My Wife Cheated on me with a Guy Our Son’s Age… and I Vanished from her life like Houdini after 

"For 23 years, I thought she was mine. But it turned out, it was just my turn." This one line really struck a chord.

The fact that everyone is telling OP that he needs to be there is weird af. He doesn't need to do anything for her. He was there for her for 23 years and she decided it wasn't good enough and stepped out their marriage. He doesn't owe her a damn thing.

I, for one, 100% RESPECT this man for him staying away from Sue in the end, and his friends are all AHs for making HIM out to be a villain as he needs to stay away for HIS mental health. Dude played a long game, and props to HIM for winning a new life, and I think the EX is a huge TOXIC P.O.S. for trying to guilt trip him with a failed suicide attempt to try and use that as a way to worm her way back in.

Nina seems to be THE definition of letting someone go if you truly love them.

I feel so bad for the son... since he's been cheated on, the idea of his mom cheating on his dad hurts even more... Also I'm glad Nina and OP got together!

An ex slashed his wrist after I dumped him, emailed me pictures and called me while I was in Australia, thinking I’d come running back. Oh I ran alright. AWAY. I never spoke to him again. I feel for OP, and he had zero obligation to “be at her side”. What the hell did her friends and family expect? They saw the binders! I’ll say what I said to my ex when he called me: “be well, but far away from me.”

It's disgusting that so many people wanted OP to go see his former wife in the hospital. She cheated on him and they expect him to go to her and say it's all better just because she supposedly tried to off herself. I doubt the suicide attempt was genuine and even if it was it shows how selfish she is. OP is the victim not his Ex. Seeing her would just upset him and won't help her since he doesn't want to see her at all. It's best for OP to stay away for his mental health and hers. If he is not around she'll rebuild her life without the false expectation that he will forgive her.

For those interested,there's more to this story. I believe OP posted it a while after everything you hear here. He does eventually relent and goes to see Sue in the hospital..but he absolutely does not take her back or forgive her. He was being guilted too much by the people around him and gives in to go see her. He still stands strong though and cuts Sue out his life. In their meeting, she finally realizes that it's truly over and her marriage is destroyed. I believe Sue's AP contacts her and even says he can't live without her and threatens suicide. She tells him to go ahead and do it, lol. The husband even goes and confronts her AP and the AP gets scared for his life...but he doesn't do anything..but he does get in touch with his parents and I think they got the binder too. He gets disowned by his family because they are very religious and can't fathom how their son destroyed a 23 year marriage. Last we are told, Sue's AP was living couch to couch after getting kicked out of his home by his parents. The husband starts a relationship with Nina and that's the end.

I actually had a little smirk on my face when he said she was going to be fired. Serves her right.

This guy is a legend and I hope his next 23 years aren’t wasted.

This is a nuclear option that I fully and wholeheartedly endorse and wish that more men would take rather than the violent past that we have chosen traditionally. This is exactly what a woman would do in the opposite situation. I'm super proud of OP and I gave him big fat kudos I mean Sue's own father understood why the op did what he did. That should tell you something

Washing his hands of her while assuring his kids that he won't be upset if they are there for their mother indicates how good of a father he is. The s gesture indicates that she was not thinking of her children as much as he is.

It never ceases to amaze me in these type stories how family and friends of the guilty party always try to make the OP out to be in the wrong after cutting out the cancer from their life.

Very similar stuff happened to me. After a 19 year marriage. I’m 43, and am 5’5” and about 165lbs. My estranged wife is 51, and is 5’9” 140lbs. We are both pretty fit. Anyways she was having an absolute mental health issue. Like paranoid thoughts, physical attacks against me for hours, believing I was a demon. It was bad. Anyways all I wanted was her to get a proper diagnosis and treatment. This didn’t go well. She thought I had this evil plan to destroy her. So she just did everything in her power to hurt and belittle me at every opportunity. She once told me she was going to find the tallest, biggest, and jacked guy she could find and F&$K him. Well a year later I found a video on her phone with a 47 yr old 6’6”, 240lb ex bodybuilder on the beach confessing his love to her. She was eating it up. She doesn’t even like this guy. He is very unattractive. He literally looks like the live action version of Shrek. She strictly got into this relationship to hurt me. Something I could never compete with. Genetics is a difficult thing. Anyways this was the one and only thing I could never forgive. I’m no contact for 6 months as of now. I feel exactly how he feels about his ex. If she was in a car accident or living under a bridge, she is no longer my responsibility or problem. This guy can deal with her borderline personality disorder. She is great at hiding it in public and maybe a few months in a relationship. As soon as I can no longer be reasonably blamed for her issues she will shift to whom she is closest too. That time is coming. I see the writing on the wall.

dude her trying to END her life because of HER cheating is just cringe bro, I cant. Call it insensitive, I dont care. Its her fault, the audacity is just off the charts cringe.

the father of that woman, 100% respect, a true man. As far as i can see he really understands what it feels like to be cheated by your love

her trying to kill herself like that screams like those guys and girls that threaten to do so if someone won't date them. it's manipulative and the people trying to force him to go see her are messed up for thinking that's okay.

