Mistakes People Make After No Contact 

There is no such thing as 30 day no contact. The thing is that you need to go no contact as much as it takes (until they reach out to you).

7 days no contact, it feels like forever but needs to keep going! Despite that suffer i actually enjoy my single life honestly, but yah it's hard bcs i miss him everyday...

Great video as always guys! I decided to walk away forever and wait for him to reach out. Until the universe decided differently. I saw him passing by in his car eventhough he lives over 1.5 hour away from here. I reached out and I was able to tell him how life has been. He said things like how I'm not complaining anymore and that I'm doing the things again that made him fall for me in the first place. I said I'm so happy with my life at the moment. And it's true! Later I sent him a funny video he didn't reply on. That's when I knew eventhough I changed so much he still thought he had the power over me. The last thing I need to change. So I decided to go full no contact. He reached out twice, and for the first time in months he won't get a reply from me. He loved the alfa woman I was, well, here she is. I'm 10 months down the process and only now I am able to really stand up for myself. And in this case that is by saying nothing at all :)

I must admit I think you guys give halfway decent to advice on your channel. Thank you.

Hey coaches appreciate the videos once again! I have gone quiet on my ex as she started a new relationship almost immediately as we broke up with her bestfriends brother. I have been doing everything for me, mentally and physically, I'm in a very good place and feel great. My ex is one of those people who tests. A question I have I do want my ex back not because I'm seeking love and happiness, but I know the changes I can do to create something special. She mentioned to me weeks ago "I'm happy that you have moved on" I don't know if she meant this or not. I'm in no rush at all as I'm a very patient guy. I'm at the stage now or very close to reestablishing contact with my ex as I now feel great and confident about it.

Thank you!

Thank you for your words❤

Oh and also she shows alot of pride to even try

Literally the scariest opening to any LATV video! lol

so its the vibe that people bring outwards, how they present themselves to this new interaction.

Dear Coach Adrian & Members of Love advice TV. Thank you for sharing your very valuable in sights. It definitely makes our life a lot better. I feel ashamed but I have to admit that I am a wreck ( emotionally/ mentally) if i dont speak to my ex, when i do i feel a lot better. I want to break this pattern. How can I do it?

I was in a 3-year on-again-off-again relationship and we broke up 3 weeks ago. I begged and pleaded during the break up but I stopped and went into no contact the day after. I did not go radiosilent but since we have responsibilities we can't not talk about, I would only talk to him about the things that matter (our kid) then go into no contact. I did not reach out to him for a few weeks. During no contact, I started doing new things, I tried painting, started working out, working in my confidence and self love. At first it was hard but I got used to it until I stopped thinking about him. Yesterday (which is my birthday), we happened to accidentally see each other at the mall and he invited me for lunch together. I agreed, NOT because I want to "date" him but it was because I was feeling better, positive and I saw nothing wrong since he invited me first. We had a good time, he kept asking me "hey, do you have a new boyfriend now?", "you look really good", "did you cut your hair?", "what are you up to recently?", "who took your instagrm photos?", "where was that taken?" things like that. When the day ended, I went home to a text from him thanking me for coming to eat with him. It's pretty obvious that no contact worked for both of us, my self love and confidence is at it's max level and my ex admitted to be attracted to me by showering me with compliments throughout our time together. I realized that no contact doesnt have to be as strict as we thought it is, I used "no contact" to guide myself to put him down the pedestal and put myself first. I was the clingy, needy type so I stopoed reaching out to him first, I stopoed stalking him, I focused on myself. Even though we talked a little about our kid, I disciplined myself to not cross the line I put for myself, I put limits on myself on what I can and cant do in order for it to work. And I guess it did, I worked so hard on myself I forgot thinking about him already, and now he's reaching out to me first. Even though it's only been 3 weeks after we broke up I've worked on myself and I am happier now with myself, enough for me to say I am willing to take on his offer to be friends again. I don't want to rush things, I'll be patient and disciplined and see where our new friendship goes. Will update soon 😊 Thank you for this channel, I wouldn't be where I am now if not because of your help (I watched your videos everyday to guide me and keep me on track) ❤

