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I have known I had OCD since I was 8 because I have some compulsions but I didn’t know about intrusive thoughts until I got diagnosed (finally) this year. I went to the doctor because I was getting snappy at my coworkers, which is not normal for me. I also noticed at the same time that my compulsions got worse and so started to research OCD more and realized I definitely needed to do something about it. So glad I did! I actually felt relieved when I got a diagnosis and started therapy and meds.
I have that, intrusive thoughts come into my mind from the moment I wake up to the point I go to sleep it doesn't stop no matter how hard I try and the anxiety it gives makes is unbearable.
Thank you for sharing with us. I always just shut myself down when things scared me. I wanted someone to hold me and tell me that everything was going to be alright, even if He didn't know. My husband ask me what can I do, to make you feel safer. We have been married almost 35 years and he has always been good to me. He hugs me quite often and makes sure I don't need him to say everything is alright. He is 73 and still acts like my hero. God's been good to us.
Rebecca, my hubby and I follow in your footsteps. I’m so happy for you that you have such an amazing partner. We’ve been married for 37 years, dated for 2. He’s my hero and my best friend. We hold each other when we’re scared, we giggle a lot, we do nice things for each other, and put each other and ourselves first in life. We’re both very blessed!!!
So, sorry for what you went thru. Your not along, I have something similar. Mine use to help me, but after 28 year's it started to affect our marriage, and he find someone else. Sad part is I just gave him 2 of the best, special, and blessed kid's after not being able to have children for 17 years. I am so thankful to GOD for my children
You’re so brave to talk about this. I have OCD, Anxiety and Depression and without my supportive husband, meds and the right doctors I don’t know where I’d be. Good luck on your journey. God bless both of you.
It’s totally understandable why you have over a million followers. You’re both so refreshing in your openness with each other and with us. By allowing us to see how life-changing it’s been for you, you’ve helped others see there’s hope and healing without the stigma. You may have left Honduras early, but I believe you’re fulfilling your mission in other ways 👨👩👦💕
I think this is so good to share how marriage isn’t easy at first for a lot of people. I’m glad you guys have worked through it and chose to stick together even through the hard times 😊
For sure. I’ve been married 25 years now, I definitely can recall especially the first year being rough. It’s still not always easy but there’s less episodes. Picking your battles is definitely good advice.
@@nancysakmar2092 Excuse me for asking, but I am not from US and English is not my first nor second language, so I don't understand that one specific thing - when you are saying that you are "mental health therapist", what exactly is that means? In my country, that would mean you graduated from medical school (University, 6 years) where you decided to take direction to Psychiatry. So in my country that means you're a Doctor psychiatrist and psychotherapist. Is it the same in America? I apologize for my ignorance, but that's why I ask and that's why I hope to finally understand if there are any differences. Also sorry for my English! Greetings from Amsterdam 🌷
@@JuditaHoffman. In USA those who go to medical school and specialize become psychiatrists. Their roll is to determine the most effective medication. 95% of time they do not provide therapy. That is done by Mental Heath Therapists that are PHD, Clinical Counselors or Social Workers. Hope that helped.
I am in awe of Derrick being so open honest and raw about his health. I was raised in the 80’s and back then mental health was not a subject people talked about. It was a hush hush situation. I struggled my whole entire life with OCD, Panic and anxiety attacks. I have seen many therapists and have tried many medications. He mentioned a brain camp. Curious as to what they do and where one may be located on the East coast. Having mental health issues is a real thing. I am so happy that it’s no longer a taboo conversation. I am happy you both work together and have come a long way together. Having a partner who supports and understands is huge. When you battle these alone it is scary. Thank you so much for sharing this. I now hope I can find some help for myself. I am horrible at communication, which effects my relationship daily. Now knowing I am not alone brightens my day. Thank you once again.
My son fell 30 feet rock climbing at age 18. He too is a miracle. He broke his back and has 7 fused vertebrae with rods and screws. His occupation? A rock climber/ route setter. So thankful for miracles❤️
It was horrible for me & much of our marriage until I gave up trying to 'fix' every little thing for him. It took me moving out for his wake-up call. I chose to not put him always first. For ONCE! I couldn't tolerate the verbal abuse. It had become my nightmare also which was unfair to me & our kids. I truly thank God that we finally made it through. (34 years)
@Tomsic Maria I am so, so sorry for everything. I am the one with it, I take rx's it take the edge off, that is it. Mine stayed with me for about 25 years. I finally had his kids and a couple of years after that he found other people. We had to divorce, I didn't want to. It came down to being scared for my and my kids life so, I left. I pray everything works out for yall. MAY GOD BLESS YALL 🙏
I’m bipolar went through many drugs nothing worked and I was in such a dark place that would rather put myself out of my misery . It wasn’t until I changed my lifestyle diet exercise and self care plus I’m on the perfect medication regiment. It took me two years but I’ve been stable for almost 2 years and I finally love myself and I can now enjoy my family. Thanks for sharing. And yes medication isn’t always the best answer.
