nah bro if any asian said that to their parent we would end up sleeping on the streets because this is "talking back" and being "disrespectful" and "rude" amd believe me, you never want to piss off your asian parent, especially if youre under 18 and still living under their household
@@tajbidturjaun12356 well you don't just need a job to earn money, you need to love and basically commit to it but think of the possible scenarios if a person only got into that career just to make someone proud instead of letting themselves be happy? For example if a child doesn't want to be a nurse or a teacher yet their parents keep forcing them to do it, not only will they be unhappy but it might not last long esp if they just took the course for the parents to be happy. Yeah money is important, but passion can make someone earn money twice in their life and for sure happiness is important as well. Isn't it?
@@lordbombay3308 I don’t mean to that extent of course. There should be an effective way of doing it. I don’t think one would be very happy if they are homeless.
@@quit5638 but for some parents f= FAILURE. I mean not everyone who gets straight As are successful. In fact studies found that people with lower grades are successful in life. Most people with higher grades have that perfect standard which wears down their mental health with time.
Once they know that you are more successful, that’s the time they will feel proud and accept. It’s so sad. They will keep you from reaching that because they have other ideals.
I'm kinda glad my mama was so open minded and stuff we never had spankings and tbh me and my sis grew up not going to parties, not wanting to sneak out, wear skimpy clothes, smoke, do drugs, drink alcohol, and we like staying inside at night and when I got a job I knew to put back money and most my coworkers liked actually working with me so much they still text me and I've been a faithful partner come to think of it I still every now and then buy my mama a drink or whatever or gifts just cause and I tell her I love you every night. And I still play with my sis who's younger than me even if I'm 21 I might not be rich, popular, in school and I got a GED as an honor student tho I'm mastering skills that my mama believes in me to have and I want to find a creative streak I'm so thankful for how my mama raised me and I love her dearly cause without her I would not be this way she and my grandparents helped me be who I am!
my parents don't care what ill be when i grow up as long as i have at least an average job and have at least an average life. but i get forced to go ahead and have over 90 and i get yelled at if i get a single 89..
Once I also said that to my my parents.But then they acted like they were gonna kill me😔😔,they said I'm mental, failure and wasting their property. They also said like they cursed me that I'll regret this.They said I'm a rude child who doesn't listen to her/his parents 😔😔😔.
@@wheniamanightcoreanimearti5391 aw:( im sorry they said that to you!! dw, pursue ur dreams!! you're not a failure. +ur not a rude child for just wanting to be an animator
The second a parent says this to their child, their child's dreams, self-worth, and self-esteem get crushed to smithereens. It's bad for the child to be put to such high expectations because then they will never feel like they're good enough. Don't do this to your child, you should support them no matter what. Edit : I know this could be a cultural thing or something but still, just don't do this, you're not helping your child in any way by holding them up to these expectations Edit Edit : Tysm for all the likes and replies on this, I didn't expect it to get this popular
True story: I'm about to finish high school and I want to go college. In college, I want to major Language Arts so I can become a writer or some job involving writing! The thing is, I'm Hispanic and my parents don't want me to go to college… They want me to work a simple job. I rather go with my plans
Follow your dreams, don't let anyone tell you how to live your life. The most important thing is your happiness. Do what makes you happy not what someone else lets you to do
"You should be a lawyer!" "But I don't want to be a lawyer!" "What da HELL you say!? Did you just backtalk, huh?!" "I'm just saying --- *sandal hit the face* 💀💀💀"
The reason that Asian parent want their children is because they know what it’s like back where they immigrated. These are the jobs that give you lots of money so you don’t end up on the “street” and so you can have a good life. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do what you want to do but I’m just explaining why.
@@smilingisfreetherapy5448 Well you're right, they were taught that those jobs pay alot, enough for one to survive. I can see nowadays things changed a little and other jobs are starting to be viewed in a positive light.
Asians :.........we don't want to die Only people who's parents support their dreams feel like they can; like me my parents don't want me to be a author; but I love writing
@@izukumidoriya8412 I’m an Asian and I think most Asian parents (from my friends) do set the bar quite high but my parents still support my siblings and I to do whatever job we want, and I wanna be an author too! I hope you follow your dreams and keep trying, good luck! :DDD
Are you actually 7 bc that’s old enough to be on RU-vid as long as you’re careful but not old enough to use RU-vid Shorts in my opinion. In any case, don’t put your age on the internet, love.
