleted.

😢 It's the same with my parents, my mum is still having night terrors to this day even though they've been divorced for over 20 years. The mental, emotional, and physical abuse all the way from start to finish, was just too much.

Your parents sound like mine. My dad is onto his 4th marriage while my mom (1st wife) remained single, spending decades in grief and eventual death. When she died, he refused to say a single word of condolence even to me. Some men are complete pieces of sh*t.

very true. very true. I say this all the time. @@tarahill308 Men have nothing to heal from. So they move in to find someone to use.

The men are creating the trauma.

This is so relatable !!! I always give the men I date a pre-warning that I will legit change their life with no effort on my part AND THEY NEVER BELIEVE ME. That is until they notice (once things have ended) how much better their life has gotten by me simply being with them. I'm talking new jobs, career changes, spiritual awakenings, the list is exhausting. We're raising sons out here girlies!

​@@Anekabloomshow do you change their lives? I would love to hear about your experiences

@@Anekabloomsyea same! From new experiences and new perspectives. From washing with better quality soap to taking an art class or having more confidence. What women bring to the table is invaluable and intangible.

Absolutely 🔥🔥🙌🏼

could you please share the link to the meme because that’s so true honestly. i see relationships as a vehicle to spiritual awakening.

Awe yea!! 🎉

A woman of culture, I see

@@drewyetti are you a spoiled girly? No. The whole internet is your rant space, please let this be our corner sir thank you 💕

Your bestie needs to wake up

@@caroliinec yeah, she took advantage of the situation. we were friends at the time, but I've definitely grown. you live and learn.

I understand furnishing the apartment but why would you want to go on trips with an 80 year old?

@@frankturner316 Thinking back, my friend was spoiled by her dad. I think she definitely had daddy issues. lol

Right n they the same ones who find out later, they only good as a check to younger women. It’s no way they can fully please a younger woman who requires things they can’t provide in old age. Even if they pay for it, money goes quick as it’s spent. It’s not enough money to keep a young woman fully happy.

That‘s a prime example of gaslighting. You’re losing absolutely nothing. Good job for leaving that dbag.

your life will be so mcu easier without men, belive me they suck the soul out of you

You are choosing freedom

Solitude for us girlies 💕

Good thing there are literally *billions* of men in the world. *Billions*, my angel, don't doubt for even one second that there is an uncountable number of men who can and will do better than he did, for you. I am confident your ex wouldn't make the top 20% if compared globally to all men alive and eligible right now. For a start, real gentlemen don't speak down on women, especially not ones who have given their love, trust, and time to them.

​@@FandiumNo the woman was Asian. I just can't remember her info.

Sounds similar to what George Lopez did

One thing I’m not gonna teach my daughter is to be overly “caring”. You are raising a big plumpy blood vessel for every leech in the world when you enforce that in a young lady .

​@@lalaland7961true we are naturally caring but we should divert our energy to things that actually benefit from our love, children, orphans, animals, elderly, nature, not a man or men, they will chew u up and spit you back out and do it all over again if you let them and they will happily 🙄

yes she is a Christian so when her boyfriend cheated on her she forgave him and wanted to keep the relationship but he ended up dumping her

But why aren’t these men being raised to be just basic decent humans and pick up after themselves? Like, I don’t get it 🤷🏼‍♀️

@@nikkiedwards7436 Couldn't say for all of them, but for sure there's a bunch that were failed by parents who didn't bother to teach them to be self-sufficient in life (mommy issues, having households that had strong emphasis on "traditional" roles...). There's probably more than a few that are on the Narcissistic Personality Disorder spectrum who think doing anything domestic is "beneath" them, so they get married just so they don't have to and/or justify not doing it because they "work outside of the house." All I know for sure is I spent ten years coddling one of these backaches and the day he left, my life even as a single parent of two young kids, got easier and a hell of a lot cheaper. LOL

Seeing these videos makes me glad I'm a lazy wife. We both work ft and split childcare 50/50. He deals with laundry and the kitchen, I do the bathroom etc. I try to tell young women who do not listen to me, do not do everything when you move in with them. Create a schedule and go on strike if you need to. Don't be afraid to tell him straight that you aren't his mother

You know when they say average, they mean combined high and low? I think it’s more than that bc women have said they’d housers, reduced by 50% without a man

​@@nikkiedwards7436because they know that their wife will do these chores so why bother??Women shouldn't tolerate this behavior.They need to divorce these man.