I have severe anxiety, depression,OCD & ptsd. I think for me it’s just hard to talk about or say I have this. I’m so proud of you for telling your story & so Thankful you met Sarah. Y’all are a beautiful couple & Jack is absolutely adorable. My husband is also my rock. We’ve been married for 27 years. I know I wouldn’t be writing this if it wasn’t for him. We met & became inseparable in Jr.High. Enough about me. I enjoy y’all’s videos & I’ll pray for y’all. Much love
I hear you, and even through a forum where you are unknown, it's not something people want to actually read, talk and FEEL about, they don't know how to process the hellish nightmare you speak of, if they cannot listen, dear Lord, they will NEVER understand or relate, even if they say they do. When someone relates to your conversation, you damn well know, you feel it, it's not an uncomfortable feeling. Where there is NO concern, you will feel the resistance, too.
@@justkeepswimming8335 I’m so sorry to hear that. Having support makes it easier. Maybe a councilor, sister, friend, parents. Take your partner along. Give him/her the info needed to educate themselves . I pray you get support. I understand it can be a lot for a partner but it’s also a lot for the one trying to live life with the debilitating mental health issues. It’s even harder feeling alone. I’m so grateful that mental health has been brought to light but there is so much more ppl can learn about it. The stigma it’s had over our lifetime has completely shut down the way ppl see it. I certainly hope & continue to educate & help all that I can. It’s definitely has made me see so many things differently & I believe in a positive way.
Hi, Mandy. Plz see my comments to Derrick, as it may hold some options for you to consider, that could really help the issues you're facing. God bless you, dear one. 🙏🙌🤲💞
I can not believe this video. A blessing! My son is 12 and we are literally going through this right now. He has always shown symptoms, quirks, but couldnt put our finger on it. Literally everything you described from the light switch, intrusive thoughts fit him to a t. We just got him into therapy. Also, how uou have to put your clothes in a certain place or the car window. My son couldnt get inti the car until he type some “code” on the side of the car. Or if he didnt do s certain thing he thought i may die in a car accident. Its so hard seeing him go through this. It rips my heart out that i cant just fix it. I am going to show him this video i think as an encouragement showing him hes not the only one and the words you say are so encouraging. Ive watched yall for a while but im a first time commenter.
Thanks for sharing. I am 76 yo and it has taken almost a life time to get to where you are now. Things are different in 2023 than when my problems started in 1957. For one thing discussing mental health was a no-no. Medicines, doctor's and the public are on the band wagon now and recognizing that mental health is important for healing the whole body and soul. Keep the faith .
@@elsiedawson81 It is so important that all people accept that mental health is the same as physical health, it's just a little different because mental health is not so visible and the patient has to explain for himself how he feels. I hope that the stigma around people's mental health problems will finally disappear completely and that people will pay more attention to this aspect of their general health.
This video is so special and so important for people to hear. People think everyone has a perfect life because of what the outside looks like. You two have given others hope. So grateful. ❤️🌈🌺
Oh you two! Just when I’m thinking “ how much more can I love these two?”- you come out with this. Thank you for sharing yourselves with us, heart and soul, I truly appreciate your candor and for allowing us to see your process as you progress along your path. So grateful ♥️
Hang on in there Derek your total breakthrough is coming. Once you started opening up about your life you are on the path to success.Your truth will help so many people.I love your family. KEEP growing and enjoy your blessings.
Thanks for sharing. There are so many people reading this that you can help. Sending you my best wishes for the future. Please keep reaching out to help others.
Truly raw, honest and mature. Grateful for your honesty from every perspective. This is a core value that every couple needs to understand. The enduring love and support that you both clearly have for each other, and your family is so amazing. ❤️
This is such a genuine video! Your message shows that mental health issues should be addressed and people don't need to feel embarrassed or ashamed. You also brought awareness to the fact that sometimes practitioners and patients don't work together as well as others and changes need to be made. Very sweet to acknowledge the support you receive from Sarah. God bless you both! PJ.
Derik you’re such a beautiful soul!! You were brave to share your story and it will help others identify and deal with their mental health concerns! I also appreciate your positive attitude and love that you can see how bright your life is! Keep up the good fight Derik!