My bf of 6 years broke up w me a few months ago...after begging, pleading and a bunch of other horrible mistakes, I got the courage to leave and move out of state (we lived together). We kept in contact because “he still wants me in his life” , still loves me and all that Jazz. I couldn’t get out of the girlfriend mindset by being “just friends” w him at first. So I did no contact to break the habits, but only for a week and I contacted him. It was actually good interaction between us he was happy to hear from me. However, I was merely hiding my “girlfriend emotions” to sort of fake it til I make it. Worked for a while and after my initial text, he was the one to text and even call/FaceTime me first. THEN, way too soon I suggested to go visit him, and he was actually excited and on board and suggested I come out for his bday this month. So I bought my tickets, planned all these fun things to do. We were both so ecstatic about it, and one day he started to slowly withdraw and ignore me more and more. Until I got fed up because I had spent all this money on the trip and he’s no where to be found. Completely ignoring me. Wrongfully, I did send a stream of not so pleasant texts because I feel so disrespected and disregarded. But I’ve since stopped trying and implementing no contact to regroup myself. However, my trip is non refundable and I leave on the 30th. I don’t know what to do, should I reach out again closer to that date or just let it be? Thank you Coaches and to whomever reads this. I know it’s long

Failure to really change. Trying to jump back into the relationship.

Be wary and take time to think on times when no contact might not help. In my situation, my ex thought I was being rude and stuff because I started it by being leaving her on read a couple times. One when she was wanting emotional support but still after exchanging a few texts, then like 3-6 days after she sent me a text the next morning saying our streaks were gonna expire. It's kinda crazy because I tried the law of attraction/manifestation and yesterday I started worrying that she might have thought all those things. That night my friend told me about how he ran into her at the grocery store and one of the things she said (although she's in a new relationship but Idk if there's labels yet) was that being rude isn't gonna help me get her back or something like that. I sent her the message I pasted below earlier and I'm waiting to see if she responds and if so, what. She was talking to someone else earlier today who she thinks I have a thing with and it shows that she still has angry jealousy feelings to cause drama with which could possibly be a good sign. I say that because the girl she texted screenshotted to me a single message where my ex was being bleh and you could tell by pronouns that it wasn't the only message where they were talking about me. I'd put that message down below but I want to respect my ex. Here's the message I sent with names omitted. Hey XXXX told me he ran into you at Ingles yesterday. I was wanting to apologize for leaving you on read the other week because I didn't think you'd find it to be mean/rude. I've just kinda needed some space and stuff. Somewhat light and happy, no begging and pleading 😎 Maybe I gave her an ego stroke, but I can't be too excited to answer her texts. My two weeks of no texting has helped me a lot in how I act so I pray that the word/advice/command I may have heard from God earlier comes true -- love her. Update!: I got a response about 40 minutes later and it wasn't too bad. She was kinda happy in it. She asked if my friend showed me the pictures they took and said no worries and that I'm good (about leaving her on read and all of that) Probably passive-aggressive, but that's expected. I just gotta keep passing the tests and stay away from any mistakes. Another thing, when I got back on Snapchat her appreciation post for her new guy wasn't there anymore but it could have been coincidence -- kinda strange though because I've seen other coincidences with her stories in the past... could be 🤷🏻‍♂️

I made a mistake of trying to make him jealous to get him back quickly. I became impatient and posted fun photos of me with my rebound with a caption "new year new beginnings" on a new year Eve. Now he probably thinks that I'm committed and he won't even try to pursue me now 😭

I’m here for advice and it helps me mentally and teaches me how to be calm and assure myself except she must be watching these videos too bc she’s doing the same thing 😂😂😂🤣🤣😒but she is the first to reach out.

This is super hard because we have a child together. I try to stay strong, but I can’t help but to keep asking for another shot. We’ve been broken up for 2 1/2 months but we’re together 8 years.

Ex dumped me. 6 weeks of no contact. Ex contacts me . Since there was no "closure" and some unresolved shit , HE rehashes what led up to the break up. So the discussion we should have had in the beginning, we had when my ex contacts me. Nothing was resolved. He blamed me. I blame him . Back to radio silence

Haha. I made all the mistakes after no contact. I wanted closure from the past, and I didn't like her passive aggressiveness. I totally reminded her of the stupid things that happened between us. Needless to say, we never got back together. That's okay though. I later learned it was more of a trauma bond I had for her, as she has BPD. So, it was a blessing that I bamboozled my self. Last I heard she made a lot of the same mistakes in her relationships after me. At least it was a good life lesson to never do that mistake again, which I hope I don't have go through again!

I have been watching these “no contact videos” during my no contact with my ex and it has helped me so much. I’ve been very strong about it. But I was curious what it would be like looking in the situation, more so what’s it like to be given “no contact.” I had looked it up and I had read that no contact is very manipulative and a sign of emotional abuse. They had used an example of a child getting neglected by their parent when the child is acting up. And that the only way to get affection from the parent is to behave. And that the child grows up to learn that that the only way to get what they want is through manipulation. This is going to sound contradictive but it actually makes me feel bad for him because I don’t want him to feel as if I don’t love him anymore. I’m doing this because I do love him and I want to kinda show him more so of “what he’s missing” when I’m bettering myself. This is really long but it also stated that showing no contact is not doing it out of love and that it is sick to make them feel threatened, rejected, desperate, and anxious to prove their love. And it’s making me nervous to continue.

wish i could give u both a 100likes from my side... 😍😍😍

Would love a coaching session. I am using Browning and Fiore right now and the breakup devolved. I have my Across the bow text (email) underway and I think it is good and intimate for us. i have lost 20 lbs, don't have the disabling pain anymore. I am 14 days into no contact and feel good.