As a kid, I thought I wanted to be a doctor because my parents would tell everyone I wanted to be one. When in school I realized I love the science but I didn’t want to be one. Parents were not happy I dropped out Med school… They weren’t happy with me during my search years of what I wanted, they are still not happy I ended in finance🤷🏻♀️ Edit: thank you everyone🥺.. I’m older now and at the stage where don’t care about what people think, even family. I’m happy and that’s what matters♥️
Hey, if your parents are not happy for you, consider that they don't actually accepted it even they're mad or make you on the streets but as I believe in my dreams, I don't need to obey others or following my parents orders. I was so glad that I'm rebellious since a child. They say something about rebellious and people who believes in their dream, "Rebellious or whatever children, they'll do unexpected things that parents could never seen it for the first time in their life". I'm always an outcast in family, but when I was a kid, I dream to be a singer and many more so that I can help the world. I can't wait how my future would look like as that's how my kid's mind was. But instead, I still suffer family problems, but I'm 16 now, I can't wait to get out of this abusive household once I'm graduated from school. There's so many options even if you didn't have the gpa that schools wanted. I can sing, cause that's how my practice keeps on going, nonstop without realizing I can make everyone's day. If my parents expectations are not meet for them, I make them snap back how the abuse is killing me inside, and make them regret that I'm famous and I won't need them anymore because of family problems. I've already respected them enough but yet, just because I look like my stepsister, always on gaming doesn't mean I am disrespecting them. Why can't parents just don't believe in their dreams? That's obviously why they destroy their children dreams. If my parents does that, then their words will take that back that I'll be announcing that abusing children or destroying child's dream, is just gonna make them feel worthless and even telling that to the world. I'm not regretting to say that cause nobody is standing up for the damage youth, even to Japan destroying their children and teenagers youth as well. It's just sick minded. I hope you have a great life, as I mentioned, nothing is impossible. Have a good day/night
Nah me too. I grown up hearing my parents want me to be a teacher but then i realised that i dont want to be a teacher. I dont even know what i want to be. I just want a stabil work and life. Idc what job i will be as long as i can feed my family
@@putrifatin9524 yes 👍 and that is okay am 24 old and still don’t know what I want but am glad my family trust me … ❤️ I hope you will do something you love so soon sorry for my Eng
I am so proud that you continued to live your dream even though your parents said no. That takes real guts, and I am thankful and grateful that you are here to post and give us health advice. Thank you cassey and I appreciate you❣️
Me to my mom : Mom I'm auditioning to JYP, I want to be a, kpop idol..... My mom : I'll support you in anything you do :) That was actually true and I was just so touched that she didn't put any of society's stereotypical standards on my shoulder and didn't even hesitate to say 'sure' when I asked her.... And yes, I did audition to JYP..... I didn't get in of course but I'm happy that atleast I tried
I totally relate having Asian parents. I don’t think it’s all about the “prestige” associated with those careers but rather the financial security. Because they know that their children will make a comfortable living in those careers that is rather low risk than actually pursuing a passion and paving one’s own path. I think a lotttt of it is fear based/scarcity mentality especially if they’ve come from humble beginnings because they know what it’s like to struggle and they don’t want to see their child go through it. But it’s also hard on the child because it’s impossible to stick it out in medicine if that’s not the career of one’s own choosing.
This is the reason I’m so conflicted rn. Ik that what they’re saying is for my benefit but at the same time I wanna pursue what I want. But my main problem is that I’m not sure if I’m committed enough to my goals. It’s kinda hard 🥲
Yes!! The reason that Asian parent want their children is because they know what it’s like back where they immigrated. These are the jobs that give you lots of money so you don’t end up on the “street” and so you can have a good life. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do what you want to do but I’m just explaining why.
When I was little, I always wished to be a doctor when I grew up. But then my parents just couldn't afford it, because they say taking that course cost a lot… :')
"Then you don't belong to this family anymore. You are a shame to both sides of our family. Great job, you're on your own now. Don't ever call us dad and mom anymore, it's embarrassing!"
Me lucky that my parents support me in being an animator *me realizing that I have 40 performance tasks and 100 assignments and an exam day* Edit: math and AP why . . . 😔😔
@@blogilates Oh that's good to hear!! Every parent should be proud of their child no mater what they do for a living, as long as they worked hard for it!
@@-Unknown-._.469 If you really are interested, then go for it! But hear your mom's reasons too. They're still your parents at the end of the day and you should know why they're holding you back. It's so great that you want to save lives. We need more people like that 👍
Dang, this reminds me of what my mom told me. She said she wanted me to be a doctor, but I chose to go study mechatronics since I'm getting college for free and it's what I want. She said that the day Ai takes over the world, it will be my fault and everyone in that field. She's still salty I chose Engineering over any medical field . . .
🥺I could totally relate. Glad it turned out well for you! It is worth it to follow your passions, I don’t regret my choices looking back and my parents are proud now. They just want their children to be successful 😊
Yup the few jobs I don’t want my kids doing when I have kids is anything in the sex industry or a job were they are mis treated otherwise I don’t really care as long as they would be happy
They didn't want their only child to suffer (they most likely suffered cause immigration) ofc they want the best of their child and being a doctor/lawyer was the best choice for them nothing to laugh out loud at
The fact i will never relate to this even iam asian is kinda sad My parents probably gonna be happy if i get a any job because the quote "you cant make your parents disappointed if you never made them proud" describes me
This is very inspirational for so many people who are in the same situation you were. You're very strong to have kept pushing toward your dreams. I love how you didn't quit and teach others not to either. Lots of love from India
As an Asian child , I can totally understand your feeling . Only difference was , I wasn’t good @ anything , so I ended up walking down the path my parents wished me to. Now my parents started to regret seeing how much I didn’t enjoy and apologised .