As a member myself of the latter-day saints I am very glad that you're speaking about this because when my children were growing up we lost a lot of well they lost a lot of friends to suicide because it just wasn't something spoken about, and you being a young latter Day Saint and talking about this gives other young people like yourself someone to look up to so I really appreciate what you are doing Derek it helps more than what you think.
Sorry for your familys losses. Wish people could be more open with their own feelings without so much judgment from others. Too many lives are affected because mental issues are not addressed as much as physical issues. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
@@crystalerdmann2517 It would help if instead of it being categorized as "mental health issues", it was changed to "brain health issues". And honestly, that's really what it really is anyway.
@@CherylBerryl sorry if I offended you with the word "issues". I meant no disrespect, just gets categorized that way so often. You are so right, it all relates to how our brain works. Would love to know more about the "Brain Camp" as it could probably be good for many people. Emotional feelings can get even the best of us into a personal whirlwind with ourselves. I think sometimes that I'm never going to get my life right. I have to remind myself often that "My Right" is totally different than "Another Person's Right". GOD BLESS YOU. 💓🙏💓🙏
@@crystalerdmann2517 Hey, Crystal. I didn't take any offense, dear one. I was only bringing to light how society in general needs to change the verbage in regards to mental health. It's not cheap by Any means, but if you can find a way to swing it, consider contacting Dr. AMEN. His state of the art professional brain diagnostic services are #1 in the country, & has helped so many find balanced brain health. Also research about the Vagus Nerve it has all to do w/ proper gut/brain health, as they're both intrinsically interconnected. Also look into the Fisher Wallace device. It helps with depression, anxiety, PTSD, CPTSD, sleep issues, & pain. Be well, & God bless you! 🙏🙌🤲💞
As a mom of 4, my heart breaks for you and all the suffering you went through. It’s a blessing you met Sarah and thank you for bringing out in the open. You may be saving someone’s life. God Bless you. I’ll be praying for you. ✝️🙏📿
I admire the fact that you opened up about something so personal. The two of you are perfect for each other. I’m so glad you’ve found a medication that works. I wish you and your entire family all the best.
i’ve suffered anxiety for some months, but i’m getting better now, even though thanks for sharing your experience because it’s so inspiring and i feel it’s the kind of thing people need to know while are going through smth similar. People crave for someone with the same experience and to know they are better. Remind that we are always here for you and you’re amazing!❤️
I’m glad you guys spoke about this! It is so rare that people who suffer from OCD talk about it due to all the shame and guilt that come along with it. The mind can be such a dangerous place. It’s hard to identify the thoughts aren’t yours at first , because so many of us are not comfortable talking about our intrusive thoughts. So thank you for bringing more awareness! I hope this helps someone .
God knew and brought her into your life. My husband struggled so much with the same things. He would even color coordinate our closets. He was called home November 22 2020, after 25 yrs of marriage. I miss & love him so much but just wanted to say it was a struggle through our marriage too. He was my brothers BF and we met at age of 12. Crazy because we literally knew each another most of our lives. Struggles & trials will come but by putting God first he will lead y'all's way through the dark times. I am so HAPPY for y'all and thanks for sharing personal information because so many times people feel alone in their walk as you did. We're here to build up one another and I'd never would've known because y'all's family always looks perfect. It's special and God can use you to help others dealing with the same thing. God Bless from Sharon in Tennessee
My husband suffers from severe anxiety, depression and suicidal ideation. He has tried so many different medications as well and is on prozac now. I am really glad you found a medication that really helps you. I understand how hard it is to find the right one. As a wife who's married to someone with mental health struggles it's nice to know that I am not alone (and I struggle with my own anxiety and OCD). Thanks for talking about this.
Hello. Have him engage in constant conversation with THE LORD. That’s how I overcame my battles. JESUS is the answer. HE will divert his attention so that the problems are not fed into.
Me and my boyfriend are going through this rn I “saved” him from a traumatic experience and he recently got diagnosed with ocd and anxiety and I feel what Sarah was saying about the medicine… that’s kinda how I feel right now but it’s also hard bc what’s best for him might not be what’s best for me it’s just very difficult to manage right now but it makes me so happy to know that him and I can get through this as well. Thank you SO much for this video and being so open and honest.
Hi, please read my comments that I wrote to Derick w/ some important healing information that could possibly help your boyfriend & yourself. Take care.
Prozac saved me years ago! Long story but it was at the time when there was so much bad press on it. I got off it twice and just went back to panic! I have been on it for years and it works! Whatever works for you my friend!!! People need to know that the brain is an organ just like kidneys etc and if something is wrong and a medication can fix it then you take it! Love to all of you!!! ❤️
I'm so thankful that you shared your story. I have bad mental health issues, and it feels like there's still such a stigma about talking about it. Especially about men, it's so important to get them talking!! So, thank you!! 💛you 3.. amazing family!!