The reason is that men are less likely to go to a doctor for help for themselves unless a woman tells them. While a woman just goes herself and does not need anyone to tell them.

Women’s genes aren’t superior. Men and women are biologically different and serve varying functions. Comparing the genders is like asking “apples or oranges?” There’s no superiority here, we’re built to fulfill what the other lacks.

YES!

No, it isn't just genes, it's that we put in the WORK to care for ourselves, to invest time in relationships, and those are not only romantic, is also our family, sisters, brothers, parents, friends etc. It takes WORK, and we're doing it for ourselves and, apparently women who are in romantic relationships also do the work for their partner

​@@stephaniecobian725I almost agree with this. If we spent our time trying to fill in what our partners lack, we'd wear ourselves thin. I'd say it's more about finding someone who compliments us and us them.

I mean.. the least you can do is just say hey “My brother is a bit of a player” and leave the rest to them to decide…

@@myronbourne6937 please keep that energy when the same thing happens to you own daughter 😌

Ditto except I’m painfully aware of how my autism effects my ability to read intentions so I’m not even taking that risk or would if I wasn’t because it just doesn’t even seem worth it. I don’t want to end up getting hurt and seeking emotional support only to get told I should have “chose better”. Well I am choosing better I’m choosing the one person I can guarantee won’t hurt me. If red pillers are going to claim all men cheat then I’m never choosing a man I’m choosing myself because I’m not going to tolerate that kind of mistreatment on principle even if it means dying all alone.

i get that! But u don't have to die alone, pets are such great companions and they have so much love to give. My dog is my best friend tbh @@laurennelson3918

Same 💜

Me too. I would have prioritised myself over any men.

Same here. I will be prioritizing myself from now on though.

What kind of people were encouraging him to sleep around? His male friends I bet?

That’s so sweet though- I really feel for spouses of any person who decide not to date/ have flings either out of respect for their passed loved one, or just lack of interest because they loved their partner so so much to ever look at anyone again

@@hellohell7773 I wouldn’t mind my SO dating after my death. But it has to be a decent time after my passing. Like, holy crap. Waiting a month only is just disrespectful.

@sensimania It was his friends they thought now that my mother was dead that he should sleep around cause he had the freedom too and to help with his grief cause ‘men need sex’ 😑

​@@addaiboakye4324Lord......and then women are meant to be the unpaid SWs and therapists to help them through their grief. Princella is so right.

😂😂😂😂 this comment is funny

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Very true. This is why it is important for wives to build their own personal brand aside from the husband and family. Majority of wives are not respected by the man's family.

It is like we are not even people in their eyes.. but objects. *Shivers*

I watches a tv show recently on a camping in France. There was guy with his kids who was down and they asked what was wrong. He told that this was his first time here with his kids Aline as his wife died three months ago. They asked a bit more and at the end he says his goal is to be there next year with his new girlfriend. And away went my sympathy.

I hope her Spirit is haunting him in their old house.

​@@rowantic6539wow. His wife was simply a free maid/nanny to him. So glad women are waking up and putting themselves first because this male behavior is completely unacceptable.

wait so you just want him to be alone for the rest of his life? if he never cheated who are you to determine how he grieves and continues with life?

Aweee. You stole your kitty and ran. Good on you beauty. Peace❤❤❤❤

😂Well done. I'm proud of you. You did exactly what I would of done. Hope you blocked him on top and told everyone about his behavior

@@LogarAcc I’ve always been a romantic tbh. It wasn’t too long ago that I was a little girl that wanted to meet her Prince Charming. I love the idea of love. That relationship definitely ruined that childlike perspective of love for me. The rose tinted glasses are gone and I dunno if I’ll ever be able to trust someone again tbh.

