My Adult Daughter Refuses to Grow Up! 

1-2 years

...after the divorce from which she takes him for 50%

Letsnot andsaywe did no sympathy from me, get to really know who you share a life or F off

Lol true

“My wife is $150k in debt, no income and spends like crazy. Help me, Dave!”

Yeah he sounds like a sweet boy. He deserves better.

@@ransom182 More like a simp and not a man. He needs to RUN

Totally

She's just a good lil snowflake.

Hey Jalisa... Wink wink

L- Train yea usually they call the guys “losers”

True. If that were me, I'd be spinning my wheels very fast to get out of there. I wish God would send me a good man...still waiting. It's tough out there being single with only yourself to depend on for money...but I do it...yes I do.

She doesn't want to get married. She needs to get an apartment and job to get away from this narssasistic mother. Mom wants her to get married and have babies.

She doest want him for what ever reason. Mom needs to stop pushing her to marry him.

And she gets an allowance from her idiot parents.

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Johnny B YES

“We did X for her...” Yeah but, did she ever ask for X? Don’t be upset if it was never something she felt she needed. Yes she needs to move out but codependence takes 2 to tango. I get so upset that it’s only ever the child’s fault. Making fun of someone “inferior” to you makes you a fool.

MJ Bankhead left, right any direction is fine.. disaster ready to happen if he marries her

Heavens to Murgatroyd exit stage left! Flee for your life even!

It may very well be too late for the young man to "exit stage left"; apparently, they are engaged, and nowadays, there's little doubt they've not had intercourse. Scripturally that would mean that they're already married! In fact, that's the only means to be married today, since the Supreme Court nullified all State Constitutional marriage laws in the U.S. between one man and one woman. State civil law marriage no longer exist. For the young man to exit stage left he would first have to give her “a bill of divorce”, or both being guilty of adultery in the near future.

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Extent left, chased by wo-manchild

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Yes, because a lot of times they are lazy because their parents were always afraid for them to go out and try anything. The fear paralyzes the kids.

Bryan Jacobs Do do I

It’s not always the parents fault we have 3 daughters that left home but my son is a child in the head and refuses to grow up and live on his own. We keep kicking him out and it doesn’t do any good he still does nothing with his life. We can’t understand why he is different than the girls when they were all raised the same

Yeah but at some point it’s up to the adult children to take accountability for their own life. She’s full grown now. No excuses.

She lives at home with no education.

Yeah just kick her out now. She's 32 not 6

@@JamesWilson-sb9iq she has no money, m um should have made her save.

@@carojames6776 No - she is an adult. It's not mommy's job to run an adult's life.

@@DisabilityExams well right now mommy is funding everything. Including saving money...

She makes money and they still gave her $400 a month!

i see marriage as a business.

The bad news is..... the parents are part of the problem! To the daughter... Grow up! Prepare to be a wife/help meet BEFORE you become one. To the young man....Either run Forest run, OR read the book of Proverbs especially chapter 31. That woman was handling her business and her husband had no need for spoil. Walk in wisdom... Wishing you all the best.

She is not ready for marriage for sure. Tough situation to be in.

*Yet?* How about "Don't get married to her, *EVER!"*

Christian Fajardo Run Man Run!

I think in 6-8 months the daughter will still be living with the parents. Or the boyfriend. No WAY is she living on her own in any circumstance. She'll either guilt her parents into letting her stay, or guilt her boyfriend into taking her in/moving into that house together (that he's buying with his money, poor guy).

It has now been six months. She is still living there.

*Only Maury and Steve Wilkos give updates.* 😂😂

ill give you the 10 year update. loan was approved, she has twins, drops out of school and work, sucks up everything then divorces you just to come back and take more.

In 6 months she will be 6 months pregnant, living in her parents home, unemployed and getting an allowance.

You're spot on. If I were the parent of the boyfriend I'd let him know he needs to let her be on her own at the very least a year. But ugh, can you imagine how high maintenance this girl would be?

I went from my parent's house to my husband's house. XD I've never been independent. I guess, at the end of the day, it just depends on the person.

Nicole Albanese thats kind of sad

Imagine if they have kids.

Nicole Albanese Same here! I met my husband at 21 while living with my mom and attending college and the year we got married we moved in together in to our own place. It does depend on the person. My mother never babied me and I helped in any and every way I could while living at home.

She will ruin his life.