Derik, THANK YOU for being so honest about your journey with anxiety disease and OCD. It's so hard when you have these negative and intrusive thoughts in your mind and don't know how to deal with that. They make you suffer and feel sad, I literally felt that I was going crazy and I panicked multiple times. Thank God there are good professionals out there who can understand you and give you an effective solution, wheter it's therapy or pharmacs. I'm so glad you are feeling so much better and I wish to you all the happiest moments ever! Blessings to you and your family. Greetings from Barcelona!:)
Hey BFF, just wanted to tell you I have suffered a long time as well. Since I was 10 and I just turned 59 and Finally just started Therapy last week! I have no family or friends and isolated myself as that's my comfort zone. I hope and pray therapy will help us!
Beth I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Therapy really does help and sometimes medicine is necessary. Don't be ashamed to take it if you need it. I suffer from the same thing. Hope you start feeling better soon. God bless you.
You both are such an inspiration. I'm 65 and had never suffered from depression and anxiety till I was 53, and learned how difficult it was to experience those things. So happy to know you found your balance Derek, and I think God put Sarah in your path.
Wow. You are so incredibly brave for coming on here and sharing your story with us. I’m so happy for you, and so glad things have turned around for you. And what an amazing wife you have. You two are such positive role models to your generation . I can’t even imagine how much this video has helped so many people. Thank you for your honesty and courage. Sending your family lots of prayers and love from Colorado!
This was so wonderful to hear, anxiety is a beast; I know from personal experience, and finding the right medication is so hard but like some illnesses medication is a necessity.
I'm a Baptist, but my boss and her family are all LDS (they are like my second family). And literally everyone I am drawn to in life (online, brands, in real life) happens to be LDS! How funny you both are too! It really seems like a huuuge portion of LDS men and women are just so sweet, genuine, and spirited people.
Thank you both for being so open about your struggles, battles, and all you have gone through to get to where you are now. You are an encouragement to all of us. I wish you even greater success and more abundant peace and joy.
It honestly means so much that there's people out there willing to share their story to help people. It's such an alienating feeling having to go through this kind of thing and to have someone to work through it with you must be amazing. Thank you for sharing and making so many of us out there feel less alone. After trying medication after medication and therapies with no end in sight you start to lose hope. This makes me feel like there could be hope to have yet
Thank you so much for talking about this. There are so many people that suffer horribly because of terrible intrusive thoughts- they cause so much intense pain and shame… people talking about it brings understanding and helps people feel relief- they aren’t monsters because of their thoughts. This video is a blessing bc it’s incredible to see you so happy. It gives so much hope. Thank you!! ❤️❤️❤️
This was such an inspirational video. I appreciate you sharing this story. It's extremely difficult to accept anyone into your life after experiencing trauma. You may realize that it could be beneficial for you, but also worry that you may not be good enough & don't want to bring someone else down. It's a challenging struggle to overcome.
Thus was so special. Thank you for sharing. My son is 50 and has suffered with anxiety for ever. Even to the point of not being able to work. He is on disability witch is very hard to take as he has been a successful person in his career. He is getting better but as you said it comes and goes. Take your time and enjoy your life and Sara and Jack. Don't feel rushed into another baby. Jack is just a baby himself. And you will see unfortunately anxiety is passed on and Jack will feel some of this too. Love you guys you both are so sweet and beautiful. He is too.
Cannot thank you enough!! ✨ Your story is familiar to me and your explanation of the journey to find balance is very inspiring!! I think there aren't many ppl, especially men, that speak of this subject in such a clear and helpful way as you did. Well done.
This is soooooo important for people to hear! It's really easy to watch people like you on You Tube or any social media, & think their lives are perfect & compare ourselves to them, which in turn(at times) can lower our self esteem & have us thinking something is wrong with us if we have any issues or our life isn't perfect. Thank you for sharing such a private issue, I promise you are helping lots of people in doing so! 🥰
It’s so crazy how everyone is different. Because in the past 4 years i have taken Prozac and zoloft but Prozac didn’t help me with my OCD but it helped with my anxiety and then eventually I went to Zoloft and that helped with both. Now I’m doing great so it’s crazy to see how everyone’s journey is different but you can be experiencing the same things. That’s why you need to do what’s best for you because what other people are doing might not always work for yourself. as a teenager who’s experiencing this currently it was helpful to watch this video because I can see how there is a light at the end of the tunnel and fortunately i have already started to see progress in my life. Thank you for sharing your experience I love you guys.
