Mistakes Men Make In Relationships - R Spot mail 

No one's fault & everyone's responsibility. I love that.

A lot of people rely on their physical, human self and not on their spiritual self. So so true! Thank you Ms. Iyanla!

It's really difficult to be in a relationship with a man who is unable to admit his fears and faults. It's even more difficult to try and ride that out, in hopes that he will get passed them, as he incessantly blames and projects onto you. Constantly being on the defensive in a relationship is very damaging to the spirit. Women cannot continue to be held responsible for the imbalance that this behavior brings to a relationship, nor can we continue to be expected to mitigate it. Yes... I've had some bad run-ins! Can you tell? LOL

Yessss!!Truth!!👏👏👏 Tell me the truth and let me decide if I want to stay or go...It may hurt but I would respect him more for keeping it 💯.😊😊

Thank you Iyanla. " love people enough and respect them enough to tell them the truth".

A solid spiritual foundation is very crucial

Yaaassss! 1) Fail to tell the truth 2) Mask insecurities, hide inadequacies 3) Limiting or denying spiritual self I also have performed these behaviors

Your response to the woman was EXCELENT! Numbers 1 and 2, most women eventually figure out. Number 3, is something I've never heard anyone say before. It "blew me away"! This is what BM should be telling other BM. It's what fathers should be telling their sons. This advice is the best ever. I only hope men accept it.

OMG.. I understand completely. I love her so much, I love how she gets it and breaks it down.

I love this woman's wisdom!!! She is so on point!!! 💕

I needed to hear this. Thank you so much. My ex fiancé told me "I acknowledge God but I have to do what I have to do." It ended because there was no forgiveness, no communication, or sacrifice.

You hit the nail on the head with that 3rd one. God and spirituality provide you with a set of principles from which accountability stems from. Such a major point. Plus you don't have to wait for him to tell you, you can SEE it by the way he lives his life. Ego-centered or grounded in God? Thanks Iyanla!

from a man... i agree with everything u mentioned my dear Iyanla

Iyanla you are soo on it! I find all of what you said deeply helpful in allowing me to locate within myself how those shortcomings mentioned affect my relationships with others. And vice versa. Clarity and critical awareness helps us in choosing to break patterns! Thank you!

Truth A spiritual foundation is very important

This woman is amazing!! full of knowledge, spot on everything she says is nothing short of the TRUTH !

Thanks Iyanla! I also think a lot of men are busy riding their ego ( I believe you did mention the ego ) and they are not humble. A lot could be worked through if they had more humility. I suppose that can go for both sexes but the man supposed to take the lead as the head but they are too busy being proud and defensive. Shame really.

Wooooooooo Iyanla always leaves nothing left but to speak the truth, amen!

Thank you for answering my questions! I am so relieved watching this video! 🙏😍

Spiritual foundation is important because man is connected to God and if he’s not connected to God he’s going to make his own rules and regulations

Thank you for your spiritual wisdom. You have a well balanced and realistic out look. You are absolutely spot on!

I love every word of this, Miss Iyanla ❤️

Greatly Stated Beloved. I Love Who You Are and What You Do For Others.

Beautifully said! So true and diving deep. It is a pleasure to listen to you. Much love and blessings to you, beautiful soul! 💗💗💗

yes, yes & yes! Preach Iyanla... So love her! She keeps it 💯

Humility(or lack of) is basically what she's talking about

Beautifully Said...You are such an inspiration!

this is so powerful! thanks so much....

so true.. thank you iyanla... spiritual practice & connection is so imperative

AMEN!!!! You totally NAILED it!

Truth can be very elusive when people treat it like it doesn't exist or matter...I truly enjoyed this...you break things down so we may all be able to process and digest the amount of information provided... Namaste...Blessings

Wow!!! I was just pondering over the ego this morning and arrived at the same conclusion. Profundity!!!

Thank you Iyanla! You're a wonderful help 💗

This is so ‘spot on’ and relevant. I had to subscribe

Accountability is high for all. Spiritual accountability is even higher.

Oh oooh...my Iyanla. You hit it right on the head. I believe #3 is of the utmost importance.

WOW !! You spoke nothing but the Whole truth !

As always, thank you!

loved this!!THANKS

You couldn't have said it any better..thank you for giving us the confirmations and guidance needed🌍💚💚💙👼👼

thank you Iyanla.. you're doing amazing job... my relationships are better because I always try to do what you say.. God bless you....

Thank you for the knowledge! It helps a lot to share with our your generation now at crossroads

well my blessed dear sister, once again your discernment triumphed and edified my heart and mind ; as the Lord continues to funnel down knowledge to and through you to open up closed minds and to educate-empower your disciples and others that we may learn a new technique of communication to our partners by way of creating understanding in order to maximise a peaceful harmonious loving relationship. Iyanla vanzant I have been your biggest fan and I hope to meet you one day. Your wisdom has brought me out of many valley experiences and has empowered me on so many levels, I am still evolving, but thank God I am not were I was emotionally and I am grateful for the spurts of wisdom from these seasonal people such as yourself and Professor Kenshasa Shabaka. Thank you❤❤❤

Watched this four times. You. Are. Awesome.

lady lady thank God for your wisdom,love and knowledge.

