My Wife is Bipolar. Can I Save the Marriage?

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My Wife is Bipolar. Can I Save the Marriage?
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@brianh1969 4 месяца назад

The ONE thing kind of missing from those plans, is his safety, his peace of mind, his wants/needs/desires which also get to be acknowledged.

@sarahzayas4340 3 года назад

This burns me up so much I understand people have Bipolar but some people with Bipolar disorder really take advantage of their disorder and hide behind the diagnosis as a tool for manipulation, lies, and selfish attention seeking, antics. Some Bipolar people are so selfish and put zero effort into getting help.

@Shay416 Год назад

Yeah dealing with this in my family. They suck the air and energy out of the family. Are dangerous and destructive then run behind the label but hate taking their drugs bc they “don’t work” and blame the “system”. NEVER hold accountability, never take initiative, it’s honestly so sad, I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy.

@strnglhld Год назад

@@Shay416 I know that some of the meds can have bad side effects and numb you, I get that part. That does NOT mean it’s an excuse for being disrespectful, abusive, etc

@josiehensley5705 10 месяцев назад

Thinking you don’t need medication is part of the disease. They start to think they’re “better” now and don’t need them. My mother was bipolar and schizophrenic

@Ohboycommentsection 7 месяцев назад

Honestly I am glad you wrote this and not me. I have been on Lithium for 25 plus years and I think too many people confuse personality disorders with bipolar. Yes they can have both on two different axis but bipolar is occasionally a problem but not total chaos year after year.

@markusschaffer9712 Месяц назад

They have real problems with responsibility and accountability.

@kendalstaab 3 года назад

My mom is Bipolar and my dad divorcing her was one of the best things that ever happened to my sister and I! My dad kept custody of us and he kept the house. My mom moved to Hawaii and she's fun to visit but there was so many horrible incidents when we lived with her. She tried to run my dad over with a mini van when I was 7. She also pepper sprayed my bus driver when I was in the first grade. It has hard.

@MusicBoxAlsoWater 3 года назад

@Elaine McMurren its a mental illness , jail doesn't help with that. She would have needed treatment, if she consented.

@kendalstaab 3 года назад

She did go to jail a few times! But yeah it's a mental illness. So she really needed therapy! She's doing better in Hawaii. Still I'm happy I'm an adult now. :)

@dalidzucheredi2495 2 года назад

I feel sad for her

@standuser9696 2 года назад

Im glad your life is better. I bet it was hard for your mother too I hope she's getting the help she needs. Bipolar disorder is so hard to live with sometimes.

@weekendnomad5038 2 года назад

Did you dad cheat ? And what did the driver do lol

@marciabinninger2840 3 года назад

I grew up with a bipolar mother. Protect those kids.

@Netokrate 3 года назад

It can be hereditary.

@brianserious 3 года назад

Wow very insightful no SH! T

@marciabinninger2840 3 года назад

Be nice Brian no need to be nasty.

@marciabinninger2840 2 года назад

@CANADIAN UKRANIAN no I actually think it would have made her a better person. She is bipolar and the switch on and off blows my mind. At 55 I have learned she will never be proud of me.

@christineperez7562 Год назад

Women always have to suffer and or treated like garbage when they need a doctor. Husbands should be charged with abandonment and neglect

@ManuelLopez-ev7ud 3 года назад

I feel sorry for this dude. I hope he and his wife find some rest.

@weekendnomad5038 2 года назад

I feel like he’s implying that he was accused of touching the kids. So is he?

@appalachianhillbilly717 3 года назад

Don't overlook post partum depression. It is a very serious issue well overlooked. I blame my failed marriage because of it.

@freeman7079 3 года назад

I have bipolar disorder. This is a horror story. It takes a very special person to be married to someone struggling with manic depression.

@doloresbutler3 2 месяца назад

My husband was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in his 60's. We had been married 42 years (1968) before he was diagnosed in2010. Devastating to say the least. Thank God both our girls were married by then. It has been a very difficult time for us by I stood by him. We are now'in our 55th year together and he seems to have stabilized . He has suffered 2 heart attacks but so far is doing better than ever. I changed his diet too plant based and it seemed to have worked wonders. He takes his meds religiously which is a game changer. After 7 years the Dr's finally found the right combination that works for him.