If he is that much of an idiot he deserves that miserable woman and life he chose.

No way.

Exact same thing happened to me, parents didn't want me to go but I did.

I had the same situation, my parents were very upset that I moved out. I moved out at 20 and made it work with a below poverty level income and never had to ask them for money. It’s called being an adult and it’s something I can be proud of even if others aren’t!

@@Moshbearpig it's part of growing up congrats 🙌

@@ferngulleyhomestead Something about making it on you own is just so fulfilling lol congratulations

I hear all of the whining going on with millenials about how they can't afford to live. I bought a house making less than 40% of what I make now. You just have to be responsible. The mortgage comes before the toys and entertainment.

With her husband and 3 kids. They feel bad they don't want their grandkids to be homeless! They all get $100/wk allowance because kids need toys. Ok ok I'm going to far with this lol

Momthatdoesstuff not far enough

….and mom and dad gave her another 6 month extension, but then they MEAN IT, by golly.

hiquality_distraction Yep

lol!

@Ethan Wood Bruh! Lol!

Brad Hibbard simps gonna simp

@TerrorWest the lady literally says christian

daughter is super-hot or the fiance is a chump. maybe both.

Run forest run

She got that mac and cheese

Title should be. I refuse to let my children be adults. Or " I identify as a helicopter and I hover over my children 24/7.

I mean it wouldn't be bad if she had a job and was saving money but she is just straight mooching off her parents

Living at home is not the problem. I live at home and with the money I saved I just bought my dad a brand new car. Most of my friends are renting and owe a lot of debts. Being immature is the problem

Ryann T I wish I would have stayed home while working so I could spoil my mom. Like you said, there’s nothing wrong with staying home as long as you’re pitching in.

@@ryannt I live at home also. I've had enough to buy a decent home for a while.

+ alimony and child support (

Andrew OMG 😮Yes. He’s willingly walking right into it. God he’s going to get reamed royally by her if he gets married.

@@kirbyaugustine761 yep, this is waiting such brainwashed blue pill simps. Unfortunately, there are a lot of them here in the US.

Andrew I, shocked Dave is suggesting that he not marry her because I know he’s pro-marriage with men being responsible for women’s behaviors

@@kirbyaugustine761 it wouldn't be pro-marriage for him to give his blessings to a relationship that's doomed for divorce. Dave is more pragmatic than that

An ATM that wears tennis shoes.

Hmm, he deposits $200 from her every paycheck to his account. Who gives whom the money.

I always worry about if the roles were reversed. How could she take care of you if she has no experience? Being a team is both parties need to be able to handle it. It is none of my business. You deserve better. Good luck.

My husband was a single dad who moved back in with his parents. He lost his job and was jobless foe YEARS after...only worked on cars to pay his car payment, phone bill and I think cable or some trivial bill. When we married he was 45 years old. I was a single mom with two teenage boys...going it on my own for the most part. I had told him he needed to get a job...he had excuse after excuse. It finally boiled over when finances got really tight. We had agreed he wanted me staying home..I was collecting a little bit of veterans disability but that was it. He told me he couldn't work certain jobs because he couldn't deal with people. I blew up. I told him I can go out right now and get a job...any job really and that him not being able to push his issues with people aside enough to help me was extremely hurtful. I told him he needed to step up and asked him if his parents weren't there to support him and his son, would he have made it on his car income? He had to admit he couldn't. He told me straight up his self esteem was shot and he felt worthless. We are a year out now from that conversation and he is supporting this household with a really good paying job and busting his butt for us. His son now lives with his parents and at 23 is now the entitled adult child and my husband's now going off on him. My husband learned his lesson. I'm not the kind of women who likes telling her husband off but after making it in the world on my own since the age of 17 I have absolutely no patience for entitlement. I hope your wife can come to understanding how hurtful it is to you for her to stand by while you struggle and to put her wants before your needs. If she won't listen to you, I would suggest counseling...maybe she'll listen to a professional. I can't believe my husband actually listened to me and proved it by holding down this job, advancing, getting awards at work...I'm so freaking proud of him and I am sure to tell him how much I appreciate him busting his butt for us. I wish you two the very best.

Marriage is suppose to be fair give and take if she not given and just taken it not a marriage you need to make sure she does her share or you could wound up in the streets

Ryan De Witt Yep. Her Parents

Agreed. I would NEVER want to be with somebody that I have to financially babysit. I had to deal with parents who were financially incompetent and it almost destroyed me emotionally and financially. I would sooner die than marry someone like that no matter how much I loved them.