Bless ya all from Norway

Tbh you should make videos on how to move on becouse that is what must of these people need sometimes things are just not meant to be but don’t regret dating that person because they were a lesson at the end or you learned something and when you move on your going to be mentally stronger and be a better person overall

So IF they bring up the past when u contact. What should you do then ? Ignore it ?

So this is my story. I have been in a 8 year relationship with the love of my life and the last 2 were a long distance. She broke up with me a month and a half ago.Intially i made all the mistakes i beggged, i told her to marry me, i spoke with friends and family and at the end i just got the wall that dumpers make. So far i have been in no contact for 21 days and she reached out and i am speaking to much which is adviced agaisnt most videos i have seen. And a friend of mine adviced to tell i i lover her 2 times. So i am in the pickle if i should try reaching out to her in a couple of days or just wait for her to reach out. On a postive aspect when i told her i love her 2 times she did replied that she adores me which i dont know is a good thing or a bad thing.

2 months strong for no contact so far...trying to hit 2+ years.

Hey guys... great content... this is the only thing that’s getting me through this tough time... I may meet my ex after no contact on 22nd July i.e my birthday... and while I have been working on myself... there are things that I need to ask her too... like has she cheated on me while we were together... Because I found out a lot of things after the breakup... the guy she told me was her best friend I found out that they had a history and he still had feelings for her and I have my reasons to believe that something must’ve happened behind my back... plus her best friend told me she was involved with her boyfriend which is why they broke up.... what should I do.... ?

Hello Coach Adrian, I have a question and maybe you could make a video about it? After 3 weeks of no contact my ex reached out. The second month after the break up he wrote me from time to time and mostly I did not answer, because I was too busy with my life, but sometimes I did. So now, after 2 month of break up we met (he wanted to meet me) and he gave me an expensive gift because it was my birthday. We met twice and it was nice, we flirted a little bit, but not too much. My question now is, how should one behave after the no contact and when he recahes out. How should I behave to not fall in the friend zone during the dating phase. How often should we meet and how long should it be? Could you make a video of the behavior after no contact when one starts do "date" again?

Thank you Coach Steven. You are correct that's how I attracted him in the first place. I applied the no contact right away turn his phone off. I may have shown my jealous side when I seen he was talking to his ex wife every day and some days its 1 to 2 hours. When I asked he said I dont want to talk about it. Shuts me out. He reaches out that evening by email i didnt answer. And then the next day by email I reaponded back by email. He told me I f**k up a good man and friend then nothing after that. 😐

My situation is special. My ex is working on a cruise ship for another 3 months. She broke up with me a week ago. I have stuck to no contact. But I feel like she is so distracted with work and being in Hawaii that she will forget me after 2 years of living together. I’ve already told myself that I won’t contact her at all until she reaches out. I’m just scared it won’t happen.

My mom is of Mediterranean culture , so I put this to someone besides her son. Which broke some ice.

Hello Alex and Adrian, very helpful info out here. Thanks My Ex met me after no contact & expressed feeling of being missed, but did not specify if we are getting back together. Do I give him more time to connect and nurture the newly formed bond? I don't want to be in his Friend Zone though. Kindly suggest. Thanks

I absolutely agree. I had a couching session with Steven and he was amazing and super funny and he really wrote a lot and also really kind. I really invite everyone to take at least one couching session. Btw even if they tell you what to do doens't mean that you don't have to put efforts. Actually is exactly making choices to make the different and being aware of them. Honestly i did almost 2 months of no contact period and some days i'm super sure that i'm a super nice girl and i can be a good partner and i have days like today that i don't see myself be determinated enough to want him back and be sure we can have a long happy relationship (not really interested to get him back and back again in the same issue of being sad if he doesn't give me time or feel unsure about me). It is hard not to be impatient, do right choice, being honest with myself, manage thoughts. Everything depends from the way i think about it, even my emotions depends from my thoughts. Probably i'm pushing too much hurting me. I will slow down even if it is painful. Of course staying with him will make me happy, but i also want to be strong enough to a good partner for me and for him for a future family. I'm so in pain i really miss him. I'm tired to hope to grow up i just want to do it (even if i do things everyday and i improved a lot). I don't want suppress my chances to stay with him contact him. I really want to be stable but it is so hard. And i know most of us still look for validation. Don't know, writing here make me realize a lot of things. Thanks for your patience. The thing that is pulling me back is thinking that i can't be a good partner for him because it makes me feel i'm not good enough and he told me i was but i was just stupid and afraid. I don't want to do the same mistake. There is no magic wand in all cases.