@katherinehutton9870 4 месяца назад

My mother was bipolar she was diagnosed in 1974. I am now 51 so I saw the whole spectrum. From giving her benzo's to when lithium came out. Which she couldn't take because it made her sick. My mother died in 1995 the last 3 years of her life she had the a great combination of meds that made her life wonderful. Bipolar is still not completely understood a lot of mental disorders are not. They're still being worked on and being more understood everyday and better medications coming out everyday. Yes it was hard somtimes, yes it sucked sometimes, and yes sometimes it was horrible. I would not change a moment of my life for anything. Every single one of those incidents and everything I went through and saw her go through made me who I am and I like who I am. I'm very empathetic and Compassionate of other people for this reason. I'm also strong as hell. My mother and I had amazing relationship. People with bipolar are human beings as well, just as if they had cancer or any other disease. I was 9 and I stayed my sisters and brothers who are much older ran. and they regret it to this day. Vows means something they're not something to be thrown away. If you need to leave fine but you also might miss a lot of things that you also needed to learn. 1 and 4 people have a mental illness especially if they're genetically carried. My one sister missed this in her own daughter. Because she didn't listen to our mother about the symptoms so we could keep eye out to see if we might have it. In fact she totally denied that it even existed. The hell ride this cause her daughter she's never forgiven herself.

@PKr_0 4 месяца назад

Sounds like a situation where the wife isn’t getting treatment. Someone (like me) that has Bipolar 1, you need treatment. Meds and therapy. I have to be responsible by staying in treatment. Having bipolar means you have to come to terms with being in recovery. It’s not a hindrance.

@BirdDogey1 3 месяца назад

I had a crazy mother. I can't tell you how bad growing up in that environment was. It messed me up my whole life.

@tinah6685 3 года назад

My daughter 17 was diagnosed bipolar 2 weeks ago!! It’s exhausting, painful!! I’m leaning on empathizing and compassion!!! We got her in counseling and on medication

@riana8999 3 года назад

Tina, how is your daughter doing? (am in the same boat...)

@jimanders8812 2 года назад

I’m sooo sorry! Please I beg you stay on top of this even when she fights you…my wife is bp and we are divorcing after 15 years of rudeness affairs alcoholism and this entire time she’s MEDICATED!! it’s not enough and her mom blames me for the issues. Also her dad and grandma we’re all alcoholics.

@Gtrundlebed 3 года назад

What a difficult situation to be in. Props to him for reaching out for help with this.

@mr.justice3220 Год назад

It's hard to do. Hard enough seeking help for myself with no kids with a wifes new diagnosis

@ciarajones3943 2 года назад

I’ve been Bipolar all my life.and it’s a horrible thing to have. I didn’t to harm, or do trouble to family or other people .Everything I’ve done it affected me mostly. The last 20 years it’s been under control. been in hosp., all different Meds, Drs. And all the things I did to ruin my life, at least now I can think straight. You HAVE to do something to get your life right. all those things and all that time finally got me to function without family wondering what I will do next.

@Shadoessa 10 месяцев назад

It really sucks. I had a bipolar mother and wanted nothing to do with her. Now I have bipolar and the guy I loved wanted nothing to do with me and neither do a lot of my friends. It’s absolutely sickening because what can you do? Everyone acts like you will ruin their life and maybe you will. There’s nothing worse than having bipolar or schizophrenia I think.

@amosiren 3 года назад

Mental illness is like any other illness- it requires treatment. There are so many options these days, tons of different meds in different doses, therapy, coping skills, couples counseling etc. It's just like if someone is diagnosed with a heart condition or diabetes- you wouldn't just say "oh well- I'll be fine without treatment"

@wilshannoa9727 2 года назад

Yep, mental health is health. It’s time we start treating it as such.

@jaxxenriquez9542 2 года назад

Exactly!

@cyn5962 10 дней назад

@@jaxxenriquez9542💯

@9liveslisa 3 года назад

Drinking never helps any problem.

@munterboy9298 3 года назад

It helps at the time

@9liveslisa 2 месяца назад

@shibamom607 Duh

@cowboynohorse 13 дней назад

Drinking only temporarily numbs the pain.

@minervagalvez4748 3 года назад

Dismissing her feelings is a Big Trigger for her too. Seeing her as a person ruining your life instead of your wife is a Trigger for her too. His attitude of me, me and me is a Trigger for her too. Secure the safety of your children without using them against her. Compassion. Compassion. First. Then Understanding. And Compassion Again🙏❤❤❤

@sarahzayas4340 3 года назад

Compassion is wonderful in my experience with someone who was bipolar, showing compassion only provided an incentive for her to act out for more attention. This man is being accused of SEXUALLY ABUSIVE HIS KIDS. That's a line that shouldn't have been crossed. There's no excuse for lies. In my experience the woman got married SEVEN TIMES and it was everybody else's fault.