Both are so helpful. Thank you.

Amen!!!! you just gave me a grand idea on how to work on our relationship

Very correct.Very true . 👏 Wonderful

Ms. Iyalna you are speaking truth nothing but. I love it thank you for sharing

Telling the truth also goes for women as well. But this was a great video nonetheless

So profound my sister......

BAM! Tell it, completely agree !

Your so good, you know just what to say and how to say it thank you

U r truly a gift from above may u b forever n ever blessed!

they fail to tell the truth Men attempt to hide their feelings or experiences of inadequacy and insecurity with acting tough,they talk rough,they talk loud and avoid difficulties,they blame and project and they make you wrong very often because they are afraid to say; iam scared,i cant,i dont know how.The real does not cover up his weaknesses Limiting and denying his spiritual self,while attempting to rely totally on his physical and his human self

You are so good at what u do, I speak blessing unto.

Oh, you just described my covert narcissist ex. I had to leave, I'm devastated. I'm an empath and learned the hard way about narcissism and the attraction to empaths. I learned pushing back, standing up for myself fueled him. I wasn't hard boundaried. I have a lot of healing of trauma to do. He doesn't have any spiritual practice you said they will turn to their ego without it. It makes so much sense now. The hurt..oh my. :(

Your information was useful to me in owning up to yet another gaffe. Very useful tips. Many thanks.

Third was the first to me. I love you Iyanla yes it helps.

thank you so much. I have been in doubt for years now but thank God I understood u well. At least my doubt is now clear

Every man needs to see this 💯🙌🙏💜

Wow Iyanla, fantastic and balanced assessment and input🍬🙏🏽🦋🍇❤️👑

Amen you are so right love!

Girl, 2 snaps for your advice. So true... we go in too blindly

Loving that hair do. Your the best.

Yes, Yes, Yes to all 3. Sound advice. Remain bless my sister 🤗

Loved this video....it's relatable.

This was very well stated.

Wow! Wow! Wow!..sooo true. Thankyou for that fact. I could listen 2 u all day. God bless u🙏❤

I would have to disagree with the criticism you received as well. You are as brilliant as you are charismatic. Thank you for imparting your wisdom. I totally agree with what you've said in this installment. I especially like what you said about our fear. I personally believe that true courage is not the absence of fear but the will to overcome it.

This is great stuff I wish I saw this earlier on it would've helped me with my marriage!

inspirational thank you I needed to hear and see this video . because I was going through this with my inner self.. known the decision an it's my decision to deal with my other half .. thank you iyanla Vanzant

Always on point Ms. Iyanla💯

Ooooh yasssssss i agree with Iyanla 100% a man with no spiritual foundation becomes dangerous i so agree with her on all 3

Thank you, Ms. Iyanla.

Yes the truth Hurts but let it out let me know i will decide what next

100% on point!!!!!

love this

I love this

Halleluyah this was solid advice the rest will come together

You’re a certified Badass. #3 was heavy

love this topic & the one about women. both can be used interchangeably.

thank you!!

This was is very good. Agree with everything she said.

Thank You

Wow love this lady!💙💜❤she keeps us to keep a strong foundation for our selves as the women we r to be strong . and to take on our own stuff and to face our own fears not others or pin it off on others. I just hope that one day the man that deal with this type of inner personal stuff and setvthere pride to aside and deal with it . and that a men will overcome it .and become Kings and put on that crown and deal with it in a good spiritual foundation that he makes for them self . thank you so much for this !👍👍👍❤💜💙❤

SOOOOOOOOOO TRUE. WOW. AMAZING

Thank You.

As always-preach!

Beautiful.

I STRONG AGREE!!

loved your 3 . I've watched your show from time to time.why or what got you into helping others on tv. so many of use have a very hard time trust and not deing judged by being honest. I wanted to thank you for all your wonderful advice you give many around the world.god bless and stay blessed in side.d

wish I had someone like u as my friend, already praying 4 it ;)

Thank you Iyanla. I️ struggle deeply with number 1. I️ was raised by an unloving Father that I️ was afraid to tell the truth to for very valid reasons. I️ then married a woman very similar to him... brilliant! It reinforced that I️ was “never good enough.” It’s so entrenched. She always beat me down emotionally and had to “keep me in my place.” She had at least three long term affairs. I️ am now divorced. My faith got me through it. I’m closer to God than ever. However I️ struggle to trust people. I️ have a woman in my life I️ love deeply. She loves me for who I️ truly am. She pushes me to always be open and honest. I️ want to be. I️ still struggle though. I️ don’t want to be this way. I️ pray. I️ try. I️ still find myself terrified to upset her. In my core I’m terrified she won’t like me or love me if I️ tell the truth. I️ haven’t done anything large to lie about. I️ tend to omit things, or polish the truth. What do I️ do??? Help! I️ love her and want to be the best man I️ can be for her. She’s amazing.

Bless you 🙏 ♥

HEAR, HEAR, YLANLA, VERY WELL SAID!!!!!!!!

thank you for that 😚

I love this Woman

I totally agree!

Amen Iyanla!🙌🙌🙌