Sometimes. Extremely rarely. I feel like maybe I shouldn't get back with my ex? Because he left me, and had started doing drugs and stuff like that, and is surrounded by friends that I do not have a good rep with. That could all make it very tricky even if were to get back together! But then I think again, and almost 99.9% all I want is my ex back. Even if I still don't get on with those friends. Even though he does weed again etc., I just want him and miss us! He is on my mind so much!

My ex contacted me and I made a mistake. I brought up an old issue that I feel betrayed he moved on fast right after things ended

it's been a few months since i talked to my ex and i have no idea how i'm gonna handle when she comes back. if she does

Thank you very much for sharing your videos and advice. I have a situation which i’d appreciate to get some of your thoughts. my ex and i met 2 years ago. as with most relationships we started off really well, it was intense and passionate and we were really close emotionally and physically. we are gay, in a long distance relationship, we live about 4 hours apart which actually worked well for us. cos he’s busy with college and i’m busy with work and we meet about once or twice a month either in his city or in my city. 6 months on, he started cheating on me and i found out. he decided to dump me for the new guy. this guy also lived in a different city about 2 hours away, he seems to like to get attached to guys from outside of his city. initially i tried to salvage the relationship but i later decided to move on and we had no contact for about 4-5 months until it was his birthday and i wished him happy bday. 2-3 months after his birthday he broke up with that guy. through a mutual friend, he contacted me and we started contacting each other again. He apologised and i accepted his apology and we got back together. withing the 1st month of the apology, everything went well and i was happy things went well between us like before. But within 2 months of his apology, he started picking fights and arguing with me again about things he’d like to buy etc… he’s a shopaholic. he wanted to break up with me again. we had no contact for about 2-3 months and since it’s approaching his birthday again this year, i contacted him through our mutual friend to do a catch up. we agreed to hang out, him, our mutual friend and me, the 2 of us for the weekend. an afternoon around the city, for a swim/hike, dinner and drinks at the club and lunch the next day before i head back home. he disappeared shortly after very quick drink at the club, he told our mutual friend he wasnt feeling well and the next day’s lunch he turned up 3 hours late. he later admitted that he disappeared for a booty call with some guy. our mutual friend was furious as he himself havent met him for half a year too. and we both took time out to hang out with him for the weekend and he just randomly disappeared and stood us up and made us wait for him while he had a quickie with some other guy. our mutual friend has known him and has been his bff close friend for almost 5 years. this act of his was the straw that broke the camel’s back and our mutual friend was furious and gave him a piece of his mind and cut off all contact with him in real life and on social media. my ex was shocked and kept apologising. my ex apologised to me and he admitted he had been a jerk and horrible person by not being respectful of the time that we’d set aside to go to his city to hang out with him. he’d contacted me to meet him again, he said he’d like to apologise and explain and also return the gifts i’d given to him. i went to his city to meet him and i'd told myself to be strong and i'd thought i would be. when we met we started chatting, it was all ok but i'd wanted it to be brief and then just go off but it kind of went a little longer than i'd wanted it to be... towards the end we both got a little emotional.. his eyes were kinda red and i was also trying hard not to tear. i was confident and i'd really thought i'd be fine and i wanted to show him my happy face but i didnt know how and why when we met and started chatting, the emotions and memories just got the better of me... he told me a few times he still wanna be friends.. but i told him i'd prob not visit his city again and so we prob wouldnt meet again after this trip... then i managed to get dinner reservations at a very hard to book restaurant in his city which we'd both wanted to go... but when i contacted him, he'd already returned back to his college campus, about an hour's drive away from the city.. i did ask him and he said he just reached his campus.. and he was also kind of stressed as he has an entire week of exams ahead.. his birthday is coming... should i wish him happy birthday or just not say anything i'd contacted him actually cos i told him i'd happen to be near his city for work and i could buy him a birthday meal but then he reminded me he'd mentioned to me previously he'd be away with his family.. i'd sent him a "good reminder" text but he hasnt responded to my text.. it has been 4-5 days i think i'm thinking of sending him a final text to tell him when and if he has the sincerity and the heart and if he wishes to meet me, he would come to my city. and if he doesnt then it's fine by me too and i wish him all the best in his studies and future career and i'm moving on.. would you think such a text is toxic? is it a good idea? it’s kind of a complicated situation, cos i’d done No contact before and we met again and then something like this happened so i’d appreciate some advice on what should i do next... Thank you so much for your thoughts and advice.