@bigpicturethinking5620 3 года назад

@@sarahzayas4340 Yeah that claim could have ruined his life. This isn’t about compassion, it about his survival.

@aimeeglatt3299 2 года назад

@@bigpicturethinking5620 . And the KIDS survival!!

@alansohn855 3 года назад

Gotta give the man credit for sticking with her, that's unbelievable and good on him.

@chezshirecat1872 3 года назад

I had a coworker who had a wife like this. He was the most religious person I know and he had to divorce her to save the children. When she kidnapped the children, that was the end. She ended up in a institution to help her with problems.

@lauradiphlipo9332 3 года назад

curious to know if the institution really "HELPED" her with her problems. Keeping people doped up on drugs constantly, while not allowing them any relationship with their kids is NOT helping. not to anyone involved. I sure wish more people understood this.

@ashleyhartadams3939 3 года назад

Ugh! This is so unfortunate. It’s best to let professionals do their jobs. We are not equipped to help anyone with a mood disorder.

@robindear5043 3 года назад

@@ashleyhartadams3939 But SERIOUSLY, how do you help when the person doesn't want help, and is doing self destructive things to themselves, neglecting themselves, and generally feel like nothing is wrong with them?

@ashleyhartadams3939 3 года назад

@@robindear5043 hey there! You sound distraught. Im so sorry your loved one is not cooperating with you. This is so difficult. My loved one actually ended up in the hospital for a completely separate reason and while they were there I asked for the doctors to evaluate them. My loved one had absolutely no idea that they were not making sense. That’s what psychosis and nervous breakdowns will do. None of us could convince them that they were not the messiah and that the CIA was not following them. They need anti-psychotic medication to slowly get back to themselves. My loved one is a completely functional loving person. Had a full time job, was in graduate school. This is an illness and needs medical treatment. If your loved one is not cooperating with you, you could enlist the help of other family members. You could also cal 9-1-1 and have an ambulance take them to the ER. If your loved one has expressed hurting themselves or others, please do this. I’m so so sorry. My loved one would not cooperate with me either. Refused to come to the hospital, was so angry with me, but thanked me later. ❤️❤️❤️

@robindear5043 3 года назад

@@ashleyhartadams3939 How did you eventually get them into a hospital setting? They have not threatened to harm themselves or others, but is not taking care of themselves, cancel doctor appointments relatives make for them, is angry and bitter, feels people owe them something, especially money, a free ride, a life of carefree ease. They were well educated, had a good job, friends and co workers who liked and admired them, got in a relationship with a smooth talking huckster type who took advantage of their naivete and money as well. This started 11 years ago, was hospitalized briefly, but checked themself out, never went to therapy, generally blamed others for the nervous breakdown. Parents never tried to help, thought a geographical change would bring them back to normal. NO...Stole money and parents prescription meds, instead of going to a Dr for pain they were in. Now both parents are deceased, is still bitter and suspicious, expects others to give them money and pay bills, which relatives have done, but money is used irresponsibly, and bills don't get paid. Siblings are in a limited capacity to help. Like I said, thinks nothing is wrong with them, won't go to a hospital or to a clinic for a regular general check up😢 What can be done???

@wizardofahhhs759 Год назад

My wife and I had a great marriage for 18 years (up until 2017) I had just bought and paid for a new house in 2016 and in the spring of 2017 she started having an affair with the guy we hired to do some roof work on our new home. I had suspicions from the start that she was seeing someone else but every time I asked her about it she would deny it. Fast forward to October 2019 and she came back from a cross country trip with one of her best friends to be with our daughter giving birth. After about 10 days of being back she comes up to my job and tells me we need to sit down and have a talk when I get home. Soon as I walk through the front door she drags me out the back door and tells me to sit down on the steps. She starts crying and says "I had an affair" I was in complete shock. Things only got worse from there. Over the next few months she went into a state of psychosis, back and forth to doctors, in and out of the mental hospital she was finally diagnosed with bi polar disorder and schizophrenia.. She got better and seemed like she was back to her normal self until 2 weeks ago when she had a heart attack and died at the age of 42. I feel like the last 6 years of our marriage was illusion, all fake like I didn't know her at all. Every time I look at a picture of her or a flower she planted in the yard or think of the good times we had between 2017-2019 all I can think of in the back of my mind is "She was having an affair when we did this together or when that picture was taken" If I ever decide to date again the first thing I'm gonna want to know is "Does mental illness run in your family?"