Sue's dad is a massive W

Forget being a jerk, I respect the hell out of the OP for his scheming mind and his ability to hold everything in for so long. To wait almost a year to exact the perfect revenge? Absolute legend! Sue got what she deserves and as far as I'm concerned, the OP starting to date Nina is also not a jerk move, but a CHAD move since Nina sounds like an infinitely better person than Sue. I congratulate the OP for his win and wish him the best of lives. Here's some extra advice forbyhe OP -- If Sue tries to off herself again: just let her. Regardless if she's doing it to end things or just to get attention, it's her choice and the OP is and never will be at fault.

This reminds me of a story I read a long time ago. This girl married a guy for ten years but her sex life wasn’t that great compared to her other partners. So she finally had enough and called her ex in tears and begs to come back to him. She lives with her ex in Tennessee and her Ed has a gf already and they have a threesome pretty much everyday. This story made me furious on how selfish the wife could be. You left a good man because you didn’t get good sex?? He devoted his life for you and you leave home for some better sex?? I can only imagine what the guy went through because the wife never filed for divorce or anything, maybe she did, idk. Never was mentioned I then story. But yeah, feel bad for that guy.

Ok, I know video was about the husband who got cheated on, but Nina just letting the guy she's had feelings for be happy with someone else and still supporting him is something.

I feel like when Sue tried to end it and the people who left her contacted the OP about going to support her was wrong. The OP should have went right back at them saying something like “if I cheated and tried to end it would you want her to support me?” Sue was definitely the jerk

I've heard this whole story multiple times and its never lost its punch. I love it when people go all out like this.

Laughed out loud when he got the phone call near the end. Her actions has consequences, and she didnt want to face them. Then her own father calls just to say "Yo, just wanted to say. No hard feelings for not showing up." Legendary. Cheaters dont deserve a happy ending.

I don't think he moved on fast, he basically spent an age getting everything ready to start the divorce. I just hope the bad experience doesn't affect any future relationships.

I honestly cant even feel sorry for the ex wife. My dad cheated on my mom for Years. Had extra kids, cheated with her friends, even my own grandmother told her "hes no good". Even got to the point a genuine hit man approached my mom and offered to unalive him because he rubbed his girlfriend the wrong way. Well jokes on him cause my mom got the last laugh and hes been in jail since 2007, but that's a whole other story.

I kept wanting to call POS “point of sale” instead of “piece of sh*t” for some reason throughout this story 😂 Beautiful revenge!

When a person cheats either they feel immediately guilty, stops the affair on the spot or few weeks later or they choose to keep the affair a secret. In that case, their brain turns into psychopath mode with often a dose of sadism toward their official SO : they don't care about SO's feelings and sometime they find pleasure in their suffering. The fact that OP made her believe he was having an affair too was the only way to reconnect her with her ability to see the pain she was making him go through. Never cheat, but let them know you can have your side peace anytime... that make them behave !

Kermit Defrogg is the kind of guy I am willing to bet my life whenever I get cheated on, and I do not regret that choice.

The true hero of this story is Nina. Nina best girl. She knows exactly what’s important when loving another unconditionally. I’m really happy for them both. Also the Ex trying to commit suicide sucks but he still owes her nothing, all he did was give hard facts to everyone about what she did and it’s on her that those facts were damning for how aweful she has been to a man that’s been married to her for 23 years of his life. Also Nina coming up with the plan to make her think he might be cheating on her with Nina herself is the same sort of 5d chess games he was doing. Their made for each other 😂

I fucken love this guy. Not to seem insensitive, but I absolutely love the way he reacted. He was acting calm and composed while he was around her and like a spy, he was gathering information to form a figurative atom bomb to drop like the ball on new years. And this truly does bring a smile to my face.

You are not the jerk. You're divorced, you owe her absolutely nothing

This man is a genius, not a jerk and a example for all men

When he said „She was the UGLY DUCKling“ I completely lost it 😂😂

I've been married for the last 29 years so I would've gone up to the hospital at least once, not for her, but to support my sons in their time of grieving.

NTA OP has a right to be angry, saying that he "needs to be here for her either way" is honestly disgusting. 23 years of his life wasted because his wife was d'd down by some young guy. The people saying he needs to be there are toxic people for even saying that. This woman is absolutely disgusting, and the fact that she wanted forgiveness is honestly astounding to me.

That suicide attempt definitely felt like it was her trying to manipulate her way into his life again.

Letting people know that your partner cheated and then letting them get mad at her or fire her is just proof that other people agree with you.