Also when my anxiety gets out of control, I find something to focus on like a painting or a tree, the ocean in your case..... And I tell myself... Through him all things are possible, you got this, believe in yourself and things will change.
Sometimes I do try and focus on something else. I get out a book or listen to music to help calm myself but making myself stop crying long enough to focus on those is where I have the most problem.
@@crystalerdmann2517 I hear you Crystal. Don't give up. There is hope for all of us, no matter what we struggle with.And God sees your tears. And they are each precious to Him
It was incredibly brave of you to talk about this so openly and honestly. You're amazing and I'm so happy you have each other. My son who is on the Autism spectrum deals with a lot of anxiety and it really helped to hear how you got through this.
You two and just wonderful together. Sharing your experiences with OCD and anxiety is really brave. But its so helpful to others who may be experiencing trouble and don't know who to see for help. You are both so helpful to other people!! Keep on going, don't stop growing and loving your lives. Those two kids are lucky to have you as their parents!
missions are the perfect storm for any mental health struggles. i came home early as well and is such a hard thing to experience when health things compromise us from serving the "full" time. You are awesome for sharing your story!!
It’s absolutely beautiful that your talking about it. I also wanted to note: Sarah, for being there for him! Good on you! It’s hard no two ways about it. But both of you are willing to talk communicate and learn and that’s the way to do it! Good for you both! And yes if more people had the support they needed maybe we could all share with others what we go through, why not help out people! Thank you B fam!
I feel with you guys. I'm suffering from OCD and anxiety since I was a little girl. It's Jesus who is helping me through the day and my husband his present for me. I can't even imagine how great it must be to have such a wonderful wife supporting you. Thanks for sharing. This made me realize that I'm not alone or crazy. God bless you.
I am SO proud of you!! You’ve come so far having lived with a hellish condition. Now THANK YOU for speaking out and educating people in anxiety and especially OCD, and letting people know and see that awesome people go through this and can work to live an amazing life!! And THANK GOD for you and Sarah finding each other and being each other’s person and amazing, life altering partner!! I’ve lived with anxiety and OCD most of my life, and for several years it totally crippled me. I’d love to share more with you and offer support. Tell me how I can DM you guys. I went through so much, but I came out the other side and it IS manageable!!!! You two are so amazing and we love the Beeston Fam!!! If you want, tell me how to DM you. God Bless the 3 of you!!!
Thank you so much for sharing and trusting us with your story. I have struggled with ADHD/OCD for over a decade (I’m 21) and it’s such a scary journey and one can feel so alone, I know I did. One of my biggest fears is that my anxiety will affect my future romantic relationships and it is so amazingly reassuring to see so much love even within your mental health struggles.
You're amazing! Totally get how you would be nervous about that. It definitely is something that can get so much better when working with your partner and trusting each other! You got it 👊
I just saw your funny and wholesome tiktoks and this is my very first video... And two things came to my mind: 1. I'm so proud and I have so much respect for you, Derik. 2. Sarah is one of the strongest women on this planet and this is the person who I aspire to be. Thank you for talking about your marriage as well, that's really helpful God bless you! 💓❤️
I'm so grateful for this video, thank you so much for sharing. I'm dealing with the same issues right now and sometimes I feel so alone and the overwhelming feeling of guilt just takes over. I've dealt with ocd and anxiety/ depression my whole life and it was very hard for me to open up about it because I started to feel like a terrible person for thinking these awful thoughts, as well as having strange habits that I feel like I have to do, and if I don't do them I can't relax. It's good to know I'm not alone in this, and I'm not the only one who is dealing with the same issues. So again thank you so much for sharing, this helped me so much. Praying for you and your family ❤️
Thank you for sharing your personal story. You may not have completed your missionary service but you are serving in your own personal way by speaking of your own experience. You will help so many people thru your voice. And it will help loosen the stigma of mental and emotional problems. This and being a husband and father are your greatest area of service. God Bless you and your family💚
This was such an amazing video, I've gone through depression and anxiety, and it can feel alienating. Thanks for sharing your experience, I think it's awesome and so important to share and let others going through the same thing that it can get better and that it's a stage that you can get thru with the right help 🤗💜🌸
You two are down to earth, authentic people! You are blessed to be so aware and present at such a young age. I suffered from severe anxiety but I didn’t realize it until I married a wonderful man and retired at 55. I’ve been through therapy and realized that I had an extremely traumatic childhood and developed subconscious coping mechanism to deal with anxiety. If all you’ve ever experienced is anxiety, how do you know that it’s not the norm or there’s a better way to live? I have so much respect for your honesty and maturity!