I’m a lawyer and say that legal marriage gives you protection. The court has long known the value of women’s labor, childcare, etc. and will at least monetarily compensate you for at LEAST half of your contribution to the marriage. Men who complain about women getting 50% of “their” assets don’t understand that women are contributing to their success and the household business. I think it’s funny that conservatives don’t you want people to move in together first but I think it’s totally legitimate to see how you’re going to be treated in the home. A good indicator is whether the man even takes care of himself while you’re dating (does he clean up after himself? Cook for himself? Do his laundry?) that’s when those 7+ hours of household labor come into play. Legit, that’s a whole workday of unpaid labor.

@@LogarAccit is. It’s a Patriachal slave contract that was and is not DIVINELY FEMININE. Companionship ? Maybe.

Everything you have said I have experienced in my friendship circle. The dillusion of mothers and grandmothers who think their Son's really love them. They never do. Yet these Grandmothers daily asking "how is my Son". The part where you said "they would say thank you". That part made me laugh. They are never grateful. I had to withdraw from caring for my Great-aunt. I had done it for years. I found out that I wouldn't be compensated for none of my care. The will had her two sons name. Meanwhile they had not visited her in five years. It is funny that even other Women do not value the labour of other women. I was told I should be caring for her because I loved her. But when you love someone you should want them rewarded. I haven't seen her in three years. They put her in a home. She lost her sight and can not walk now. Men are hedious and selfish.

@@millieconsultancy Yup. It's so disheartening. You take care of the women in the family, but still, they can only think about the sons and husbands, who are doing nothing for them. It's so ingrained in the culture to favor men. I'm glad that we[women] are rapidly deprogramming ourselves from that. The next generations won't be like that.

Those moments are tough: having to tell them that the sons that they love aren't going to be there for them. Men really do look at women as servants. Men want to be taken care of by women, but they won't take care of women. So many men neglect their partners when she's sick, but will want all of her attention and labor when they're sick.

As a man I will admit, we hate being single. Men need women. Women don’t need men.

Plus, cats are the bomb! They are like the channel host, only going to give attention and affection when it’s been earned

Omg this, I relate to you deeply! I'm in my later 20s, my father still expects me to prioritise his tasks over mine. We are setting boundaries and saying 'That is NOT my task'.

You go girl!

Older women tell me I’m the prize n I understand.

Same here.

Hehe me too ! 17 gangg 🎉❤ are u also from India ?

@@caira752 yup!

I am so happy for young ladies these days - because you have internet and besties like Elle - I wish I had someone who could explain "life" to me when I was a teenager ;) ... keep on shinning and thriving ladies - no matter the age

Oh my gosh good luck on your exam and congratulations for ending those relationships

We are all so happy for you, please don't make the same mistakes that we did.

Ikr! It took me 3yrs to start feeling like myself again after losing a loved one. Albeit, it was a parent that I lost (so, obviously a different type of relationship), but a loved one nonetheless.

Keep rocking it Bianca, you're worth a thousand gems ! Wishing you the best on your journey 💜💜💜

That’s infuriating. How did it all pan out if you don’t mind me asking?

I luckily was already a good student so I worked the next few years to get into college and leave town. He would continue his dark triad abusive behavior (a different woman was in the picture who also didn’t like us) until I went no contact when I was 27. That’s when I found out my mom had secured a fund for us- however her family let him manage it and he had liquidated it. When he died there was no mention at his funeral that he even had children- he had remarried and we were never allowed back into the house to get our things. 🙃 In my early 30s I found great resources after the no contact to get CPTSD therapy including EMDR. It’s been 26 years since my mom passed and I am so grateful we have this type of online community where we can inform and support! I am doing great however would never wish my experience upon anyone. 🩷

@@bodaciousmoI feel so incredibly sorry reading your message. I can’t say anything except that women need to do better. If not for ourselves, it should be for our children. And by better I don’t mean more house chores but smarter decisions. ❤

That was baffling to me, as my ex cheated on me, I reached out to the other woman who didn't know about me and I naively thought she would dump him for his lies XD instead she made me the enemy for telling the truth. I lost faith in my kin that day. I could never :( I'd feel disgusted with myself for not honoring myself and disgusted with the guy, not feel like I won any prize. But those women do, for some twisted reason.