Hello coach Adrian and Alex.. Some youtube coaches suggest that no contact should be forever. We should never contact them again and sooner or later they will reach out. However you say to reach out to them at certain point of time to re establish communication. Why and what should be done??

Love this Show! Can you gyus do a video about Will my ex reach out more than once ? and Also why is my ex angry when she hear my name ? And why is my ex friend with my family on social media ?

Hey, been in strict NC for 7 weeks, we ended up on the phone with a fight. First week she blocked me and after that she unblocked and started stalking me. Today i contacted her saying Ive been working on myself and see things differently and apologize for over reacting to the break up and not giving her space as she asked. Her reply was : "Fine" thoughts?

Monday night my ex said he "needed a break". I was being super clingy and had crossed the line (really can't blame him). Later that night I messaged him some explanation why I was acting as I did. He sent a short message the next day asking for clarification on one of the points I brought up in the message. I gave that to him briefly and then decided to not contact him again. The next day he messaged "how do you feel about being friends?" I just ignored the message because I was wanting NC. It was kind of hard these past few days, but also good as I started to rediscover the things I love to do before he came along. I've even started planning a trip to Europe where I've never been. Well, this evening he messaged me again saying "I'm guessing you don't want to be friends". I didn't know what to say or do. So, instead of writing anything, I just sent him a really silly image that's part of an inside joke we share. My response back from him was that he would send it on to his best friend that would appreciate the humor. That's all he messaged and I didn't respond either. My plan is just to leave it alone and see what happens unless anyone on here has any better ideas...

What if my ex reached out to me, went well for a few days, then I get right back to that needy emotional state and he ends it all over again. Did I screw it up this time? He says he missed me, loves me and wants a future, but we can't be together if these cycles keep happening. He did however say I can talk to him down the road if im better.. but I could tell he is mad and I don't think he will sticking around if this happens again....

During those 30 days, a person can learn a new hobby or take a class to keep busy and have something new to talk about when an ex reaches out. :)

I apply no contact after 2 weeks broke up he found someone so I do no contact for 3 months it really works I find my self on peace of mind .and I do miss him but I don't want him back ...

I've been not contacting her for a month . now I've totally changed and now I've become so confident bt my ex has not reached out yet ... can i reach out first ??

Hello, my ex is leaving the country for a few months soon. Should I ask him to meet up before he leaves? I’m afraid that when he’s away for too long he will forget about me.

Hi :) so my ex and I are in contact again as friends. He's told me that he doesn't think love is a real, true thing. But, we are so compatible and have similar view points and characteristics about life. We flirt, and I just still have some feelings. Please help!

I wanted some advice because I feel like I may have initiated the no contact rule incorrectly. My ex fiancé and I broke up at the end of september (his choice). He said he hasn't been happy for awhile. We lived together at the time so of course emotions were high and a lot of begging happened because I wanted to work it out. Before I moved out he said he was having second thoughts and that he loved me. I moved out in November... we talked everyday and we had dinners weekly. I was thinking things were headed in a good direction for us. However, the last dinner we had which was last Friday on our way home he had his GPS up and I glanced over and it and saw that he just got a notification from a girl on a dating website. I was obviously upset so I said "Oh you are on a dating app?" and he was like "yea I'm single". I was just confused after all of our interactions and things he was saying to me (he even just bought me a snowboard for Christmas). So the remainder of the night we had some talks about the relationship... he was annoyed and he was like "I don't even know if I want this I feel like you just moved out and I need time, I want you to be happy and move on and not feel like you are hanging on to hope". We ended up watching a movie together on the couch and then I ended up leaving to go home. He texted me when I got home thanking me for dinner. I then replied saying you're welcome. I then sent another text to him saying something along the lines of "Hey, I dont want you to think I am doing this out of hate, because it is far from that... but I need to remove you from my life so I can move on. This is the healthiest way for me to do it. I appreciate everything we have shared and only want the best for you. I care for you so much. Good luck. No need to reply its really okay." He ended up replying saying he completely understands and that he hopes he can see me again when I am ready. He loves and cares for me so much and if I need anything he is a phone call away. I didn't reply. The next night he drunk dialed me 6 times and I didn't answer. We haven't talked since that last text message. I just want some advice on if I started this no contact correctly... if the way I went about it was wrong... I feel like I will ultimately be the one pursuing him after NC.

