Modern men are NOT okay... 

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Man it’s like you spoke right to me. I’ve been sitting here in tears with a gun to my head. I just hit my 30s and have nothing to show for it. I feel like my life is over or even if I do get it turned around nobody will care. Our world has become so separated these days nothing even makes sense anymore. I am battling constant pain everyday. I can’t leave my place I can’t talk to people. Some traumatic stuff happened over the past 10 years and tonight I just snapped. I picked up my phone to see if anyone responded to my texts. Nobody did but I saw the RU-vid app and thought maybe a funny video will take me out of this dark headspace. Funny videos only made it worse. Then I saw your video and clicked. You saved my life tonight man.

Men live a life of silent desperation

We men hurt in silence

As a young man I don’t see the point of existing in this evil ass world and society that shame all of us.

Left the gym yesterday and felt depressed walking back to my truck. I knew a long and lonely weekend was ahead of me. I love the gym and eating real food. Got up this morning to make my first meal but put everything back in the refrigerator and got back in the bed. The loneliness and depression is too much sometimes. I'll just play videogames today. 40 year old AF Vet here.

I'm 49 yrs old 50 in August fingers crossed I score this job from KFC its a 5 minute walk from home 🎉

this camera style outside the car is a unique way to film. got me watchin lol

I am a woman who developed a romantic friendship with a guy friend. We're kind of fwb but i feel we are more deep friends. When we first started hanging out on a personal level, he started opening up to me right away. His eyes ststted glistening. He said i was asking the right questions and thats why he always opens up to me. I couldn't figure out his energy when we first started dating. Then months ago, i realized it was his inner child asking me to care for him. When he was a kid, his parents neglected him. He had no one to turn to. He was lonely. Last year i decided to be his friend. I decided to be there for him, listen when he needs to talk. I make him premade meals so he has homemade dinner. Sometimes i tidy up his place. A lot of the time i rub his back to give him human contact. I never want him to think no one was there when he needed someone.

My dad passed when I was 9, my older brother when I was 18. And my mom just a few years ago, when I was 38. I’ve lost my marriage, my son lives on the other side of the country now. I’ve lost whom I consider to be the love of my life. In fact, she wants nothing to do with me. Over 90% of everyone that’s ever been close to me is gone, and I’m not even 41 yet. The only things that have been able to help me feel better in my day to day life is meditation and mindfulness. Observing your thoughts. Quieting the mind. I’m learning to stop listening to all this bs my ego is trying to keep me obsessed about. Not anymore, I’m coming up.

Compassionate, conservative woman here. I am thinking and praying for all of you men. Mentally all of us are being tested. I choose to be alone after what I’ve gone through and I do not cause trouble for anyone else. I wish everyone the best but I have to keep my distance because technology, traumas, and lack of real parents have isolated a large number of us. We can turn this around! I’m reading books trying to work through my PTSD (former first responder, adoptee, and rape victim x2), so far The Body Keeps The Score has really made the connection with my body that I lacked. Love you bros!

I'm sixty years old, no children, never married, recently lost my job. For the last few weeks, I've been thinking about how the remainder of life will be and it doesn't look good. If I live too long all I have to look forward to is living in "retirement home" having someone wipe my a$$. That is my biggest fear, being a burden to someone, not going to happen under my watch.😐

I am a 40 year old man, I work insane hours in order to avoid my depression I face as a normal man. This video hit me hard, especially since I have no wife or kids, feels like my life is a waste. Thanks for this video

My mother used to beat me up, because my father decided to not like me. I broke contact & i am developing in my personal areas. Also i understand my past traumas more. I realized i can generate value outside family circle.

What kills me is that even if tomorrow my life changed 1000% for the better, and everything was perfect, I still wouldn’t have the one thing I wanted from childhood; to meet my girl while we were young, and grow old together with a lifetime of memories. At best I’ll meet someone also in their late 30s, and share half a life together starting when we are already in the early stages of being old. And that’s best case scenario, if someone my life miraculously became perfect tomorrow as opposed to the more likely never

This is exactly why in conversation I refer to any man as brother. We are all brothers and sisters in the eyes of God.

Please make this video famous, every man should share this.