I randomly came across you guys on social media and at first I couldn’t deal with how ‘perfect’ your life looked. I’m glad you posted this because it made you so much more real to me. So relatable. I’m now a fan xx
I am so glad you are sharing this. RU-vidrs always look and show only the perfect life and it makes those watching feel so much worse when they are struggling. So this is awesome!!! Keep at it!!
Thank you for you honesty. When my younger brother was just starting 7th grade (he is now 62) he was challenged with anxiety and brain fog. He knew things weren’t right and was wise enough to ask for help. In the 1960, there wasn’t many medications or health help providers focused on youth. At that time, it was decided he should be hospitalized on a full time basis. He needed the full family’s support to work through his concerns. I am older so at the time I was out of the house and in a relationship. Our other family members I 2 sisters and 1 brother were moving on to college etc. My father was a very heavy drinker and had his own demons to handle. The support of qualified health professional, along with medication has enabled him to move on from that desperate situation. It took several years to get the right medication. I firmly believe he would not be here today without it. I pray and encourage all those that are suffering to reach out. You are a precious soul. As a loving family members you are also entitled to seek professional help. This field of medicine, counseling, therapy has many programs that can help. The phone health service is available. Your open truth is a beacon to others. Following your family that shows so much love and laughter is a testimony of blessings. It means so much to me to know you have been guided, by your faith, by your loving family.s support and trained mental help professionals to find your path. Thank you for sharing this important message. We are worthy of Gods love. 💐
Thank you so much for sharing your struggles! I have even more respect and admiration for you guys, especially you Derik, for helping show the world that it's okay to be vulnerable and need help. So many people think that it's a weakness and it's shameful to need help let alone ask for help. Hats off to you!! 😊 P.S. This is the first comment on any social media that I've ever made.
Respect! I’m touched by your journey and the openness you show by sharing it. The trust you show by inviting us all in. The troublesome and complicated illness that is one jigsaw piece in life next to all the others, and you telling how you try to make them all fit. Told in a low-key way, in a car in the rain next to your wife. Lovely! I’m hopeful for the impact this will have.
My husband of 30 years has ocd. He never recognized it. 3 times with the light switch, alarm clock etc.. Closet color coded and separated etc..he does still follow the exact same morning routine to the detail. Over the years I helped him see little things and he has worked hard at letting things go one at a time. He will always have some things but we all do. He has actually worked at jobs that required him to be attentive to detail, something he's very good at because of ocd. He did have a break down and it was hard and scary. I never realized this was common. He did have to take medicine for awhile, anti anxiety but nothing else. At this point, in his 50s , he has pretty much left all the little control issues and the negative thoughts that go with them. He is still not good at change but many of us are not. I have learned to just work around the things that are not important like his morning schedule. My husband says he would have been dead without me but I doubt that. Im glad he finds me supportive tho. We all have things! All of us. Some for a season and some forever, either way none of us need feel alone because there is always someone who has been through it. God is awesome at giving us just the right mate to fit us tho. Be blessed, be well, be strong. You will find it gets much better over time, maybe just because age causes everything to settle down.
just want you to know you are not alone! I have battled ocd and anxiety my whole life and I totally feel you! It is hard but you can get through it! My sister and I came up with this little song, " no no ocd you dont have a hole on me"! remember that ocd is a liar! Sending lots of love and peace to you and your family! you got this and so does God!
I followed you guys because you're the cutest couple and the cutest family! I never expected it, but I'm so happy that you shared your experience with OCD with us. I struggled with undiagnosed OCD until I was 26 and it was hell. It was terrifying not to know what was happening to me. OCD can latch onto any kind of thought, not just washing hands and checking stoves, and it never occurred to me that my relationship with my thoughts and fears were a psychological disorder until more than a decade suffering from it. I talk about my experience pretty openly because I don't want other people to have to spend years suffering when there is help out there, especially medication, ERP, and ACT. When you talked about feeling like you should be solid when you were struggling that really hit home. It was very painful for me to admit that I needed psychological help. It felt like admitting I was broken. Well, maybe I am a little bit, but at least I've got a few patches and splints in the right places so I can walk, run, and thrive. Here's to a fulfilling life with OCD!