I need help. My ex-gf and I broke up 1,5 months ago after almost 3 years. We decided to stay friends and we spoke to each other weekly even though it was awkward. We had a meet up planned for next week, but I was stupid to call her yesterday where I opened up to her and said that I have been thinking about her every day, that I'm not doing well, that I miss her and that I want to talk about the break-up. She declined and now doesn't want to meet up with me next week. She said I should get over it first and that we can then meet-up with each other in a month or more. She wants a casual friendship. Did I just ruin my chances of getting back with her forever? When can I actually know I'm ready to contact her again and how will she know? I really want her back, because I feel our break-up was unnecessary and she really does fit me and I can be the right man for her. Please help me!

Reached out to my long distance ex after about 17 days no contact broke up almost 5 mths ago followed by alot of mistakes on my end after she rebounded.Ask if we could talk.She responded saying something personal(about her time of the month) and saying she wanted to talk too but that the next day would be best.She initiated a text to me the next day saying she didnt get a chance to call bbecause she had alot going on(proceeded to tell me list of more very personal things ;ie her friend died) said shed call the next day when when she felt better.I sent her positive vibes and told her to call me when it felt right.Again she didnt call the next day(which was today).I'm being very patient and understanding but I don't want her to feel too comfortable stringing me along.Especially if I dont know her relationship status.How should I approach this? She once was the love of my life

From the time of this Post this it has been six days since no contact. Me and my ex broke up cause her last relationship of 5 years broke her they had planned a future together. When we were together she had told me that she loved me and that I was gonna be able to speak to her dad since he’s super strict. She only said that she loved me cause she felt obligated to cause of how well I treated her. We broke up cause I told her that we both need sometime to figure out we want. I do love her still but at work she doesn’t even take a glimpse at me when she passes by. I want to call her or text her so bad but I know it better that I don’t for right now. Any ideas on how to help me? I would pay for your services but I don’t have enough for that.

I have applied the no contact for 30 days and she never reach out to me; however, i have been focusing on my self during this period and enjoying my life. I have broken the no contact for Christmas wish a simple message "hi .. hope you're doing well. Wishing an amaing Christmas and plenty of happiness". She replied to me in the late evening saying " Thanks..!Hope you having a great Christmas too. Now i text her again after the Holiday in a couple of weeks, could you advise the best move to do so in order to reinstablish a relation and connection to lead to a meet up for a coffee? As she is a junior writer and writing a book, i have found a social event where explains how to write a book and keep the motivation, so I have thought to text her " hi .. how were your Holiday? i have seen there is this event in and thought you could be interested for your novel". what do you suggest? Do you think is a good text?thanks in advance.

Coach Alex, my boyfriend broke up with me for no reason other than distance, we were very in love, how do I cope with this because it all happened so fast and he is adamant that things won't work because of his job and the distance. For me I don't love someone unless I see a future with them and want my future to be with them, so it upsets me that he loved me but all of a sudden doesn't, and is stepping away from the relationship.

Hi coaches, I did 30 day no contact rule and I was happy and even I don't want to approach my ex . But due to some emergency I approached first we talk nicely but after that his words hurt me and we fought and he is the first one who stop conversation and it leads me anxiety like before.what should I do ?

Ya coach Steve and samaira gives very nice suggestions in the comments ....v love u all

What if my ex reached out after 30 days but i replied colder than the way he reached out? Now he give up reaching out to me. What should I do

Iv been no contact since 3 months now?? Is this a great thing!?

Very important video very very important...thank god saw it b4 texting..Just a question...Is it good to text ur ex on daily basis? I have been texting her once each week or 4 days and now I started feeling she might be feel ignored or not shown enough care...And our relationship is at its best and I don’t wanna mess up. Hope u answer the Questions

I can't afford private coaching sadly :(

Sir on my birthdy my ex wished me i replied thanks then after some time he asked for paty then i didnt reply then he called me up but i didnt picked . Now qhat should i do have i done correct ???

please make a video on what to do if you begged and started implementing no contact after 3 months of the break up

What to do if she question me something for past

Awesome video , awesome , awesome awesome

We were together for 7 years i have change things that she point out about me like drinking and jealousy and i actually stop and change those things but she acts cold

Okay so my ex contacted me on friday I decided to ignore his calls but he kept on calling so I attendend one of his call. The whole conversation was concise and okay but he told me that," I'll need you after sometime so do talk to me then." To which I said okay but now when I viewed his snap where he was in a hospital and it says prayer needed so do you think I should call him to check if he's okay?

What if you know your ex is calling you on private number and hanging up...is it a good sign its been 3 weeks of no contact?

coach, I was unsure about a woman whom i was dating back then, so she got hurt because of my attitude. when I have made up my mind telling her I love her a month ago, she told me she would love to be with me but she's already back with her ex-husband…I have been doing no contact for 3weeks either to move on or get her back.can you give me any advice?