Man this community hit me by surprise, I needed to hear this. I’m 34 years old and became an alcoholic when my mother passed. I pushed away 2 amazing women because of my disease and most of my friends. It’s so hard to not suffer from guilt and remorse, the loneliness is killer. I feel as if I’m existing and not living. It really is so hard to wake up every day, it’s almost as if I’ve given up. Listening to thee videos definitely helps. Thank you

My brother in Christ. Thank you. I needed this and I didn't know I did.

I am already in peace that I will stay single until the day I die. This seriously feels like the end of times are coming slowly.. The loneliness is unbearable, even if you are in a crowd of people

I am almost 34 years old, dropped out of trade school 11 years ago, started doing drugs, stealing from my friends and family, got kicked out of my house. Became homeless for years, from 26 to 29 i was in jail or on the streets and recovery homes. I finally got my act together around 30 years old, its been almost 4 years and i still havent made a whole lot of money, dont have a girlfriend or even any friends and i feel like a loser, ashamed of myself. Thinking about ending it quite often.

This is the future of masculinity. Hope the algorithm gets this one out, Great video.

To everyone that is in the dark place… everything will be alright ❤

There is enormous pressure for Men to provide for a family, always be there and never show any emotion what so ever.

This video needs more views, more men need to see this

I am a man in my middle 20s. Been verbally abused, shouted mocked blamed and neglected by both parents. Both of them gaslight and tell me I am in the wrong. I am deeply traumatized and get dreams about these people every now and then ruining my day. I am on welfare as I have a lot of issues with trusting people and functioning socially. I cut ties with all of my friends since all of them had toxic traits that were similar to me. I cut ties with all of my family because they keep lying and behave in a competitive narcissistic way. My father never cared nor did my mother. (Funny how my father suddenly wanted to fix his anger issues when he started to get health issues but not when it ruined mine...) As a result I'm alone and have no one to trust or talk to. I cry alone and even then hate myself for doing it I feel so weak and emasculated so I bottle it up. Life feels like an endless needle and it just won't stop pricking.

I never cry when watching your videos but this did it. Thank you, Brother. I appreciate you.

I’m sorry I’ve been so hard on myself, no one has been as cruel to me as I have been.

I'm a suicide survivor,it's been 12 years since I've put a blade onto my own skin and it'll NEVER happen again. What breaks my heart is a lot of people don't get help in time but we do the best that we can to reach them.

Pro tip: "Hostile others" actually do exist.

I recently separated from my wife, 4 kids involved and there was zero help out there for me. Nada. I decided to heal myself and then make it my life’s mission to help men. There is too many of us killing themselves when they can be saved. The separation showed the stereotype that people have of men in separation/divorces. You can see it in there eyes “oh what did he do”. My ex had an affair, I moved out to give myself that space to heal, not to make things toxic for my 4 kids. I made those decisions for my kids. No one sees that but I genuinely do not care. Anyone reading this and needs to talk, please reach out and we can. You deserve to be heard

I’m 41 and just now learning from books I’m reading since I didn’t like school. I was in special education from 6-12 and didn’t go to college after I graduated, but now like I said I’m reading and I like it a lot.

Please continue to love each other. If men love each other you all will be able to love yourself as a man I hope. I have met so many men that don’t love themselves. Society does a terrible job with males no real sense of responsibility no learning and practicing decision making skills etc women are burdened to death from birth with all that leaving men as forever children it’s a disservice to us all. It’s all way complex but thank goodness the answer to it all is compassion. Sending all of you love and I’m very proud so many men are supporting each other and positively. Thank you all

Your video hits like ive had an older brother that I never had. After so many negative experiences with people, being bullied and made fun of non stop, even from my own family. I hold out hope that good people are still out there who have empathy and are willing to listen even for a moment. Thank you!

your message is helping a massive community of individuals. you spoke so well on this topic, loved hearing your perspective!

glad I found your channel I seriously needed it, going through really hard times

What a beautiful and meaningful message ❤

So throughout my lonely, 28 year long existence I've cried myself to sleep multiple times alone in my dark room. I really don't have any more tears to shed, I think I've become a souless husk now. Is that better than finding a rope and a chair and hanging myself on the ceiling fan? Plenty of other men didn't think so and now their story will be lost to time. We all will fade away into obscurity but those men are the quickest to disappear from human memory :(