Women always believe they are the special one.

@@letym2271 I hope you at in a better place dear and with better people 💖 it's unfortunate but I think there's still a long way for all of us women collectively to move away from this patriarchy mindset.

Keep sharing 🎉

Same. She popped into universe this week.

@Nananana09174 can you go and live on your own?

yes, true..very relatable 🎯

@Nananana09174 He wasn’t sincere and didn’t respect you if he cheated on you. You need to realize your worth and raise your self esteem. Stay single for a while to heal and ground yourself.

@@myronbourne6937 that's exactly your problem--you see women only as objects to use, to get something from, and not as people.

@@myronbourne6937Then go out and “buy” it and stop b*tching to us about it.

It’s true. Men need women but women don’t need men. Men know it, but most won’t admit it. As men, we hate being single but most single women I know have been single for years and are loving it. As men, we owe our existence to women. Without women, men are nothing.

Unfortunately, your story is not uncommon. I'm extremely glad that you're not putting up with it anymore though. Live a long and happy life! Rebuilt yourself to have confidence and high self-esteem. Get peace in your life, then don't let anyone disrupt that peace.

As a dancer I can confirm this !!!!

Omg 😳

I fully believe this!

that's not surprising

Men are so quick to try to convince you to move in with them and all it’s very weird . I always tell guys I’m not interested in dating and I’m practicing celibacy. That’s how I get them to leave me alone

@Fortifier1021 I have a wife so you’re right

@Fortifier1021I could never imagine treating my spouse the way some men treat their wives. It’s disgusting and women can do better . Making money and working is freedom for women to date who they are actually attracted to and happy with. Gone are the days where women needed men for essential survival. No more abuse and domestic slavery with little to no cooperation from men. No more unpaid labor and indentured servitude. DO EVERYTHING YOURSELF!!!

@Fortifier1021 are you aware that idgaf about you?

As a woman in my thirties I can just say: for God's sake listen to Elle! I wish I had this kind of content in my teens. Would have spared me a lot of pain.

I’m about to turn 31 and wish I had heard this straight at a younger age. I knew that women were getting screwed over, I just didn’t know exactly how to navigate that. I’m married to a wonderful man and I’m glad I held out a LOOONG time for him. It’s worth it. Never settle.

I am 19 too and never have I even touched a girl coz am focused at building myself first

I am 22 and I never had sex with a man before, even though I am legal so don't feel bad about it. And despite having my first kiss at 15, it felt rushed and weird for me.

Yea how are we supposed to pick better if a whole team of producers with all their resources couldn't vet this dude? Its too much efort.

​@@stucker3188either they knew or were just lazy af. One LinkedIn search and they found out the details of his "restaurant"

​@Fandium for you lol 😆

As a man I will admit, we hate being single. Men need women. Women don’t need men.

@@MrJavaman5 thank you for being honest. I already knew that but to hear that coming from a man literally proves my point

Most men won’t admit it but it’s true. I know so many women who have been single for years that are having the time of their life. Single men, including myself, are chasing after women. After a divorce or death of a spouse, a lot of women will remain single. Most men will quickly look for another woman to make his wife after a divorce or death of a spouse.

@@MrJavaman5 I know yeah men do this a lot of the time to fill a void and I think because society puts pressure on them making them thinking that’s the next step to take to find someone to settle down with and have children with. But so many men project their insecurities onto women especially when they see that a woman is content with being alone and doesn’t want kids. When there is nothing wrong with that but toxic men will project their insecurities onto that woman. Thanks for admitting it tho you backed up what I’ve been saying for the longest time