As Dante once said, the lowest level of hell is reserved for traitors. OP is not a jerk. This was just proportionate retribution

His speech sounds like the final speech of fnaf6😂😂

Shout-out to Sue's dad being so respectful and understanding about OP's situation and choices

The op and the narrator described it perfectly. She literally oded just to try to get the attention she want getting. When she found out it didn’t work on OP she shutdown, because her plan didn’t work. I wouldn’t be surprised if that was her first question when she woke. It’s such a selfish way to make yourself feel better by making everyone else feel bad for you. My wife had odes before we met and she did it because she felt she wasn’t needed in the world. But this is such a twisted way to getting people to feel bad for you.

To quote Harvey Dent: You either die a hero. Or live long enough to see yourself become the villain.

My man went all out and designed a well-managed Hollywood-grade revenge set-up to destroy a person socially, mentally and emotionally. He has by far the most satisfying revenge story I have ever heard

the way am thinking he walked away is like the sigma guy walked bro thats cold to handle it that easily

this guy is truely justified. If anyone was in this situation and had the chance to do the same they would. He also did it in a way that wasn't just a knock out drag out fight, he did it so cleanly that it's all on her, so yeah, he did it the best and cleanest way he could. All of this started because of her being selfish, so if she blames anyone she should blame herself. Plus it sounds like she was self centered from the start, so her planning to self unalive as a way to get him back is not far fetched at all

The 17 year old is gonna have a hard time trusting his mom ever again. His girlfriend cheated on him,he was heartbroken but when his mom cheating that broke the camel's back i feel rlly sorry for him.

L for the wife she couldn't handle the guilt so she tried to kill herself I think the revenge was justified I didn't think it went too far. I just hope the OP finds love in his life and wife learns that she is the jerk and she needs to accept that

I don't think everyone will think you are responsible, I wouldn't have handled things like you but I "understand" why you did that. She needs to take responsibility for what she did. (huge shout out to sue's father)

Bro is a gigachad this story may be the greatest story I have ever heard respect man

Something died in this man, I hope he gets it back. He has gotten dangerously cold, it could seep into other things in his social life. We are creatures of habit, if betrayed by anyone in the least he might get poisonous.

Honestly, the OP did not exaggerate. 23 years all gone, sure if they were only together for like 1 year it would be pretty mean but 23 years? The guy handled this way better than anyone ever could. The people that wanted him to visit her in the hospital have no idea what it must have felt like for him, I'm so glad you have your sons, friends, mother and even Nina.

This is a very strong man with conviction. I envy him. His story is similar to mine only he handled it much better than I did and I was in a no fault divorce state. I do understand his no contact mentality. I have adopted the same strategy and it’s been 12 years. It drives my ex crazy. She thinks since we had 4 children together that we should be friends. Not gonna happen. She gets none of me.

Can’t believe this man quoted Joker 😂😂

Dude the first story actually made me tear up…I don’t know how anyone could throw away a relationship like for some guy at the office? I will never understand that.

I say this entire fiasco was completely justified. This man had given her so much of his life resources and love yet she just dropped it like it had no value. That is the truest form of disrespect and I say good on him for finishing it all together, better for him

Long story short he is an absolute legend and the ex wife's dad is an absolute bro frickin g man.

I aspire to handle the worst life has to throw at me as well as this man here. What an absolute unit of a man.

this story was mentioned by the very great compilations youtuber, Be Amazed. He explained it shorter, but the suspense and thrill here is much more awesome.

The bullies: What in the actual F&$#!? Sue's friends: VISIT HER YOU HEARTLESS VILLAN

I was hoping for a happy ending where the wife didn't survive. But if the OP has made peace with everything, I'm happy for him

The fact that she was so hopeful that he came to visit her shows her attempt was absolutely a set up.

Huge respect to this man, the emotional burden of this whole scene from the start to finish was just insane yet he handled it professionally and smart, like a true man would.

Can we get an Amen and a gg for this absolute legend that actually stood his ground and dealing with her when he couldve just walked away and stayed in silence.If he didnt he couldve been brought out as a pos but he is a legend on the daily.

Dude you have done it perfectly. God Bless you brother.

I fully respect OP's decision to cut her off completely, for me cheating is the ultimate deal breaker because even if you forgive the person you will never trust them again. I've only been cheated on once in my lifetime and when I found out he was cheating he was dead to me after that, didn't care to hear his forgiveness or excuses I just walked away and never looked back.

It seems like this ex made a self-deletion "gesture". At the facility, she may have been told she's borderline or something. This guy should seek help too, if not for his sake but for the sake of his sons. He sounds like a good man. His wounds are still so fresh and he deserves better. The rebound booty call may not be enough at the end of the day.