I would like to say to that young man, if he thinks he can "fix" her by marrying her, I have a bridge in Brooklyn I'm about to sell him.

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I wondered that, too! Eww! 😖

James Pungello 😂

I think it's Dave's way of saying she's being a nut... she (the daughter) wants to "live life her own way" even if it means living with her parents for the rest of her life.

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I don't know some men eat it up, must love control. She will have to come to him for everything, and he takes care of everything. Mom so glad she to turning her over to someone else.

I luv u crypt keeper!

@@laurenletsche1134 Hello boils and ghouls...hehehehehe...

He’s not gonna leave, like you said he’s a simp dude must not be doing the best because if he was he could find a woman better.

Time to Man up!😮

@@funtechu Is this *co-dependant?* People throw that word around a lot, but i think it applies here.

@@mphomolapo1562 yes ma'am this is definitely a co-dependent behavior

@@funtechu Exactly. parents should not ask adult children how much money they have or mention the cost of something if they are not paying for it. I think most parents do this at least once though.

You can tell the mother is hesitant to tell her the truth.

Exactly brother

Ask mommy if Christian boy was your son would you be happy? There you go..:

Peter Peters that jumped out at me too. Did she seriously ask why is that? This woman raised a bum and is confused as to why somebody wouldn’t wanna marry her. She must be a bum too.

@@carnival30 True for it to get this bad smh

The mom doesn't even think there's anything wrong with the daughter being so dependent. Mom's just ready for someone else to take care of her.

Its like mom is delusional or something 💀

In a word, no.

That’s how it was in the 1950’s.

The mother and daughter are probably very alike moms leaching off dad and daughter is to

Our 21-year-old son is paying us more than $700/month for rent, and we're still getting ready to kick him out...it's time. And no way to I want to be in this woman's situation in 11 years. More importantly, I don't want my *son* to be in her daughter's situation in 10 years...

@@greenAbbot Don't want to be a rude, but if my parents charged me that much rent I'd rather be on my own.

@Josh S still wouldn't want to live with my parents though

greenAbbot Can't you just let your son save up most of that money on the side? That way, he can use the savings to move out to an apartment or a house he can afford. He's probably not moving out quick enough because he's paying a lot money he can't even save. Just saying. Correct me if I'm wrong. 😂

@@greenAbbot thats messed up. 700 is alot...he could use that to move on

Sure as long as she is paying her own money with a job. If she is just going to take on debt and call that being an adult, she made a bad call.

Nuggyfresh 💯💯💯

In that case I applaud your bravery in doing the right thing

@@nuggyfresh6430 For real! Taking on debt and going away to college doesn’t make you an adult!

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I think you are different from the daughter in the phone call. She pays no rent, buys no food. Likely does no chores. Congratulations on your progress towards buying the house!

Seriously...this question really had nothing to do with money. He should direct get to family counseling. Not that his advice is bad, but he doesn't have the full story either.

Forget Dr.Phil...go to an actual therapist in your area.

R. Mathis He , Dr. Phil, would call her worse

Nah. Dave tells it like it is. He was honestly too gentle with the mother. She just keeps talking instead of accepting that she caused this.

What is the college degree the daughter earned ? Basket weaving ? Is that why she is now tossing that aside & learning to he a barber ???

Bump City LOL I see the same thing.

And will keep marching and marching on and on, all over her, if she doesn't wake the h*** up!

So, you threw your daughters out when they were 19?! In Europe, we consider such parents mean and cruel, incredibly selfish.

@@vaska1999 not sure why you would think your opinion would matter

@@brycehedstrom374 You wouldn't be, would you? Lol

Exactly

Being a stay at home mom is a viable career. According to the Bible it is the ideal career for women (Titus 2:4-5). This woman won't be having 5 kids anyway since she's already 32 and likely doesn't have enough time for that biologically. That said, she should be using her time prior to marriage and motherhood to be productive elsewhere and she's not.

@@bryanjacobs1423 can have kids up to 40. Most have 100k debt from a master degree partial doctorate and want to stay home too.

@@bryanjacobs1423 exactly. Glad that someone else sees the truth.

D4x4Bronc actually it’s highly dangerous once the woman reaches 35 or has more than three children. The child is more susceptible to birth defects and such.