I am so happy that I saw this today. I love that your wife saved you. I love that you understand how to manage your brain. Trauma is so life altering and I'm currently working through some of my own. Prozac has saved my life. I tell people all the time. I'm not ashamed of needing it, I realize that some of my wires are frayed after all that I've been through and that some people just need medication and therapy to function properly. I'm so happy for you guys💕🙏
Thank you for your courage and honesty. Being transparent about mental health issues is a gift to so many…and helps erase the stigma around therapies and treatments. There is no “quick fix”. It’s a process. Searching for the best fit therapies and medications is a lifelong commitment to yourself and the people who love & support you. Being diligent in this process of deep self care is a SUPER POWER. Being a support partner is also a SUPER POWER. As a parent of an adult child with bi-polar disorder, I know about this journey. I’m sending you my gratitude for being willing to share your story. Stories of authentic life are gold to me.❤
I have had lifelong depression/anxiety from age 4. And PTSD and CPTSD throughout that time. I felt so alone and scared for much of my life. So thankful more people are sharing and helping one another.
I'm sooooo proud of Both of You 💕. Open Conversation about this subject is so important!!! I'm also diagnosed with OCD, Anxiety and Depression. I'm also on medication and not ashamed about it. I'm 59 and have been on my medication since my 20's. Great Job You Two 💕🙌. Keep Up The Great Work and EVERYONE out there Never Be Ashamed Of Having A Therapist Who Knows Your Story. Love and Hugs from A Western Upstate NY Nurse here 💚
I appreciate how raw and real y’all are! I too struggle with OCD which causes me anxiety and depression and I understand your struggle deeply. Thank you for shedding light on your struggles and that things do get better! 🥰
I really appreciate that as members of the church you are actively speaking about mental health. I can’t explain how many times I was told I wasn’t praying or studying the scriptures enough. Thank you for showing this is a REAL issue and that it’s absolutely OK to have and that getting help is NOT WRONG.
I agree. I grew up LDS and for a lot of years the pressures to be "good enough" really contributed to my anxiety and depression. Then, I ended up leaving the church and going athiest because I was like well I'll never be enough so I may as well eat, drink and be marry. It wasn't til years and years later that my friend who was non-denom Christian explained God's love to me in a whole new light. That's when my anxiety really started to heal and then all the "good enough" stuff was a natural after effect of being truly accepted as I am. Now I go to the LDS church with my family from time to time but I always have to balance it with Christian ideas that go against the LDS faith to stay sane, anxiety wise, otherwise it spikes again thinking I'm not good enough to be saved.
“All our anxieties relate to time. The major problems of psychiatry revolve around an analysis of the despair, pessimism, melancholy, and complexes that are the inheritances of what has been or with the fears, anxieties, worries, that are the imaginings of what will be.” Fulton J Sheen
Thank you for being so transparent! I've had several people in my life that suffered from various types of mental illness. You guys have a huge following, and i know that you have helped others feel like they aren't alone!! Kudos!!💙💜💙💜
You aren’t alone!!! So many people are struggling with OCD along with you. I have a lot of it in my family and it in turn became a part of my life too. Intrusive thoughts are and have been a huge part of my life but being 32 now I have learned to accept that these thoughts will come and go and they don’t actually have any meaning. ♥️ so glad your beautiful wife came into your life and that you are both walking through this life together ♥️all the best to you both!! Thank you so much for sharing.
Thank you Derick for opening up about your struggles. I think it's super important for people who are struggling w/ certain issues that they have someone that they can relate to, that they know that they can work through whatever their personnel struggles are. Often people think that "social media personalities" lives are this perfect utopia, & that there is "something wrong" w/ them if their lives aren't as "perfect" as what they see portrayed by influencers. And I agree that Most people would benefit from some form of therapy. As humans, we are ALL imperfect, we ALL have struggles, and we ALL have challenges to overcome in life. A belief in a "power greater then ourselves", (whom I choose to call God) is one great source of strength, as well as prayer & meditation. I'm so glad that your last therapist was holistically minded & got you off of all of those heavily sedating drugs, because they really do have Bad side effects & also become Very Addicting, & the longer you're on them, almost impossible to get off of. I'm not sure if you know any information about the gut/brain connection, and how the Vagus Nerve affects brain health, or lack thereof. Allopathic medicine is only starting to understand it's great importance. You might want to consider contacting Dr. Amen who is THE Authority on the brain, & how it's imbalances affects one's life. He doesn't treat people in a "cookie cutter" fashion, it's totally an individual experience. I would also suggest you look into possibly doing some body work clearing healing. Our body somatizes ALL of our traumas, physical, emotional & spiritual; you experienced all of those when you had your life threatening, life altering accident falling off the cliff. There is a type on non-invasive body/mind/soul therapy called Bio-field tuning. It was developed by it's founder & pioneer Eileen Mc Kusick. She has a YT channel, & here is her website for for more information for you to research. www.biofieldtuning.com I really think her theraputic tuning the Bio-field could help you release the trapped trauma in your mind/body/soul that you've experienced. God bless you, Sarah & Jack, and All of your family. I can truly Feel that you're All very good hearted & kind people, & I enjoy your families channel, & Tanner & Lo's. 🙏💞
Derick! You're amazing for sharing this. You will help so many people realize that they have this same thing, and that they can get through it and be ok! Your family is so adorable and I'm so glad you and Sarah found each other. Keep up the great work guys! ❤️❤️❤️
This is what social platforms should be used for! This will be a huge help for so many people. I think we are facing so many things that are causing our young adults to have anxiety more than ever. Thank you for being so open
My 27 year old daughter was diagnosed with Pure O OCD when she was 17. I recognised something peculiar in her just before the age of two. We’re in the UK, and although we have the National Health Service here in England I can tell you it is DIRE. We had to pay privately before we got a diagnosis and it was the best thing we ever did for her. Pure O is the worst OCD you can imagine. The bad thoughts are horrendous, and I know exactly how the thoughts can affect you. She she now is able to process her thoughts through the private therapy we got her. I feel so bad for people who are unable to pay for it.