@jamesoshea494 Месяц назад

If bipolar disorder is on one side of the family, that is a good thing because the chances are 75-80 percent less that your offspring will have the disorder.

@kitchensink7345 11 дней назад

So sorry man I’m 44, married 6.5 years knew my wife for a year and alcohol and antidepressants involved. I worry for her daily and nothing I do will convince her to get help. She surrounds herself with alcoholics. Our daughter is 3.

@kimberlymorrison4880 3 года назад

My husband was diagnosed in 2019 Bipolar/BPD. His infidelity led us to the diagnosis. He is in therapy, takes ALL his meds, Sleeps on a schedule and exercises everyday. Long road coming back but worth it. It wasn't "my husband" who betrayed me, it was the sick individual. Good Luck

@MusicBoxAlsoWater 3 года назад

Thank you for saying this. Sounds like narrative therapy where you separate the person from the illness/problem. Happy to hear you two are working through it. It's not easy to just say bye to a spouse.

@ashleyhartadams3939 3 года назад

Thank you for this comment. The other comments were so discouraging! This is an illness. A scary, devastating illness. I’m glad you stood by your husband throughout his sickness and that things are working out. God bless you.

@kimberlymorrison4880 3 года назад

@@ashleyhartadams3939 not gonna lie, i

@brianserious 3 года назад

If it hasn't happened again by now, it will, trust me. Leave!

@neonlighter75 11 месяцев назад

I'm sorry, but people with bipolar should be ashamed and disgusted with themselves when they cheat. They just can't help themselves because there is something wrong with them. They don't belong in society

@sarahzayas4340 3 года назад

RUN DUDE RUN RUN RUN!!!!

@williamrodriguez169 3 года назад

Wow, sounded so familiar, my wife manipulated the psychologist and psychiatrist and used post partum depression as an excuse and felt empowered when they concluded that there was nothing wrong with her. That very night instead of coming home she went to a hotel and was talking suicidal. When I called the counselor he said they couldn't intervene unless she called them. They wouldn't take my word, so I was never able to get her the help she needed. She called and had every kind of agency after me until i was left with no choice but to divorce her and fight for the custody of my two precious boys, which I won and gladly brought up by myself. Went through allot of guilt for the divorce being a minister. But there was danger for the boys and me, so I just had to conclude, it doesn't matter what people think of me as long as my conscience is clear. Loved my wife, but was in a no win situation. Boys are in their 30s today and I believe they are well adjusted.

@user-vp7eu3lf3z 5 месяцев назад

What happened to your wife in the end?

@JM.TheComposer 3 года назад

Dr. D's ability to compress a vast amount of compassion into 13 minutes is amazing.

@stone5015 Год назад

Its fantasy land. Get out now before it ruins your kids and you.

@thefoodwench4848 3 года назад

He needs to protect his kids and separate from her. Good gravy.

@colinbarrett5120 3 года назад

why hasn't he left her already is the biggest question

@thefoodwench4848 3 года назад

@@colinbarrett5120 right? She sounds dangerous. IMO He is a passive abuser if he doesn’t get his kids out of that environment.

@dlkhills 3 года назад

@@colinbarrett5120 so her throw away

@kristinialyons5230 3 года назад

The christian religion wont let you unless someone cheats. Its so hurtful!!

@thefoodwench4848 3 года назад

@@kristinialyons5230 I think they might make an exception and legally he can divorce her. There are other churches.

@fastcarsfreedom7282 Год назад

It is a hard one. Been married for 12 year's and my wife has went to another level. She is talking about our future and buying puppies to wanting devorce in a matter of minutes back to everything is fine like nothing happened in the morning. With a repeating cycle. Do not know how much more that I can take.

@Klake-bk2dp 4 месяца назад

This is almost worse than a full on mental break down because you can send them to the hospital. When they are like this it is just pain after pain…

@flowersforme375 2 месяца назад

She is hypo-maniac or maniac?

@trentcrawford3020 2 месяца назад

@@flowersforme375manic not maniac.

@richardv9648 3 года назад

Jesus, and I am complaining about being single.