What gripes me here is that I believe almost every human that has crossed this earth will inevitably be wounded, as much as I do try to be forgiving and understanding just because you are wounded doesn’t mean to seek out hurting others. I’ve been hurting for years about many events and struggles that I’ve encountered and have endured but NEVER and I mean “never” hurt others when I am down. In fact I hate hurting others because how much pain I’ve been pressed on by so many different individuals that came to my life. I’m even friendly to my enemies because the way how everyone treats each other and you feel that evil seep out of them it’s like a plague, it spreads and opens doors to other people wanting to commit those same evils that others make them feel. “If you can’t win be like your enemy” or “fight fire with fire” is how see this spiritual battle I see countless times when I’m around many different people. I give love to those that give hate but it’s a strange dichotomy of good and evil when I feel immensely alone on giving kindness to your fellow human being without wanting anything in return. I’ve had people I’ve given everything ive had to them just for them to bring so much hell spawn or better yet hell raise my present if that makes any sense but I’ve definitely had my fair share of moral principles being conflicted.

I am very grateful your video came on my feed. You are an angel my man, I don’t have anyone to talk to about my depression or loneliness I just pretend I’m a strong man to my family and friends. It’s wearing me down. I feel stuck and lost. I’ll be joining the community hoping to chat with you soon brother 💪🏼

You deserve millions of subscribers my friend, thank you for your content this is gold🙏

Thank you brother for this one one, I really appreciate it. I needed to hear this reminder. Much love and blessings to you brother 🙏🏻

Thanks bud. You're making a lot of good points, especially the difference between suffering and pain part.

Your words help me to understand the world these days and myself better.

Really relatable to listen to one sharing with honesty the things men keep inside.💯

Non judgment is a high frequency that means you have come a long journey in your spiritual journey. You should be proud of yourself of brother.

Wow this is amazingly high quality good job man

Is it just me or do you speak, often when you are full of emotion or on the verge of tears? I don't mean to come across as rude, I really like what you do but, I always feel that and in turn, it makes me emotional too. P.S. calling your viewer buddy while they may not have any really makes them feel like they are not alone and that they have someone, so thank you.

Broooo. You're speaking from a very healed place. A place of love for the down trodden. God bless you. You're saving a life with your words.

Beautiful. Yes the more I address my fears and hurts the more present I become, with myself and others. Presence is the true gift we can share with one another. Seeing that my ego and emotions are my inner child I've developed more compassion towards others and myself, acknowledging that people are flawed, including myself. Still working on setting personal boundaries better and not feeling bad about it, I've also grown up with a single mother and a father who would get angry a lot. So a part of me needs to come to terms with being and taking my place on the stage of life, by knowing, defining and setting my own terms, and being OK without seeking approval.

Thank you so much for the video. I'm so happy RU-vid recommend me this.

from ETHIOPIA Thank you my brother ☺☺

44. Never married. No kids. Stopped dating 7 years ago now after witnessing how disgusting women had become Lived alone most of my adult life. Been quite depressed lately from not working & having too much time reanalyzing my life, finances, job, desires. Since I no longer see a way out or a place to facilitate it as Amerizuela goes down the drain but thoughts had briefly begin to win & I wondered if this should be the end. Got on TRT & got a hair transplant today to see if I can return to my prior self & get that fire back again. Pray for me brothers.

Wowww man, that was heavy, but reality. I’m deconstructing currently, and I relate strongly to what you’re saying. Thanks man.

That was really nice! Mission: Accomplished!

This was much needed today. Thank you. Subscribed 👍

Thank you for your trojan work brother. Needed to hear this tonight. I picked up "Conversations with God" since you recommended it. Although some of the information can be hard to understand, I find it kind of fascinating as a read. Gratitude 🙏 Onwards and upwards.

I did not know how much I needed to hear this today, thank you...🙏🏿

Seriously, if its not the end times, i dont know what it is. This world is mad and we see behaviors never seen before in history. The good news,Jesus is coming back

i just 30 and the pandemics destroyed me with chronic isolation and there i really understanded how lonely i am and nobody cares :(

Yep. This is what we need more of.

I think you prevented me from making a big mistake today. Thank you, brother

You look like you're in a videogame. Trippy.