Happens probably more often than you’d think. My aunt never moved out of her childhood home and she’s in her 60s now. Inherited 1/3 (there were 3 kids) of everything and 100% of the home (in SoCal, so not cheap). My husband’s brother is in his 30s and still living at home, we think he’s going to do the same thing.

I'm so glad that I'm an only child 🤣🤣🤣

Josh S LOL my thoughts exactly. I rather get a mortgage.

Cop wCuffs My mom put it in her will, sell the house. Thank God we all have our own homes.

I know a 48 year old guy like this..parents coddled him his whole life. Bought two houses for him to stay in...he said he wished he could move back in with them but they said no. He lived with them until he was about 33 or 34. I bet he is hoping to get their house when they pass, too. His older sister in her 50s has always worked.

What made you assume the average Boomer understands the concept of personal responsibility.

Whether or not they contributed to what got her here they still need to get a plan to help her go from here.

@Elle D I'm not sure why you're even responding to me like a said something crazy... I said they need to handle it, I just don't think the fact that her parents clearly messed up is a blanket excuse for her not doing anything with her life.

@@jennaarmerding81 it's generally best to understand the cause of a problem before finding a solution. Otherwise you might be going with the wrong solution or repeat what caused the problem.

More like a Gen X parent than a Boomer actually. Regardless, they did this young lady no favors by helicoptering her life and now wanting her to move on without any life skills. The woman admitting they were cutting strings at 30 is a little late to be honest.

she will destroy that.

Lol many of these people that are judging don't have a grand saved up

Exactly. Only broke dusties tell the man to run, because a lady won't contribute financially.

Well I mean can she be a good mom though? 50 years ago that was the only question that mattered aside from is she hot

She in fact sounds like a sweet girl. Her mom is a warm person, she is probably alike. She also loves her parents and that's a great quality.

True -- unless she's a bluegrass music fan!

Or they're from small country towns where you literally grab whatever wife you can because people in your age group are few and far between. I've seen it. People pair up because it makes financial sense; not because they're in love.

She isn't working all day so she prob puts out well

He takes $200 from her every paycheck and deposits it into his bank account. And how do we call guys who send women to work and then take their money?

I see this ending badly....reallllllly badly.

$200 of every paycheck gets deposited to his account. That's savings. She probably has her own account she spends from. I still don't like the idea of depositing money into the boyfriend account for any reason whatsoever.

Why?

How well did she manage to be on her own?

@@thecatnextdoor12 she has a husband who supports her 100%.

@@wildflowersmile3224 LOL

Yep. Also, having a degree doesn’t make you smart.

@@silvereyedstacker1842 it does if your taking a STEM field degree.

Paper champions; you haven’t heard they’re all over the place 😆🤷🏽‍♂️

lee wuo I have a degree in a STEM field. We are a different breed in general, but some that are just average still make it through.

@@silvereyedstacker1842 Yhea your right but some spend to much money on unless degrees that they or their parents paid for and this is an example of many until reailty hits them in the face and spoiled children must take that in consideration.

Some people don't want to leave and parents don't want them to leave.

It is increasingly becoming normal due to the increasing expense of rented accommodation.

Same

They are scared to admit that they failed her trying to protect her from all pain and disappointment not knowing they were doing more harm than good.

Many people would disagree with you on that. On my cultures that I've seen (Including my own) it's socially acceptable to be living with parents/family at that age. Nobody blinks an eye and nobody judges you. The difference being while these people live with their parents they are financially independent.

It is a good thing.

@TravYou're so right, Trav! Also means their standards are too high...they can share an apartment in not such a fancy neighborhood to save money, etc. And as Dave says, no one is forcing you to continue to live in expensive areas!

Kat Baal Exactly. When you are low skilled or even medium skilled, you can find work anywhere. It’s when you are super skilled and highly specialized that it becomes more difficult.

tmcfootball96 But you have to at least try

Exactly. I guess they would rather her live away from her parents with 300K in debt. Its only in US parents throw their kids at 18 to pile on tons of debt and make dumb choices. In other countries single people often live with their parents until married and rates of divorces are LOWER.

like what my mom was/is trying to do and i refuse.

She acts like a child.

Mom should kick her out , he wont let her be homeless .

@ Practical Bible Studies , LOL!!!

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@@salomekabinga3282 The thirst is real.

Lol not really