@richardv9648 3 года назад

Dr. Deloney wont tell but I will. get a divorce as soon as possible.

@Michelle.05 3 года назад

Dr Delony is spot on about bipolar being overdiagnosed. She does need to speak to another psychiatrist.

@mr.justice3220 Год назад

God if anything the psych we've worked with are reluctant to diagnose anything, they tell my wife she has daddy issues and is immature. But we live in the Southern US so not the best care

@jennyspicer6900 2 года назад

I'm a bi polar mum and my mother and her mother were too, as is my eldest son, the husband broke my heart 😔 I see from both sides ❤ ty for this

@Ruth72166 5 месяцев назад

Moral responsibility can not be excluded even with mental illness . These diagnoses allow for gross sin w no responsibility because they are sick.

@lousunny5682 3 года назад

This was really great advice!! Really appreciate the realest of a 2nd option and including family support. I feel for the caller and hope his wife can be compliant to treatment. And you’re right, getting him back to compassion and protection the kids. Covering the bases! Great job. Also thank you for the shout out to social workers 💗💗🙌🏻

@kelsambaho 3 года назад

Did he say two weeks without sleep?!!!😧 Lawd...

@hadiitiniguez2393 Год назад

I had a girlfriend with that diagnoses. Not easy to deal with. I had to end my relationship with her. I feel bad I could not be supportive of her, but I have a child of my own. I have to protect my child and myself.

@hadiitiniguez2393 11 месяцев назад

@@jdkayak7868 it’s more of the personality you should concern yourself with. That the red flag I noticed. I did not like the selfishness. The Diagnosis was not a concern to me

@connermccaughey3911 Год назад

This sounds exactly like my current situation, thank you for the advice.

@debfox 11 месяцев назад

I grew up with a bipolar mom. She went after me with a butcher knife because she lost touch with reality and thought I was a burglar. It was a pretty scary. She has a lot of episodes and had DID before they consolidated her ages somehow. It’s pretty tough.

@DownUnderJas 3 месяца назад

My mother was bipolar and schizophrenic. I loved my Mum but at the same time it was also hard loving her.

@sethbender2863 3 года назад

I feel terrible for this guy. I wish he could snap his fingers and just be calm and fix everything

@stone5015 Год назад

Seth, honestly, do you live in Disney World/Land?

@asacor9435 3 года назад

HIGHLY RECOMMEND WATCHING "THE BIPOLAR WARRIOR " HERE ON YOU TUBE SUPER ENLIGHTENING. GOOD FOR CARETAKERS AND SPECIALLY FOR PEOPLE WITH THIS MENTAL ILLNESS.

@standuser9696 2 года назад

I LOVE HIM

@cyn5962 10 дней назад

He has a lot of good information on the topic of Bipolar disorder.

@lakea.6218 2 месяца назад

“What sets her off?” Sometimes nothing. A simple thought can take life of its own. I’m in this husbands position. You find yourself only being comfortable when your spouse is not manic.

@susanmarie2231 3 года назад

Protect the children by getting a divorce. Now. The children need safety and stability. You can love your wife from a distance and she can visit the kids during her lucid times. Please take care of yourself and your children. If the church is judging you, find another church and/or religion.

@Tamar-sz8ox 3 года назад

Wishing you the best possible outcome . 💜

@bottomsupbarmaid1987 Год назад

Get you and the kids out!!! If she refuses therapy, regularly for a long time before moving back in, then get a divorce. Those kids depend on you to protect them. Keeping them there knowing it’s bad makes those kids hate the enabler as well as the abuser

@colinbarrett5120 3 года назад

I don't know where my anxiety starts and my ADHD begins

@andreaayers4285 3 года назад

She needs long term professional help... I have bipolar and it takes a treatment routine... I take meds everyday, see a doctor once a month, and counselor once a month. Drinking only makes things worse...

@standuser9696 2 года назад

Same here keep it up :) it's a lot of work man but I want as many of the good days as possible. Im lucky to have a strong support system. Idk where I would be if I didn't

@blkimble 11 месяцев назад

There's no way I would be laying up making babies with a person who has bipolar disorder

@nigell.8705 3 года назад

Wow...prayers up for you and fam bro.

@hymnodyhands 3 года назад

This is a tough situation... It CAN be overcome... but both will have to commit to finding out what she needs for treatment and life regimen... It CAN be done, but it is a tremendous amount of work for her and a tremendous amount of support from him. It can take YEARS of work and support... BUT it can be overcome.

