"NARCISSISTS VS AVOIDANTS: WHAT ARE THE DIFFERENCES AND WHAT ARE THE SIMILARITIES?" with Adriana 

You’re one of the best channels on avoidants. Definitely deserve more exposure. Hope the channel grows, thanks for your content.

I find it ridiculous when people say “don’t get deep in the dating phase.” If you are seeking a substantial relationship, you definitely need to ask real questions & initiate deep, personal conversations.

Another thing...(and I sincerely do mean this "with all due respect" because this was a great eppisode). However, I think that the huge red flag difference that was overlooked here is that the absolute LAST thing a dismissive avoidant attachment wants is to elicit a hyper emotional response and just "sit back and watch someone go crazy". Actually, the one thing D.A.'s will desperately try to avoid is the sort of emotional volitility that fuels a true narcissist. This goes beyond the "intent" differential between the two, it is actually polar opposite in intended outcomes. It's important to note that D.A.'s typically do not "keep score". Not because they are too emotionally evolved to do so, but because they are way too overwhelmed by just getting through the day to be able to.

They feel contempt for you while you feel sorry for them.

I've never hurt so much. Thank you both.

Another way to tell the difference is that someone with a true dismissive avoidant attachment style will not "love bomb" anyone. Not because they are not loving, but because they often times are so out of touch with their own emotions that it would be difficult for them to know how, or be able to handle "laying it on thick" in order to elicit a response. In that respect, they actually aren't very good at conciously manipulating anyone like a narcissist would.

Everytìme I watch one of your videos I see another insight...everything you both say is spot on. I got away from a narc straight to avoidant and it felt familiar but totally opposite 😅

This is the hard part my ex was very hard to tell I know she had her issues but it had traits of both and I’m just so lost

I had a hard time believing that the ex was intending to harm me and leaned toward avoidant attachment with his defensiveness that seemed only to come out when he felt insecure and he didn't ever put me down or anything like that. But then it began to move into this highly disrespectful, passive-aggressive behaviors and even rage that was once in a while taken out on me through yelling but more often than not taken out on a box or a wall. Around the 4th or 5th month together he must have texted me "I'm sorry" for something I called him out on multiple times a week until the end of the relationship. I know he falls under covert and vulnerable narcissism because as I finally called him out on things he began ramping up the cruelty and then ended it with udder sadism in the discard. Yet I could also see he was depressed or just didn't care or both. I feel like I met the most confusing person on earth who while a narcissist, just didn't fall neatly into that behavior pattern either. At the end of the day, his cruelty and lack of care for my feelings to put it mildly are what I remind myself and I may never know what his true feelings and intentions were. That mattered to me greatly for the 8 months we were together, but now I am releasing it.

Omg...you described my ex anxious/fearful avoidant partner.

Low self esteem people attract narcissist. High self esteem people don't put up with narcissist for one minute. They call them on their bullsh** and or leave.

both hurt others~~~~~~~~~

What about self-aware narcissists? Some have channels now too and it seems they have healed/are healing.

Keep swearing girl!! 😂

#KenandAndrianna,useful information....Much appreciated ❤

I like your video with others, but why is there so much background noise at times? It is challenging to listen to you. There was lots of loud noise with the video with Tawny, I almost had to stop watching.

You guys supposed experts aint saying the one thing that absolutely a deal breaker in healing. The suffering person themselves are seeking outside validation and feel half inside. They aint complete without someone giving them a validation thay they are loved. Self love is complete by beleiving in a youself yes but the other half has to be a belief. Either in your goals / routine or the universe(god or some superpower). Only complete people heal. Meditation and going deep into urself or meditating on god ( mantras) is the only way to heal. Whatever else therapy etc is only surface level to facilitate the journey of healing by talking etc. but the real work has to start from ur soul and it cant be found anywhere else. No books or no therapist can help you until u really want to tap into ur own soul. Do breath works it helps to bring you to here and now and not process past emotions into today. One tip is stop trying to understand human behaviour so deeply. There is no end to it as every individuals neuron's are firing different n unique to them. More you try to learn different unhealthy patterns the more u hv access to use it urself. So stop if u can 😉Good luck!!

She swears so much

great information, but maybe lighten up on cussing next time