My ex who has a rebound relationship and thinks we are still friends so she reached out to me during no contact and thought we were still friends wanted to text and wanted me to have a conversation she started saying she wanted to talk and I texted her we can’t be friends rn and accidentally texted her I needed space even tho I want her to come back and she told me I will leave you alone and that she missed me as a friend (did I ruin no contact bc I said I needed space ?)

I reached out and he let me know he hadn't talked to me in two months since I told him I didn't want to be friends. I said I needed time to heal. I have not contacted him again...did I screw up?.

Coach Adrian, are you from Indonesia?

I made the mistake of going on social media during the no contact phase and rt-ing things that I related to. I even tweeted a few things that may have hurt him but i wasnt thinking about his feelings. I think it hurt his ego cause his friends were asking him what did he do, so he told me he doesn't want to work things out cause it was a turn off to him but he is interested in talking to me if I want to, what does that mean? Is it sympathy?

What if my ex and I arent even able to talk each other normally. Should I ask her if she needs more space and time to heal herself from the breakup?

If he ignored my initial contact text message but then sent me a drunk snapchat how shall I move forward?

Mine lost his mind he called like why haven’t you called me bla bla bla

My ex says he doesn’t want to be with me but when I don’t contact him and im out he still follows me on social media he will message and ask who im with or call me to ask me who im with when im out. Its only been 8days since we broke up what does this mean

What to do after 1yr of no contact rule? It's 7 year's of relationship. Still I've chance get back her? Please coach's help me.

today after almost 40days of no contact i saw her and said hi, she was damn happy and in a hurry and said will meet you in the evening. till evening i didnt call her and at 7pm i called her. she did not received my call. i just called her three times after that i texted her from my sisters phone that is sge going to meet me she said to her no, i told her to ask atleast pick up my call she said no then i told her to tell if she is busy then atleast unblock me on watsap and talk she said no why is he forcing me. after that i started talking from my sisters phone and just asked you told me that meet me in the evening she said i told it by mistake as i was in a hurry. i said thats fine hows life an all she just talked with me for 2minutes and then told bye. after that i did not call her or text her. what should i do now. did i make a mistake? as she used to think that i react a lot and fight a lot so she left me. now i have not even reacted on her this behaviour as she had initiated to meet up but said ni so i said nothing. but what to do now?

How can i contact you ...my ex and i have a child together she tells me shes done for good and that our time past .the relation ended because she was seing someone she acted jelous and then she just started being cold and tells me she wasnt to be cool with me but that our time past i dont know what to do because when i dont contact her she contacts me and then she acts cold again and still wants to hang in my house when she picks up my daughter but she acts like dont want nothing to do with me i wanna know how can i contact you to coach me on what should i do i do want to get back with her but she acts cold

It seems as if the no contact gives both individuals time to move on and gives the chances for each to say inside I'm okay with or without that certain individual. Hmm 🤔😀

My ex and i made the choice not have contact for a while. After 2 times not having normal contact; not being friendly to eachother, talking about the breakup. He was the one who broke up with me. 2 mounts ago. Is this the good thing to do? For now?

But what to do when those mistakes happend?

but why we need to change?if the person loved you the way you are?

I am so sad and heart broken. I messed up after successfully doing the no contact and my ex hit me up. It was amazing the first 2 days and now the 3rd day I got insecure and questioned him. And we ended up having a bad night. And I’m having anxiety. I let me emotions get the best of me and I questioned why he contacted me. I’m not sure what to do anymore. Please help 😭

my ex gf contacted me twice during the duration of NC (roughly 7 weeks). We very briefly talked after she wished me "happy birthday" but then she just went cold, it has been a week since it happened just curious what i should do now. I was shocked when she wished my happy birthday considering; she dumped me, I said no to being friends, and also not wishing/contacting my ex on her birthday which was roughly 4 weeks ago. What are the next steps I should take? Thanks, and keep up the great videos!

Should I not mention to her positive and beautiful moments of our past? Wouldn't this be a good thing?

Am in no contact for one month now, yesterday was my birthday and my ex ddnt even greet me. I dont feel bad but I just feel so much alone. Hope I can move on soon! Its been hard for me. The pain was ripping me off. We've been together for 10 years. He left as his mother has a girl for her to marry it's called arrange marriage. I wanna forget him completely.

Please help me im so confused Right now ( Exuse my Bad english) : i am doing no contact for about 12 days now and he called me today asking me questions about things that i did wrong during the relationship ect. But he sounded a bit annoyed when i tried to answer so yh he was like i See u didnt thought enough anyways i need to do Other things and then he hang up on me . What should i do ? Should i Continue no contact ?

How to do i get her back when i know she still loves me we broke because her parent want her to marry who they want. What should i do?