@meganparker8703 3 года назад

This was a great call! Reminds me of Monica from Shameless. Didn’t realize it was that real

@mista589 3 года назад

Take it from someone who's Bipolar... You can go years with mild ups and downs then the massive "up" comes and it will most often end very traumatically followed by a very dark low. The higher you go the harder you fall, it's a stress management balancing act. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

@brookesmallwood7878 2 года назад

We need an annual update. Please and thank you

@Cathy-xi8cb 3 года назад

NOTHING is as important as protecting those precious children. Nothing. Do not wait for the authorities to fix this. If she recovers, she will be grateful that you took great care of her children. If she doesn't, your adult children will thank you for not allowing their childhood to be one trauma after another. G-d doesn't want you or those children to suffer.

@stone5015 Год назад

Your right Cathy.

@BagsNBaguettes_327 3 года назад

2 weeks without sleep...omg how does she do it 🤦‍♀️ that is super unhealthy, she is killing herself VERY fast.

@freeman7079 3 года назад

Dr D is right about them needing to find a good psychiatrist. But when you’re a regular person, trying to find a psychiatrist who doesnt condense their meeting into 30 minutes sessions every two weeks is impossible. When someone like me asks the doctor for extra attention or question whether we are getting the right help, they become defensive and treat you as if you’re an idiot. The ego attached to mainly medical professionals is their biggest flaw. When you’re someone with bipolar, or paranoia, it’s next to impossible to find a clinician with whom you feel connected. I’ve had psychiatrist not even look at me throughout the duration of a session. He literally just typed into his computer and then prescribed me more seroquil, which ended up doing harm in the long run. There are good psychiatrists, they are just very VERY hard to find, especially if you aren’t in a big city. Part of the struggle we face as manic depressives can be attributed to the negligence and carelessness of doctors. That’s why bipolar is so sadly over diagnosed and over medicated.

@alexfromoakland2862 Год назад

I know this is an old comment, but I wanted to thank you for your thoughtfulness here, I agree wholeheartedly.

@traceycurtis1005 2 года назад

If he chooses her the courts could rule they are both unsafe and he loses his children. He has to protect them.

@Thelegendl23 3 года назад

No sorry, been there done that, the only person who can save it is her. Period.

@IwasBlueb4 3 года назад

i have bipolar type 2..with its highs and lows,,,nights with insomnia, fast thoughts, extra creativity etc and then days of sleeping and depression.... yet i must say i truly believe i have a wonderful son...very happy, balanced and obedient... v well mannered .... it does make my hsband nervous when i am in manic mode, when i talk too much,,,,, learn to love the person, not the illness... it does sound to me that this lady has other issues....

@TEMALONDON 3 года назад

This reminds me of the book One Way Ticket To Kansas

@RANDOMNESS873 4 месяца назад

I’m going through this right now with my newlywed wife. Scary how striking this is

@edbuckley1670 3 года назад

She leaves the house for days at a time she's cheating on you how naive can you be get as far away from her as possible

@amazing5392 3 месяца назад

They have extreme high sex drives during episodes

@MrMac6375 5 месяцев назад

My wife and I are on our second try at marriage and it's gonna be divorce just as the first time, because it hasn't changed. She has BPD and OCD, and it finally got her to the point of moving to her parents and we've realized sometimes things just don't work.

@susanjohnston5649 3 года назад

My sister is bi polar and I feel very threatened by her. And all her children have been struggling as adults. No easy solution to this. Every move we make to protect and assist is hard.

@cjojay 3 года назад

She had 2 children in 3 years. Birth can be a challenging period for mental health, especially bipolar disorder, because of hormonal changes. She should not have another child for at least the next 3yrs while she stabilizes.

@ChiCityLady 2 месяца назад

It sounds like she shouldn't have any more kids. She has two she needs to get and stay stable for.

@paulo7200 3 года назад

The party drug "Molly" or "MDMA" mimics bipolar mania, and for some people actually induces bipolar illness. Important to get a long look back e.g. hair based drug test as part of diagnosis.

@michaelb.6527 2 месяца назад

Yes yes yes! I've seen this exact thing. Thank you for posting this.