At least your parents realised your mistakes and that means that deep in their heart they truly love you. You should be yourself and what makes you happy, that's what matters
This gave me motivation some how, I really want to be a k-idol or a soloist, rosé Inspired me sm, but my parents just want me to learn how to cook, clean, and then just marry after 18 that's unfair 😐
Not gonna lie, you technically followed your parents wishes indirectly. Pilates are to keep you fit, fitness ties into health, and health ties into being a doctor. Your helping people stay healthy, similar to a doctor.
But the reply of Indian parents are: 'My parents didn't have enough money but I will sacrifice my life to pay for your studies' * emotional me* 'Okay dad'
The fact that this is so common in the world literally hurts my heart so much. U should be happy that ur child is living life happily doing what makes them feel true joy and be healthy! (In her case anyway) Its truly pittiful and I hope all of these kids who are experiencing this do as u did girl and follow their hearts/dreams 💗
@@bobwithadad5959 my aunt is lawyer, and my great grandmother was a doctor. Ik they make good pay, but that doesn’t mean u should make ur kid be either, especially if it drains them out. I wasn’t refering my comment to the jobs anyway
@@moonjin4336 Me too wanna be an actress, but my family is forcing to be a surgeon doctor no one is here to support me Idk what to do I'm scared to be a failure I want to become my dream avatar I talked to everyone in my family but they won't listen instead they say be uneducated 😨
We can relate... I am having A dream from my childhood but whenever I talk to it with my parents they litreally get crazy that you will do what we say you not what you want! And I literally break into tears😭
@@theaqua1517 You know sometimes the situations are We can't do anything even if we want.... My father is kind of physco he gets angry over silly things and beat us😭 I can't find a way out... There are only 2 ways I guess.... To run from house! But where?! And to do suicide 😭
@@hwangsoo6311 Maybe but don't sit around .Please don't end your life , it's not worth it and you won't know what would happen on the other side.Just please don't do it ,you are strong. If no one believes in you , believe in yourself .
Wait wait wait. So you're telling me, you're the person from the comics?! *I've been watching this channel and seperately reading these mini comic strips and I really enjoyed both, but it never actuslly clicked! My happiness is indescribable and so is my excitement.*
I have been looking at these cute little comics forever, and for some reason it didn’t connect that it was you 😂 You’ve come so far and you’re doing amazing
Lol yep. I went to university to study engineering, barely made it 2 weeks, dropped out, and I'm joining the military, much to the dismay of everyone I know
"I'd rather be a failure" "Wait why?!-" "Cause you always tell me that 'nobody would like me as a family member' 😃" Edit: wow i didnt knew a vent comment would have alot of likes
I was also told I could be a doctor or lawyer. My other two options were nurse or military intelligence lol. I went to nursing school but my heart had only ever been with being a wife and mother. I left school and I’m with the man of my dreams. We just had our son and couldn’t be happier. ❤️
"If me and your mom are both lawyers what are you" "hmm, an ultiminate failure because your a failure and mommys a failure to so that makes me ultimate failure'
I’ve always been told that I needed a masters degree to even have a chance. My mom has threatened me multiple times by saying she’ll abandon me or quite literally, kill me if I don’t do what she wants. She brought me into this world. So apparently it’s her who chooses what I do in life. And yes. She said that. A women who didn’t have a job for more than 7 years. Plus dropped out not even halfway in college. (No hate. I’m just tired of her expecting so much of me when she couldn’t even live up to her own expectations.)
My dream careers could easily make more money than my parents. They think “it’s too much” but voice acting, hairstyling, mother, and modeling is what I’ve wanted since I was little. I hope I get successful in my own way just like you.
My Filipino Mom: "I don't care what career you choose as long as you're happy and will take care of me when im old." Me: "Best mom in the world✨" (Based on true events)
Wow!! So that's how you got into fitness training! I'm really grateful to you too take a break and exercise the gym owner who helped you ❤️ now you're inspiring many ✨
Props to those of you who have the courage to go against your parents expectations and wishes. So many people live a life of unspoken desperation and misery just because they wanted to make their parents proud by doing what their parents wanted instead of what they wanted
The moment I went to school and got my first high grades, my parents keep pushing me to have higher ones even now. It's so irritating that they say that my phone is bringing my grades down, rather than asking "Why?"
My mom wants me to be a scientist or whatever but I want to be an idol who sings, dances, play instruments and write songs no matter what. Am even learning and practicing secretly.