S1: The only thing I hope is that Nina isn’t a rebound. The rest is just a great story. He has no obligation to see her or deal with her after she attempted suicide. Not his problem. Her family and friends can help her, but it’s ridiculous to expect him to respond. He should consider therapy though…he needs to get rid of the hatred so his future can be truly happy with her a fading memory.

‘I’ll be free as of early april’ It’s april now lad, you’re free!

so i decided to watch this with my gf, and well she really got interested and we both watched it till the end, part one and part two, and once it was over we just straight up hugged each other love really is important so i will cherish this

This guy needs a god damn REVENGE AWARD, He's the DEFINITION of a Perfect Revenge.

Wait so even with the amount of evidence, the lying and unfaithfulness by HER, somehow u still would have to play ~600$ for her because SHE got HERSELF unemployed???? The stupidest shi ever....

This story was like a movie haha. I was on the edge of my seat the whole time waiting to find out if the revenge went smoothly. It did. Amazing. I salute you sir, you did nothing wrong and she deserved every bit of it. The only thing I'm worried about is the 17 year old kid. I'd make sure that he *wants* to be in counseling. I was forced to go to counseling during my parents' divorce when I was a kid, and it made things waaaaaayyy worse. I would also be there for the first few counseling sessions, just to make sure that the therapist is an ok person and there aren't any red flags.

5:57 “never have I strayed” says thay as the game in the background is called Stray.

Loved this story! a little long but worth it!

To this person: I couldn’t agree more with how you handled it and how you feel afterwards. Nothing but respect

Epic revenge. Now I’m ugly crying over you and Nina 🥺😭 I wouldnt be sorry for a damn thing you did. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

My guy did better than 90% of cases like this. The chance of something going wrong is ENORMOUS, props to him but if he took all that time to divide a plan to become rich without her in his life to better himself, I wouldn't doubt he would have succeeded with that mindset of his.

I hope that one day their mutual friends would realize how sue's suicide attempt could be possibly a manipulation tactic or easily, read the comment section of the reddit post or this one. How is no one from their friends ever thought of that 😒 but worse is yeah, guilt tripping op into visiting and forgiving her??? Have a look into a mirror guys. It'll be actually their loss and *dumb* of them if they ever, completely, forgive sue for what she did because yknow, she basically just roped them into her life again and they just let her 🙃 And did the mom even realize or ever knew she piled another trauma on 17, damn. I wanna know how 17 talked about it with sue- bet she would pin the blame on 17 I also love the former dad-in-law, hes godsend

I wish the best of luck to the OP, Nina, and Sue's father.

This happens all too often, it's literally almost impossible to have a faithful partner.

IIRC, there was a follow-up story where OP was worried for 17 and had him in therapy: the kid had developed pretty much a psychotic hatred for his mother, and no matter how much the OP pleaded with him to forgive her (for 17's sake) because she's still his mother, he was just becoming more bitter and hateful towards her.

I respect the man for not caving in to the pressure to visit her in the hospital. I wouldn't have gone either. Good on him.

He was right to file for divorce, but I wish people would stop saying they loved someone unconditionally that's absurd. That literally means no matter what they do and that would be unhealthy.

Mad respect to this guy he shouldn't have to be there for his wife that was cheating on him

Now I think I can this whole revenge story. I think there was one last update. On his last update, he went further saying he actually saw his ex-wife and talked one last time. She was such in disarray when they talked, however he didn't want to express anything to her.

Everything he did was totally justified. I would have done the same thing except the whole making her think I was cheating on her. I would have played oblivious to her infidelity, while gathering all the evidence about her affair. It's weird that everyone in her life thinks that he needs to be there for her and only her dad knows it's not.

Ive heard this story before and this retelling is a shortened version. If i hadn't heard this before the pacing and cut content would make the story almost incomprehensible. Lol

Of course, none of this happened. But it’s hella entertaining on my way to work 😂

Sad thing is that there are good loyal people out there but these scumbags give the rest of us trust issues

"I put in my raycons" *_raycon sponsorship flashbacks_*

OP is NOT the jerk.

So be it You know he got nothing else to lose.

Made all the right choices have fun with your yoga instructor

I personally don't think the op's the jerk. One of my favorite quotes applies perfectly here " You reap what you sow"

I’m so proud of OP! What an inspiration!

I wish I had that mental capacity to plan and enact something like this, but I know I'd just shut down, cry and yell about it XD

Everyone: *focusing on the story* Me: *focusing on the fact that the game in the background is my fav game*

Woman never afraid of their own actions, but scares the shit out of the CONSEQUENCES of their actions. 😮

Op did what I wish I could have done to my ex wife who cheated on me not 2 months after we got married, but not with one man, but three, when I found out we were already divorced, and she was pregnant, not my kid, but that's a story for another day, the op did something so amazing that it was beautiful, I hope he and his lady friend can settle down and possibly start another family, if he hasn't been snipped or she has any complications, they deserve each other.