@weekendnomad5038 2 года назад

I think there’s levels to it. Some manageable, some not so much

@supermodelatlanta1354 3 года назад

I am too. I have been left by so many. It made me cry to see she " did " so much and to see he still stayed & called. Its heart breaking. Bc no one understands us & they leave. Some have a mild case like me. She is 100k bipolar & worse than mine & her bf gets to stay. & even calls for help. No one has done that for me. Maybe someone would do that for me & I won't be dead by then

@anafernandez7237 3 года назад

Do what it's best for your kids and you and provide a support net for her

@floralscentkim1380 3 года назад

I feel terrible for this guy. I do question why they’d have another child 9 months ago considering her situation.

@terrickmckenney1469 Год назад

Thank you for this video man! I’m dealing with the same issue and honestly it’s destroying my life

@stone5015 Год назад

Terrick, if you have kid/kids, get out now.

@weekendnomad5038 2 года назад

Just look out for the kids . My mom was bipolar and she regularly beat me and mentally abused me as well.. but they told me I have BPD and I’m an awesome momma

@allencolvin4320 4 месяца назад

The days of not sleeping sounds more like drug use than mental illness

@supermodelatlanta1354 3 года назад

I am bipolar but this is 1,000 times worse than what I go through. She needs to start taking her medicine and gets re evaluated and on diffent meds The shot more so for depression.

@martell8560 3 года назад

In sickness and in health.

@jessicaHcat 3 года назад

Normally I would agree, but what if your spouse's mental illness is so bad that they start to hurt your children physically or mentally? I don't think it's fair to put the kids at risk.

@AMK544 3 года назад

@@jessicaHcat kids need to go to grandmas house and husband needs to get his wife needs to get EXTREME mental help

@marytownsend6239 3 года назад

Run!

@jellybeans9283 3 года назад

My future spouse is gonna have too pass a psychological evaluation and many other things before I marry him, Sorry but I'm not dealing with this

@maryw4511 3 года назад

You don't always know that little bout of depression several years ago really was just one of the depressive cycles. And those normal times feeling so good, getting so much done, that was actually mania. Be careful judging others. I thought I was normal too.

@lydialukes522 3 года назад

I hope you don't get post parteum depression. You don't know if you will have it till after you have a kid.

@instanoodles 3 года назад

Good luck, life happens to everyone and the person you married never stays the same.

@eliezeretecap 3 года назад

You can also learn how to spot the red flags for people with personality disorders and mental illnessess. Often times if the person who has narcissistic or sociopathic traits they can even fool some psychologists.

@taras4352 3 года назад

Eliezer True, same with addictions.

@KS-cl8br 3 года назад

Also meet with a nutritionist to help with health.

@nataliestark8243 9 месяцев назад

She's drinking too? That makes the meds not work. It just spirals, and they can completely lose it.

@jaxxenriquez9542 2 года назад

At what point do you bring up your mental health when dating? Like when is it a good time to bring it up while you’re meeting new people and getting to know someone

@standuser9696 2 года назад

I think it depends on the severity of the mental health issue. Same as any other health issue. If you have high blood pressure you probably wouldn't think of telling a new SO but if you had epilepsy or a life threatening illness it would come up quickly. If you have anxiety issues you probably wouldn't feel the need to say much immediately but if you had schizophrenia it should come up sooner.

@standuser9696 2 года назад

I've always been really emotional and moody so I gave my bf (now husband) a heads up right away bc it was important to me/effected my life.... and now 6 years later have been diagnosed with bipolar disorder. If the person you are with won't be there for you through your hardest times then they shouldn't be with you. I'm lucky to have a strong support system.

@Aaron-kj8dv Год назад

My roommate in university was institutionalized for a mental breakdown and he talks about it all of the time. One time I got him alone and asked how he could be so open with it (I would be embarrassed) and he told me he would tell girls he was dating and within a week they'd break up with him so now he's open about it knowing it'll scare off the wrong girls from the get go.

@timothycarpenter4428 27 дней назад

I had a bipolar fiancée, we were together for 8 years.. she went into full psychosis and she ended the relationship..Destroyed my house and heart.. Avoid bipolar, sounds cruel, But think of yourself...Stay out of bipolar relationships..

@Mitchmyoutube 3 года назад

That woman is definitely ruining his life. How else can he look at it

@txbre8758 2 месяца назад

God damn. I am glad I don’t have that type of Bipolar. I’m BP2 and the most I’ve experienced is severe depression but never any of that stuff 😭

@dangalangslanger1254 2 года назад

Statically the answer is NO!

@tjj5337 Год назад

Some of us don’t even know what bipolar is or what to look for.