My Ex has some really aggressive friends and he is with my Bff now. His aggressive friend hates my Bff. I'm scared of him. He wants to destroy my exes and my bffs relationship. Why I AM scared? Because if she breaks up, my ex is gonna hold to his aggressive friend. They ate gonna hurt us, me and my Bff. We don't want that. I tried talking to the aggressive guy but he just asked me to go back to my ex just because my Bff is getting between the friendship of him and my ex. We are in no contact, but he shows that he doest love me anymore . That's OK. Idc. But I care about my Bff... She texts me everyday that she is sad, wants to break up now because she doesn't want the aggressive guy to destroy her life, that she das depressions. All because of HIM!!! You cannot talk to the aggressive guy because he will fight you. What should I do to help my Bff get over her depression & to hide her Relationship with my Ex from her parents? Sorry for the long text........

No contact rule is good for long distance relationship or not

What if he thinks that I was never interested in him in the first place because when he told me that he needed time apart (after an argument), and that I should let him be the one to contact me and he will be the one to reach out after this, I accepted it right away. No begging, no pleading, and immediately went into NO CONTACT. Like I just disappeared. Will he think I am not interested? It's been 18 days....

I m from India... in my case I was on a matrimony site where I find a guy.... he was quite nice to me. We talk on Facebook for almost 15 days....then we diceded to meet but in meeting he told me that my hieght could be an issue in the eyes of society....may be. Which make me feel really bad....in the end of the meeting he clicked a pic so that he can discuss it with his family. After reaching home I asked about the pic and said that we didn't match well.. right.... he asked me..what you say? I said my opinion depends opon yours... he said I need some time.... which was seems to be very annoying to me..... next morning I said may be it won't work out in future so let it be... because he can't take his decision and I felt really bad the way said about what people will think about hows the couple... he said as u wish ....then about after 2 days I said him to delete my no. I was very angry....then he blocked me on fb so I msg him on watsapp that he is so rude then he realised that I was hurt. He apologised for his rudeness. After that I realised.... all I wanted was a sorry but when I messsge him he didn't replied to my messages for atleast 45 days... now from 10 days I am in no contact.... will this work in my situation ? As I can't even call him an ex 😒 but I somehow want him back...don't know what to do😐

What to do if she ignores message and after no contact she is posting on her facebook that she is interested in me , what my supposed to do? Do I comment or text her?

Hey guys.. First of all sorry for my english... I have done the no contact almost two months... Between these two months he sent me a text asking if i took accidentally his memory stick (inside this stick he had every photo of our trips and some old ones of him)... I said i dont think so, if i find it i Will let him know... He said OK... Only this short messages... One week before i saw him in the street, he asked how i was, i said OK, he asked my friend something about her boyfriend (they are good friends) and then he asked me again for his memory stick.... 2 days before i found his stick ( i was having it the whole time!).... Now what should i do??? Text him that i have it!???? I was thinking to go to his second job(to a Cafe) to take a takeaway Coffee so that i can let him know... P. S. When we were together i used to go there very often even if he wasnt there!!! Is it a good idea???

Hi! So I just reconnected with my ex over the past 3 months up until now and things were right on the edge of us being back together when I decided to hack her facebook to see her messages with another guy. I ended up very drunk one night and texted the guy from her profile. It said "leave me alone f-boy" (she told me herself that all he wants is sex and that she hates it) and of course she found out and now she simply doesn't wanna see me "at the moment" but says she still really likes me. I regret it more than anything I've ever done in my life and said my deepest sorry, though she doesn't wanna talk about it. We had built up a whole new relationship with plans of traveling and being together often, pretty much a couple at that point. I don't think a single mistake can ruin all that, but perhaps it can for some people. Is this a sign to go no-contact-radio-silence(start from scratch) again until she makes a move(again)? :)

I think ex should contact first in case,when ex left u and you are doing no contact, whether it is one month or 1year,but it should be from other side first if she/he lefts you

My bf for 3 months goes hot and cold on me since January, he said he was busy at work. Given him his time and space. I found out 4 days ago that he is seeing another girl. I never contacted him to confront, and i didn't heard fr him for 4 days. He called me tonight and we talk as if nothing happens. Was a casual talk of how we are for the last 4 days. He even invited me to his place but i don't feel like going. Am I on the right track?

Can you please make a video on why an ex stares and when you look back they continue too look you in your eye ??? Me and my ex have not talked to eachother in almost one year since the breakup but I always noticed how much he looked at me when I was out with friends and this time when I decided to look at him too he kept looking. He talked and laughed all night with me & showed a bit jealousy because his friends were dancing with me but now when we went our seperate way he did not contact me.. Why?