Great video thanks for the message. Good on you bro

I'm 25 now, basically lost in life rn. Black sheep of my own family, the only time they'll contact me is literally when they need me to do something for them. I was battling depression in the past but nowadays it's mostly anger. Had to move away for the safety of others, when I was sitting in the parking lot of my job armed and contemplating on committing a mass shooting. I'm not saying I'm in a better spot now but I am doing my best to defeat my demons. It's hard to be a good man in this day and age but i know it's worth the fight to be one.

your message is powerful, thank you sir

Nice song on the outro. Great video. Thank you

Amazing man. I laughed with you when you said "once you feel the essence of who you are you'll be like, what the fuck was that". That's exactly spot on the words haha

Very well spoken, good video❤️

Dope camera angle man so sick

Great video thank you

I am old, and when I start feeling down and depressed, I climb onto my motorcycle and ride. It's like a time machine, I'm 17 again. And after a couple of hours I return home feeling reborn. I am lucky to have a wife who encourages me to ride, because she sees that it does me good.

All this hurt comes from a lack of God in our lives and we try to fill the void with money, sex status, men, women and honestly it's just never gonna be enough.

Thanks for this man!

I’m a little late to this video, not sure if you will see this comment, but this also came at the right time for me but for different reasons… I have been on the self improvement grind for some years now and I’m reaching the phase where I’m drifting from my hometown friends. Which has led to me feeling resentful & bitter, it’s led to some verbal fights but how you framed everything through the lens of people being damaged children with unresolved trauma… it helped alleviate that resentment and put me in a place of understanding. I’m still upset about what’s transpired but I realize now that it’s not my fault… or theirs necessarily. Just this crazy thing we call life

Thank you brother

Great video brother 👍🏼 i appreciate your realness, this world 🌎 need more amazing men like you 😀 keep inspiring

You have a good paradigm of life view. Thanks

andrew tate doesn't care about men's issue that's obvious

Excellent… well said.

Yeah I don't give a s**t about romantic love I just need the other person to respect me and nothing else, when it does come to love I'll give it to myself, my friends and my family anyone who's not apart of that is reprimanded

Im 25 years old woman. I really loved your videos. The type of content, the look, car's sound. Thank you!

Bring back compassion 🙏

we'll be okay, we will believe in ourselves,

3:40 real shit man I even brought it up to my mother once and she goes I didnt choose who you were going turn out to be when you grow up , I didnt say anything but in my head I was like "exactly"

You are helping ❤🎉

Self love is a cheap substitute. Developing properly requires it externally from others.

I watched this whole video on my lunch break at work without headphones 🎧 and didn’t really care other people could hear 👂 it but I listened to it when I was sitting 🪑 down in the outer cafeteria area.

31, recently divorced, also past and current jail time… mentally ill, nothing to show for my years of hard work and sweat… $13k in debt… I keep going but what’s the point? It’s not a white mans world anymore..

It's nice to finally someone who speaks on a personal level and not make it a just do it Nike campaign.

Can we see a behind the scenes 😮this camera setup is crazy 😮

Thats the exact life i am living right now brother

Thanks brother

We are only okay if we work five days a week, otherwise the negative thoughts come to the surface.

Im right there with ya man, jus turned 35 and for most of my life had my shit together. Good paying job, women, tons of friends, etc…fucked up a few things and now I’m trying to get back on my feet. But like what you are saying it’s like even if I do get back to where I need to be will not matter anyways…this world is truly not in a good place and seems to be getting worse. I pray for the good of humanity!

As a senior on the autism spectrum mild i cant tell u what i have went through with not being accepted used in relationships i tried to drown in with the gym which helped but i cant tell u how many times i wanted to off myself since the 6th grade for being laughed at for not being able to write like others ect i still carry those wounds with me to this day 💔 and my narcissistic girlfriend cheating on me and laughing about it self improvement is there yes but for a lot of us its nothing but a mask

Hey man as a photographer/ videographer, I recommend a CPL to remove the reflections on the windshield but nonetheless great video quality

Feminist aren't a better option so I appreciate the difference in perspective it's honestly a breath of fresh air they tell men there garbage all the time it is refreshing to see someone be the trendsetter! Keep up the good work man I've got admiration for people like you!

I was always the quiet kid growing up, I had friends but I still existed on the outside of the social scene, at least that’s how it felt. As an adult I feel like that shy kid is still somewhat a part of me, because of this rejection real or imagined I always felt like because I was different I was unlovable. I struggle with intimacy and relationships to this day because no matter how charismatic I might appear I still feel inadequate deep down. I’m only 25 but I can’t keep running away from every intimate moment, I can’t live like this.

I sometimes feel like correcting people then I remember how fvcked up I am , Even though they don't know I'm fvcked up my soul just can't take me making it an accomplice to hypocrisy.