@davidjonburke2729 3 года назад

Men I speak from experience this won't end well..and child birth is extremely hard for women that have bipolar.

@lauradiphlipo9332 3 года назад

of course it is...because BOTH "bipolar" and pregnancy cause HUGE hormonal shifts! That's why HORMONE balance needs to be addressed! Ripping kids away, husband losing his lover and wife locked away in an institute, being forced drugs all day is a terrible "solution".

@davidjonburke2729 3 года назад

@@lauradiphlipo9332 unfortunately most with bipolar don't want to do the work or refuse they have it.

@christineperez7562 Год назад

You took those vows for sickness and in health.

@michaelmiami 10 месяцев назад

It’s a very difficult path, standing by you vows while standing up for your kids. The healthy spouse always ends-up in a situation.

@betsyoman7173 3 года назад

In a case like this I think you have to consider Lyme disease. And even if someone does a basic Lyme test and it comes back negative, i wouldn't believe it that easily. Lyme can do things like this! Also someone needs to seriously analyze her nutrition. And if she's capable of staying awake for more than 24-36 hours, that's when things should happen. And why is she allowed to have alcohol at all?

@deborahnordstrom8971 3 года назад

Hi I'm bipolar myself and married. I've had this for over 25 year's. She needs a good doctor and should of been in the hospital where they educate you. Also for any one here bipolar check out you tube channel bipolar warriors.

@supernova11711 2 года назад

Wonderful channel!

@extremecarpetcleaning-wvwi86 3 года назад

Run...as fast as you can. 🏃‍♂️

@thanhhua5949 3 года назад

Sucks being married to a bipolar person, the worst combo is the being married to bipolar mama boy!

@Audreeprov31 3 года назад

Heartbreaking..

@ChaiLatte13 3 года назад

Sounds like a really terrible situation.

@ThePeacefulsunshine Месяц назад

No! Run! It will NEVER get better!

@raynamaldonado6806 3 года назад

Wow this is literally my life but I was blamed for my husbands episodes. He lied and put it on me. And I have a shattered phone pictures of my arms and texts of him admitting it

@88niteowl88 2 года назад

Thank you so much for sharing this. To everyone reading this, Jesus loves you.

@san.r.9139 22 дня назад

Oh yeah, I recognize this with a family member. Also there is apparently a large difference between Bipolar I and Bipolar II. I'm not a physician, but this psychotic behavior sounds like a manic episode of Bipolar I. I've known people with Bipolar II that always waver between "depression" and "normal", but they never have or had manic episodes. I've also read that Bipolar II can turn into Bipolar I if the person has a legitimate psychotic manic episode like described here.

@rylanrivera8501 3 года назад

Id love to reach out to this man I could really use some help with my marriage im feeling weak and like I can't fight anyone

@hossamahmed9495 2 месяца назад

I’m in the same boat

@bettysmith4527 3 года назад

Yea, as soon he said the first two lines, I say get out and take your kids! I hope he at least used made up names for the kids, as to hide all their identities,.

@funfest24 Год назад

I am literally going through the exact same this as him with my wife, except she has been resistant to all help, therapies and medications. I know that divorcing her will result in her killing herself. I want to help her but i cant force her to get help. What do I do?

@ChardeeMacdennis339 Год назад

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. My husband has bipolar. He is on meds but we’ve been through a lot of really awful times… especially before he was diagnosed and put on meds. I’m also feeling kind of lost and hopeless at the moment which is what brought me here. Even on his meds he cycles and does things he knows he shouldn’t do that are hurtful to me 😞I wish I had some advice for you but I’m stuck in the same spot. And I feel trapped. You’re not alone ✌🏻

@kamikuru4014 4 месяца назад

NO YOU CAN'T!! RUN AWAY FAR FAR AWAY!!!!!!!!

@eclipse.5295 3 года назад

Not to be negative but if I’m correct bipolar disorder is genetically transferred from mother to son and father to daughter. So he most likely will have to go through this with his son.

@olivias2836 3 года назад

Interesting. I knew it could be genetic but not that it was spread from mother to son and father to daughter. My aunt has bipolar and has two daughters. One of her daughters has bipolar.

@supernova11711 2 года назад

I haven’t ever read or heard that. From what I’ve been able to gather, there’s a 10% chance of your child getting it. I don’t know that the sex of the child plays into it at all.

@ChardeeMacdennis339 Год назад

It is genetic but it doesn’t work like that.