Therapy here in Canada is $200 generally. It’s not covered by our health care and we have one of the best health care systems. I can only do therapy 3 times a year with my work coverage and I have OCD. It needs to change.
@@torontofriends8968 I have good friends in Canada and have visited there before and by what they tell me it sound like your health system is very good, but still not good enough like here in the UK. NHS die hards rave about our health service but these are people who have never had to use it consistently. Even though we pay through our National insurance contributions more and more people here in the UK who can afford to are getting their own private medical insurance because the NHS is so bad. If you have a long term problem but non life threatening condition you’re basically -Kd. I have been through it and ended up having to go to a private clinic in London to get me cured after losing 7 years of my life. Our daughter had another breakdown during the height of the lockdown through working from home. We were desperate but the NHS refused to see her (phone appointments only) Her dad paid for her to have private sessions with a Pure O specialist face to face, which helped enormously (it certainly is strange how Covid can’t get you if you cough up the money). Honestly all of our GPS and specialists have and still are hiding in their offices only seeing urgent cases. It was bad enough anyway now it is beyond belief. We know her OCD will never go away, but she does manage it quite well with Paroxetine and the odd CBT session, which we still pay for because the NHS is still in full on pandemic mode. You’re right, it does need to change. I wish you well 👍🏻
I'm on Zoloft for my depression. I also take other meds for other health diagnoses. My dad was exposed to Agent Orange in the Vietnam War. I'm his oldest and the sickest sibling. It gets overwhelming sometimes. Lots of doctor's appointments, scans, surgeries, procedures. Sometimes I just want to quit all my meds and going to doctor's appointments and just see what happens. Live the life I want. I'm thankful for my friends and family who support me. ❤️
Thank you so much for having the courage to talk about this subject, I'm happy for you and Sarah and the progress you have made, it is definitely a life changer. Thank you for the resource you have provided, God bless you and your family Derek!!
From someone who has OCD, I appreciate you sharing your story to help spread awareness. And to help people understand more what OCD actually is and how incredibly hard it can be. Thanks for being brave and sharing your story. It helps others not feel so alone who deal with similar things. I love how you show that you can have a fulfilling life full of joy and follow your dreams even with a mental disability. It takes more effort in many ways but is totally achievable and there is always hope.
Thank you so much for sharing about this. The fear and shame connected to the disease can prevent one from seeking help. It helps to see that one is not alone in this. And, by the way, Prozac saved my life from a severe, life ending depression.
I've also had an odd anxiety issue. I know how hard it is. You have a great support system, and I'm sure it's part your life that also helps a lot. I have very little for support from my family, they get more angry and mean rather than accepting this as part of me. You're a lucky guy.
This was amazing to hear. I was recently (within the past year) diagnosed with OCD, and I've always had very severe anxiety. On top of that, I was also diagnosed with high-functioning autism. It is very inspiring to hear your experience, and also know that you had the courage to share this with us, and all the other people on the internet. Thank you :)
Thank you for making this video. My 21 year old son is dealing with this right now. It's always helpful to know others have dealt with this and have come out better on the other side of it. I will show him this video and I'm sure it will help him.
This video will be so helpful to many who deal with anxiety, and any mental health issues. It is very important topic that should never be ignored.Thank you for sharing your journey that you both are on right now. I think you both are so very fortunate to have each other, and your beautiful little boy.
@@DerikAndSarah So amazing, in just seven days, see how many people are talking about this subject and responded in the comments. I personally feel you've taken your platform to the next level with helping so many to see it is ok to share something that may be personal but people can relate and reach out.THANK YOU Derick and Sarah, much love to you both!!
